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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Jared is on the phone today for a first day
follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Tess.
So in a few minutes we'll call her see if
she'll tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get him
another date. But first, Jared, how long has it been
since you talked to tests?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
About a week?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Have you ever tried to reach out to her a
few times?
Speaker 5 (00:23):
Yeah, she hasn't gotten back to me at all. You know,
we both have like the script red scripts off, so
I have no clue if she's reading my.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Text or not.
Speaker 6 (00:30):
Well, tell us about the date.
Speaker 5 (00:33):
Well, I mean, honestly, I thought it went really well.
We went to this really fancy, you know, like fixed
menu experience kind of places. I really wanted to impress her.
And the food was great, you know, it was fancy,
but not like stuffy, you know, it was it was
kind of chill, laid back.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
I mean, I thought we had a great time.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Okay, So what made you feel like it was a
great time? Is laughing as you get a little cuddly.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
You know, it was really I think the connection that
we had as people. Like I felt like after getting
to talk to her a little bit more that I
saw like a flash of somebody that I could build
a future where someone I could respect, because she takes
her like life, her romantic life, her career like all
(01:25):
very seriously. And we're both kind of not into like
hookup culture, you know, like there's nothing made. Those people
want to have fun, but we're both looking for something deeper.
You know, we don't want to just date randomly, like
we're looking for a real connection and like marriage.
Speaker 6 (01:40):
You know, Oh you talked about all that on the
first date.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
Yeah, it was really it was a pretty long time.
We just you know, it's a lot of courses, and
on top of that, the conversation was just so good.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
You know, who.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Initiated the conversation about looking for marriage and all that
kind of.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Stuff I tested.
Speaker 5 (01:59):
You know, she was really like, I'm very much not
looking to just date without like she's looking to light
very deliberately, you know, not like oh, there's just a guy,
let me go see if he's cute. It's kind of like, no,
I want somebody I can really.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
Build a life with.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
And you responded to that well, I'm just wondering if
maybe how he responded could be part of the reason
why she that's true.
Speaker 6 (02:22):
Yeah, Like, did you bust out a ring and ask
her to marry you right there?
Speaker 3 (02:25):
No?
Speaker 5 (02:26):
No, I held back a little bit. You know, I'm
not going to be like, oh, this is it, but
I did. I did get like, yeah, this is what
I'm looking for too, So I was excited.
Speaker 4 (02:33):
Did something else happen? Did you have food in your teeth?
Speaker 5 (02:37):
I hope, Well, really I did feel a little bit underdressed,
I will say that, but I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
I don't think she'd be bothered by that.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Somehow. I also wonder if maybe the restaurant was a
little bit too fancy, a little bit too like here's
your next course. You know, I'm wondering if it's too
nice and maybe too many like here's our dish with
the special sauce, and this is how the chef intends
for you to eat it, you know, like it's kind
of like very showy, very experienced kind of thing.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
And I don't know, some people weren't into that.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Did she seem like she wasn't into it?
Speaker 5 (03:17):
I thought she was, but you know, sometimes like it's
hard to read people, you know, are.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Just thinking if there was any point in your rounds
of dinner that she started to get a little awkward,
or did you notice anything changed.
Speaker 5 (03:32):
I didn't really, I thought, because by the end of it,
you know, we had a very nice hug. Like you said,
we're both kind of not into like moving too quickly
hook up culture, so it wasn't like anything too much.
But we had a very nice dinner, very nice hug.
I mean, I do wonder I've gained some weight, and
I'm not talking about like bustle weight, so I do
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wonder if that might be a problem. I really hope not,
because that would be a little bit I was dating
if that.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Was the case.
Speaker 6 (04:01):
Do you remember the last thing that she said to you.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
Yeah, she said, I had a great time.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
All right, Well we'll try to figure it out. We'll
play a song come Back, and then call her and
see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you, and
maybe get you another day if you still want one.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Okay, Okay, sounds good.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
All right, we'll play song come Back, get your first
day follow up next if you're just joining us.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Jared is on the phone for a first day follow
up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Tess.
We're about to call her and ask her if she'll
tell us why she's ghosting him and then maybe get
him another date. But first, Jared, why don't you refresh
everybody's memory about your date with tests?
Speaker 5 (04:48):
So we went to a very nice restaurant, one of
those experience kind of based six menu, fancy places. We're
both looking for the same thing, no hook ups, like
real connection, real relationship, ultimately leading to like something serious.
And then we laughed amicably, and then all of a sudden,
(05:09):
I'm not hearing for her.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
For like a week.
Speaker 6 (05:11):
All right, well we'll see if we can figure out. Man,
you're ready for us to call her?
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Yeah, okay, here we go.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
Hello, Hi, man, speak to the test please. My name
is Jebil. This is a radio show. It's called The
Jewel Show.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
I'm Mena.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
Also on The Jewel Show.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 6 (05:38):
We're calling you today.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
I don't know if you listen to the show or not,
but we do a segment on the show it's called
the first Day follow Up. What that is is if
you go out on a date with somebody and then
you ghost them, they can email us to get you
on the phone and ask why you ghosted them. Oh,
so you are currently ghosting somebody. I am you are okay?
(06:00):
His name Jared, Yes, his name is Jared. That would
be who he emailed us.
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Oh good.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
He said that he had a great time with you
and he doesn't know why he's been ghosted. So we're
on the phone right now to ask you if you'll
tell us.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Yeah, sure, why not? Jared? Uh was so sweet.
