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Speaker 1 (00:00):
First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
online at advocates dot com.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Lauren is on the phone today for our first Day
follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Sammy.
So in a few minutes we'll call him in SEEFA,
tells why is ghosting her, and maybe get her another date.
But first, Lauren, how long has it been since you
heard from Sammy?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Oh it's been like a week or two. Now.
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Have you reached out to him in that time?
Speaker 3 (00:26):
Oh? Yeah, I definitely have, although I don't think he
knows that I have. I'll probably have to explain that
to you a little bit. Have a weird situation, okay,
but I can't believe I'm saying. It's that the date
was actually like amazing, and it's so rare that I
meet anyone letters, you know, IRL or online where it's
like especially online to say, because you know, we'll text
(00:49):
and like I think that there could be a possibility
that going somewhere and then like I don't know, we
meet up and it's just not what I expected. But
in this case, the text chemistry absolutely translated to real life.
We spent like several hours together wasn't just at one spot.
We were like kind of hopping all around one venue
to the next, and believe it or not, even I
(01:09):
got to know some of his friends and they seem
awesome as well. And the night ended up at his place,
which I don't expect. But no, yeah, I know, you
know talk in the radio, so something's happened at our
you know, PG thirteen rated R. So I stayed the
night there and then we decided to meet up for
(01:29):
date number two, which was just casual but so much fun,
like downtown after work, you know, not my neighborhood where
I live, but it was just a great time.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Did you go back with him after date number two? Too?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Well? I texted him and just got no response, like
I didn't know where he was, so sitting there like what.
And then after fifteen minutes, I did something that like
I never want to do, like the phone call like
hey where are you? That sort of thing awkward.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
So wait, wait, wait, I'm sorry he disappeared in the
middle of your date.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
No, I got there and he was nowhere to be found.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
Got it?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Yeah again, I really think I like this guy, So
I'm like normally, after fifteen minutes, I would just believe, like, Okay,
you're not going to waste my time. I don't even
know you, but I'm like, let me give a chance.
Did you never know? Like what could have happened?
Speaker 5 (02:22):
Right?
Speaker 3 (02:22):
So I call and I missed. My calls are doing
like the same thing every single time. It would like
ring twice and then I'll go straight to voicemail. I
talked this up to like, okay, he's in a bad
service area, that sort of thing, but it happened, I
want to say, like four times in a row. So
at that point I just was like, Okay, I'm gonna
go ahead and google, like how do I know if
(02:43):
someone's blocked me? Because I never could understand the answer
to this, But it's actually turns out it's really easy
to do that. Apparently, like you could just make your
number anonymous, yeah, to block people.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
To find out if you were blocked, or to be
blocked to be blocked.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Okay, Like this was a lesson for me because like
apparently if it rings more than twice before the voice
that that means you're blocked?
Speaker 4 (03:07):
It does or does that mean you're getting sent to voicemail?
Speaker 3 (03:10):
It's blocked?
Speaker 5 (03:11):
So I mean, okay, either way it's not okay.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
So I was like, all right, well, I wow, this
sucks right, And I just went back to my car
and I was smoking there, like I couldn't even bring
myself to drive home. I was still bummed out.
Speaker 4 (03:25):
Oh that's really enough, smer. I would be frustrated about that,
especially if you think the date went so well that's yeah, yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:32):
You just want to know why. Also, you're like.
Speaker 4 (03:33):
We did you do something though, Like if you think
back to that first date, is there any thing that
could have happened that would cause the blocking?
Speaker 3 (03:41):
No, And I've asked myself that now, like up and down,
and I'm for me and I thought it was mutual,
like we have this insane chemistry that's super rare. So
that's why I'm so disappointed. I can't come up with
any reason why, especially after like you know, seeing each
other more to once. But he would go to me
like why wouldn't you just.
Speaker 5 (03:59):
Say, Okay, well we'll try to figure out for you.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Play a song, come back, and then call him and
see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting you. Okay, okay,
thank you, plays song, come back and get your first
day follow up.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
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Speaker 2 (04:18):
If you're just joining us for today's first day follow up.
Lauren is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by
a dude named Sammy. So in a second, we're gonna
call him seefa, tell us why he's ghosting her, and
maybe get her another date if she still wants one.
But before we do that, Lauren, why don't you catch
us up on your situation?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Yeah? Well, basically, I had like two really nice dates
with this guy, and I went for date number three
and he was m I A. And he has not
talked to me whatsoever. And I don't understand why I'm
being ghosted.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
And you think you might be blocked even.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
Yeah, blocked me? Why I didn't take him for being
a coward. So that's why I'm so compute.
Speaker 5 (04:55):
All right? You ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Ah, that's what it's all for being.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
Yeah, okay, here we go. Hello him. I speaking to Sammy? Please?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Uh yeah, this is them, Sammy, what's up? This is Jewbel.
My name is Jubel. I host the radio show. It's
called the Jubil Show.
Speaker 4 (05:20):
How's it going Sammy, the whole show's here. I'm Nina, Hi,
and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 3 (05:24):
Oh Hi, Hi?
Speaker 5 (05:25):
All right, you ever listened to the show?
Speaker 3 (05:28):
Uh?
Speaker 6 (05:28):
Yeah, I mean I've ever heard you guys.
Speaker 5 (05:30):
On Well have you ever heard of First Day follow
Up before?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Uh?
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I have.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
I'm starting to get nervous here, But.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
Don't be nervous because we're calling you because somebody did
send us an email about you, So maybe you'd be nervous.
Speaker 5 (05:42):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
But it's a segment where if you're ghosting somebody, they
can email us to get you on the phone and
ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an email
about you from somebody.
