June 6, 2024 • 36 mins
It's Q&A time!
Sophia is back, answering listener questions, including how she deals with stress, the women in her life who inspire her, the show she had the most fun on (you might be surprised), life lessons she learned from some of her jobs, and why she's happier than she's ever been!
Plus, we learn Sophia's biggest pet peeve of all time, preferred self-care treatment, her favorite song on Cowboy Carter, who her one call from jail would be, and whether she's yay or nay on a One Tree Hill reunion!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi everyone, It's Sophia, Welcome to Work in Progress. Hello,
friends and listeners, Welcome back to Work in Progress. This week,
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you all have been submitting some really great listener questions
and I just wanted to say thank you for all
your feedback on our Q and A episodes. I'm so
glad you like them. I really enjoy doing this with
you guys, and so many good questions have come in,
and so we felt like this week was as good
as any to jump back in and try to work
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through some of these. So let's get started. First question
from Maria. Wow, this is really oh so topical my dear,
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for me, you, and I think everyone else. Maria's question
is how do you deal with stress, specifically now when
the world is kind of a mess. Oh? Boy, Yeah,
things feel really heavy, don't they. It's hard when every
second you, you know, turn on the news or open
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a paper, it seems like tragedy is everywhere. I think.
What I really try to remind myself to do is
to hold the both. And because it's not lost on
me that for myself, for so many people, I love,
even things I hear from you guys, you know, out
on social and in some of your feedback is that
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things seem more stressful than ever, the world feels messier
than ever, and yet people are in love, they're happy
at work, they're so grateful for their families, and so
I think what I try to do is remind myself
to make room for both, And when things feel really,
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really stressful, I try to make a list of the
things that I'm grateful for. I try to remind myself
how lucky I am to have people I love to
call or lean on, to have joy in my life,
to even even to be hurt by what's hard out there.
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You know, I think a capacity to care for others
is a beautiful thing, and so when the world feels heavy,
I remind myself that that's a sign that I'm human
and that that feels really important. You know. I think
there's all sorts of things out in the world that
encourage us to lose our humanity or to look at
other people and say, well, what did they expect or
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are they signed up for that? Or they deserve to
feel this way? And I really want to reject those
I don't mean to be judgmental, but like I would
call them lesser human instincts, you know, maybe maybe the
ways that we can be a little base or cruel,
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and I really want to go in the opposite direction
of that stuff. So that's what I think is the
best antidote to stress. Gratitude, care, kindness. And then you know,
for our little individual bodies, probably boring, but sleep, water,
taking vitamins, you know, doing little things to help make
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your physical self more resilient. I think all those incremental,
little acts of self care really add up to create
big shifts. And so I try to make sure I'm
thinking about all the good things and then doing small
good things for my little body. And I hope you
are too. Riley asks, what is your favorite show you've
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acted in? Oh my goodness, this is so hard for
me because I cherish experiences on different things for different reasons.
You know, I loved I loved playing Brooke Davis for
nine years. What a rare thing that an actor gets
to do that nine seasons on a series, you know,
doesn't happen that often. And I loved her journey, and
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I loved fighting for her, and I loved helping make
her a person that I care about and that so
many fans care about. And then you know, on the
flip side working on Easy on Netflix with Joe Swamberg
and Jacquelyn Tiboni. You know a writer, director that I
absolutely love, an actor that I absolutely love. You know,
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I just did one episode of that show. The series
is an anthology, that's how it works, and yet it
was one of the most fun experiences I've ever had
as an actor, because you know, the shows based on
outline and then the actual scenes are mostly improved. And
I loved the challenge of that. And I don't know
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if I could handle doing a whole series like that
because the pressure is so crazy. But maybe maybe it
would be the most fun thing I've ever done, and
I've just never done it, and I just haven't done
it yet, so whether it's like such a long job
or something that happens really briefly. I have attachments to
different projects for different reasons. I've never been good at
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picking a favorite, So I hope that that's not a
terrible answer, Riley, but I am sort of incapable of
doing that. Kayla asks what project have you worked on
that has taught you the most about yourself? Kind of
a similar answer to the previous question. I think I
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think about learning through life climbing a ladder, and I
think every time you level up, every time you climb
aroun you learn something new. Sometimes in you know, in
different phases of our lives, we learn versions of similar lessons.
I think sometimes we get tested, you know, through the decades,
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to see how well we can apply our learning, our
sense of the view, were all sorts of things, so
I think it's hard to narrow down on just one thing.
I think working on One Tree Hill really taught me
to advocate for a character, taught me to advocate for
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the women around me, definitely taught me in hindsight, I
think taught me that some battles are absolutely worth fighting,
and sometimes you just have to realize that, you know,
not everything will be one or workout, and that's okay
too a long life we lead, I would say the
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next long series I did in Chicago really taught me
to advocate. At first, I was advocating for women, you know,
for a group of us, for a community, and then
it really taught me that, you know, if you don't
put your own oxygen mask on first, you're doing a
disservice to yourself and everyone else. And that job ultimately
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taught me to choose myself and to protect myself, and
that was a really valuable lesson too. I think, I know,
I just talked about this show too, but working on
Easy taught me that I love improv you know, not
necessarily a big lesson for me as a human and
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you know how I grow and show up in the world,
but it was certainly an amazing lesson for me as
an actor and a storyteller. And I loved it, like
I can't talk about it without grinning. It was just
such a fun experience. And yeah, I think I think
every job, you know, can really illuminate something for you,
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whether it's in your creativity and your work, or in
who you are as a person and the ways you're
learning to you know, move as a human in the world.
