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May 22, 2024 12 mins

➡︎ The Jubal Show’s First Date Follow Up

What happens when you get ghosted after a first date? You call The Jubal Show and have them find out why! It's like putting yourself in a situation to get roasted, when you really just want a second date.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date of follow up powered by the Advocates Injury
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Ava is on the phone today for our first date
follow up, and she went on a date with a
guy named Justin, but now she's getting ghosted. So in
a few minutes we'll call him and see if you'll
tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her
another date. But first, Ava, how long has it been
since you heard from Justin?

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (00:20):
My god, I've been like a couple of weeks, and
you know, I've actually been reaching out to him. And
the first time I reached out to him, he said,
have a good day, and then I never heard anything
back from him.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
Okay, so you reached out to him again after the
have a good day?

Speaker 1 (00:32):
No, I mean, like it feels like really weird to
keep reaching out to this guy, especially if his only
response is have a good day. I'm worried. It's like
making me feel really desperate. But at the same time,
I really thought we had something. I thought we really connected,
and I don't know, I guess just at like one
point during our date, I was talking about my job,

(00:54):
and you know how thankful I was to have my
job and I accidentally call my boss attracted, and I'm
wondering if maybe that was like a red flag for him.
But I didn't mean it in that way, and if
that's how we took it, I'm I'm honestly very mortified
with that.

Speaker 4 (01:11):
Okay, well that sounds a little bit juicy. Can we
go backwards though, and talk about how we got to
that point, like how was your date other than that?

Speaker 3 (01:19):
Oh my god?

Speaker 1 (01:20):
All right, Well, so obviously I had a great time,
and you know, I was just thinking the whole time,
like basically we started out a happy hour, which a
lot of my friends said that wasn't a correct way
to go, but you know, and I just had a
good feeling about him. And you know, the funny thing
is is he's.

Speaker 4 (01:36):
Got a great sense of humor.

Speaker 1 (01:37):
He's athletic. Like we played tickleball and it was like
I'd never played before, so it was really fun to
have him kind of teaching me the ropes.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
And I was like, yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:49):
Well basically we played pick a ball and then went
to happy hours.

Speaker 3 (01:53):
So yeah.

Speaker 4 (01:56):
But you know the thing is is, after a.

Speaker 1 (01:58):
While, I was concerned that that was all that there
was with us, just like kind of going to a
bar and hanging out because you know, we did some
shots and we danced. He showed me how to play darts.
You know, we shared a bowl of peanuts, and eventually
we did go back to his place where things.

Speaker 4 (02:13):
Got a little you know, he did.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
And I haven't been with anyone in a really long time,
so I'm worried. I also may have just been spread
with signals. Okay, I guess I'm just worried that, you know,
going back to his place after kind of a first
date maybe gave him an idea that that's really all
I was looking for, and I kind of thought I
was putting it out there that I was looking for
a little bit more. So, Yeah, maybe going to his

(02:38):
place afterwards was not the best example for me to,
you know, try to make it work with a guy
like this. And maybe that's why he's ghosting me. Is
if I'm coming on too strong and he's under the
impression that all I wanted was a quick hookup. I
don't know, It's just I just feel so uncomfortable. I
really want to go back and spend some time with him.
I felt like we had a really good time, but

(02:59):
now I feel awkward, just trying to check in with him.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
At what point in all of that did it come
out that you thought your boss was hot? Oh my god,
this is embarrassing.

Speaker 1 (03:09):
Basically, I was connected to my boss in such a
way I live with him. Okay, I'm a nanny, so
I actually live with my They actually kind of like
hooked us up and you know, told us that we
should meet up. And you know, my boss even told
Justin that, like, I was a really cool person to
spend time with and that I was a lot of fun. Yeah,

(03:31):
I think he even told I think he even told
Justin that I was really cute. So again, I'm worried
that was like another.

Speaker 4 (03:37):
Red Flager Justine for Justin.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
So I do think maybe the fact that I may
have accidentally just that I thought he was cute, you know,
after we were talking about how we were hooked up
by him, that that was you know, definitely something that
made him uncomfortable. And you know what the thing is,
as soon as I said that out loud, I realized
it was totally the wrong thing to say, and I try,
I just kind of like backtracked.

