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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible threatfle guess what you've got.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Decisions, You've got. Decision long. Happy humpday, everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
We're back for another one, and today I believe this
is our first update. Y'all need to be updating us
more because we really be sitting there in the comment
telling a bitch what to do.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
We really be giving y'all the tea on what to do,
and we don't know if you did it. By the way,
if you have any question that you want advice from
us for make sure you email us Decisions Pod at
gmail dot com. We do have an update and let's
see what happened. So this comes from the listener who
(00:52):
was the only entrepreneurial friend. She said, Hi, Mandy and Weezy,
I just finished the episode where you addressed my questions,
and thank you, thank you, thank you. You both are
incredibly motivating and helpful. I just wanted to follow up
and let you know that between my email and now,
I have talked with my girlfriends, made the effort to
(01:13):
see them more, and we all understand that this chapter
of mind is something I really care about and need
to focus on at the moment, not only to retire
my mom, but also so I can be in that
first class with a late flat for my next trip.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
We are in our late twenties and have been friends
for eight years.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Like Weezy said, they aren't going.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Anywhere and they love me and will always support me,
which has never wavered. I guess I just needed a
reminder since this journey with my mom has been such
a blessing but also isolating in ways. Thank you again,
and I'm manifesting our paths crossing one day.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
By the way, she did o he girl? She did?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Go ahead, and if you guys want to support her,
the business is nan Tucket Boundcookies dot Com.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yes she did. Hold on, now I'm about to do
so you. I did a whole thing that you did
that sh it on purpose?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Ho?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
What she did? What? What's the problem? Could she dropped
that motherfucking shit? You know? She says? That was a ps.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
If you're curious about the business, this is what it is.
And let me know how I've done so far.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Now, look, hold on, Nanta is she black? Do we know?
Check the name?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I don't know Okay, let me. I can't tell her
she's black. I don't know Nantuck. You know, Nantucket is
particularly right. Our online minimum orders five cookies. Due to
the rising class, we've increased our prices. Okay, bitch, flatbit, Okay,
hold on, is she may be black? It's her name
is Tino with two eyes.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
That is not actually the name of the emails. So
maybe that's just someone else.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Oh, it says fer Nandez too, so oh damn, I hope, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I'm not gonna give the last name.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
I am seeing the full name in her email, and
it is giving white and she says mom, so she's
also British.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I assume. Anyway, let me tell you something, white lady,
you lucky it was.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm gonna just pretend that you might be a little
gay because it was Pride week.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
It would do a free ad for that.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
And you know, I'm allergic to egg So whenever we're
in Boston, because I feel like that's close to Nantucket,
I expect eggless cookies.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
All right, Well, for this week's You've Got Decisions, here
is the subject line posts I ud dick a blessing
curse or a challenge.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Hey, y'all.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
First off, I just want to say how much I
love you both. I seriously admire your tenacity, grit, vulnerability,
boss bitch energy, and the way you show up so
authentically for the world. Thank you for being exactly who
you are. And congrats on your new slash tour. That's right, baby,
make sure you get your tickets now at HP tour
dot com. Now onto my reason for writing, your girl
(04:07):
needs some advice. I've been with my man for six
years now. I love him down. He's my best friend,
my ride or die, and our sex life is thriving
like one hundred out of ten best dick I've ever had.
I always knew he was packing. Don't ask me the
exact size. Neither of us have measured, not for the
lack of trying on my part, But ever since I
(04:28):
got my IUD out, which I had for almost ten years,
even before we met, things have felt intense. As a
proud hope for life, I've always prided myself on being
able to handle whatever dick comes my way, but this
is next level. Honestly, it feels like he's hitting my
cervix when he's all the way in. It's not just full.
