May 19, 2025 • 54 mins
This week the ladies are going SOLO (with Eddin) at the studio. After a quick catch-up, Mandii opens up about needing space, and the duo dives into one of life’s trickiest questions: Are you a bad person, or just going through it?. They switch gears with a must-watch list of Black cinema classics , then Weezy shares a braces horror story you won’t forget. Mandii and Weezy then go into an excerpt of their upcoming book. Then it’s time for a fun Would You Rather?—see or talk on a date? Followed by our Reactionary of the Week: Why are the most spiritual women always single?We wrap up with wrestling love and a real talk moment about divorce history and how it shaped us.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded
like you was talking to Kirsty. You definitely say to welcome, welcome.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
To the new podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
You want to say.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Together, decisions decisions.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Welcome everybody to another episode of Decision Decision.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
My teeth are changing, so now I say it, it
actually is decisions decisions.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
It's funny because I just listened to Charlemagne on Brilliant
Idiots and he was like, I still just be I
list I don't know how to say decisions decisions, goddamn it,
but I'm glad he's working on saying that in our
book correctly.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Speaking of before we get started with this.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Episode, if you haven't yet, make sure you pre order
our book, No Holds Barred A Do a Manifesto of
sexual exploration and power. Oh clip that help us become
New York Times bestsellers. Yeah, it's just us in the
studio today. I mean Ed is here, but he don't care.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
So you know, let's kids, have have you gotten your
man's bigger?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Alwa's crazy that I'm not talking about my man today.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Like, first of y'all be nosy, like I don't like,
there's so many parts of me in this relationship that
I'm like really enjoying, and so many of y'all will
not let me be in peace in private. So I'm
working on the things that I want to share with y'all.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Because y'all are fucking annoying.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
And I guess it was different because, like my last
relationship was, he was essentially a ghost. He was an
old ass, fifty year old retired nigga with no social media,
so he was just a agomilation.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
What's that word?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
You know what You're just like it is just like
an envision ship aglomination, eybody, y'all know the god word holo.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
An agglogamation, a gloggamation, Hollo.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I'm gonna get the goddamn word agglomination that it caught up.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Be the bitch.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
It's Coggloborations is a master collection of things.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Agglomeration. Alright, we're dumb, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I was close agglomeration. But like so, I mean, I'm
happy like right now, like we are both steel right
at the phase where I feel like you about to
say to l word and I'm like, oh, I know
it's coming. Yeah, no, no, no, no, I said it. I
said the L word last or time, and look, this
(02:39):
could be my trauma. Why I don't want to say
it again, But we're great. I actually wanted to talk
about therapy. Something that I had recently in a therapy
session stemmed from conversations that we've been having on the podcast,
and I got into therapy and burnt into tears, and
(03:01):
it was about our conversations about me needing the space
and maybe not feeling confident with how I was speaking
about it, but like, through reading the comments and through
trying to express myself on this pod, I was just like,
I feel like I'm a bad person.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Like because I'm not like the compromising I wasn't willing
to have, or.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Like I'm associating all these things with needing space as
like am I a bad person? Am I a bad partner?
And I started getting like into these tropes of why
am I like this? And my therapy my therapist brought
up how last year, through specifically my sobriety, is where
(03:46):
I have come to terms with being way more of
an introvert as I thought myself to be. I thought
I was like this extroverted love to be around people,
need to be around people, feed off of energy and
all these things. And like last year, through not only sobriety,
but definitely desensoring sex for the amount of time that
(04:09):
I did after my last breakup, I've like realized how
much more my introverted needs of being alone, being isolated,
recharging socially has been something I'm navigating newly and so
in trying to explain that to a new partner. And
it's so crazy because I went out with my best
(04:31):
friend last night, we had dinner, and she was just like, yeah, bro,
like we get it, like because we've been with you
for so long as friends. But yeah, I just wanted
to share like the conversations that we're having here and
me trying to express how I'm showing up differently or
trying to express how I am in this new relationship
isn't even necessarily from the trauma of my last relationship
(04:53):
as much as through the healing journey of breaking up
and finding more about myself again.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Really through sobriety was really was really uh.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I don't want to say life changing, because we're still
going through me navigating that, but I just wanted to
bring that up because I think taking in the comments
taking in trying to defend my need for space or
not wanting to compromise and things. I genuinely sat and
was like, Damn, am I a shitty partner? Am I
a bad person? Am I someone made to be in
(05:27):
a relationship with the way that I'm fine with moving?
And So I just kind of wanted to bring up
that because it was like aha, and it was a
moment that I know we haven't had the episode about
it yet, but I would love and I'm looking for
a professional if any of you guys are listening, no one,
I would love to have the conversation about the relationship
(05:50):
between drinking and introverts and drinking and sex, because I
think through through removing alcohol for the time that I did,
I found so I found out so much about myself
that now I'm just trying to figure out how to
fucking communicate it.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So you're definitely not a bad person. I think even
the worst people are deserving of love.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
No, and I believe I'm deserving of it.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
And I'm not saying that about you in any means.
I just mean, like, I think even a terrible person
deserves love. I don't think that your habits sounded crazy
out loud. I think the conversation only came from hearing
the person want more, Like I don't think you saying
I need four days is bad. I think comparatively, like
your man wants more and you're like, no, that's it,
(06:36):
like that that's and it still doesn't make you bad person.
I think it's that tone of one person wants this
the other doesn't, because a lot of sometimes the boundaries
you can have now show up as learning lessons from
your last relationship.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yeah so it can.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
It can sound like it's pain, it can sound like
you're being defensives, but really it's like you're opening your
heart again. I remember when you talk about your actually
like he doesn't there was a moment where you say
he doesn't know anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I love him. Do you remember that episode.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I was like, damn, I even is in love in
a minute, and you.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
You didn't even care to Like I mean, if that
was within the first year. He did everything right first.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Year, And I'm saying like you were just And I think,
like falling in love that fast is probably something you
just don't want to do, like you know you've been
through pain, even if you don't consciously know that. I
think all of us are like that. I fell in
love deep hard, this happened to me. I met somebody new, better, great,
treating me better. I still got to make sure I
(07:36):
have my guard up. I think that was what I
took from the conversation when you said you need time, like,
I actually think a year from now, when your relationship
is growing and blossoming, I think you might be like
now I'm six and may laugh about it.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I mean, I just think what I've realized in what
the conversation was in therapy and what I'm really adamant
on is my boundaries are not for anyone else, They're
for me. And if I know that my boundaries are
to protect myself, I don't want the resentment to happen
or I don't want to on who's then I would
I would absolutely resent someone and probably grow out of
(08:13):
like or love for them if I felt like I
had to change the boundaries that make me feel safe
and that are for me in order to appease them.
Like And that's the thing, Like a lot of people
take people's boundaries as slights to them, and it's not
so Like There's been a lot of conversations about that, like,
I need you to accept me for who I am
(08:34):
if I'm accepting you, like, and we do this thing
now too, where he'll wake up and he'll be like, Babe,
i'm not in a good mood. I'll call you later,
because I've told him I don't want my my day
affected because you're in a shitty mood, Like I would
much rather we not talk until you get better. Girls,
And I got to do that, but we all need
that to Yeah, And that's and that's that's because I've
I've I've told him a boundary where I'm like, I've
(08:56):
been in relationships, well the past relationship where I've had friendship,
so even situationships where I've allowed someone's mood to ruin
my day and me and.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Him talk so much. We're still at three hours a day.
We don't talk three hours straight.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Now it's broken up. But I've literally told him, I
know we're long distance, but if you wake up and
you're not in a good mood, do not feel the
need to talk to me. And so literally he woke
up in a shitty mood the other day, Babe, I'm
going to go to the gym. I'll talk to you
when I when I feel better, and I was like,
thank you, Like so to me, if that's a boundary,
like to me, the boundaries are for me and to
protect me. And if I feel like I have to
(09:31):
move on my boundaries to appease someone, then I'm not
for you like the boundaries.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
When we make boundaries, we have.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
To we have to know that they're for us and
not for other people. And so for me, I'm not
looking to push those boundaries or move them to appease
someone else.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Which is why the.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Conference we should have a dialogue, not today. I don't
think we both can even have that conversation boundaries and compromise.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
What's what we've had, We've.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Had those conversations real, but we should feel not Mandy situation.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Let's just for example. I'm like, that's a really.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
It's a really big thing, especially in relationships, sacrifice, compromise, boundaries, Like.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
There's three different things. How do you dissect what things?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
You know?
Speaker 3 (10:11):
What a boundary is to me? And this is why
I was going back and forth with you about it.
Your four day rule that you have for yourself didn't
seem like a hard no.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It felt like, right now, it's for my sanity. No no, no,
So boundary to me is hard. No, that's a hard
note for me.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Okay, Like, especially right now while I'm navigating my need
to recharge.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I don't want to have to drink to be around him.
I don't want to what do you mean you mean?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Like I realized, like again, through through therapy and going
through going sober, I realized my ability to be around
so many people in an extended amount of time that
the energy is.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Only on alcohol. Got it?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
And so in this relationship and mind you, with my ex,
a lot of the sex, a lot of the time
together was drinking and drug filled.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
It was fun, we were rock stars. I loved it.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But when I chose to remove those things, I realized
a lot more about my capacity with being with people.
And so for me, I don't want to get to
the point where he's coming. My anxiety has risen now
because there's an extended amount of time and now I
have to feel the need to get into any advice
to be around him. And so where I'm at right now,
(11:26):
at thirty four, I'm literally learning myself right now as
an introvert that needs the recharge.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I think people learn themselves every Yeah, my ma is
relearning herself at seventy four. Like something I learned from
the Tempest X episode that that's makes me think about
what you're saying about drinking and drugs and dating I
with this current partner.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
He was kind of like saying, the first.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Three months, we need to have a weekend where we're
not going out. Now, I'm not saying that we're getting
sucked up, like we're not going to the cloud, We're
not going to a lounge, we're not going to hear jazz.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
We're not like, let's just be in the house.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
And he was super super for adamant about us doing this,
And what I didn't realize was that I'm so used
to people enjoying me for my extrovertedness and fun same.
I was scared not that he wouldn't like me, but
that the time with me would be boring. And now
it's so crazy to see like we liked the boring shit.
(12:20):
There was a comment we made like, dayn't I want
to go back to Thailand and fucking three weeks wasn't enough,
And I was like, I wish we had.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
One day where we weren't doing anything. In Thailand, we
did something every day and he's like, now, look he
is talking. I will say, that's what I like, not
many things.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I will say, there are many things that I learned
and are still taking from my last relationship. And because
of the pandemic, we got to get me and my
ex got together where we didn't have.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
A lot of inclusion of other people. And I feel
like when.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
We started needing to be at bars or sex clubs
or be around so many other people, it complicated it.
So I know that now that's what I'm enjoying with
my partner is making sure I don't feel the need
for us to be in clubs or bars or spaces
where now we're just enjoying each other. So like he's
coming to Atlanta. I'm gonna say it's a week. It's
Monday to Friday, even though late Monday leave early Friday.
(13:09):
But he's coming, say Atlanta for a week, and we're
doing Coca Cola World, the gun Range and we're just
doing Yeah, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
It's like I already met my best friend.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
He is the only thing that matters, Like out with
you with all these people, Yeah, just who's like my
corecors I've met his best friend, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
He just asked if it's okay. His mom wants my
number for us to talk housewives. So his mom like, adoors,
I love his mom.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I'm not gonna like yeah, love.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
But he's like, I don't know if it's a lot,
but my mom doesn't really have anyone to talk about
housewives with. And you hang up with me to watch housewives.
And I told her you're special house lives. So he's like, uh, babe,
do you mind talking to my mom about housewives?
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I said no, not, like you.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Know, those things are so sweet because to me, it
reminds me and I wonder if this is age or
him being like, I'm not about to turn Mandy off.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I feel like we see this a lot when.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Women don't know what to do when they need more,
or they want to give more, or they want to
open a man up to more because they're so used
to men running. People run from commitment, people run from
all those types of things. Like genuinely, I remember the
first year of my relationship thinking it was bullshit, like
there's no way that he's still like showing up doing
these things like we were just talking. My dad turns
(14:28):
ninety June first, and we're like, Okay, what are we
going to do? And so he's like my dad's got
like I'm not here, just trying to be funny. One
last nan in Vegas, and we're like, all right, well,
let's figure out like how we're going to make this work.
