December 18, 2025 • 37 mins
Today, we meet Elisabeth Carson, a trauma-informed transformational leader, coach, and global speaker. Elisabeth shares her compelling journey from a tumultuous past to a multifaceted present, emphasizing her deep spiritual awakening and commitment to inner work. She discusses the significant impact of her adoption on her life, the importance of shadow work, and her profound connection to nature as a grounding force. Throughout the conversation, Elisabeth explores themes of resilience, surrender, and finding purpose in pain. She also offers practical tips on maintaining gratitude, filling one’s cup, and leading from a place of feminine energy and presence. The episode concludes with Elisabeth’s encouragement for women to prioritize their own well-being to better serve others.
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Take a deep breath in through your nose.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Holds it.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
Now, release slowly again, deep in, helle.
Speaker 4 (00:50):
Hold release, repeating internally to yourself as you connect to
my voice. I am deeply well. I am deeply well.
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I am deeply I'm Debbie Brown and this is the
Deeply Well Podcast. Welcome to Deeply Well, a soft place
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to land on your journey. A podcast for those that
are curious, creative, and ready to expand in higher consciousness
and self care.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
This is where we heal, This is where we transcend.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
Welcome back to the show everyone, of course Brown, this
is deeply Well. Today's guest is someone whose life and
work are a true embodiment of what radical transformation feels like,
especially when we surrender to all of our inner work,
proof that no matter where we start, healing and reinvention
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are always possible. Her story is one of courage, resilience,
and deep spiritual awakening. She has turned unimaginable pain into
profound purpose, creating a movement that reminds us that nothing
is off limits when it comes to healing. I am
so honored to welcome our guest. Elizabeth Carson, a trauma
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informed transformational leader coach global speaker and visionary entrepreneur. Elizabeth
is the creator of the Unlimited with Elizabeth Carson podcast
and a viral force on social media. With her raw
insights on trauma, spirituality, shadow work, and embodiment, she has
shared her story and teachings on international stages, guiding people
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into breakthroughs of identity, healing, and power. From a past
hustling in the streets to a multifaceted present as a biohacker,
certified pastry chef, and president of a mental health facility,
just to name a few, Elizabeth is living proof that
reinvention is always possible.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Now.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
As a beloved coach and mentor, she leads a thriving
online community, coaching programs and healing in person events. Raising
her son as a single mom surviving betrayal and abusive experiences.
Elizabeth's work is rooted in showing others you can burn
it all down and still rise higher.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Thank you for being on the show. Welcome to Deeply Well.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Thank you so much, Devey. I'm honored to be here.
Like I said when I got here, I've just been
looking forward to this so much.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
So looking forward to this, and you know, I have
to share with everyone on the show.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And I'm sure you guys.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Have caught it already, but I was so so grateful
to be a guest on your podcast and share my
book with your world and your audience that episode. I
loved that episode. It was like, really the first time,
and everyone, if you haven't heard it yet, check it out.
We'll link it in the show notes. I loved in
that episode. It was my first time being able to
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talk about my book really from the experience of healing
through my own pain and healing through my divorce and
just being able to really speak to the work as
women and moms and that balance of doing it all.
And I know so many listening right now really identify
with that, you know, leading a multifaceted life and also
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raising a child while in spiritual transformation.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Yes, it's a lot, it is. It's a lot, but
it's such a beautiful experience. It's honestly, my son is
my biggest teacher, you know, and he's just the biggest
blessing in my life honestly. I mean, he's the one
that kind of snapped me out of my craziness and
made me realize I really have to make different decisions
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because now I'm responsible for a whole another life. So
he really saved my life, to be honest, and yeah,
it's just been such a blessing to be a mom.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Oh my gosh, such a such a blessing, such a beautiful,
sacred work.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Before we kind of.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Dive into all the things like this moment in the world,
it is, I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
If we have all the words from what we're experiencing
right now. It's a lot. It's a lot.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And then when we think of what the work is
being in community and what the work is sharing healing,
where are you in your.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Life right now? And how are you feeling? You know what?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
That's who that's a loaded question. I mean honestly, I
just went through a whole new transformation about five six
months ago. My whole entire world changed completely. I thought
everything was one way. You know, my whole life was
painted as this pretty picture of I was married, you know,
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we were doing well, and I had a staff, I
had friends, I had a big house and a nice
car and a chauffeur, and you know, all of that
changed in a matter of a couple hours and it
was just like boom, and it was gone, and I
was like, okay, so what do I do? And you know,
how do I rebuild from here? And you know, doing
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that with a child too, it was, you know, it
was like mom mode kind of just kicked in and
I'll just be completely transparent. I was not in the
best place when I was in that pretty picture painting.
I mean I was. I was smoking a lot of weed,
you know, I just I was. I wasn't very happy.
I was burnt out, really really burnt out from what
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we had built. And so when everything changed, it was
like boom. I sobered up, I quit smoking, and I
just wanted to normalize life for my son because it
was so not normal. I was just like, how can
I create stability and safety for my child?
Speaker 4 (07:14):
I always think this because I'm myself, and we talked
about this on your show. You know, I went through
a divorce in the pandemic a few weeks after the
pandemic started, which was something and I, you know, much
like you mom, and so I remember, I know, my
first thought was similar in that, Okay, how do I
bring I saw it as an opportunity to up level
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as a mom and to bring even more of myself
into my relationship with my son. But also really looking like, Okay,
how do I ground my own energy and kind of
my chaotic emotional world in this moment, because this is
going to happen for all of us, Like whether you
go through divorce or not, all of life is uncertain. Yes,
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so we are all going to be hit throughout our
lifetimes with various moments that are like, hey, this is
either the moment that.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
You can like.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Hit rock bottom or that you can like really find
a new part of yourself to rise in. So like
when you realize when you hit that moment and you're like,
life is going to be different now and I will
not be going back to what that was, so I'm
creating something completely new.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Like what's the first thing that you do?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I just tried to really, you know, ground my nervous
system because I was such a shock. You know. I
don't like to hide my emotions from my son, because
I feel like a lot of parents try to do that,
and we try to cover up and we don't want
them to see us upset. But yet our energy explains
it all and so when we're not in alignment with
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ourselves in front of them, it confuses them. So I
allowed myself to be upset, but I didn't want to
be Overboord, just a hot mess in front of him,
and because you know that, just I didn't want him
to see me completely distraught. So I was just kind
of I mean, I used mother Earth really to ground
that stress out of my body. I would just take
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walks in nature, connect with trees, and really just connect
with things that made me feel grounded. And so that
helped me move through these emotions in a way that
was very healthy. And yet I would, you know, still
stable for my son and allowing him also to have
his feelings and allowing him to get his anger and
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crying out as well, I mean, and just being there
as the mom for him in those moments. It was
you know, it was very teachable for me.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Yeah, oh the way the wisdom comes in yeah, oh
my gosh.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
And that's why even when you first started describing that,
like the word that I use was like initiation, because
it's like it's always so fascinating, especially I think when
you are someone that is that has like deep awareness,
that is already like committed to consciousness, and then we
find all these like highly sophisticated ways that we've been
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hiding from ourselves or all the crevices that there's like
just a little bit more to do, like more things
to look at. One of the things that you work
with a lot and talk about a lot on your
podcast and with your community is shadow work, right, And
I think shadow work is so misunderstood and sometimes gets
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a bad rap. You know, people's assumption is like the
word sounds like darkness, and so oh no, get out
of the dark.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
You don't want to. But like, how do you classify
shadow work?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I would just say shadow work is some of the
most beautiful work that anyone can do in their lifetime.
