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really interesting because I have a story that just happened
as well to tell and I think it's it's interesting
(01:40):
because it's a tell us all the time. So the
subject line for this is my partner is ashamed of
how we met.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Ain't that some shit?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
My nigga is too, see, we gotta get so well. Okay,
clearly y'all, y'all get story time when y'all listen to this.
But this is how we get to giving y'all some advice.
So let's get into the letter this week. It says,
Dear Mandy and Weezy, my man and I met on
a hinge in November of twenty twenty three, and we
(02:12):
have been locked in ever since.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I met his family and he has met mine. My
family loves.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Him, even my dad who told me to be nice
to him because he's a good one, which is true.
Now I love this man and I have no qualms
about how we met. I truly don't give a fuck
with anyone thinks of it. I just turned thirty this year,
and my family knows that I do shit. How the
fuck I feel like it, because that's how I was raised.
The people in my family that know how we met
(02:41):
are my sister and my niece who lived with me.
The rest of my family doesn't know, simply because they
never asked. However, my man is afraid to tell his
family the truth about how we met. When I first
met his father, my man just said, hey, don't mention it,
and I didn't think anything of it. But a few
months later we travel to another state where I met
(03:03):
his mother, aunt, sister, and niece's a nephew, and he
told me that if they ask how we met, I
am to tell them that we met at my job.
He claims that he is scared that they will judge
him and us, but that they won't accept it. But
I told him that it makes me uncomfortable to lie
about it and that it's nothing to be ashamed of,
but he insists that they can't handle it.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, handle it, girl.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Now we are quickly approaching two years. We have discussed marriage, kids,
and all of what our future will look like, but
he's still not okay with telling his family how we
met until after we are married. This to me is
stupid because if they're going to talk shit before we
get married, why would a wedding change anything. How can
(03:47):
I remove this stigma that he has put on our
origin story. I feel like he's really just afraid that
they're going to gossip about it behind his back.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
But his family is messy and they're gonna do it anyways.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
How do I get him to give less bucks about
what his shady, messy ass family thinks.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I love and.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Appreciate this show for all of its valuable discourse. Idio
advice would be awesome. Thanks sid aka Miss cloud Yo.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
His family's never asked me how he meant.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Really, but this is interesting because, okay, so this is
how I found out he did. He not a shamed shame,
but we had a different story. I met my man
on HDGE summer of twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Our first date was at Soho House Meat Package.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So we are watching on the cruise this couple's game
and in the couple's games they say where did you
first meet? Now, some of these couples they wanted to
date and time whatever. So the girl next to us
is just being playful. She's like, where'd y'all meet? We
said at the same time, and it was two different answers,
So I'm like, Nikka, we met on hen She's like,
our first meet was at soho. Wow, we did not
(05:00):
meet on hints. We met at the whole apps.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
So I'm laughing. The girl's laughing. He's being playful.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
He's just like, bro, like, I'm not gonna tell niggas
we met on hands and I'm like for real, and
he's like, I don't care. But at the same time, like, ugh,
I wish we met in real life. And I think
it's because of how people view dating apps, because at
the end of the day, were you desperate when you
were on there, or was it just sex or maybe
(05:29):
they think the relationship's not that serious any other thing.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I don't If his family.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Asked, I would have said it.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
But I don't think he's My man's not hiding it,
Like we never had a conversation like, don't you dare
tell anybody.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
He'd just be rolling his eyes when we talk about it.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
But I wonder if let's just say this dude's family
is not going to take the relationship serious maybe, or
they're gonna judge him, like you couldn't go out and
meet somebody like who knows. I can only understand certain
scenarios because whether they be religious or for a certain background,
they might look at it as ridiculous to meet somebody online.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I guess it could just be the dating app thing,
but I wonder, like if it's religious, if they have
certain traditions in their family.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
To me, online dating is.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Not taboo anymore, Like it's literally the way people date now.
And to know that she just turned thirty and they
met two years ago, it's just like, Bro, you're in
your twenties. Like, I don't see anything wrong with dating apps.