And it's literally right after my partner's birthday and I'm
sitting there thinking, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Oh, should we have a nurse doing all this shit?
Speaker 3 (14:49):
And I'm like, this is such a heavy convo for
someone so young whose parents aren't necessarily going through what
I'm going through, but watching people support you.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Is just very impressive. Yeah, Like we literally google like
should we take a private jet? Cause it's, by the way,
I'm not that rich and neither is he. However, from
Vegas or La to Vegas, it's only two hundred dollars
person on a jet.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't notice if you do the shared one. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
So now we're like, all right, cool, let's just take
the whole family there. Like, but I like seeing this
side of like how people will show up and it's
interesting seeing the side of me to think, oh, really,
like are you doing this for me? Like or you know,
just questioning it questioning people's love. How did I hold
you actually being friends with the nigga first?
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Oh, y'all game changer, bitch like cool like bitch like
I got to know as a friend first, Like I
if we go to the very inception of this goddamn podcast.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Any nigga I liked, any nigga who.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Had a nickname on this goddamn podcast had a nickname
because I liked him because the dick was good. Like
all of my my my like and lust and quote
unquote love for anybody stem from getting my back bloone
now and so to have spent five six months getting
to know him first, Like, it's so interesting being in
(16:09):
a relationship where sex is not the center of it.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
And now it's like we're we're.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Talking, we're trying to incorporate it a lot more, and
we're talking, but it's like, damn, it's my friend.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Damn.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
We talk about so much other ship that it's not
even about sexting or lusting or not waiting to get.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
To each other to tear each other apart.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
There's like I'm so excited to just lay on the
couch with you and watch Netflix. Like we were talking
about Matt Damon the other day and cause the nigga
Young we talked about him and his friendship with Ben
Affleck and I was like, oh my god, I love
their movie together.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
And he was like, what's the one that y'all know progress, No,
not broke back now and he played brog Jacob Jo.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Girl, I'm confusing my wife that you like, what's the
other one? On Google hunting so he can bring up
good walle Hunting And I was like, no, I'm talking
about dog one dog, one dog.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
That I love.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Y'all are the first two people. But if I have
said dog but and they don't, don't do it? I
like it, don't that's age that age that's saying, is it?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Yeah, that's my fun. Ye oh yeah, that's a great Yeah.
Like no, no, this is our age and that whole
eight No dog but either.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
But she also loves Trick Daddy and you know that
she only know like Hood Miami ship.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
I was like, we do love some hood cinema. I
had that phase in my relationship recently. There's a I
don't know if you guys have seen it. Oh, I
hope we can post it. There's a checklist of black
movies to see you said it to him.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
No, he said it to me and.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Said, baby, filled this out with your fucking viracial ass,
show biracial ass.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
How many of them had you seen? Like sixty percent?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Okay, but he saw not very biracial of you.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
That is prettily. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't
do don't get razy. I love a concussion wrong.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Every time you talk about a movie here, you bring
up the Secretary once the money, but you still haven't
seen it. You love bringing up some white cinema that
is like a b side to movies. I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
You know black rom coms are good, but how many
do we have? We got what love the Phone? They
out those are drop round time.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Sorry, love movies, Black Love Stories, brown sugar just right
jumping in the bros Basketball just like they got Naga.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I mean, yeah, no, there's a lot more. Okay, but
also look at the country.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
And if you want to talk to Mandy about it,
Gabrielle Union apparently isn't even.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Let never forget that.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Okay, let me tell you it was a crazy shit
that happen before we get into this outline, because I
know we need to get to it, so I'm driving
to see my dad. It's our last day, and he's like,
go by yourself, because I feel.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
Like your dad is like over me being there, like
because we've been spending a lot of time together, because
you and your dad need a moment. So I'm heading
to my dad and I suddenly feel I was eating strawberries,
which is crazy because with my braces, I've been eating chips,
chicken wings, bag gets.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
They told me the seeds. I don't know what happened. No, no, no,
you can't. You can have a strawberry.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I don't know what angle I ate it on, but
the bracket of my braces broke.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
They say this is common.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
However, it was the back wisdom tooth, and the bracket
dug into my gum. So the end of the wire,
just to be more helpful, the wire of the races.
Maybe I'm not saying the bracket. The end of the
wire was stuck in my gum. I immediately felt like
a shooting headpain. I was only three minutes from the house.
(19:42):
I call him.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
I opened my mouth. I realized I can't talk.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I like this.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Nigga thinks I got in a car accident. He's like,
how the fuck. She just left.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
She calling and like, and I can't say it's my braces.
He gets to the floor of my cars on he
sees what's going on. He's like, oh my god, we
gotta go upstairs, bitch. We get upstairs and it's stuck
down there. Every time he moves it, it's like, I mean, die,
you're screaming. I'm like, oh my god, call my mom.
Tell her I can't see my dad. Take me the
(20:13):
emergency room. I was texting. That's how much I couldn't talk.
So I'm like, get an emergency dentist. This is how
niggas gonna dig girl. He called three. They all said
it's five hundred dollars to come in plus the fees,
and mind you, all it is is just stuck.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
So this is like orthodonist. You can't get a regular
dentist anywhere from one to two thousand.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
So I'm like, hold on it. I do, but I
was like, you got it. Hold on was worth it.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I was like, let me see the motive in mind.
Jo's screaming and crying right and he's like, okay, let's
get in the car.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
And I was like, let's see what we can do.
So bitch.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
We found a YouTube. Oh gee, of course said all
you gotta do is get a nail clipper.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
Of course you did.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
So he's boiling the nail clipper, all sitting there, drooling
on the side.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
There's no blood coming out. It's just stuck.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
Oh, and he's trying to fucking break it. If you
break it, it'll come apart. So it it'll relieve the pain.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
It couldn't happen. I was like, let's go to the doctor.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
We call one more doctor. I ain't like his attitude,
so this doctor would feel like so the guy.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So my man's on the phone. He's like, Yo, can
you do this price? All you have to do is
cut it?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Can we just give you cash because they're estimating fifteen
hundred dollars god. And he's like, I'm with my family
and my children and if you want me to leave
my hall, I was like, oh fuck this la shit.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I'm like, look then, thunk, get the wire cutters. Bruh.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
We're in the car and he's mad at me because
I kept screaming at him and I was like, why
are you not evening out?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
And he's like, oh my god, stopped. I'm like.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
Mad.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Tape oh, bitch, o' cian.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
This nigga goes in the home depot, comes out with
a wire cutter. I'm like, where's the alcohol in the
hot water. He's like, we're not sterilizing it. Just come
home where I really fucking used. And this is for
like table people. I was sitting in the parking lot.
I felt like people were staring at me fucking doing
my own braces work. When it came out because it
(22:09):
had to pull away from the nerves to pull out
of my gum, I.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Screamed so loud. There's an apartment complex around. I think
they thought I was getting murdered. And do you know
what this nigga did?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Do you know what?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
Like last nothing my real estate investment well to do
African boyfriend did put it back in the plastic. They said, oh,
we don't need them anymore, right, Oh my god. I
wanted to die laughing, but I was like, yeah, guy
David was the thing. I was like, yeah, baby, go
(22:41):
get the thirty five dollars bad.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Yeah. I was about say how much your wirecutters? Yeah,
there's like thirty something dollars. He got something. No, he
got like two three different conds. He got the skinny
ones he had.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
He didn't know what's going so so he returned multiple
but one of them was in your mouth unfairlized those
horn people.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well, we went to go have dinner at this restaurant.
This isn't really tea, but I just wanted to say
we go sit.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
We were almost we were just gonna go, like just
to like fusing the return the cutters. You're right restaurant.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
So we're like, oh, let's just fuck it, let's go
or you know. He said to me, He's like, let's
go home. I ain't feeling and I was like, no,
I'm not ruining my night. How do you get to
see my I'm not ruining my night.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
We get in there and even when we get in
he's like kind of act like YO, want me there.
We sit right down next to four black people.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It's two friends that are sitting with Sasha and Malie Obama,
and I was like, wow, I needed to see this.
Bit's don't sitting there eating like this, you know what,
You're trying not to stare at somebody. I'm trying to
look at me And I'm like, oh my god, these
girls are so cute, so sweet. I can overhear some
of their conversation. They are so innocent, so adorable. They
lived together, and we were saying, like, yo, do you
(23:50):
know how special it is to see siblings like this close,
Like I don't know. It really was hitting me and
I was like, wow, I think LA is a cool
place to me because you kind of realize how normal
everybody is, Like you kind of get to see, you
see celebrities walking down street New York too. You can
go to a club and interact with somebody that you
love and know. And I'm such a fucking fan of
(24:12):
seeing that these girls are moving up in film and
production and doing their ship swarm.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I don't know if anybody knows this. Childish Gambino directed it,
Sasha Obama produced it. It was one of the EP's
or something. But yeah, it was just a great day,
and it really like it was a great day, great
great day. There was a great moment to see these
two black girls that to me, I grew up with.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I watched them grow up and I was just like
wow and no, And all the way home, I was like,
we gonna see Blue Ivy.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Nidda, We're gonna be eating. We go see Blue Ivy.
Nixt and often be like, oh my god, you ain't
Blue Ivy going she about to be a star and
role Yeah, no, are you right? We're probably gonna see
North first? Have you gone through disses since that? Look
the questions they need since? Oh yeah, yeah that's true.
I'm no, sorry I didn't. That's what I'm going to
(24:57):
two forty five. Okay, well I literally told it. I
think I got to hear twenty. I have to go
to that doctor. So if I sound like I'm rushing
the last time at all, like you just you're fine,
it's gone. It's yeah. So once it's gone, it's gone.
I just need to put enough new wire down there.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Bruh the parking lot because niggas say no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
You need you need to go, because that's what niggas
think about STDs. Once the symptoms is going, they think
it's going, and sometimes it ain't.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Girl, can I get there?
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Ship?
Speaker 1 (25:24):
I'm just saying my appointments are two forty five once
the year. But I will tell you though, I.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Think that when it comes to like survival mode type shit,
that was a good partner moment. How the fuck are
you gonna hold me? Down niggas anyway, no, no holds barred.
Speaker 5 (25:49):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
We have been trying to do this on solo episodes
where we're trying to like bring up an excerpt and
just dig into it. So this one is from my
chapter about sugaring. Uh oh no, sorry, this is an
old bit. One says, quote unquote, they all do the
same shit. Feed you a pipe dream before piping, tell
(26:10):
you how amazing you are, how beautiful you are, not
like the other gold diggers on the site. Oh yeah,
this is the spoiling chef and how they want to
spoil you. Like regular dating, this is all the boyfriendly
type game. In the boyfriendly type game, you will experience
the following consistent communication and maybe even good morning texts, chivalry,
compliments and charm, dates, plans made and promising. So when
(26:34):
I wrote this, I was thinking about all this shit
that niggas do to win you over, and I want
to ask you, edin, are there anything that women do
that they fall off.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
From when dating that they fall off from? Because in the.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Beginning of this thing, I'm saying, men are giving you compliments,
men are giving you consistent communication, They're making plans, they're
going on the dates, good morning text.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
What do women fall off from? You're saying that they
stop doing the thing? I believe once once they fucked. Okay,
you know what I've experienced.
Speaker 5 (27:07):
I hate saying this out loud. They start cooking a
little less. I've had that happen, Nigga, we got jobs.
I understand, Hey, our own understand. But you know what
it is, because i'd be a triggered because I did know.
You know what it is is that this is what
I've experienced, right, It's two things that that's one. So
(27:29):
it's more of like the fact that it's like you
want to show off that you could cook and that
you could throw it down. So they just start cooking
you like almost every and anything in their arsenal. And
then next thing, I know, you're cooking a little exactly,
the quality start going a little lower. But eggs, you
start cooking a little less. Now doubt you know. It
used to be pancakes, eggs, you know, bacon. Now it's
(27:50):
just maybe eggs, right, okay, maybe just coffee. Another thing, brod.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
I started off good.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I gave that nigga just eggs and a bagel. Now
I'm going to move up and give him some meat.