Speaker 7 (06:25):
He took me to this like very he knows that
I'm a foodie, and he knows that I really want it,
like when I go out, I like to have like
an experience that that's like a huge plus for me.
And so he found this like really cool restaurant and
I like, I loved it. I love the restaurant. And
he was so kind and our conversation was great. We
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really like we got like into the nitty gritty about
like everything like marriage, what we want out of life.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
And with that.
Speaker 7 (06:54):
Conversation also comes like the conversation about careers. And Jared
told me that he is getting like pretty antsy with
what his job is right now, and he was like
debating a career change and like I I'm a huge
fan of somebody doing like what like means the world
to them, even if that means starting over. And the
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only really, the only thing was is when I asked
him what that like next job was going to be,
his answer was just like pretty off putting to me.
He wanted to become a truck driver and see the
country and like get out from the man and behind
the computer and stuff. And I think that is so
(07:41):
cool that he wants to, you know, leave his job
and pursue something that he love the enthusiasm, But I
just don't want to be married to a truck driver
that I'm never going to see. And if I learned
that now, then I just thought I would spare.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
A You're gusting because he wants to be a truck driver.
Speaker 7 (08:02):
I'm ghosting because no, I'm not because he wants to
be a truck driver, but because that is a profession
where I'm never going to see my husband and I
want somebody's president in my life, somebody I can keep
going to those restaurants with.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
How come if you're going that far like on a
first date, Like, why wouldn't you just tell him?
Speaker 7 (08:21):
I didn't want him to think I was being superficial
about the truck driver thing. So if I'm being honest,
like I just because it's not about that. It's just
about not being able to see the person that I like,
hopefully will grow to love someday. And so for me,
I was like, it's just the first date, you know,
(08:42):
like you just don't know how to say things sometimes,
And I just didn't want them to think it was
about I didn't want to discourage him for being like
following his dreams.
Speaker 6 (08:50):
Well, thank you for being honest with us. I appreciate that.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
And I will also be honest with you and let
you know that Jared is actually on the phone right now.
He's been listening this whole time and wants to talk
to you.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
I said, oh, hidered, Tess, I'm not even a trucker yet.
Speaker 7 (09:07):
Yeah, and I and I hear you, and I just
I guess because we got so you know, deep in
the weeds about everything and the nitty gritty that I
was taking everything you were saying like pretty seriously, Like
you know, you're talking about marriage and this and that.
So it seems like pretty definitive that like you had
a plan to like leave your job and like go
be a trucker.
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Oh no, I mean I was really just talking about options.
That was kind of like the most you know, go
see the country, kind of dreamy kind of talk, but
like there are other options that I'm willing to go through,
you know that that doesn't have to be that one,
And what other options are thinking about maybe getting into
something deeper than than what I'm doing now as a programmer,
(09:49):
And I'm trying.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
I'm struggling, guys, what are.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
We changing dreams after the first day?
Speaker 5 (09:54):
Guys?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
I mean I understand wanting to be you know, flexible
and here out whoever your partners is and what their
concerns are. But after one date, I mean, if you
want to be a truck driver, Jared, I mean, there'll
be a truck driving a truck driver own it.
Speaker 5 (10:09):
Yeah, I mean I wouldn't mind doing something like acting.
I mean that would be fun.
Speaker 4 (10:13):
That's so cool.
Speaker 6 (10:15):
Sounds like we got a free spirit here.
Speaker 5 (10:18):
You know, just something that isn't so tied down to
an office, so tied down to like a computer. You know,
that's kind of the idea more than anything.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
Okay, so you just said okay to that. Is that
like that changing your mind? Yeah?
Speaker 7 (10:35):
I mean what I meant was like when I said okay,
was that I appreciate that thought, and I just want
to make sure that this isn't We've only been one date,
and I just like, don't want you to be changing
your dreams for me if it potentially doesn't work out
like that's that is a lot of pressure. So I
(10:57):
I don't want to make you change, you know, your
free spirit. I think that's a wonderful part about you,
especially since it's only been on the first date.
Speaker 5 (11:07):
That's true, but you know, bringing the consideration up, I mean,
I think a lot of people. I think most people
are not going to be wanting to settle down with
somebody who's just not there most of the time. So
it's something to think about. You know.
Speaker 3 (11:22):
That was just my opinion.
Speaker 7 (11:23):
You don't know that, Like you might find somebody that
is compatible for you, that's cool with that, and then
you both get what you want.
Speaker 5 (11:31):
Yeah, I mean, maybe it's possible, you know, find somebody
that wants to live in a truck with me most
of the year, But I don't know. I just you
never really know. I mean, there's a lot of different
jobs out there. Tests but like I do know we
made a connection that night, and I really want you
in my life.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Sounds like he's in it for the long haul. Would
you like to go on another date with Jared? Will
pay for it?
Speaker 6 (12:00):
You know what?
Speaker 3 (12:01):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (12:01):
I will go on to say, Okay, oh dude, awesome,
Maybe we can go camping.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
I was going to say just a truck stop.
Speaker 8 (12:13):
Ye, Like yeah, like a camping after dinner or before,
like what's the vibe, you know, after dinner and then
we get used to being in a small space like
a like a semicap.
Speaker 2 (12:23):
Okay, there you go. Well, thank you you guys. Congratulations
you got a second date?
Speaker 7 (12:32):
You Wiles.
Speaker 6 (12:33):
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