What's also funny is like I loved the origin stories
of my last two exes, both of which I met
(06:40):
online but not in dating apps. Like I met one
literally during the pandemic on Zoom. I loved telling that's
cool what we met on zoom because it was very
pandemic and then I'm not gonna lie. Me and my ex,
the actor Bay Bro, we loved telling people how we
met and how I was like, yeah, I was watching
(07:02):
this movie he was in and I thought he was cute.
So I looked up the cast and then I found
his Instagram and liked his pictures.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I just forgot that.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I just bro that is so no, girl, bet I
watched the movie he was in.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I watched the.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Movie he was in, and I was like, are you cute?
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Now?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, like are you cute? And ja I.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Literally and then I googled the cast and then mind you,
I ain't even know the nigguy ascent till we got
on the phone. I was like, maybe you was you
was American in the movie, or you was speaking English
but not English English like dead as well.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yeah, no, we we told like.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Even when I went to a movie premiere recently with him,
that's a cute origin story sharing that I met on tender.
But to me, that's the story I met on tender period.
Like literally, it's not that, like it's not even a
long way that like we met on tender the origin
(08:09):
story of even just saying that, that's it what I
don't I don't know if anything is wrong with that now.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
I mean I've been the two Hinge weddings, bro, like.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
That's my thing, the idea of Okay, then I guess
the advice. How would you actually?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
I have a question for the listener, why the fuck
doesn't matter? I was saying, if you realize that people
aren't even really asking how y'all met, why does it matter?
I also think what you could do is not harp
on it so much, because if a lot of people
aren't asking, I think literally make it a part.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Of your speech at the wedding.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
If he feels like they're gonna have so much to say, bitch,
bring it up at the wedding. I can't believe we're
walking down the aisle, we're cutting our cake and we
are married, and we met on hedge, like at that point,
like making a gag if it really means that.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Much to you, But do the first day thing like
my nigga been doing well.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
I mean, here's okay, I'm not mad.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I'sly like told people together, especially like when we're on
dates with women, where like we say hinge And actually
the most recent girl we slept with hold on. I
don't remember the game first, but that one bitch who
had a boyfriend, she met her man on hinge too,
and we were like connecting about dating apps and joking
about it. But I think that it's per audience, and
(09:35):
so I ain't go up front. If my man really
was like I really don't want my family to know,
I wouldn't care. And the reason being is like, you
know your people, you know the shit they be saying.
Maybe he already lied. Maybe he told his family like yo,
my oh, I didn't even think of that. Maybe he
told them a completely different story. Yes that's the So
(10:00):
at this point it'll look corny and lame. They really
gonna talk about his ass if you come in with
a different story. You know, I actually have that kind
of opposite thing happened with a friend of mine who
met a girl at a club and she don't like
telling people that she was working that night at the club.
(10:21):
And he'd be like, bro, I'm so fucking tired of
like me and her having a craft shit because he says,
like I know the truth. But he's like, we'll just
be on vacation and shit and she'll like just randomly
say some shit that ain't real, and he's like, bro,
you about a girl who cares?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Like who hears?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
The fuck?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Is there someone that you've met that you are embarrassed by?
How y'all met? Like, let me tell you what happened.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
So you.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I wish I had a difference.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Oh well, the first time we actually met in person
was a fucking fight.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
That's the point.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
That's very embarrassing. Hey, how did you meet the cool
effort to your New York Times bestseller? Wow, we were
fucking with the same guy. And then I old you
was not even fucking with that was yo, and you
was mad. He moved on with me, Randy continue d
you know what's crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So I was at a bar.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
I meet this couple and they're like as soon as
I walk in, he's like, yo, I was just trying
to tell her that I'm gonna bring her to Jamaica, bitch,
for the hedonism trip that I'm doing on Labor Day weekend.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
So he was like, it's so crazy you're here. Let
me get you a drink.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Da da da.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
So we sit in here talking to them.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
They are hilarious.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
They've been fucking with each other for ten years, but
she still fuck with both her baby daddies and so
she fucked with all three of them, and they all
know about each other and all this shit.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
It was crazy.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Anyways, we go to asking, Hey, how did y'all meet
when I tell you, he grabbed her legs so hard
to not say out, and then me and my best
friend was just like, oh god, right now we're interested.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
You know why?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You know how I think they met and he didn't
want to say it. Hm hm, bitch, I'm convinced, which
this will may be worse than hinge and tender. I
think they met on seeking arrangement.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh you say online?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Yeah, but maybe she could have just said Aline, all
I know is seeking arrangement got brought up.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
In the conversation and she was like, bitch, how you
know about That's like? What you know about that's like?
