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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Sean is on the phone today for our first Date
follow up and he's getting ghosted by Megan. So we're
gonna see if we can help him out, see if
we can figure out why he's getting ghosted and maybe
get him another date. Sean, before we get into your
day and stuff, so, how long has it been since
you heard from Meghan?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Oh, It's it's been a while, maybe like a week,
week and a half ago.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Oh wow?
Speaker 2 (00:25):
And how many times have you tried to reach out
to her in that time?
Speaker 3 (00:29):
It's been hard for make keep track, Like just just
like a handful of times. I've been trying to come
off to best for every now and then I'm just wondering, like,
did something go wrong? Here?
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Was it? Me?
Speaker 2 (00:38):
So? Why don't we talk about the date? How did
that go?
Speaker 3 (00:41):
As well? We met on Tinder for some context, I've
been pretty busy in the last year. I'm trying to
finish a master's in literature.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
Right, That's so awesome.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Megan that's her name. She's a student at another college
journalism because I'm I'm a professor out of school for journalism.
So it was like, you know, a great start, like
a lot of for us to talk about. And I
took her to a nice place, like just a nice
you know steakhouse. Wasn't too much, but like you know,
it was it was like some nice atmosphere, right, and
(01:13):
I felt like she was enjoying herself. There wasn't really
a love in the conversation. We had a good flow
going and I never really felt like it was weird
or I didn't feel socially awkward. It's been a while
since I dated, so I as a really really good sign.
She's smart. She gives like really nice perspectives on like
(01:35):
you know, what we do and it but but like
it's cool because we didn't just talk shops, like we
got a little bit into our dating histories and you
know it was it was like really balanced, like we
didn't overshare too much, but it but it's felt like
a really promising start of intimacy. I guess feel like
a better terms. She thanked me a lot, and you
(01:57):
know she also like was out of the dating pool
for a while and just enjoyed the company. You know,
we were there for a while, like the servers were
trying to like.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Move us out, So did you guys? Kiss?
Speaker 3 (02:10):
She kissed me when I walked her to her car,
which like she she initiated that, which I feel like,
if you've had fun, if you want to see somebody again,
that's something that like you go out of your way
to do.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
Yeah, you'd hope.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
So yeah, she said that she'd call me after she
had class. Yeah. Now I'm just confused.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
All signs points to her liking you a lot, Like,
is there anything that you can think of that would
be a reason she's ghosting you?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
I can't imagine. I mean, we we had like just
enough in common. I don't know if maybe like that
was too familiar. But I don't know. Maybe I'm just overthinking.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
You're definitely overthinking it. But you can't think of any
specific instance that happened on the date that might have
been awkward at all.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
No, I can't think of anything. I mean, maybe we
were like at a restaurant too long. I don't know if
maybe I came across as like bad at time management.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I doubt that, but maybe or something.
Speaker 3 (03:03):
But that's that's the most I can think of.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Maybe think back to the conversation, were there any awkward pauses.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I mean, if I really, if I really had to scrange,
like maybe I came off like I didn't know what
I was doing at my again, like maybe maybe I
stuttered when I ordered the food or something, and like
maybe I just seemed too nervous or like because I
don't think I came off too strong, now that I
think about it, I was reaching for my drink and
(03:32):
I tooked a false taker by accident he did and
it or like I almost bran the saw. I know
I didn't absolutely do it, which you know, probably for
the better, but like we laughed about it a little
bit because you know, it's ridiculous. But I don't know
(03:55):
if maybe that came across as like I was too
too like clumsy or or something like that.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Or maybe you're a weirdo would like to drink salt,
you know, maybe some people are into.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
That, yeah, fall drinking guy.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
We'll try to figure it out for you. Plas come
back and then call her and see if she'll tell
us why she's a ghosting you and maybe get you
another date. Okay, cool, thank you, plaus On, come back
and get your first AFE follow up.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
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Speaker 2 (04:29):
Right in the middle of your first date follow up
and if you're just joining us, Sean is on the
phone and we're about to call Megan, who's been ghosting him,
and see if she'll tell us why and maybe get
him another date if he still wants one. But before
we do that, Sean, why don't you catch everybody up
on your date with Megan.
Speaker 3 (04:43):
Megan and I met on tender. We both work for
schools and journalism. Took her to a night plate. Seemed
like it was fun. We had a lot to talk about.
Wasn't that awkward? We were both out of the dating
game for a while, so we had that in common.
Other than almost drinking assault shaker, I felt like it
went pretty smooth, and she even kissed me and said
(05:05):
that she'd called me, that she'd called me.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
After And it's been like a week and a half
any for nothing?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
Yeah, a week and a halfpened. Not like I've touched
a few times, but like nothing. I haven't gotten anything
for her.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Well, are you ready to call her?
Speaker 3 (05:19):
Yeah? All right, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Megan. Please.
This is she Meghan. How are you? My name is
Jewbel hosts the radio show and it's called The Jebel Show. Hi.
(05:41):
Imna also here on the show.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
How are you?
Speaker 4 (05:46):
I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I'm really good. Thank you for asking. It's a pleasure
to speak with you, Meghan, it really is. We're so
excited you answered.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
I'm sure the pleasure is also in mine.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
So we do a segment on the on our show.
