June 9, 2025 • 56 mins
On this episode, Mandii shares the wild story of her groceries getting stolen, sparking a convo
on treating yourself with food—name brand or not. Weezy opens up about her upcoming parent
meet-up and why her mom might just be her twin. The duo dives into their love for African food
and debates the proper way to make mac and cheese (eggs included?). They also read
excerpts from their book, including a spicy chapter that gets everyone talking. From shooting
your shot to bouncing back from rejection, it’s a blend of laughs and lessons. Plus, they explore
the history and evolution of contraception!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I don't think you should say decision decisions.
Speaker 3 (00:03):
It sounded like you was talking to it cursing.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
You definitely say to welcome.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 4 (00:09):
Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions, Welcome
everybody to.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Another episode of This is the y'alls.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
This is the y'all.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It's your girl, Mandy.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Bet, it's your girl.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Wheezy tees out, get out, broke out, It's summertime, beach,
it's NYC. I want to tell y'all. I got up
at six am today for a workout. I walked outside
O on a long distance walk, as Brionda calls them,
ldw's the bitches is outside eld And if you just
thought anybody in the world could dress like these New
(00:44):
York gos, they don't.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I was literally in sweatpants, like, oh you bitches.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
They were waiting for seventy five degrees too, yeah, looking gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Everybody just looks so fucking sun kissed. Even the men
look better.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
I was just, oh, I don't know if the sun
makes me feel sexy, but I wanted to everybody makes sexual.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
I don't know now, I don't know if Sun makes
the sexual You are the same one who masturbated a Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
It was in the car well, and.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Don't bring up Starbucks now. But here we go because
I will not. I'm drinking Culture Espresso. Hopefully they're not
culture vultures.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I don't know who these people.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Are, but really look at that that.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
I mean, I ain't gonna hold you having an ice
shaking espress shaking espresso with coconut milk this morning, but
I ain't gonna drink it.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
But was looking good.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
But I'm yeah, I want to remove one more company
from my life. I really want to just like support
ship that's good. So maybe Starbucks will flip.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Starbucks is good.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Not for ivy health people neither. Oh I am been
a target and maybe that wasn't even a hard one. Actually,
oh I don't.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
I mean, even though I'm in Atlanta now, all of
my grocery come to my door, even though I got
beatful Amazon right now and luckily I let them so much. Bitch,
my fucking never happened a day in my life since
I've been having my groceries be dropped the fuck off.
My delivery person stole all my groceries. Delivery person because
(02:16):
they picked up all of my groceries.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
It's all been picked up.
Speaker 5 (02:19):
The only thing that wasn't in uh that they were
able to find was my butter chicken stag.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I was like, you know, it wasn't someone stealing from
the front door.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
It never got delivered, but just said your thing is delayed,
and bitch, I kept seeing that her pen was still
in spun of Sandy Springs. She never made it to
my house. I got the alert that your groceries have
been picked up. Then I got the alert that your
groceries are running a little bit delayed. Okay, bitch, she
was parked at her house. And then Amazon, how they
haven't set up you can go in and put from
(02:47):
your order which items you didn't receive. There was no
way for me to sit here and tell Amazon I
never got my groceries and all I'm still dealing with
it five days later, and I'm pissed because it was
one hundred and twelve dollars worth of Girl.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
You try to figure out why you're not going to
publics because you got publics in Atlanta.
Speaker 5 (03:04):
First off, because publics does not deliver I know everything
from Amazon. I don't like grocery shopping. I don't know
if I've told you guys here, I tried it. I
went to Whole Foods, I went to Kroger, I went
to public. I don't know how y'all go into grocery stores.
It is the most anxiety ridden task that I have
(03:26):
ever experienced as an adult.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
And I was like, oh my god. First off, you.
Speaker 5 (03:30):
Don't even know what the total is going to be
until you get to the register.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Yeah. Man, these called shopping hate it.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
I know what my cart total is as I'm dropping
things in, and so I went hold on, literally, I
went I The anxiety of grocery shopping has to me like,
I don't know how you goes in a car. No, No,
it's not only the car. Let's be also very than well. No,
let's be very clear too. Yes, I have to uber
to and from the grocery store. So before I even
(03:56):
get there, there's sixteen to twenty five dollars to get
in the clurb. No, so I don't really like the
uber there and back. But I'm like, I go in
there and it's like oh like I am like, literally
my heart starts raising, my hands start getting sweaty. I
(04:17):
have to go down twenty thousand miles. And then here's
the other thing. I go in there and I have
my main things that I always get. I get my coffee,
I get my green onions. I get all of my
Asian ingredients.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
Because I'm half Asian and they're half Asian.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Uh huh.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
And then when I go to the grocery store, hear
me out, bitch, I just start seeing other cool shit.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
That I just start throwing in the car.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
That's a point. Hate it.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
I picked up thirteen dollars truffle chili crunch.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Was it good?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
It was?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
It wasn't It wasn't better than the honeymoon.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
I've beaure so see, I actually think since I've been
shopping at grocery store is more because now that is
not winter. I'm not going crazy with ordering, but I
realize I'm getting better produce, getting better fruit. I'm getting
better meat, like literally when the ship was coming to
my door, because they're giving you anything.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
Amazon Fresh be Fresh, and Whole Foods does deliver through Amazon.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
I don't know if y'all know why.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
So, like I mean to me, anytime I get produced,
I'm only buying produce if I'm eating it that day.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Or the next day, or I be real, ghetto and
just go.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
Ahead and get the ones that's already chopped up and
the ship, which I know is bad quality anyways, or whatever.
But no, I the anxiety that I've had, I said, Ghetto,
it's why we lost Forever twenty one.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
It's why we've lost all these stores, everything, everything.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
No, no, no, What I'm saying is, though, if everything is
made so much more convenient online.
Speaker 6 (05:49):
You know, you mentioned this the other day and I
thought it was the funniest shit is the fact that
she don't care about the whole egg shit.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Of course she don't. She's fucking allergic.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
This is a real thing.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
And I said, but I know what's happening. I feel that.
I know.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
I've never heard you stress out about it, which makes sense.
Now went a whole food.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Now I know it's happening.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Okay, Can I be honest with you. This is gonna
sound very bougie, but it's the truth.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
She just said she doesn't want to go grocery shop.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh that was That was me talking about my mental
health and anxiety.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I used to find myself complaining about gas prices a
lot when I was driving, but then I realized.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Like, you gotta buy it anyway. For food, That's the
one thing where I'm like, fuck.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
It if avocados is three dollars, But that's really a
healthy choice I'm gonna make, and I want to eat that.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I'm not gonna think about it.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I treat food like spoiling myself, even in the grocery store.
I love to get myself nice things in the grocery store, Like,
but the grocery store is one of my favorite things.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh, I didn't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
On.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
I be on Amazon Fresh. I see the Amazon brand
and another brand two dollars. This is given Amazon I
And maybe this is because this is how my mama
shop growing up. It's the same ingredient, it's the same
generic she really is.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Like literally for like God to menton ship. Yeah, I
feel like, no a.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Bitch for for the for the veget Q tips, like
if you just get the off brands, No.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
That's not food though, because like let's be fair.
Speaker 5 (07:10):
So I get the I get the generic pharmaceuticals like
medicines and but for food and do the same. But yeah,
that's uh, that's been my experience with being in the
South is that. Yeah, I'm gonna keep my my orders
coming to my door. And I hate that my groceries
(07:32):
was just stolen.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
I went to the publics when we were before we
all met up for recording, because that extra time, I
was so excited to shop Georgia prices for food. It's
not like strawberries for everybody pulled up right to the
motherfucker public.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Food.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
So my mom just got in by the way, I
see where I get my looney tuney. She called me
on the phone after her flight and she's like, did
you tell me now? I'm coming? And I'm thinking to myself.
For those of you who've never heard this show before,
I don't know who Nina is.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
She's my dog. I said, what do you mean you know?
Did you say grandma's coming? So she knows? Did you
tell her?
Speaker 4 (08:15):
I tell my dog when you guys are coming, I say,
your sister's coming, and so is Nina. Like, yo, my
mom's not. Then Nina's losing her mind. When my mom
walks in door, my Mom's like.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I knew you didn't tell her?
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Did you think I did?
Speaker 5 (08:30):
He had a conversation with his Motherfuckers, how would she
know what he but.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
But I will say this Nina does no Grandma, she does,
She'll her ears will perk up.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But anyway, yeah, my cat.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
The only thing she say, Daddy, she'd be like, only
thing my body knows is want to eat. He will
beat my ass down the stairs. He will run like, yeah, bitch,
feed me, hope. Want to eat is the only.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Thing he knows. He will run all the way down,
stand at the door like he's like the dog's.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Good though when like dogs and like her animals, period
is know like like English. So yeah, speaking of food,
Juala is going to be coming with me to meet
her African American side of the family, so my or
not African, my bad.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
African side of the African American family.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
So basically, my boyfriend's dad's birthdays coming and him and
his brothers bought him a new car. Okay, so they're
gonna do a little house thing and he was like, yeah,
it's a great time for our friends to me.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
So my mom is.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
She's trying to act like she's not nervous, but she
is a nervous girl. She's like, and what do I
call them their name?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Girl?
Speaker 4 (09:35):
They just like they're gonna call you what will we
be eating? Should I get ready to eat? What kind
of food are we going to have? And I'm just like, yo,
African African food is real serious, you know what I'm saying,
Like I just don't want my mom to be like I.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Just have the rice, like I don't know how it's going.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
You gotta have the conversation where her going in because
there's ways to like disrespect the family, especially about what's
in the kitchen and the food. So there's not a
there's not a let me see how she acts, bitch.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
There needs to be a conversation you do not disrespect.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
But but I'm just going to prep her on like
what the foods look like. More so, like my mom
would never go to anybody's home and just be like
ew but not ill.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
But even not wanting to eat everything.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
I think there's and I'm not calling her disrespectful at all,
but knowing that there's ways in which different cultures are
And you're like, oh, maybe she won't like it, because
you know what your mom likes and doesn't.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Like just letting her know like it's gonna be.
Speaker 5 (10:30):
You could yeah, like this is what you eat with
your hand and you dip it into this soup and.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
This soup the first time.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I love Okra soup. Oh my god, that's my favorite.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
His mom is a pepper souper girl. She do be
fried with chicken ose. So Jo're gonna be fine. But
I remember I was eating at a wedding and I
took a spoon to eat this soup. Okay, and his
aunt looked at me too, right, watches, why do you
use that spoon? And then she started looking at him
like tita, oh, and I'm so embarrassed. And she's sitting
(11:05):
there getting a pound in ym out her bag as
if they didn't have it already.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
At the buffet to show me what to do.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Mind you, I just recently learned some of them has
egg mixed in it or some.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Of the dope.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Oh, so you know, it's just very embarrassing to say
to anybody I have an allergy.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
They're like, the fuck up girl, Like, let's just talk
about a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Of the dumplings that has egg in it.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Damn that sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Mind you, It's only is dope.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
It's to me when I go somewhere else and the
other family be like, you're good as home.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
I bey like egg is something that I mean, right now,
it's dealing with the dairy shit. But for me, African food.
And when I went to Nigeria with my best friends,
my best friend's alerted to shellfish. Bitch, they season their
shit with like the dried shrimp.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Oh sh she couldn't.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
God damn do you like African food? I love African food.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
I like certain types Africa.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I like the Ochra soup, the goosey Joela frice. I
ain't gonna hold y'all. Y'all could come fight me. I
don't care it. Gana had better food than Nigeria.
Speaker 6 (12:08):
To me, yours trying to start problem, I.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
I really I don't like fishy, fishy, fishy stuff. And
they and I've been experiencing a lot of fishy, fishy, fishy,
fishy fishy n.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Yeah, culture, well sometimes you didn't say it was also.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
Like they put different meats in the in the soups,
so sometimes it's it's beef or chicken.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
But they do do a lot of fish in the
soups too.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, and that could be it. Everything's been.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I don't think they use fish sauce like Asia.
Speaker 5 (12:38):
Maybe I would walk into some ort sauce, want some
and be like this is chicken wi.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
You know what I also learned too about just like
so when we went to his parents' house to cook
gumbo at one time, I was like, fuck, I don't
bring any seasons. But I'm like, your mama got it
just African house. He was like, I don't think you
know what you're saying, bitch, my mama got African shiit
what type of fucking spicy ass gumbo you're trying to make?
Speaker 5 (13:00):
Oh, not only that, the way they make their the
way they season their food is a lot of them
making their own. Like they put hello roasted peppers and
this and that.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
It's like they make like the wat do that to
they own. Like so it's a ed.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
That you have, Like I love the orange, the orange powder,
that thing a little little salty thought.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
It's like it's killing us.
