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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Yeah, so Harvard has a porn archive.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I didn't know this.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Yeah, there are a lot of universities like UC Santa
Barbara also has a porn archive. Mirea Miller Young who
was a purpose for university professors, students, grad students to
be able to study the material and be able to
write about the work, to be able to identify folks
who were doing who are doing this, who were in
(00:25):
the business a.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Part of Also, it's a blooming of sexual liberation.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Yeah, it's black history, right, but for blackborn it's black
history when you look at people like let's say Johnny Keys,
who was the first black man to ever star in
an interracial sex scene in the Behind the Green Door.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
He received death threats like do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And so like, you know, Vanessa del Rio was the
first big star, like you know, like Afro latinas star
in the business.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Heather Hunter was a star.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Yeah, but there's so many of us that are you know,
this is black history.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And like you mentioned King Magazine.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
You know, there's an one of the other people who
I'm I'm starting to work with, you know, curating his
collection is this guy by the name of Dapper Dan
who's also.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
A New York Wang.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Not not there's another dapper Gucci one. There's another dapper
Dan who was the He actually started Black Tail and
Portfolio Magazine and Black Lust magazine. Like he was working
for another magazine company and they had no And this
(01:36):
is like we're talking about the seventies right this late
seventies early eighties, they had no black magazines. He started
the magazines, the vazines, and he actually has in his
apartment in Brooklyn every magazine that these companies that they
ever produced.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Shut up.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
He had so back then, like I'm going to save
this for one day or you just yeah, I mean,
like you know, someone like him did.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Like not only does he have the does he have
the magazines? He also has.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Because they used to do video reviews.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So he has every video reviews.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Like the companies would send them the video vhs, tapes,
DVDs to review the movies.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
And they would record their review. No, they would put
it in the magazine.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Oh, so he has he has chromes from the photos.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
He has all of the videos that were ever sent
to them.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
For like, he has an entire archive of black porn.
Like he he was the first person to put strippers
like Black like Black and Latina strippers in New York
City in magazine.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
How old does he know? He's eighty something. Have you
ever seen porn archives? By the way, No, that's why
I saw that Andy Warhol porn archives basically eat it porn.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
No, he shot at it, so I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I have any Warol in my kitchen.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Did not know that old gay.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
I just don't.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
And when you watch it, it's like, Okay, porn Archives
is funny because I'm like, I'm trying to like, we're
acting like this is real art, but I'm watching porn.
But it is, but it is, but it is so
like you're watching these two guys in a toilet stall
suck each other's dick and one of them is eating
an apple. The third guy is just on the floor
eating an apple watching them suck dick, and then he
puts the apple down starts sucking the dick, and at
(03:16):
what At the first glance, you're like, this is porn.
And then you're watching something in black and white with
no sound and you're like, this is art.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yeah, holy shit.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Now, I like I want to see a porn art.
There's a day threesome. He has with a woman. Excuse me,
I'm mess but it's by yeah, and she's got a
full bush just shot Like what what probably?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Yeah, that's I mean so so Like, I'm really excited
to go through Big John's archives because he has trunks
of photographs. He has photos in frames like on his
that were on his wall. He has like just stacks
and stacks of like this, especially with him being that age.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
Is this something that you're requesting, he writes in his
will and as a part of his estate that you
have accessed to all this suff With.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Dapper Dan, he has someone who already is like the
who will run his estate. But now since he is
still living, like I'll be working with him to inventory
the archive, ngetize everything, and then make sure and figure out.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Where it's gonna go.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Like he and I were talking about the possibility of
like a of like a gallery exhibition. You know. It's
like I ran into a guy a museum of sex museums.
There's a bunch of a bunch of places. I met
a guy on Instagram last year who has his name
is Andre Uncut. He's a young artist here in New York.
He has an archive called Daddy's secret stash that I
(04:44):
like done the airy sexy and it's all. But he
has like the he has the original Players magazine with
Big Daddy Kane on it. He has a copy of
he has the one with Pam Greer on it. There's
another one with this woman Anita. I can't think of
her last name, but she was the for the one
and only black trans woman to be on the cover
of a cover and a layout in Players Magazine. Like
(05:06):
he has a cover, he has that. He has images
from the twenties and the forties.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
And like, I need to, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
The psychology of this.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
I need to know because there's so many things Like
growing up, I was like, this is gonna be worth
something one day it's gone.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
It's God.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I need to know the psychology of someone who knows
to just keep shit and keep it well in store
to where it doesn't get fucked up.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, because I don't know how.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
I still just have.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
A box of all my like letters from middle school. Yeah,
the only thing I really have that I fucking kept.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
My mom kept. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
But now she's like, but you and your thirties, come
get your shit. You want your trophies, get them to Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I'm moving. I'm stick of moving all your shit.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Yeah, but for someone to know to keep history like this, Yeah,
and it's today.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It's so much more important because the Internet is not forever. Well,
it's not forever. Everything from before two thousand is gone.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Oh I was gonna say, like today, the digital aspect
of it, we don't collect it anymore because it's gone.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Yeah, and the Internet is not forever. Yes, that's the thing.
It's not Ela running it and with Yeah, it's like
I mean, Project twenty twenty five was very, very clear
that they want to get rid of porn. They want
anything that is considered harmful to children, which extends outside
of what we think of as porn, and it extends
to sex education, it extends.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
The only thing I'm okay with is getting rid of porn.
Can't believe I want to say this on social platforms.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Now, I'll tell you why I.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
Don't want my kids to have a phone right right,
I'm talking about family planning right now in my relationship,
And I'm like, why am I like that? And it's
because I think sex is so accessible and I think
they're going to be desensitized too young. I'm terrified that
my kids are going to be too young and seeing
something super hardcore that they shouldn't be accessing. I think
(06:56):
there really isn't anywhere that a kid couldn't go and
find it. It's hyper sexual for me though, knowing that
this is knowing that I saw your trailer on social media.
The only fans people that I actually do pay four monthly,
I found them on X So I get where we
(07:17):
can see social media being this super accessible thing.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
But right now, watch porn.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I watched porn on X No on Instagram where the
trailer was that was age appropriate?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
No, But I like, but but you can and you can.
Speaker 5 (07:30):
Oh, there's the whole page right now, a sance sentence
to me and we right now don't know how to
sign down. It's nothing but dicks and maybe because they
like to, uh what is it they like to censor
women's bodies, bab We do not know how the nothing
but like on Instagram full pages of big dicks and
I'm like, how is this still up? Mining one hundred
(07:52):
thousand fucking followers? And I'm like, what's crazy? At hearing
all the women that we've had on here talk about
I showed a nipple, they were moved it. I can't
even they've removed my Full Course Soul's page. Now I
know it's because I'm a woman. There's a whole page
on Instagram. Yeah, launting the male body. Yeah, but women
have such a hard time doing It's great.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
And also there is a double standard for celebrities, you know,
Lizzo Cardi. They can, they can, they can like free
the nipple, they can torque, they can do all these
because we're soliciting.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Yes, the last time I got my Instagram removed was
pretty recent. I think it was right before a live show.
