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Speaker 1 (00:01):
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible throuffle, guess what.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
You've got decisions. You got decisions, baby, and I do too.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
I'm gonna try to come up with a jingle. Okay,
all I know that, listen. All I know is I
was listening to all of these interviews about clips and
apparently they bought themselves out of their deal and I
was like, wait, push your Tea got that much money?
And girl, apparently he made the jingle I'm loving it
for McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And oh yeah that on a was it Family Few?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
There was an episode of something where it talked about
push your teeth. No, it was an episode of for
a Vaccine. I'm like, I was like Family Few was
talking about pushing teeth.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
We did an episode of.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Ways that People Got Rich that were like a surprise
Doctor Dre we featured because it's just like beats.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
He got riches from Beats with yes and push your t.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Was on there and we were like yes.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So when I saw I was like, wait, push your
tea got coins.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Like that, and bitch when I went when I heard
what I heard I was like, oh, bitch, about to
make some jingles, like I know we're doing cute or
New York Times bestsellers and all we have this podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
But I'm like, bitch, I'm okay, let's let's go. Let's
get a you Got Decisions jingle.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Oh no, I was gonna give you a random Company.
Okay ready, Oh, random Company? Okay, one, two, three cbs.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
The receipts are long. That's good.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
That's it me long, that's okay, Random Company, Planned parenthood.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Don't want to keep it, no worries.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Hey, I ain't got no money.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Oh I lost it. I think we need to get
into and prov classes.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Anyways, guys, we want to thank y'all once again for
helping us become New York Times bestsellers. However, if you
have not yet, please go and get our book, No
Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration or power
and power not or bitch And by the way, always
(02:21):
like to let y'all know that we see y'all. I
just want to say Devnet Isaac, you are the only
one star review on Amazon, and it's only because you
receive the book damage and so if you can DM
me Weezy, this book came like it was stepped on
(02:42):
by a dinosaur, and I feel so bad. No uploaded
a picture and I'm like, oh my god, hey look
you cut it out. That's why I'm like, listen, devinet Isaac,
if you can literally reach out to my Instagram, Weezy's
Instagram where the decisions Decisions Instagram. I want to make
sure I get you a brand new book, and I
(03:02):
want to get it to you signed hunt because I
am so sorry that Amazon did you dirty like that,
but also, bitch, go back and give us five stars
hope because the word they mess up is just the
book binding of it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Goddamn.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
By the way, speaking of signed books, walked into random
stores today, I want to give a shout out to
P and T Nitwear on the Lower East Side. I
walked in there to buy a book that Tracy from
the stackspot recommended. I was like, by the way, can
I sign some books? And they were like hey, she
was like hell yeah, can I take some pitch on
the und books. I'm like yes, I started signing fun bitch,
(03:36):
they all sold right there.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Oh wow, I'll take you personalized by shit. That is dope.
That is really really dope.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
It feels special to sign something and then someone's got
to run and go get it. I was gonna post
it and be like, come grab this sign copy. I
wrote secret messages on different pages.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
It's so funny.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Merrow does something like that where he'll sign something or
lead like a pair of Knick tickets somewhere in the
city and literally you have to just go to the
place and find it. But there your and it comes
fine like real life. I love stuff like that. It
reminds me of Jake Cole's Dollar and a Dream Tour.
They just always became scavenger hunts. And today we are
(04:17):
going to help a horror Hive member and Patreon member.
Y'all know that if you want to see the video
of you Got Decisions, just join us over on Patreon.
It's patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. But we are
going to help our girl out because she is in
a dry spell right.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Now and she's looking for a cure.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Oh, so let's get into it. Hey, Mandy and Weezy,
I love you too. I was excited for the rebrand, However,
I couldn't leave Horrible Decisions alone, so I've become a
Patreon member. That's what the rest of y'all gotta do. Okay,
horrible decisions isn't anywhere. It's just five dollars a month now.