Speaker 5 (13:32):
Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. My homegirl cooked for Easter.
My arm I turned into big.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I ate them greens. I said, you need to dilute
these bitches.
Speaker 5 (13:46):
She has some Puerto Rican uh adubo with adubo because
Crystal doesn't eat meat. So she's like, it's cool, I'll
season it without meat. That bitch seasoned it with the
whole cabinet, I said, a girl, I like it. They go,
I can't touch these greens, baby, yeah, I love you.
Taylor was not touching them grease. I was like blood pressure.
Speaker 6 (14:12):
I feel like you want to mentioned this before, But
did you develop this aeology or you already had it
as a child.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
No, I had it as a kid.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
I think they found out at a Ponderosa for one
of my birthday parties when they threw a cake on me.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Oh yeah, I found out to the touch.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh no, no, no, no, nigga. I took her to
a soul food restaurant forgot.
Speaker 5 (14:27):
They put eggs and baked mac and cheese, all of them,
but this whole almost most of them.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
This hole, it holds it. It holds it in the baby.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
If it ain't got eggstles.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
No, no, no, I said, baked mac and cheese wold
food style rostapasta don't count as baked mac and cheese.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Both baked mac and cheeses have the egg.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
This is a debate that the community can have if
they want, Uh, do you put eggs in.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Your motherfucking mac and cheese? Thanksgiving coming around? Egg? Yes
or no?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Big and juice And if they don't. They're probably Jamaican.
And then it's.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Macaroni pie that's insane.
Speaker 5 (15:06):
Try and then my old people so I could come
and talk talk about it.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yeah, we barely had curse word. Let's talk about sex.
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Well, guys, we've been playing a new game where it
actually happened on accident. So Mandy and I when we're
doing our outlines lately up into a pre order time
for no holds, talking about and picking out excerpts and
diving into them. But then we just discovered this new
game where we're picking numbers and reading from the page.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Pick a number up to six uh.
Speaker 5 (15:37):
Two eighty six, fift deep bo doo.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Forty five, forty zilk. Oh.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
It's actually my chapter about the Kinsley scale, and it's
the diagram of it. Because I was talking about how
I was unsure about my sexuality when I was younger,
and here's a few sentences. Apparently none of us are
super straight or super gay, but for me, my gayness
is on how hot you were at home. My porn
searches got increasingly warm around she as I grew in age.
(16:07):
Girl on girl videos were always top of the list.
During my teenage years with strap ons pussy licking, fingering, tripping, scissoring,
and sometimes even breastfeeding.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Adam, let's do one and twenty three.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
Miles, you gotta get number two? Okay, hold on? Ooh
not wheezy again? Oh oh god, go on?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
This is the domb chapter.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Oh yeah, it is no had it shut up?
Speaker 4 (16:37):
Nate stood in front of me. I could smell him
as he came up to me with my blindfold on.
I heard his belt brockle unlatched the zip as he
pulled the zipper down. When he said to me, open
your fucking mouth. I started to laugh because, frankly, how
is supposed to do that? If I can't find his
dick to grabby.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Miles, you're dead?
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Hope, O god, I please chapter oo okay, when shooting
your shot, these are the things I remember, so I
can be very Do you know your number one?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Except no.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
The worst they could say is no, yup. Everyone is
not for everyone. This is a cute one. It's fine
to be corny. Sometimes an embarrassment typically doesn't last very long.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yep, that's a good one.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
That's a.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I think that is a lot of sex in this book.
Speaker 5 (17:28):
I think that's my thing with like shooting the shot.
I think for me, it's the two things, rejection and embarrassment.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
As soon as you are.
Speaker 5 (17:37):
Mature enough to handle rejection and to know that embarrassment
has more to do with your own ego. And most
people don't give a fuck. And I probably actually learned
that from living in New York so long. Everybody just
be minding their own motherfucking business. Like bitch, if you fall,
no one's laughing, They're not gonna help you up, they
don't care, they're not gonna remember you one minute from now.
(17:57):
And it's literally just like a As soon as you
can get out of your about thinking that everyone's laughing
at you, embarrassment is done in ten seconds.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
So boy, will that replay in my brain ten years
from now that happened to me?
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Does that not happen all? Oh?
Speaker 1 (18:09):
He said, if he's the one who felt, if.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
I'm the one that that some embarrassing should happen to me?
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Oh wait, So I'm saying that embarrassment is something that
you get over quickly. You're saying that if something embarrassing happened.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
To you, you get over it at that moment.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Wait, but you're saying that you relive it in the future.
Speaker 6 (18:27):
Hell yeah, that shit comes back to me what I
think about it, Like, I'll be It'll be like three
in the morning and then I'll think about something I
did that I.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
Was like, oh, do you know what I like about it? Recently,
this was so embarrassing. Me and my man went out,
we were partying crazy and I was like, let's go
to an after party and I am cringing. This was
only two weeks ago, thinking about approaching the after party
door and they wouldn't let me in because I didn't
have some type of idea.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I don't remember what it was. And I literally was.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
At the door like I don't understand, what is the problem.
My friends are in there, and I was like, oh
my god, bro. It kept me up the other night.
I was like, oh, just sitting.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
In the bed, it's just that, how fucking stupid I was.
No just her approach.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
I guess it was something about how I went up
to the door. I had a wristband on from earlier.
But then I didn't show my idea and I was like, huh,
I don't know what it was. I was so wasted, bitch.
But I was really outside of that damn door with
the door closed. Talking to the little after party, people.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Like let me in, Yeah, let me in.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
My boyfriend's like, I'm going to get the car, and
I was like, we can sell me.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Hey man, thought that plays at three am.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
What if someone knew me what a heard so hypothetical question,
would you rather be.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
Very personally fulfilled or very professionally fulfilled? And when you answer,
what defines that? Some people defined professionally the field just
being so for wealthy.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
It's so crazy because I just talked about this with
shit with my friends and it was just a recent conversation.
I am fulfilled professionally. I think it's one of the
things that I am most proud of. And so it
(20:25):
is something that if you want to attack me, attack
how I operate or run a business, or how I
show up with work, or how I show up amongst
like you know, in a work setting. Personally, there's so
much I think things I'm working through, and I'm grateful
that I'm working through as an adult. But life and
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my growth and the change and all of that things
comes in waves.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
For me.
Speaker 5 (20:53):
I professionally fulfilled because I guess that means also my
bank account is filled and so that is fulfilling for me,
like to be able to pay all my bills, to
be able to make sure my mom's life is easy
and any way I can make it easy for her,
and just to be able to live and exist and
do the things I want to do. So maybe my
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professional falls into my personal because I'm able to naturally
travel and take breaks and do the things I like.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
But I'd rather be professionally fulfilled.
Speaker 6 (21:22):
I too, would rather be professionally fulfilled, because it's like
personally fulfilled I've been. There's been situations in my life
where I've been just personally fulfilled and then I feel
like it's momentary and then I get over it, and
then I want the next thing. But the way to
get the next thing is to be professionally fulfilled. Yea,
getting shit done and getting again financially supported.
Speaker 5 (21:40):
Like that's something that I actually used to that I
had to work on in moments of solidarity or silence
or just taking some time away. I would wake up
and be miserable if by the end of the day
I didn't feel productive. So like there's there's days where Okay,
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whole day, I'm not leaving the house, but I'm gonna
send some emails out. I'm gonna work on my schedule.
Might I may even if I have nothing really to do. Say,
it's a fucking Saturday, so I know no one's gonna
email me on Sunday. They're not gonna get to me
till Monday. I'll literally wake up and start putting things
into my calendar for the next week, so I know
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what I'm doing, which I think sets me up professionally,
Like that's that fulfills me to just be professionally ready
and settled.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
What about you, I'm.
Speaker 4 (22:31):
Thinking about just yeah, like personally fulfilled. Like I don't
know what I'm thinking personal because when you mentioned vacation,
I'm like, well, that's true. Like I love being able
to do what I want. But the thing that's detaching
me from professional is I got a lot of rich,
miserable people I know, and I measure professionally fulfilled as
to money, I do unless you're creating art literally I
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think paint brush to paper, like, I mean, it's no
secret I love Boski. I have tattooed all over my
left side on my fucking body, like I've read so
much about the money and the recognition from his paintings
and where his brain was kind of like he wanted more.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I need my.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
Shit in museum so people enjoy this every day than
now all these millionaires come into my loft on Jones
Street and they're just like, you know, betting on each
other how much it's gonna be worth. And that's when
he started throwing paint on shit, or when you see
faces of bosk yacht crossing things out. He just wanted
to devalue things because he knew he was so popular.
I bring that up because professional is money, but personal, like,
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I don't know. I feel like sometimes in the heights
of my life with success, I've been I've hated myself
a little bit. For me professionally personally fulfilled is like
really waking up happy, loving everything about myself, loving everyone
around me, which I feel right now, but also feeling
like the productivity is my life, Like did I have
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a good day?
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Was I healthy? Was I doing this?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
Was I making strides for my I kind of lose
that the busier and the more shit ramps up for work.
I think health wind dwindles, my beauty even dwindles. I
start to get on enough sleep and I realize, like
I'm feeding the wrong beast because I'm so obsessed with
hitting these professional marks that i stopped taking care of myself.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
And see, that's where I feel like what you said
bringing up Basquiat solidified what I said. What what I
do professionally is art. Yeah, there's the management side of it,
but having selective ignorance and figuring out what episodes and
guests and that is creating art for me. I'm also
working on scripts right now, which is so fulfilling. I'm
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working on a fucking feature film script, and it's like
I'm creating life.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Literally, I'm creating.
Speaker 4 (24:46):
Millions of people listen to your show because this would
dictate it. Right, Let's just say you had the volume
of Call Her Daddy listeners, but there's maybe like a
red X on Mandy Bee because you did something wrong.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
Says a red X on me every week on.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
You can't make money from advertisers won't work with you.
Let's just say that, right. People are consuming this and
they love what you're talking about, but you're not seeing money.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
I'm not seeing money from selective ignorance right now. I'm
talking about Curious. This is a passion project that I
feel like literally saved my best friend's life.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I've created Official Box.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
Owner made me great money during the pandemic. But I've
had projects that I haven't seen money from, and so that's.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Where But is it professional fulfillment?
Speaker 5 (25:33):
No, so it is because it's what I do for
a living. I do believe maybe eventually I can see
money from all of it. Definitely selective ignorance coming soon.
Got an announcement, but I don't do it with like,
I'm not gonna do it unless I make money. I
have over one hundred episodes of period this. I feel
like it was transformative, I've said professionally right now, I'm
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living in my legacy professionally, like this podcast, what we've done,
how we've changed lives. With even all my other platforms
and things that I've created, my professional life has given
me purpose. So because of that, like, I'm fulfilled by
it and I'm grateful because if you asked me this
five years ago, when I was working seventy hours at
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fucking Ernst and Young fucking doing k ones for tax season,
absolutely not that wasn't fulfilling. And I say all the time,
like I remember when I left Ey and I got
to talk to my partners because bitch I quit in
the middle of K one season and they was like,
can you give me two more weeks? And I'm a
good person. I didn't have to, but I did. I
gave them two more weeks after my two week notice
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because they really needed to get through the season. And
so I literally was going on lunch with the partners
and the senior the seniors managers, and they were all
telling me, like, I used to be in theater with
my friends.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
I used to do this on the weekends.
Speaker 5 (26:55):
I missed going to softball, and literally I was expressing
to them that we were literally we sold out Carolines
and they were like, Wow, you're getting to create something
that gives you money to where you're quitting a career
to go do that.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
They were all so jealous because.
Speaker 5 (27:10):
Though they make all the money in this wonderful career,
all the things that made them happy isn't what they
were making money and surviving from. So professionally, I'm able
to live the life I want to do, literally doing
what I like. My teachers are probably gagging that I'm
literally making money from talking because bitch I wouldn't shut up.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Bitch, you don't know how to read.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I don't read the script for you. And now I'm
motherfucking writing a book.
Speaker 5 (27:32):
So everything professionally that I've been doing over the last five, six, seven,
eight years has been fulfilling. And when I've gotten to
a point where it wasn't fun for me anymore, I
made pivots or like, even with the rebrand of this show,
like it was impacting my personal life so much that
I was like, we fucking grew something so amazing, How
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can we pivot to.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Where I love what I'm doing again?