(04:52):
Sometimes it's straight up uncomfortable, even unpleasant, to the point
where I have to ask him not to go so
deep and trust he does everything right. He'll finger me
or eat me out until I'm super wet slash squirting
before moving on too penetrative sex. He takes his time,
tries different positions, focuses on my pleasure, gives me positive reinforcement,
(05:15):
and coaches me through all of it. When I asked
him if sex feels different for him, he said it doesn't,
but you can tell when it's too much for me
and will pull out a bit. He also told me
he used to feel the strings for my IUD, even
after my ghyo cut them shorter, so he'd pull out
a few inches so they wouldn't poke him.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I was like, sorry, a few inches.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Part of me feels rob slash bamboozled, but another part
of me is like, Wow, this man really loves me
and is attentive to my knees. Quickbackstory. When we first
started dating, he mentioned a stabbing feeling during sex, so
I went to my guano and asked her to trim
the IUD strings. She was surprised he could feel them
at all, but she cut them as short as possible,
(06:01):
just enough still check that they were in place. Well,
maybe it's a pride thing, but I really want to
be able to take all of him and enjoy it.
We're still having same tantalizing to curling my numbing, nasty,
sexy sex, but I want to be able to handle
everything he's got. Would love to hear your thoughts now.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I've holed up a little something about iud's just so
we can all hear it. So while most partners don't
feel anything, twenty seven percent of men steal the strings,
around half of it believe it interviews with sex, and
if the strings are too long or haven't softened, it's
more notable.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Noticeable. For the strings are.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Plastic strings that are long enough for a doctor to
remove the IUD, so that's basically why the strings are there,
and they're usually trimmed to a link that lies against
the cervix, so it's not supposed to be painful for
a partner, but it does kind of change the way
that the vagina can feel. And honestly, like there's just
(07:04):
so many things that I've been hearing about the i D.
I'm just pulling up something from NPR. We might have
already read it where doctors are urged to treat pain
for IUD insertion.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Have you seen this? Do we talk about?
Speaker 2 (07:15):
So basically, the IUD is known to be so painful
that and people say it's excruciating.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I think there was even someone as that.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Said it was close to like a quick feeling of childbirth,
Like that's how painful. And so basically it's now recommended
by the American College of Obgyns that these procedures have
an urgent need for Lyda Kane and local anesthetic, not
like you know when they do the dental blocks, like
(07:44):
in some cases even anesthesia because it's that painful. So
I say all that to say, there's been so many
things that have come about with the IUD, so many changes,
so many conversations. I have always felt like the IUD
is not in its best form.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Yet oh I agree. I agree, because it's just a
little too much.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
And don't get me wrong, when I was on the
show talking about how I was getting weight from pills, people.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Were like, IUD, IUD. But an issue I hear.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Most often is pain or some kind of sensation with
the IUD. So the one thing I will say, is
if it's prohibiting your sex life in a way that's
bothers them to both of you, I would get rid
of it, like if it was uncomfortable, but the fact
that he's happy you guys are still having mind blowing sex.
(08:34):
I wouldn't take it out. Wait, I don't know if
you listened she removed it. No, no, no, I'm saying
like I wouldn't take it out. I'm just like giving no.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
She does take it out. She did take it out,
that's what she's saying. But she was saying, what do
I do? No? The letter, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
The letter was saying that she had the IUD for
ten years. Even with the IUD, she cut the strings
while she had it because that was she now has
taken out the IUD and sex is painful for her,
and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
On the i D was blocking a dick.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
It literally says post IUD dick, she can't take it.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
She doesn't know what's wrong with her. So for me,
so there's a few things right. I don't know if
removing the IUD caused any sort of trauma. That maybe
what you're experiencing is the level of vaginismus where it's
getting or like maybe you need to go to pulvic
floor therapy to like maybe there's literally something contracting.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
From the removal of it, or.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Or only because I had a friend who used to
say that pain was excruciatingly painful to her and it
was because of a fibroid, which I don't know if y'all, y'all,
y'all will listen to the episode coming up. But I
recently got a new sex partner whose dick is massive,
(10:05):
and the first two times we fucked, it was excruciating like.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
It was painful. It was so painful, and I was like, damn,
like it was so painful.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
It made me want to go see my primary care
physician because I was like, bitch, if there's something in me,
do I have a pybroid? Has my anatomy change? Like
I literally was like, something ain't right because bit me too.
I am prideful about how well I can take some dick,
especially big, long, girthy dick. So to me, if you're
(10:38):
experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually
bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get
an ultrasound and just see kind of what's happening, because
it could actually be something completely different. And it is
strange that with the IUD the sex was fine. Before
the IUD, the sex was fine and he had an
(11:00):
issue with filling the strings. But now that the ID
has removed, you literally don't you can't take his dick.