I also had the pleasure in meeting y'all in twenty twenty,
(04:56):
right before the pandemic happened, when you guys came to Houston.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Anyway, let's get to it. I'll try to keep it short.
Keep it short, bitch, because I'm gonna get lost. He
kept it short. She kept it sure, I promise you. So.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
My boyfriend and I have been living together for a
year and a half. However, we've been dating for three years.
For context, I'm thirty two and he's forty. I love
him a lot, and he's literally the sweetest ever. Unfortunately,
we find ourselves in dry spells a lot.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I work in the morning and he works at night.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Like literally, I get home when he is starting his
shift and he gets home when I'm in deep sleep.
When we have a few days off together, it seems
like we are really just enjoying each other's company and
sex is not on the brain for me at least.
Maybe I'm the problem, being that quality time is one
of my love languages. It seems like we just get
lost in between us catching up on shows and playing
(05:50):
our favorite game, Sims and two K. I suggested scheduling sex,
and he thought sex on the calendar was corny.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
His suggestion was trying mushrooms.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
However, I didn't want to be dependent on something like
that to get the juices flowing. When we were long distance,
we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. But
that's obvious why we would go weeks without seeing each other.
My question is, what are some tips to try to
get each other in the mood in a fun, playful way,
or try to stop the dry spells from happening so frequently.
(06:24):
I'm not used to taking charge, and I honestly think
we both waiting for someone to pounce. I feel like
we are getting too comfortable with each other and I
want to bring the spark back. Love y'all, you both
make me laugh. Can't wait to hear what you have
to say. By the way, she did take off all
the easy things for us to say. No planning on
the calendar, no additive of drugs.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
So here we go. So I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I have sex every day, but I wouldn't say it's spicy,
and he's still here. Babe, I've needed to do some shit, bitch,
damn it, he's here. Never mind nothing, I'm podcastic. Okay,
this is what I was gonna say, y'all. I was
(07:10):
gonna say, Yeah, I realize I've been needing to do
extra shit because I've given pussy at night when I
really feel like that kind of gets you in a
little bit of a routine that's not necessarily great. I
see that at night right before bid So I've been
planning to like where lingerie and just come out in heels,
and I keep forgetting to do it because we get
(07:31):
caught up in a good fucking movie, or we just
get tired and then just end up being like I
don't want to put this on. I will say this.
I would make your own fucking calendar. Don't make a
calendar where he's sharing it. I would make a calendar
that literally tells yourself you need to be doing this shit.
(07:52):
Because last night it hit me and I was like, damn,
when is the last time I sucked this nigger without
a T shirt that didn't have fucking saying on it,
Like I just be tone to put you know what
I'm saying, and that's not necessarily what keeps a relationship
healthy either, Like having regular sex is cool, but sometimes
it can turn into going through the motions. So I
(08:12):
think it's almost akin to being in a rut. It's
almost just like doing it because like, all right, let's
put ourselves to sleep. So I would recommend doing a
calendar for yourself, like we talk about in Noho's Barge,
setting boundaries because nobody else is gonna set them for you, bitch,
set a fucking schedule because if he's thinking it's corny,
you actually have to do this. You don't want to
play sim's that bad, bitch, get yourself some deep.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Like, in terms of even the fact that your days
off together are spent playing video games, I think.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
You should be kind of more clearly.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
You said neither of y'all like to take charge, but
I think setting up a date night, Like if y'all
have been together now for three years and now you
feel like you're just getting bored, I think to bring
back the excitement of going out, getting a date and
making it to however you use the fuck when y'all
were long distance relationships in a long distance relationship, and
whatever you used to turn y'all on, maybe try to
(09:09):
switch that back on. So set a date night with
intent to suck his dick on the car ride home,
Like have the intent to set up the play and
then execute at the end. I think like a lot
of times you can't think that like a date night
is a basic thing to do, because you actually have
(09:29):
to get a real hype for the date night. Find
something that's sexy. Maybe it's a show where you live.