And that's something I really appreciate, you know, in all
the ways that my day job as an actor is
so bizarre and you know requires you to kind of
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move around at a moment's notice and you know, basically
be like a circus performer. I really like that you
have the opportunity to constantly, you know, meet new people,
watch the way people work, learn new things. You know.
When I made good, SAYM, I learned that I actually
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really am fascinated by medicine in ways I always thought
I was, but I I didn't get to have the
experience until I was, you know, shadowing surgeons and standing
and operating theaters and you know, getting to peek around
inside the literal body cavities of patients and ask questions.
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You know, what a profound privilege to get to do that,
To get to stand and shadow surgeons in the way
that on set, I've shadowed directors. You know, I always
knew it was something that I wanted to learn more about,
but I got to have the experience up close and
personal and realize that, you know, it's definitely one of
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the coolest things I've ever been fortunate enough to see.
And so, yeah, I think every project has taught me something.
And I guess the overarching theme really is that I'm
curious and I like that about myself. I guess i'd
wonder for you guys, what big lessons you take away
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from work and what things you really like that you've
discovered about yourselves. Maybe send us some answers to those
questions on social because we'd love to know. Tia wants
to know what woman in your life has inspired you
the most. Oh my goodness, I have such an incredible
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community of women and friends and co workers and mentors,
and I'm just endlessly inspired, truly by so many of
the friends I've collected, you know, along the way in
these past two decades of adulthood. I'd say the first
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person who comes to mind is Nia, my best friend,
who is just so tenacious and curious and wise and god,
she's just good at everything and manages to be this
incredible professional and also the most fun person to go
on an adventure with, go to a party with, hit
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a dance floor with. She's just she's like the best
person that I know. And I feel that way about,
you know, my group of girlfriends back home in LA.
I feel that way about so many of the women
that I've worked with on camera, who have inspired me
by the way they show up and the women they
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are behind the scenes. I feel that way about, you know,
the folks that I've made friends with in the last
you know, half decade from across the women's sports industry
who've managed to advocate for pay equity globally and who
have you know, really helped inspire you know, not only
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like my love of sport, but the way I show
up as you know, a part owner of a team. God,
I mean, think about our our whole executive team at
Angel City, you know, so crazy, Like I grew up
playing Ayso soccer and now I get to collaborate with
this group of women on one of the best teams
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in the league and watch, you know, the women that
we support and the women who play for us, and
the women who work in our back offices. I mean,
it's just like, I'm so endlessly inspired by the tenacity
and the courage of the women in my lives in
every vertical. And yeah, I feel very lucky. You know.
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When I think about that first question for Maria, like
how I deal with stress, sometimes I just think about
the people in my life who I get to call
on a day to day basis, and thing like, you know, yeah,
I'm not going to deny that today's a hard day
or that this crazy thing is happening, but I feel really,
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really lucky to be part of the community that I
am a part of, and that extends to a lot
of you. You know, I started this podcast because I
wanted to have interesting conversations with people that inspire me.
Glorious dynam think about an inspiring woman, my god, my
first guest, you know, back in twenty nineteen, and to
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pick her brain about her advocacy in the way that
she has stood up for the equality of women in
this country and around the world, Like, that's a dream
come true for me. And the fact that so many
of you show up to join me in these conversations
and listen like you guys inspire me too, So add
yourselves to the list. And now a word from our
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sponsors who make this show possible. This is a good shift.
Christine wants to know what is your favorite song on
Cowboy Critter. I mean, that feels so tough to pick one.
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The whole album is so beautiful, and I think one
of the things that inspires me most about it is
what an education it is for so many of us
about the folks who helped create country music as a genre.
It's really inspiring to me to see someone like Beyonce
show up and give us all a history lesson on
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the incredible contributions of black artists to country. So I
absolutely love that. And when I think about the way
that she's partnered with so many incredible people to make
this record, you know, traditional voices from country, historic voices
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from country, and then even like people who we just
love like. I love watching her journey as a woman.
I have loved over the last few years, in particular
watching Miley Cyrus's journey you know, as a woman and
an artist. Flowers was like definitely my my theme song
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for a year. So I think this week it's probably
Most Wanted. It's the Beyonce and Miley du it. I
just love it. It makes me want to scream, sing
and cry all at the same time. It's so beautiful.
But I don't know, check in next week because I
might be on a different one, or who knows, Most
Wanted might just be on repeat forever. We'll see. Oh,
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this is a nice question from Elizabeth. What's been the
best part of your twenty twenty four so far? Wow?
I think I think the best part of this year.
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I really like to do a check in on New
Year's and my friend Kenny, one of my best friends
years ago, gave me and a bunch of our pals
this like packet of questions to fill out for New
Year's and I just find it super inspiring. And this year,
as I sat to like do this workbook and really
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think about what twenty twenty four was going to have
in store. I realized that in some ways, you know,
things feel harder than ever, and yet I'm happier than
I have ever been. I feel less pressure to be
what other people need me to be, or to be
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concerned with other people's assumption versus the reality that I
live in. And as a person who like literally came
into my adulthood on camera with the pressure of the world,
you know, looking in as I think anybody who grows
up quick on TV does, Like, that's a pretty profound
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way to feel. To know what is true and what
is good and what matters to me and to the
people that I love in a way that isn't you know,
swayed or pressurized from the outside. That feels like a
pretty big deal. And to sit in that and really
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reflect on that. At the start of the year, Yeah,
I just felt like a really major milestone. Took me
a long time to get here, and I'm really grateful
to be here, and now being here, I really want that,
you know, for everyone I know and everyone I don't,
for all of you for sure. And then I think,
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if I get like a little less sort of overarching theme,
a little less meta. I'm really excited about some projects
I've signed on to do and a project that I'm
pitching with some of my favorite people, and I just
feel really inspired as an artist again, and that feels
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very exciting. So yeah, twenty twenty four feels like it's
shaping up to be a good year. Tenley wants to know, Oh,
do you like to see a One Tree Hill reunion
or should this series stay as is? You know, I
think my opinion on this has really changed, And I
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also think that's pretty natural, Like you wrap a show
after nine years and no matter how much you loved it.