And I'm just like, oh, bitch, you don't know he's talking.
I knew about that when I was eighteen years old.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
I could drink.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Oh, let's be very clear.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
But yeah, so I could see I could see that
being I could see that could be an embarrassing way
to meet a partner.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
So not a partner, but one of my homegirls shout
out to be Hampton. There was a dude.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
That introduced her and I because he said, my homegirl
Brittany and you are just like y'all are gonna love
each other. Actually we were born one day apart. It
is crazy because Alex is the same way. I'm three seventeen.
Alex Media is three eighteen. Brittany Hampton three sixteen. So
he's like, oh, you love Brittany Hampton.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Da da da da.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Y'all are just like that.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Y'all got the same vibe.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Where have I heard this before?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
This nigga I used to fuck with told me, yo,
have you ever heard of a girl named Britney Hampton?
It's so funny because now everybody's gonna google her or
look her up on AG.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
I'm like, no, why. He's like, nah, you just kind
of remind me of her.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
So boom my homewoy introduced me to Brittany her and
ir vibe Da da da.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I'm like, you know, someone else told me I would
get along with you. She said whoa?
Speaker 3 (13:45):
I said his name?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
She was like, girl, tell me he was fucking that
nigga too.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
It's like, oh my god. She's like, wheezy, what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (13:54):
How's this nigga?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
She's like And then we're sitting there trying to go
from stories witch when he told you about me, April,
I was like, hey, yeah, the nigga probably was fucking
with the both of us and was like, nah, they
got the same energy.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Bitch.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Fast forward, I go on a date with a dude
in LA and if you guys remember this, if your
og listeners of horrible decisions, there was a guy went
on the first date with that held up my phone
to see where the fingerprint was because he said he
could guess my password.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
He was a virgin.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
So at this time, I'm just getting on the scene
in LA and I'm calling Brittany like, oh my god, girl,
I went on this crazy date and I tell her
about him.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
I was like, he was so fine though, but he's
a virgin. She said, bitch, don't tell me.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
His name is.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
I'm like that how he felt the same nigga and
we almost.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Felt another nigga bro. She was like, girl, he is
so fine, she said.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I was really sitting there. I think they went to
church and everything, because Brittany's a church girl. I'm still
waiting to get is it how y'all met? Like how
did y'all meet?
Speaker 1 (14:56):
The way we met is because we were introduced. Oh
you're talking about Brittany. I was trying to hear how
you met the guys?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh no, no, no to me, I'm saying it's not
a partner, but it's a friend because niggas basically said
we the same dog.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I'm telling you that shit is so crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
And when I was just crazy because she introduced me
to Kenya Barras because she was working on sets and shit,
and she was like, oh, you gotta meet my friend Whezy,
She's funny, blah blah blah. But what I was thinking
to myself was like, Yo, no one ever asked me
and Brittany how I know each other. But if they did,
when we'd be like, so this introduction would be we
were both fucking the same nigga, and they said that
(15:33):
we should be friends. Yes, Wow, that's funny. Now, any
I don't I don't think I have any like, I
don't know if she was fucking it.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Maybe they were just dating.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Can't say anyone don't even know if my friends had
text before she was dating a virgin as well.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Oh my god, it's so weird because how important is
an origin story of who you're daing?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Is that an important part of real It's only important?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And if he used to fuck your homeboy, I mean
you used to fuck his homeboy or like daddy or
like something like that.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
That's when you gotta lie that, right. I don't think
you need to lie about a day.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Oh, bitch, I feel like my man got one in
his family.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
No, no, no, no no. I think it was a
nigga he knew, but you like.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
I mean, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Girl passed around and then that girl ended up becoming
someone's fiance. So I was gonna say, there are if
there are some instances of niggas, I fuck that if
we ended up being together, I don't think I would
share the origin stories, Like there's certain niggas that.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I met, like I remember, and maybe y'all will read it.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
And I don't know how much I put in the book,
But like when I was young, I had a nigga
on the on the Golden State Warriors.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I'll never forget it.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
He brought me out and we had already been fucking
with each other for a couple of years. He brought
me uh to Golden State, went to the game, ended
up going out, but with like some of the teammates,
and bitch, when I tell you, he introduced me as
a friend. I ended up talking to three of his
teammates and fucking two of them stop handed and did
(17:13):
because I said.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Oh, I'm just a friend.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Well then if I'm just a friend, niggad slid straight
into my MySpace messages and I sure did entertain them.