Speaker 4 (04:01):
A little bit. But I think that.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
Made him even more uncomfortable.

Speaker 4 (04:05):
Okay, well, we'll see we figure it out for you.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Okay, Well, play a song, come back, and then call
him and see if he'll tell us why he is
ghosting you and maybe get you another date.

Speaker 4 (04:13):
Okay, all right, thank you, get your first day follow
up next.

Speaker 2 (04:16):
Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,
if you're just joining us, Ava is on the phone
and she's getting ghosted by Justin. So we're about to
call him and see if he'll tell us why he's
ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But before
we do that, Ava, why do you catch everybody up
on your situation?

Speaker 1 (04:29):
So basically, I'm a nanny, which means I lived with
my employer, and my employer actually kind of set me
up with this guy Justin, who's like really fun and
kind of amazing, and I thought our first date went
really well.

Speaker 4 (04:42):
You know, we played some sports, we went to a bar.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
He actually showed me have stars really intimate, and I
may have accidentally while we were talking about my boss
to set us up, I may have actually said that
I thought my boss was really hot. And yeah, then
after that he stopped reaching out to me, and I
actually made the effort to reach out to him and
all he says to me would have a good day,

(05:05):
and I've never heard anything after that.

Speaker 4 (05:07):
Okay, are you ready for us to call him? Yes? Please?
Here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Justin. Please.

Speaker 3 (05:25):
This is Justin. Who's this?

Speaker 1 (05:27):
Hi?

Speaker 4 (05:27):
Justin? How are you? My name is Jewbele and I
host a radio show. It's called the Jebel Show. Hi, Justin,
the show's here too. My name's Nina, Hi, and I'm Victoria.
How are you? I'm good?

Speaker 3 (05:37):
Good? What do you guys?

Speaker 4 (05:38):
What do you guys need?

Speaker 2 (05:39):
We got an email about you from somebody, and so
we need to call you.

Speaker 4 (05:43):
Okay. We do a segment on our show. It's called
the first Aid follow Up.

Speaker 2 (05:47):
What that is is if you go out on a
date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them,
that person can have us email you and ask why
you're ghosting them.

Speaker 3 (05:55):
Okay, all right, that sounds interesting. Do I know this person?

Speaker 2 (06:00):
I'm assuming Yeah, you went out on a date with
them and now you're not talking to them.

Speaker 4 (06:04):
Do you have any idea that would be?

Speaker 3 (06:08):
My goodness? Ava?

Speaker 2 (06:11):
Maybe yes, it is a good can emailed us tell
us about your date and is wondering why you're not
calling her back.

Speaker 3 (06:21):
I mean, she was awesome. We had an incredible time,
but you know, just a couple of red flags are
starting to pop up. Like we went out on a date.
I took her to play some pickle ball and then
we went to a bar afterwards. And when we got
to the bar, I mean, I don't know if she
maybe doesn't go out a whole lot or you know,

(06:41):
she you know, was just blowing off some steam. But
I mean she was like really crazy. I mean I'm
talking like, you know, shot after shot and dancing with
almost everybody in the bar and grinding like even like
kind of grinding when the bartender was kind of like
walking by, bringing like some uses by like almost kind
of like grinding against him, and just super flirtatious. Don't

(07:06):
get me wrong, she was cool with me the whole
time too. It wasn't like she was just blowing me off,
but it was seemed like she hadn't been out in
like years or something. It was just a weird vibe
and it was just like super you know, I don't
know her that well and h so it just it
was kind of shocking, you know, because you know, as
the day progressed, especially as the drinks kept flowing, she

(07:28):
kept getting a little more crazier and crazier, and we
had a blast. I mean when we went back, we
went back to my place afterwards, and uh, you know,
you know, everything was great, and it was, but it
was just I was like, man, this is like this
on our first time out. You know, what's it going
to be like? You know, what was going out for
a few months, So just I just got, like I said,

(07:49):
red flags were just popping up a little bit, and
so just kind of becoming a little concerned.