Speaker 5 (27:59):
Because a part of it, like kind of was, was
debilitating me. And so even with the rebrand, with that
writing the.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Book, actually I feel the opposite about the rebrand. I've
felt that I feel really grateful that we can reach
more people, but I also feel like so much of
the conversation I have in the book, if I do
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an interview, things I preach to people about authenticity, there's
this small part of me, even though I know it's
not true, it feels like I removed.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
It a little bit.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
I know that the reality of keeping a brand alive,
keeping people paid, has to come with changing, but it's
not one that felt natural to me. There's not really
another project I've made in my life that felt as
unnatural and it.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Was very difficult.
Speaker 4 (28:59):
I mean obviously, like the whole discourse from people was tough, but.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
More so just like I think that.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
As we're growing and aging, it's obvious, but I don't
know if.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
It connected to me as much.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Maybe being with you, our dynamic has been horrible for
so long that this new part is weird. Now it
feels more normal, But I definitely was just like, what
is going on?
Speaker 1 (29:26):
It's it's also this weird thing of.
Speaker 4 (29:30):
That is professional growth is you know, changing a brand,
turning it around into something else. Everyone does rebrands, everyone
changes things. Why am I so attached to this thing?
And I'm not sure why? Maybe because Horrible Decisions doesn't
feel like a company to me. It feels like something
I'm making or a conversation. So when it shifted, it
fucked me up a little.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
But even though we didn't get rid of it, Like,
do you feel more excitement with our Patreon content? Like
because we're still talking sex and raunching peek over there,
just had on sex with Ashley and we have on
people from the sex clubs, and you are you excited
more with the Patreon concept that we're doing.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
Then it's not even the excitement level more than I know.
Some people still don't know where Horrible Decisions is. Some
people sorry that they don't know how to read or listen.
Speaker 5 (30:15):
They say it every week, or they're not frequently petreon
dot com backslash Horrible Decisions.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
I think also the amount of people that listen on
a regular feed versus Patreon is obviously different. There is
a weird part of me that wouldn't have done it
either way, because making this book, if that was the
way that it had to be done, duh. There's so
many moments where I forget we made a book until
it's in my hands.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Because it ain't really at yet it's June twenty fourth.
Speaker 4 (30:41):
Until someone reads, like one of my friends reads it
or just has a callback to me about the book.
My friend Gabby, I just gave her copee and she's like,
it's so weird reading about I think she tagged you
in it, reading you and Mandy on pages, like, it's
just weird. She's like, I've known you since the beginning
of the show, but just seeing your name even at
the top, it's so fucking mind fucking I'm like, I know,
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I feel like I'm gonna have a real moment in
a bookstore. But yeah, that type of stuff has, you know,
made me feel sticky. And as far as professional fulfillment,
it's interesting. I think the biggest thing I feel fulfilled
from isn't even myself. It's really just like other people.
There's so many people like been behind on rent, people
that have worked for us. One of our employees used
to be homeless. I remember when I found that out.
I was like, what, Like, it's shit like that that
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makes me feel like damn to be able to create something,
but also do all this for other people.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
That feels good.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Look what the fuck Ryan Coogler just did y'all know,
Sinners my personality till the end of the year, like
all Miles Kitten who played Sammy and there, like all
these people that are gonna have a new life because
you had an idea in your head that.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Feels really really good. So but still I feel like
that's personal stuff because I mean, I'm a little.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Fulfills the personal thought.
Speaker 4 (31:53):
Okay, let's get into a reactionary clip. So I I
want to know if you instantly agree or instantly disagree,
you know, white women in new hoteps with these little
click baity things.
Speaker 7 (32:11):
Women need someone better than them, smaller than them, fitter
than them, bigger than them, more inspiring than them, more
successful than them. Otherwise, where's the attraction? I'm no, I'm asking.
Maybe some women don't mind, but I mind. I need
to be inspired by the guy. Otherwise I'll eat them
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for breakfast. I'll finish them off in twenty four hours.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
I just you know.
Speaker 7 (32:36):
I also need someone to handle me, and only an
alpha or a double alpha can do that.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Do you need someone better than you?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Bitch? That clip so goddamn stupid, She so god down stupid.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Do you need some?
Speaker 5 (32:51):
First off, most men will be stronger than you. I
don't need a man to be richer than me, or
more successful than me, and all of those things. I
think I needed those when I knew I lacked. I
don't think I need to be with a person who
inspires me to be a better person, because that's work
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that I feel like I should be doing on my own.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Really, I don't, I absolutely don't.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Wait.
Speaker 4 (33:17):
That really surprised me because I feel like that's such
an thing we hear, even like you think of wedding.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Vow like, you inspire me to be better, you make
me better?
Speaker 5 (33:25):
Like yeah, like I I mean that could be, that
could be true, But I don't seek that in a partner.
I don't need the outfit. I don't need a man
to handle me. She even says I need him to
handle me.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Are you a child? You need a handler? Are you
at the zoo?
Speaker 1 (33:38):
Young girl?
Speaker 4 (33:38):
I mean to me, I think she sounds ridiculous. But
then when I sat with myself, I was like, Okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
No, I have friendships spanning ten fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
They don't inspire me.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
I enjoy them.
Speaker 5 (33:52):
They're their own people, and we have fun together. We
journey through and adventure through life together. But we both
have our ow Like.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
Your friends don't push you forward, encourage you. They have
to inspire you in some way.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
That's that's supporting me. That's not inspiring.
Speaker 3 (34:06):
I think.
Speaker 6 (34:07):
I think there's a difference of the two, right, Even
with I like the friend conversation as well.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I was thinking about friends too.
Speaker 6 (34:12):
Yeah, for what she's saying, I think it's lurking for
or looking for someone for those things comparatively to when
you get them naturally. Right. So, like my friends, when
I found my friends. I was like, I need someone
who's supportive and et cetera and holds me down but
gracefully through our synergy, Like it worked out and they
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are supportive. They do inspire me because they naturally came
to that with my relationship, not that I go even
for me looking for a partner with a woman. Right
to answer your initial thing, I would say no, I
don't think a woman needs to have someone who's more powerful,
especially in twenty.
Speaker 3 (34:49):
Twenty five, even more successful.
Speaker 5 (34:51):
Like yeah, to me, success is subjective, like how we
viewed success is differently like.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
Oh, it could be a money I do agree though,
because I agree the success could be subjective. I think
in my relationships almost all of them were better at
me and something that I wanted and I needed them
to be. So, for example, all of my partners better physique,
better eating habits, better fitness, help, all around knowledgeability, every
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single one not been with one lazy nigga. All of
them are bitter than me at their like and I
wanted my fitness intact for a long time. Shit, it's
why I Loki built a gym by my crewit. But
I think that those are things are attractive to me.
Because they do inspire me. Like when my man is
in the middle of a hotel room doing calisthenics and
fucking grabbing a band and finding a way to work out,
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but I'm in the bed, I'm like, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
I'm up.
Speaker 4 (35:43):
For example, one kid, you measure the gym, I'm like,
nap time, I can't even measure. One could argue that
Vinnie or I could be more successful than Vinnie because
I've done maybe more things professionally.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
However, Vinnie inspires me a lot.
Speaker 4 (35:57):
When it comes to how to show up and move
forward for people, especially those in my face. And he
really takes me to a place when I'm around him
where I'm like, damn, am I that great of a friend?
Like Vinnie will stop by someone's anything, even if he's exhausted.
He just really puts himself out there. He'll give a
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lot of himself. Every single one of them inspire me.
My friends that have more or less, I think as
far as a partner, if you had nothing that was
inspiring to me, I don't think it would work. I
also think in terms of alpha, I think the language
is very like red pill. But oh yeah, like I'll
act like a fucking baby bro.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
If I can't.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
If I'm having a tough time with work, I need
to know my nigga can pick this shit up. For example,
fucking terrible week with book signing or not book signing
when we had like mad pages to do or whatever
he had to get my life inchecked, baby, what's on
the list? Show me your calendar, and he's fucking coming
through for me.
Speaker 5 (36:54):
I just love the support and community that I have.
I don't look for people to be in my life,
which is why this video was specific to partners. I
personally can be with a partner that's less successful than me,
that has less money than me, that isn't better than me,
and we just form I don't know, a fucking unit
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together and make each other better. Like my ex was retired,
so his life was completely like he felt like he
did all the things and ticked all the boxes and
did all the accomplishments he had to. Was he inspiring, No,
But we fucked with each other for fucking three years.
So like to me, I love that we could sit
here and I guess agree to disagree. You need someone
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that you're inspired by or that is better than you.
For me, I'm saying I heard that clip, I was
disgusted by it. I'm fine with more of a submissive
man as well, though I believe that submissive men or
men who show up with acts of service or you know,
aren't the making everyone in the room know that they're there.
I like more submissive guys, but it doesn't take away
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from their ability to be a man, which again might
be my problem with this alpha term, because to me,
someone who shows up with emotional intelligence, who shows up
with acts of service to make my life better and
doesn't lead like the alpha in which I know it
to be based on the patriarchy works for me.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
I think this healthy masculinity too.
Speaker 4 (38:21):
We see like I have alpha energy, right, but I'm
not like.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Super toxic.
Speaker 4 (38:29):
I think that's another reason it's been difficult for me
to date men that are a little too submissive because
it tends to make me feel more.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
I guess mainly like, for example, there was.
Speaker 4 (38:44):
A conversation we had once with like pulling out the
card to the check and things like that. I'm so
extroverted and to have like that dominant leader energy already,
I don't really like that dynamic sometimes in love because
I tend to not enjoy or respect the relationship that much.
I like to see those qualities, Like in my everyday life,
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have employees, I'm handling business, my parents are my kids.
I can't also be the leader sometimes in love there
has to be one place where I think I take
a step back. I think I feel a little too
dominant in every situation. So for me, I feel a
lot of my love from being able to be super
film like. I kind of enjoy almost taking like a
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step back a little. It's the way that I can
feel almost like princess treatment type shit.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I guess we're tripping over words a bit.
Speaker 5 (39:34):
I don't take the masculinity away from any man i'm
with if they're showing up with me in ways in
which we don't normally associate to masculinity, which is why
I brought up acts of service being more of a
domestic thing. Yeah, I just based on that video, though
I would say I disagree and I hate everything she said.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
You agreed. You guys can write in the comments, how
do you feel? Do you you need your partner to
be stronger, more powerful?
Speaker 1 (40:03):
We all want that. Let's keep it on.
Speaker 5 (40:06):
Do you need your partner to be that way with
you or something else. Do you agree or disagree? Let
us know in the.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
Common So we had a YGD a few weeks ago
where this guy said he was reverse stelthing his girlfriend
because she was saying, come in me, get me pregnant,
and he was putting spermicide on his dick.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
In the middle of it.
Speaker 4 (40:32):
I think we started looking up spermicide or how it works,
and I was like, oh my god, we should talk
about contraception.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
So contraception as.
Speaker 4 (40:38):
We know it birth control, but it's any kind of
method or device to prevent pregnancy.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
So I feel like.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Doing the whole history of contraception.
Speaker 4 (40:47):
Uh huh, and a little bit of birthing practice, because
we got some time not birthing practice.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
So.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Family planning.
Speaker 4 (40:55):
In some cultures, even abortion is you know, abortion is
a form of birth control.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (40:59):
We have a lot of language around it. I want
to ask the guys, can you tell me how many
forms of birth control? You know, list off as many
as you can, and then miles.
Speaker 6 (41:08):
Out different forms of birth control. Like I could say, okay,
all right, sure, the so what is it? I was
gonna say, you d am I wrong with her? I
d the pill? All right? I have, bro, how you
do the pill condoms? Okay, female condoms? Can you do
male fields? Female spermicide? I'd say, is one does a
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new ring counting counts?
Speaker 1 (41:35):
It's on here.
Speaker 6 (41:37):
There's different types of the I d right, there's like
a hopper one and there's another one.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
You how do you bro parents?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
No?
Speaker 3 (41:47):
I just know I got to protect myself.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
He's like, bitch, I've been working with y'all about seven years.
Speaker 6 (41:52):
But I take care of some ship. Yeah yeah? And
then what else the past?
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Whoa you? There's like literally.
Speaker 3 (42:05):
But there's an insert though right arm? Yeah? Is that
the same thing?
Speaker 5 (42:09):
And then the shot the depa Vera was the actually
think recently.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Which I'm so glad I.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Was going to get it.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
Do not get bitch.
Speaker 5 (42:18):
If you worried about weight, now it's weight, it's mood, swings,
it's skin. Why the depot is one of I think
they just actually ended it because of some like lawsuit. Bro,
let me look it up. Hold on, I do actually
want to bro the depot do not. I'm telling you
right now. I was off of my period for a
whole year, bitch. When my period got back on mine,
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you only took two shots, which is six months because
you take it every three months. This is when I
was eighteen years old. I didn't have another last I
didn't have a period for a year. When I got
back on it, mind you, I thought I was pregnant.