Like I did it the opposite way.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I like conditioning.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Now now what then he does with Dick. He says
he stot you at c Gray Dick because he don't
want you to attach. Indeed, he works his life, you
know when he comes. This time, I'm doing like the
shripping grits.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
With I'm gonna it was just the very at lantern. Listen.
I was doing shripping grits like it's my thing. I
just have to buy vegan butter and vegan vecon and grits.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I'm coming to Atlanta for us to record, do the
audiobook and lack effect. I just realized that you niggas
never lied about toast on Linux. Oh my god, what
you like it?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Holy shit? I ate there three days in a row.
Oh that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
It was one hundred dollars to Uber eat the fucking
Fried's not for I wanted with my hotel room was speaking.
Girl was cripy that that was my Uber because I
was about to say that weight.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
I went there twice. It wasn't wait, but maybe because
I didn't say when I went yeah, there are always
being waited, then I was. I was so addicted to
the first one. I was like now I want to
go to the other one. Bruh. You know it's crazy
not shipping on a black business because the food is phenomenal.
Service when the food is good, I really don't think
it needs to matter.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Hole shit, no, no, no for patrons, hear me out again,
say this again. You don't think that service needs to
be good when the food is good.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
That was food.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Look at you right now, y'all have been hearing me
talking about Lucy for almost eight years on this show.
I have never experienced worst service in New York City
than Lucy n However, I will die on the sword
that that is one of the best pops outside of France.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Now go good food, plumes with good price. If I
a lot of times and now you could do a
hole in the wall that has really good food. To me,
if I'm going to a restaurant and the food is
so good that it's price, that is nigga, you crave.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
That's why I love you.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
And all of my friends told me, I can't say
the name of the restaurant anymore, though, what oh you're
talking about?
Speaker 1 (30:01):
The bitch bleeped that out. I don't bleep it out.
I don't think the ood is so good.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
The service though, but baby, because like every time I
brought people, everything comes out on time.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
It's not the ambiance is not there for it. But
the food is so fucking good. I love it.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
They be bringing us out a little shop like it's
so great. Okay, so I just found a new My
whole girl's be cussing me out, like bitch. I tweeted
it one time because a fan wanted to know where
to eat. I got two calls, bitch, if you don't
delete that sweet, we already cake out the name about Cadence.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
The vegan soulfood, but it's black on this one is
not black. But I love it. And ice time and
now you just want to give them tips. You want
to give them hints.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Oh no, let me tell you this almost give out surveys.
So for my birthday, my man takes me to this
French spot on the East Side. Right, I'm not gonna
say the name, but it's fairly like best friend in
New York.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Now we go.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
It was two weeks later we get back from Mexico,
Like was he that shit again? We had a reservation
for nine We didn't get seated. Now I did see celebrities.
I think I saw Tessa Thompson and the someone else
from Game of Thrones, and I was like.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
All right, ten twenty we got seated. Oh I would
have left.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
No, we were enjoying, like they have a cool cocktail bar,
so we were having a good time.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
But you made a reservation. Girl, hold on, suck my
dick from the back. I don't know if we knew
what was going to happen, but you know, when you
know they about akusho ass. I started huffing and puffing
right around forty minutes.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
But when I saw all these celebrities walking, oh taper
for two, I was like, oh, so they're treating us
like shit.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
You know we own the celebrities. Bitch. Oh no, no, bitch.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
That hour and twenty minutes was so worth it. Matre
D comes over to him, Sir, we saw you here
two weeks ago. We want to apologize. We shouldn't have
opened that reservation up when we had stuff on the books.
We're going to make sure whenever you want a reservation,
you're here. I'd appreciate it if you can call me
twenty four hours before, but if you can't, no problem,
doesn't matter how many people you're in.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Bitch, we get downstairs. Would you like more mess coming?
Speaker 4 (31:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (31:57):
Do?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
It's all on the way out. Oh yeah, I do
desert another app. I actually do want a dozen s cargo,
not six. Oh, bitch.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Let a restaurant fuck up. And it's supposed to be
a high end restaurant. Oh you let us sit. Let
their shit sit.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Y'all been a hope. They take a little too long.
Speaker 4 (32:14):
Bro.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
When I tell you I chick came, he was like,
this should have been two hundred fifty dollars one like kissing.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
I love your patience.
Speaker 5 (32:22):
So do you not think your food takets it a
little better because of the service in this case that
is half of it was free.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Well it was so good.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
I came back, but oh, I sounded to say, uh
toastallen if they weren't rude or anything, not saying that
like they were kind, It's just it wasn't great service.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
But I also didn't give a fuck. Is that's so good? Good?
Speaker 3 (32:41):
And I think when places are so busy or fatty
like TikTok and everybody talks about toast on nis, Yeah,
maybe that's why it's like heart and people are rude
as fuck coming in. You know, I don't know if
they're dealing with a lot, but bitch, I don't give
a shit. She could have called me a whore and
I would said, thank you, I'll take extra cream better
that crazy, of course. Okay, reaction sinary clip. Oh sorry,
(33:03):
I actually had hypothetical for you guys.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
Hypothetic would you guys go on a date without being
able to see or without being able to talk?
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Oh, without being able to talk, I'm fallow.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
I want to sit across a good look at motherfucker, Like,
nothing's worse than talking to an ugly moment.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
But you wouldn't know because you can't see. To me, no,
I can't talk. That means I could see, right, But if.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
You couldn't, you said nothing's worse than going on to
dinner with the ugly motherfucker.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
If I could talk, then I can see, which means
I'm talking to an ugly nigga.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
No no, no, no no no no. Oh see we
both okay.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
Without being able to see them and just talking, or
being able to see them and know talking. Oh, I'm
still going for the sea because I feel like I
can get a vibe, like I've done that with in
places like they don't.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Seek the language I've seen. I've seen men. I just
looked at them and wanted to subject and then don't start.
And then they started talking, and I didn't want to second.
No more.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
There hasn't been many ugly men that talked their way
into But you don't know if they're ugly.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
You're going on a date with a motherfucking lyricist.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
I told you I don't watch Love is Blind because
love is very blind, not blind.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
No, love is is the other one? I like looking
at someone beautiful. Love is hi, luster is not because
the second baby.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
Like, I can't wait my grandma, Please tell one of
the producers to give them my grandma's old wedding ring.
They've been doing all that shit and then next day,
you know they know at the aisle because they don't
support black lives matter, like none.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
He said that, it's just I don't know which one
I mean to me. I still would like to be
on a date.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
What an attractive ass motherfucker, because mind you, if you
find we could just eat our food, we.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Don't have to talk. But what if the date is
not just food, what if it's an activity? Then I'm
just shooting the gun or I'm just looking at the
art on the wall. You know what I could do.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
I would go to a lounge jazz listening music because
I feel like that's the energy itself vibing with someone.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
We can go to the movies.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
You shouldn't be talking at the movie anyway, and then
I can look over and look at your finance.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
That work. Yeah, all right, let's sello period. Let's see
what this clip is all right playing?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Now?
Speaker 6 (35:21):
Highly spiritual women are single because they understand the metaphysical
essence of the transportation of energy and alchemy. And the
primary reason why it's so hard for them to day
and being relationships is because they harness energy that requires
a man to have supreme masculinity so much because only
a weak man will only demonize and subjugate for spiritual gifts. Now,
when you study historical context in anchr history, the king
(35:43):
might have had ten twenty ten eight wives, but the
one that he loved the most for the witch, the healer,
the one who had the spiritual gifts. And the reason
that is because you highly.
Speaker 5 (35:53):
Spirit What's funny is that the voice over a AI,
but the video is and it's just fucking hilarious.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
Oh the voice is so funny. Yeah, kindly, spiritual women
are single. Let me try to repeat what like.
Speaker 6 (36:05):
And this isn't just spirit women are single because they
understand the metaphysical essence of the transportation of energy and
the primary reason why so hard for them today.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
During the date. So I'm gonna say this hotel ship.
But if you're a very intuitive person, it is hard
for you to date.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
I think someone and this might not be a synonym,
but I look at someone who may be highly spiritual.
That means in terms of how they view the universe themselves,
maybe they're more in tune with themselves, which means oftentimes
they're single because maybe they're just happy with themselves.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
That's a good point.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
We talk about that, like, I think that in terms
of how a lot of people date, they date with
the means of looking for a band aid. They date
to find someone to bring them happiness or to make
them whole. And we've had the conversations that unfortunately that's
what we were taught right, like to become one right
or like finding your soulmates, and nan are doing this too,
(37:08):
by the way, not wanting to be alone so to
me someone who is happier with themselves. And we've talked
about this even in sense of like, once you're able
to fully fund your own lifestyle, once you're able to
find community, find friends, be happy with who you are
physically emotionally. If you find spiritually your niche, like if
(37:30):
you're going to church or you're you're finding ways to
just meditate and be with self, and you're happy with self,
it is a lot harder to.
Speaker 1 (37:38):
Date because you're less net to put up with all
the bullshit.
Speaker 3 (37:41):
I don't think there's a world where being happy by
yourself doesn't look a little bit like it's spinster.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Oh she can't meet anyone in there's always someone that's
like thinking being single is bad.
Speaker 3 (37:57):
But when you get to that point where you're single
because you know exactly what you want, that's to me
when you're on this level.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
I was just having the conversation with my homegirl and
she was like, bruh, I've been single for so long
that I have anxiety about bringing someone into my home.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
How long?
Speaker 2 (38:13):
I say, she's been single for three years, and so
does that mean sexless? Been sexless for about six months,
which is like, goddamn girl, I'll pray for you.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
For real. It's tough out here.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
But we were having the conversation because she's at the
age where she's like motherhood is now leaving the idea
because she would want to have kids with a man
she likes, and it's becoming so almost foreign to her
that there's anxiety about like, damn, I wonder if because
I've been so single with myself and have this routine
in my home, if I'm going to be able to
(38:51):
open it to someone else. Like she's literally like, I
don't know if I want someone in my apartment to
ruin my days.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
Because we don't. I don't like anyone yet, which yes,
that's just like the real truth. I was like on
my soap bag.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
And then when you like, nigga is so over and
I don't mean it's over for the bad reasons.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
It's the same with men. My Nigga jokes a lot
about me, like.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
Bruh, when I tell you you came soon as fuck
like I thought I sing to be out here, and
like it's really it.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
When you like the motherfucker, that's when this shit starts
to happen. So don't get.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
Discouraged if you're listening and you're like, I don't know,
I got my routine with friends. I don't know I
got my routine with this because at the end of
the day, when you're excited about someone, you can't wait
to incorporate them in that Just like, for example, one
of my friends uh Oh, Gila and neg my friend
Gila's wedding. I went to their wedding in Mexico City.
(39:48):
I kept eating people in their dodgeball team dodgeball or kickball.
And I'm laughing because she flies, fuck he flies. She's
in fashion and beauty and I'm like, y'all, dog buck.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
But he did it before her. He loved doing this
thing with his friends.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
He works in community and parks like for a living,
and now she loves it, Like you can't wait to
like bring your people in, and it's silly to maybe
bring up her doesn't sound the exact same, but I
found it interesting that something that someone does alone for
so long that's their thing.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
Once they're so into you and they love you, now
it's like, no, no, no, I want to share this
with you. I think you can probably attribute that you're
gonna se a good movie and you like, you gotta
watch this ship. It could be a friend, somebody you love.
You need them to experience the same thing. So when
it comes to your home, yeah, you can watch fel
bad what you said? I told my boyfriend, please go
(40:41):
and enjoy I call it jousting. He hates it, but
it's the wrestling, the a W, the WWE, what's aw
aw like wrestling Federation?
Speaker 1 (40:51):
And I told him I want you to enjoy as
much of it as you can. With that. Well, didn't
you just you said what?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
You just go there now with me charenting it sports, Yeah,
I'm not surprised. She it's a little different. It's a
little different.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
It's okay.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
So here's what And for the men listening, it was
explained to me the a W short, a w W,
W E, wrestling, whatever, all the things is like a
male telenovella.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Yes, did you watch that shirt on Netflix? Edit a
year round? There's storylines, there's people baked into it.
