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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Elliott is on the phone today for a first date
follow up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Zoe Elliott.
Before we get into why you think you're getting ghosted
and stuff, how long has it been since you heard
from Zoe?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Uh, it's coveral weeks.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
And in that time, how how many times did you
try to reach out to her?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Only really twice?
Speaker 5 (00:26):
You know, I did the follow up after a data
followed up the next day and then you're back, and.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
Then I waited. Sometime later in the week.
Speaker 6 (00:34):
I texted her one more time and it was like, hey,
you know, it's checking in or something.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I forgot what I said and then I left it.
Speaker 5 (00:40):
You know, I know more times you tax the last
chance you have ever seen that person again.
Speaker 7 (00:45):
Kind of tell us about your date with Zoe.
Speaker 6 (00:48):
Yeah, so we were set up between mutual friends and
we I've always wanted to go indoor skydiving.
Speaker 5 (00:57):
Well I'm actually I've always want to go outdoors sakai diving,
but I thought I start within.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
She thought it sounded.
Speaker 6 (01:02):
Fun, and we did it, and uh, it turns out
she was actually really nervous about heights, so she may
have it may have been a reluctant yes that I
couldn't read through text, so we didn't do much of it.
Then we just went to a restaurant and had good conversation.
I thought we clicked and uh, and then I dropped
her off to her house, you know, no intimacy and UH,
(01:24):
haven't heard back.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
How did she handle the skydiving part, even though like
she wasn't a huge fan? Was she freaking out? Did
she do it anyway? Was she cheering you on?
Speaker 6 (01:33):
No, she she was freaking out, But I thought it
was like a fun freaking out, like you know, like
you nervous before doing something. But then I think, as
as we did as I you know, I learned she
wasn't into it at all, and I didn't intend to
make her do something she didn't want to do it,
you know, so I misread it.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I guess you think that that wouldn't be something that
would be a deal breaker, though necessarily I don't know, Nina.
Would it be a deal breaker for you if a
guy took you indoor skydiving and then you found out
you absolutely hated the experience.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
I want to say yes off the bat. However, it
reminds me of the time where I don't do bridge jumping.
I don't do any of that kind of stuff. I
get scared. So there was a guy that I was with,
we were all on vacation in Mexico, and he's like,
come on, just do it because I never would have
done it otherwise. But I did it because he made
me do it, and I was so thankful. Really yeah, okay,
so it ended up being a good thing because he
(02:23):
made me face my fears. So you know, it could
be a good thing.
Speaker 8 (02:28):
I should also add that I'm that I'm kind of
hoping that that's the reason, because I forgot to mention
him also divorced, and that definitely came up during our
dinner conversation, and you know, that could potentially be a reason.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
You were set up through friends, So she didn't know
you were divorced before the date.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
I don't know knew before and but we talked about
it curing dinner.
Speaker 4 (02:51):
It's a lot for a person to handle, I think,
but if you communicate all of those things really well,
then it's you can you know, you can digest it.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
I mean if you don't mind me asking, since it
started in like three weeks, is there any like reason
you really really want to get a hold of her
and out like it's.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Been a hot minute. You're You're not wrong, No, you're not.
Speaker 7 (03:10):
That's a good question, Victoria.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
Yeah, I guess I've been in my shell since the divorced,
and so this is like my first coming out of
shell moment, and so you're probably right.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
I probably shouldn't be so focused on it, but I am.
Speaker 4 (03:24):
But also the upside, even if you are focused on it,
whether you end up dating her again, at least you'll
know what the situation and issue was as you continue
to move forward post divorce life. Right, Sure, that's true
all positive spin guys.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, because getting back to the dating world after a
divorce has to be difficult.
Speaker 3 (03:40):
Well yeah, I mean I've been, I've been, you know.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
I haven't done it or even really suit it, and
so yeah, I was nervous about this.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
The pony's been in the stable for a long time,
and the pony is just learning to get out and
run again.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
And just wants to run wid I mean all the
other part of it too. I will say, for her
to find out that the pony needs to run wild.
It's like, well, maybe she wants to put a pony
in a stable, and so if she's meeting a wild horse, yeah,
I rather have a tame one. What the hell are
you talking about?
Speaker 7 (04:11):
A a little loss?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
How are you talking about Sky?
Speaker 8 (04:18):
I mean, I guess there's something of its, Like we
didn't go skyliving indoors?
Speaker 7 (04:23):
All right, Elliott, a big pony. We're gonna do.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
We're gonna play a song, come back and then call
her and see if we can figure it out for
you and maybe get you another date if you still
want one up to hear why okay, alrighty, all right,
we'll play a song, come back and get your first
date follow up next. I'm personally excited to watch the
pony run. Watch Elliott, who's on the phone right now
(04:48):
for a first date follow up, get out of the
stable and let his the hair whip through his mane
and as he runs down an open field, saying if
he can get another date with Zoe, who's ghostinging, Elliott
just refresher, what is a memory of your situation before
we give our call?
Speaker 6 (05:02):
Yeah, so we're friends of friends, so we were introduced
that way, And I thought it would be fun to
go into our skydiving.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Turns out she was really nervous about it and didn't
like it.
Speaker 6 (05:12):
So part of me is like, maybe that's why she's
ghost to me, or it's the fact that I'm divorced.
But we had a really nice dinner together afterward and
I haven't heard since.
Speaker 9 (05:21):
All.
Speaker 7 (05:21):
Right, here we go.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
I'm a dollar phone number right now, and we'll see
if we can figure it out for you. Hello, I
may speak to Zoe please.
Speaker 9 (05:40):
Yeah, hey, Zoe.
Speaker 7 (05:42):
How are you? My name is jewbl from a radio
show called The Jewbil Show.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
Im I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7 (05:47):
I'm also on the show.