I was like, what the fuck is happening?
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (42:54):
I bled for two months straight.
Speaker 5 (42:56):
But during it, my skin it was in the same
spaces it was from the shot.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
And I mean at the time.
Speaker 5 (43:03):
I mean, y'all know, I've always dealt with my weight
easily fifteen pounds. And to this day, my friend blames
the shot into her outbursts. Is the reason why her
and her relationship ended, like it made her so like.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Oh well, I don't know what could make me worse.
I'm a bitch.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
That nigga looked at me the other day and said,
I'm gonna go walk the dog, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Like, you have some time, That's the thing. It's like, so,
I don't know if I'm sure you guys have seen
it before, But.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Bitch's class action?
Speaker 6 (43:32):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (43:33):
Let me get some.
Speaker 5 (43:33):
Goddamn money via lost years. I was on it, yeah,
two thousand and nine as well. There's a lawsuit right now.
The time is running out to file acclaim. Oh but
in order for you to be a part of this
damn and this is a twenty twenty five lawsuit. It
is if you suffer from meningioma or a brain tumor.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
Oh damn, yeah, bitch, don't get on that shit. I'm
talking weight gain and bed skin. I don't even know
what men and g and noma is men men in geoma.
Let me see what men in geomas.
Speaker 6 (44:07):
Netflix had a whole thing about birth control and I
just watched it was like the whole history of it.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Is another is another tumor?
Speaker 1 (44:16):
That one?
Speaker 5 (44:17):
That one is found in your spinal cord. Oh, tumors
and brain and spinal cord.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
Okay, So anyway, let's get to another.
Speaker 5 (44:24):
Don't do to defot y'all. And if you have a
brain zoomer. Now there is a class action lawsuit happening.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
What bitch, I'm trying to help to get.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Some money because I got Okay, So oral hills.
Speaker 4 (44:41):
Now, contraceptive patches, rings, the implants in the arm, the injections,
male condoms, female commerce, diaphragms, fermicide, permonal i D copper IUDs.
Here are permanent contraceptions, sterilization, which is very difficult for
women to get. They want you to have like three
kids in ship before they even do it. Yeah, vasectomes,
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other methods, emergencyts, fertility awareness based tracking methods, ovulation with temperature,
which I'm considering doing.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
I'm just freaking out about it.
Speaker 4 (45:14):
And breastfeeding is a contraceptive can provide temporary protection against pregnancy.
This is also breastfeeding breast feeding. This is also something
that goes into things they used to do back in
the day. So the reason I am on birth control.
Speaker 5 (45:30):
Wait, wait, note there's.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
A history of it.
Speaker 4 (45:34):
So the reason I wanted to have birth control conversations
obviously the permicide thing.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I'm also on birth control.
Speaker 4 (45:41):
You guys have heard me talk about my story how
I'm in a crazy journey to lose weight. I gained
twenty pounds on birth control. I don't think i've ever weighed.
Look at the little stomach canew.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
I don't think I ever weigh one hundred and fifty
five pounds of my life.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
But I'm here. It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (45:57):
Thank god, it just went to my butt and a
little bit of my stomach. But I feel like I'm
starting to see it everywhere. I'm getting this weird body
dysmorphia and then the hormones are going crazy. So yeah,
if I can't lose, no way, I'm getting off of
it and doing the temperature thing. So breastfeeding was the
first form of contraceptive evidence, dating back to thousand of
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years in ancient civilizations ancient Mesopotamia, Babylon. In Egypt, wet
nursing women would hire wet nurses, which basically mean those
women would.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Breastfeed those particular women.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
They were seeing statistics of women that weren't breastfeeding getting
pregnant quicker. So in early medical texts, breastfeeding, although linked
to religious beliefs, was a way that women were keeping
from getting pregnant. The rates have increased in the United
States with extended periods.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
More than they used to be.
Speaker 4 (46:53):
Used to only be eight months, now it's going up
to a year and a half, and those who are
breastfeeding are staying not pregnant longer.
Speaker 5 (47:01):
All I know is my mama flu her a little
titty in my mouth, and my sister came right after
me three months she was pregnant three months after having me.
Me and my sister are a year and twenty days apart.
Speaker 4 (47:15):
Now here's the craziest part. Breastfeeding is a form of
first controlled It's called lamb lactation. I'm a Minonora method.
When a woman is exclusively breastfeeding her infant for the
first six months postpartum and is not having a period
ninety eight percent effective. Well, does she ain't have an
a period? Shehan't opulate it? Well, the breastfeeding apparently is
(47:37):
delaying it. So that's what they're saying, Like, you can
delay it by breastfeeding longer?
Speaker 2 (47:41):
Was this back before they had? This is right now
and they believe this right now. This isn't like from.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
The people lamb right now isn't They're crazy. It wouldn't
be enough for me.
Speaker 4 (47:51):
But y'all will figure out why I'm on birth control.
In normlevard it is a wild nose.
Speaker 5 (47:55):
So many people to get pregnant right after they have
a baby and they breastfeeding the one they got.
Speaker 4 (48:00):
Honestly, I think it has to do something probably with temperature,
like it's probably way more detailed.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
But that was the first form. So after that.
Speaker 4 (48:09):
In the BC's and shit, they also use honey and
leaves and lint to be placed into the vagina. So
basically they'd make a little mixture and stick it up
there to blocks firm like like laundry met lint. I
mean they didn't have that in the before christ chimes.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
So then what is lent?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
What is lin?
Speaker 1 (48:27):
Could be coming lin anywhere? This could be lent like
just okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
Other birth control methods gummy substances to cover the mouth
of the womb.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
The mouth of the womb was the service.
Speaker 4 (48:41):
This is in medical text honey sodium carbonate applied to
the inside the vagina and a sticking agent ready for
this made from crocodile shit.
Speaker 5 (48:53):
And it was putting it in a kuchi. We already
know we can't put human feces. We can't go from
as tocucci.
Speaker 6 (49:00):
Know that.
Speaker 4 (49:00):
Like they just say, we don't want no baby. I
don't care the spot. No, they don't even have showers
up in here. Crocodile cool as long as they no baby.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
Any No, I'm not putting no.
Speaker 1 (49:11):
So that is a lot of the thing.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
Though a lot of them had to have kidney affections
and die.
Speaker 4 (49:15):
You have to think, ye, the lifespan wasn't that long, right,
But because everything we do right now we just think
is normal. Don't we use some kind of like pig
ship in like makeup. Like there's so much animal products
like jelly jones. Yeah, like there's literally all of that
stuff now. So if it was crocodile shit going yokushi,
you probably wouldn't even think it was your mama doing.
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Everybody was doing it.
Speaker 5 (49:37):
Well, no, I mean, I'm bagging the South niggas are
still eating it in lists so oh my God, I
mean the Book of Genesis also, the pull out method
was something.
Speaker 1 (49:45):
That God wanted.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
No, it is not, it is.
Speaker 4 (49:50):
This is the Book of Jennifer line All God referencing
with darl as a method of contraception when Onnan spills
his speed ejaculating onto the ground as so not to
father a child with his deceased brother's wife Tamar, not
the braxton. In China and India in the seventh century VC,
there was a Chinese physician that was documenting semen retention.
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So in India and China this is probably another confistuture
thing too, maybe, but just period pretension as to preserve
the man's yang and from.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
The yin and yang. So yin and yang can be.
Speaker 4 (50:28):
Thought of the opposite forces contracting with each other. Your
peace and your aggression type shit. So basically they would say, hey,
when you have sex, keep it because you're boosting up
the yang.
Speaker 1 (50:42):
Right.
Speaker 4 (50:43):
Also in the Tang dynasty, there are documents that there
are there is a thousand gold contraceptive women, and these
are women they would seek out to who didn't want
to bear children anymore, and basically they would induce sterility,
basically making them no longer able to get pregnant. And
(51:06):
so they put oil and heat together for one day,
mix up a mixture, take it oily, and they couldn't
get pregnant anymore.
Speaker 5 (51:12):
Ruin their I'm not gonna lie needs to know what
that is, girl, what I take that?
Speaker 2 (51:18):
That's just a little inguesstable.
Speaker 4 (51:19):
Now, this one don't sound that good to me because
they don't just feel it.
Speaker 1 (51:22):
Don't feel like it's enough.
Speaker 4 (51:23):
Cinnamon has been used in ancient traditional Mexican medicine a
riba and was very efficient as a contraceptive. Nahua women
use parts of the plants with plants in Mexico at
the time, with cinnamon, eat it and then with fuck.
Speaker 2 (51:40):
So see it's some Mexican plants and cinnamon, not just cinnamon.
Speaker 1 (51:43):
I was like, it's a ayahuasca.
Speaker 2 (51:44):
It's something, but the cinnamon probably just give it some taste.
Speaker 5 (51:48):
That's probably like, du'nt get it some cinnamon. You don't
have some crocodile shit. Put a little cinnamon. O.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
No, no, no, no no. That was going in the kuchi.
They wasn't eating it.
Speaker 4 (51:54):
What do you think is so a birth control that
I've been recommended because I'm gaining weight because it's hormonal,
is the IUD. But then I've been hearing horror stories
for the IUD. People say it hurts more than childbird. Also,
not to mention the little the way people feel it.
I just don't want it to knock out a place
like I'm just I'm gonna just take this pill.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
I mean, there's a non hormonal one. I think that's
the copper one that Edan referenced for me. It's condoms.
That's what I use.
Speaker 5 (52:23):
I choose and I've gotten comfortable doing, especially because I'm
finally in a place where my skin is the best
it's ever been. I'm finally at my goal weight. I
feel great. I ain't have no home ones fuck me up.
I'll just get condom. Dick and I enjoy condem Dick
and it's fine. There is one thing I wanted to mention.
(52:44):
The only thing birth control is doing that is crazy.
I have no more period pain. It is completely gone. Well, yeah,
that's why a lot of times they suggest the pills
for women with endometriosystem fib because it could be so
painful because they exist, those often make the symptoms.
Speaker 2 (53:05):
The crazy thing, the cramping.
Speaker 4 (53:08):
Estrogen grows the fibrid, right, and I have a fibrid
about seven inches and it's been shrinking.
Speaker 1 (53:12):
It went down to six. My partner was like, that's.
Speaker 4 (53:15):
So fucking weird because when we went to the doctor
the last year it was bigger and you weren't on
birth control. Now it's smaller with the estrogen feeding it.
I think it all has to do with the fact
that just the hormones are balanced, Like I never have
been on birth control in my adulthood, just teenageer, like
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you know that nineteen year old age condoms for me.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
I'm having sex.
Speaker 4 (53:41):
Almost every day, so I feel like it's just not
as shower sex, Like I just want something that makes
me feel safer. And especially when you guys get into
the book, you'll be like, oh, so I just I
don't know the pill. I'm gonna have to make it work.
I'm on the treadmill hunt. I'm going crazy carbs goodbye.
I literally walk it do different directions that I don't
go to my favorite pizza place. That's how difficult it is.
(54:04):
The craziest thing, too, is basically what's happened to me?
Unburst control with food I want to eat and it's
very loud. I find myself sneaking meals in my own home.
I'll like repackage something like I ain't need it because
I feel that much guilt. Oh damn, Like I'm hongry,
bitch long great and it sucks because it's like you
(54:27):
have to pick the lesser of two evils. So I
don't know either I'm gonna keep these wide hips y'all
gonna see them on tour, or I'm gonna get skinny
mini and you're gonna be like, did she doosn't bag? Which,
by the way, can't do that because you'll get pregnant.
Speaker 2 (54:43):
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Speaker 5 (54:47):
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This is the y'all.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
It's your girl, Mandy.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Bet, it's your girl.
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Wheezy tees out, get out, broke out, It's summertime, beach,
it's NYC. I want to tell y'all. I got up
at six am today for a workout. I walked outside
O on a long distance walk, as Brionda calls them,
ldw's the bitches is outside eld And if you just
thought anybody in the world could dress like these New
(00:44):
York gos, they don't.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
I was literally in sweatpants, like, oh you bitches.
Speaker 4 (00:48):
They were waiting for seventy five degrees too, yeah, looking gorgeous.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Everybody just looks so fucking sun kissed. Even the men
look better.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
I was just, oh, I don't know if the sun
makes me feel sexy, but I wanted to everybody makes sexual.
Speaker 5 (01:04):
I don't know now, I don't know if Sun makes
the sexual You are the same one who masturbated a Starbucks.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
It was in the car well, and.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Don't bring up Starbucks now. But here we go because
I will not. I'm drinking Culture Espresso. Hopefully they're not
culture vultures.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
I don't know who these people.