I mean it's just kind of shining the light where
your darkness lays. I mean, we have all went through
stuff in our lives, and it it's knowing that you know,
we have these things, we have these traumas that affect
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us to this present moment today. And if we can
shed lights where those dark areas are and really just
readdress ourselves and look at ourselves and work through that pain,
it's easier for us to come to the present moment
without judgment and to actually come here with presence instead
of chains that are holding us back from coming to
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the present moment. You know, and seeing life and the
beauty that there really is. So it's really just growing
through those dark moments and you know, learning our lessons.
There there comes a gift in every single bad I
wouldn't even say it's bad, but every single trauma that
we've experienced, there is a gift in that trauma. And
if we can find that, that's our power.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
What surprised you when.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
You kind of like went in with your light, with
your flashlight into some of those places, Oh.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Man, it's just it's like, I feel like this might
trigger some people, but I feel like everything in our
lives we've attracted it in some way, shape or form,
and so you know, it's really just changing our energy
frequency mind state is what's going to change our life.
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You know, a lot of trauma happened to me, and
dark moments happened to me because I put myself in
those situations. You know, I was kind of just in
that vibration, in that frequency, and I mean I was
lost and confused. I didn't know any better. I'm not
ashamed of it, but it's just knowing and looking back
at it now, it's like, well, I was there, you know,
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I was in those places where I probably shouldn't have been,
and so it caused a lot more in my life.
So you know, when you can put awareness on things
and take accountability, then you can change. When you don't
take accountability, then it's like you're kind of stuck.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Yeah, gosh, it's so true, and I'm so glad you're
speaking to that because I think just for so many
of us, like we've walked through things, We've had things
that like we're like, how did I end up in
that circumstance or you know, and sometimes it really is circumstantial,
especially in our younger years, Like we don't choose where
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we grow up, right, we don't choose the containers that
were put in until we become adults and have agency.
But you know, we're just trying to survive whatever our
natural environment is, whatever our ecosystem is, you know. And
I think especially for our young girls, and this is
a whole different conversation because our men have so many
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other different kinds of battles that they face that I
can't speak to fully authentically because I had my experience.
But I think especially with women, it's hard to be
young and environments that are really hardened because you don't
get to learn natural softness, and like you learn your
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femininity in a different way, like in a way that actually,
like long term it is hard to understand. I think, Yeah,
some of what you speak about, you know, is like
where you came from and coming from harder environments where
you really had to rise and probably didn't have any
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blueprints on how to do that. How did how you
grew up inform your work now in transformation and even
help you when you found that you were in a
hard situation.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
You know, this year, you.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Know, I really realized over the past ten years that
my biggest issue that has or trauma that's happened to
me was adoption being given away at birth. And I
actually did some somatic work and experience my birth again,
and I realized that I never saw my mother, and
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it just really made me realize how important deep those moments,
those first moments that you have in this third dimension
are so important for the rest of your life. It
stamps your blueprint of who you become. If you think
about it, as babies, as young children, we don't have
any armor, you know, we don't have anything, we don't
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have masks. We just are And so when traumas happened
to us, it hits us direct, so that re experiencing
that process, I mean who I mean, it was some
of the deepest pain that I've ever felt. And so
knowing that has, you know, really made me see people's
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pain with abandonment and those first moments in those first
seven years, even in gestation, even when you're a fetus.
I mean, stress hormones crossed the placenta halfway through pregnancy.
So I even went did some cranial sacral work and
went back into my mother's womb and felt her despair,
you know, and felt those because the baby is swimming
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in those stress hormones. So knowing that moving forward in
my life, I mean, we're just stamped with so many
different things that we don't even really understand sometimes, and
it really makes us react to the current situation, I
guess inappropriately because we don't even understand ourselves. So that's
what I really try to teach people now is really
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just understanding what they've went through to cause their blueprints
as what it is today. And so going through my
last situation, I mean I kind of have realized I
have caused this pattern in my life of abandonment because
I feel like, you know, maybe that was I feel
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like when things keep showing up in your life, it
just shows you what you have to heal within yourself truly.
So yeah, it just kind of brought me back to those,
you know, the abandonment thing of adoption. So it's like,
how do I heal this wound through myself so I
don't ever, you know, repeat this cycle of being abandoned.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
You know.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
That's so I mean, gosh, I would love to do it,
like just a whole episode on that because that is
I mean, that's so deep, and those are I think
the the more for those on this spiritual path, the
farther we go and the deeper we get into the
nuance of like what it is to feel love, to
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be love, like to know love.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
But also how early it starts.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Like those stats you gave around feeling a mom's pain
while you're in there, like that is so real, Like
how many of our mothers were in hard environments or
hard circumstances when they were growing.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Life and they don't have a choice.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
You know, you don't want to pass that to your baby,
but you don't have a choice, you know. It's what's
happening to you and what your body naturally does and
the ways that can affect relationship or reflect you know,
how a person grows to feel about themselves. Like it's
deep in so many layers. I think hearing your story
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about having to go back and reckon with what it
felt like to be adopted, and like the deep nuance
of I never even got to be like in my
mom's arms, like I never I don't know her, you know,
Like it really is the levels of that, And I
think in our society we don't talk about that enough,
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and we don't think about that for children enough, Like
we really don't when we think about the amount of
kids that end up in foster care and are then
thrown to the wolves the moment they hit eighteen and eighteen,
you not only are you still a child, but if
you were in the system, you're becoming eighteen with so
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much less than everyone else in every single way. Yeah,
but how did you work with that energy of being adopted?