I mean, clearly I loved it. I sobbed every day
for the last two weeks of filming. But when you wrap,
you're like, I did it, I'm done. I want to
go do other things. You really want to have a
new experience as an artist and a storyteller. And then
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when the girls and I decided to do our rewatch show,
when we started Drama Queens and really got to reclaim
our first which was kind of our first love, and
you know, get to really examine the show from such
a distance that we could really watch it and experience
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it and not be like, I don't know, I don't
want to say triggered, but kind of not be triggered
by it and not be like sort of yanked backward
into it. It's been so cool, and I've really loved
watching it, and I've loved getting to experience it the
way the fans of the show got to experience it,
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And in a way, I love it now more than
I think I ever have. And so I think the
right kind of reunion would be amazing. I also think
when you did something really special, the wrong kind of
reunion could be terrible. So, you know, I think if
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it felt like our podcast feels, if it felt like
a reclamation, if it felt like a return to what
is so good good and a continuation of that, and
didn't require us to like keep the trash in the
house if you will, if you can follow the metaphor
I'm saying here, I'm trying to keep it classy. You know,
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if we could reclaim it and take the trash out
at the same time, I would say never say never. Oh,
I like this question too. Ali asks what do you
admire most about your parents? Gosh, my parents are really
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cool and complicated and great, and you know, we've got
family stuff, like I think every family does. I think
the thing that I really admire about them is as
I have gotten older and really wanted to do the
work on examining patterns and processing trauma and you know,
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growing as a human, becoming a healthier human, my parents
have not shied away from that. And I think for
parents especially, that can be really hard to you know,
unearth things about your family, or to examine old wounds
that exist, you know, within a family, or to clue
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their kids in on things when their kids are suddenly
their peers because everyone in the room is an adult now,
you know. And my parents have been more and more
as the years have gone by, more and more willing
to do that. And that is something that to me
speaks to things I admire in folks that are older
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than me. In general, I think intergenerational friendships are incredibly important.
I really try to make sure I have a community
that you know, fans from seventy five to twenty two.
And what I respect about my parents, what I respect
even about some of my mentors in the political space
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is people who become more and more progressive as they age.
People who are more and more willing to make room
for others, for their equality, for their needs, for their joy,
for their ability to thrive, for their ability to ask
hard questions and get real answers. Like it's really something
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I'm passionate about. And so I appreciate that in my
own family with my parents, that they're every year they
seem more willing to you know, show up as them
as their whole selves and make room for others. And
that's something I'm really grateful for. And I zoom out
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again and I have to draw this parallel because it's
true and be like we're gearing up for the selection,
and so I think it's an important thing to examine,
you know, It's something I appreciate. Like I said about
my mentors in the world of policy and politics, it's
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something that I, you know, appreciate about people I advocate alongside,
like folks who've been doing this for a long time,
who say, yeah, we tried something, it didn't work. We've
learned better. We're going to be more progressive. We're going
to make more room, we're going to give more resources
to people. We're gonna we're going to take care of
more children, We're going to get more kids out of poverty.
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We're going to feed more kids in school. You know,
like the list goes on. We're not gonna lean on
these carceral options like we used to because now we
know they don't work. Like all of that. You know,
that is something that not only takes a willingness to evolve,
but to do it on a public stage takes a
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lot of courage. And yeah, it's the reason that you
see me advocate for the folks that I do in
election years because that's something that's really meaningful to me.
So I think in the personal you know, just me
and my folks in my house, to the you know,
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nationwide all of us and the policies that affect us,
I actually really see like a parallel there and hopefully
you guys do doo. And now a word from our sponsors.
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Catherine asks what is your favorite self care treatment that
you like to treat yourself to. Oh? Wow, my favorite.
The thing that feels the most like a luxury to
me is to get a massage. You know, my body
is pretty shattered from years of doing stunts and getting
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injured and having to keep working and you know, flying
as often as I have to to do my job
but also have any sort of relationship with my family
and friends back home because I never work where I live.
And yeah, I think in recent years, like I don't
do it a lot. I wish I did it more.
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I've got friends who are like in their sixties who
get a massage once a week, and I'm like, wow,
that's like real adulting, probably, you know. But I think
about my twenties, where I probably did it like once
a year, and now I probably do it, I don't know,
once every six weeks. So maybe I'm evolving in the
right direction. But yeah, that feels like such a luxury,
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but also like medicine, and I think that's something I'm
trying to wrap my head or is that there are
kinds of self care that actually helped keep us healthy
instead of the kinds of self care we have to
do to cope when we're sick. So you know, I'm
working on adjusting my perspectives on that. I think the
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biggest self care like daily change I've made in my life, though,
is sleep. I'm actually sleeping like seven to eight hours
a night now, and I never used to do that,
probably the whole time I filmed one tree Hill. I
slept like five hours a night, which just was not good.