Speaker 3 (01:23):
Are, but really look at that that.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
I mean, I ain't gonna hold you having an ice
shaking espress shaking espresso with coconut milk this morning, but
I ain't gonna drink it.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
But was looking good.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
But I'm yeah, I want to remove one more company
from my life. I really want to just like support
ship that's good. So maybe Starbucks will flip.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Starbucks is good.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Not for ivy health people neither. Oh I am been
a target and maybe that wasn't even a hard one. Actually,
oh I don't.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
I mean, even though I'm in Atlanta now, all of
my grocery come to my door, even though I got
beatful Amazon right now and luckily I let them so much. Bitch,
my fucking never happened a day in my life since
I've been having my groceries be dropped the fuck off.
My delivery person stole all my groceries. Delivery person because
(02:16):
they picked up all of my groceries.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
It's all been picked up.
Speaker 5 (02:19):
The only thing that wasn't in uh that they were
able to find was my butter chicken stag.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I was like, you know, it wasn't someone stealing from
the front door.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
It never got delivered, but just said your thing is delayed,
and bitch, I kept seeing that her pen was still
in spun of Sandy Springs. She never made it to
my house. I got the alert that your groceries have
been picked up. Then I got the alert that your
groceries are running a little bit delayed. Okay, bitch, she
was parked at her house. And then Amazon, how they
haven't set up you can go in and put from
(02:47):
your order which items you didn't receive. There was no
way for me to sit here and tell Amazon I
never got my groceries and all I'm still dealing with
it five days later, and I'm pissed because it was
one hundred and twelve dollars worth of Girl.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
You try to figure out why you're not going to
publics because you got publics in Atlanta.
Speaker 5 (03:04):
First off, because publics does not deliver I know everything
from Amazon. I don't like grocery shopping. I don't know
if I've told you guys here, I tried it. I
went to Whole Foods, I went to Kroger, I went
to public. I don't know how y'all go into grocery stores.
It is the most anxiety ridden task that I have
(03:26):
ever experienced as an adult.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
And I was like, oh my god. First off, you.
Speaker 5 (03:30):
Don't even know what the total is going to be
until you get to the register.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
Yeah. Man, these called shopping hate it.
Speaker 5 (03:36):
I know what my cart total is as I'm dropping
things in, and so I went hold on, literally, I
went I The anxiety of grocery shopping has to me like,
I don't know how you goes in a car. No, No,
it's not only the car. Let's be also very than well. No,
let's be very clear too. Yes, I have to uber
to and from the grocery store. So before I even
(03:56):
get there, there's sixteen to twenty five dollars to get
in the clurb. No, so I don't really like the
uber there and back. But I'm like, I go in
there and it's like oh like I am like, literally
my heart starts raising, my hands start getting sweaty. I
(04:17):
have to go down twenty thousand miles. And then here's
the other thing. I go in there and I have
my main things that I always get. I get my coffee,
I get my green onions. I get all of my
Asian ingredients.
Speaker 6 (04:29):
Because I'm half Asian and they're half Asian.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Uh huh.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
And then when I go to the grocery store, hear
me out, bitch, I just start seeing other cool shit.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
That I just start throwing in the car.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
That's a point. Hate it.
Speaker 5 (04:42):
I picked up thirteen dollars truffle chili crunch.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Was it good?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
It was?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
It wasn't It wasn't better than the honeymoon.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
I've beaure so see, I actually think since I've been
shopping at grocery store is more because now that is
not winter. I'm not going crazy with ordering, but I
realize I'm getting better produce, getting better fruit. I'm getting
better meat, like literally when the ship was coming to
my door, because they're giving you anything.
Speaker 5 (05:10):
Amazon Fresh be Fresh, and Whole Foods does deliver through Amazon.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
I don't know if y'all know why.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
So, like I mean to me, anytime I get produced,
I'm only buying produce if I'm eating it that day.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Or the next day, or I be real, ghetto and
just go.
Speaker 5 (05:28):
Ahead and get the ones that's already chopped up and
the ship, which I know is bad quality anyways, or whatever.
But no, I the anxiety that I've had, I said, Ghetto,
it's why we lost Forever twenty one.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
It's why we've lost all these stores, everything, everything.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
No, no, no, What I'm saying is, though, if everything is
made so much more convenient online.
Speaker 6 (05:49):
You know, you mentioned this the other day and I
thought it was the funniest shit is the fact that
she don't care about the whole egg shit.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Of course she don't. She's fucking allergic.
Speaker 6 (05:57):
That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
This is a real thing.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
And I said, but I know what's happening. I feel that.
I know.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
I've never heard you stress out about it, which makes sense.
Now went a whole food.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Now I know it's happening.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Okay, Can I be honest with you. This is gonna
sound very bougie, but it's the truth.
Speaker 6 (06:10):
She just said she doesn't want to go grocery shop.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh that was That was me talking about my mental
health and anxiety.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
I used to find myself complaining about gas prices a
lot when I was driving, but then I realized.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Like, you gotta buy it anyway. For food, That's the
one thing where I'm like, fuck.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
It if avocados is three dollars, But that's really a
healthy choice I'm gonna make, and I want to eat that.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I'm not gonna think about it.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
I treat food like spoiling myself, even in the grocery store.
I love to get myself nice things in the grocery store, Like,
but the grocery store is one of my favorite things.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Oh, I didn't even gonna hold you.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
On.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
I be on Amazon Fresh. I see the Amazon brand
and another brand two dollars. This is given Amazon I
And maybe this is because this is how my mama
shop growing up. It's the same ingredient, it's the same
generic she really is.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Like literally for like God to menton ship. Yeah, I
feel like, no a.
Speaker 6 (07:01):
Bitch for for the for the veget Q tips, like
if you just get the off brands, No.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
That's not food though, because like let's be fair.
Speaker 5 (07:10):
So I get the I get the generic pharmaceuticals like
medicines and but for food and do the same. But yeah,
that's uh, that's been my experience with being in the
South is that. Yeah, I'm gonna keep my my orders
coming to my door. And I hate that my groceries
(07:32):
was just stolen.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
I went to the publics when we were before we
all met up for recording, because that extra time, I
was so excited to shop Georgia prices for food. It's
not like strawberries for everybody pulled up right to the
motherfucker public.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Food.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
So my mom just got in by the way, I
see where I get my looney tuney. She called me
on the phone after her flight and she's like, did
you tell me now? I'm coming? And I'm thinking to myself.
For those of you who've never heard this show before,
I don't know who Nina is.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
She's my dog. I said, what do you mean you know?
Did you say grandma's coming? So she knows? Did you
tell her?
Speaker 4 (08:15):
I tell my dog when you guys are coming, I say,
your sister's coming, and so is Nina. Like, yo, my
mom's not. Then Nina's losing her mind. When my mom
walks in door, my Mom's like.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I knew you didn't tell her?
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Did you think I did?
Speaker 5 (08:30):
He had a conversation with his Motherfuckers, how would she
know what he but.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
But I will say this Nina does no Grandma, she does,
She'll her ears will perk up.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
But anyway, yeah, my cat.
Speaker 5 (08:39):
The only thing she say, Daddy, she'd be like, only
thing my body knows is want to eat. He will
beat my ass down the stairs. He will run like, yeah, bitch,
feed me, hope. Want to eat is the only.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Thing he knows. He will run all the way down,
stand at the door like he's like the dog's.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Good though when like dogs and like her animals, period
is know like like English. So yeah, speaking of food,
Juala is going to be coming with me to meet
her African American side of the family, so my or
not African, my bad.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
African side of the African American family.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
So basically, my boyfriend's dad's birthdays coming and him and
his brothers bought him a new car. Okay, so they're
gonna do a little house thing and he was like, yeah,
it's a great time for our friends to me.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
So my mom is.
Speaker 4 (09:29):
She's trying to act like she's not nervous, but she
is a nervous girl. She's like, and what do I
call them their name?
Speaker 1 (09:35):
Girl?
Speaker 4 (09:35):
They just like they're gonna call you what will we
be eating? Should I get ready to eat? What kind
of food are we going to have? And I'm just like, yo,
African African food is real serious, you know what I'm saying,
Like I just don't want my mom to be like I.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Just have the rice, like I don't know how it's going.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
You gotta have the conversation where her going in because
there's ways to like disrespect the family, especially about what's
in the kitchen and the food. So there's not a
there's not a let me see how she acts, bitch.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
There needs to be a conversation you do not disrespect.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
But but I'm just going to prep her on like
what the foods look like. More so, like my mom
would never go to anybody's home and just be like
ew but not ill.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
But even not wanting to eat everything.
Speaker 5 (10:16):
I think there's and I'm not calling her disrespectful at all,
but knowing that there's ways in which different cultures are
And you're like, oh, maybe she won't like it, because
you know what your mom likes and doesn't.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Like just letting her know like it's gonna be.
Speaker 5 (10:30):
You could yeah, like this is what you eat with
your hand and you dip it into this soup and.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
This soup the first time.
Speaker 2 (10:38):
I love Okra soup. Oh my god, that's my favorite.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
His mom is a pepper souper girl. She do be
fried with chicken ose. So Jo're gonna be fine. But
I remember I was eating at a wedding and I
took a spoon to eat this soup. Okay, and his
aunt looked at me too, right, watches, why do you
use that spoon? And then she started looking at him
like tita, oh, and I'm so embarrassed. And she's sitting
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there getting a pound in ym out her bag as
if they didn't have it already.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
At the buffet to show me what to do.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Mind you, I just recently learned some of them has
egg mixed in it or some.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
Of the dope.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Oh, so you know, it's just very embarrassing to say
to anybody I have an allergy.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
They're like, the fuck up girl, Like, let's just talk
about a lot.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Of the dumplings that has egg in it.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Damn that sucks.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Mind you, It's only is dope.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
It's to me when I go somewhere else and the
other family be like, you're good as home.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
I bey like egg is something that I mean, right now,
it's dealing with the dairy shit. But for me, African food.
And when I went to Nigeria with my best friends,
my best friend's alerted to shellfish. Bitch, they season their
shit with like the dried shrimp.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
Oh sh she couldn't.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
God damn do you like African food? I love African food.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
I like certain types Africa.
Speaker 5 (12:00):
I like the Ochra soup, the goosey Joela frice. I
ain't gonna hold y'all. Y'all could come fight me. I
don't care it. Gana had better food than Nigeria.
Speaker 6 (12:08):
To me, yours trying to start problem, I.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
I really I don't like fishy, fishy, fishy stuff. And
they and I've been experiencing a lot of fishy, fishy, fishy,
fishy fishy n.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Yeah, culture, well sometimes you didn't say it was also.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
Like they put different meats in the in the soups,
so sometimes it's it's beef or chicken.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
But they do do a lot of fish in the
soups too.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
Yeah, and that could be it. Everything's been.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
I don't think they use fish sauce like Asia.
Speaker 5 (12:38):
Maybe I would walk into some ort sauce, want some
and be like this is chicken wi.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
You know what I also learned too about just like
so when we went to his parents' house to cook
gumbo at one time, I was like, fuck, I don't
bring any seasons. But I'm like, your mama got it
just African house. He was like, I don't think you
know what you're saying, bitch, my mama got African shiit
what type of fucking spicy ass gumbo you're trying to make?
Speaker 5 (13:00):
Oh, not only that, the way they make their the
way they season their food is a lot of them
making their own. Like they put hello roasted peppers and
this and that.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
It's like they make like the wat do that to
they own. Like so it's a ed.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
That you have, Like I love the orange, the orange powder,
that thing a little little salty thought.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
It's like it's killing us.
Speaker 5 (13:32):
Oh, I ain't gonna hold you. My homegirl cooked for Easter.
My arm I turned into big.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I ate them greens. I said, you need to dilute
these bitches.
Speaker 5 (13:46):
She has some Puerto Rican uh adubo with adubo because
Crystal doesn't eat meat. So she's like, it's cool, I'll
season it without meat. That bitch seasoned it with the
whole cabinet, I said, a girl, I like it. They go,
I can't touch these greens, baby, yeah, I love you.
Taylor was not touching them grease. I was like blood pressure.
Speaker 6 (14:12):
I feel like you want to mentioned this before, But
did you develop this aeology or you already had it
as a child.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
No, I had it as a kid.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
I think they found out at a Ponderosa for one
of my birthday parties when they threw a cake on me.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
Oh yeah, I found out to the touch.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Oh no, no, no, no, nigga. I took her to
a soul food restaurant forgot.
Speaker 5 (14:27):
They put eggs and baked mac and cheese, all of them,
but this whole almost most of them.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
This hole, it holds it. It holds it in the baby.