Is that something that you realize affected you when you
were younger or did it kind of like come into
your awareness like once you were a woman that that
was something you needed to heal.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
You know what I look back now and realized that
I always felt that in my childhood. I mean I
used to have tantrums and then unfortunately my parents they
didn't know how to handle me, so they would just
leave me in a room and just let me tantrum
it out, and I would just fall asleep from exhaustion.
And that was scratching on that abandonment wounds. And then
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you know, just growing up with people that didn't look
like me. You know, adoption is very serious for people.
I think that it's something that we should take a
deeper look on and really try to educate people more
so on because you literally don't really have an identity,
you know what I'm saying, It's really crazy. I mean
I started drinking at eleven. I mean I was sneaking
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out at ten. I mean I moved out of my
parents house at fourteen. I was selling drugs at twelve.
You know, it was just it was a wild childhood
for me. And it's like I look at my son
and he's thirteen, and he's like just most just he
loved school. He doesn't want to miss school. I mean,
he's very concerned about doing his work on time and
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getting good grades and I'm just like that was I
was the opposite of that, and so I just I
look at that and I wonder how much of that
had to do with those first few moments on my
birth and how angry and just devastated I was as
a baby not being I mean, I remember when I
re experienced the birth process, all I wanted to do
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was look into my mother's eyes and it was like
I didn't get that, you know. So that pain carried
through my childhood and into my teenage years, and I
just I feel like we should educate about those first
few moments because they're so detrimental for a person. I mean,
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I had a girlfriend that I used to bartend with
and she was a Korean adoptee and we used to
just do cocaine all night and bartend. You know what.
It was just very toxic, and I wonder how much
of that has to do with her adoption, you know.
And yes, a lot of adoptees have these issues and
have these you know, abandonment things, and just they go
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to drugs and alcohol a lot of the time, and
so you got to wonder why that is.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
Yeah, one hundred percent, one hundred percent, And I think
that part, and I hope we get into this and
especially you know, when people.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
Like yourself share their story.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
This is the nuance that we need to understand, like,
this is the next level of mental health, of spiritual health,
when we really get into the fibers of what you know,
these kind of experiences that are very normalized in our
society are like it affects millions of millions of people.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
You know.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
Wow, thank you for sharing that such a deep and
vulnerable way, because I think it just aligned so many
of us.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
We're not.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
We don't always talk about the harder realities of childhood,
you know, and especially when you are kind of opened
up to more adult experiences and environments. And that's a
lot of us. That's a lot of us. That's a
lot of things. You know, by fifteen, Yeah, we're put
in a lot of hard situations, you know before you
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even quote unquote like make it into the world as
an adult. And I find that to be something extremely
common among healers. If you were guided to the path
of healing, you know, most of us are wounded healers.
You come to the path from hard edges and hard things.
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Deeply well, a lot of your work centers on feminine
leadership especially and embodiment.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
What doesn't mean to be able to lead from the feminine?
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Oh man, I feel like, you know, our society, especially
in America, we're taught to hustle, hustle, hustle, you know,
you know, sleep when you die, you know all that
that whole mentality. Being in your feminine energy is the
opposite of that. It is really just being embodied in
presence and knowing that what is here for you is
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for you, and understanding the attraction word. You know, this
is something I really learned over the dark night this
past couple of months, is that our magic is within
us and we just have to believe it and sit
in that. We don't have to hustle, hustle, hustle. I mean,
we can lead from here, but leading from here got
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me burnt out, got me to the top realizing that
I wasn't happy. I mean, I got everything external that
I always thought I wanted, but was a happy no
because I was leading from the head instead of from
the heart. And so really being in your feminine energy
divinely is leading from the heart, and you know, attracting
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what is divinely meant for you and we can't as
women live up here all the time because we can
and we can, you know, create greatness and a lot
of external greatness, right, but will we really be happy?
There is the question?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Talk to me about that, that idea of like victim mentality,
because I think that that is a piece that is
hard for a lot of people to cross over, especially
when hard things happen to you that aren't your fault
and you're like, no, that literally fits the definition of
being a victim.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
But how do you.
Speaker 4 (24:57):
Make that shift inside and like shift your mentality from like, yes,
something absolutely happened, and this is how you change your
mindset about it.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Yeah, it's it's so hard to do that, you know,
especially when you feel wrong to betrayed. It's very difficult.
But understanding that where's the gift in what has happened?
You know, where's the beauty in what has happened? And
kind of focusing on that and then focusing on your
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power that you have is a beautiful thing. I mean,
our perception creates our reality and so if we're perceiving that,
you know, blaming and all this was so wrong and
why did this happen to me? Like that that wasn't fair.
If we're focusing on that perception on our lenses there,
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then you know our reality is going to keep mirroring
that stuff back to us. Especially, I mean, our brains
are beautiful, amazing brains. We have this thing called the
reticular activating system, and it filters out our reality because
of our belief in what life is and who we are.
So knowing that, it was like, no, I am a
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powerful creator. I am not a victim of my reality.
Because if I'm a victim of my reality, reality is
happening to me. I'm not creating my reality. So I
took my power back and I'm like, no, I create
my reality. I take accountability for my actions. And moving
forward through this, my perception is I have the power
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to create greatness and I am not a victim to
what has happened to me. You know. It's just kind
of realizing that we have so much power within us
to create beauty, and if we stay in that victim mentality,
it takes away all of that power to create.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, truly.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
And I think like, and you name this earlier, as
part of your process, like getting into your body, like
I need some modalities and tools to help you because
like the triggering is going to happen, you know, like yeah,
that charge, those feelings, especially if there's betrayal and abuse.
My god, you know it's like that you have to
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heal your structure, your vessel as much as you heal
your spirit.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I feel in those cases.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Yeah, yeah, it's it's hard. You know, when those triggers
come and the emotional body takes over, it's like whow.
I would just tell people take a moment, like take
a beat, you know, take a beat and put awareness there.