Speaker 2 (41:26):
The audience there was, oh my god, the audience looked
like they were either half versions or half serial killers
bodies in the fridge.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Ports know, that's truly crazy. I said, baby, just the
crowd you be like, I don't know, you don't really
watched wrestlers. I'm sure. All I know is I told him,
please enjoy that by yourself, Babe. I don't want to
ruin it for you. So like, yeah, people don't care.
(41:58):
They don't. And I was like, I was watching it.
It is the man in the in the type. Okay,
maybe if we go see Roman Rains fight bitch is
because he's a.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
Jason, So maybe I'll go in Raymond Rains, Roman rings
or his brother's cousins. It's like a hall love skins
and that's one that I'll take some with but shout
out to swerve, like when look at the locks the
laskin black dude, No, no, no, no, no, this is
Roman Rains bitch.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
Oh wrong guy, But I'll suck.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
He got a light like you can go enjoy it
because they all take wrestlers, they all beautifer back.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Have you actually watched a netflixhip of WW you should?
I A'm gonna laugh.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
The last thing that got that before Karadise, the last
thing that I really had the TV like what I
went to it and I have no no, no, it's
like the dirty deep dark ship they do I have.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
I have just said this could be your thing. Sexual
assault whoa, No, the documentary.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
It was the documentary document like, oh, that's what I mean,
not because it's good sexual assaultid bro, you've seen that
Nigga tweets, but you like I would have gotten to
nig I'll say, yes, when you find a person and
(43:28):
they have their thing, you absolutely can join them, but
also feel free to also let them keep their ship
if it ain't for you.
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Well, let's talk about the history of the d The
people that don't enjoy the same things as.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
Their partner and they never will, they don't give off
history of divorce, Okay, right now, Okay, So I thought
we were going to do the history of the dick. Oh,
the history of the d The earliest known divorce laws
were written on clay tablets in Mesopotamia, and you just.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
Like bringing up clay.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
This is the second time you done brought up the
goddamn plods. Yes, the girl had to suck at clay
dick for the mummy or something. Mesopotamia keeps coming up
in our history.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Secment, Come on, Mesopotamia.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
Okay, women were actually granted the right to separate from
the husbands.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
I don't believe this back then, Okay.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
And then there was a code where they had provisions
for divorce, so there were a lot of religious influence
on why you could or couldn't. In Europe, Christian churches
controlled divorced from the eleventh century, with the Catholic Church
banning it entirely and Protestant churches allowing it restricted. Muslims
in Africa, the Middle East and Asia began using Quran rules,
(44:42):
with the husbands generally able to divorce without cause or anything,
while the wife needs the agreement. So that's why the
thing in Mesopotamia was women being able to leave was
a big deal. What's interesting is today the place where
you cannot get divorced.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
It's a country. Does anyone know in there? Before guitar
keep guess cutter, Actually is how I said. Singapore, Philippines
it's illegal, Oh, Philippines.
Speaker 3 (45:09):
To get divorced. And Chile in twenty two thousand and four.
I wanted to be ready. Uh, they were one of
the last countries to legalize divorce. So now yeah, it's
still not I don't know if.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
You if you.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Heard so, I want to say it was in Europe.
Y'all can in fact check me while I talk. But
there women were not able to file for divorce, especially
Christian Church. However, there became a rule that if they
could show that their spouse wasn't able to get their
dick hard, that they could actually file.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
Like okay, you cannot goods, I mean.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
You couldn't maybe like a blamement on that kids, if this.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
Dick don't get hard all the time?
Speaker 5 (45:53):
Did you did you find it a frenchwoman's to obtain
the divorce because of her husband's lack of sexual function
was the European Court of Human Rights?
Speaker 1 (46:02):
That's fire, So I mean.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
Crazy is in order to prove it too, which this
is so dumb, they had to see like he had
to try to get hard in front of.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
I swear.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
You can't get it up in the how you gonna
get it up in front of everyone? But I thought
she was able to get a divorce.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
Speaking of divorce, you know what's crazy about reading the
Philippines thing? How many times on ninety Fiance they want
that fucking green card. Literally this last season they're showing
you the opposite. A white dude who's homeless goes to Philippines.
He's like, oh, well, since he's dating a trans woman,
he can't marry her because she's.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
A man really, So he's like, I'll marry your mom.
And I didn't understand when some of the business charact it.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
Now this is real. She was still to show this,
Oh faith. He was the one that got gone Ria.
You seen the clip. No, I'm sorry, I am my
algorithm is not ninety day fiance.
Speaker 2 (46:56):
So wait, what happened? He went to the Philippines to
marry a lady boy, but they couldn't get married because
they're same sex, and so he said.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
Let me marry your mama.
Speaker 2 (47:04):
He's like, yeah, homeless and ain't got nothing to offer,
got no money, hanged love has no price to it.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
Man, shut the fuck.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Let me tell you. Wait, he said, let me marry
your mama for what so he can have When he
when he told her about the Gonerria, her face was so.
She was like, wait, he had gone reea from you
have a the aid? Wait he had gotten Ria from
lu though from a girl that he let suck his
another transgirl. Wait, he he had gone Ria while he
was with her, or before he found out. He had
(47:32):
gone Ria while he flew out there. Wow, So he's like,
don't worry about it.
Speaker 1 (47:36):
I'm gonna get the medicine and player down. No, I'm monogamous.
Speaker 2 (47:38):
He fucking just lady boys everywhere, homeless and now trying
to marry one's mama.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
He was he said, she's not right.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
The craziest mart the Filipino girls like how who did
you get it from? You told her and she's like,
I didn't know what, How did this happen you? I
didn't even have sex with her? He's like, well, I
said I was gonna sleep over.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
She thought it was because he got no home. Girl
thought he needed a place. So now he's moving to
a country where he can not have a divorce. Well, yeah,
so that was the big thing.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
I don't think they're still together, but yeah, when people
were saying that in the comments, I didn't understand it
till this outline. Yeah, because they were like, oh, it's
so he can never leave because he wanted a cheap
place to live.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
I'm curious to know if, with all of the changes
that just have happened with technology, with how we date,
with how we consume information, if there will be any
changes done to divorce, Because for the friends and people
that I know currently going through divorces, I was shocked
(48:37):
to know that the courts. You can file and then
be separated, but you have to be separated for a
certain amount of time before they finalize the divorce.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
There's so many laws.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Why are you making me say what a nigga I'm
saying I don't want to be with because they're like, well,
maybe y'all can work through this, and I'm like, wait,
I have to be separated from this person before you sure.
Speaker 1 (48:56):
That you want to get divorced. That is crazy to me.
But there's another thing.
Speaker 3 (49:00):
In Japan, women have to wait and this is kind
of the opposite six months until they can get married
to someone. Oh really, So if you want to know
Marrily Kardashian, no better, you gotta fucking know unless the
woman's pregnant.
Speaker 2 (49:15):
And then in Japan, since they have that role in
the beginning. Most divorces are straightforward, one page form. It
doesn't even require going to core.
Speaker 1 (49:23):
You can do the shit online.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
Oh we get I might get get married in Japan
if I'm finna get married, one page document, no court,
We just divorced and is done, okay. Common reasons for divorce.
I mean, tell me, I'm gonna give you the the four.
Speaker 3 (49:42):
Tell me what you think is number one, two, three, four, okay, okay,
drugs and alcohol abuse, infidelity, mental abuse or physical abuse,
and incompatibility.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
Well, I know most people, when they don't want us
to be in their motherfucking business, say that they rooted
for irreconcilable differences. So I'm going to say that one's first,
then in fidelity, then the vices, then the abuse and shit, because.
Speaker 3 (50:08):
Yeah, incompatibility is the first number one, and then it's infidelity, yeah,
and then yeah other the other two are Unfortunately people
stay and put up with those things.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
Yeah, for quite some time before that becomes a reason,
Like it has to get really bad for people to
leave for those reasons.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
But I think most most of the forces that we see.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Publicly or irreconcilable differences, which is I think incompatibility.
Speaker 3 (50:34):
The lowest rate for the divorce in the world is India.
Out of a thousand marriages, only thirteen.
Speaker 1 (50:41):
But most of them are Muslim, which means they can
have multiple Right now, they're Hindu, isn't that their religion?
Am I dumb? Maybe I don't know religion like that?
What's the religion in India?
Speaker 2 (50:55):
But can't Hindus can Hindu's Hinduism followed right. Islam can
they have can they have multi? Can Hindus have more?
Eighty percent of Hindu is No, it's muscle.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
Is Hindu? Can Hindu get? Can Hindu get? Hindu get multiple? Wise?
Listen the way, by the way, just the way we
be asking questions.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Just watch hat GBT know exactly what the hell we'll
be talking about and be offering out even more.
Speaker 1 (51:23):
Well, I have to go get my home depot rates
dis sorted. I hope you guys.
Speaker 2 (51:28):
By the way, Hindus, Oh, Hindu law generally prohibits polygamy.
Speaker 1 (51:33):
They just they're just staying and get it. They having
fun in the sun. That's crazy. Not fun in the sun.
But that's wild.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
What it's a sunny and sunny I don't know how
sunny in Philadelphia and Mumbai it is.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
It is like on the equator. I think, so it's
really hot. I think it's close to the equation. I
don't know there's a problem about it.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
White girls that do restaurants reviews, we just I don't
like that.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
The girl from Top Chef tried to get them on
how they know, No, she got it.
Speaker 3 (52:08):
They said Tiki massala and they said Brianni whatever this is.
Tiki Masala is crazy and two white women judging ethnic cuisine.
Speaker 1 (52:16):
To that degree. Okay, do you want to not fue bro?
You want to know how bad that who white went
to Jamaicans the Ox and that's how they do tikas tika.
Speaker 2 (52:29):
And you know what I just found out, buttered chicken
get Indian food only on the East coast. Bitch, I
didn't know buttered chicken really wasn't It's like East Coast
Indian food.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is different.
Speaker 3 (52:41):
No when I'm talking about South Asian Southeast Asian, like
you know, you're trying.
Speaker 1 (52:44):
To say Indian cuisine right right right.
Speaker 2 (52:46):
Buttered chicken, chicken, egg, buttered chicken.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
We tried three in La.
Speaker 2 (52:54):
I know now I think about Tiki said, where the
fuck is the buttered chicken? Well, let me stop talking
shit because the family wite girls.
Speaker 1 (52:59):
And if I'm going to wait, wait wait, wait, where
are you gonna say about better chicken? Where that at?
Speaker 2 (53:02):
Because I tried three different Indian it's just that Indian
they have butter chicken. I said, they don't have butter
chicken in Lad.
Speaker 1 (53:09):
I came back home and I said, nigga they got Bama,
get one free, bought a chicken it love it, don't.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
I was gonna say, I don't know where the Indian
restaurant is from, but like, for example, Dashome, which is
really popular in London.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
I don't know what India was called before it was India.
Oh there was another name for it. It got Bombay,
it got the rebreak Bombay. Their cuisine is a little
bit different, so like there's different shiit too.
Speaker 5 (53:33):
Yeah, I was gonna say that there's like different types
of Asian cuisine.
Speaker 2 (53:36):
I know Asian cuisines when I'm talking about Indian goddamn. Okay, y'all,
do not mind our geography lesson at the end of
this episode.
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Let them talking about sex. This is not a food show.
This is not a history chick. But you gotta go see.
I'm not gonna lock me.
Speaker 3 (53:53):
Roast these girls on a Michelin starred restaurant named Semma
Bitch today for you crackers.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
She really you know why you don't like it because
it's not for you. I'm like, yeah, I like that ship.
I didn't like that ship.
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Speaker 1 (54:25):
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Speaker 2 (00:01):
I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded
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Speaker 3 (01:00):
So you know, let's kids, have have you gotten your
man's bigger?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Alwa's crazy that I'm not talking about my man today.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
Like, first of y'all be nosy, like I don't like,
there's so many parts of me in this relationship that
I'm like really enjoying, and so many of y'all will
not let me be in peace in private. So I'm
working on the things that I want to share with y'all.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Because y'all are fucking annoying.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
And I guess it was different because, like my last
relationship was, he was essentially a ghost. He was an
old ass, fifty year old retired nigga with no social media,
so he was just a agomilation.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
What's that word?
Speaker 2 (01:50):
You know what You're just like it is just like
an envision ship aglomination, eybody, y'all know the god word holo.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
An agglogamation, a gloggamation, Hollo.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
I'm gonna get the goddamn word agglomination that it caught up.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Be the bitch.