Speaker 4 (14:36):
If it ain't got eggstles.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
No, no, no, I said, baked mac and cheese wold
food style rostapasta don't count as baked mac and cheese.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Both baked mac and cheeses have the egg.
Speaker 4 (14:49):
This is a debate that the community can have if
they want, Uh, do you put eggs in.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Your motherfucking mac and cheese? Thanksgiving coming around? Egg? Yes
or no?
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Big and juice And if they don't. They're probably Jamaican.
And then it's.
Speaker 3 (15:03):
Macaroni pie that's insane.
Speaker 5 (15:06):
Try and then my old people so I could come
and talk talk about it.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
Yeah, we barely had curse word. Let's talk about sex.
Speaker 4 (15:14):
Well, guys, we've been playing a new game where it
actually happened on accident. So Mandy and I when we're
doing our outlines lately up into a pre order time
for no holds, talking about and picking out excerpts and
diving into them. But then we just discovered this new
game where we're picking numbers and reading from the page.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Pick a number up to six uh.
Speaker 5 (15:37):
Two eighty six, fift deep bo doo.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Forty five, forty zilk. Oh.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
It's actually my chapter about the Kinsley scale, and it's
the diagram of it. Because I was talking about how
I was unsure about my sexuality when I was younger,
and here's a few sentences. Apparently none of us are
super straight or super gay, but for me, my gayness
is on how hot you were at home. My porn
searches got increasingly warm around she as I grew in age.
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Girl on girl videos were always top of the list.
During my teenage years with strap ons pussy licking, fingering, tripping, scissoring,
and sometimes even breastfeeding.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Adam, let's do one and twenty three.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
Miles, you gotta get number two? Okay, hold on? Ooh
not wheezy again? Oh oh god, go on?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
This is the domb chapter.
Speaker 3 (16:33):
Oh yeah, it is no had it shut up?
Speaker 4 (16:37):
Nate stood in front of me. I could smell him
as he came up to me with my blindfold on.
I heard his belt brockle unlatched the zip as he
pulled the zipper down. When he said to me, open
your fucking mouth. I started to laugh because, frankly, how
is supposed to do that? If I can't find his
dick to grabby.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Miles, you're dead?
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Hope, O god, I please chapter oo okay, when shooting
your shot, these are the things I remember, so I
can be very Do you know your number one?
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Except no.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
The worst they could say is no, yup. Everyone is
not for everyone. This is a cute one. It's fine
to be corny. Sometimes an embarrassment typically doesn't last very long.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yep, that's a good one.
Speaker 3 (17:25):
That's a.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I think that is a lot of sex in this book.
Speaker 5 (17:28):
I think that's my thing with like shooting the shot.
I think for me, it's the two things, rejection and embarrassment.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
As soon as you are.
Speaker 5 (17:37):
Mature enough to handle rejection and to know that embarrassment
has more to do with your own ego. And most
people don't give a fuck. And I probably actually learned
that from living in New York so long. Everybody just
be minding their own motherfucking business. Like bitch, if you fall,
no one's laughing, They're not gonna help you up, they
don't care, they're not gonna remember you one minute from now.
(17:57):
And it's literally just like a As soon as you
can get out of your about thinking that everyone's laughing
at you, embarrassment is done in ten seconds.
Speaker 6 (18:04):
So boy, will that replay in my brain ten years
from now that happened to me?
Speaker 3 (18:08):
Does that not happen all? Oh?
Speaker 1 (18:09):
He said, if he's the one who felt, if.
Speaker 6 (18:11):
I'm the one that that some embarrassing should happen to me?
Speaker 5 (18:14):
Oh wait, So I'm saying that embarrassment is something that
you get over quickly. You're saying that if something embarrassing happened.
Speaker 3 (18:22):
To you, you get over it at that moment.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Wait, but you're saying that you relive it in the future.
Speaker 6 (18:27):
Hell yeah, that shit comes back to me what I
think about it, Like, I'll be It'll be like three
in the morning and then I'll think about something I
did that I.
Speaker 4 (18:33):
Was like, oh, do you know what I like about it? Recently,
this was so embarrassing. Me and my man went out,
we were partying crazy and I was like, let's go
to an after party and I am cringing. This was
only two weeks ago, thinking about approaching the after party
door and they wouldn't let me in because I didn't
have some type of idea.
Speaker 1 (18:51):
I don't remember what it was. And I literally was.
Speaker 4 (18:53):
At the door like I don't understand, what is the problem.
My friends are in there, and I was like, oh
my god, bro. It kept me up the other night.
I was like, oh, just sitting.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
In the bed, it's just that, how fucking stupid I was.
No just her approach.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
I guess it was something about how I went up
to the door. I had a wristband on from earlier.
But then I didn't show my idea and I was like, huh,
I don't know what it was. I was so wasted, bitch.
But I was really outside of that damn door with
the door closed. Talking to the little after party, people.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Like let me in, Yeah, let me in.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
My boyfriend's like, I'm going to get the car, and
I was like, we can sell me.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
Hey man, thought that plays at three am.
Speaker 2 (19:32):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
What if someone knew me what a heard so hypothetical question,
would you rather be.
Speaker 4 (19:49):
Very personally fulfilled or very professionally fulfilled? And when you answer,
what defines that? Some people defined professionally the field just
being so for wealthy.
Speaker 5 (20:01):
It's so crazy because I just talked about this with
shit with my friends and it was just a recent conversation.
I am fulfilled professionally. I think it's one of the
things that I am most proud of. And so it
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is something that if you want to attack me, attack
how I operate or run a business, or how I
show up with work, or how I show up amongst
like you know, in a work setting. Personally, there's so
much I think things I'm working through, and I'm grateful
that I'm working through as an adult. But life and
(20:48):
my growth and the change and all of that things
comes in waves.
Speaker 2 (20:52):
For me.
Speaker 5 (20:53):
I professionally fulfilled because I guess that means also my
bank account is filled and so that is fulfilling for me,
like to be able to pay all my bills, to
be able to make sure my mom's life is easy
and any way I can make it easy for her,
and just to be able to live and exist and
do the things I want to do. So maybe my
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professional falls into my personal because I'm able to naturally
travel and take breaks and do the things I like.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
But I'd rather be professionally fulfilled.
Speaker 6 (21:22):
I too, would rather be professionally fulfilled, because it's like
personally fulfilled I've been. There's been situations in my life
where I've been just personally fulfilled and then I feel
like it's momentary and then I get over it, and
then I want the next thing. But the way to
get the next thing is to be professionally fulfilled. Yea,
getting shit done and getting again financially supported.
Speaker 5 (21:40):
Like that's something that I actually used to that I
had to work on in moments of solidarity or silence
or just taking some time away. I would wake up
and be miserable if by the end of the day
I didn't feel productive. So like there's there's days where Okay,
(22:01):
whole day, I'm not leaving the house, but I'm gonna
send some emails out. I'm gonna work on my schedule.
Might I may even if I have nothing really to do. Say,
it's a fucking Saturday, so I know no one's gonna
email me on Sunday. They're not gonna get to me
till Monday. I'll literally wake up and start putting things
into my calendar for the next week, so I know
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what I'm doing, which I think sets me up professionally,
Like that's that fulfills me to just be professionally ready
and settled.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
What about you, I'm.
Speaker 4 (22:31):
Thinking about just yeah, like personally fulfilled. Like I don't
know what I'm thinking personal because when you mentioned vacation,
I'm like, well, that's true. Like I love being able
to do what I want. But the thing that's detaching
me from professional is I got a lot of rich,
miserable people I know, and I measure professionally fulfilled as
to money, I do unless you're creating art literally I
(22:55):
think paint brush to paper, like, I mean, it's no
secret I love Boski. I have tattooed all over my
left side on my fucking body, like I've read so
much about the money and the recognition from his paintings
and where his brain was kind of like he wanted more.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I need my.
Speaker 4 (23:11):
Shit in museum so people enjoy this every day than
now all these millionaires come into my loft on Jones
Street and they're just like, you know, betting on each
other how much it's gonna be worth. And that's when
he started throwing paint on shit, or when you see
faces of bosk yacht crossing things out. He just wanted
to devalue things because he knew he was so popular.
I bring that up because professional is money, but personal, like,
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I don't know. I feel like sometimes in the heights
of my life with success, I've been I've hated myself
a little bit. For me professionally personally fulfilled is like
really waking up happy, loving everything about myself, loving everyone
around me, which I feel right now, but also feeling
like the productivity is my life, Like did I have
(23:56):
a good day?
Speaker 1 (23:56):
Was I healthy? Was I doing this?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
Was I making strides for my I kind of lose
that the busier and the more shit ramps up for work.
I think health wind dwindles, my beauty even dwindles. I
start to get on enough sleep and I realize, like
I'm feeding the wrong beast because I'm so obsessed with
hitting these professional marks that i stopped taking care of myself.
Speaker 5 (24:17):
And see, that's where I feel like what you said
bringing up Basquiat solidified what I said. What what I
do professionally is art. Yeah, there's the management side of it,
but having selective ignorance and figuring out what episodes and
guests and that is creating art for me. I'm also
working on scripts right now, which is so fulfilling. I'm
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working on a fucking feature film script, and it's like
I'm creating life.
Speaker 2 (24:44):
Literally, I'm creating.
Speaker 4 (24:46):
Millions of people listen to your show because this would
dictate it. Right, Let's just say you had the volume
of Call Her Daddy listeners, but there's maybe like a
red X on Mandy Bee because you did something wrong.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
Says a red X on me every week on.
Speaker 4 (25:01):
You can't make money from advertisers won't work with you.
Let's just say that, right. People are consuming this and
they love what you're talking about, but you're not seeing money.
Speaker 5 (25:11):
I'm not seeing money from selective ignorance right now. I'm
talking about Curious. This is a passion project that I
feel like literally saved my best friend's life.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
I've created Official Box.
Speaker 5 (25:22):
Owner made me great money during the pandemic. But I've
had projects that I haven't seen money from, and so that's.
Speaker 1 (25:30):
Where But is it professional fulfillment?
Speaker 5 (25:33):
No, so it is because it's what I do for
a living. I do believe maybe eventually I can see
money from all of it. Definitely selective ignorance coming soon.
Got an announcement, but I don't do it with like,
I'm not gonna do it unless I make money. I
have over one hundred episodes of period this. I feel
like it was transformative, I've said professionally right now, I'm
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living in my legacy professionally, like this podcast, what we've done,
how we've changed lives. With even all my other platforms
and things that I've created, my professional life has given
me purpose. So because of that, like, I'm fulfilled by
it and I'm grateful because if you asked me this
five years ago, when I was working seventy hours at
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fucking Ernst and Young fucking doing k ones for tax season,
absolutely not that wasn't fulfilling. And I say all the time,
like I remember when I left Ey and I got
to talk to my partners because bitch I quit in
the middle of K one season and they was like,
can you give me two more weeks? And I'm a
good person. I didn't have to, but I did. I
gave them two more weeks after my two week notice
(26:40):
because they really needed to get through the season. And
so I literally was going on lunch with the partners
and the senior the seniors managers, and they were all
telling me, like, I used to be in theater with
my friends.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
I used to do this on the weekends.
Speaker 5 (26:55):
I missed going to softball, and literally I was expressing
to them that we were literally we sold out Carolines
and they were like, Wow, you're getting to create something
that gives you money to where you're quitting a career
to go do that.
Speaker 2 (27:08):
They were all so jealous because.
Speaker 5 (27:10):
Though they make all the money in this wonderful career,
all the things that made them happy isn't what they
were making money and surviving from. So professionally, I'm able
to live the life I want to do, literally doing
what I like. My teachers are probably gagging that I'm
literally making money from talking because bitch I wouldn't shut up.
Speaker 3 (27:28):
Bitch, you don't know how to read.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I don't read the script for you. And now I'm
motherfucking writing a book.
Speaker 5 (27:32):
So everything professionally that I've been doing over the last five, six, seven,
eight years has been fulfilling. And when I've gotten to
a point where it wasn't fun for me anymore, I
made pivots or like, even with the rebrand of this show,
like it was impacting my personal life so much that
I was like, we fucking grew something so amazing, How
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can we pivot to.
Speaker 2 (27:57):
Where I love what I'm doing again?
Speaker 5 (27:59):
Because a part of it, like kind of was, was
debilitating me. And so even with the rebrand, with that
writing the.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Book, actually I feel the opposite about the rebrand. I've
felt that I feel really grateful that we can reach
more people, but I also feel like so much of
the conversation I have in the book, if I do
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an interview, things I preach to people about authenticity, there's
this small part of me, even though I know it's
not true, it feels like I removed.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
It a little bit.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
I know that the reality of keeping a brand alive,
keeping people paid, has to come with changing, but it's
not one that felt natural to me. There's not really
another project I've made in my life that felt as
unnatural and it.