I would say that there's probably something else happening, and
I would I would say, go get that checked.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
A lot of women are experiencing pain during sex and
shalking it up to anything but getting checked, like they're
not using enough flube, they're not.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Accounting for dryness.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Also, the second that you're assuming you're about to feel pain,
your body's gonna tense up, right.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
So I did pelvic.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Floor therapy for a few months and it helped me tremendously,
Like my body started to clench at the thought of
entry because I had experienced pain. So I'm not really
sure why it's happening. I'm also not really sure why
you think. Mandy and I got the answers. But what
I would say is, I'm glad you took it out
because it seems like it was something that was like
(11:51):
an issue in your head. But I'm also really scared
for the future of like I don't know, contraceptives, Like
knowing that you've already had this traumatic issue, it's like, fuck,
are you going to be scared for the next thing?
Because the most women that choose the IUD want something
non hormonal, like they want to not be able to
get those cravings and pimples or acne or mood twings
(12:14):
all that shit, So it's like, fuck.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
I did.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
I did also end up because when I took the y'all,
y'all don't understand, I literally could not take this man's dick.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
And I was embarrassed because bitch I.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Was a runner in a track star because I was
running really fast from that goddamn dick. And so for me,
the next time we fucked was like maybe two weeks later,
and I was able to take it. And so what's
crazy is I actually ended up looking up if it
had anything to do with my cycle, and in fact,
there is a correlation between your pussy and size and
(12:54):
where you are in your ovulation cycle. So I do
want to share this because I just looked at it
and then you're in your ovulation.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Cycle nothing to do with dick size, like.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Especially if you're a woman who just you feel like
you could take dick like good For me, I was like, damn,
I was trying to blame everything, but having a size
that's but no, anyone would a pussy.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
During your cycle.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Literally, I don't know if y'all have the flow app
or whatever you do, but your pussy actually does change
in size during different moments within your ovulation cycle. So
after ovulation, hormones drop and the vagina may feel less
flexible and even drier, leading to the perception of tightness.
And then of course with increased levels of estrogen and
(13:42):
progesterone that makes the vagina more lubricated and actually.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Elastic during that time.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
So if you look at your and maybe I'll put
this on Patreon or maybe I'll see if there's a
chart that I could put it on our our thing.
But there are little moments within your cycle where your
vagina will be tighter than other moments, and so I
would look and maybe use that track when your cycle
is I know you may be someone who fucks often, especially.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
If you really really really really really.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Like having sex with this man and y'all been together
for so long, I would say maybe track that and
I think.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
My favorite person is probably thrown off because of the
IUD too, Like what do you mean just I'm saying,
just like you knowing removing the ID, Like, who knows,
maybe her cycle is not the same, Like I'm really
hoping that it is, because I think it's really helpful
to give to any guyno your last period and the
trends of your period, like that is so important, especially
(14:47):
when there was a Sex and the City episode. Y'all know,
I referenced it all the time, but basically Charlotte had
vaginus miss or no it was volvidinia, and she had
to do a vagina journal of what it felt like
for the day, if there was dryness, wetness, like whatever
was going on. And so in the slow app or
different period apps, I use a different one. There's literally
(15:08):
notes for that. I do the same thing, like if
I see a little blood earlier, I'm like boo boop
like and not track it. And I literally handed to
the guy and I'm like, here was my fussy.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Here are the details I also wanted to add to
in terms of your period, because y'all listen. First off,
y'all got us being googlers over here and doctors.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
We are not doctors.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
However, I wanted to add though, because you mentioned in
your email that you feel like he's hitting your cervix.
The position of your cervix actually does change throughout your
tie your cycle, so it gets typically the lowest mid
cycle and at its highest at the start and end.
So that clearly makes the amount of room inside of
(15:51):
your vagina different. And of course changes in hormones too
could have your cervix move in cervical mute. Some vaginal
fluids changes well during your mental cycle. But that's the thing.
If you feel like he's hitting something, he actually may be,
and it may be because of where you're at in
your cycle.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Kind of like what Weezy said though, the.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Fact that hormonal changes are probably different now that you've
removed the IUD, it could just be thrown all of
it and maybe you'll starvex the sin lower than normal.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Because if you have the IUD for this long, for.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Anyone listening when you have vaginal pain, the best advice
I've got from a doctor was like being able to
describe your pain, because I was really even confused even
when you mentioned removal in the beginning of the thing.