Maybe it's even a lounge that just feels sexy. Put
on lingerie underneath the clothes for the intent to fuck.
I've realized I don't know if you can agree.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
The second I would even say, even when you're not
in a relationship, this ain't even boyfriends shit to me.
It could even be niggas that I've been fucking for years.
The second you got one really good round where it
kind of like changed your normal shit, whether it be
lingerie or a different position or or a different room,
then it spices up the next sex. Like I just
think you guys aren't probably having a spicy X moment.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
That's really what it is. Because maybe he both were
just good with fucking once a week.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
My mind just went to something really spicy, and I
mean we like twelve minutes in.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
So I think we could start being like a little
bit more graphic. Uh.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I've been having a thing lately where even if they
don't fuck me or maybe they're they're tired or something
like that, I really have been enjoying pulling out a
dildo and telling my partner to fuck me with it.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I did it with this guy in La.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
I used to do it with my ex like in
the morning if I still wanted to be fucked and
he just didn't have all that energy for me, Like
I'd be like, well, here you go, and I'd be like,
fuck me.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
With this, so not me, here you go. You can
put it.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Oh yeah, I'd be like, Okay, well, if you ain't
got enough dick for me, I gotta dick for me, okay,
And all you gotta do is operate it. But I
think that again, I mean, this could seem very simple,
but pulling out toys, Weezy said, the possibility of you
creating your own calendar and him not knowing. But maybe again,
(11:19):
instead of sitting in front of the TV watching shows
and playing video games. Maybe you literally set up fild trips,
take a goddamn trip to the goddamn sex tour and
pick some things out for y'all to try or do,
like a night out at the strip club. Like I
think always being in spaces that just remind you that
sex can be fun and sex can be on the
(11:42):
table in more ways than just the traditional route, then
I think it brings the excitement and the spark back,
and if you're looking for the spark, I think a
field trip to the sex stour is always like you
pick a toy and he gets a pick.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
He's a place that's like a low pressure strip club.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
There is a low pressure strip club.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Bro, if anyone lives in New York, you have to
go to this strip of It is called Pumps New York.
It is in Williamsburg and it's kind of like death
metal tattooed bitches. It's weird, but it's like kind of grungy,
so it's cheap. If you sit at the bar, you
have to tip each girl a dollar. It's just and
(12:23):
it's like a bikini city bar type of vibe. But
at the same time, it's just like whatever we're in
Williamsburg for the day, let's go to pumps, and sometimes
just being around the girls and being able to comment
and obviously in good ways, you know, just being like ooh,
this one's sexy, I like this, I like that. That
shit be fun. You just gotta gotta remind yourself. And
strip clubs to me, are very non threatening for spicing
(12:44):
up relationships because hey, you're going home together, you're experiencing
this together, and this is this bitch's job.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
It's to turn y'all on.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
So it's like, just literally go and be you. Okay,
you wait, you just gave a place suggestion. I have two,
one for LA, one for New York. So it's not
a strip club. It's not a strip club. Neither of
them are strip clubs. But in New York, I would
suggest bathtub gin Gin. I love bathtub Gin especially like
(13:20):
it's just the ambiance.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Make sure you get a table because.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Otherwise you'll be standing at the bar and you're not
gonna get the full experience. But bathtub gin is really cute.
And then in LA it's one.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Of the places.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Now I feel bad because I take any nigga that
I meet in LA. Now it's like LA some often. Now,
mister Wanderlust. It's downtown side of it, like the Ac Hotel.
It's like there's like eight floors of stuff. But mister Wanderlust,
when you walk in, there's a woman on an aerial
(13:53):
hoop that's like in a burlesque outfit. And if you
go early enough, they actually have a bur less performer
that comes out from the center of the bar behind
the bar, literally unsuspecting and it's just sexy. They do
live music, but the ambiance is hot. And then if
you even want to either dumb down the night, you
(14:17):
can go to the rooftop and chilling drink or there's
a club inside. And I'm not even gonna tell y'all
the last time I went in there, I ended up
making out with a bitch and almost had a threesome.