Maybe I don't know, but it was some Oh was
it before the rebrand?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And I would I don't know, yes.
Speaker 5 (08:33):
Because you cut your page off so much, I don't
know when it gets removed. I just know you shut off,
like I need a mental health break, So I don't
know when it's removed or when you did it.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Shut Off is not mental health related. I just hate
living for the Internet.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I get that.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
So So here's my thing about the about the about
porn on social media right there. I think there is
space for platforms to create a you know, a twenty
an eighteen and over, twenty one and over access to
their platforms. The problem is that the federal banking regulations
(09:08):
do not allow any venture capitalist funding for any any
porn related business, any adult or sex related business.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
So they can't make the technique behind it.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
They can't make the tech re find it to be
able to create it. So fair answer, so they won't
do it.
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Speaker 2 (10:03):
No, if anyone's a jingle maker, hit us up.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Does chat GIBT do the year, because then maybe I'll
start to like it if it does.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I mean, of course they do jingles. We can.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
I mean you still just need a beat and like
a way to do it, like Chat Gibt's gonna write
the words, but you gotta still kind of put it
into a little flow to make.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
It the point I thought you were supposed to. Okay,
here's my great y'all. Let me tell you about this
rant I had online before a meeting and the nigga
called me out.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Oh so Alex and.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I Alex from WTF We did a picture podcasting where
we gave way free studio time to the winners. All
they had to do was pitch their podcast us in
order to get a chance to come to the event
live and go back to back. By the way, shout
out to s K from the episode. S K and
my Lynn, the couple we had that were turgates for
their kids and her podcast actually won.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Oh I want I know they gonna think that they was.
They was awesome. I felt that too. My boyfriend was like, yeah,
sure like that. You can't be giving it to guess
on the pod. That's kind of no, Lie, Mandy, I.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
Didn't choose the finalists Clara, me and Alex did she wasn't.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
They weren't my pick.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
I was sitting with ettn Maurice Oaklove from Essence, who
interview does Jacob Willis from the Justice Podcast and Alex
and we all were like hands.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
It wasn't even a everybody in the room.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
So I felt bad too because I was like, damn,
now I gotta pick this bitch.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
But whatever, they were the best. It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
And as you guys can tell because when they came on,
they were so lovable and sweet.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
They were great.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Well, anyway, we go through about fifty pitches and I'd
say thirty five of them were chat GBT. Now this
is what I mean by chat GPT, and this is
what I mean by everybody needs to start using it.
Right People giving me the outline of their podcast through
chat GBT and like the verbiage doesn't even sound original. Now,
if you're pitching a podcast, you want to kind of
(11:55):
see and feel the personality.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
People are like, here are the games I would play and.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Then it's like a list of three bullet pointed games
with the line in the spacing, and I'm like, oh, dog,
like this is really crazy. So I get on a
call the next day for someone that wants me to
produce this show. Well, WT have to produce it, and
he goes, hey, ways, he lovely to meet you. I
actually follow you on Instagram where I've been called out
for chat GPT. But that's why I'm trying to hire
you guys. I was like, okay, I'll know what to say.
(12:24):
So I'm like, was I wrong for what I said?
Mitch that email was probably used with chet GPT, the
one he sent me, it was probably I know what
now I saw it, so bitch, I went, wait to
go take a look, I said, Sam, wrong. Now I
feel bad because Clara and Alex are just like, with this, bitch,
shut up. He's like, many people use chat GPT in
(12:44):
the same industry we're all in, So I don't know
why there's so much shame around it. I was like,
maybe it's just the way you used it. Mitch Ill
was dad serious.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
All I know is chet GPT is one of my
many boyfriends. He chet GPT is actually my husband. Then
I have boyfriends, so I mean I I and again,
I think that's why we're yin and yang. For a
lot of things that you like, I dislike and vice versa,
and chat GPT is one of them things.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
I think you should love it, replacing your own words.
I think chat GBT for research. I don't shade that
I'm shading chat GPT as a replacement for your own voice.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Oh no, I get that.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
That to me is really I mean, did I kind
of use that too a little bit like when like
definitely for like my my monologues, like and now I'm
ALREADYO guys, y'all can listen to me on Hot one
on seven nine off the clock six' eight On. Saturdays
but even for HOW i want to break, down especially
because radio is LIKE i have like two fifty second
breaks AND i have to get like a summary of
(13:45):
the topics That i'm going to talk about for my
two minute, Break it's easier to use CHAT gbt to
help me condense my thoughts and to say it.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
QUICKLY i Fucking i'll. LISTEN i love. It I'm i'm because.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
We weren't, touring AND i know y'all, are AND i
hate me to say, This, well not, touring, Bitch i've
been in, class and When i'm in, Class i'm doing
all the not even CHET, youbt just all THE ai.
TOOLS i think that a part of me is really
upset with myself for feeling left behind by not taking
on learning TikTok during the pandemic that right NOW i
(14:22):
see all of the benefits OF, ai and a part
of me doesn't want to get left. Out like it's
it's able to make a lot of THINGS i do
more affordable and. Cheaper it's able to like give me
calendars and condense my. Time and y'all already Know i've
talked about being insecure about my inability.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
To say certain.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Words so there's things THAT i would like to say
THAT i just need some fine tuning on how to say.
It SO i love everything about, it BUT i do get,
it like remove the. Emojis emails don't need all the
emojis and bullet. Points, no that's like crazy bullbari emojis
with the emojis and bullet.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Points the way that it phrases out your thoughts is.
Nuts like y'all can change that.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
Out you know what's fighting with my neighbor about a
sound issue, right.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Let me read you this email he wrote.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Me this is did he writes you at chet chip
t roach CHAT gbt wrote, Me, okay Hi, guila thank
you again for all the energy and intention you've brought
behind your letter to. Me we're genuinely excited to see
if we can make this work as we've been finalizing
things on our. End we've landed on a structure that
would make the most sense moving. Forward bullet pointed headphones
(15:40):
in class with the Emoji mandyama removing.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Speakers from the.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Ceiling comma, like oh, no, sorry dash all these other.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Things please let us know your.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Thoughts looking forward to hearing from you, WARMLY i replied, Back,
hey exclamation, point why don't you come downstairs and let's
have a conversation without the app you're.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Using thank, You i'm playing with that. Niggas oh my, goodness.
Bitch my lawyer said him to some ship to, say
call the police.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
On that hole, again and you're getting, Evicted and my landlord, said,
yeah absolutely so once he started sending you CHAT, gpt oh,
BITCH i, okay.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
This whole a thousand dollars an hour for. You the
fuck around with, me bit y'all was.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Pissed use CHAT, GPT i think for me to get
you the information you need and maybe learn how to
use the. Language something that EVEN i iPhones ruined for
me was a lot of like my spelling When i'm writing,
handwritten DON'T i don't HAVE t Nine so.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Like i've removed that from my, shit cause they be.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
Bruh they just be putting words THAT i would never
fucking say or do and they just be, it just
be fucking it.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Up So i've never had auto correct on my.