It's so confusing because you associate the entry of the
IUD and the IUD itself to be the pain. So
(16:45):
what I would say is describing the pain so that
you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness.
There's another one that I remember my doctor was telling
me it like burning. When we hear burning, we.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Think a lot of times like STD type of p burn.
And it's not that. It's just like, you know, if
something's really raw.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Almost think if you're like putting on lotion and you're
like sunburned like that, that's the burn where it.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Feels very tender.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Like figuring out the words to describe your pain because
you're gonna go down to google hole, bitch and.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Wait a second, now you now you got me thinking
when I was taking that dick, how would I describe
the pain?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
You know what's crazy?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
I literally, first off, I felt he was right in
my belly button, So I literally felt like he was
in my stomach like for one and I was just
like what the fog like to the point where like
after we were done, I felt like I could still
feel him in me, like in my stomach, Like I
(17:47):
felt like he punched me in my stomach.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I don't think I was feeling poking as much.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
You know what that that what I heard too, is
that's a uti. Could be tenderness. I don't know if
you just got back from can I was just going
or whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
But water, bitch, a uk dehydration feeling like when when
you are UTI during sex can give you that feeling too.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
It's like inflammation. And then there's another thing.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Oh well, not just scary because I mean, well this
didn't happen, because you want to know, my homegirl's uterus
tilted from a big dick. And she said that she remembered.
She like tells the joke all the time when we're drunk.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
She's like, bitch, I'm gonna tell you what have thee
with Disney?
Speaker 2 (18:30):
And she always says, I said, it's in my stamach
And she said when he pulled out, she felt a
movement getting the fuck out of here. Bruh. She's been
to r LA, shows you met her. I'm telling you
the bitch every time she told the story. And the
last time I saw her too, we were out somewhere
and I was like, bitch, tell so, and so she.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Was like, how he fuck off?
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Puss you up, and I was like, girl, no about
your recent move, like no, like she's so used to
telling the story because it's so unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
But I'm not gonna lie like I wouldn't think that
a dick could be too big to move anything around.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
But not only is this dick really big, it got
a curve.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
So I'm not gonna hold you. I feel like he
he rearranged my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you
like so, I wouldn't doubt that something is happening up
in there and that he might tilt drop something with something.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Nigga, what's she? This ain't an tucky No, no, no,
no no, this is no no, we not no wait
hold on, let me.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I don't look gonna same nigga because she said he
said that she been with this man for six years,
So I don't fucking. I am not fucking anybody with
a girlfriend. This is not horrible decisions from eight years ago. Okay,
the nigga is very single, very single, and destroying my insights. Anyways,
(19:58):
we do hope that you go to a doctor. I
would say that and like Wes said, explain your pain
to them. I would advocate for an ultrasound and make
sure that everything is where it needs to be, or
that you don't have anything extra growing inside of you,
because we don't think you both.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Wheeling you and Mandy around on.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
The NHB tour. Make sure you go, because we are
still horrible. Go and get your tickets right now for
nhbtour dot com. There, it's gonna be the live shows
that you always know. We are literally blending in the
book into our live shows. So some of the stories
you read, we're bringing the pages to the stages.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That's all right, and we're excited to see you guys
are there. I really really really hope we were able
to help you. We clearly you just made me talk
about addict. That's big to me too and was painful,
but now I feel like I'm used to it.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
So I did take it the third time, but I
would maybe do that too.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
Maybe just keep fucking yeah men, follow the thread and
be like, let me tell you what's going on my mind.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Pussys listen.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Anyways, guys, thank y'all, and once again, if you want
advice from us or you want us to share our
big dick stories, just like y'all big dick stories go
ahead and send it into us Decisions Pod at gmail
dot com, and we will see y'all next week.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
Bye, everybody,
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible threatfle guess what you've got.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Decisions, You've got. Decision long. Happy humpday, everybody.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
We're back for another one, and today I believe this
is our first update. Y'all need to be updating us
more because we really be sitting there in the comment
telling a bitch what to do.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
We really be giving y'all the tea on what to do,
and we don't know if you did it. By the way,
if you have any question that you want advice from
us for make sure you email us Decisions Pod at
gmail dot com. We do have an update and let's
see what happened. So this comes from the listener who
(00:52):
was the only entrepreneurial friend. She said, Hi, Mandy and Weezy,
I just finished the episode where you addressed my questions,
and thank you, thank you, thank you. You both are
incredibly motivating and helpful. I just wanted to follow up
and let you know that between my email and now,
I have talked with my girlfriends, made the effort to
(01:13):
see them more, and we all understand that this chapter
of mind is something I really care about and need
to focus on at the moment, not only to retire
my mom, but also so I can be in that
first class with a late flat for my next trip.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
We are in our late twenties and have been friends
for eight years.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
Like Weezy said, they aren't going.