So literally it's just one of these I haven't even
told that story yet. I'm probably gonna share that on
the Patreon, but it was the last time I was
in La almost the best.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
It was crazy.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
But yeah, so mister Wanderlust in LA and then Bathtub
Gen in New York. I don't think it has to
be a full blown strip club, but any setting that
you have to kind of dress up feel sexy. There's
sexy people, there's like titty tassels, you drink a cute cocktail.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
It just that's the vibe to I want to suck
your dick at the end of the night.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
And so anytime I want a date, if a nigga
take me to a champagne piano bar, baby.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I'm like, why are we still here? I want to
put it in my mouth.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
And so I suggest going to those type of spaces too,
And so I think that that's the great thing weezy.
And I just let you know, like a lot of
people when they think about getting spicy and you know,
not having sex, so much of.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It starts outside of the bedroom. Bro.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
It starts out of the bedroom, set the mood outside
of the bedroom.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
And I think that also.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You think of getting spicy as the tools the things
to bring in.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
I really believe getting spicy is the energy.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Like for me, like even I'm making the comment, oh
we're just fucking before bad a lot, I need to
just do x y Z. Actually, to be honest with you,
I'll spicy shit up. But I was talking crazy last
night and I'm telling you sometimes you gotta step our
dirty talk up too, which iall started googling shit.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
I was like, let me say something crazy. You were
googling dirty talk.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I was like, cause I was like wanting to do
an episode around dirty talk and where it comes from.
And I was like, oh, this could be cool. But
then I was like, what would I use for myself?
And one of the things I saw was if someone's
fucking you and you want to like start sucking dig.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
It was let me taste how you make me feel.
I want to taste what you're doing to me. I
was like, okay, well, now I'm going to overshare something.
He was looking at me. He was confused. He was like,
about they hand me my own coucie juice. He was
really lost. I'm going to overshare something.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
But this is also something if you want to get
a little accessory. I recently went to the sex store
because I was like, well, I'm going to show out
my love boom.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
So I was like, I'm gonna show out.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
They had a butt plug that was like something that
you know fit him, and so I don't know if
you know, if you if you go online, you can
google butt plugs. So if he's like a basketball fan,
you can get a butt plug with a basketball if
you if he's a football fan, you could have a
football basketball.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
They also have butt plugs with sports teams.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Bro, Like, you could almost get anything at the end
of a butt plug. And so if you want to
like make it exciting, what why are you covering your face? Bro?
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Hold on because you're laughing.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
Do not do not say I want you this is
a picture of. But I'm gonna show you the bt
plug I just bought and it was cute.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Don't say what it's a picture of. They're gonna see
you though, No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm saying I'm texting it to you.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
I'm not sure, but there's like mad different things that
you can get in butt plug form that could be
specific to the person.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
How is cu right?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Sounds like I got something special for you and I
bent over and it was a butt plug of something
he liked.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
So uh the box of where Mandy got it from
it says booty spot.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
That's all I see.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
A Well, they have a lot of eyes online, so
if you could even customize some of your sex toys
for your partner, I would absolutely recommend to do that
as well, because that's a good way to spice it up.
And let him know that you're intentional and that you
pay attention to detail. So yeah, that would be my
(18:20):
that would be my last bit of advice. We hope
that this helps you. We hope that you get out
of this dry spell, and we hope that you know
you write us back and say you've been having the
best sex of your life with your partner three years yay.
If you want to send your questions into us, we
(18:41):
will answer it here. On you got decisions, make sure
you send it over to Decisions Pod at Gmail.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Don't call, We'll see you next week. Everybody, Bye, Happy
home day. Ye simple?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Then do the don red, the deep
If you would like to have us answer your questions.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or
a terrible throuffle, guess what.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
You've got decisions. You got decisions, baby, and I do too.
