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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Kelsey is on the phone today for our First Date
follow up, and she's getting ghosted by Nate. So in
a few minutes we'll call him and see if he'll
tell us why he is ghosting her and maybe get
her a second date. But first, Kelsey, how long has
it been since you heard from Nate.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Hey, it's been about a week.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Okay, okay, not too long. No, So in that time, though,
how many times have you tried to hit him up?
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (00:27):
I have texted twice.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
Okay, that's not bad. No, it's not too bad.
Speaker 6 (00:32):
You get no response. It was fun, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 5 (00:37):
What did you say to him in the last text
you sent?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Well, the last text I sent. I mean this kind
of relates to like, you know, what happened on the date.
So it was out of the blue. But I complimented
he made me a breakfast sandwich, So I like told
him that I was thinking about how good it was.
Speaker 6 (00:54):
That sounds amazing.
Speaker 5 (00:56):
Well that sounds like this does that mean not great?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (01:00):
I did, Okay, tell us about it.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Okay. So it was like a little bit different than
a lot of other dates I've been on. We met
at a bar when I was out with some friends
of mine celebrating, and we just like kind of were
in the corner chatting a lot, and we just like
really clicked. There was instant chemistry, and you know, I
was I was focusing on my friends that night. I
wasn't really looking for anything, but I just couldn't stop
talking to this guy. So after some drinks, we ended
(01:26):
up going back to his place and yeah, you know,
I ate a breakfast sandwich. So you know what happened.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
For you?
Speaker 3 (01:36):
Yeah, I truly thought it was just going to be
a one night stand and like that was fine. But
then in the morning, when I got up to leave,
he grabbed my hand and he asked me to stay.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Oh yeah, I know, so, yeah, that's weird that you're
getting ghosted.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Then thank you, I know, he said. It was like,
you know, I know this is kind of backwards, but
could we have a breakfast date right now in my house?
And he handed me right, he handed me this like
t shirt of his and told me to freshen up
and get ready and he would make breakfast. And I
(02:16):
mean it literally felt like I was in a rom
com It was great. Yeah. So I walked into the kitchen.
He had like coffee and juice. He was making me
that breakfast sandwich. He wasn't wearing a shirt, he was
just wearing shorts, and it was literally, I know, it
was like I was like looking into my future. It
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was so romantic, and I was just like melking.
Speaker 5 (02:43):
Oh my gosh, I'd be blowing his phone up too, Bro.
Speaker 6 (02:45):
Where did you go?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Right?
Speaker 5 (02:49):
How long did you stay there?
Speaker 3 (02:50):
Well, we spent the whole day together, like breakfast, went
to sex and bed and we were watching movies and
then it turned into having dinner together. Yeah, it really
felt like we'd known each forever.
Speaker 5 (03:01):
It's like a full twenty four hours lie. Yeah, yes.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Is there anything you can think of that would be
a reason that he's ghosting it?
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I really I really cracking my brain because I feel crazy,
but everything seemed perfect. I truly can't figure it out.
I mean, the only thing that I could maybe think
of is I don't know if he thought I overstayed
my welcome, Like after breakfast, he didn't say that he
wanted me to stay, but it really felt like he did.
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And the more I thought about it, I started to
wonder if maybe he was just being nice. I mean,
I feel like if he wanted to leave, he could
have been like, oh, I gotta go run errands, like
who's nice seeing you?
Speaker 5 (03:40):
That is always I never know I go to tell
people to leave. Definitely, I just go.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
I got stuff to do. Yes, you get hang out
if you want. Most of the time they say no.
One time they said yes exactly. That backfired.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Don't say that again again. Did he give you that option?
Did he say you could say if you want anything
like that?
Speaker 3 (04:10):
No, he just like has on offering other things we
could do, oh, you know for chatting, and yeah, we're
watching a movie. And then he said to you with
like popcorn, and just like one thing kept leading to another.
But maybe I just read it. I have to leave
before I know that's situation.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
All right, Well we'll figure it out for you.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
We'll play a song, come back, and then call him
and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you
and maybe get you a second date.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Okay, okay, thank you, all right, we'll get.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
Your first day follow up next.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Right in the middle of today's first day follow up,
And if you're just joining us, Kelsey is on the
phone and she's getting ghosted by Nate. So we're about
to call him and see if he'll tell us why
he's ghostinger. But first, Kelsey, just break down your date
for us real quick, one more time.
Speaker 6 (05:01):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
So, I had like a casual run in with a
guy at a barrow with my friend. We spent the
night together. One thing led to another, and I was
gonna leave in the morning. Then he offered to make
me breakfast and maybe this beautiful breakfast, and we ended
up spending like almost twenty four hours together and having
this incredible day. And now I've texted him twice and
he has not texted me back. It has been a
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full week.
Speaker 5 (05:25):
Okay, so weird.
Speaker 6 (05:26):
Yeah, yeah it is. Are you ready for us to
call him?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (05:30):
Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, speak to Nate. Please.
This is in Nate. How are you? This is the
Jubil Show. It's a radio show.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Hi Nate. I'm Nina.
Speaker 6 (05:49):
Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubil. How are you?
Speaker 3 (05:53):
Hello? Okay, how are you good?