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It wasn't healthy. But when you're working seventeen hours a
day and you're trying to like have any semblance of
a life around that, you can start to sacrifice your sleep.
And I'm just realized I don't want to do that,
and so probably sounds really lame, but sleep is really
the greatest form of self care that I treat myself
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to the most regularly. And yeah, if you're an under sleeper,
please start sleeping. Take care of your brain and your body.
Take it from me. Took me a long time, but
I'm really trying to be good about it. Oh, Samantha asks,
what is your favorite kind of pasta? Girl? Who could
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pick a favorite kind? That feels hard? This is funny
because I just ate lunch and I had or ketty
with sausage and broccolini that I made, so you read
my mind. My favorite kind of pasta is every kind
of pasta. I really would like to learn to perfect
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a carbonara that is on my list. So if any
of you listening out there have a good carbonara recipe,
hit your girl, because I really need to know. Austin
asks what is your biggest pet peeve Ooh, easy answer.
I can tell you this because I travel a lot.
People who watch things on their phones on airplanes with
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no headphones. I think it is like, straight up the
most unbelievably inconsiderate thing you can do. Like we're all
trapped in a metal tube together, the way sound travels
on a plane and the engine noise, and just like
there's already so much noise in a plane as it is,
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and to be like rapid fire scrolling through videos on TikTok,
or like playing Angry Birds with the sound on and
no headphones, I'm just like, how can you subject other
people to this? And you know, I do know that
I'm very noise sensitive with my particular you know, version
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of being a little neurospicy. But like, I just think
it's awful to force people to listen to terrible sounds
in public. It's like, you got to bring headphones, boys
and girls. You just have to. That's mine, Chris. What
is your favorite eighties movie? Oh? My goodness, I mean,
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the first thing that comes to mind is Princess Bride.
I actually don't know if I think that's an eighties movie.
Maybe it's an early nineties movie. I don't know. I
just watched it that in Flight of the Navigator. I
watched obsessively as a kid. Those movies really shaped me.
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So probably those two. What are your favorite eighties movies? Guys?
I'm realizing I probably didn't watch all that many because
you know, I was a little baby. But yeah, tell
me what you guys love to go back and watch
from the eighties. I feel like I should add some
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things to the list. Christian, what is something that brought
you joy in the last week? Oh, oh, my goodness,
something that brought me joy in the last week. I
went over to a friends for a big Sunday barbecue,
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and we're at that stage now where parents are there
and some of our friends have kids, so there's kids
running around, and it was this moment where I like,
I looked around the backyard at my friend's parents laughing
and all these kids running around in circles, giggling, and
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I don't know, it was just this really really cool
moment where I sort of felt like I was suspended
between these two worlds. You know, I remember what it
was like to be a little kid running around the
backyard on a Sunday with my friends and I was
looking at you know, all these folks like in their sixties,
just vibing, having a time, and I was like, Wow,
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I'll be there eventually, and this is so cool, like
to see all these sort of stages of life. It felt.
It felt like a moment that I wished my mind
could take a picture of. I don't know if you
ever have that, but I definitely have that where I
look around and I think, God, I just want to
snapshot this. I don't want to forget what this feels like.
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The sun was out, there was a little breeze, like
everything was just a vibe, and yeah, I felt really
grateful and it was a nice moment to just check
in with what that feels like, how nice it feels
to have that sort of swelling in your chest and
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realize you're smiling looking around, and to just go, Wow,
this is really good. There's a lot out there that's hard,
and there's a lot going on in the world that
I know makes us all feel really uncertain. So for
those moments that I just think like I want to
remember this, I want to cherish this, I have so
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much gratitude because those are the ones I think that
make all the other stuff worth navigating and doing, you know,
makes me really happy. And obviously, you know, the forty
six times I've listened to Cowboy Carter brought me joy
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this week as well for the world. Okay, Ava asks
who is your dream dinner party guest? Living or dead?
Ooh gosh, that is such a good question. I wish
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I could. I wish I could build out like a
dream dinner party table. But honestly, it's funny. There's so
many people I'm so inspired by who I'd love to
have a meal with. But for whatever reason, and maybe
it's the last question making me really think about you know,
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generations and phases in life. But you said living or dead,
and I like what I would give to be able
to have dinner with my grandfather one more time. That
would just be so cool. He passed away right at
the end of season four of One Tree Hill. Actually,
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and I would just love, you know, I was in
my mid twenties then, and I would really love from
this vantage point, like with all this experience under my belt,
you know, the things I've done and the lessons I've learned,
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and the successes and the failures and all of the
things I would love to sit down with him and
just talk about life. Now, there's so many questions I
would have to ask him about his story and you know,
his relationships and the things that he survived in the
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ways that he served, and yeah, just so much. I
didn't know to ask when I was twenty four, but
I would know to ask him now, and that that's
something I would really I would really really if I
could snap my fingers and be in a parallel universe
and have him, I would love to do that. So
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thank you for that question, Ava, It's nice to think
about him, Oh my goodness. And then Emma wants to
know who would be your one call from jail. Nia
My best friend that I was talking about earlier would
absolutely be my call from jail. I would just trust
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her to sort things quickly and not panic, so I
think she would really she would really be the one.
But now I'm like, well, what would I be getting
arrested for. I wonder that's a fun one to think about.
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Have any of you ever been arrested? I have questions
who would your one phone call be from jail? Friends?