Speaker 3 (00:17):
I'm gonna try to come up with a jingle. Okay,
all I know that, listen. All I know is I
was listening to all of these interviews about clips and
apparently they bought themselves out of their deal and I
was like, wait, push your Tea got that much money?
And girl, apparently he made the jingle I'm loving it
for McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And oh yeah that on a was it Family Few?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
There was an episode of something where it talked about
push your teeth. No, it was an episode of for
a Vaccine. I'm like, I was like Family Few was
talking about pushing teeth.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
We did an episode of.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
Ways that People Got Rich that were like a surprise
Doctor Dre we featured because it's just like beats.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
He got riches from Beats with yes and push your t.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Was on there and we were like yes.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So when I saw I was like, wait, push your
tea got coins.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
Like that, and bitch when I went when I heard
what I heard I was like, oh, bitch, about to
make some jingles, like I know we're doing cute or
New York Times bestsellers and all we have this podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
But I'm like, bitch, I'm okay, let's let's go. Let's
get a you Got Decisions jingle.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Oh no, I was gonna give you a random Company.
Okay ready, Oh, random Company? Okay, one, two, three cbs.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
The receipts are long. That's good.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
That's it me long, that's okay, Random Company, Planned parenthood.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Don't want to keep it, no worries.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Hey, I ain't got no money.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Oh I lost it. I think we need to get
into and prov classes.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Anyways, guys, we want to thank y'all once again for
helping us become New York Times bestsellers. However, if you
have not yet, please go and get our book, No
Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration or power
and power not or bitch And by the way, always
(02:21):
like to let y'all know that we see y'all. I
just want to say Devnet Isaac, you are the only
one star review on Amazon, and it's only because you
receive the book damage and so if you can DM
me Weezy, this book came like it was stepped on
(02:42):
by a dinosaur, and I feel so bad. No uploaded
a picture and I'm like, oh my god, hey look
you cut it out. That's why I'm like, listen, devinet Isaac,
if you can literally reach out to my Instagram, Weezy's
Instagram where the decisions Decisions Instagram. I want to make
sure I get you a brand new book, and I
(03:02):
want to get it to you signed hunt because I
am so sorry that Amazon did you dirty like that,
but also, bitch, go back and give us five stars
hope because the word they mess up is just the
book binding of it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Goddamn.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
By the way, speaking of signed books, walked into random
stores today, I want to give a shout out to
P and T Nitwear on the Lower East Side. I
walked in there to buy a book that Tracy from
the stackspot recommended. I was like, by the way, can
I sign some books? And they were like hey, she
was like hell yeah, can I take some pitch on
the und books. I'm like yes, I started signing fun bitch,
(03:36):
they all sold right there.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Oh wow, I'll take you personalized by shit. That is dope.
That is really really dope.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
It feels special to sign something and then someone's got
to run and go get it. I was gonna post
it and be like, come grab this sign copy. I
wrote secret messages on different pages.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
It's so funny.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
Merrow does something like that where he'll sign something or
lead like a pair of Knick tickets somewhere in the
city and literally you have to just go to the
place and find it. But there your and it comes
fine like real life. I love stuff like that. It
reminds me of Jake Cole's Dollar and a Dream Tour.
They just always became scavenger hunts. And today we are
(04:17):
going to help a horror Hive member and Patreon member.
Y'all know that if you want to see the video
of you Got Decisions, just join us over on Patreon.
It's patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. But we are
going to help our girl out because she is in
a dry spell right.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Now and she's looking for a cure.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Oh, so let's get into it. Hey, Mandy and Weezy,
I love you too. I was excited for the rebrand, However,
I couldn't leave Horrible Decisions alone, so I've become a
Patreon member. That's what the rest of y'all gotta do. Okay,
horrible decisions isn't anywhere. It's just five dollars a month now.
I also had the pleasure in meeting y'all in twenty twenty,
(04:56):
right before the pandemic happened, when you guys came to Houston.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Anyway, let's get to it. I'll try to keep it short.
