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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Trea is on the phone today for a first date
follow up and she's getting ghosted from a date she
went on with a woman named Carolina. So we're going
to see if we can help figure it out for
and maybe get another date if she still wants one.
In a second, but first, Dray, how long has it
been since you heard from Krolina.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
It's been about a week now that I hadn't heard
from her, Okay, And yeah, so I'm just really confused
because we well, for like, we met at work and
we've kind of been flirting, like back and forth, you know,
just kind of office romance. I guess, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (00:47):
But she's really pretty.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
She has a great sense of humor, and we've actually
been having coffee like in the office break room and
stuff and kind of getting to know each other. So
it was we kind of knew each other before going
into a date, and so I finally got up the
nerve to ask her out, and I wanted I've been
wanting to play pickleball because I've heard there's so much
(01:10):
hype around it, and I thought it would be fun.
Speaker 5 (01:12):
Is that what you did for your date?
Speaker 6 (01:14):
Yeah, we went.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
We played We played a couple of rounds of pickleball,
and then we had some drinks after words at bar.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Okay, And I mean, as far as I'm concerned, the
date was great. Like the conversation was wonderful.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Like I said, she has a great personality, she's funny,
she has wonderful sense of humor. And we even shared
a little kiss. Oh but yeah, the next day, I
was excited to like get to work and see her,
and she wasn't there. So I texted her because I
was like, oh, no, you know, I just wanted to
(01:50):
make sure she was okay. Maybe she was sick. I
wanted to check in on her, and she didn't answer
me back, and so she hasn't been at work all week.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
She get fired, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:03):
I hadn't heard anything, so I don't think so. But
I've been reaching out to her, and I'm actually like
kind of worried because like I don't know if something
happened or she's really sick or if I mean maybe I.
Speaker 4 (02:16):
Just don't know. I thought we had a great date.
I think, you know. Now I'm just worried I did something.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Do they have like a policy about dating other coworkers
at your office?
Speaker 4 (02:27):
Only if you're like.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
You can't, like supervisors can't date hourly employees and things
like that.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
But if you're both hourly, then you can, then you
can date.
Speaker 5 (02:37):
Look, it's a free for all.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
Does she usually show up to work every day?
Speaker 7 (02:48):
Like, I mean, is she the type of person that
just calls out sick randomly sometimes or No?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
She's actually pretty good with attendance, so which is why
I'm so worried that she's missed so much.
Speaker 7 (02:58):
Did anything weird and on the date, Like, was there
a moment where you felt like, I.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Don't know, I mean not on my end, I thought
everything went went great, Like when we parted, we parted
on great terms, and you know, we even said we
were kind of even like, hey see, you see we're
like see around the office, and just kind of made
a little joke.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Out of it.
Speaker 5 (03:19):
But I'd be worried too. Have you asked around about her?
Speaker 3 (03:23):
I asked a couple of people, but nobody really and
everybody just kind of says they haven't heard from her either,
especially a week.
Speaker 5 (03:30):
I feel like it's a good amount of time to
not be in the office, right, Like, do you know
where she lives? You do a drive by or I
don't know. It's an idea.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
I did call her.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
From a block number to see if she would answer,
and she did answer, but I got a little nervous
and just hung up.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Oh no, so you know that she's answering her phone
at least.
Speaker 5 (03:54):
Okay, Well, good, she's alive.
Speaker 3 (03:57):
Yeah, she is alive, So that's good. I guess now
it's or so I'm worried that she's just avoiding me.
Speaker 5 (04:03):
We'll see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
We'll play a song come Back, and then we'll call
her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting
you and maybe get you another date if you still
want one.
Speaker 5 (04:10):
Okay, that's great, thanks guys, all right, we'll play song
come Back, Get your first Date follow up.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
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Speaker 2 (04:22):
Greya is on the phone today for a first date
follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a date she
went on with a coworker named Carolina and doesn't know why.
So we're about to call Carolina and see if she'll
tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get Drea another
date if she still wants one. But first, Drea, why
don't you catch everybody up on your date with Carolina.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
Yeah, Carolyne and I met at work. We've been kind
of floating back and forth, and I finally got the
nerve to ask her out. We went, we played pickleball,
we had drinks, great conversation, and even a little kiss.