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Anywhere and they love me and will always support me,
which has never wavered. I guess I just needed a
reminder since this journey with my mom has been such
a blessing but also isolating in ways. Thank you again,
and I'm manifesting our paths crossing one day.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
By the way, she did o he girl? She did?
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Go ahead, and if you guys want to support her,
the business is nan Tucket Boundcookies dot Com.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Yes she did. Hold on, now I'm about to do
so you. I did a whole thing that you did
that sh it on purpose?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Ho?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
What she did? What? What's the problem? Could she dropped
that motherfucking shit? You know? She says? That was a ps.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
If you're curious about the business, this is what it is.
And let me know how I've done so far.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Now, look, hold on, Nanta is she black? Do we know?
Check the name?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I don't know Okay, let me. I can't tell her
she's black. I don't know Nantuck. You know, Nantucket is
particularly right. Our online minimum orders five cookies. Due to
the rising class, we've increased our prices. Okay, bitch, flatbit, Okay,
hold on, is she may be black? It's her name
is Tino with two eyes.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
That is not actually the name of the emails. So
maybe that's just someone else.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Oh, it says fer Nandez too, so oh damn, I hope, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I'm not gonna give the last name.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
I am seeing the full name in her email, and
it is giving white and she says mom, so she's
also British.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
I assume. Anyway, let me tell you something, white lady,
you lucky it was.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm gonna just pretend that you might be a little
gay because it was Pride week.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
It would do a free ad for that.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
And you know, I'm allergic to egg So whenever we're
in Boston, because I feel like that's close to Nantucket,
I expect eggless cookies.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
All right, Well, for this week's You've Got Decisions, here
is the subject line posts I ud dick a blessing
curse or a challenge.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Hey, y'all.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
First off, I just want to say how much I
love you both. I seriously admire your tenacity, grit, vulnerability,
boss bitch energy, and the way you show up so
authentically for the world. Thank you for being exactly who
you are. And congrats on your new slash tour. That's right, baby,
make sure you get your tickets now at HP tour
dot com. Now onto my reason for writing, your girl
(04:07):
needs some advice. I've been with my man for six
years now. I love him down. He's my best friend,
my ride or die, and our sex life is thriving
like one hundred out of ten best dick I've ever had.
I always knew he was packing. Don't ask me the
exact size. Neither of us have measured, not for the
lack of trying on my part, But ever since I
(04:28):
got my IUD out, which I had for almost ten years,
even before we met, things have felt intense. As a
proud hope for life, I've always prided myself on being
able to handle whatever dick comes my way, but this
is next level. Honestly, it feels like he's hitting my
cervix when he's all the way in. It's not just full.
(04:52):
Sometimes it's straight up uncomfortable, even unpleasant, to the point
where I have to ask him not to go so
deep and trust he does everything right. He'll finger me
or eat me out until I'm super wet slash squirting
before moving on too penetrative sex. He takes his time,
tries different positions, focuses on my pleasure, gives me positive reinforcement,
(05:15):
and coaches me through all of it. When I asked
him if sex feels different for him, he said it doesn't,
but you can tell when it's too much for me
and will pull out a bit. He also told me
he used to feel the strings for my IUD, even
after my ghyo cut them shorter, so he'd pull out
a few inches so they wouldn't poke him.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I was like, sorry, a few inches.