I mean, awareness alone will help to disperse some of
that charge within you. And you know what, it's the
simplest things. I mean, I've done over one hundred different
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modalities throughout my life, but it was the simplest things
that helped me through this, and that is the Son
and Mother Earth. I mean truly, yeah, oh my god,
and everybody has access to that. So instead of letting
that charge kind of take your body over, take that
beat so you don't act out inappropriately, and then kind
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of bring that awareness back to yourself. And then I
would just I would run outside anytime that I would
feel it, I would just literally wherever I was at,
I would just be like I would book it outside.
I would take my shoes off, put my hands on
the earth and just breathe, you know, breath work too.
That breath is everything, is everything. So I mean that
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alone just brought gratitude back into my vessel, you know,
from that pain. Connecting with nature is everything.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Oh my gosh, that is exactly it. It is everything.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
Yeah, and it really can happen like that quickly, like
it really, And I think so many people don't think
to do that because it feels too small or like
it doesn't feel like it's actually gonna change the depth
of like what needs to change.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
But yeah, don't it really does?
Speaker 2 (28:57):
It really does. I mean, I have music dancing I
call them my dance party. Walks have helped me heal
through these hard moments. And it's just so simple. You know.
It's literally putting on your favorite song and going outside
and just being grateful for the trees and the flowers
and just paying attention to how beautiful and perfect nature is.
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I mean, nature is perfect. We are not, you know,
so if we can try to align with nature, it
just brings out our perfection and in those moments of trigger,
you know, it's it's hard for us to want to
even get out of it sometimes. I mean, our emotions
take us over. We want to feel that anger and
be angry, and I say, that's fine. We need to
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be aware and address that those feelings are coming up.
But don't let yourself stay there, you know, try to
move through these things. Our whole life is ebb and flow,
ebb and flow, up and down, black and white, yin
and yang. I mean, that's just the beauty of what
life is. So being able to move through the emotions
instead of being stuck and just taken over by them
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is what has really helped me, you know, kind of
get through this pretty quickly, I would say, you know,
and I'm still going through it. I wouldn't say, I mean,
and I don't think that any human is fully healed ever.
I think that life is just a process. But I mean,
being able to be where I'm at now is something
I can be really proud of. And because a lot
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of people, a lot of women, get stuck. They get
stuck and they just you know, it takes them over,
you know, And I would just say, it doesn't have
to do that, like literally run outside, like run, That's
what I would do literally run.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
That's so real, Like getting out of hard relationships for
a variety of reasons, like if you're in ones that
are abusive or toxic, and or if you're in you know,
some that are just not aligned and authentic to.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Who you are.
Speaker 4 (30:53):
Like it's so hard to see yourself on the other
side of it. It's so hard to know, like what
is the first step and then what happens? And you know,
especially if you're coming out of like betrayals and abuse
and just like dysfunction. I mean really, it's like you
don't know who you are anymore in a lot of ways,
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and your body doesn't even feel like your own, Like
the responses are so different, Like just yeah, knowing how
to ground it feels utterly impossible. Yeah, but taking those steps,
like really running, like going outside, like getting your feet
on the ground, it helps you remember who you are,
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you know, And I think even like tapping like your
solar plexus right above your navel, holding yourself there or
holding your heart as you do that, like even when
you feel so disconnected from your truth, like it reminds
you like you are your own being.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Ye, Like you still have a choice, Yeah, make a choice. Yeah, always. Yeah,
it really TV. It really is that simple. It's just
the choice. You either go this way or you go
that way. And it's always that That's what life is. Yeah,
and so it's like choose, choose to bring your power
back to you, you know, choose to move through these emotions,
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Choose to look at the beautiful flowers and appreciate them.
I mean, the gratitude that comes when you connect with
a tree is amazing, you know. I mean I feel
like nature and it's like taking that beat, taking that
pause and just connecting is life changing.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Truly is it is?
Speaker 2 (32:36):
It is?
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Yeah, it is life changing. Oh.
Speaker 4 (32:41):
So at the end of every episode, I like to
ask guests to provide some soul work.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
So this is like the.
Speaker 4 (32:47):
Chance for everyone listening to really embody and integrate anything
that came to life for them into this episode. And
the soul work can look like a practice. It can
be a thought starter, start a quote, a journal entry,
a type of meditation, like something meaningful to you that
can be put into practice.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Okay, So I would say gratitude is everything, and so
right before you go to sleep at night, write five
things you're grateful for. I mean pen to paper, not
in your phone, like literally write it out, and you know,
as you are falling asleep, your brain is going into
these states that are you know, manifesting and innerdimensional. So
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it's so important that as you're falling asleep, you are
looking at the things that you're grateful for, not the
things that you are upset with yourself for the bad
things that happen during that day. And so writing those
five things that you're grateful for before you go to
sleep kind of wires your brain to do so. And
then I would say, do it again as soon as
you wake up. I mean I don't even leave my
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bed until I have that gratitude feeling running through my
body because it's it's so important. I mean, the mornings
are the start of the rest of your life. So
if you can get into that state before you even
begin your day, I mean, it just changes. It changes
the whole way you perceive the day, and that's your
life in miniature.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So ooh I love that. Yeah, the morning is the
start of your life. It really is.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
And that's the thing that when we're kind of weighed
down by life, we do get disconnected from that synchronistic
magic that really truly like anything is possible in every moment.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
It really is. It is quantum.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
I mean there's endless possibilities that we collapse into reality
through observance. So if we can get into the frequency
of the high vibe state of gratitude, it's like we're
collapsing the highest potential possibility into our lives in every moment.
Y magic.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Yeah, what is your hope for women?
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Man? That they find themselves again and I mean embody them,
you know, getting back into their bodies and honoring them
again instead of you know, pouring from empty cups. I
really hope that women can start filling their cups up again,
putting themselves first, you know, putting God and then themselves,
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and understanding that they are the most important in their lives.
And then once they understand and embody that they can
be so much for everyone else. You know, pouring from
an empty cup is never a good thing. So when
you can fill your cup back up, you can pour
from full and that abundance of love that you can
give is just it's magical. I mean I've literally watched
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and felt that through this last six months with my son.