Speaker 9 (05:49):
So many people here.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Yeah, there's three of us on the phone right now,
and we're calling you because one of our listeners actually
sent us an email about you.
Speaker 7 (05:56):
So we need to ask you a question. If that's okay?
Speaker 9 (05:58):
Oh no, I'm it. Should I be nervous?
Speaker 7 (06:01):
I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
We're on the phone because one because we do a
segment called the First Date follow Up, where if somebody
goes on a date and gets ghosted, they can email
us to get the other person on the phone and
ask why they are ghosting them. We got an email
about you from I like to call him a stallion.
I don't know why, but a stallion named Elliott.
Speaker 9 (06:20):
Oh. Elliott.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Oh, I thought when you were talking about the first date,
saying it it was probably Elliott.
Speaker 9 (06:28):
Oh okay, yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
So he says it's been a few weeks since he
talked to him, and he wants to know, why do
you mind telling us? I?
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Yeah, sure, it's weird. I actually had a really good
time on the date with Elliott. I mean sort of
like I don't know if he told you, but he
took me indoor skuydiving, which I was not a fan of.
I'm just afraid of heights and anyway, but he did it,
and like I tried and it was.
Speaker 9 (06:55):
No but I watched him and anyway, it was fine.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
And then we went to dinner and we had fun.
Speaker 9 (07:03):
I don't know why I'm not.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Getting back to him. I think maybe there's a little
piece of me that is concerned about him being divorced.
I haven't been married before, and I don't know. I
just feel like, if he's coming out of a divorce,
is he gonna want to be like just dating around?
Speaker 9 (07:23):
How curious does he want to be? I don't know.
I guess that just kind of concerns me a little.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
What do you want, Zoe, Well.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I'm looking for a life's partner, like I want to
be with someone.
Speaker 9 (07:38):
I want to find my person.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:40):
Yeah, it's just.
Speaker 1 (07:41):
Hard to know, like he's been there, done that, and
is he gonna want to do it again. We had
a good conversation about it, but like I just can't
help but think that if somebody's been through it once
and then divorced, they just may not want to do
that again.
Speaker 9 (07:55):
Like they may be a little gunshy about it.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
Or I think that's a fair concern, you know, being
a little gunshy about it, and especially depending on how
recently he got out of the relationships. It's kind of
interesting that this is new territory, especially right now. I
don't know if it's post pandemic that everybody in the
waters is freshly divorced. So you ask yourself, you know,
what does that mean for a person who's never been
married to be dating somebody in that space, And I
(08:18):
mean honesty and asking him what's going on. But I
think you're right, Zoe, And a little bit of a
hesitation because I don't think he knows what he wants.
In my experience, they generally don't know what they want,
so it's kind of harder for someone who does to
maneuver that type of relationship.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
It'd be an interesting situation of being I'm married, but
if I wasn't, if we ended up getting a divorced
or whatever, and I got back to the dating world,
my head would think right now that I would probably
be like, I'm never going down that road again, right,
But maybe I would. So I would also be very confused.
I would be a confused little stallion like elliet is.
(08:56):
He was stabled up for a long time.
Speaker 7 (08:57):
Zoe.
Speaker 9 (08:58):
You know, I know.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
Now he's out there running around the field and has
no idea what he's doing.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
It's like, is it worth roping him when you know
he needs to be wild?
Speaker 7 (09:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Right?
Speaker 4 (09:08):
Is it hurt?
Speaker 9 (09:09):
Let me tell you mine? Yeah? And I don't.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I don't want to like waste a bunch of my
time and potentially get really attached to someone.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Well, thank you for telling us why you're ghosting him.
I mean, I wonder where he says that. Do you
do you ever want to find out where Elliot d
is at? With everything I do?
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I actually really do and like I guess like I
kind of I feel like I want to apologize to him,
because ghosting someone is rude, and like I feel like
that's not me.
Speaker 9 (09:38):
But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
I feel kind of bad about it because he really
is awesome, like he's a cool guy.
Speaker 9 (09:44):
And yeah, yeah, I do want to know.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
Okay, cool, that's tandy because he's actually on the phone
and has been listening this whole time and wants to
talk to you.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Hello, Hi, Elliott. How's it going.
Speaker 9 (10:02):
Well?
Speaker 6 (10:03):
Good?
Speaker 9 (10:05):
I'm sorry, I feel bad.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Oh, don't feel bad. I get it if it's weird.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
It's weird for me being divorced, and I never wanted
to be divorced, but that also means I, you know,
I am. I didn't get divorced because I don't like marriage.
I got divorced because and it worked between me and
the other person. So you know, I'm not looking to
graze many pastures.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
That sounds that sounds pretty bad.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
I love the analogy, Ellie. I feel like I need
to apologize to you too, because I was speculating on
how you may be feeling at this point. So I
don't want to put words into your mouth. I want
to let you explain yourself honestly.
Speaker 9 (10:47):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
No, So it's like, I don't want to be dating
very long.
Speaker 5 (10:51):
It's the first date I find the person I want
to spend the rest of my life with. Then that's
then that's bullied for me and the other person. It's like,
uh so, no, I'm not looking to date. I'm looking
to find the right person. And I thought we clicked,
so that's why I kind of went down this route.
Speaker 9 (11:08):
Oh that's awesome. I thought we clicked too. That's great,
a whole lot.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Of clicking going. I know, Zoe, would you like to
go on another date with Elliott? We'll pay for it?
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Oh my gosh, even better.
Speaker 10 (11:21):
Yes, yes, congratulations Elliott. All right, getting out of the
stable again. Elliott's a happy stallion. I love it.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Congratulations you guys so much fun.
Speaker 9 (11:42):
Right, Oh, thank you guys.
Speaker 7 (11:47):
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