Speaker 5 (02:10):
It's Coggloborations is a master collection of things.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Agglomeration. Alright, we're dumb, don't do that.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
I was close agglomeration. But like so, I mean, I'm
happy like right now, like we are both steel right
at the phase where I feel like you about to
say to l word and I'm like, oh, I know
it's coming. Yeah, no, no, no, no, I said it. I
said the L word last or time, and look, this
(02:39):
could be my trauma. Why I don't want to say
it again, But we're great. I actually wanted to talk
about therapy. Something that I had recently in a therapy
session stemmed from conversations that we've been having on the podcast,
and I got into therapy and burnt into tears, and
(03:01):
it was about our conversations about me needing the space
and maybe not feeling confident with how I was speaking
about it, but like, through reading the comments and through
trying to express myself on this pod, I was just like,
I feel like I'm a bad person.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Like because I'm not like the compromising I wasn't willing
to have, or.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Like I'm associating all these things with needing space as
like am I a bad person? Am I a bad partner?
And I started getting like into these tropes of why
am I like this? And my therapy my therapist brought
up how last year, through specifically my sobriety, is where
(03:46):
I have come to terms with being way more of
an introvert as I thought myself to be. I thought
I was like this extroverted love to be around people,
need to be around people, feed off of energy and
all these things. And like last year, through not only sobriety,
but definitely desensoring sex for the amount of time that
(04:09):
I did after my last breakup, I've like realized how
much more my introverted needs of being alone, being isolated,
recharging socially has been something I'm navigating newly and so
in trying to explain that to a new partner. And
it's so crazy because I went out with my best
(04:31):
friend last night, we had dinner, and she was just like, yeah, bro,
like we get it, like because we've been with you
for so long as friends. But yeah, I just wanted
to share like the conversations that we're having here and
me trying to express how I'm showing up differently or
trying to express how I am in this new relationship
isn't even necessarily from the trauma of my last relationship
(04:53):
as much as through the healing journey of breaking up
and finding more about myself again.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Really through sobriety was really was really uh.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
I don't want to say life changing, because we're still
going through me navigating that, but I just wanted to
bring that up because I think taking in the comments
taking in trying to defend my need for space or
not wanting to compromise and things. I genuinely sat and
was like, Damn, am I a shitty partner? Am I
a bad person? Am I someone made to be in
(05:27):
a relationship with the way that I'm fine with moving?
And So I just kind of wanted to bring up
that because it was like aha, and it was a
moment that I know we haven't had the episode about
it yet, but I would love and I'm looking for
a professional if any of you guys are listening, no one,
I would love to have the conversation about the relationship
(05:50):
between drinking and introverts and drinking and sex, because I
think through through removing alcohol for the time that I did,
I found so I found out so much about myself
that now I'm just trying to figure out how to
fucking communicate it.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
So you're definitely not a bad person. I think even
the worst people are deserving of love.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
No, and I believe I'm deserving of it.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
And I'm not saying that about you in any means.
I just mean, like, I think even a terrible person
deserves love. I don't think that your habits sounded crazy
out loud. I think the conversation only came from hearing
the person want more, Like I don't think you saying
I need four days is bad. I think comparatively, like
your man wants more and you're like, no, that's it,
(06:36):
like that that's and it still doesn't make you bad person.
I think it's that tone of one person wants this
the other doesn't, because a lot of sometimes the boundaries
you can have now show up as learning lessons from
your last relationship.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yeah so it can.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
It can sound like it's pain, it can sound like
you're being defensives, but really it's like you're opening your
heart again. I remember when you talk about your actually
like he doesn't there was a moment where you say
he doesn't know anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
I love him. Do you remember that episode.
Speaker 3 (07:06):
I was like, damn, I even is in love in
a minute, and you.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
You didn't even care to Like I mean, if that
was within the first year. He did everything right first.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Year, And I'm saying like you were just And I think,
like falling in love that fast is probably something you
just don't want to do, like you know you've been
through pain, even if you don't consciously know that. I
think all of us are like that. I fell in
love deep hard, this happened to me. I met somebody new, better, great,
treating me better. I still got to make sure I
(07:36):
have my guard up. I think that was what I
took from the conversation when you said you need time, like,
I actually think a year from now, when your relationship
is growing and blossoming, I think you might be like
now I'm six and may laugh about it.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
I mean, I just think what I've realized in what
the conversation was in therapy and what I'm really adamant
on is my boundaries are not for anyone else, They're
for me. And if I know that my boundaries are
to protect myself, I don't want the resentment to happen
or I don't want to on who's then I would
I would absolutely resent someone and probably grow out of
(08:13):
like or love for them if I felt like I
had to change the boundaries that make me feel safe
and that are for me in order to appease them.
Like And that's the thing, Like a lot of people
take people's boundaries as slights to them, and it's not
so Like There's been a lot of conversations about that, like,
I need you to accept me for who I am
(08:34):
if I'm accepting you, like, and we do this thing
now too, where he'll wake up and he'll be like, Babe,
i'm not in a good mood. I'll call you later,
because I've told him I don't want my my day
affected because you're in a shitty mood, Like I would
much rather we not talk until you get better. Girls,
And I got to do that, but we all need
that to Yeah, And that's and that's that's because I've
I've I've told him a boundary where I'm like, I've
(08:56):
been in relationships, well the past relationship where I've had friendship,
so even situationships where I've allowed someone's mood to ruin
my day and me and.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Him talk so much. We're still at three hours a day.
We don't talk three hours straight.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Now it's broken up. But I've literally told him, I
know we're long distance, but if you wake up and
you're not in a good mood, do not feel the
need to talk to me. And so literally he woke
up in a shitty mood the other day, Babe, I'm
going to go to the gym. I'll talk to you
when I when I feel better, and I was like,
thank you, Like so to me, if that's a boundary,
like to me, the boundaries are for me and to
protect me. And if I feel like I have to
(09:31):
move on my boundaries to appease someone, then I'm not
for you like the boundaries.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
When we make boundaries, we have.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
To we have to know that they're for us and
not for other people. And so for me, I'm not
looking to push those boundaries or move them to appease
someone else.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Which is why the.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Conference we should have a dialogue, not today. I don't
think we both can even have that conversation boundaries and compromise.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
What's what we've had, We've.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Had those conversations real, but we should feel not Mandy situation.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Let's just for example. I'm like, that's a really.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
It's a really big thing, especially in relationships, sacrifice, compromise, boundaries, Like.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
There's three different things. How do you dissect what things?
Speaker 2 (10:10):
You know?
Speaker 3 (10:11):
What a boundary is to me? And this is why
I was going back and forth with you about it.
Your four day rule that you have for yourself didn't
seem like a hard no.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
It felt like, right now, it's for my sanity. No no, no,
So boundary to me is hard. No, that's a hard
note for me.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Okay, Like, especially right now while I'm navigating my need
to recharge.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I don't want to have to drink to be around him.
I don't want to what do you mean you mean?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Like I realized, like again, through through therapy and going
through going sober, I realized my ability to be around
so many people in an extended amount of time that
the energy is.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Only on alcohol. Got it?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
And so in this relationship and mind you, with my ex,
a lot of the sex, a lot of the time
together was drinking and drug filled.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
It was fun, we were rock stars. I loved it.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
But when I chose to remove those things, I realized
a lot more about my capacity with being with people.
And so for me, I don't want to get to
the point where he's coming. My anxiety has risen now
because there's an extended amount of time and now I
have to feel the need to get into any advice
to be around him. And so where I'm at right now,
(11:26):
at thirty four, I'm literally learning myself right now as
an introvert that needs the recharge.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
I think people learn themselves every Yeah, my ma is
relearning herself at seventy four. Like something I learned from
the Tempest X episode that that's makes me think about
what you're saying about drinking and drugs and dating I
with this current partner.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
He was kind of like saying, the first.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
Three months, we need to have a weekend where we're
not going out. Now, I'm not saying that we're getting
sucked up, like we're not going to the cloud, We're
not going to a lounge, we're not going to hear jazz.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
We're not like, let's just be in the house.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
And he was super super for adamant about us doing this,
And what I didn't realize was that I'm so used
to people enjoying me for my extrovertedness and fun same.
I was scared not that he wouldn't like me, but
that the time with me would be boring. And now
it's so crazy to see like we liked the boring shit.
(12:20):
There was a comment we made like, dayn't I want
to go back to Thailand and fucking three weeks wasn't enough,
And I was like, I wish we had.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
One day where we weren't doing anything. In Thailand, we
did something every day and he's like, now, look he
is talking. I will say, that's what I like, not
many things.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I will say, there are many things that I learned
and are still taking from my last relationship. And because
of the pandemic, we got to get me and my
ex got together where we didn't have.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
A lot of inclusion of other people. And I feel
like when.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
We started needing to be at bars or sex clubs
or be around so many other people, it complicated it.
So I know that now that's what I'm enjoying with
my partner is making sure I don't feel the need
for us to be in clubs or bars or spaces
where now we're just enjoying each other. So like he's
coming to Atlanta. I'm gonna say it's a week. It's
Monday to Friday, even though late Monday leave early Friday.
(13:09):
But he's coming, say Atlanta for a week, and we're
doing Coca Cola World, the gun Range and we're just
doing Yeah, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
It's like I already met my best friend.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
He is the only thing that matters, Like out with
you with all these people, Yeah, just who's like my
corecors I've met his best friend, he's met my best friend.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
He just asked if it's okay. His mom wants my
number for us to talk housewives. So his mom like, adoors,
I love his mom.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I'm not gonna like yeah, love.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
But he's like, I don't know if it's a lot,
but my mom doesn't really have anyone to talk about
housewives with. And you hang up with me to watch housewives.
And I told her you're special house lives. So he's like, uh, babe,
do you mind talking to my mom about housewives?
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I said no, not, like you.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Know, those things are so sweet because to me, it
reminds me and I wonder if this is age or
him being like, I'm not about to turn Mandy off.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
I feel like we see this a lot when.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
Women don't know what to do when they need more,
or they want to give more, or they want to
open a man up to more because they're so used
to men running. People run from commitment, people run from
all those types of things. Like genuinely, I remember the
first year of my relationship thinking it was bullshit, like
there's no way that he's still like showing up doing
these things like we were just talking. My dad turns
(14:28):
ninety June first, and we're like, Okay, what are we
going to do? And so he's like my dad's got
like I'm not here, just trying to be funny. One
last nan in Vegas, and we're like, all right, well,
let's figure out like how we're going to make this work.
And it's literally right after my partner's birthday and I'm
sitting there thinking, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Oh, should we have a nurse doing all this shit?
Speaker 3 (14:49):
And I'm like, this is such a heavy convo for
someone so young whose parents aren't necessarily going through what
I'm going through, but watching people support you.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Is just very impressive. Yeah, Like we literally google like
should we take a private jet? Cause it's, by the way,
I'm not that rich and neither is he. However, from
Vegas or La to Vegas, it's only two hundred dollars
person on a jet.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I don't notice if you do the shared one. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
So now we're like, all right, cool, let's just take
the whole family there. Like, but I like seeing this
side of like how people will show up and it's
interesting seeing the side of me to think, oh, really,
like are you doing this for me? Like or you know,
just questioning it questioning people's love. How did I hold
you actually being friends with the nigga first?
Speaker 4 (15:32):
Oh, y'all game changer, bitch like cool like bitch like
I got to know as a friend first, Like I
if we go to the very inception of this goddamn podcast.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Any nigga I liked, any nigga who.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Had a nickname on this goddamn podcast had a nickname
because I liked him because the dick was good. Like
all of my my my like and lust and quote
unquote love for anybody stem from getting my back bloone
now and so to have spent five six months getting
to know him first, Like, it's so interesting being in
(16:09):
a relationship where sex is not the center of it.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
And now it's like we're we're.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Talking, we're trying to incorporate it a lot more, and
we're talking, but it's like, damn, it's my friend.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Damn.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
We talk about so much other ship that it's not
even about sexting or lusting or not waiting to get.