Speaker 1 (28:58):
Was very difficult.
Speaker 4 (28:59):
I mean obviously, like the whole discourse from people was tough, but.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
More so just like I think that.
Speaker 4 (29:08):
As we're growing and aging, it's obvious, but I don't
know if.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
It connected to me as much.
Speaker 4 (29:15):
Maybe being with you, our dynamic has been horrible for
so long that this new part is weird. Now it
feels more normal, But I definitely was just like, what
is going on?
Speaker 1 (29:26):
It's it's also this weird thing of.
Speaker 4 (29:30):
That is professional growth is you know, changing a brand,
turning it around into something else. Everyone does rebrands, everyone
changes things. Why am I so attached to this thing?
And I'm not sure why? Maybe because Horrible Decisions doesn't
feel like a company to me. It feels like something
I'm making or a conversation. So when it shifted, it
fucked me up a little.
Speaker 5 (29:50):
But even though we didn't get rid of it, Like,
do you feel more excitement with our Patreon content? Like
because we're still talking sex and raunching peek over there,
just had on sex with Ashley and we have on
people from the sex clubs, and you are you excited
more with the Patreon concept that we're doing.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
Then it's not even the excitement level more than I know.
Some people still don't know where Horrible Decisions is. Some
people sorry that they don't know how to read or listen.
Speaker 5 (30:15):
They say it every week, or they're not frequently petreon
dot com backslash Horrible Decisions.
Speaker 4 (30:19):
I think also the amount of people that listen on
a regular feed versus Patreon is obviously different. There is
a weird part of me that wouldn't have done it
either way, because making this book, if that was the
way that it had to be done, duh. There's so
many moments where I forget we made a book until
it's in my hands.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
Because it ain't really at yet it's June twenty fourth.
Speaker 4 (30:41):
Until someone reads, like one of my friends reads it
or just has a callback to me about the book.
My friend Gabby, I just gave her copee and she's like,
it's so weird reading about I think she tagged you
in it, reading you and Mandy on pages, like, it's
just weird. She's like, I've known you since the beginning
of the show, but just seeing your name even at
the top, it's so fucking mind fucking I'm like, I know,
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I feel like I'm gonna have a real moment in
a bookstore. But yeah, that type of stuff has, you know,
made me feel sticky. And as far as professional fulfillment,
it's interesting. I think the biggest thing I feel fulfilled
from isn't even myself. It's really just like other people.
There's so many people like been behind on rent, people
that have worked for us. One of our employees used
to be homeless. I remember when I found that out.
I was like, what, Like, it's shit like that that
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makes me feel like damn to be able to create something,
but also do all this for other people.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
That feels good.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Look what the fuck Ryan Coogler just did y'all know,
Sinners my personality till the end of the year, like
all Miles Kitten who played Sammy and there, like all
these people that are gonna have a new life because
you had an idea in your head that.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
Feels really really good. So but still I feel like
that's personal stuff because I mean, I'm a little.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
Fulfills the personal thought.
Speaker 4 (31:53):
Okay, let's get into a reactionary clip. So I I
want to know if you instantly agree or instantly disagree,
you know, white women in new hoteps with these little
click baity things.
Speaker 7 (32:11):
Women need someone better than them, smaller than them, fitter
than them, bigger than them, more inspiring than them, more
successful than them. Otherwise, where's the attraction? I'm no, I'm asking.
Maybe some women don't mind, but I mind. I need
to be inspired by the guy. Otherwise I'll eat them
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for breakfast. I'll finish them off in twenty four hours.
Speaker 2 (32:35):
I just you know.
Speaker 7 (32:36):
I also need someone to handle me, and only an
alpha or a double alpha can do that.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
Do you need someone better than you?
Speaker 2 (32:45):
Bitch? That clip so goddamn stupid, She so god down stupid.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
Do you need some?
Speaker 5 (32:51):
First off, most men will be stronger than you. I
don't need a man to be richer than me, or
more successful than me, and all of those things. I
think I needed those when I knew I lacked. I
don't think I need to be with a person who
inspires me to be a better person, because that's work
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that I feel like I should be doing on my own.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
Really, I don't, I absolutely don't.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Wait.
Speaker 4 (33:17):
That really surprised me because I feel like that's such
an thing we hear, even like you think of wedding.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Vow like, you inspire me to be better, you make
me better?
Speaker 5 (33:25):
Like yeah, like I I mean that could be, that
could be true, But I don't seek that in a partner.
I don't need the outfit. I don't need a man
to handle me. She even says I need him to
handle me.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Are you a child? You need a handler? Are you
at the zoo?
Speaker 1 (33:38):
Young girl?
Speaker 4 (33:38):
I mean to me, I think she sounds ridiculous. But
then when I sat with myself, I was like, Okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:45):
No, I have friendships spanning ten fifteen years.
Speaker 3 (33:50):
They don't inspire me.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
I enjoy them.
Speaker 5 (33:52):
They're their own people, and we have fun together. We
journey through and adventure through life together. But we both
have our ow Like.
Speaker 4 (34:00):
Your friends don't push you forward, encourage you. They have
to inspire you in some way.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
That's that's supporting me. That's not inspiring.
Speaker 3 (34:06):
I think.
Speaker 6 (34:07):
I think there's a difference of the two, right, Even
with I like the friend conversation as well.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
I was thinking about friends too.
Speaker 6 (34:12):
Yeah, for what she's saying, I think it's lurking for
or looking for someone for those things comparatively to when
you get them naturally. Right. So, like my friends, when
I found my friends. I was like, I need someone
who's supportive and et cetera and holds me down but
gracefully through our synergy, Like it worked out and they
(34:33):
are supportive. They do inspire me because they naturally came
to that with my relationship, not that I go even
for me looking for a partner with a woman. Right
to answer your initial thing, I would say no, I
don't think a woman needs to have someone who's more powerful,
especially in twenty.
Speaker 3 (34:49):
Twenty five, even more successful.
Speaker 5 (34:51):
Like yeah, to me, success is subjective, like how we
viewed success is differently like.
Speaker 4 (34:56):
Oh, it could be a money I do agree though,
because I agree the success could be subjective. I think
in my relationships almost all of them were better at
me and something that I wanted and I needed them
to be. So, for example, all of my partners better physique,
better eating habits, better fitness, help, all around knowledgeability, every
(35:18):
single one not been with one lazy nigga. All of
them are bitter than me at their like and I
wanted my fitness intact for a long time. Shit, it's
why I Loki built a gym by my crewit. But
I think that those are things are attractive to me.
Because they do inspire me. Like when my man is
in the middle of a hotel room doing calisthenics and
fucking grabbing a band and finding a way to work out,
(35:40):
but I'm in the bed, I'm like, oh yeah.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
I'm up.
Speaker 4 (35:43):
For example, one kid, you measure the gym, I'm like,
nap time, I can't even measure. One could argue that
Vinnie or I could be more successful than Vinnie because
I've done maybe more things professionally.
Speaker 1 (35:54):
However, Vinnie inspires me a lot.
Speaker 4 (35:57):
When it comes to how to show up and move
forward for people, especially those in my face. And he
really takes me to a place when I'm around him
where I'm like, damn, am I that great of a friend?
Like Vinnie will stop by someone's anything, even if he's exhausted.
He just really puts himself out there. He'll give a
(36:17):
lot of himself. Every single one of them inspire me.
My friends that have more or less, I think as
far as a partner, if you had nothing that was
inspiring to me, I don't think it would work. I
also think in terms of alpha, I think the language
is very like red pill. But oh yeah, like I'll
act like a fucking baby bro.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
If I can't.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
If I'm having a tough time with work, I need
to know my nigga can pick this shit up. For example,
fucking terrible week with book signing or not book signing
when we had like mad pages to do or whatever
he had to get my life inchecked, baby, what's on
the list? Show me your calendar, and he's fucking coming
through for me.
Speaker 5 (36:54):
I just love the support and community that I have.
I don't look for people to be in my life,
which is why this video was specific to partners. I
personally can be with a partner that's less successful than me,
that has less money than me, that isn't better than me,
and we just form I don't know, a fucking unit
(37:15):
together and make each other better. Like my ex was retired,
so his life was completely like he felt like he
did all the things and ticked all the boxes and
did all the accomplishments he had to. Was he inspiring, No,
But we fucked with each other for fucking three years.
So like to me, I love that we could sit
here and I guess agree to disagree. You need someone
(37:36):
that you're inspired by or that is better than you.
For me, I'm saying I heard that clip, I was
disgusted by it. I'm fine with more of a submissive
man as well, though I believe that submissive men or
men who show up with acts of service or you know,
aren't the making everyone in the room know that they're there.
I like more submissive guys, but it doesn't take away
(37:59):
from their ability to be a man, which again might
be my problem with this alpha term, because to me,
someone who shows up with emotional intelligence, who shows up
with acts of service to make my life better and
doesn't lead like the alpha in which I know it
to be based on the patriarchy works for me.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
I think this healthy masculinity too.
Speaker 4 (38:21):
We see like I have alpha energy, right, but I'm
not like.
Speaker 1 (38:28):
Super toxic.
Speaker 4 (38:29):
I think that's another reason it's been difficult for me
to date men that are a little too submissive because
it tends to make me feel more.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
I guess mainly like, for example, there was.
Speaker 4 (38:44):
A conversation we had once with like pulling out the
card to the check and things like that. I'm so
extroverted and to have like that dominant leader energy already,
I don't really like that dynamic sometimes in love because
I tend to not enjoy or respect the relationship that much.
I like to see those qualities, Like in my everyday life,
(39:05):
have employees, I'm handling business, my parents are my kids.
I can't also be the leader sometimes in love there
has to be one place where I think I take
a step back. I think I feel a little too
dominant in every situation. So for me, I feel a
lot of my love from being able to be super
film like. I kind of enjoy almost taking like a
(39:26):
step back a little. It's the way that I can
feel almost like princess treatment type shit.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
I guess we're tripping over words a bit.
Speaker 5 (39:34):
I don't take the masculinity away from any man i'm
with if they're showing up with me in ways in
which we don't normally associate to masculinity, which is why
I brought up acts of service being more of a
domestic thing. Yeah, I just based on that video, though
I would say I disagree and I hate everything she said.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
You agreed. You guys can write in the comments, how
do you feel? Do you you need your partner to
be stronger, more powerful?
Speaker 1 (40:03):
We all want that. Let's keep it on.
Speaker 5 (40:06):
Do you need your partner to be that way with
you or something else. Do you agree or disagree? Let
us know in the.
Speaker 4 (40:13):
Common So we had a YGD a few weeks ago
where this guy said he was reverse stelthing his girlfriend
because she was saying, come in me, get me pregnant,
and he was putting spermicide on his dick.
Speaker 1 (40:31):
In the middle of it.
Speaker 4 (40:32):
I think we started looking up spermicide or how it works,
and I was like, oh my god, we should talk
about contraception.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
So contraception as.
Speaker 4 (40:38):
We know it birth control, but it's any kind of
method or device to prevent pregnancy.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
So I feel like.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
Doing the whole history of contraception.
Speaker 4 (40:47):
Uh huh, and a little bit of birthing practice, because
we got some time not birthing practice.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
So.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
Family planning.
Speaker 4 (40:55):
In some cultures, even abortion is you know, abortion is
a form of birth control.
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (40:59):
We have a lot of language around it. I want
to ask the guys, can you tell me how many
forms of birth control? You know, list off as many
as you can, and then miles.
Speaker 6 (41:08):
Out different forms of birth control. Like I could say, okay,
all right, sure, the so what is it? I was
gonna say, you d am I wrong with her? I
d the pill? All right? I have, bro, how you
do the pill condoms? Okay, female condoms? Can you do
male fields? Female spermicide? I'd say, is one does a
(41:34):
new ring counting counts?
Speaker 1 (41:35):
It's on here.
Speaker 6 (41:37):
There's different types of the I d right, there's like
a hopper one and there's another one.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
You how do you bro parents?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
No?
Speaker 3 (41:47):
I just know I got to protect myself.
Speaker 2 (41:49):
He's like, bitch, I've been working with y'all about seven years.
Speaker 6 (41:52):
But I take care of some ship. Yeah yeah? And
then what else the past?
Speaker 1 (42:00):
Whoa you? There's like literally.
Speaker 3 (42:05):
But there's an insert though right arm? Yeah? Is that
the same thing?
Speaker 5 (42:09):
And then the shot the depa Vera was the actually
think recently.
Speaker 2 (42:13):
Which I'm so glad I.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Was going to get it.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
Do not get bitch.