Keep it short, bitch, because I'm gonna get lost. He
kept it short. She kept it sure, I promise you. So.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
My boyfriend and I have been living together for a
year and a half. However, we've been dating for three years.
For context, I'm thirty two and he's forty. I love
him a lot, and he's literally the sweetest ever. Unfortunately,
we find ourselves in dry spells a lot.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I work in the morning and he works at night.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Like literally, I get home when he is starting his
shift and he gets home when I'm in deep sleep.
When we have a few days off together, it seems
like we are really just enjoying each other's company and
sex is not on the brain for me at least.
Maybe I'm the problem, being that quality time is one
of my love languages. It seems like we just get
lost in between us catching up on shows and playing
(05:50):
our favorite game, Sims and two K. I suggested scheduling sex,
and he thought sex on the calendar was corny.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
His suggestion was trying mushrooms.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
However, I didn't want to be dependent on something like
that to get the juices flowing. When we were long distance,
we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. But
that's obvious why we would go weeks without seeing each other.
My question is, what are some tips to try to
get each other in the mood in a fun, playful way,
or try to stop the dry spells from happening so frequently.
(06:24):
I'm not used to taking charge, and I honestly think
we both waiting for someone to pounce. I feel like
we are getting too comfortable with each other and I
want to bring the spark back. Love y'all, you both
make me laugh. Can't wait to hear what you have
to say. By the way, she did take off all
the easy things for us to say. No planning on
the calendar, no additive of drugs.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
So here we go. So I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I have sex every day, but I wouldn't say it's spicy,
and he's still here. Babe, I've needed to do some shit, bitch,
damn it, he's here. Never mind nothing, I'm podcastic. Okay,
this is what I was gonna say, y'all. I was
(07:10):
gonna say, Yeah, I realize I've been needing to do
extra shit because I've given pussy at night when I
really feel like that kind of gets you in a
little bit of a routine that's not necessarily great. I
see that at night right before bid So I've been
planning to like where lingerie and just come out in heels,
and I keep forgetting to do it because we get
(07:31):
caught up in a good fucking movie, or we just
get tired and then just end up being like I
don't want to put this on. I will say this.
I would make your own fucking calendar. Don't make a
calendar where he's sharing it. I would make a calendar
that literally tells yourself you need to be doing this shit.
(07:52):
Because last night it hit me and I was like, damn,
when is the last time I sucked this nigger without
a T shirt that didn't have fucking saying on it,
Like I just be tone to put you know what
I'm saying, and that's not necessarily what keeps a relationship
healthy either, Like having regular sex is cool, but sometimes
it can turn into going through the motions. So I
(08:12):
think it's almost akin to being in a rut. It's
almost just like doing it because like, all right, let's
put ourselves to sleep. So I would recommend doing a
calendar for yourself, like we talk about in Noho's Barge,
setting boundaries because nobody else is gonna set them for you, bitch,
set a fucking schedule because if he's thinking it's corny,
you actually have to do this. You don't want to
play sim's that bad, bitch, get yourself some deep.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
So that's what I was gonna say.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Like, in terms of even the fact that your days
off together are spent playing video games, I think.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
You should be kind of more clearly.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
You said neither of y'all like to take charge, but
I think setting up a date night, Like if y'all
have been together now for three years and now you
feel like you're just getting bored, I think to bring
back the excitement of going out, getting a date and
making it to however you use the fuck when y'all
were long distance relationships in a long distance relationship, and
whatever you used to turn y'all on, maybe try to
(09:09):
switch that back on. So set a date night with
intent to suck his dick on the car ride home,
Like have the intent to set up the play and
then execute at the end. I think like a lot
of times you can't think that like a date night
is a basic thing to do, because you actually have
(09:29):
to get a real hype for the date night. Find
something that's sexy. Maybe it's a show where you live.
Maybe it's even a lounge that just feels sexy. Put
on lingerie underneath the clothes for the intent to fuck.