And let me tell you, one of them ended up
being my first pegging story that's in the goddamn book.
So I like to say it worked out well for me.
You know, I read that story again yesterday because I
(17:39):
wanted to read the book start to finish, like how
people read it are experiencing it. Because I was reading
your chapters as they were coming in, probably like you
read mind like we read them as they come in.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
But now I was like on to field the emotion,
back to back, and I remember reading that shit or
were you talking about.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
The Porsche or something?
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, he picked me up in a Porsche girl, I
was And I was like, brom so crazy like this
when I was going back and forth. And then my
man was like, oh, I want to go and reread.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
The book in full now as well.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
So I'm on the phone today he said, Man, I'm
sitting here thinking my baby wrote a book.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
I'm opening this shit I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Nate was perfect.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
He had a big dick at a job he said
I was, so.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
I was like, listen.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I was like, when you get tired of me, just
go to Mandy's and then, you know, give yourself a break.
And then I was like, go read about Mandy pegging first,
because you feel like I ain't that bad.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Yeah, and that I think that that would be that
that to me though, like if you fucked, if you
fucked on somebody and met like their friend and then
the stuff ended up sucking their friend and then y'all
got together, the order story would have to be changed up.
Tender hinge everything but seeking arrangement or Ashley Madison, I
(18:58):
think online wise, it's fine to say y'all met on
an app. Yeah, I mean unless you were like a
sex worker, or if maybe if he doesn't want people
to know you're a stripper or shit like that. I've
been watching ninety Day Fiances Tell All and like there's
so much shame around. There's a throupole on there for
the first time, and one of them, the Threple, their
girlfriend is a stripper from Tijuan and they've blended families.
(19:22):
She's got children, they've got children, and it seems like
the way that they met is such a large conversation
online and it becomes the reason that when something goes
wrong in their relationship, people then revert back and say, oh, well,
it's because you met like this, So maybe that has
a lot to do with why your partner is trying
to hide it. But at the end of the day, girl,
(19:44):
I would play along for me if I just don't care,
I ain't gonna know what my family or my friends.
But if you're if you're that bent out of shape
about your own family whatever, Yeah, and he just needs
to get over it, because not everybody's as open like
or they don't talk about things as much, you know
what I mean. Like my man be in front of
(20:06):
me and my mom and he'd be looking like.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
What you told her he was there? Why did you
tell her were at the sex club? Whatever? Yeah, that's me.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I'm an overshare though, but I would say for you
writing and asking about it, I honestly think it's not
that big of a deal.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
That would be my thing.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
And if that's something that he doesn't want to share
with his family again, and everything else is so great
about him and he's this great guy, I actually wouldn't
harp on that that sound like to me, you just
want to find something to complain about, right, That's it,
That's what I feel.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Anyways, hope we out by sharing all of.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Our stories because we didn't really give you advice this week,
but dude, nobody cares.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I would say, just don't care.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
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If you would like to have us answer your questions.
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Guess what you've got Decisions. Welcome back, y'all.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
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that we could give you, baby, based on what we
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And before we get to this week's episode or this
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slass tickets. Now, this one, this letter this week is
really interesting because I have a story that just happened
as well to tell and I think it's it's interesting
(01:40):
because it's a tell us all the time. So the
subject line for this is my partner is ashamed of
how we met.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Ain't that some shit?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
My nigga is too, see, we gotta get so well. Okay,
clearly y'all, y'all get story time when y'all listen to this.