Speaker 4 (07:54):
So she was that wasted, huh.

Speaker 3 (07:56):
I mean, she wasn't like falling over like drunk, but
I mean she was definitely pretty boisterous and like I said,
super flirtacious, and you know that may be her personality.
And again she was super cool. It wasn't like she
was ignoring me or something, but she definitely wasn't ignoring
anybody in.

Speaker 4 (08:13):
The whole place that night.

Speaker 2 (08:15):
Well, thank you for telling us, man, I appreciate it. Also,
I'll let you know that Ava is actually on the
phone and has been listening and wants to talk to you.

Speaker 1 (08:23):
Oh my Goshny justin Ava here, Hey, Hey, Well what's
up her are you well, you know, honestly, I'm really
embarrassed by this whole situation, and I'm I'm actually extremely sorry.
I guess I just didn't realize I was coming across
that way.

Speaker 3 (08:44):
I mean, you know, I love having a good time,
and I love getting crazy and blown off steam because
we all need to do that. But it was I mean,
you were like, you know, grinding up against the bartender.
You were like, I felt like you were flirting with
everybody in the place that night, and uh, you know,
I was just kind of it was kind of shocking
to see from from my point of view, you know.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
Are you I was grinding on the bar number like.
I don't even remember that, honestly.

Speaker 3 (09:13):
You know, you remember the dance floor. It was back
by where they get the new glasses.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
I don't remember the dance.

Speaker 3 (09:19):
Floor, Oh oh my goodness, that night. You sure remember
the dance floors. Put it that way, as did about
everybody else in the place that was dancing with you
that night, because you pretty much danced with anybody that
was down to dance with you that night. You were
you were ready.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Fun. I don't remember any of that, and honestly, I
guess I don't even really remember how much I drank
that night.

Speaker 3 (09:46):
Is this like a normal like when you go out?
I mean, do you get that hammered like every single
time you go out? You know?

Speaker 1 (09:53):
Just then? Honestly, I haven't really been out like that
so long, and I must have just not even realiz
I was really tense up and just kind of went
crazy and oh my god, I can't believe you actually
remember me grinding up on just the bartender and doing
shots like on and off. You know, I'm really normally

(10:14):
not like that. Justin I may have just been like
really nervous again, like it's just been so long since
I've been out and I've you know, even dated that.

Speaker 4 (10:23):
I definitely was nervous that night.

Speaker 1 (10:25):
I guess maybe I just tried to compensate, you know,
by you know, just having a little to drink and
maybe letting loose and you know, reflecting back on that,
that was probably not best person of action for me.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
Well, I mean, don't get me wrong, I had a
great time too, you know, and my whole thing was
I was just worried, like, you know, Wellams, the next
time I go out or we go to another club
where we're go to a friend's party. I mean, is
it like every time I bring when there's alcohol around?
Is this going to be like a big issue? And
I just, you know, that's the kind of thing I
worry about, you know, moving forward, if we you know,

(10:59):
if we end up, you know, continuing this relationship all right.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
I actually really understand exactly where you're coming from. But
I just, in full honesty, that's not the behavior that
I do all the time. I am a better person
than that. I hold myself to a higher standard. So
it's just like, I really guess, just thinking back on
that night, I don't even recognize myself and more importantly,

(11:23):
I don't recognize or remember half the things I did.

Speaker 4 (11:26):
Well justin would you like to go on another date
with Ava? Then we'll pay for it?

Speaker 3 (11:31):
Yeah, I mean I had such a great time, and
I really do like you a lot. And again, I
just just trying to look, you know, a few months
down the line, if we start, especially when I start
bringing around family and posive I'm friends and possibly even family.
And you know, if you said this is kind of
a one off type incident, I mean, I'll take your
word for it, And I mean I don't think i'd

(11:53):
be down with God again if you're into it.

Speaker 1 (11:57):
I mean I would really love to, you know, have
a second date, and more importantly, I cannot wait to
party and grind up against your mom.

Speaker 4 (12:06):
Oh my godness you Will's first date follow up
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