That would actually be a really fun thing to hear about,
So send us those answers in addition to any of
the other questions you have, and we will do another
one of these very soon. This is always really fun.
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Thank you for asking great questions. You give me a
lot of very cool things to think about. Yeah, I
look forward to the next one. Have a great week y'all.
Hi everyone, It's Sophia, Welcome to Work in Progress. Hello,
friends and listeners, Welcome back to Work in Progress. This week,
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you all have been submitting some really great listener questions
and I just wanted to say thank you for all
your feedback on our Q and A episodes. I'm so
glad you like them. I really enjoy doing this with
you guys, and so many good questions have come in,
and so we felt like this week was as good
as any to jump back in and try to work
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through some of these. So let's get started. First question
from Maria. Wow, this is really oh so topical my dear,
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for me, you, and I think everyone else. Maria's question
is how do you deal with stress, specifically now when
the world is kind of a mess. Oh? Boy, Yeah,
things feel really heavy, don't they. It's hard when every
second you, you know, turn on the news or open
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a paper, it seems like tragedy is everywhere. I think.
What I really try to remind myself to do is
to hold the both. And because it's not lost on
me that for myself, for so many people, I love,
even things I hear from you guys, you know, out
on social and in some of your feedback is that
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things seem more stressful than ever, the world feels messier
than ever, and yet people are in love, they're happy
at work, they're so grateful for their families, and so
I think what I try to do is remind myself
to make room for both, And when things feel really,
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really stressful, I try to make a list of the
things that I'm grateful for. I try to remind myself
how lucky I am to have people I love to
call or lean on, to have joy in my life,
to even even to be hurt by what's hard out there.
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You know, I think a capacity to care for others
is a beautiful thing, and so when the world feels heavy,
I remind myself that that's a sign that I'm human
and that that feels really important. You know. I think
there's all sorts of things out in the world that
encourage us to lose our humanity or to look at
other people and say, well, what did they expect or
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are they signed up for that? Or they deserve to
feel this way? And I really want to reject those
I don't mean to be judgmental, but like I would
call them lesser human instincts, you know, maybe maybe the
ways that we can be a little base or cruel,
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and I really want to go in the opposite direction
of that stuff. So that's what I think is the
best antidote to stress. Gratitude, care, kindness. And then you know,
for our little individual bodies, probably boring, but sleep, water,
taking vitamins, you know, doing little things to help make
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your physical self more resilient. I think all those incremental,
little acts of self care really add up to create
big shifts. And so I try to make sure I'm
thinking about all the good things and then doing small
good things for my little body. And I hope you
are too. Riley asks, what is your favorite show you've
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acted in? Oh my goodness, this is so hard for
me because I cherish experiences on different things for different reasons.
You know, I loved I loved playing Brooke Davis for
nine years. What a rare thing that an actor gets
to do that nine seasons on a series, you know,
doesn't happen that often. And I loved her journey, and
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I loved fighting for her, and I loved helping make
her a person that I care about and that so
many fans care about. And then you know, on the
flip side working on Easy on Netflix with Joe Swamberg
and Jacquelyn Tiboni. You know a writer, director that I
absolutely love, an actor that I absolutely love. You know,
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I just did one episode of that show. The series
is an anthology, that's how it works, and yet it
was one of the most fun experiences I've ever had
as an actor, because you know, the shows based on
outline and then the actual scenes are mostly improved. And
I loved the challenge of that. And I don't know
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if I could handle doing a whole series like that
because the pressure is so crazy. But maybe maybe it
would be the most fun thing I've ever done, and
I've just never done it, and I just haven't done
it yet, so whether it's like such a long job
or something that happens really briefly. I have attachments to
different projects for different reasons. I've never been good at
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picking a favorite, So I hope that that's not a
terrible answer, Riley, but I am sort of incapable of
doing that. Kayla asks what project have you worked on
that has taught you the most about yourself? Kind of
a similar answer to the previous question. I think I
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think about learning through life climbing a ladder, and I
think every time you level up, every time you climb
aroun you learn something new. Sometimes in you know, in
different phases of our lives, we learn versions of similar lessons.
I think sometimes we get tested, you know, through the decades,
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to see how well we can apply our learning, our
sense of the view, were all sorts of things, so
I think it's hard to narrow down on just one thing.
I think working on One Tree Hill really taught me
to advocate for a character, taught me to advocate for
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the women around me, definitely taught me in hindsight, I
think taught me that some battles are absolutely worth fighting,
and sometimes you just have to realize that, you know,
not everything will be one or workout, and that's okay
too a long life we lead, I would say the
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next long series I did in Chicago really taught me
to advocate. At first, I was advocating for women, you know,
for a group of us, for a community, and then
it really taught me that, you know, if you don't
put your own oxygen mask on first, you're doing a
disservice to yourself and everyone else. And that job ultimately
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taught me to choose myself and to protect myself, and
that was a really valuable lesson too. I think, I know,
I just talked about this show too, but working on
Easy taught me that I love improv you know, not
necessarily a big lesson for me as a human and
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you know how I grow and show up in the world,
but it was certainly an amazing lesson for me as
an actor and a storyteller. And I loved it, like
I can't talk about it without grinning. It was just
such a fun experience. And yeah, I think I think
every job, you know, can really illuminate something for you,
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whether it's in your creativity and your work, or in
who you are as a person and the ways you're
learning to you know, move as a human in the world.
And that's something I really appreciate, you know, in all
the ways that my day job as an actor is
so bizarre and you know requires you to kind of
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move around at a moment's notice and you know, basically
be like a circus performer. I really like that you
have the opportunity to constantly, you know, meet new people,
watch the way people work, learn new things. You know.