Speaker 3 (05:39):
Part of me feels rob slash bamboozled, but another part
of me is like, Wow, this man really loves me
and is attentive to my knees. Quickbackstory. When we first
started dating, he mentioned a stabbing feeling during sex, so
I went to my guano and asked her to trim
the IUD strings. She was surprised he could feel them
at all, but she cut them as short as possible,
(06:01):
just enough still check that they were in place. Well,
maybe it's a pride thing, but I really want to
be able to take all of him and enjoy it.
We're still having same tantalizing to curling my numbing, nasty,
sexy sex, but I want to be able to handle
everything he's got. Would love to hear your thoughts now.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
I've holed up a little something about iud's just so
we can all hear it. So while most partners don't
feel anything, twenty seven percent of men steal the strings,
around half of it believe it interviews with sex, and
if the strings are too long or haven't softened, it's
more notable.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Noticeable. For the strings are.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Plastic strings that are long enough for a doctor to
remove the IUD, so that's basically why the strings are there,
and they're usually trimmed to a link that lies against
the cervix, so it's not supposed to be painful for
a partner, but it does kind of change the way
that the vagina can feel. And honestly, like there's just
(07:04):
so many things that I've been hearing about the i D.
I'm just pulling up something from NPR. We might have
already read it where doctors are urged to treat pain
for IUD insertion.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Have you seen this? Do we talk about?
Speaker 2 (07:15):
So basically, the IUD is known to be so painful
that and people say it's excruciating.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
I think there was even someone as that.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Said it was close to like a quick feeling of childbirth,
Like that's how painful. And so basically it's now recommended
by the American College of Obgyns that these procedures have
an urgent need for Lyda Kane and local anesthetic, not
like you know when they do the dental blocks, like
(07:44):
in some cases even anesthesia because it's that painful. So
I say all that to say, there's been so many
things that have come about with the IUD, so many changes,
so many conversations. I have always felt like the IUD
is not in its best form.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Yet oh I agree. I agree, because it's just a
little too much.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
And don't get me wrong, when I was on the
show talking about how I was getting weight from pills, people.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
Were like, IUD, IUD. But an issue I hear.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Most often is pain or some kind of sensation with
the IUD. So the one thing I will say, is
if it's prohibiting your sex life in a way that's
bothers them to both of you, I would get rid
of it, like if it was uncomfortable, but the fact
that he's happy you guys are still having mind blowing sex.
(08:34):
I wouldn't take it out. Wait, I don't know if
you listened she removed it. No, no, no, I'm saying
like I wouldn't take it out. I'm just like giving no.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
She does take it out. She did take it out,
that's what she's saying. But she was saying, what do
I do? No? The letter, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
The letter was saying that she had the IUD for
ten years. Even with the IUD, she cut the strings
while she had it because that was she now has
taken out the IUD and sex is painful for her,
and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
On the i D was blocking a dick.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
No.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
It literally says post IUD dick, she can't take it.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
She doesn't know what's wrong with her. So for me,
so there's a few things right. I don't know if
removing the IUD caused any sort of trauma. That maybe
what you're experiencing is the level of vaginismus where it's
getting or like maybe you need to go to pulvic
floor therapy to like maybe there's literally something contracting.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
From the removal of it, or.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Or only because I had a friend who used to
say that pain was excruciatingly painful to her and it
was because of a fibroid, which I don't know if y'all, y'all,
y'all will listen to the episode coming up. But I
recently got a new sex partner whose dick is massive,
(10:05):
and the first two times we fucked, it was excruciating like.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
It was painful. It was so painful, and I was like, damn,
like it was so painful.
Speaker 3 (10:15):
It made me want to go see my primary care
physician because I was like, bitch, if there's something in me,
do I have a pybroid? Has my anatomy change? Like
I literally was like, something ain't right because bit me too.
I am prideful about how well I can take some dick,
especially big, long, girthy dick. So to me, if you're
(10:38):
experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually
bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get
an ultrasound and just see kind of what's happening, because
it could actually be something completely different. And it is
strange that with the IUD the sex was fine. Before
the IUD, the sex was fine and he had an
(11:00):
issue with filling the strings. But now that the ID
has removed, you literally don't you can't take his dick.