I've realized I don't know if you can agree.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
The second I would even say, even when you're not
in a relationship, this ain't even boyfriends shit to me.
It could even be niggas that I've been fucking for years.
The second you got one really good round where it
kind of like changed your normal shit, whether it be
lingerie or a different position or or a different room,
then it spices up the next sex. Like I just
think you guys aren't probably having a spicy X moment.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
That's really what it is. Because maybe he both were
just good with fucking once a week.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
My mind just went to something really spicy, and I
mean we like twelve minutes in.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
So I think we could start being like a little
bit more graphic. Uh.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I've been having a thing lately where even if they
don't fuck me or maybe they're they're tired or something
like that, I really have been enjoying pulling out a
dildo and telling my partner to fuck me with it.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
I did it with this guy in La.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
I used to do it with my ex like in
the morning if I still wanted to be fucked and
he just didn't have all that energy for me, Like
I'd be like, well, here you go, and I'd be like,
fuck me.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
With this, so not me, here you go. You can
put it.
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Oh yeah, I'd be like, Okay, well, if you ain't
got enough dick for me, I gotta dick for me, okay,
And all you gotta do is operate it. But I
think that again, I mean, this could seem very simple,
but pulling out toys, Weezy said, the possibility of you
creating your own calendar and him not knowing. But maybe again,
(11:19):
instead of sitting in front of the TV watching shows
and playing video games. Maybe you literally set up fild trips,
take a goddamn trip to the goddamn sex tour and
pick some things out for y'all to try or do,
like a night out at the strip club. Like I
think always being in spaces that just remind you that
sex can be fun and sex can be on the
(11:42):
table in more ways than just the traditional route, then
I think it brings the excitement and the spark back,
and if you're looking for the spark, I think a
field trip to the sex stour is always like you
pick a toy and he gets a pick.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
He's a place that's like a low pressure strip club.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
There is a low pressure strip club.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Bro, if anyone lives in New York, you have to
go to this strip of It is called Pumps New York.
It is in Williamsburg and it's kind of like death
metal tattooed bitches. It's weird, but it's like kind of grungy,
so it's cheap. If you sit at the bar, you
have to tip each girl a dollar. It's just and
(12:23):
it's like a bikini city bar type of vibe. But
at the same time, it's just like whatever we're in
Williamsburg for the day, let's go to pumps, and sometimes
just being around the girls and being able to comment
and obviously in good ways, you know, just being like ooh,
this one's sexy, I like this, I like that. That
shit be fun. You just gotta gotta remind yourself. And
strip clubs to me, are very non threatening for spicing
(12:44):
up relationships because hey, you're going home together, you're experiencing
this together, and this is this bitch's job.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
It's to turn y'all on.
Speaker 3 (12:54):
So it's like, just literally go and be you. Okay,
you wait, you just gave a place suggestion. I have two,
one for LA, one for New York. So it's not
a strip club. It's not a strip club. Neither of
them are strip clubs. But in New York, I would
suggest bathtub gin Gin. I love bathtub Gin especially like
(13:20):
it's just the ambiance.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Make sure you get a table because.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Otherwise you'll be standing at the bar and you're not
gonna get the full experience. But bathtub gin is really cute.
And then in LA it's one.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Of the places.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
Now I feel bad because I take any nigga that
I meet in LA. Now it's like LA some often. Now,
mister Wanderlust. It's downtown side of it, like the Ac Hotel.
It's like there's like eight floors of stuff. But mister Wanderlust,
when you walk in, there's a woman on an aerial
(13:53):
hoop that's like in a burlesque outfit. And if you
go early enough, they actually have a bur less performer
that comes out from the center of the bar behind
the bar, literally unsuspecting and it's just sexy. They do
live music, but the ambiance is hot. And then if
you even want to either dumb down the night, you
(14:17):
can go to the rooftop and chilling drink or there's
a club inside. And I'm not even gonna tell y'all
the last time I went in there, I ended up
making out with a bitch and almost had a threesome.