Speaker 5 (16:52):
Phone oh so you gonna get these misspelled, words y'all
know what the FUCK i was trying to.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
SAY i actually prefer misspelled words and like bull shit
chat THEN i know if something feels. Real it's like
WHEN i get on the, phone this is HOW i
feel about.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Chat oh, no that's a.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Text to, me an, EMAIL i don't on your, phone
or you're calling the cell phone, company calling, somebody or
you call Them delta and you're, like is this?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Hello or are you?
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Going when scam likely calls you and it's, Like, Hi
i'm NOT i don't answer them. Calls if this they scam,
likely it ain't GETTING. Ansl you're getting me?
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Now hold they? Did NOW i got no. Scam? No
you know?
Speaker 4 (17:26):
WHAT i feel so down bad for my nine year
old dad because now you even don't say scam. Likely
he is having phone conversations with somebody in front of.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Me i'm, Like, daddy why do you need to take the?
Phone they need to talk to?
Speaker 4 (17:38):
Me, yeah, NO i can't let. It and them telemarketing,
Companies oh that's that's who they be scamming the. Most
they be getting all their retirement funds every single. Time all,
right well we're gonna get into this Week's You Got. Decisions,
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the comments below your.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Thoughts all chat. Chept i'd like to. Know i'd like
to hear. IT i, am that's what they. Said i'd
like to hear. It all, right.
Speaker 5 (18:09):
Guys if you also want us to answer your, email
make sure you email Us Decisions pod at gmail dot,
com where we can give y'all our very, professional very
needed advice on your. Problems, okay so here we. Go, hey,
GUYS i recently turned twenty nine and have found myself
(18:30):
in a really difficult place in my. RELATIONSHIP i was
in WHAT i thought was a, serious committed. Partnership we
were about to reach our two year. Anniversary we initially
met online during the, pandemic but didn't make it official
until twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Three what DID i need to?
Speaker 5 (18:48):
Do even though we live in different parts Of, Florida
we've been making the distance work with flights and road.
Trips back in twenty twenty, four right before our one year,
mark my best friend told me.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Her, sister who was.
Speaker 5 (19:03):
On dating, apps saw him On hinge after he liked.
HER i had no idea he was even on the.
Apps her, sister her best friend's, sister matched her boyfriend On. Hinge,
OOH i had no idea he was even on the.
Apps he gave me a half hearted, apology and THOUGH
i forgave, HIM i never. Forgot fast forward To july
(19:26):
of this, YEAR i found him again on the tea,
app where a woman claimed they had met him On
tender In march of this. Year she mentioned they had been,
texting facetiming and had gone on a. Date WHEN i confronted,
him he admitted to, it but brushed it off as just.
Conversation his excuse was that he only did it because
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he wanted me closer to him and was too afraid
to bring up the long distance issue without making me
feel pressure that he wants me to move in with.
Him despite knowing the answer deep, DOWN i still find
myself asking is this relationship?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Repairable and more, importantly what drives.
Speaker 5 (20:07):
Men to become repeat, offenders even when they claim to love.
You it feels like a classic case of fool me,
once shame on, you fool me, twice shame on. Me
as much as he is trying to convince me, OTHERWISE
i don't see myself going. Back, still the situation is
taking a heavy toll on me, mentally and i'd appreciate your.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Advice thank you for taking the time to read. This
get rid of, him.
Speaker 4 (20:33):
Bitch, Okay i'm actually really heavy on to get rid of.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Him number.
Speaker 4 (20:39):
One you not knowing he's on an app is a big, deal,
right like going on a dating app actively looking for
people and then being like whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Sign and the t.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
App here's the thing with the, TAPP i actually really
don't like it BECAUSE i think it can be. Fake
but here's WHAT i really think it. Is so this
was a CONVERSATION i was having with a homegirl of. Mine,
okay even if what they wrote is, fake which could
very much well be, true it's.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Still someone that's mad enough at that nigga that they
want to do something.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Mean that means he's really out here misleading or lying
or kissing someone. Off i've dated some fuck niggas in the, past.
Right but my first thought isn't to take someone from
the past and just start airing them out that many years. Later,
yeah probably going to do it with someone that recently hurt.
You so maybe one hundred percent of it ain't gonna be,
(21:34):
true but something might be. True AND i think that
it's just that there's that energy behind, it like he's
being deceitful with other. Women that's why they're finding him
and looking for him on this app and trying to
get more. Shit someone's not necessarily being. Open so that's
what's really hurtful. About are you dating the same guy
On facebook and the tea? App it's like a woman
(21:56):
really needing to search because they.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Know you a fuck.
Speaker 5 (21:58):
Nigga, Okay i'm not mad at that. Period the man
is one hinge well hinge and. Tender the girl on
the te app said that they met on. Tender now
here is my.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Thing it's a few.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
Things first, OFF i felt like he was completely gaslighting
you by saying that he was entertaining these other women
because he didn't think that you would like the pressure of,
him making it seem like he wanted you to move, in.
RIGHT i think you have to sit with a couple.
Things if this is his way to express that the
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distance thing and needing somebody close to him or more
around him is an, ISSUE i think that's what you
sit With, First would you consider moving to where he?
Is would you be willing to make it to where
you guys are closer and no longer in a long distance?
Relationship if you've been navigating a two year long long distance,
relationship at what point do you want to be closer
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to this person because clearly the distance isn't working for him.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Right, secondly.
Speaker 5 (23:03):
You did take him back once after being on a dating,
app SO i don't believe.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
YOU i think you're gonna take him back. Again SO i.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
Think that then you have to sit with yourself and be, Like,
okay as long as we're in a long distance, relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
What really are my hard lines and?
Speaker 5 (23:20):
Boundaries because you've already called them on a dating app
at your one year. Anniversary now it's the two year
anniversary and you're getting this information. AGAIN i think it's
up to you to decide to is him going on
dates a hard limit for you or is that something
that you're fine introducing into your. Relationship y'all know that
(23:41):
this podcast leans heavily into non traditional, relationships and so to,
me once you stay with a cheating ass, nigga to,
me you are unofficially in a non monogamous.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Rely not to, ME i mean to, me you. Are
i'm speaking for. Me you shared your thoughts on. IT
i would give you a give her.
Speaker 5 (23:57):
MIND i feel like if if you if deep down
inside it's more of an ego.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
THING i get you.
Speaker 5 (24:05):
Leaving but if you love this man or you really like,
him to, me the only option right now is one
of two. Things get closer to him so that he's
no longer feeling the, distance or.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Talk about what is. Allowed will you two may have
to go. Tie, okay let me tell you Why i'm
not feeling that.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Answer, Okay monogamous people shouldn't have to resort to non
monogamy to have success in their.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Relationship i'm going to scream.