I would say that there's probably something else happening, and
I would I would say, go get that checked.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
A lot of women are experiencing pain during sex and
shalking it up to anything but getting checked, like they're
not using enough flube, they're not.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Accounting for dryness.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
Also, the second that you're assuming you're about to feel pain,
your body's gonna tense up, right.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
So I did pelvic.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Floor therapy for a few months and it helped me tremendously,
Like my body started to clench at the thought of
entry because I had experienced pain. So I'm not really
sure why it's happening. I'm also not really sure why
you think. Mandy and I got the answers. But what
I would say is, I'm glad you took it out
because it seems like it was something that was like
(11:51):
an issue in your head. But I'm also really scared
for the future of like I don't know, contraceptives, Like
knowing that you've already had this traumatic issue, it's like, fuck,
are you going to be scared for the next thing?
Because the most women that choose the IUD want something
non hormonal, like they want to not be able to
get those cravings and pimples or acne or mood twings
(12:14):
all that shit, So it's like, fuck.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
I did.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
I did also end up because when I took the y'all,
y'all don't understand, I literally could not take this man's dick.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
And I was embarrassed because bitch I.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
Was a runner in a track star because I was
running really fast from that goddamn dick. And so for me,
the next time we fucked was like maybe two weeks later,
and I was able to take it. And so what's
crazy is I actually ended up looking up if it
had anything to do with my cycle, and in fact,
there is a correlation between your pussy and size and
(12:54):
where you are in your ovulation cycle. So I do
want to share this because I just looked at it
and then you're in your ovulation.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Cycle nothing to do with dick size, like.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Especially if you're a woman who just you feel like
you could take dick like good For me, I was like, damn,
I was trying to blame everything, but having a size
that's but no, anyone would a pussy.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
During your cycle.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Literally, I don't know if y'all have the flow app
or whatever you do, but your pussy actually does change
in size during different moments within your ovulation cycle. So
after ovulation, hormones drop and the vagina may feel less
flexible and even drier, leading to the perception of tightness.
And then of course with increased levels of estrogen and
(13:42):
progesterone that makes the vagina more lubricated and actually.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Elastic during that time.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
So if you look at your and maybe I'll put
this on Patreon or maybe I'll see if there's a
chart that I could put it on our our thing.
But there are little moments within your cycle where your
vagina will be tighter than other moments, and so I
would look and maybe use that track when your cycle
is I know you may be someone who fucks often, especially.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
If you really really really really really.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Like having sex with this man and y'all been together
for so long, I would say maybe track that and
I think.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
My favorite person is probably thrown off because of the
IUD too, Like what do you mean just I'm saying,
just like you knowing removing the ID, Like, who knows,
maybe her cycle is not the same, Like I'm really
hoping that it is, because I think it's really helpful
to give to any guyno your last period and the
trends of your period, like that is so important, especially
(14:47):
when there was a Sex and the City episode. Y'all know,
I referenced it all the time, but basically Charlotte had
vaginus miss or no it was volvidinia, and she had
to do a vagina journal of what it felt like
for the day, if there was dryness, wetness, like whatever
was going on. And so in the slow app or
different period apps, I use a different one. There's literally
(15:08):
notes for that. I do the same thing, like if
I see a little blood earlier, I'm like boo boop
like and not track it. And I literally handed to
the guy and I'm like, here was my fussy.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
Here are the details I also wanted to add to
in terms of your period, because y'all listen. First off,
y'all got us being googlers over here and doctors.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
We are not doctors.
Speaker 3 (15:28):
However, I wanted to add though, because you mentioned in
your email that you feel like he's hitting your cervix.
The position of your cervix actually does change throughout your
tie your cycle, so it gets typically the lowest mid
cycle and at its highest at the start and end.
So that clearly makes the amount of room inside of
(15:51):
your vagina different. And of course changes in hormones too
could have your cervix move in cervical mute. Some vaginal
fluids changes well during your mental cycle. But that's the thing.
If you feel like he's hitting something, he actually may be,
and it may be because of where you're at in
your cycle.
Speaker 1 (16:09):
Kind of like what Weezy said though, the.