But this is how we get to giving y'all some advice.
So let's get into the letter this week. It says,
Dear Mandy and Weezy, my man and I met on
a hinge in November of twenty twenty three, and we
(02:12):
have been locked in ever since.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I met his family and he has met mine. My
family loves.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Him, even my dad who told me to be nice
to him because he's a good one, which is true.
Now I love this man and I have no qualms
about how we met. I truly don't give a fuck
with anyone thinks of it. I just turned thirty this year,
and my family knows that I do shit. How the
fuck I feel like it, because that's how I was raised.
The people in my family that know how we met
(02:41):
are my sister and my niece who lived with me.
The rest of my family doesn't know, simply because they
never asked. However, my man is afraid to tell his
family the truth about how we met. When I first
met his father, my man just said, hey, don't mention it,
and I didn't think anything of it. But a few
months later we travel to another state where I met
(03:03):
his mother, aunt, sister, and niece's a nephew, and he
told me that if they ask how we met, I
am to tell them that we met at my job.
He claims that he is scared that they will judge
him and us, but that they won't accept it. But
I told him that it makes me uncomfortable to lie
about it and that it's nothing to be ashamed of,
but he insists that they can't handle it.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, handle it, girl.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Now we are quickly approaching two years. We have discussed marriage, kids,
and all of what our future will look like, but
he's still not okay with telling his family how we
met until after we are married. This to me is
stupid because if they're going to talk shit before we
get married, why would a wedding change anything. How can
(03:47):
I remove this stigma that he has put on our
origin story. I feel like he's really just afraid that
they're going to gossip about it behind his back.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
But his family is messy and they're gonna do it anyways.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
How do I get him to give less bucks about
what his shady, messy ass family thinks.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I love and.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Appreciate this show for all of its valuable discourse. Idio
advice would be awesome. Thanks sid aka Miss cloud Yo.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
His family's never asked me how he meant.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Really, but this is interesting because, okay, so this is
how I found out he did. He not a shamed shame,
but we had a different story. I met my man
on HDGE summer of twenty twenty three.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Our first date was at Soho House Meat Package.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So we are watching on the cruise this couple's game
and in the couple's games they say where did you
first meet? Now, some of these couples they wanted to
date and time whatever. So the girl next to us
is just being playful. She's like, where'd y'all meet? We
said at the same time, and it was two different answers,
So I'm like, Nikka, we met on hen She's like,
our first meet was at soho. Wow, we did not
(05:00):
meet on hints. We met at the whole apps.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
So I'm laughing. The girl's laughing. He's being playful.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
He's just like, bro, like, I'm not gonna tell niggas
we met on hands and I'm like for real, and
he's like, I don't care. But at the same time, like, ugh,
I wish we met in real life. And I think
it's because of how people view dating apps, because at
the end of the day, were you desperate when you
were on there, or was it just sex or maybe
(05:29):
they think the relationship's not that serious any other thing.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
I don't If his family.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Asked, I would have said it.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
But I don't think he's My man's not hiding it,
Like we never had a conversation like, don't you dare
tell anybody.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
He'd just be rolling his eyes when we talk about it.
Speaker 2 (05:45):
But I wonder if let's just say this dude's family
is not going to take the relationship serious maybe, or
they're gonna judge him, like you couldn't go out and
meet somebody like who knows. I can only understand certain
scenarios because whether they be religious or for a certain background,
they might look at it as ridiculous to meet somebody online.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I guess.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I guess it could just be the dating app thing,
but I wonder, like if it's religious, if they have
certain traditions in their family.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
To me, online dating is.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Not taboo anymore, Like it's literally the way people date now.
And to know that she just turned thirty and they
met two years ago, it's just like, Bro, you're in
your twenties. Like, I don't see anything wrong with dating apps.
What's also funny is like I loved the origin stories
of my last two exes, both of which I met
(06:40):
online but not in dating apps. Like I met one
literally during the pandemic on Zoom. I loved telling that's
cool what we met on zoom because it was very
pandemic and then I'm not gonna lie. Me and my ex,
the actor Bay Bro, we loved telling people how we
met and how I was like, yeah, I was watching
(07:02):
this movie he was in and I thought he was cute.