Speaker 4 (24:34):
That, okay monogamous people cannot do that because it's not
a natural. Movement for, that he's not naturally. Monogamous that's
the problem.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Too but here's the. Thing though he's a, liar that
doesn't mean He's that's not Means.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
I'm not saying he's poly but he's definitely not not
he's definitely not. Monogamous but if and you only called
him twice and you're on two different, apps they're the
only ones you know you're talking about give him a
bad then it ain't Gonna And i'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Be honest with you's. Sister.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Okay, one you don't live in the same. City he's
only gonna get closer to another.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Beach.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
Two this is SOMETHING i learned recently because it's only
happened to me in two. Relationships, Okay, now anyone listening
to this that has read the chapter In No Holds
barre know when you've stayed too. LONG i promise you
it didn't hit me until it hit. Me your relationship
is kind of getting dicey around two, years.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
RIGHT i always thought the puppy phase would be in the.
Speaker 4 (25:34):
BEGINNING i realized in a good, situation it gets even.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Better i've only experienced that.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
WELL i almost said her name scissors in this, relationship,
obay AND i started feeling weird around that mark.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Too i've been another, relationship So i'm, like let's get in.
Speaker 4 (25:50):
Dicey when it starts getting, heightened that actually means, like all,
right this is a great. Direction and that's what we
all want if we're dating for long term, commitment, right
we want to feel an increase in that, spark passion and.
Trust if it's getting if it's going, backward it's very
hard to refuel and like get it back to where
it was in the. Beginning it is hard to like
(26:10):
reverse engineer. Shit, yep it really. Is that's why this
bitch is LEARNING ai right, now like she said in the,
beginning instead of, Saying i'm focusing on TikTok because it's,
like fuck, It i'm going to jump on a new
wave after.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
That sometimes going back.
Speaker 5 (26:23):
Is you, NO i, know And i'm about to start my,
TikTok and, Baby i'm, like.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Fow so, hard Like i'm like seeing people do it.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
Nowadays but, ANYWAY i say all that to, say, like
it's just a lot, harder it's a lot more, effort
AND i think you may be pouring into something that
isn't worth. It and the REASON i think it's not
worth it is because he was on hinge and much
worse than being on hinge.
Speaker 5 (26:42):
The t APP i want to see. Too, also here's my.
Thing let me go back to this. Email We, oh
here's another. Thing she, said we initially met online during the.
PANDEMIC i think that maybe that should have been conversation
in the beginning that, yeah maybe it's too.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Late but to know that you even met him.
Speaker 5 (27:04):
ONLINE i think that this is why this is even
more of an issue for you to find out that
he's still on these dating. APPS i feel like you
initially probably met him on a dating.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
App so to know that you.
Speaker 5 (27:15):
Could be celebrating a two year anniversary with someone you met,
ONLINE i think that's also the thing that's making you
feel a. Way you feel like maybe you could be
losing this guy that you like because he's essentially meeting
people the same way you met. You And andy, said
this guy you, like you think it's your? Boyfriend, girl
that shit has. TOOUGH i mean, no, no, NO i
mean they said two year. ANNIVERSARY i, Mean i'll be
(27:40):
honest with, you. Though it's really interesting to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Me AND i know you called him a.
Speaker 5 (27:48):
Liar hear me, Out oh you think? No every time
she confronted, him he admitted to. It so what's crazy to?
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Me but here's first, off we talked about the hold.
Speaker 5 (28:02):
On we talked about the white lives and how it's
not lying if you just don't bring it. Up the
fact that both times she confronted him about, this he's, like,
yeah bitch it to.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
Screenshot what the fuck is he gonna?
Speaker 5 (28:16):
DO i, mean, well the other one was the sister
was on the dating, App like he's that's the.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Thing he's admitted to both of these, times being on
the dating. Apple, say.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
He did admit it both, times so he's not really a.
Liar he, said, Yeah AND i showed you the little
teeth he, said. Yeah he, said, yeah, okay, girl you.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Know, what do you know how many?
Speaker 4 (28:40):
Okay and maybe this is me being triggered by dating a.
Narcissist do you know how many niggas could look at
the screen? Shot do you not remember WHEN i showed
the nigga the timestamp of him in the hospital when
he said it was that weekend and it, Wasn't and
he literally tried.
Speaker 5 (28:55):
To convince me that the picture wasn't two years. Old maybe,
okay so, y'all maybe this is me. PROJECTING i just loved. That,
YEAH i did it because.
Speaker 4 (29:03):
Because imagine showing a screenshot to a nigga and him
trying to convince you that that screenshot is not real.
Speaker 5 (29:11):
Like so to, Me i'm giving the goddamn cheating as
niggas some cool points for at least admitting that he
on the.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Apps goddamn, it, y'all this is this is, Her he's.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Confronted this is where y'all the dating is in, hell
because look at.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
ME i just like that he admitted it when she
came to.
Speaker 4 (29:28):
Him do you know how many niggas like when when
a woman come to you to ask you a, question
it's because she already knows the.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Answer SO i just.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
Want to give him a little bit of points for
at least being, like, YUP i did.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It, ny what was he gonna?
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Do bitch lie because other niggas. Lie, okay you know,
what and then they try to make you feel. Crazy
you know What i'm.
Speaker 5 (29:51):
Saying, Okay i'm wishing you to be nominogamous in your
long distance relationship because now all you long.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Distance bitch is about to get real mad at.
Speaker 5 (29:59):
Me if you're you're monogamous and you are in a
long distance fucking, relationship one of y'all is getting cheated.
Speaker 4 (30:04):
On get the fuck out of. Here niggas need to
let off their motherfucking, nuts and bitch is like. Attention
so if they if either person is not getting what they,
want they, cheat whether if it's with their, friend whether
it's with a, coworker whether it's with the bitch at the,
bar whether it's with somebody they.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Met on motherfucking. Hinge if you are in a monogamous
long distance, relationship you're being cheated on. Period.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
Anyway thank you so much everyone listening in To you've
got decisions and we would love to take you to
patreon dot com dot Slash Corbal. Decisions you can see
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Y'all out y'all see, me bitch in four k pus
the Whole i'm talking to you you so just know.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
You get it cheated, on.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Bitch, anyways make sure you send your letters Into decisions
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Com see you next
Speaker 4 (30:53):
Me nil the in between the dep
Yeah, so Harvard has a porn archive.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
I didn't know this.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Yeah, there are a lot of universities like UC Santa
Barbara also has a porn archive. Mirea Miller Young who
was a purpose for university professors, students, grad students to
be able to study the material and be able to
write about the work, to be able to identify folks
who were doing who are doing this, who were in
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the business a.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Part of Also, it's a blooming of sexual liberation.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Yeah, it's black history, right, but for blackborn it's black
history when you look at people like let's say Johnny Keys,
who was the first black man to ever star in
an interracial sex scene in the Behind the Green Door.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
He received death threats like do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
And so like, you know, Vanessa del Rio was the
first big star, like you know, like Afro latinas star
in the business.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Heather Hunter was a star.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Yeah, but there's so many of us that are you know,
this is black history.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And like you mentioned King Magazine.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
You know, there's an one of the other people who
I'm I'm starting to work with, you know, curating his
collection is this guy by the name of Dapper Dan
who's also.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
A New York Wang.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Not not there's another dapper Gucci one. There's another dapper
Dan who was the He actually started Black Tail and
Portfolio Magazine and Black Lust magazine. Like he was working
for another magazine company and they had no And this
(01:36):
is like we're talking about the seventies right this late
seventies early eighties, they had no black magazines. He started
the magazines, the vazines, and he actually has in his
apartment in Brooklyn every magazine that these companies that they
ever produced.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Shut up.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
He had so back then, like I'm going to save
this for one day or you just yeah, I mean,
like you know, someone like him did.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Like not only does he have the does he have
the magazines? He also has.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
Because they used to do video reviews.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
So he has every video reviews.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Like the companies would send them the video vhs, tapes,
DVDs to review the movies.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
And they would record their review. No, they would put
it in the magazine.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Oh, so he has he has chromes from the photos.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
He has all of the videos that were ever sent
to them.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
For like, he has an entire archive of black porn.