Speaker 1 (16:24):
To each other to tear each other apart.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
There's like I'm so excited to just lay on the
couch with you and watch Netflix. Like we were talking
about Matt Damon the other day and cause the nigga
Young we talked about him and his friendship with Ben
Affleck and I was like, oh my god, I love
their movie together.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
And he was like, what's the one that y'all know progress, No,
not broke back now and he played brog Jacob Jo.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Girl, I'm confusing my wife that you like, what's the
other one? On Google hunting so he can bring up
good walle Hunting And I was like, no, I'm talking
about dog one dog, one dog.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
That I love.
Speaker 2 (17:01):
Y'all are the first two people. But if I have
said dog but and they don't, don't do it? I
like it, don't that's age that age that's saying, is it?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Yeah, that's my fun. Ye oh yeah, that's a great Yeah.
Like no, no, this is our age and that whole
eight No dog but either.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
But she also loves Trick Daddy and you know that
she only know like Hood Miami ship.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
I was like, we do love some hood cinema. I
had that phase in my relationship recently. There's a I
don't know if you guys have seen it. Oh, I
hope we can post it. There's a checklist of black
movies to see you said it to him.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
No, he said it to me and.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
Said, baby, filled this out with your fucking viracial ass,
show biracial ass.
Speaker 1 (17:41):
How many of them had you seen? Like sixty percent?
Speaker 2 (17:44):
Okay, but he saw not very biracial of you.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
That is prettily. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't
do don't get razy. I love a concussion wrong.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Every time you talk about a movie here, you bring
up the Secretary once the money, but you still haven't
seen it. You love bringing up some white cinema that
is like a b side to movies. I don't know why.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
You know black rom coms are good, but how many
do we have? We got what love the Phone? They
out those are drop round time.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
Sorry, love movies, Black Love Stories, brown sugar just right
jumping in the bros Basketball just like they got Naga.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
I mean, yeah, no, there's a lot more. Okay, but
also look at the country.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
And if you want to talk to Mandy about it,
Gabrielle Union apparently isn't even.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Let never forget that.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Okay, let me tell you it was a crazy shit
that happen before we get into this outline, because I
know we need to get to it, so I'm driving
to see my dad. It's our last day, and he's like,
go by yourself, because I feel.
Speaker 3 (18:53):
Like your dad is like over me being there, like
because we've been spending a lot of time together, because
you and your dad need a moment. So I'm heading
to my dad and I suddenly feel I was eating strawberries,
which is crazy because with my braces, I've been eating chips,
chicken wings, bag gets.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
They told me the seeds. I don't know what happened. No, no, no,
you can't. You can have a strawberry.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I don't know what angle I ate it on, but
the bracket of my braces broke.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
They say this is common.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
However, it was the back wisdom tooth, and the bracket
dug into my gum. So the end of the wire,
just to be more helpful, the wire of the races.
Maybe I'm not saying the bracket. The end of the
wire was stuck in my gum. I immediately felt like
a shooting headpain. I was only three minutes from the house.
(19:42):
I call him.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
I opened my mouth. I realized I can't talk.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
I like this.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Nigga thinks I got in a car accident. He's like,
how the fuck. She just left.
Speaker 3 (19:52):
She calling and like, and I can't say it's my braces.
He gets to the floor of my cars on he
sees what's going on. He's like, oh my god, we
gotta go upstairs, bitch. We get upstairs and it's stuck
down there. Every time he moves it, it's like, I mean, die,
you're screaming. I'm like, oh my god, call my mom.
Tell her I can't see my dad. Take me the
(20:13):
emergency room. I was texting. That's how much I couldn't talk.
So I'm like, get an emergency dentist. This is how
niggas gonna dig girl. He called three. They all said
it's five hundred dollars to come in plus the fees,
and mind you, all it is is just stuck.
Speaker 2 (20:30):
So this is like orthodonist. You can't get a regular
dentist anywhere from one to two thousand.
Speaker 1 (20:35):
So I'm like, hold on it. I do, but I
was like, you got it. Hold on was worth it.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I was like, let me see the motive in mind.
Jo's screaming and crying right and he's like, okay, let's
get in the car.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
And I was like, let's see what we can do.
So bitch.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
We found a YouTube. Oh gee, of course said all
you gotta do is get a nail clipper.
Speaker 1 (20:55):
Of course you did.
Speaker 3 (20:56):
So he's boiling the nail clipper, all sitting there, drooling
on the side.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
There's no blood coming out. It's just stuck.
Speaker 3 (21:04):
Oh, and he's trying to fucking break it. If you
break it, it'll come apart. So it it'll relieve the pain.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
It couldn't happen. I was like, let's go to the doctor.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
We call one more doctor. I ain't like his attitude,
so this doctor would feel like so the guy.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
So my man's on the phone. He's like, Yo, can
you do this price? All you have to do is
cut it?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
Can we just give you cash because they're estimating fifteen
hundred dollars god. And he's like, I'm with my family
and my children and if you want me to leave
my hall, I was like, oh fuck this la shit.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I'm like, look then, thunk, get the wire cutters. Bruh.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
We're in the car and he's mad at me because
I kept screaming at him and I was like, why
are you not evening out?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
And he's like, oh my god, stopped. I'm like.
Speaker 4 (21:45):
Mad.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Tape oh, bitch, o' cian.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
This nigga goes in the home depot, comes out with
a wire cutter. I'm like, where's the alcohol in the
hot water. He's like, we're not sterilizing it. Just come
home where I really fucking used. And this is for
like table people. I was sitting in the parking lot.
I felt like people were staring at me fucking doing
my own braces work. When it came out because it
(22:09):
had to pull away from the nerves to pull out
of my gum, I.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Screamed so loud. There's an apartment complex around. I think
they thought I was getting murdered. And do you know
what this nigga did?
Speaker 1 (22:19):
Do you know what?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
Like last nothing my real estate investment well to do
African boyfriend did put it back in the plastic. They said, oh,
we don't need them anymore, right, Oh my god. I
wanted to die laughing, but I was like, yeah, guy
David was the thing. I was like, yeah, baby, go
(22:41):
get the thirty five dollars bad.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Yeah. I was about say how much your wirecutters? Yeah,
there's like thirty something dollars. He got something. No, he
got like two three different conds. He got the skinny
ones he had.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
He didn't know what's going so so he returned multiple
but one of them was in your mouth unfairlized those
horn people.
Speaker 3 (22:58):
Well, we went to go have dinner at this restaurant.
This isn't really tea, but I just wanted to say
we go sit.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
We were almost we were just gonna go, like just
to like fusing the return the cutters. You're right restaurant.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
So we're like, oh, let's just fuck it, let's go
or you know. He said to me, He's like, let's
go home. I ain't feeling and I was like, no,
I'm not ruining my night. How do you get to
see my I'm not ruining my night.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
We get in there and even when we get in
he's like kind of act like YO, want me there.
We sit right down next to four black people.
Speaker 3 (23:28):
It's two friends that are sitting with Sasha and Malie Obama,
and I was like, wow, I needed to see this.
Bit's don't sitting there eating like this, you know what,
You're trying not to stare at somebody. I'm trying to
look at me And I'm like, oh my god, these
girls are so cute, so sweet. I can overhear some
of their conversation. They are so innocent, so adorable. They
lived together, and we were saying, like, yo, do you
(23:50):
know how special it is to see siblings like this close,
Like I don't know. It really was hitting me and
I was like, wow, I think LA is a cool
place to me because you kind of realize how normal
everybody is, Like you kind of get to see, you
see celebrities walking down street New York too. You can
go to a club and interact with somebody that you
love and know. And I'm such a fucking fan of
(24:12):
seeing that these girls are moving up in film and
production and doing their ship swarm.
Speaker 1 (24:16):
I don't know if anybody knows this. Childish Gambino directed it,
Sasha Obama produced it. It was one of the EP's
or something. But yeah, it was just a great day,
and it really like it was a great day, great
great day. There was a great moment to see these
two black girls that to me, I grew up with.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
I watched them grow up and I was just like
wow and no, And all the way home, I was like,
we gonna see Blue Ivy.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
Nidda, We're gonna be eating. We go see Blue Ivy.
Nixt and often be like, oh my god, you ain't
Blue Ivy going she about to be a star and
role Yeah, no, are you right? We're probably gonna see
North first? Have you gone through disses since that? Look
the questions they need since? Oh yeah, yeah that's true.
I'm no, sorry I didn't. That's what I'm going to
(24:57):
two forty five. Okay, well I literally told it. I
think I got to hear twenty. I have to go
to that doctor. So if I sound like I'm rushing
the last time at all, like you just you're fine,
it's gone. It's yeah. So once it's gone, it's gone.
I just need to put enough new wire down there.
Speaker 3 (25:15):
Bruh the parking lot because niggas say no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
You need you need to go, because that's what niggas
think about STDs. Once the symptoms is going, they think
it's going, and sometimes it ain't.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Girl, can I get there?
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Ship?
Speaker 1 (25:24):
I'm just saying my appointments are two forty five once
the year. But I will tell you though, I.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Think that when it comes to like survival mode type shit,
that was a good partner moment. How the fuck are
you gonna hold me? Down niggas anyway, no, no holds barred.
Speaker 5 (25:49):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (25:50):
We have been trying to do this on solo episodes
where we're trying to like bring up an excerpt and
just dig into it. So this one is from my
chapter about sugaring. Uh oh no, sorry, this is an
old bit. One says, quote unquote, they all do the
same shit. Feed you a pipe dream before piping, tell
(26:10):
you how amazing you are, how beautiful you are, not
like the other gold diggers on the site. Oh yeah,
this is the spoiling chef and how they want to
spoil you. Like regular dating, this is all the boyfriendly
type game. In the boyfriendly type game, you will experience
the following consistent communication and maybe even good morning texts, chivalry,
compliments and charm, dates, plans made and promising. So when
(26:34):
I wrote this, I was thinking about all this shit
that niggas do to win you over, and I want
to ask you, edin, are there anything that women do
that they fall off.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
From when dating that they fall off from? Because in the.
Speaker 3 (26:46):
Beginning of this thing, I'm saying, men are giving you compliments,
men are giving you consistent communication, They're making plans, they're
going on the dates, good morning text.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
What do women fall off from? You're saying that they
stop doing the thing? I believe once once they fucked. Okay,
you know what I've experienced.
Speaker 5 (27:07):
I hate saying this out loud. They start cooking a
little less. I've had that happen, Nigga, we got jobs.
I understand, Hey, our own understand. But you know what
it is, because i'd be a triggered because I did know.
You know what it is is that this is what
I've experienced, right, It's two things that that's one. So
(27:29):
it's more of like the fact that it's like you
want to show off that you could cook and that
you could throw it down. So they just start cooking
you like almost every and anything in their arsenal. And
then next thing, I know, you're cooking a little exactly,
the quality start going a little lower. But eggs, you
start cooking a little less. Now doubt you know. It
used to be pancakes, eggs, you know, bacon. Now it's
(27:50):
just maybe eggs, right, okay, maybe just coffee. Another thing, brod.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
I started off good.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I gave that nigga just eggs and a bagel. Now
I'm going to move up and give him some meat.
Like I did it the opposite way.
Speaker 1 (28:03):
I like conditioning.
Speaker 3 (28:04):
Now now what then he does with Dick. He says
he stot you at c Gray Dick because he don't
want you to attach. Indeed, he works his life, you
know when he comes. This time, I'm doing like the
shripping grits.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
With I'm gonna it was just the very at lantern. Listen.
I was doing shripping grits like it's my thing. I
just have to buy vegan butter and vegan vecon and grits.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
I'm coming to Atlanta for us to record, do the
audiobook and lack effect. I just realized that you niggas
never lied about toast on Linux. Oh my god, what
you like it?
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Holy shit? I ate there three days in a row.
Oh that's crazy.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
It was one hundred dollars to Uber eat the fucking
Fried's not for I wanted with my hotel room was speaking.
Girl was cripy that that was my Uber because I
was about to say that weight.
Speaker 1 (28:52):
I went there twice. It wasn't wait, but maybe because
I didn't say when I went yeah, there are always
being waited, then I was. I was so addicted to
the first one. I was like now I want to
go to the other one. Bruh. You know it's crazy
not shipping on a black business because the food is phenomenal.