I thought that I was being super mom, you know,
trying to do every little thing, and I was pouring
from empty. But as soon as I started filling my
cup up and taking those beats and taking the moments
outside of nature and the walks that I needed to,
I can be such a better mother to my son
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because I'm pouring from a full cup.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Truly, Yeah, truly.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
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So Instagram is Elizabeth I Carson. They can look me
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of the most amazing, awesome. It's Elizabeth Unlimited on YouTube
and yeah, that's probably the best way it's.
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Thank you for listening. Everyone. We will be back next week.
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especially when we surrender to all of our inner work,
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is the creator of the Unlimited with Elizabeth Carson podcast
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insights on trauma, spirituality, shadow work, and embodiment, she has
shared her story and teachings on international stages, guiding people
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into breakthroughs of identity, healing, and power. From a past
hustling in the streets to a multifaceted present as a biohacker,
certified pastry chef, and president of a mental health facility,
just to name a few, Elizabeth is living proof that
reinvention is always possible.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Now.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
As a beloved coach and mentor, she leads a thriving
online community, coaching programs and healing in person events. Raising
her son as a single mom surviving betrayal and abusive experiences.
Elizabeth's work is rooted in showing others you can burn
it all down and still rise higher.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Thank you for being on the show. Welcome to Deeply Well.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Thank you so much, Devey. I'm honored to be here.
Like I said when I got here, I've just been
looking forward to this so much.
Speaker 4 (03:57):
So looking forward to this, and you know, I have
to share with everyone on the show.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
And I'm sure you guys.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Have caught it already, but I was so so grateful
to be a guest on your podcast and share my
book with your world and your audience that episode. I
loved that episode. It was like, really the first time,
and everyone, if you haven't heard it yet, check it out.
We'll link it in the show notes. I loved in
that episode. It was my first time being able to
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talk about my book really from the experience of healing
through my own pain and healing through my divorce and
just being able to really speak to the work as
women and moms and that balance of doing it all.
And I know so many listening right now really identify
with that, you know, leading a multifaceted life and also
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raising a child while in spiritual transformation.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Yes, it's a lot, it is. It's a lot, but
it's such a beautiful experience. It's honestly, my son is
my biggest teacher, you know, and he's just the biggest
blessing in my life honestly. I mean, he's the one
that kind of snapped me out of my craziness and
made me realize I really have to make different decisions
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because now I'm responsible for a whole another life. So
he really saved my life, to be honest, and yeah,
it's just been such a blessing to be a mom.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Oh my gosh, such a such a blessing, such a beautiful,
sacred work.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
Before we kind of.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
Dive into all the things like this moment in the world,
it is, I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
If we have all the words from what we're experiencing
right now. It's a lot. It's a lot.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
And then when we think of what the work is
being in community and what the work is sharing healing,
where are you in your.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Life right now? And how are you feeling? You know what?
Speaker 2 (05:54):
That's who that's a loaded question. I mean honestly, I
just went through a whole new transformation about five six
months ago. My whole entire world changed completely. I thought
everything was one way. You know, my whole life was
painted as this pretty picture of I was married, you know,
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we were doing well, and I had a staff, I
had friends, I had a big house and a nice
car and a chauffeur, and you know, all of that
changed in a matter of a couple hours and it
was just like boom, and it was gone, and I
was like, okay, so what do I do? And you know,
how do I rebuild from here? And you know, doing
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that with a child too, it was, you know, it
was like mom mode kind of just kicked in and
I'll just be completely transparent. I was not in the
best place when I was in that pretty picture painting.
I mean I was. I was smoking a lot of weed,
you know, I just I was. I wasn't very happy.
I was burnt out, really really burnt out from what
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we had built. And so when everything changed, it was
like boom. I sobered up, I quit smoking, and I
just wanted to normalize life for my son because it
was so not normal. I was just like, how can
I create stability and safety for my child?
Speaker 4 (07:14):
I always think this because I'm myself, and we talked
about this on your show. You know, I went through
a divorce in the pandemic a few weeks after the
pandemic started, which was something and I, you know, much
like you mom, and so I remember, I know, my
first thought was similar in that, Okay, how do I
bring I saw it as an opportunity to up level
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as a mom and to bring even more of myself
into my relationship with my son. But also really looking like, Okay,
how do I ground my own energy and kind of
my chaotic emotional world in this moment, because this is
going to happen for all of us, Like whether you
go through divorce or not, all of life is uncertain. Yes,
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so we are all going to be hit throughout our
lifetimes with various moments that are like, hey, this is
either the moment that.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
You can like.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
Hit rock bottom or that you can like really find
a new part of yourself to rise in. So like
when you realize when you hit that moment and you're like,
life is going to be different now and I will
not be going back to what that was, so I'm
creating something completely new.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Like what's the first thing that you do?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
I just tried to really, you know, ground my nervous
system because I was such a shock. You know. I
don't like to hide my emotions from my son, because
I feel like a lot of parents try to do that,
and we try to cover up and we don't want
them to see us upset. But yet our energy explains
it all and so when we're not in alignment with
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ourselves in front of them, it confuses them. So I
allowed myself to be upset, but I didn't want to
be Overboord, just a hot mess in front of him,
and because you know that, just I didn't want him
to see me completely distraught. So I was just kind
of I mean, I used mother Earth really to ground
that stress out of my body. I would just take
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walks in nature, connect with trees, and really just connect
with things that made me feel grounded. And so that
helped me move through these emotions in a way that
was very healthy. And yet I would, you know, still
stable for my son and allowing him also to have
his feelings and allowing him to get his anger and
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crying out as well, I mean, and just being there
as the mom for him in those moments. It was
you know, it was very teachable for me.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Yeah, oh the way the wisdom comes in yeah, oh
my gosh.
Speaker 2 (09:50):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:51):
And that's why even when you first started describing that,
like the word that I use was like initiation, because
it's like it's always so fascinating, especially I think when
you are someone that is that has like deep awareness,
that is already like committed to consciousness, and then we
find all these like highly sophisticated ways that we've been
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hiding from ourselves or all the crevices that there's like
just a little bit more to do, like more things
to look at. One of the things that you work
with a lot and talk about a lot on your
podcast and with your community is shadow work, right, And
I think shadow work is so misunderstood and sometimes gets
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a bad rap. You know, people's assumption is like the
word sounds like darkness, and so oh no, get out
of the dark.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
You don't want to. But like, how do you classify
shadow work?
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I would just say shadow work is some of the
most beautiful work that anyone can do in their lifetime.