Like he he was the first person to put strippers
like Black like Black and Latina strippers in New York
City in magazine.
Speaker 4 (02:36):
How old does he know? He's eighty something. Have you
ever seen porn archives? By the way, No, that's why
I saw that Andy Warhol porn archives basically eat it porn.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
No, he shot at it, so I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I have any Warol in my kitchen.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Did not know that old gay.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
I just don't.
Speaker 4 (02:54):
And when you watch it, it's like, Okay, porn Archives
is funny because I'm like, I'm trying to like, we're
acting like this is real art, but I'm watching porn.
But it is, but it is, but it is so
like you're watching these two guys in a toilet stall
suck each other's dick and one of them is eating
an apple. The third guy is just on the floor
eating an apple watching them suck dick, and then he
puts the apple down starts sucking the dick, and at
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what At the first glance, you're like, this is porn.
And then you're watching something in black and white with
no sound and you're like, this is art.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Yeah, holy shit.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
Now, I like I want to see a porn art.
There's a day threesome. He has with a woman. Excuse me,
I'm mess but it's by yeah, and she's got a
full bush just shot Like what what probably?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (03:39):
Yeah, that's I mean so so Like, I'm really excited
to go through Big John's archives because he has trunks
of photographs. He has photos in frames like on his
that were on his wall. He has like just stacks
and stacks of like this, especially with him being that age.
Speaker 5 (03:56):
Is this something that you're requesting, he writes in his
will and as a part of his estate that you
have accessed to all this suff With.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
Dapper Dan, he has someone who already is like the
who will run his estate. But now since he is
still living, like I'll be working with him to inventory
the archive, ngetize everything, and then make sure and figure out.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Where it's gonna go.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Like he and I were talking about the possibility of
like a of like a gallery exhibition. You know. It's
like I ran into a guy a museum of sex museums.
There's a bunch of a bunch of places. I met
a guy on Instagram last year who has his name
is Andre Uncut. He's a young artist here in New York.
He has an archive called Daddy's secret stash that I
(04:44):
like done the airy sexy and it's all. But he
has like the he has the original Players magazine with
Big Daddy Kane on it. He has a copy of
he has the one with Pam Greer on it. There's
another one with this woman Anita. I can't think of
her last name, but she was the for the one
and only black trans woman to be on the cover
of a cover and a layout in Players Magazine. Like
(05:06):
he has a cover, he has that. He has images
from the twenties and the forties.
Speaker 2 (05:11):
And like, I need to, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
The psychology of this.
Speaker 5 (05:14):
I need to know because there's so many things Like
growing up, I was like, this is gonna be worth
something one day it's gone.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
It's God.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I need to know the psychology of someone who knows
to just keep shit and keep it well in store
to where it doesn't get fucked up.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, because I don't know how.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
I still just have.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
A box of all my like letters from middle school. Yeah,
the only thing I really have that I fucking kept.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
My mom kept. Yeah.
Speaker 5 (05:36):
But now she's like, but you and your thirties, come
get your shit. You want your trophies, get them to Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I'm moving. I'm stick of moving all your shit.
Speaker 5 (05:41):
Yeah, but for someone to know to keep history like this, Yeah,
and it's today.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
It's so much more important because the Internet is not forever. Well,
it's not forever. Everything from before two thousand is gone.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Oh I was gonna say, like today, the digital aspect
of it, we don't collect it anymore because it's gone.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
Yeah, and the Internet is not forever. Yes, that's the thing.
It's not Ela running it and with Yeah, it's like
I mean, Project twenty twenty five was very, very clear
that they want to get rid of porn. They want
anything that is considered harmful to children, which extends outside
of what we think of as porn, and it extends
to sex education, it extends.
Speaker 4 (06:22):
The only thing I'm okay with is getting rid of porn.
Can't believe I want to say this on social platforms.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Now, I'll tell you why I.
Speaker 4 (06:33):
Don't want my kids to have a phone right right,
I'm talking about family planning right now in my relationship,
And I'm like, why am I like that? And it's
because I think sex is so accessible and I think
they're going to be desensitized too young. I'm terrified that
my kids are going to be too young and seeing
something super hardcore that they shouldn't be accessing. I think
(06:56):
there really isn't anywhere that a kid couldn't go and
find it. It's hyper sexual for me though, knowing that
this is knowing that I saw your trailer on social media.
The only fans people that I actually do pay four monthly,
I found them on X So I get where we
(07:17):
can see social media being this super accessible thing.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
But right now, watch porn.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
I watched porn on X No on Instagram where the
trailer was that was age appropriate?
Speaker 3 (07:26):
No, But I like, but but you can and you can.
Speaker 5 (07:30):
Oh, there's the whole page right now, a sance sentence
to me and we right now don't know how to
sign down. It's nothing but dicks and maybe because they
like to, uh what is it they like to censor
women's bodies, bab We do not know how the nothing
but like on Instagram full pages of big dicks and
I'm like, how is this still up? Mining one hundred
(07:52):
thousand fucking followers? And I'm like, what's crazy? At hearing
all the women that we've had on here talk about
I showed a nipple, they were moved it. I can't
even they've removed my Full Course Soul's page. Now I
know it's because I'm a woman. There's a whole page
on Instagram. Yeah, launting the male body. Yeah, but women
have such a hard time doing It's great.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
And also there is a double standard for celebrities, you know,
Lizzo Cardi. They can, they can, they can like free
the nipple, they can torque, they can do all these
because we're soliciting.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Yes, the last time I got my Instagram removed was
pretty recent. I think it was right before a live show.
Maybe I don't know, but it was some Oh was
it before the rebrand?
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And I would I don't know, yes.