So literally it's just one of these I haven't even
told that story yet. I'm probably gonna share that on
the Patreon, but it was the last time I was
in La almost the best.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
It was crazy.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
But yeah, so mister Wanderlust in LA and then Bathtub
Gen in New York. I don't think it has to
be a full blown strip club, but any setting that
you have to kind of dress up feel sexy. There's
sexy people, there's like titty tassels, you drink a cute cocktail.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
It just that's the vibe to I want to suck
your dick at the end of the night.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
And so anytime I want a date, if a nigga
take me to a champagne piano bar, baby.
Speaker 1 (15:10):
I'm like, why are we still here? I want to
put it in my mouth.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
And so I suggest going to those type of spaces too,
And so I think that that's the great thing weezy.
And I just let you know, like a lot of
people when they think about getting spicy and you know,
not having sex, so much of.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It starts outside of the bedroom. Bro.
Speaker 3 (15:29):
It starts out of the bedroom, set the mood outside
of the bedroom.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
And I think that also.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
You think of getting spicy as the tools the things
to bring in.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
I really believe getting spicy is the energy.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
Like for me, like even I'm making the comment, oh
we're just fucking before bad a lot, I need to
just do x y Z. Actually, to be honest with you,
I'll spicy shit up. But I was talking crazy last
night and I'm telling you sometimes you gotta step our
dirty talk up too, which iall started googling shit.
Speaker 1 (16:05):
I was like, let me say something crazy. You were
googling dirty talk.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I was like, cause I was like wanting to do
an episode around dirty talk and where it comes from.
And I was like, oh, this could be cool. But
then I was like, what would I use for myself?
And one of the things I saw was if someone's
fucking you and you want to like start sucking dig.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
It was let me taste how you make me feel.
I want to taste what you're doing to me. I
was like, okay, well, now I'm going to overshare something.
He was looking at me. He was confused. He was like,
about they hand me my own coucie juice. He was
really lost. I'm going to overshare something.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
But this is also something if you want to get
a little accessory. I recently went to the sex store
because I was like, well, I'm going to show out
my love boom.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
So I was like, I'm gonna show out.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
They had a butt plug that was like something that
you know fit him, and so I don't know if
you know, if you if you go online, you can
google butt plugs. So if he's like a basketball fan,
you can get a butt plug with a basketball if
you if he's a football fan, you could have a
football basketball.
Speaker 1 (17:08):
They also have butt plugs with sports teams.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Bro, Like, you could almost get anything at the end
of a butt plug. And so if you want to
like make it exciting, what why are you covering your face? Bro?
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Hold on because you're laughing.
Speaker 3 (17:21):
Do not do not say I want you this is
a picture of. But I'm gonna show you the bt
plug I just bought and it was cute.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Don't say what it's a picture of. They're gonna see
you though, No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
I'm saying I'm texting it to you.
Speaker 3 (17:34):
I'm not sure, but there's like mad different things that
you can get in butt plug form that could be
specific to the person.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
How is cu right?
Speaker 3 (17:47):
Sounds like I got something special for you and I
bent over and it was a butt plug of something
he liked.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
So uh the box of where Mandy got it from
it says booty spot.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
That's all I see.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
A Well, they have a lot of eyes online, so
if you could even customize some of your sex toys
for your partner, I would absolutely recommend to do that
as well, because that's a good way to spice it up.
And let him know that you're intentional and that you
pay attention to detail. So yeah, that would be my
(18:20):
that would be my last bit of advice. We hope
that this helps you. We hope that you get out
of this dry spell, and we hope that you know
you write us back and say you've been having the
best sex of your life with your partner three years yay.
If you want to send your questions into us, we
(18:41):
will answer it here. On you got decisions, make sure
you send it over to Decisions Pod at Gmail.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Don't call, We'll see you next week. Everybody, Bye, Happy
home day. Ye simple?
Speaker 3 (19:01):
Then do the don red, the deep
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