I mean it's just kind of shining the light where
your darkness lays. I mean, we have all went through
stuff in our lives, and it it's knowing that you know,
we have these things, we have these traumas that affect
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us to this present moment today. And if we can
shed lights where those dark areas are and really just
readdress ourselves and look at ourselves and work through that pain,
it's easier for us to come to the present moment
without judgment and to actually come here with presence instead
of chains that are holding us back from coming to
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the present moment. You know, and seeing life and the
beauty that there really is. So it's really just growing
through those dark moments and you know, learning our lessons.
There there comes a gift in every single bad I
wouldn't even say it's bad, but every single trauma that
we've experienced, there is a gift in that trauma. And
if we can find that, that's our power.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
What surprised you when.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
You kind of like went in with your light, with
your flashlight into some of those places, Oh.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
Man, it's just it's like, I feel like this might
trigger some people, but I feel like everything in our
lives we've attracted it in some way, shape or form,
and so you know, it's really just changing our energy
frequency mind state is what's going to change our life.
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You know, a lot of trauma happened to me, and
dark moments happened to me because I put myself in
those situations. You know, I was kind of just in
that vibration, in that frequency, and I mean I was
lost and confused. I didn't know any better. I'm not
ashamed of it, but it's just knowing and looking back
at it now, it's like, well, I was there, you know,
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I was in those places where I probably shouldn't have been,
and so it caused a lot more in my life.
So you know, when you can put awareness on things
and take accountability, then you can change. When you don't
take accountability, then it's like you're kind of stuck.
Speaker 4 (12:52):
Yeah, gosh, it's so true, and I'm so glad you're
speaking to that because I think just for so many
of us, like we've walked through things, We've had things
that like we're like, how did I end up in
that circumstance or you know, and sometimes it really is circumstantial,
especially in our younger years, Like we don't choose where
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we grow up, right, we don't choose the containers that
were put in until we become adults and have agency.
But you know, we're just trying to survive whatever our
natural environment is, whatever our ecosystem is, you know. And
I think especially for our young girls, and this is
a whole different conversation because our men have so many
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other different kinds of battles that they face that I
can't speak to fully authentically because I had my experience.
But I think especially with women, it's hard to be
young and environments that are really hardened because you don't
get to learn natural softness, and like you learn your
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femininity in a different way, like in a way that actually,
like long term it is hard to understand. I think, Yeah,
some of what you speak about, you know, is like
where you came from and coming from harder environments where
you really had to rise and probably didn't have any
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blueprints on how to do that. How did how you
grew up inform your work now in transformation and even
help you when you found that you were in a
hard situation.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
You know, this year, you.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Know, I really realized over the past ten years that
my biggest issue that has or trauma that's happened to
me was adoption being given away at birth. And I
actually did some somatic work and experience my birth again,
and I realized that I never saw my mother, and
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it just really made me realize how important deep those moments,
those first moments that you have in this third dimension
are so important for the rest of your life. It
stamps your blueprint of who you become. If you think
about it, as babies, as young children, we don't have
any armor, you know, we don't have anything, we don't
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have masks. We just are And so when traumas happened
to us, it hits us direct, so that re experiencing
that process, I mean who I mean, it was some
of the deepest pain that I've ever felt. And so
knowing that has, you know, really made me see people's
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pain with abandonment and those first moments in those first
seven years, even in gestation, even when you're a fetus.
I mean, stress hormones crossed the placenta halfway through pregnancy.
So I even went did some cranial sacral work and
went back into my mother's womb and felt her despair,
you know, and felt those because the baby is swimming
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in those stress hormones. So knowing that moving forward in
my life, I mean, we're just stamped with so many
different things that we don't even really understand sometimes, and
it really makes us react to the current situation, I
guess inappropriately because we don't even understand ourselves. So that's
what I really try to teach people now is really
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just understanding what they've went through to cause their blueprints
as what it is today. And so going through my
last situation, I mean I kind of have realized I
have caused this pattern in my life of abandonment because
I feel like, you know, maybe that was I feel
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like when things keep showing up in your life, it
just shows you what you have to heal within yourself truly.
So yeah, it just kind of brought me back to those,
you know, the abandonment thing of adoption. So it's like,
how do I heal this wound through myself so I
don't ever, you know, repeat this cycle of being abandoned.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
You know.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
That's so I mean, gosh, I would love to do it,
like just a whole episode on that because that is
I mean, that's so deep, and those are I think
the the more for those on this spiritual path, the
farther we go and the deeper we get into the
nuance of like what it is to feel love, to
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be love, like to know love.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
But also how early it starts.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Like those stats you gave around feeling a mom's pain
while you're in there, like that is so real, Like
how many of our mothers were in hard environments or
hard circumstances when they were growing.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Life and they don't have a choice.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
You know, you don't want to pass that to your baby,
but you don't have a choice, you know. It's what's
happening to you and what your body naturally does and
the ways that can affect relationship or reflect you know,
how a person grows to feel about themselves. Like it's
deep in so many layers. I think hearing your story
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about having to go back and reckon with what it
felt like to be adopted, and like the deep nuance
of I never even got to be like in my
mom's arms, like I never I don't know her, you know,
Like it really is the levels of that, And I
think in our society we don't talk about that enough,
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and we don't think about that for children enough, Like
we really don't when we think about the amount of
kids that end up in foster care and are then
thrown to the wolves the moment they hit eighteen and eighteen,
you not only are you still a child, but if
you were in the system, you're becoming eighteen with so
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much less than everyone else in every single way. Yeah,
but how did you work with that energy of being adopted?
Is that something that you realize affected you when you
were younger or did it kind of like come into
your awareness like once you were a woman that that
was something you needed to heal.
Speaker 2 (19:14):
You know what I look back now and realized that
I always felt that in my childhood. I mean I
used to have tantrums and then unfortunately my parents they
didn't know how to handle me, so they would just
leave me in a room and just let me tantrum
it out, and I would just fall asleep from exhaustion.
And that was scratching on that abandonment wounds. And then
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you know, just growing up with people that didn't look
like me. You know, adoption is very serious for people.
I think that it's something that we should take a
deeper look on and really try to educate people more
so on because you literally don't really have an identity,
you know what I'm saying, It's really crazy. I mean
I started drinking at eleven. I mean I was sneaking
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out at ten. I mean I moved out of my
parents house at fourteen. I was selling drugs at twelve.