Speaker 5 (08:33):
Because you cut your page off so much, I don't
know when it gets removed. I just know you shut off,
like I need a mental health break, So I don't
know when it's removed or when you did it.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Shut Off is not mental health related. I just hate
living for the Internet.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I get that.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
So So here's my thing about the about the about
porn on social media right there. I think there is
space for platforms to create a you know, a twenty
an eighteen and over, twenty one and over access to
their platforms. The problem is that the federal banking regulations
(09:08):
do not allow any venture capitalist funding for any any
porn related business, any adult or sex related business.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
So they can't make the technique behind it.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
They can't make the tech re find it to be
able to create it. So fair answer, so they won't
do it.
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Speaker 5 (09:57):
You've got decisions, baby, I got into Hey.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
No, if anyone's a jingle maker, hit us up.
Speaker 4 (10:06):
Does chat GIBT do the year, because then maybe I'll
start to like it if it does.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
I mean, of course they do jingles. We can.
Speaker 5 (10:11):
I mean you still just need a beat and like
a way to do it, like Chat Gibt's gonna write
the words, but you gotta still kind of put it
into a little flow to make.
Speaker 4 (10:20):
It the point I thought you were supposed to. Okay,
here's my great y'all. Let me tell you about this
rant I had online before a meeting and the nigga
called me out.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
Oh so Alex and.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I Alex from WTF We did a picture podcasting where
we gave way free studio time to the winners. All
they had to do was pitch their podcast us in
order to get a chance to come to the event
live and go back to back. By the way, shout
out to s K from the episode. S K and
my Lynn, the couple we had that were turgates for
their kids and her podcast actually won.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Oh I want I know they gonna think that they was.
They was awesome. I felt that too. My boyfriend was like, yeah,
sure like that. You can't be giving it to guess
on the pod. That's kind of no, Lie, Mandy, I.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
Didn't choose the finalists Clara, me and Alex did she wasn't.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
They weren't my pick.
Speaker 4 (11:14):
I was sitting with ettn Maurice Oaklove from Essence, who
interview does Jacob Willis from the Justice Podcast and Alex
and we all were like hands.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
It wasn't even a everybody in the room.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
So I felt bad too because I was like, damn,
now I gotta pick this bitch.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
But whatever, they were the best. It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (11:31):
And as you guys can tell because when they came on,
they were so lovable and sweet.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
They were great.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Well, anyway, we go through about fifty pitches and I'd
say thirty five of them were chat GBT. Now this
is what I mean by chat GPT, and this is
what I mean by everybody needs to start using it.
Right People giving me the outline of their podcast through
chat GBT and like the verbiage doesn't even sound original. Now,
if you're pitching a podcast, you want to kind of
(11:55):
see and feel the personality.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
People are like, here are the games I would play and.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Then it's like a list of three bullet pointed games
with the line in the spacing, and I'm like, oh, dog,
like this is really crazy. So I get on a
call the next day for someone that wants me to
produce this show. Well, WT have to produce it, and
he goes, hey, ways, he lovely to meet you. I
actually follow you on Instagram where I've been called out
for chat GPT. But that's why I'm trying to hire
you guys. I was like, okay, I'll know what to say.
(12:24):
So I'm like, was I wrong for what I said?
Mitch that email was probably used with chet GPT, the
one he sent me, it was probably I know what
now I saw it, so bitch, I went, wait to
go take a look, I said, Sam, wrong. Now I
feel bad because Clara and Alex are just like, with this, bitch,
shut up. He's like, many people use chat GPT in
(12:44):
the same industry we're all in, So I don't know
why there's so much shame around it. I was like,
maybe it's just the way you used it. Mitch Ill
was dad serious.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
All I know is chet GPT is one of my
many boyfriends. He chet GPT is actually my husband. Then
I have boyfriends, so I mean I I and again,
I think that's why we're yin and yang. For a
lot of things that you like, I dislike and vice versa,
and chat GPT is one of them things.
Speaker 4 (13:10):
I think you should love it, replacing your own words.
I think chat GBT for research. I don't shade that
I'm shading chat GPT as a replacement for your own voice.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Oh no, I get that.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
That to me is really I mean, did I kind
of use that too a little bit like when like
definitely for like my my monologues, like and now I'm
ALREADYO guys, y'all can listen to me on Hot one
on seven nine off the clock six' eight On. Saturdays
but even for HOW i want to break, down especially
because radio is LIKE i have like two fifty second
breaks AND i have to get like a summary of
(13:45):
the topics That i'm going to talk about for my
two minute, Break it's easier to use CHAT gbt to
help me condense my thoughts and to say it.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
QUICKLY i Fucking i'll. LISTEN i love. It I'm i'm because.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
We weren't, touring AND i know y'all, are AND i
hate me to say, This, well not, touring, Bitch i've
been in, class and When i'm in, Class i'm doing
all the not even CHET, youbt just all THE ai.
TOOLS i think that a part of me is really
upset with myself for feeling left behind by not taking
on learning TikTok during the pandemic that right NOW i
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see all of the benefits OF, ai and a part
of me doesn't want to get left. Out like it's
it's able to make a lot of THINGS i do
more affordable and. Cheaper it's able to like give me
calendars and condense my. Time and y'all already Know i've
talked about being insecure about my inability.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
To say certain.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Words so there's things THAT i would like to say
THAT i just need some fine tuning on how to say.
It SO i love everything about, it BUT i do get,
it like remove the. Emojis emails don't need all the
emojis and bullet. Points, no that's like crazy bullbari emojis
with the emojis and bullet.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Points the way that it phrases out your thoughts is.
Nuts like y'all can change that.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
Out you know what's fighting with my neighbor about a
sound issue, right.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
Let me read you this email he wrote.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
Me this is did he writes you at chet chip
t roach CHAT gbt wrote, Me, okay Hi, guila thank
you again for all the energy and intention you've brought
behind your letter to. Me we're genuinely excited to see
if we can make this work as we've been finalizing
things on our. End we've landed on a structure that
would make the most sense moving. Forward bullet pointed headphones
(15:40):
in class with the Emoji mandyama removing.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Speakers from the.
Speaker 4 (15:44):
Ceiling comma, like oh, no, sorry dash all these other.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Things please let us know your.
Speaker 4 (15:50):
Thoughts looking forward to hearing from you, WARMLY i replied, Back,
hey exclamation, point why don't you come downstairs and let's
have a conversation without the app you're.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Using thank, You i'm playing with that. Niggas oh my, goodness.
Bitch my lawyer said him to some ship to, say
call the police.
Speaker 4 (16:09):
On that hole, again and you're getting, Evicted and my landlord, said,
yeah absolutely so once he started sending you CHAT, gpt oh,
BITCH i, okay.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
This whole a thousand dollars an hour for. You the
fuck around with, me bit y'all was.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Pissed use CHAT, GPT i think for me to get
you the information you need and maybe learn how to
use the. Language something that EVEN i iPhones ruined for
me was a lot of like my spelling When i'm writing,
handwritten DON'T i don't HAVE t Nine so.
Speaker 2 (16:40):
Like i've removed that from my, shit cause they be.