When I made good, SAYM, I learned that I actually
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really am fascinated by medicine in ways I always thought
I was, but I I didn't get to have the
experience until I was, you know, shadowing surgeons and standing
and operating theaters and you know, getting to peek around
inside the literal body cavities of patients and ask questions.
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You know, what a profound privilege to get to do that,
To get to stand and shadow surgeons in the way
that on set, I've shadowed directors. You know, I always
knew it was something that I wanted to learn more about,
but I got to have the experience up close and
personal and realize that, you know, it's definitely one of
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the coolest things I've ever been fortunate enough to see.
And so, yeah, I think every project has taught me something.
And I guess the overarching theme really is that I'm
curious and I like that about myself. I guess i'd
wonder for you guys, what big lessons you take away
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from work and what things you really like that you've
discovered about yourselves. Maybe send us some answers to those
questions on social because we'd love to know. Tia wants
to know what woman in your life has inspired you
the most. Oh my goodness, I have such an incredible
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community of women and friends and co workers and mentors,
and I'm just endlessly inspired, truly by so many of
the friends I've collected, you know, along the way in
these past two decades of adulthood. I'd say the first
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person who comes to mind is Nia, my best friend,
who is just so tenacious and curious and wise and god,
she's just good at everything and manages to be this
incredible professional and also the most fun person to go
on an adventure with, go to a party with, hit
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a dance floor with. She's just she's like the best
person that I know. And I feel that way about,
you know, my group of girlfriends back home in LA.
I feel that way about so many of the women
that I've worked with on camera, who have inspired me
by the way they show up and the women they
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are behind the scenes. I feel that way about, you know,
the folks that I've made friends with in the last
you know, half decade from across the women's sports industry
who've managed to advocate for pay equity globally and who
have you know, really helped inspire you know, not only
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like my love of sport, but the way I show
up as you know, a part owner of a team. God,
I mean, think about our our whole executive team at
Angel City, you know, so crazy, Like I grew up
playing Ayso soccer and now I get to collaborate with
this group of women on one of the best teams
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in the league and watch, you know, the women that
we support and the women who play for us, and
the women who work in our back offices. I mean,
it's just like, I'm so endlessly inspired by the tenacity
and the courage of the women in my lives in
every vertical. And yeah, I feel very lucky. You know.
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When I think about that first question for Maria, like
how I deal with stress, sometimes I just think about
the people in my life who I get to call
on a day to day basis, and thing like, you know, yeah,
I'm not going to deny that today's a hard day
or that this crazy thing is happening, but I feel really,
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really lucky to be part of the community that I
am a part of, and that extends to a lot
of you. You know, I started this podcast because I
wanted to have interesting conversations with people that inspire me.
Glorious dynam think about an inspiring woman, my god, my
first guest, you know, back in twenty nineteen, and to
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pick her brain about her advocacy in the way that
she has stood up for the equality of women in
this country and around the world, Like, that's a dream
come true for me. And the fact that so many
of you show up to join me in these conversations
and listen like you guys inspire me too, So add
yourselves to the list. And now a word from our
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sponsors who make this show possible. This is a good shift.
Christine wants to know what is your favorite song on
Cowboy Critter. I mean, that feels so tough to pick one.
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The whole album is so beautiful, and I think one
of the things that inspires me most about it is
what an education it is for so many of us
about the folks who helped create country music as a genre.
It's really inspiring to me to see someone like Beyonce
show up and give us all a history lesson on
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the incredible contributions of black artists to country. So I
absolutely love that. And when I think about the way
that she's partnered with so many incredible people to make
this record, you know, traditional voices from country, historic voices
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from country, and then even like people who we just
love like. I love watching her journey as a woman.
I have loved over the last few years, in particular
watching Miley Cyrus's journey you know, as a woman and
an artist. Flowers was like definitely my my theme song
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for a year. So I think this week it's probably
Most Wanted. It's the Beyonce and Miley du it. I
just love it. It makes me want to scream, sing
and cry all at the same time. It's so beautiful.
But I don't know, check in next week because I
might be on a different one, or who knows, Most
Wanted might just be on repeat forever. We'll see. Oh,
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this is a nice question from Elizabeth. What's been the
best part of your twenty twenty four so far? Wow?
I think I think the best part of this year.
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I really like to do a check in on New
Year's and my friend Kenny, one of my best friends
years ago, gave me and a bunch of our pals
this like packet of questions to fill out for New
Year's and I just find it super inspiring. And this year,
as I sat to like do this workbook and really
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think about what twenty twenty four was going to have
in store. I realized that in some ways, you know,
things feel harder than ever, and yet I'm happier than
I have ever been. I feel less pressure to be
what other people need me to be, or to be
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concerned with other people's assumption versus the reality that I
live in. And as a person who like literally came
into my adulthood on camera with the pressure of the world,
you know, looking in as I think anybody who grows
up quick on TV does, Like, that's a pretty profound
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way to feel. To know what is true and what
is good and what matters to me and to the
people that I love in a way that isn't you know,
swayed or pressurized from the outside. That feels like a
pretty big deal. And to sit in that and really
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reflect on that. At the start of the year, Yeah,
I just felt like a really major milestone. Took me
a long time to get here, and I'm really grateful
to be here, and now being here, I really want that,
you know, for everyone I know and everyone I don't,
for all of you for sure. And then I think,
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if I get like a little less sort of overarching theme,
a little less meta. I'm really excited about some projects
I've signed on to do and a project that I'm
pitching with some of my favorite people, and I just
feel really inspired as an artist again, and that feels
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very exciting. So yeah, twenty twenty four feels like it's
shaping up to be a good year. Tenley wants to know, Oh,
do you like to see a One Tree Hill reunion
or should this series stay as is? You know, I
think my opinion on this has really changed, And I
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also think that's pretty natural, Like you wrap a show
after nine years and no matter how much you loved it.