It's called the first Day follow Up. That's where if
you go out with someone on a date and then
you end up ghosting them, that person can email us
to get you on the phone and ask why you're
ghosting if you're the person who's ghosting, and so that
would be who you are right now, Megan, in this
whole thing, Are you ghosting somebody Megan that you're aware of?
Speaker 4 (06:18):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
No, we got an email about you from Sean. Oh
is that a good response? O?
Speaker 3 (06:27):
No.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
He says he really liked you, and it's been like
a week and a half and you haven't hit him up.
So is there a reason?
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Oh my gosh, I feel so bad now. I feel
like really guilty for not calling him back.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
I mean, honestly, I had.
Speaker 4 (06:42):
A really good time with him, and like we had
a lot in common. Like he's teaching journalism and finishing
out grad school for journalism, so I feel like I
learned a lot, like he's just talking to him and
kind of like I feel like cinently have some good
ideas for how to start off my career when I
graduate the year and stuff. But which is like so
(07:03):
embarrassing honestly, And I feel really bad because I generally
like Sean, but like basically i've been in school. I'm
just like very busy with school right now, and I
don't really have a lot of time to work, and
so money is really tight for me. And I don't know,
I guess it's you know that saying like a girl's
got to eat.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
Oh, I feel like I know where this is going.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
It's yeah, I feel like such a bad person. But
I've sort of been occasionally using dates to like go
get a nice meal. I knew it because I'm like
living on ramen and rice and beans and stuff right now.
So I have occasionally, like not often, but like a
(07:49):
handful of times have just like said yes to the date.
So I could go eat somewhere with them.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Honestly, I wouldn't even feel bad about it, because I
know a lot of people that have done this, and
some of them don't even have theseuse that they're in school.
They're just lazy and broke.
Speaker 5 (08:03):
So how come you have responded though, if you actually
did like him?
Speaker 4 (08:07):
I don't know. I think I just felt guilty because
it's like the energy I kind of went into the
date with was just like was sort of for the
meal ticket. But then I did have a good time,
but I didn't like I don't know, I felt like
I became invested like part way through the date, but
at the beginning I didn't start out that way because
I didn't really my intensions were different.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
I think I just have this a glintering guilt around it,
and so it's I just feel really bad and it's
sort of like I feel ashamed.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
So I didn't Well, you're also a good person. It
sounds like minus the you know, you just got a
survive thing.
Speaker 4 (08:40):
You know, how like people remind you of bad things
be done, you don't really think you're reminded of it,
Like it's kind of like it's coming that.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
I guess it's not that bad, is it.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
No? Maybe not.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
I mean, I guess nobody likes to be ghosted, But
don't beat yourself up about it.
Speaker 5 (08:54):
Why would you kiss him though, if, like you knew
that you weren't going to go out on a second
date with him.
Speaker 4 (08:59):
I think it sort of felt like, you know, thank
you for me, But I can see where it would
be like misleading. But also he has a good kisser.
I'm not mad about it.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
Yeah, okay, well, Megan, thank you for being honest. That
good kisser named Sean is on the phone, by the way,
He's been listening the whole time, wants to talk to you.
Speaker 4 (09:28):
Hi, Meghan, Hi, oh man, Okay, you must think I'm awful. Hi,
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
I don't know. I just think this hultonous.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Really was up, sir? How you're going to respond to that?
But that's a good one.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Yeah, yeah, I mean, for look, I'm a writer. I
overthink things. There is just like a bunch of stories
I made up in my head. But I just did
not think this was what was happening. You know, this
is a lot I don't. I don't know how to feel.
(10:06):
I mean, look, I feel used. I'm gonna be honest,
I feel used. But at the same time, I get
where you're coming from this.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
This is just because Sean you were used, but he
got a free kiss though.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
I mean, you're not wrong. I definitely did. I do
feel like so I'm I am really sorry, and yeah,
I think it's like totally justified to feel that way.
Speaker 3 (10:40):
I just feel like we actually connected. Do you feel
that way, Like was it more than just a meal
that somebody paid for you? Or I mean, at this
point what you had to lose? Like what was what's
what happened?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Megan? Would you like to go out with Sean Agan
on another date? We'll pay for it?
Speaker 4 (10:59):
Man, Okay, Well, if I say yes, would you be
able because I really I did actually have a really
nice time, and I agree, I think we had a
lot to talk about. But like, would this knowledge now
of our first date kind of linger for you or
would you?
Speaker 3 (11:16):
I mean, it's a running conversation for later, isn't it.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I mean, yes, it would be a very interesting story
if we did end up continuing to see each other.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
You know, you did say I was a good kisser.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
And you know that's the truth, because I've said it
before I knew you were on the line.
Speaker 3 (11:42):
You're right, I mean, would you like to go out
again with me? And would you kiss me again?
Speaker 4 (11:53):
You know, I think I would love a redemption arc
for myself, so.
Speaker 3 (11:59):
Yeah, I would, I would.
Speaker 4 (12:00):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Congratulations Sean, you got another date?
Speaker 3 (12:04):
Yay? Okay, Yeah, thanks for being so cool.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
And Megan, congratulations got another meal?
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Perfect. I'm going to cancel my other date.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
It's been so busy.
Speaker 5 (12:18):
Megan, bring back those breadsticks.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
I'm kidding. I'm kidding, but yeah, maybe we'll get a
dot tag
Speaker 1 (12:26):
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