So I looked up the cast and then I found
his Instagram and liked his pictures.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I just forgot that.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
I just bro that is so no, girl, bet I
watched the movie he was in.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I watched the.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Movie he was in, and I was like, are you cute?
Speaker 3 (07:19):
Now?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, like are you cute? And ja I.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Literally and then I googled the cast and then mind you,
I ain't even know the nigguy ascent till we got
on the phone. I was like, maybe you was you
was American in the movie, or you was speaking English
but not English English like dead as well.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Yeah, no, we we told like.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Even when I went to a movie premiere recently with him,
that's a cute origin story sharing that I met on tender.
But to me, that's the story I met on tender period.
Like literally, it's not that, like it's not even a
long way that like we met on tender the origin
(08:09):
story of even just saying that, that's it what I
don't I don't know if anything is wrong with that now.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
I mean I've been the two Hinge weddings, bro, like.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
That's my thing, the idea of Okay, then I guess
the advice. How would you actually?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
I have a question for the listener, why the fuck
doesn't matter? I was saying, if you realize that people
aren't even really asking how y'all met, why does it matter?
I also think what you could do is not harp
on it so much, because if a lot of people
aren't asking, I think literally make it a part.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Of your speech at the wedding.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
If he feels like they're gonna have so much to say, bitch,
bring it up at the wedding. I can't believe we're
walking down the aisle, we're cutting our cake and we
are married, and we met on hedge, like at that point,
like making a gag if it really means that.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Much to you, But do the first day thing like
my nigga been doing well.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
I mean, here's okay, I'm not mad.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I'sly like told people together, especially like when we're on
dates with women, where like we say hinge And actually
the most recent girl we slept with hold on. I
don't remember the game first, but that one bitch who
had a boyfriend, she met her man on hinge too,
and we were like connecting about dating apps and joking
about it. But I think that it's per audience, and
(09:35):
so I ain't go up front. If my man really
was like I really don't want my family to know,
I wouldn't care. And the reason being is like, you
know your people, you know the shit they be saying.
Maybe he already lied. Maybe he told his family like yo,
my oh, I didn't even think of that. Maybe he
told them a completely different story. Yes that's the So
(10:00):
at this point it'll look corny and lame. They really
gonna talk about his ass if you come in with
a different story. You know, I actually have that kind
of opposite thing happened with a friend of mine who
met a girl at a club and she don't like
telling people that she was working that night at the club.
(10:21):
And he'd be like, bro, I'm so fucking tired of
like me and her having a craft shit because he says,
like I know the truth. But he's like, we'll just
be on vacation and shit and she'll like just randomly
say some shit that ain't real, and he's like, bro,
you about a girl who cares?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Like who hears?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
The fuck?
Speaker 1 (10:45):
Is there someone that you've met that you are embarrassed by?
How y'all met? Like, let me tell you what happened.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
So you.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
I wish I had a difference.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Oh well, the first time we actually met in person
was a fucking fight.
Speaker 3 (11:00):
That's the point.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
That's very embarrassing. Hey, how did you meet the cool
effort to your New York Times bestseller? Wow, we were
fucking with the same guy. And then I old you
was not even fucking with that was yo, and you
was mad. He moved on with me, Randy continue d
you know what's crazy?
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So I was at a bar.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
I meet this couple and they're like as soon as
I walk in, he's like, yo, I was just trying
to tell her that I'm gonna bring her to Jamaica, bitch,
for the hedonism trip that I'm doing on Labor Day weekend.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
So he was like, it's so crazy you're here. Let
me get you a drink.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Da da da.
Speaker 1 (11:36):
So we sit in here talking to them.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
They are hilarious.
Speaker 2 (11:40):
They've been fucking with each other for ten years, but
she still fuck with both her baby daddies and so
she fucked with all three of them, and they all
know about each other and all this shit.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
It was crazy.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
Anyways, we go to asking, Hey, how did y'all meet
when I tell you, he grabbed her legs so hard
to not say out, and then me and my best
friend was just like, oh god, right now we're interested.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
You know why?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
You know how I think they met and he didn't
want to say it. Hm hm, bitch, I'm convinced, which
this will may be worse than hinge and tender. I
think they met on seeking arrangement.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Oh you say online?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Yeah, but maybe she could have just said Aline, all
I know is seeking arrangement got brought up.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
In the conversation and she was like, bitch, how you
know about That's like? What you know about that's like?