Service when the food is good, I really don't think
it needs to matter.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
Hole shit, no, no, no for patrons, hear me out again,
say this again. You don't think that service needs to
be good when the food is good.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
That was food.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
Look at you right now, y'all have been hearing me
talking about Lucy for almost eight years on this show.
I have never experienced worst service in New York City
than Lucy n However, I will die on the sword
that that is one of the best pops outside of France.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
Now go good food, plumes with good price. If I
a lot of times and now you could do a
hole in the wall that has really good food. To me,
if I'm going to a restaurant and the food is
so good that it's price, that is nigga, you crave.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
That's why I love you.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
And all of my friends told me, I can't say
the name of the restaurant anymore, though, what oh you're
talking about?
Speaker 1 (30:01):
The bitch bleeped that out. I don't bleep it out.
I don't think the ood is so good.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
The service though, but baby, because like every time I
brought people, everything comes out on time.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
It's not the ambiance is not there for it. But
the food is so fucking good. I love it.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
They be bringing us out a little shop like it's
so great. Okay, so I just found a new My
whole girl's be cussing me out, like bitch. I tweeted
it one time because a fan wanted to know where
to eat. I got two calls, bitch, if you don't
delete that sweet, we already cake out the name about Cadence.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
The vegan soulfood, but it's black on this one is
not black. But I love it. And ice time and
now you just want to give them tips. You want
to give them hints.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Oh no, let me tell you this almost give out surveys.
So for my birthday, my man takes me to this
French spot on the East Side. Right, I'm not gonna
say the name, but it's fairly like best friend in
New York.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Now we go.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
It was two weeks later we get back from Mexico,
Like was he that shit again? We had a reservation
for nine We didn't get seated. Now I did see celebrities.
I think I saw Tessa Thompson and the someone else
from Game of Thrones, and I was like.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
All right, ten twenty we got seated. Oh I would
have left.
Speaker 3 (31:12):
No, we were enjoying, like they have a cool cocktail bar,
so we were having a good time.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
But you made a reservation. Girl, hold on, suck my
dick from the back. I don't know if we knew
what was going to happen, but you know, when you
know they about akusho ass. I started huffing and puffing
right around forty minutes.
Speaker 3 (31:27):
But when I saw all these celebrities walking, oh taper
for two, I was like, oh, so they're treating us
like shit.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
You know we own the celebrities. Bitch. Oh no, no, bitch.
Speaker 3 (31:35):
That hour and twenty minutes was so worth it. Matre
D comes over to him, Sir, we saw you here
two weeks ago. We want to apologize. We shouldn't have
opened that reservation up when we had stuff on the books.
We're going to make sure whenever you want a reservation,
you're here. I'd appreciate it if you can call me
twenty four hours before, but if you can't, no problem,
doesn't matter how many people you're in.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
Bitch, we get downstairs. Would you like more mess coming?
Speaker 4 (31:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (31:57):
Do?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
It's all on the way out. Oh yeah, I do
desert another app. I actually do want a dozen s cargo,
not six. Oh, bitch.
Speaker 2 (32:06):
Let a restaurant fuck up. And it's supposed to be
a high end restaurant. Oh you let us sit. Let
their shit sit.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Y'all been a hope. They take a little too long.
Speaker 4 (32:14):
Bro.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
When I tell you I chick came, he was like,
this should have been two hundred fifty dollars one like kissing.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
I love your patience.
Speaker 5 (32:22):
So do you not think your food takets it a
little better because of the service in this case that
is half of it was free.
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Well it was so good.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
I came back, but oh, I sounded to say, uh
toastallen if they weren't rude or anything, not saying that
like they were kind, It's just it wasn't great service.
Speaker 1 (32:37):
But I also didn't give a fuck. Is that's so good? Good?
Speaker 3 (32:41):
And I think when places are so busy or fatty
like TikTok and everybody talks about toast on nis, Yeah,
maybe that's why it's like heart and people are rude
as fuck coming in. You know, I don't know if
they're dealing with a lot, but bitch, I don't give
a shit. She could have called me a whore and
I would said, thank you, I'll take extra cream better
that crazy, of course. Okay, reaction sinary clip. Oh sorry,
(33:03):
I actually had hypothetical for you guys.
Speaker 2 (33:04):
Hypothetic would you guys go on a date without being
able to see or without being able to talk?
Speaker 1 (33:12):
Oh, without being able to talk, I'm fallow.
Speaker 2 (33:16):
I want to sit across a good look at motherfucker, Like,
nothing's worse than talking to an ugly moment.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
But you wouldn't know because you can't see. To me, no,
I can't talk. That means I could see, right, But if.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
You couldn't, you said nothing's worse than going on to
dinner with the ugly motherfucker.
Speaker 2 (33:30):
If I could talk, then I can see, which means
I'm talking to an ugly nigga.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
No no, no, no no no no. Oh see we
both okay.
Speaker 3 (33:40):
Without being able to see them and just talking, or
being able to see them and know talking. Oh, I'm
still going for the sea because I feel like I
can get a vibe, like I've done that with in
places like they don't.
Speaker 1 (33:54):
Seek the language I've seen. I've seen men. I just
looked at them and wanted to subject and then don't start.
And then they started talking, and I didn't want to second.
No more.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
There hasn't been many ugly men that talked their way
into But you don't know if they're ugly.
Speaker 1 (34:12):
You're going on a date with a motherfucking lyricist.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
I told you I don't watch Love is Blind because
love is very blind, not blind.
Speaker 1 (34:20):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (34:21):
No, love is is the other one? I like looking
at someone beautiful. Love is hi, luster is not because
the second baby.
Speaker 3 (34:28):
Like, I can't wait my grandma, Please tell one of
the producers to give them my grandma's old wedding ring.
They've been doing all that shit and then next day,
you know they know at the aisle because they don't
support black lives matter, like none.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
He said that, it's just I don't know which one
I mean to me. I still would like to be
on a date.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
What an attractive ass motherfucker, because mind you, if you
find we could just eat our food, we.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Don't have to talk. But what if the date is
not just food, what if it's an activity? Then I'm
just shooting the gun or I'm just looking at the
art on the wall. You know what I could do.
Speaker 3 (35:03):
I would go to a lounge jazz listening music because
I feel like that's the energy itself vibing with someone.
Speaker 1 (35:09):
We can go to the movies.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
You shouldn't be talking at the movie anyway, and then
I can look over and look at your finance.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
That work. Yeah, all right, let's sello period. Let's see
what this clip is all right playing?
Speaker 2 (35:20):
Now?
Speaker 6 (35:21):
Highly spiritual women are single because they understand the metaphysical
essence of the transportation of energy and alchemy. And the
primary reason why it's so hard for them to day
and being relationships is because they harness energy that requires
a man to have supreme masculinity so much because only
a weak man will only demonize and subjugate for spiritual gifts. Now,
when you study historical context in anchr history, the king
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might have had ten twenty ten eight wives, but the
one that he loved the most for the witch, the healer,
the one who had the spiritual gifts. And the reason
that is because you highly.
Speaker 5 (35:53):
Spirit What's funny is that the voice over a AI,
but the video is and it's just fucking hilarious.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
Oh the voice is so funny. Yeah, kindly, spiritual women
are single. Let me try to repeat what like.
Speaker 6 (36:05):
And this isn't just spirit women are single because they
understand the metaphysical essence of the transportation of energy and
the primary reason why so hard for them today.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
During the date. So I'm gonna say this hotel ship.
But if you're a very intuitive person, it is hard
for you to date.
Speaker 2 (36:23):
I think someone and this might not be a synonym,
but I look at someone who may be highly spiritual.
That means in terms of how they view the universe themselves,
maybe they're more in tune with themselves, which means oftentimes
they're single because maybe they're just happy with themselves.
Speaker 1 (36:43):
That's a good point.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
We talk about that, like, I think that in terms
of how a lot of people date, they date with
the means of looking for a band aid. They date
to find someone to bring them happiness or to make
them whole. And we've had the conversations that unfortunately that's
what we were taught right, like to become one right
or like finding your soulmates, and nan are doing this too,
(37:08):
by the way, not wanting to be alone so to
me someone who is happier with themselves. And we've talked
about this even in sense of like, once you're able
to fully fund your own lifestyle, once you're able to
find community, find friends, be happy with who you are
physically emotionally. If you find spiritually your niche, like if
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you're going to church or you're you're finding ways to
just meditate and be with self, and you're happy with self,
it is a lot harder to.
Speaker 1 (37:38):
Date because you're less net to put up with all
the bullshit.
Speaker 3 (37:41):
I don't think there's a world where being happy by
yourself doesn't look a little bit like it's spinster.
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Oh she can't meet anyone in there's always someone that's
like thinking being single is bad.
Speaker 3 (37:57):
But when you get to that point where you're single
because you know exactly what you want, that's to me
when you're on this level.
Speaker 2 (38:02):
I was just having the conversation with my homegirl and
she was like, bruh, I've been single for so long
that I have anxiety about bringing someone into my home.
Speaker 1 (38:13):
How long?
Speaker 2 (38:13):
I say, she's been single for three years, and so
does that mean sexless? Been sexless for about six months,
which is like, goddamn girl, I'll pray for you.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
For real. It's tough out here.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
But we were having the conversation because she's at the
age where she's like motherhood is now leaving the idea
because she would want to have kids with a man
she likes, and it's becoming so almost foreign to her
that there's anxiety about like, damn, I wonder if because
I've been so single with myself and have this routine
in my home, if I'm going to be able to
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open it to someone else. Like she's literally like, I
don't know if I want someone in my apartment to
ruin my days.
Speaker 1 (38:59):
Because we don't. I don't like anyone yet, which yes,
that's just like the real truth. I was like on
my soap bag.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
And then when you like, nigga is so over and
I don't mean it's over for the bad reasons.
Speaker 1 (39:12):
It's the same with men. My Nigga jokes a lot
about me, like.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
Bruh, when I tell you you came soon as fuck
like I thought I sing to be out here, and
like it's really it.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
When you like the motherfucker, that's when this shit starts
to happen. So don't get.
Speaker 3 (39:25):
Discouraged if you're listening and you're like, I don't know,
I got my routine with friends. I don't know I
got my routine with this because at the end of
the day, when you're excited about someone, you can't wait
to incorporate them in that Just like, for example, one
of my friends uh Oh, Gila and neg my friend
Gila's wedding. I went to their wedding in Mexico City.
(39:48):
I kept eating people in their dodgeball team dodgeball or kickball.
And I'm laughing because she flies, fuck he flies. She's
in fashion and beauty and I'm like, y'all, dog buck.
Speaker 1 (39:58):
But he did it before her. He loved doing this
thing with his friends.
Speaker 3 (40:03):
He works in community and parks like for a living,
and now she loves it, Like you can't wait to
like bring your people in, and it's silly to maybe
bring up her doesn't sound the exact same, but I
found it interesting that something that someone does alone for
so long that's their thing.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
Once they're so into you and they love you, now
it's like, no, no, no, I want to share this
with you. I think you can probably attribute that you're
gonna se a good movie and you like, you gotta
watch this ship. It could be a friend, somebody you love.
You need them to experience the same thing. So when
it comes to your home, yeah, you can watch fel
bad what you said? I told my boyfriend, please go
(40:41):
and enjoy I call it jousting. He hates it, but
it's the wrestling, the a W, the WWE, what's aw
aw like wrestling Federation?
Speaker 1 (40:51):
And I told him I want you to enjoy as
much of it as you can. With that. Well, didn't
you just you said what?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
You just go there now with me charenting it sports, Yeah,
I'm not surprised. She it's a little different. It's a
little different.
Speaker 1 (41:06):
It's okay.
Speaker 2 (41:07):
So here's what And for the men listening, it was
explained to me the a W short, a w W,
W E, wrestling, whatever, all the things is like a
male telenovella.
Speaker 1 (41:20):
Yes, did you watch that shirt on Netflix? Edit a
year round? There's storylines, there's people baked into it.
Speaker 2 (41:26):
The audience there was, oh my god, the audience looked
like they were either half versions or half serial killers
bodies in the fridge.
Speaker 1 (41:33):
Ports know, that's truly crazy. I said, baby, just the
crowd you be like, I don't know, you don't really
watched wrestlers. I'm sure. All I know is I told him,
please enjoy that by yourself, Babe. I don't want to
ruin it for you. So like, yeah, people don't care.