I mean, clearly I loved it. I sobbed every day
for the last two weeks of filming. But when you wrap,
you're like, I did it, I'm done. I want to
go do other things. You really want to have a
new experience as an artist and a storyteller. And then
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when the girls and I decided to do our rewatch show,
when we started Drama Queens and really got to reclaim
our first which was kind of our first love, and
you know, get to really examine the show from such
a distance that we could really watch it and experience
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it and not be like, I don't know, I don't
want to say triggered, but kind of not be triggered
by it and not be like sort of yanked backward
into it. It's been so cool, and I've really loved
watching it, and I've loved getting to experience it the
way the fans of the show got to experience it,
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And in a way, I love it now more than
I think I ever have. And so I think the
right kind of reunion would be amazing. I also think
when you did something really special, the wrong kind of
reunion could be terrible. So, you know, I think if
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it felt like our podcast feels, if it felt like
a reclamation, if it felt like a return to what
is so good good and a continuation of that, and
didn't require us to like keep the trash in the
house if you will, if you can follow the metaphor
I'm saying here, I'm trying to keep it classy. You know,
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if we could reclaim it and take the trash out
at the same time, I would say never say never. Oh,
I like this question too. Ali asks what do you
admire most about your parents? Gosh, my parents are really
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cool and complicated and great, and you know, we've got
family stuff, like I think every family does. I think
the thing that I really admire about them is as
I have gotten older and really wanted to do the
work on examining patterns and processing trauma and you know,
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growing as a human, becoming a healthier human, my parents
have not shied away from that. And I think for
parents especially, that can be really hard to you know,
unearth things about your family, or to examine old wounds
that exist, you know, within a family, or to clue
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their kids in on things when their kids are suddenly
their peers because everyone in the room is an adult now,
you know. And my parents have been more and more
as the years have gone by, more and more willing
to do that. And that is something that to me
speaks to things I admire in folks that are older
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than me. In general, I think intergenerational friendships are incredibly important.
I really try to make sure I have a community
that you know, fans from seventy five to twenty two.
And what I respect about my parents, what I respect
even about some of my mentors in the political space
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is people who become more and more progressive as they age.
People who are more and more willing to make room
for others, for their equality, for their needs, for their joy,
for their ability to thrive, for their ability to ask
hard questions and get real answers. Like it's really something
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I'm passionate about. And so I appreciate that in my
own family with my parents, that they're every year they
seem more willing to you know, show up as them
as their whole selves and make room for others. And
that's something I'm really grateful for. And I zoom out
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again and I have to draw this parallel because it's
true and be like we're gearing up for the selection,
and so I think it's an important thing to examine,
you know, It's something I appreciate. Like I said about
my mentors in the world of policy and politics, it's
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something that I, you know, appreciate about people I advocate alongside,
like folks who've been doing this for a long time,
who say, yeah, we tried something, it didn't work. We've
learned better. We're going to be more progressive. We're going
to make more room, we're going to give more resources
to people. We're gonna we're going to take care of
more children, We're going to get more kids out of poverty.
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We're going to feed more kids in school. You know,
like the list goes on. We're not gonna lean on
these carceral options like we used to because now we
know they don't work. Like all of that. You know,
that is something that not only takes a willingness to evolve,
but to do it on a public stage takes a
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lot of courage. And yeah, it's the reason that you
see me advocate for the folks that I do in
election years because that's something that's really meaningful to me.
So I think in the personal you know, just me
and my folks in my house, to the you know,
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nationwide all of us and the policies that affect us,
I actually really see like a parallel there and hopefully
you guys do doo. And now a word from our sponsors.
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Catherine asks what is your favorite self care treatment that
you like to treat yourself to. Oh? Wow, my favorite.
The thing that feels the most like a luxury to
me is to get a massage. You know, my body
is pretty shattered from years of doing stunts and getting
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injured and having to keep working and you know, flying
as often as I have to to do my job
but also have any sort of relationship with my family
and friends back home because I never work where I live.
And yeah, I think in recent years, like I don't
do it a lot. I wish I did it more.
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I've got friends who are like in their sixties who
get a massage once a week, and I'm like, wow,
that's like real adulting, probably, you know. But I think
about my twenties, where I probably did it like once
a year, and now I probably do it, I don't know,
once every six weeks. So maybe I'm evolving in the
right direction. But yeah, that feels like such a luxury,
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but also like medicine, and I think that's something I'm
trying to wrap my head or is that there are
kinds of self care that actually helped keep us healthy
instead of the kinds of self care we have to
do to cope when we're sick. So you know, I'm
working on adjusting my perspectives on that. I think the
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biggest self care like daily change I've made in my life, though,
is sleep. I'm actually sleeping like seven to eight hours
a night now, and I never used to do that,
probably the whole time I filmed one tree Hill. I
slept like five hours a night, which just was not good.
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It wasn't healthy. But when you're working seventeen hours a
day and you're trying to like have any semblance of
a life around that, you can start to sacrifice your sleep.