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Good? Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I think I have heard of you guys.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Yeah, Oh all right, cool, Well, guess what Nate, somebody emailed.
Speaker 6 (06:04):
Us about you.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
We do a segment on our show and it's called
the First Day follow Up. So that's where if you
go on on a date with somebody and then you
ghost them, that person can email us to give you
a call and ask why you're ghosting them. So somebody
that you're ghosting email.
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Us, got it?
Speaker 7 (06:22):
Yeah, I think I have an idea who that might be. Okay,
who do you think it is?
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Is it Kelsey by chance?
Speaker 6 (06:31):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
It is Kelsey. She told us all about your date.
It sounded awesome.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Oh my gosh, by the way breakfast and everything.
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Yeah, it was kind of an awesome day date when
breakfast date?
Speaker 6 (06:45):
Yeah, tell us why you're ghosting her?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Yeah? I kind of look. Kelsey's awesome. She really is.
I wasn't taking anything.
Speaker 7 (06:54):
She's fine, beautiful, really smart, easy to talk to. But
the thing is that, I mean kind of going through
a whole bunch of stuff lately.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
So yeah, oh I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Okay, if you don't mind sharing, like what kind of stuff?
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Yeah, that's okay.
Speaker 7 (07:12):
So I lost my job recently and I'm having to
make plans to move back in with my parents to
save money. Okay, so, yeah, that's kind of going on
right now, and I feel like a giant loser. So yeah,
I basically didn't think I was in a position to
date someone like her with the financial mess that I'm
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in right now.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Okay, So you didn't ghost her because you didn't like her.
You ghosted her because.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
You like her.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Yeah, I guess, Yeah, definitely, I like her a lot.
Speaker 7 (07:44):
I don't know, it's just a weird conversation, Like I
don't know how to really broach that subject. Hey, nice
to meet you. I got fired and I have to
go sleep in my childhood bedroom again.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yeah, like the way you said that was perfect.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
I've been there, honestly, But sometimes you have to give
people an opportunity to show you who they are, you know.
I mean, I know that it's kind of uncomfortable, especially
since you just met her, But it sounds like you
guys had an amazing time and connection. I just feel like,
you know, a conversation could have or could be worth
it for you.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
You're probably right.
Speaker 7 (08:16):
Everything's just kind of happening all at once, so it's
a lot.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
It's a little heavy, that's all. It just feels heavy.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Well, the conversation could happen because she's actually on the
phone and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Okay, all right, Hello, Hi, you're ghosting me because you
lost your job, Like you didn't think I could handle that.
Speaker 7 (08:37):
I it's not that I don't think you can handle it.
It's it's more just I don't want to drag you
into my problems right now. I'm you know, we just met.
Speaker 3 (08:44):
I'm I'm not some delicate flower, Nate. I'm the kind
of woman who stands up for her guy and like
helps him get back on his seat. You should have
told me. That's really sweet of you to say that.
Speaker 7 (08:57):
And I don't even know if I need outside help yet.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
See, I'm still kind.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
Of like figuring it all out. Like I said, it
just happened. Then.
Speaker 3 (09:05):
I know I'm a catch. I still like myself. It's
not like that. But I yeah, I didn't think you'd
want to date me.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
You know, you like nice things, you deserve nice things.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Fine, then you'll give me all of that when you're
back on your feet.
Speaker 7 (09:17):
I guess. Okay, Well, yeah, I just don't want to
feel pressured like while I'm trying to get stuff together.
I just need a genuine reset right now. So as
long as you know that's what's.
Speaker 5 (09:27):
Going on, that's fair.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
Yeah, I'll meet you where you are.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Kelsey, you're okay with this situation?
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Yeah, yeah, he's a human being. Life happens, for sure.
Speaker 5 (09:39):
But do you think that puts pressure on a new
relationship in the beginning?
Speaker 3 (09:43):
I guess so. But I think also, if you know
this went anywhere and it is early, it would make
us really strong together to have gone through this so
early on good point. Call me a hopeless romantic, but
that's how I feel about it.
Speaker 5 (09:58):
Nate. You think your mom would like Kelsey?
Speaker 3 (10:01):
Yeah, I definitely think so.
Speaker 7 (10:03):
I mean, everything she's saying is incredibly sweet and understanding.
So I didn't know you would take it like that.
To be honest with you, that's incredibly sweet.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
Well, I feel like you underestimated me a little bit.
I guess I did. I think I did well.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
Nate, would you like to go on another date with Kelsey?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
We'll pay for it probably off to.
Speaker 5 (10:31):
Everybody. You'll get back on your feet.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
That was that was really funny.
Speaker 7 (10:36):
Yeah, yeah, I do want to go on a second date.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
Let's just try to take it slow, though.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
I don't want to feel like I have to fix
everything you know right away.
Speaker 3 (10:45):
But yeah, thank you.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Congratulations Kelsey you got another date, and Nate, congratulations to
you too.
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Thank you guys. I'm excited to see you. Yeah, me too.
Speaker 7 (10:56):
But just know that from now on, if we do stuff,
it has to be at your place. Is my mom
will get pretty mad.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
So yeah, we can do that.
Speaker 5 (11:08):
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