(41:58):
They don't. And I was like, I was watching it.
It is the man in the in the type. Okay,
maybe if we go see Roman Rains fight bitch is
because he's a.
Speaker 2 (42:11):
Jason, So maybe I'll go in Raymond Rains, Roman rings
or his brother's cousins. It's like a hall love skins
and that's one that I'll take some with but shout
out to swerve, like when look at the locks the
laskin black dude, No, no, no, no, no, this is
Roman Rains bitch.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
Oh wrong guy, But I'll suck.
Speaker 2 (42:34):
He got a light like you can go enjoy it
because they all take wrestlers, they all beautifer back.
Speaker 1 (42:41):
Have you actually watched a netflixhip of WW you should?
I A'm gonna laugh.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
The last thing that got that before Karadise, the last
thing that I really had the TV like what I
went to it and I have no no, no, it's
like the dirty deep dark ship they do I have.
Speaker 1 (42:58):
I have just said this could be your thing. Sexual
assault whoa, No, the documentary.
Speaker 2 (43:06):
It was the documentary document like, oh, that's what I mean,
not because it's good sexual assaultid bro, you've seen that
Nigga tweets, but you like I would have gotten to
nig I'll say, yes, when you find a person and
(43:28):
they have their thing, you absolutely can join them, but
also feel free to also let them keep their ship
if it ain't for you.
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Well, let's talk about the history of the d The
people that don't enjoy the same things as.
Speaker 2 (43:46):
Their partner and they never will, they don't give off
history of divorce, Okay, right now, Okay, So I thought
we were going to do the history of the dick. Oh,
the history of the d The earliest known divorce laws
were written on clay tablets in Mesopotamia, and you just.
Speaker 1 (44:03):
Like bringing up clay.
Speaker 2 (44:04):
This is the second time you done brought up the
goddamn plods. Yes, the girl had to suck at clay
dick for the mummy or something. Mesopotamia keeps coming up
in our history.
Speaker 1 (44:12):
Secment, Come on, Mesopotamia.
Speaker 3 (44:13):
Okay, women were actually granted the right to separate from
the husbands.
Speaker 1 (44:18):
I don't believe this back then, Okay.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
And then there was a code where they had provisions
for divorce, so there were a lot of religious influence
on why you could or couldn't. In Europe, Christian churches
controlled divorced from the eleventh century, with the Catholic Church
banning it entirely and Protestant churches allowing it restricted. Muslims
in Africa, the Middle East and Asia began using Quran rules,
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with the husbands generally able to divorce without cause or anything,
while the wife needs the agreement. So that's why the
thing in Mesopotamia was women being able to leave was
a big deal. What's interesting is today the place where
you cannot get divorced.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
It's a country. Does anyone know in there? Before guitar
keep guess cutter, Actually is how I said. Singapore, Philippines
it's illegal, Oh, Philippines.
Speaker 3 (45:09):
To get divorced. And Chile in twenty two thousand and four.
I wanted to be ready. Uh, they were one of
the last countries to legalize divorce. So now yeah, it's
still not I don't know if.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
You if you.
Speaker 2 (45:23):
Heard so, I want to say it was in Europe.
Y'all can in fact check me while I talk. But
there women were not able to file for divorce, especially
Christian Church. However, there became a rule that if they
could show that their spouse wasn't able to get their
dick hard, that they could actually file.
Speaker 1 (45:45):
Like okay, you cannot goods, I mean.
Speaker 2 (45:48):
You couldn't maybe like a blamement on that kids, if this.
Speaker 1 (45:51):
Dick don't get hard all the time?
Speaker 5 (45:53):
Did you did you find it a frenchwoman's to obtain
the divorce because of her husband's lack of sexual function
was the European Court of Human Rights?
Speaker 1 (46:02):
That's fire, So I mean.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
Crazy is in order to prove it too, which this
is so dumb, they had to see like he had
to try to get hard in front of.
Speaker 1 (46:12):
I swear.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
You can't get it up in the how you gonna
get it up in front of everyone? But I thought
she was able to get a divorce.
Speaker 3 (46:21):
Speaking of divorce, you know what's crazy about reading the
Philippines thing? How many times on ninety Fiance they want
that fucking green card. Literally this last season they're showing
you the opposite. A white dude who's homeless goes to Philippines.
He's like, oh, well, since he's dating a trans woman,
he can't marry her because she's.
Speaker 2 (46:38):
A man really, So he's like, I'll marry your mom.
And I didn't understand when some of the business charact it.
Speaker 1 (46:44):
Now this is real. She was still to show this,
Oh faith. He was the one that got gone Ria.
You seen the clip. No, I'm sorry, I am my
algorithm is not ninety day fiance.
Speaker 2 (46:56):
So wait, what happened? He went to the Philippines to
marry a lady boy, but they couldn't get married because
they're same sex, and so he said.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
Let me marry your mama.
Speaker 2 (47:04):
He's like, yeah, homeless and ain't got nothing to offer,
got no money, hanged love has no price to it.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
Man, shut the fuck.
Speaker 2 (47:10):
Let me tell you. Wait, he said, let me marry
your mama for what so he can have When he
when he told her about the Gonerria, her face was so.
She was like, wait, he had gone reea from you
have a the aid? Wait he had gotten Ria from
lu though from a girl that he let suck his
another transgirl. Wait, he he had gone Ria while he
was with her, or before he found out. He had
(47:32):
gone Ria while he flew out there. Wow, So he's like,
don't worry about it.
Speaker 1 (47:36):
I'm gonna get the medicine and player down. No, I'm monogamous.
Speaker 2 (47:38):
He fucking just lady boys everywhere, homeless and now trying
to marry one's mama.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
He was he said, she's not right.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
The craziest mart the Filipino girls like how who did
you get it from? You told her and she's like,
I didn't know what, How did this happen you? I
didn't even have sex with her? He's like, well, I
said I was gonna sleep over.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
She thought it was because he got no home. Girl
thought he needed a place. So now he's moving to
a country where he can not have a divorce. Well, yeah,
so that was the big thing.
Speaker 3 (48:08):
I don't think they're still together, but yeah, when people
were saying that in the comments, I didn't understand it
till this outline. Yeah, because they were like, oh, it's
so he can never leave because he wanted a cheap
place to live.
Speaker 2 (48:17):
I'm curious to know if, with all of the changes
that just have happened with technology, with how we date,
with how we consume information, if there will be any
changes done to divorce, Because for the friends and people
that I know currently going through divorces, I was shocked
(48:37):
to know that the courts. You can file and then
be separated, but you have to be separated for a
certain amount of time before they finalize the divorce.
Speaker 1 (48:45):
There's so many laws.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Why are you making me say what a nigga I'm
saying I don't want to be with because they're like, well,
maybe y'all can work through this, and I'm like, wait,
I have to be separated from this person before you sure.
Speaker 1 (48:56):
That you want to get divorced. That is crazy to me.
But there's another thing.
Speaker 3 (49:00):
In Japan, women have to wait and this is kind
of the opposite six months until they can get married
to someone. Oh really, So if you want to know
Marrily Kardashian, no better, you gotta fucking know unless the
woman's pregnant.
Speaker 2 (49:15):
And then in Japan, since they have that role in
the beginning. Most divorces are straightforward, one page form. It
doesn't even require going to core.
Speaker 1 (49:23):
You can do the shit online.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
Oh we get I might get get married in Japan
if I'm finna get married, one page document, no court,
We just divorced and is done, okay. Common reasons for divorce.
I mean, tell me, I'm gonna give you the the four.
Speaker 3 (49:42):
Tell me what you think is number one, two, three, four, okay, okay,
drugs and alcohol abuse, infidelity, mental abuse or physical abuse,
and incompatibility.
Speaker 2 (49:53):
Well, I know most people, when they don't want us
to be in their motherfucking business, say that they rooted
for irreconcilable differences. So I'm going to say that one's first,
then in fidelity, then the vices, then the abuse and shit, because.
Speaker 3 (50:08):
Yeah, incompatibility is the first number one, and then it's infidelity, yeah,
and then yeah other the other two are Unfortunately people
stay and put up with those things.
Speaker 2 (50:20):
Yeah, for quite some time before that becomes a reason,
Like it has to get really bad for people to
leave for those reasons.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
But I think most most of the forces that we see.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
Publicly or irreconcilable differences, which is I think incompatibility.
Speaker 3 (50:34):
The lowest rate for the divorce in the world is India.
Out of a thousand marriages, only thirteen.
Speaker 1 (50:41):
But most of them are Muslim, which means they can
have multiple Right now, they're Hindu, isn't that their religion?
Am I dumb? Maybe I don't know religion like that?
What's the religion in India?
Speaker 2 (50:55):
But can't Hindus can Hindu's Hinduism followed right. Islam can
they have can they have multi? Can Hindus have more?
Eighty percent of Hindu is No, it's muscle.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
Is Hindu? Can Hindu get? Can Hindu get? Hindu get multiple? Wise?
Listen the way, by the way, just the way we
be asking questions.
Speaker 2 (51:18):
Just watch hat GBT know exactly what the hell we'll
be talking about and be offering out even more.
Speaker 1 (51:23):
Well, I have to go get my home depot rates
dis sorted. I hope you guys.
Speaker 2 (51:28):
By the way, Hindus, Oh, Hindu law generally prohibits polygamy.
Speaker 1 (51:33):
They just they're just staying and get it. They having
fun in the sun. That's crazy. Not fun in the sun.
But that's wild.
Speaker 2 (51:43):
What it's a sunny and sunny I don't know how
sunny in Philadelphia and Mumbai it is.
Speaker 1 (51:49):
It is like on the equator. I think, so it's
really hot. I think it's close to the equation. I
don't know there's a problem about it.
Speaker 3 (52:00):
White girls that do restaurants reviews, we just I don't
like that.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
The girl from Top Chef tried to get them on
how they know, No, she got it.
Speaker 3 (52:08):
They said Tiki massala and they said Brianni whatever this is.
Tiki Masala is crazy and two white women judging ethnic cuisine.
Speaker 1 (52:16):
To that degree. Okay, do you want to not fue bro?
You want to know how bad that who white went
to Jamaicans the Ox and that's how they do tikas tika.
Speaker 2 (52:29):
And you know what I just found out, buttered chicken
get Indian food only on the East coast. Bitch, I
didn't know buttered chicken really wasn't It's like East Coast
Indian food.
Speaker 1 (52:39):
Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is different.
Speaker 3 (52:41):
No when I'm talking about South Asian Southeast Asian, like
you know, you're trying.
Speaker 1 (52:44):
To say Indian cuisine right right right.
Speaker 2 (52:46):
Buttered chicken, chicken, egg, buttered chicken.
Speaker 1 (52:52):
We tried three in La.
Speaker 2 (52:54):
I know now I think about Tiki said, where the
fuck is the buttered chicken? Well, let me stop talking
shit because the family wite girls.
Speaker 1 (52:59):
And if I'm going to wait, wait wait, wait, where
are you gonna say about better chicken? Where that at?
Speaker 2 (53:02):
Because I tried three different Indian it's just that Indian
they have butter chicken. I said, they don't have butter
chicken in Lad.
Speaker 1 (53:09):
I came back home and I said, nigga they got Bama,
get one free, bought a chicken it love it, don't.
Speaker 2 (53:15):
I was gonna say, I don't know where the Indian
restaurant is from, but like, for example, Dashome, which is
really popular in London.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
I don't know what India was called before it was India.
Oh there was another name for it. It got Bombay,
it got the rebreak Bombay. Their cuisine is a little
bit different, so like there's different shiit too.
Speaker 5 (53:33):
Yeah, I was gonna say that there's like different types
of Asian cuisine.
Speaker 2 (53:36):
I know Asian cuisines when I'm talking about Indian goddamn. Okay, y'all,
do not mind our geography lesson at the end of
this episode.
Speaker 1 (53:45):
Let them talking about sex. This is not a food show.
This is not a history chick. But you gotta go see.
I'm not gonna lock me.
Speaker 3 (53:53):
Roast these girls on a Michelin starred restaurant named Semma
Bitch today for you crackers.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
She really you know why you don't like it because
it's not for you. I'm like, yeah, I like that ship.
I didn't like that ship.
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Speaker 1 (54:25):
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