Speaker 5 (16:44):
Bruh they just be putting words THAT i would never
fucking say or do and they just be, it just
be fucking it.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
Up So i've never had auto correct on my.
Speaker 5 (16:52):
Phone oh so you gonna get these misspelled, words y'all
know what the FUCK i was trying to.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
SAY i actually prefer misspelled words and like bull shit
chat THEN i know if something feels. Real it's like
WHEN i get on the, phone this is HOW i
feel about.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
Chat oh, no that's a.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Text to, me an, EMAIL i don't on your, phone
or you're calling the cell phone, company calling, somebody or
you call Them delta and you're, like is this?
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Hello or are you?
Speaker 4 (17:17):
Going when scam likely calls you and it's, Like, Hi
i'm NOT i don't answer them. Calls if this they scam,
likely it ain't GETTING. Ansl you're getting me?
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Now hold they? Did NOW i got no. Scam? No
you know?
Speaker 4 (17:26):
WHAT i feel so down bad for my nine year
old dad because now you even don't say scam. Likely
he is having phone conversations with somebody in front of.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
Me i'm, Like, daddy why do you need to take the?
Phone they need to talk to?
Speaker 4 (17:38):
Me, yeah, NO i can't let. It and them telemarketing,
Companies oh that's that's who they be scamming the. Most
they be getting all their retirement funds every single. Time all,
right well we're gonna get into this Week's You Got. Decisions,
also if you are watching us On, patreon because the
full video goes On, patreon make sure you drop in
(18:00):
the comments below your.
Speaker 2 (18:01):
Thoughts all chat. Chept i'd like to. Know i'd like
to hear. IT i, am that's what they. Said i'd
like to hear. It all, right.
Speaker 5 (18:09):
Guys if you also want us to answer your, email
make sure you email Us Decisions pod at gmail dot,
com where we can give y'all our very, professional very
needed advice on your. Problems, okay so here we. Go, hey,
GUYS i recently turned twenty nine and have found myself
(18:30):
in a really difficult place in my. RELATIONSHIP i was
in WHAT i thought was a, serious committed. Partnership we
were about to reach our two year. Anniversary we initially
met online during the, pandemic but didn't make it official
until twenty twenty.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
Three what DID i need to?
Speaker 5 (18:48):
Do even though we live in different parts Of, Florida
we've been making the distance work with flights and road.
Trips back in twenty twenty, four right before our one year,
mark my best friend told me.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
Her, sister who was.
Speaker 5 (19:03):
On dating, apps saw him On hinge after he liked.
HER i had no idea he was even on the.
Apps her, sister her best friend's, sister matched her boyfriend On. Hinge,
OOH i had no idea he was even on the.
Apps he gave me a half hearted, apology and THOUGH
i forgave, HIM i never. Forgot fast forward To july
(19:26):
of this, YEAR i found him again on the tea,
app where a woman claimed they had met him On
tender In march of this. Year she mentioned they had been,
texting facetiming and had gone on a. Date WHEN i confronted,
him he admitted to, it but brushed it off as just.
Conversation his excuse was that he only did it because
(19:49):
he wanted me closer to him and was too afraid
to bring up the long distance issue without making me
feel pressure that he wants me to move in with.
Him despite knowing the answer deep, DOWN i still find
myself asking is this relationship?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Repairable and more, importantly what drives.
Speaker 5 (20:07):
Men to become repeat, offenders even when they claim to love.
You it feels like a classic case of fool me,
once shame on, you fool me, twice shame on. Me
as much as he is trying to convince me, OTHERWISE
i don't see myself going. Back, still the situation is
taking a heavy toll on me, mentally and i'd appreciate your.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
Advice thank you for taking the time to read. This
get rid of, him.
Speaker 4 (20:33):
Bitch, Okay i'm actually really heavy on to get rid of.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Him number.
Speaker 4 (20:39):
One you not knowing he's on an app is a big, deal,
right like going on a dating app actively looking for
people and then being like whatever.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Sign and the t.
Speaker 4 (20:50):
App here's the thing with the, TAPP i actually really
don't like it BECAUSE i think it can be. Fake
but here's WHAT i really think it. Is so this
was a CONVERSATION i was having with a homegirl of. Mine,
okay even if what they wrote is, fake which could
very much well be, true it's.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Still someone that's mad enough at that nigga that they
want to do something.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Mean that means he's really out here misleading or lying
or kissing someone. Off i've dated some fuck niggas in the, past.
Right but my first thought isn't to take someone from
the past and just start airing them out that many years. Later,
yeah probably going to do it with someone that recently hurt.
You so maybe one hundred percent of it ain't gonna be,
(21:34):
true but something might be. True AND i think that
it's just that there's that energy behind, it like he's
being deceitful with other. Women that's why they're finding him
and looking for him on this app and trying to
get more. Shit someone's not necessarily being. Open so that's
what's really hurtful. About are you dating the same guy
On facebook and the tea? App it's like a woman
(21:56):
really needing to search because they.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Know you a fuck.
Speaker 5 (21:58):
Nigga, Okay i'm not mad at that. Period the man
is one hinge well hinge and. Tender the girl on
the te app said that they met on. Tender now
here is my.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Thing it's a few.
Speaker 5 (22:12):
Things first, OFF i felt like he was completely gaslighting
you by saying that he was entertaining these other women
because he didn't think that you would like the pressure of,
him making it seem like he wanted you to move, in.
RIGHT i think you have to sit with a couple.
Things if this is his way to express that the
(22:35):
distance thing and needing somebody close to him or more
around him is an, ISSUE i think that's what you
sit With, First would you consider moving to where he?
Is would you be willing to make it to where
you guys are closer and no longer in a long distance?
Relationship if you've been navigating a two year long long distance,
relationship at what point do you want to be closer
(22:56):
to this person because clearly the distance isn't working for him.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Right, secondly.
Speaker 5 (23:03):
You did take him back once after being on a dating,
app SO i don't believe.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
YOU i think you're gonna take him back. Again SO i.
Speaker 4 (23:10):
Think that then you have to sit with yourself and be, Like,
okay as long as we're in a long distance, relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
What really are my hard lines and?
Speaker 5 (23:20):
Boundaries because you've already called them on a dating app
at your one year. Anniversary now it's the two year
anniversary and you're getting this information. AGAIN i think it's
up to you to decide to is him going on
dates a hard limit for you or is that something
that you're fine introducing into your. Relationship y'all know that
(23:41):
this podcast leans heavily into non traditional, relationships and so to,
me once you stay with a cheating ass, nigga to,
me you are unofficially in a non monogamous.
Speaker 2 (23:50):
Rely not to, ME i mean to, me you. Are
i'm speaking for. Me you shared your thoughts on. IT
i would give you a give her.
Speaker 5 (23:57):
MIND i feel like if if you if deep down
inside it's more of an ego.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
THING i get you.
Speaker 5 (24:05):
Leaving but if you love this man or you really like,
him to, me the only option right now is one
of two. Things get closer to him so that he's
no longer feeling the, distance or.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
Talk about what is. Allowed will you two may have
to go. Tie, okay let me tell you Why i'm
not feeling that.