And I'm just realized I don't want to do that,
and so probably sounds really lame, but sleep is really
the greatest form of self care that I treat myself
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to the most regularly. And yeah, if you're an under sleeper,
please start sleeping. Take care of your brain and your body.
Take it from me. Took me a long time, but
I'm really trying to be good about it. Oh, Samantha asks,
what is your favorite kind of pasta? Girl? Who could
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pick a favorite kind? That feels hard? This is funny
because I just ate lunch and I had or ketty
with sausage and broccolini that I made, so you read
my mind. My favorite kind of pasta is every kind
of pasta. I really would like to learn to perfect
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a carbonara that is on my list. So if any
of you listening out there have a good carbonara recipe,
hit your girl, because I really need to know. Austin
asks what is your biggest pet peeve Ooh, easy answer.
I can tell you this because I travel a lot.
People who watch things on their phones on airplanes with
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no headphones. I think it is like, straight up the
most unbelievably inconsiderate thing you can do. Like we're all
trapped in a metal tube together, the way sound travels
on a plane and the engine noise, and just like
there's already so much noise in a plane as it is,
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and to be like rapid fire scrolling through videos on TikTok,
or like playing Angry Birds with the sound on and
no headphones, I'm just like, how can you subject other
people to this? And you know, I do know that
I'm very noise sensitive with my particular you know, version
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of being a little neurospicy. But like, I just think
it's awful to force people to listen to terrible sounds
in public. It's like, you got to bring headphones, boys
and girls. You just have to. That's mine, Chris. What
is your favorite eighties movie? Oh? My goodness, I mean,
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the first thing that comes to mind is Princess Bride.
I actually don't know if I think that's an eighties movie.
Maybe it's an early nineties movie. I don't know. I
just watched it that in Flight of the Navigator. I
watched obsessively as a kid. Those movies really shaped me.
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So probably those two. What are your favorite eighties movies? Guys?
I'm realizing I probably didn't watch all that many because
you know, I was a little baby. But yeah, tell
me what you guys love to go back and watch
from the eighties. I feel like I should add some
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things to the list. Christian, what is something that brought
you joy in the last week? Oh, oh, my goodness,
something that brought me joy in the last week. I
went over to a friends for a big Sunday barbecue,
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and we're at that stage now where parents are there
and some of our friends have kids, so there's kids
running around, and it was this moment where I like,
I looked around the backyard at my friend's parents laughing
and all these kids running around in circles, giggling, and
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I don't know, it was just this really really cool
moment where I sort of felt like I was suspended
between these two worlds. You know, I remember what it
was like to be a little kid running around the
backyard on a Sunday with my friends and I was
looking at you know, all these folks like in their sixties,
just vibing, having a time, and I was like, Wow,
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I'll be there eventually, and this is so cool, like
to see all these sort of stages of life. It felt.
It felt like a moment that I wished my mind
could take a picture of. I don't know if you
ever have that, but I definitely have that where I
look around and I think, God, I just want to
snapshot this. I don't want to forget what this feels like.
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The sun was out, there was a little breeze, like
everything was just a vibe, and yeah, I felt really
grateful and it was a nice moment to just check
in with what that feels like, how nice it feels
to have that sort of swelling in your chest and
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realize you're smiling looking around, and to just go, Wow,
this is really good. There's a lot out there that's hard,
and there's a lot going on in the world that
I know makes us all feel really uncertain. So for
those moments that I just think like I want to
remember this, I want to cherish this, I have so
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much gratitude because those are the ones I think that
make all the other stuff worth navigating and doing, you know,
makes me really happy. And obviously, you know, the forty
six times I've listened to Cowboy Carter brought me joy
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this week as well for the world. Okay, Ava asks
who is your dream dinner party guest? Living or dead?
Ooh gosh, that is such a good question. I wish
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I could. I wish I could build out like a
dream dinner party table. But honestly, it's funny. There's so
many people I'm so inspired by who I'd love to
have a meal with. But for whatever reason, and maybe
it's the last question making me really think about you know,
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generations and phases in life. But you said living or dead,
and I like what I would give to be able
to have dinner with my grandfather one more time. That
would just be so cool. He passed away right at
the end of season four of One Tree Hill. Actually,
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and I would just love, you know, I was in
my mid twenties then, and I would really love from
this vantage point, like with all this experience under my belt,
you know, the things I've done and the lessons I've learned,
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and the successes and the failures and all of the
things I would love to sit down with him and
just talk about life. Now, there's so many questions I
would have to ask him about his story and you know,
his relationships and the things that he survived in the
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ways that he served, and yeah, just so much. I
didn't know to ask when I was twenty four, but
I would know to ask him now, and that that's
something I would really I would really really if I
could snap my fingers and be in a parallel universe
and have him, I would love to do that. So
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thank you for that question, Ava, It's nice to think
about him, Oh my goodness. And then Emma wants to
know who would be your one call from jail. Nia
My best friend that I was talking about earlier would
absolutely be my call from jail. I would just trust
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her to sort things quickly and not panic, so I
think she would really she would really be the one.
But now I'm like, well, what would I be getting
arrested for. I wonder that's a fun one to think about.
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Have any of you ever been arrested? I have questions
who would your one phone call be from jail? Friends?
That would actually be a really fun thing to hear about,
So send us those answers in addition to any of
the other questions you have, and we will do another
one of these very soon. This is always really fun.
(35:52):
Thank you for asking great questions. You give me a
lot of very cool things to think about. Yeah, I
look forward to the next one. Have a great week y'all.
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