Speaker 6 (05:50):
Okay, I think I probably know who you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
You want to try to take a guess at the name,
I'm the lawn. Yes, Sammy, you're correct one, absolutely nothing.
But do you mind telling us why you're ghosting her?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Oh? Man? All right? Look, we we texted for a while.
It was great. We meet for the date. Chemistry is there,
she's really cool, she's hot.
Speaker 6 (06:17):
Everything was good, and then at some point the conversation
turns around to like, you know, relationship stuff. You know,
we're just talking about like relationship things like, you know,
we are you ever gonna have kids? Are you ever
gonna get well, I don't know whatever, you know, just
stuff like about relationship, okay, And at one point I
asked her what her definition of cheating is.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
If a guy goes to a strip club, is that cheating?
That's sort of thing, you know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (06:39):
Yeah, And let's just say that her perspective is pretty strict.
She said even watching adult movies was cheating. That to
me is like pretty.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
Streme and nobody's gonna take that from you.
Speaker 6 (06:53):
So you're saying, it's not like I watched it all
the time, but it is a part of my life
and it is okay that I enjoyed. It just feels
like that to me is not cheating. You know, that's
just like entertainment.
Speaker 4 (07:04):
So did you have that conversation with her and like
express your concern with her line that she drew in
regards to adult film.
Speaker 6 (07:12):
Oh, I mean I just kind of got awkward and
it kind of gave me the egg, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
And it's just gave you an Okay, that's that's new.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Yeah, I mean I.
Speaker 6 (07:21):
Don't want to be a cheater. Like if we got together,
like I'd be cheating on her all the time. You know,
It's like she can feel however she wants to feel,
and that's totally fine. But I just kind of realized,
like maybe this wasn't like a long term thing, and
I maybe I should have said something I didn't. I mean,
this happened in like the first forty five minutes of
the date, and it was like four hours long, and
(07:44):
like you know, you know, she spent the night and
it was great, you know, that was fun. But the
whole time I was just kind of this is in
the back of my mind, and I just I mean,
what do you say to that? Do you say, like,
wait a minute, I gotta watch this don't movie.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
I feel like I would want to get to the
bottom of it and kind of understand why that was
such a hard line for somebody. Yeah, because I think
we asked those questions in the beginning of a date,
whether it's about the adult film or just like do
you want to get married? But like to understand where
the person comes from, and sometimes that's sometimes that sparks
a conversation that helps the other person see where you're
coming from, and you can change your mind a little
bit she might have been into it if she was like,
(08:19):
it's not cheating if you watch it with me.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
No.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
Can I just say something right now, It is absolutely
textbook cheating, like no matter who we've watching it with.
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Oh Sammy, wait a minute, Lauren, Wait, Lauren's here.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Yes, that's Lauren. She's on the phone listening and wants
to talk to you.
Speaker 3 (08:34):
Oh man, oh man. Yeah. And I came here to
get answered. This was not one I was expecting to
get of all the reasons that could be. But you know,
like I have sort of I'm wondering, like why he
was so like animated during sect And I'm like, maybe
he was mimicking a performance like he's had Funny's experience
watching these on tutorials. If you will, you see, it
(08:58):
can be a good thing. And you know, while we're
putting everything out on the table right now, I just
want to ask something like, you know, we went on
two dates, so there was a little bit of time
in between, you know, date one and date two. So
what were you doing during that time? Were you spending
your time like prepping, you know, watching all these videos cheating?
You know, what were you doing? Well, yeah, I watched
(09:19):
some videos in between. That's the mole people do. Okay,
So the gist of it is you were cheating on me.
We weren't experienceless, we'd gone on a date. What are
you talking about? You know, this is cheating again types
of cheating. It should just be between two people. It's
it's to me, it's no different than cheating, swinging, watching
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for it's all the same group, it all together and
hearing had like thinking that you're amazing, But it turns
out I's been blinded by something because you could not
even stay faithful to me for two days.
Speaker 6 (09:50):
Well, I mean, look, it wasn't like I was watching
videos of girls that looked like you. I was watching
videos of like other types of matter what they look like, Lauren.
We went on two dates. We it's not like we
were engaged. Like, this is wild to me.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Really, you're forgetting in those four Actually it was six
hours that we spent together, not four like you said.
I guess you're forgetting half the things you said to
me during that date. But this is cool, it's fine.
Speaker 6 (10:18):
I didn't make commitments. Then I'm am I in single
white female right now? What's going on?
Speaker 5 (10:24):
Is that another video? Kind of yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:29):
About a crazy girl. I'm scared.
Speaker 5 (10:31):
I don't know, this is wild, man.
Speaker 3 (10:33):
I really don't think you would be acting pretty nor
you'd be pretty crazy if you just found out you
got cheated on too, Okay, buddy, if.
Speaker 6 (10:40):
You came to me and said, hey, I was watching
a bunch of porn this week, I'd be like, hell, yeah,
look I didn't cheat it on you.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
We weren't together, we went on two days. This is
not okay. You can come up with an excuse a
verse you try to, like, you know, flop it all
over and whatever you want to say, but like, you're
cheater and I do not ever want to see you again.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Well, I haven't asked yet, Sammy. Would you like to
go on another day with Lauren? Will pay for it? Uh?
Speaker 6 (11:07):
No, I would like to log into my internet and
watch some art films now, thank you very much.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Oh okay. I think that's really just proved my point
that I've been talking about with my friends, like every
single guy out there is a cheater in some way,
shape or form.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
I don't know if that's a good way to put.
Speaker 6 (11:24):
It, but sure, all right, Lauren, you know I nobody
asked you to talk.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
Juble's first dayful,