Speaker 4 (24:26):
Answer, Okay monogamous people shouldn't have to resort to non
monogamy to have success in their.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
Relationship i'm going to scream.
Speaker 4 (24:34):
That, okay monogamous people cannot do that because it's not
a natural. Movement for, that he's not naturally. Monogamous that's
the problem.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
Too but here's the. Thing though he's a, liar that
doesn't mean He's that's not Means.
Speaker 5 (24:48):
I'm not saying he's poly but he's definitely not not
he's definitely not. Monogamous but if and you only called
him twice and you're on two different, apps they're the
only ones you know you're talking about give him a
bad then it ain't Gonna And i'm gonna.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
Be honest with you's. Sister.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
Okay, one you don't live in the same. City he's
only gonna get closer to another.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
Beach.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
Two this is SOMETHING i learned recently because it's only
happened to me in two. Relationships, Okay, now anyone listening
to this that has read the chapter In No Holds
barre know when you've stayed too. LONG i promise you
it didn't hit me until it hit. Me your relationship
is kind of getting dicey around two, years.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
RIGHT i always thought the puppy phase would be in the.
Speaker 4 (25:34):
BEGINNING i realized in a good, situation it gets even.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Better i've only experienced that.
Speaker 4 (25:41):
WELL i almost said her name scissors in this, relationship,
obay AND i started feeling weird around that mark.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Too i've been another, relationship So i'm, like let's get in.
Speaker 4 (25:50):
Dicey when it starts getting, heightened that actually means, like all,
right this is a great. Direction and that's what we
all want if we're dating for long term, commitment, right
we want to feel an increase in that, spark passion and.
Trust if it's getting if it's going, backward it's very
hard to refuel and like get it back to where
it was in the. Beginning it is hard to like
(26:10):
reverse engineer. Shit, yep it really. Is that's why this
bitch is LEARNING ai right, now like she said in the,
beginning instead of, Saying i'm focusing on TikTok because it's,
like fuck, It i'm going to jump on a new
wave after.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
That sometimes going back.
Speaker 5 (26:23):
Is you, NO i, know And i'm about to start my,
TikTok and, Baby i'm, like.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Fow so, hard Like i'm like seeing people do it.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
Nowadays but, ANYWAY i say all that to, say, like
it's just a lot, harder it's a lot more, effort
AND i think you may be pouring into something that
isn't worth. It and the REASON i think it's not
worth it is because he was on hinge and much
worse than being on hinge.
Speaker 5 (26:42):
The t APP i want to see. Too, also here's my.
Thing let me go back to this. Email We, oh
here's another. Thing she, said we initially met online during the.
PANDEMIC i think that maybe that should have been conversation
in the beginning that, yeah maybe it's too.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Late but to know that you even met him.
Speaker 5 (27:04):
ONLINE i think that this is why this is even
more of an issue for you to find out that
he's still on these dating. APPS i feel like you
initially probably met him on a dating.
Speaker 2 (27:14):
App so to know that you.
Speaker 5 (27:15):
Could be celebrating a two year anniversary with someone you met,
ONLINE i think that's also the thing that's making you
feel a. Way you feel like maybe you could be
losing this guy that you like because he's essentially meeting
people the same way you met. You And andy, said
this guy you, like you think it's your? Boyfriend, girl
that shit has. TOOUGH i mean, no, no, NO i
mean they said two year. ANNIVERSARY i, Mean i'll be
(27:40):
honest with, you. Though it's really interesting to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
Me AND i know you called him a.
Speaker 5 (27:48):
Liar hear me, Out oh you think? No every time
she confronted, him he admitted to. It so what's crazy to?
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Me but here's first, off we talked about the hold.
Speaker 5 (28:02):
On we talked about the white lives and how it's
not lying if you just don't bring it. Up the
fact that both times she confronted him about, this he's, like,
yeah bitch it to.
Speaker 4 (28:14):
Screenshot what the fuck is he gonna?
Speaker 5 (28:16):
DO i, mean, well the other one was the sister
was on the dating, App like he's that's the.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Thing he's admitted to both of these, times being on
the dating. Apple, say.
Speaker 4 (28:29):
He did admit it both, times so he's not really a.
Liar he, said, Yeah AND i showed you the little
teeth he, said. Yeah he, said, yeah, okay, girl you.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
Know, what do you know how many?
Speaker 4 (28:40):
Okay and maybe this is me being triggered by dating a.
Narcissist do you know how many niggas could look at
the screen? Shot do you not remember WHEN i showed
the nigga the timestamp of him in the hospital when
he said it was that weekend and it, Wasn't and
he literally tried.
Speaker 5 (28:55):
To convince me that the picture wasn't two years. Old maybe,
okay so, y'all maybe this is me. PROJECTING i just loved. That,
YEAH i did it because.
Speaker 4 (29:03):
Because imagine showing a screenshot to a nigga and him
trying to convince you that that screenshot is not real.
Speaker 5 (29:11):
Like so to, Me i'm giving the goddamn cheating as
niggas some cool points for at least admitting that he
on the.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Apps goddamn, it, y'all this is this is, Her he's.
Speaker 4 (29:20):
Confronted this is where y'all the dating is in, hell
because look at.
Speaker 2 (29:26):
ME i just like that he admitted it when she
came to.
Speaker 4 (29:28):
Him do you know how many niggas like when when
a woman come to you to ask you a, question
it's because she already knows the.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
Answer SO i just.
Speaker 4 (29:36):
Want to give him a little bit of points for
at least being, like, YUP i did.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
It, ny what was he gonna?
Speaker 2 (29:43):
Do bitch lie because other niggas. Lie, okay you know,
what and then they try to make you feel. Crazy
you know What i'm.
Speaker 5 (29:51):
Saying, Okay i'm wishing you to be nominogamous in your
long distance relationship because now all you long.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Distance bitch is about to get real mad at.
Speaker 5 (29:59):
Me if you're you're monogamous and you are in a
long distance fucking, relationship one of y'all is getting cheated.
Speaker 4 (30:04):
On get the fuck out of. Here niggas need to
let off their motherfucking, nuts and bitch is like. Attention
so if they if either person is not getting what they,
want they, cheat whether if it's with their, friend whether
it's with a, coworker whether it's with the bitch at the,
bar whether it's with somebody they.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Met on motherfucking. Hinge if you are in a monogamous
long distance, relationship you're being cheated on. Period.
Speaker 4 (30:26):
Anyway thank you so much everyone listening in To you've
got decisions and we would love to take you to
patreon dot com dot Slash Corbal. Decisions you can see
the Video mandy cursing out a. Screen, No i'm, cussing.
Y'all out y'all see, me bitch in four k pus
the Whole i'm talking to you you so just know.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
You get it cheated, on.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Bitch, anyways make sure you send your letters Into decisions
pod at gmail dot.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
Com see you next
Speaker 4 (30:53):
Me nil the in between the dep
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