And I'm just like, oh, bitch, you don't know he's talking.
I knew about that when I was eighteen years old.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
I could drink.
Speaker 1 (12:41):
Oh, let's be very clear.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
But yeah, so I could see I could see that
being I could see that could be an embarrassing way
to meet a partner.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
So not a partner, but one of my homegirls shout
out to be Hampton. There was a dude.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
That introduced her and I because he said, my homegirl
Brittany and you are just like y'all are gonna love
each other. Actually we were born one day apart. It
is crazy because Alex is the same way. I'm three seventeen.
Alex Media is three eighteen. Brittany Hampton three sixteen. So
he's like, oh, you love Brittany Hampton.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Da da da da.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Y'all are just like that.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Y'all got the same vibe.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
Where have I heard this before?
Speaker 2 (13:22):
This nigga I used to fuck with told me, yo,
have you ever heard of a girl named Britney Hampton?
It's so funny because now everybody's gonna google her or
look her up on AG.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
I'm like, no, why. He's like, nah, you just kind
of remind me of her.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
So boom my homewoy introduced me to Brittany her and
ir vibe Da da da.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
I'm like, you know, someone else told me I would
get along with you. She said whoa?
Speaker 3 (13:45):
I said his name?
Speaker 1 (13:46):
She was like, girl, tell me he was fucking that
nigga too.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
It's like, oh my god. She's like, wheezy, what the fuck?
Speaker 1 (13:54):
How's this nigga?
Speaker 2 (13:56):
She's like And then we're sitting there trying to go
from stories witch when he told you about me, April,
I was like, hey, yeah, the nigga probably was fucking
with the both of us and was like, nah, they
got the same energy.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
Bitch.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Fast forward, I go on a date with a dude
in LA and if you guys remember this, if your
og listeners of horrible decisions, there was a guy went
on the first date with that held up my phone
to see where the fingerprint was because he said he
could guess my password.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
He was a virgin.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
So at this time, I'm just getting on the scene
in LA and I'm calling Brittany like, oh my god, girl,
I went on this crazy date and I tell her
about him.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
I was like, he was so fine though, but he's
a virgin. She said, bitch, don't tell me.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
His name is.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
I'm like that how he felt the same nigga and
we almost.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
Felt another nigga bro. She was like, girl, he is
so fine, she said.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I was really sitting there. I think they went to
church and everything, because Brittany's a church girl. I'm still
waiting to get is it how y'all met? Like how
did y'all meet?
Speaker 1 (14:56):
The way we met is because we were introduced. Oh
you're talking about Brittany. I was trying to hear how
you met the guys?
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh no, no, no to me, I'm saying it's not
a partner, but it's a friend because niggas basically said
we the same dog.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I'm telling you that shit is so crazy.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
And when I was just crazy because she introduced me
to Kenya Barras because she was working on sets and shit,
and she was like, oh, you gotta meet my friend Whezy,
She's funny, blah blah blah. But what I was thinking
to myself was like, Yo, no one ever asked me
and Brittany how I know each other. But if they did,
when we'd be like, so this introduction would be we
were both fucking the same nigga, and they said that
(15:33):
we should be friends. Yes, Wow, that's funny. Now, any
I don't I don't think I have any like, I
don't know if she was fucking it.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Maybe they were just dating.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Can't say anyone don't even know if my friends had
text before she was dating a virgin as well.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Oh my god, it's so weird because how important is
an origin story of who you're daing?
Speaker 2 (16:00):
Is that?
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Is that an important part of real It's only important?