Speaker 3 (16:12):
Fact that hormonal changes are probably different now that you've
removed the IUD, it could just be thrown all of
it and maybe you'll starvex the sin lower than normal.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Because if you have the IUD for this long, for.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
Anyone listening when you have vaginal pain, the best advice
I've got from a doctor was like being able to
describe your pain, because I was really even confused even
when you mentioned removal in the beginning of the thing.
It's so confusing because you associate the entry of the
IUD and the IUD itself to be the pain. So
(16:45):
what I would say is describing the pain so that
you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness.
There's another one that I remember my doctor was telling
me it like burning. When we hear burning, we.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
Think a lot of times like STD type of p burn.
And it's not that. It's just like, you know, if
something's really raw.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Almost think if you're like putting on lotion and you're
like sunburned like that, that's the burn where it.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Feels very tender.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
Like figuring out the words to describe your pain because
you're gonna go down to google hole, bitch and.
Speaker 3 (17:16):
Wait a second, now you now you got me thinking
when I was taking that dick, how would I describe
the pain?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
You know what's crazy?
Speaker 3 (17:25):
I literally, first off, I felt he was right in
my belly button, So I literally felt like he was
in my stomach like for one and I was just
like what the fog like to the point where like
after we were done, I felt like I could still
feel him in me, like in my stomach, Like I
(17:47):
felt like he punched me in my stomach.
Speaker 1 (17:49):
I don't think I was feeling poking as much.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
You know what that that what I heard too, is
that's a uti. Could be tenderness. I don't know if
you just got back from can I was just going
or whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
But water, bitch, a uk dehydration feeling like when when
you are UTI during sex can give you that feeling too.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
It's like inflammation. And then there's another thing.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Oh well, not just scary because I mean, well this
didn't happen, because you want to know, my homegirl's uterus
tilted from a big dick. And she said that she remembered.
She like tells the joke all the time when we're drunk.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
She's like, bitch, I'm gonna tell you what have thee
with Disney?
Speaker 2 (18:30):
And she always says, I said, it's in my stamach
And she said when he pulled out, she felt a
movement getting the fuck out of here. Bruh. She's been
to r LA, shows you met her. I'm telling you
the bitch every time she told the story. And the
last time I saw her too, we were out somewhere
and I was like, bitch, tell so, and so she.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Was like, how he fuck off?
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Puss you up, and I was like, girl, no about
your recent move, like no, like she's so used to
telling the story because it's so unbelievable.
Speaker 3 (18:58):
But I'm not gonna lie like I wouldn't think that
a dick could be too big to move anything around.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
But not only is this dick really big, it got
a curve.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
So I'm not gonna hold you. I feel like he
he rearranged my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you
like so, I wouldn't doubt that something is happening up
in there and that he might tilt drop something with something.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Nigga, what's she? This ain't an tucky No, no, no,
no no, this is no no, we not no wait
hold on, let me.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I don't look gonna same nigga because she said he
said that she been with this man for six years,
So I don't fucking. I am not fucking anybody with
a girlfriend. This is not horrible decisions from eight years ago. Okay,
the nigga is very single, very single, and destroying my insights. Anyways,
(19:58):
we do hope that you go to a doctor. I
would say that and like Wes said, explain your pain
to them. I would advocate for an ultrasound and make
sure that everything is where it needs to be, or
that you don't have anything extra growing inside of you,
because we don't think you both.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Wheeling you and Mandy around on.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
The NHB tour. Make sure you go, because we are
still horrible. Go and get your tickets right now for
nhbtour dot com. There, it's gonna be the live shows
that you always know. We are literally blending in the
book into our live shows. So some of the stories
you read, we're bringing the pages to the stages.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That's all right, and we're excited to see you guys
are there. I really really really hope we were able
to help you. We clearly you just made me talk
about addict. That's big to me too and was painful,
but now I feel like I'm used to it.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
So I did take it the third time, but I
would maybe do that too.
Speaker 2 (20:57):
Maybe just keep fucking yeah men, follow the thread and
be like, let me tell you what's going on my mind.
Speaker 1 (21:04):
Pussys listen.
Speaker 3 (21:09):
Anyways, guys, thank y'all, and once again, if you want
advice from us or you want us to share our
big dick stories, just like y'all big dick stories go
ahead and send it into us Decisions Pod at gmail
dot com, and we will see y'all next week.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
Bye, everybody,
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