You know, it was just it was a wild childhood
for me. And it's like I look at my son
and he's thirteen, and he's like just most just he
loved school. He doesn't want to miss school. I mean,
he's very concerned about doing his work on time and
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getting good grades and I'm just like that was I
was the opposite of that, and so I just I
look at that and I wonder how much of that
had to do with those first few moments on my
birth and how angry and just devastated I was as
a baby not being I mean, I remember when I
re experienced the birth process, all I wanted to do
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was look into my mother's eyes and it was like
I didn't get that, you know. So that pain carried
through my childhood and into my teenage years, and I
just I feel like we should educate about those first
few moments because they're so detrimental for a person. I mean,
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I had a girlfriend that I used to bartend with
and she was a Korean adoptee and we used to
just do cocaine all night and bartend. You know what.
It was just very toxic, and I wonder how much
of that has to do with her adoption, you know.
And yes, a lot of adoptees have these issues and
have these you know, abandonment things, and just they go
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to drugs and alcohol a lot of the time, and
so you got to wonder why that is.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
Yeah, one hundred percent, one hundred percent, And I think
that part, and I hope we get into this and
especially you know, when people.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
Like yourself share their story.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
This is the nuance that we need to understand, like,
this is the next level of mental health, of spiritual health,
when we really get into the fibers of what you know,
these kind of experiences that are very normalized in our
society are like it affects millions of millions of people.
Speaker 1 (22:01):
You know.
Speaker 4 (22:03):
Wow, thank you for sharing that such a deep and
vulnerable way, because I think it just aligned so many
of us.
Speaker 1 (22:09):
We're not.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
We don't always talk about the harder realities of childhood,
you know, and especially when you are kind of opened
up to more adult experiences and environments. And that's a
lot of us. That's a lot of us. That's a
lot of things. You know, by fifteen, Yeah, we're put
in a lot of hard situations, you know before you
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even quote unquote like make it into the world as
an adult. And I find that to be something extremely
common among healers. If you were guided to the path
of healing, you know, most of us are wounded healers.
You come to the path from hard edges and hard things.
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Deeply well, a lot of your work centers on feminine
leadership especially and embodiment.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
What doesn't mean to be able to lead from the feminine?
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Oh man, I feel like, you know, our society, especially
in America, we're taught to hustle, hustle, hustle, you know,
you know, sleep when you die, you know all that
that whole mentality. Being in your feminine energy is the
opposite of that. It is really just being embodied in
presence and knowing that what is here for you is
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for you, and understanding the attraction word. You know, this
is something I really learned over the dark night this
past couple of months, is that our magic is within
us and we just have to believe it and sit
in that. We don't have to hustle, hustle, hustle. I mean,
we can lead from here, but leading from here got
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me burnt out, got me to the top realizing that
I wasn't happy. I mean, I got everything external that
I always thought I wanted, but was a happy no
because I was leading from the head instead of from
the heart. And so really being in your feminine energy
divinely is leading from the heart, and you know, attracting
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what is divinely meant for you and we can't as
women live up here all the time because we can
and we can, you know, create greatness and a lot
of external greatness, right, but will we really be happy?
There is the question?
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Talk to me about that, that idea of like victim mentality,
because I think that that is a piece that is
hard for a lot of people to cross over, especially
when hard things happen to you that aren't your fault
and you're like, no, that literally fits the definition of
being a victim.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
But how do you.
Speaker 4 (24:57):
Make that shift inside and like shift your mentality from like, yes,
something absolutely happened, and this is how you change your
mindset about it.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Yeah, it's it's so hard to do that, you know,
especially when you feel wrong to betrayed. It's very difficult.
But understanding that where's the gift in what has happened?
You know, where's the beauty in what has happened? And
kind of focusing on that and then focusing on your
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power that you have is a beautiful thing. I mean,
our perception creates our reality and so if we're perceiving that,
you know, blaming and all this was so wrong and
why did this happen to me? Like that that wasn't fair.
If we're focusing on that perception on our lenses there,
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then you know our reality is going to keep mirroring
that stuff back to us. Especially, I mean, our brains
are beautiful, amazing brains. We have this thing called the
reticular activating system, and it filters out our reality because
of our belief in what life is and who we are.
So knowing that, it was like, no, I am a
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powerful creator. I am not a victim of my reality.
Because if I'm a victim of my reality, reality is
happening to me. I'm not creating my reality. So I
took my power back and I'm like, no, I create
my reality. I take accountability for my actions. And moving
forward through this, my perception is I have the power
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to create greatness and I am not a victim to
what has happened to me. You know. It's just kind
of realizing that we have so much power within us
to create beauty, and if we stay in that victim mentality,
it takes away all of that power to create.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (26:52):
Yeah, truly.
Speaker 4 (26:53):
And I think like, and you name this earlier, as
part of your process, like getting into your body, like
I need some modalities and tools to help you because
like the triggering is going to happen, you know, like yeah,
that charge, those feelings, especially if there's betrayal and abuse.
My god, you know it's like that you have to
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heal your structure, your vessel as much as you heal
your spirit.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
I feel in those cases.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
Yeah, yeah, it's it's hard. You know, when those triggers
come and the emotional body takes over, it's like whow.
I would just tell people take a moment, like take
a beat, you know, take a beat and put awareness there.
I mean, awareness alone will help to disperse some of
that charge within you. And you know what, it's the
simplest things. I mean, I've done over one hundred different
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modalities throughout my life, but it was the simplest things
that helped me through this, and that is the Son
and Mother Earth. I mean truly, yeah, oh my god,
and everybody has access to that. So instead of letting
that charge kind of take your body over, take that
beat so you don't act out inappropriately, and then kind
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of bring that awareness back to yourself. And then I
would just I would run outside anytime that I would
feel it, I would just literally wherever I was at,
I would just be like I would book it outside.
I would take my shoes off, put my hands on
the earth and just breathe, you know, breath work too.
That breath is everything, is everything. So I mean that
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alone just brought gratitude back into my vessel, you know,
from that pain. Connecting with nature is everything.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Oh my gosh, that is exactly it. It is everything.
Speaker 4 (28:38):
Yeah, and it really can happen like that quickly, like
it really, And I think so many people don't think
to do that because it feels too small or like
it doesn't feel like it's actually gonna change the depth
of like what needs to change.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
But yeah, don't it really does?