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And if he used to fuck your homeboy, I mean
you used to fuck his homeboy or like daddy or
like something like that.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
That's when you gotta lie that, right. I don't think
you need to lie about a day.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
Oh, bitch, I feel like my man got one in
his family.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
No, no, no, no no. I think it was a
nigga he knew, but you like.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
I mean, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Girl passed around and then that girl ended up becoming
someone's fiance. So I was gonna say, there are if
there are some instances of niggas, I fuck that if
we ended up being together, I don't think I would
share the origin stories, Like there's certain niggas that.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
I met, like I remember, and maybe y'all will read it.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
And I don't know how much I put in the book,
But like when I was young, I had a nigga
on the on the Golden State Warriors.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I'll never forget it.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
He brought me out and we had already been fucking
with each other for a couple of years. He brought
me uh to Golden State, went to the game, ended
up going out, but with like some of the teammates,
and bitch, when I tell you, he introduced me as
a friend. I ended up talking to three of his
teammates and fucking two of them stop handed and did
(17:13):
because I said.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Oh, I'm just a friend.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Well then if I'm just a friend, niggad slid straight
into my MySpace messages and I sure did entertain them.
And let me tell you, one of them ended up
being my first pegging story that's in the goddamn book.
So I like to say it worked out well for me.
You know, I read that story again yesterday because I
(17:39):
wanted to read the book start to finish, like how
people read it are experiencing it. Because I was reading
your chapters as they were coming in, probably like you
read mind like we read them as they come in.
Speaker 3 (17:49):
But now I was like on to field the emotion,
back to back, and I remember reading that shit or
were you talking about.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
The Porsche or something?
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Yeah, he picked me up in a Porsche girl, I
was And I was like, brom so crazy like this
when I was going back and forth. And then my
man was like, oh, I want to go and reread.
Speaker 3 (18:09):
The book in full now as well.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
So I'm on the phone today he said, Man, I'm
sitting here thinking my baby wrote a book.
Speaker 3 (18:17):
I'm opening this shit I'm talking about.
Speaker 1 (18:18):
Nate was perfect.
Speaker 3 (18:20):
He had a big dick at a job he said
I was, so.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
I was like, listen.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
I was like, when you get tired of me, just
go to Mandy's and then, you know, give yourself a break.
And then I was like, go read about Mandy pegging first,
because you feel like I ain't that bad.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
Yeah, and that I think that that would be that
that to me though, like if you fucked, if you
fucked on somebody and met like their friend and then
the stuff ended up sucking their friend and then y'all
got together, the order story would have to be changed up.
Tender hinge everything but seeking arrangement or Ashley Madison, I
(18:58):
think online wise, it's fine to say y'all met on
an app. Yeah, I mean unless you were like a
sex worker, or if maybe if he doesn't want people
to know you're a stripper or shit like that. I've
been watching ninety Day Fiances Tell All and like there's
so much shame around. There's a throupole on there for
the first time, and one of them, the Threple, their
girlfriend is a stripper from Tijuan and they've blended families.
(19:22):
She's got children, they've got children, and it seems like
the way that they met is such a large conversation
online and it becomes the reason that when something goes
wrong in their relationship, people then revert back and say, oh, well,
it's because you met like this, So maybe that has
a lot to do with why your partner is trying
to hide it. But at the end of the day, girl,
(19:44):
I would play along for me if I just don't care,
I ain't gonna know what my family or my friends.
But if you're if you're that bent out of shape
about your own family whatever, Yeah, and he just needs
to get over it, because not everybody's as open like
or they don't talk about things as much, you know
what I mean. Like my man be in front of
(20:06):
me and my mom and he'd be looking like.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
What you told her he was there? Why did you
tell her were at the sex club? Whatever? Yeah, that's me.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I'm an overshare though, but I would say for you
writing and asking about it, I honestly think it's not
that big of a deal.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
That would be my thing.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
And if that's something that he doesn't want to share
with his family again, and everything else is so great
about him and he's this great guy, I actually wouldn't
harp on that that sound like to me, you just
want to find something to complain about, right, That's it,
That's what I feel.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
Anyways, hope we out by sharing all of.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Our stories because we didn't really give you advice this week,
but dude, nobody cares.
Speaker 1 (20:49):
I would say, just don't care.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
Anyways, we are looking forward to seeing all of you
guys in person at the NHB tool go ahead, because
we're still horrible. Get your tickets NHB tour dot com
and we'll see you there and we'll see you next Bye,
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