Speaker 5 (42:18):
If you worried about weight, now it's weight, it's mood, swings,
it's skin. Why the depot is one of I think
they just actually ended it because of some like lawsuit. Bro,
let me look it up. Hold on, I do actually
want to bro the depot do not. I'm telling you
right now. I was off of my period for a
whole year, bitch. When my period got back on mine,
(42:40):
you only took two shots, which is six months because
you take it every three months. This is when I
was eighteen years old. I didn't have another last I
didn't have a period for a year. When I got
back on it, mind you, I thought I was pregnant.
I was like, what the fuck is happening?
Speaker 1 (42:53):
Bitch?
Speaker 2 (42:54):
I bled for two months straight.
Speaker 5 (42:56):
But during it, my skin it was in the same
spaces it was from the shot.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
And I mean at the time.
Speaker 5 (43:03):
I mean, y'all know, I've always dealt with my weight
easily fifteen pounds. And to this day, my friend blames
the shot into her outbursts. Is the reason why her
and her relationship ended, like it made her so like.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Oh well, I don't know what could make me worse.
I'm a bitch.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
That nigga looked at me the other day and said,
I'm gonna go walk the dog, and I'm.
Speaker 3 (43:24):
Like, you have some time, That's the thing. It's like, so,
I don't know if I'm sure you guys have seen
it before, But.
Speaker 2 (43:31):
Bitch's class action?
Speaker 6 (43:32):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (43:33):
Let me get some.
Speaker 5 (43:33):
Goddamn money via lost years. I was on it, yeah,
two thousand and nine as well. There's a lawsuit right now.
The time is running out to file acclaim. Oh but
in order for you to be a part of this
damn and this is a twenty twenty five lawsuit. It
is if you suffer from meningioma or a brain tumor.
Speaker 2 (43:57):
Oh damn, yeah, bitch, don't get on that shit. I'm
talking weight gain and bed skin. I don't even know
what men and g and noma is men men in geoma.
Let me see what men in geomas.
Speaker 6 (44:07):
Netflix had a whole thing about birth control and I
just watched it was like the whole history of it.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
Is another is another tumor?
Speaker 1 (44:16):
That one?
Speaker 5 (44:17):
That one is found in your spinal cord. Oh, tumors
and brain and spinal cord.
Speaker 1 (44:21):
Okay, So anyway, let's get to another.
Speaker 5 (44:24):
Don't do to defot y'all. And if you have a
brain zoomer. Now there is a class action lawsuit happening.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
What bitch, I'm trying to help to get.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
Some money because I got Okay, So oral hills.
Speaker 4 (44:41):
Now, contraceptive patches, rings, the implants in the arm, the injections,
male condoms, female commerce, diaphragms, fermicide, permonal i D copper IUDs.
Here are permanent contraceptions, sterilization, which is very difficult for
women to get. They want you to have like three
kids in ship before they even do it. Yeah, vasectomes,
(45:01):
other methods, emergencyts, fertility awareness based tracking methods, ovulation with temperature,
which I'm considering doing.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
I'm just freaking out about it.
Speaker 4 (45:14):
And breastfeeding is a contraceptive can provide temporary protection against pregnancy.
This is also breastfeeding breast feeding. This is also something
that goes into things they used to do back in
the day. So the reason I am on birth control.
Speaker 5 (45:30):
Wait, wait, note there's.
Speaker 1 (45:33):
A history of it.
Speaker 4 (45:34):
So the reason I wanted to have birth control conversations
obviously the permicide thing.
Speaker 1 (45:39):
I'm also on birth control.
Speaker 4 (45:41):
You guys have heard me talk about my story how
I'm in a crazy journey to lose weight. I gained
twenty pounds on birth control. I don't think i've ever weighed.
Look at the little stomach canew.
Speaker 2 (45:49):
I don't think I ever weigh one hundred and fifty
five pounds of my life.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
But I'm here. It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (45:57):
Thank god, it just went to my butt and a
little bit of my stomach. But I feel like I'm
starting to see it everywhere. I'm getting this weird body
dysmorphia and then the hormones are going crazy. So yeah,
if I can't lose, no way, I'm getting off of
it and doing the temperature thing. So breastfeeding was the
first form of contraceptive evidence, dating back to thousand of
(46:19):
years in ancient civilizations ancient Mesopotamia, Babylon. In Egypt, wet
nursing women would hire wet nurses, which basically mean those
women would.
Speaker 1 (46:29):
Breastfeed those particular women.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
They were seeing statistics of women that weren't breastfeeding getting
pregnant quicker. So in early medical texts, breastfeeding, although linked
to religious beliefs, was a way that women were keeping
from getting pregnant. The rates have increased in the United
States with extended periods.
Speaker 1 (46:53):
More than they used to be.
Speaker 4 (46:53):
Used to only be eight months, now it's going up
to a year and a half, and those who are
breastfeeding are staying not pregnant longer.
Speaker 5 (47:01):
All I know is my mama flu her a little
titty in my mouth, and my sister came right after
me three months she was pregnant three months after having me.
Me and my sister are a year and twenty days apart.
Speaker 4 (47:15):
Now here's the craziest part. Breastfeeding is a form of
first controlled It's called lamb lactation. I'm a Minonora method.
When a woman is exclusively breastfeeding her infant for the
first six months postpartum and is not having a period
ninety eight percent effective. Well, does she ain't have an
a period? Shehan't opulate it? Well, the breastfeeding apparently is
(47:37):
delaying it. So that's what they're saying, Like, you can
delay it by breastfeeding longer?
Speaker 2 (47:41):
Was this back before they had? This is right now
and they believe this right now. This isn't like from.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
The people lamb right now isn't They're crazy. It wouldn't
be enough for me.
Speaker 4 (47:51):
But y'all will figure out why I'm on birth control.
In normlevard it is a wild nose.
Speaker 5 (47:55):
So many people to get pregnant right after they have
a baby and they breastfeeding the one they got.
Speaker 4 (48:00):
Honestly, I think it has to do something probably with temperature,
like it's probably way more detailed.
Speaker 1 (48:04):
But that was the first form. So after that.
Speaker 4 (48:09):
In the BC's and shit, they also use honey and
leaves and lint to be placed into the vagina. So
basically they'd make a little mixture and stick it up
there to blocks firm like like laundry met lint. I
mean they didn't have that in the before christ chimes.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
So then what is lent?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
What is lin?
Speaker 1 (48:27):
Could be coming lin anywhere? This could be lent like
just okay, okay.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
Other birth control methods gummy substances to cover the mouth
of the womb.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
The mouth of the womb was the service.
Speaker 4 (48:41):
This is in medical text honey sodium carbonate applied to
the inside the vagina and a sticking agent ready for
this made from crocodile shit.
Speaker 5 (48:53):
And it was putting it in a kuchi. We already
know we can't put human feces. We can't go from
as tocucci.
Speaker 6 (49:00):
Know that.
Speaker 4 (49:00):
Like they just say, we don't want no baby. I
don't care the spot. No, they don't even have showers
up in here. Crocodile cool as long as they no baby.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
Any No, I'm not putting no.
Speaker 1 (49:11):
So that is a lot of the thing.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
Though a lot of them had to have kidney affections
and die.
Speaker 4 (49:15):
You have to think, ye, the lifespan wasn't that long, right,
But because everything we do right now we just think
is normal. Don't we use some kind of like pig
ship in like makeup. Like there's so much animal products
like jelly jones. Yeah, like there's literally all of that
stuff now. So if it was crocodile shit going yokushi,
you probably wouldn't even think it was your mama doing.
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Everybody was doing it.
Speaker 5 (49:37):
Well, no, I mean, I'm bagging the South niggas are
still eating it in lists so oh my God, I
mean the Book of Genesis also, the pull out method
was something.
Speaker 1 (49:45):
That God wanted.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
No, it is not, it is.
Speaker 4 (49:50):
This is the Book of Jennifer line All God referencing
with darl as a method of contraception when Onnan spills
his speed ejaculating onto the ground as so not to
father a child with his deceased brother's wife Tamar, not
the braxton. In China and India in the seventh century VC,
there was a Chinese physician that was documenting semen retention.
(50:16):
So in India and China this is probably another confistuture
thing too, maybe, but just period pretension as to preserve
the man's yang and from.
Speaker 1 (50:26):
The yin and yang. So yin and yang can be.
Speaker 4 (50:28):
Thought of the opposite forces contracting with each other. Your
peace and your aggression type shit. So basically they would say, hey,
when you have sex, keep it because you're boosting up
the yang.
Speaker 1 (50:42):
Right.
Speaker 4 (50:43):
Also in the Tang dynasty, there are documents that there
are there is a thousand gold contraceptive women, and these
are women they would seek out to who didn't want
to bear children anymore, and basically they would induce sterility,
basically making them no longer able to get pregnant. And
(51:06):
so they put oil and heat together for one day,
mix up a mixture, take it oily, and they couldn't
get pregnant anymore.
Speaker 5 (51:12):
Ruin their I'm not gonna lie needs to know what
that is, girl, what I take that?
Speaker 2 (51:18):
That's just a little inguesstable.
Speaker 4 (51:19):
Now, this one don't sound that good to me because
they don't just feel it.
Speaker 1 (51:22):
Don't feel like it's enough.
Speaker 4 (51:23):
Cinnamon has been used in ancient traditional Mexican medicine a
riba and was very efficient as a contraceptive. Nahua women
use parts of the plants with plants in Mexico at
the time, with cinnamon, eat it and then with fuck.
Speaker 2 (51:40):
So see it's some Mexican plants and cinnamon, not just cinnamon.
Speaker 1 (51:43):
I was like, it's a ayahuasca.
Speaker 2 (51:44):
It's something, but the cinnamon probably just give it some taste.
Speaker 5 (51:48):
That's probably like, du'nt get it some cinnamon. You don't
have some crocodile shit. Put a little cinnamon. O.
Speaker 2 (51:52):
No, no, no, no no. That was going in the kuchi.
They wasn't eating it.
Speaker 4 (51:54):
What do you think is so a birth control that
I've been recommended because I'm gaining weight because it's hormonal,
is the IUD. But then I've been hearing horror stories
for the IUD. People say it hurts more than childbird. Also,
not to mention the little the way people feel it.
I just don't want it to knock out a place
like I'm just I'm gonna just take this pill.
Speaker 2 (52:13):
I mean, there's a non hormonal one. I think that's
the copper one that Edan referenced for me. It's condoms.
That's what I use.
Speaker 5 (52:23):
I choose and I've gotten comfortable doing, especially because I'm
finally in a place where my skin is the best
it's ever been. I'm finally at my goal weight. I
feel great. I ain't have no home ones fuck me up.
I'll just get condom. Dick and I enjoy condem Dick
and it's fine. There is one thing I wanted to mention.
(52:44):
The only thing birth control is doing that is crazy.
I have no more period pain. It is completely gone. Well, yeah,
that's why a lot of times they suggest the pills
for women with endometriosystem fib because it could be so
painful because they exist, those often make the symptoms.
Speaker 2 (53:05):
The crazy thing, the cramping.
Speaker 4 (53:08):
Estrogen grows the fibrid, right, and I have a fibrid
about seven inches and it's been shrinking.
Speaker 1 (53:12):
It went down to six. My partner was like, that's.
Speaker 4 (53:15):
So fucking weird because when we went to the doctor
the last year it was bigger and you weren't on
birth control. Now it's smaller with the estrogen feeding it.
I think it all has to do with the fact
that just the hormones are balanced, Like I never have
been on birth control in my adulthood, just teenageer, like
(53:36):
you know that nineteen year old age condoms for me.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
I'm having sex.
Speaker 4 (53:41):
Almost every day, so I feel like it's just not
as shower sex, Like I just want something that makes
me feel safer. And especially when you guys get into
the book, you'll be like, oh, so I just I
don't know the pill. I'm gonna have to make it work.
I'm on the treadmill hunt. I'm going crazy carbs goodbye.
I literally walk it do different directions that I don't
go to my favorite pizza place. That's how difficult it is.
(54:04):
The craziest thing, too, is basically what's happened to me?
Unburst control with food I want to eat and it's
very loud. I find myself sneaking meals in my own home.
I'll like repackage something like I ain't need it because
I feel that much guilt. Oh damn, Like I'm hongry,
bitch long great and it sucks because it's like you
(54:27):
have to pick the lesser of two evils. So I
don't know either I'm gonna keep these wide hips y'all
gonna see them on tour, or I'm gonna get skinny
mini and you're gonna be like, did she doosn't bag? Which,
by the way, can't do that because you'll get pregnant.
Speaker 2 (54:43):
Oh yeah, we did talk about that, all right.
Speaker 5 (54:47):
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