Speaker 2 (28:57):
It really does. I mean, I have music dancing I
call them my dance party. Walks have helped me heal
through these hard moments. And it's just so simple. You know.
It's literally putting on your favorite song and going outside
and just being grateful for the trees and the flowers
and just paying attention to how beautiful and perfect nature is.
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I mean, nature is perfect. We are not, you know,
so if we can try to align with nature, it
just brings out our perfection and in those moments of trigger,
you know, it's it's hard for us to want to
even get out of it sometimes. I mean, our emotions
take us over. We want to feel that anger and
be angry, and I say, that's fine. We need to
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be aware and address that those feelings are coming up.
But don't let yourself stay there, you know, try to
move through these things. Our whole life is ebb and flow,
ebb and flow, up and down, black and white, yin
and yang. I mean, that's just the beauty of what
life is. So being able to move through the emotions
instead of being stuck and just taken over by them
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is what has really helped me, you know, kind of
get through this pretty quickly, I would say, you know,
and I'm still going through it. I wouldn't say, I mean,
and I don't think that any human is fully healed ever.
I think that life is just a process. But I mean,
being able to be where I'm at now is something
I can be really proud of. And because a lot
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of people, a lot of women, get stuck. They get
stuck and they just you know, it takes them over,
you know, And I would just say, it doesn't have
to do that, like literally run outside, like run, That's
what I would do literally run.
Speaker 4 (30:38):
That's so real, Like getting out of hard relationships for
a variety of reasons, like if you're in ones that
are abusive or toxic, and or if you're in you know,
some that are just not aligned and authentic to.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Who you are.
Speaker 4 (30:53):
Like it's so hard to see yourself on the other
side of it. It's so hard to know, like what
is the first step and then what happens? And you know,
especially if you're coming out of like betrayals and abuse
and just like dysfunction. I mean really, it's like you
don't know who you are anymore in a lot of ways,
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and your body doesn't even feel like your own, Like
the responses are so different, Like just yeah, knowing how
to ground it feels utterly impossible. Yeah, but taking those steps,
like really running, like going outside, like getting your feet
on the ground, it helps you remember who you are,
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you know, And I think even like tapping like your
solar plexus right above your navel, holding yourself there or
holding your heart as you do that, like even when
you feel so disconnected from your truth, like it reminds
you like you are your own being.
Speaker 2 (31:53):
Ye, Like you still have a choice, Yeah, make a choice. Yeah, always. Yeah,
it really TV. It really is that simple. It's just
the choice. You either go this way or you go
that way. And it's always that That's what life is. Yeah,
and so it's like choose, choose to bring your power
back to you, you know, choose to move through these emotions,
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Choose to look at the beautiful flowers and appreciate them.
I mean, the gratitude that comes when you connect with
a tree is amazing, you know. I mean I feel
like nature and it's like taking that beat, taking that
pause and just connecting is life changing.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Truly is it is?
Speaker 2 (32:36):
It is?
Speaker 1 (32:37):
Yeah, it is life changing. Oh.
Speaker 4 (32:41):
So at the end of every episode, I like to
ask guests to provide some soul work.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
So this is like the.
Speaker 4 (32:47):
Chance for everyone listening to really embody and integrate anything
that came to life for them into this episode. And
the soul work can look like a practice. It can
be a thought starter, start a quote, a journal entry,
a type of meditation, like something meaningful to you that
can be put into practice.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Okay, So I would say gratitude is everything, and so
right before you go to sleep at night, write five
things you're grateful for. I mean pen to paper, not
in your phone, like literally write it out, and you know,
as you are falling asleep, your brain is going into
these states that are you know, manifesting and innerdimensional. So
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it's so important that as you're falling asleep, you are
looking at the things that you're grateful for, not the
things that you are upset with yourself for the bad
things that happen during that day. And so writing those
five things that you're grateful for before you go to
sleep kind of wires your brain to do so. And
then I would say, do it again as soon as
you wake up. I mean I don't even leave my
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bed until I have that gratitude feeling running through my
body because it's it's so important. I mean, the mornings
are the start of the rest of your life. So
if you can get into that state before you even
begin your day, I mean, it just changes. It changes
the whole way you perceive the day, and that's your
life in miniature.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
So ooh I love that. Yeah, the morning is the
start of your life. It really is.
Speaker 4 (34:21):
And that's the thing that when we're kind of weighed
down by life, we do get disconnected from that synchronistic
magic that really truly like anything is possible in every moment.
Speaker 1 (34:34):
It really is. It is quantum.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
I mean there's endless possibilities that we collapse into reality
through observance. So if we can get into the frequency
of the high vibe state of gratitude, it's like we're
collapsing the highest potential possibility into our lives in every moment.
Y magic.
Speaker 1 (34:54):
Yeah, what is your hope for women?
Speaker 2 (34:57):
Man? That they find themselves again and I mean embody them,
you know, getting back into their bodies and honoring them
again instead of you know, pouring from empty cups. I
really hope that women can start filling their cups up again,
putting themselves first, you know, putting God and then themselves,
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and understanding that they are the most important in their lives.
And then once they understand and embody that they can
be so much for everyone else. You know, pouring from
an empty cup is never a good thing. So when
you can fill your cup back up, you can pour
from full and that abundance of love that you can
give is just it's magical. I mean I've literally watched
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and felt that through this last six months with my son.
I thought that I was being super mom, you know,
trying to do every little thing, and I was pouring
from empty. But as soon as I started filling my
cup up and taking those beats and taking the moments
outside of nature and the walks that I needed to,
I can be such a better mother to my son
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because I'm pouring from a full cup.
Speaker 1 (36:07):
Truly, Yeah, truly.
Speaker 4 (36:11):
Elizabeth, Thank you so much for joining us. Please let
everyone know how can they connect to you? How can
they be with you? How can they hear you?
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (36:19):
So Instagram is Elizabeth I Carson. They can look me
up on YouTube. Definitely watch our episode. It was one
of the most amazing, awesome. It's Elizabeth Unlimited on YouTube
and yeah, that's probably the best way it's.
Speaker 4 (36:33):
We will link to all the things down below in
the caption in the summary. Thank you so much, Elizabeth
Carson for joining us on Deeply Well. Thank you for
having me debts Honor.
Speaker 1 (36:44):
Thank you for listening. Everyone. We will be back next week.
Speaker 4 (36:50):
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for personalized medical or mental health guidance, and does not
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