Speaker 4 (04:54):
At the end.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
So I'm just wondering why she's not returning my text.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
And she hasn't been to work for a week. Yeah,
that's the alarming.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Yeah, yeah, all right, that's where I'm worried.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Yeah, okaym call her.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Hello.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
Hi, May I speak to Carolina please? Yes, this is Carolina, Carolina,
how are you? My name is Jewbell, and I host
a radio show and it's called The Jewbell Show. Hi, Carolena,
the show's here too. My name is Nina. Hi An,
I'm Victoria. There's three of us on the phone with
you right now.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
Hi, Okay, sorry three?
Speaker 6 (05:35):
Okay, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (05:37):
We do a segment on our show it's called the
first Date follow Up. That's where if you go out
on a day with somebody and end up ghosting them.
That person can email us to get you on the
phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got
an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
That you dated recently. Okay, any idea who would be?
Was it?
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Ja?
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Yes?
Speaker 5 (05:56):
It was. Drea wants to know why you're ghosting her?
Why haven't been to worked?
Speaker 6 (06:01):
Okay, So I'll tell you about that. Okay, cool, I
mean to ask me about it? Okay, yeah, okay, but
you know what, fine, So I'm Gohostandrea. You can tell
her this because you know, as we were leaving our date,
something just didn't really sit right with me. It was
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a comment that she made. She's kind of like, oh,
you know, it's going to be amazing when my ex
years about this, she's going to lose her. And I
just kind of looked at it like, oh, so there's
just some sort of competition. Like to me, that's like,
you know, listen, I'm getting older. I don't want to
be a pawn in anyone's game. So I was hurt
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by that. I thought it was really uncalled for, and
from there on out, I was really uninterested.
Speaker 5 (06:46):
She was saying that going out with you was going
to make her ex angry.
Speaker 6 (06:50):
Yeah, like basically like getting back to her, Like happiness
is the best revenge. Like that's what I took from
it with her saying that. So I ended up. Actually
I haven't been around her because I called out of
works the next day. First and foremost, I did not
want to see Draya. But then it turns out universe
works and mysterious ways, and I really did come down
with something. So I've actually been pretty sick this past
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week or so. But at the same time, like, yeah,
I'm getting better, but I just have no interest in
being used to make someone jealous, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7 (07:20):
Yeah, I'm glad you're feeling about She seems like.
Speaker 6 (07:24):
A cool girl, so I had to protect my heart,
you know. I don't want to set myself up for
something and be disappointed get hurt. So we work together,
which makes it super awkward. I just think it's probably
best if we can just avoid each other at work.
I don't know how I'm going to go about that
once I do return to the office, but I'm to
figure that out.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
You think that she didn't really like you that much,
She just wanted to make her ex jealous.
Speaker 6 (07:49):
Well that's the thing, like I didn't see that coming
that she gave me no sign to that. It was again,
just at the very end of the day she said that.
So that was when I felt let down because I
thought everything went well. I thought we had really good
kind of tree and everything. It's just tough to find.
So yeah, it's at down for sure. But now I
just kept trying to be smart about this whole thing,
you know.
Speaker 7 (08:08):
I mean, I get that protecting yourself is one thing,
but did you ever think about calling her out and
having a conversation about it?
Speaker 6 (08:14):
Maybe? You know, it was just the one date. So
I kind of feel like, I don't know, I don't
hope I'm not being cowardly, but I just kind of
want to let it go. And I really am being
a ghoster here, aren't I? But sometimes like it's better
than to just get into a long drawn out conversation.
So I don't know what she'll say if I mentioned
that comment that she made. I don't know, a little backfire.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Well, let's see, because she's actually on the phone and
she's been listening this whole time, and she wants to
talk to you.
Speaker 4 (08:42):
Oh my god, so Dreya, you're there right, No, yeah, yeah,
I'm here.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Sorry, I just got kind of like I just got
really anxious all of a sudden. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
No, first of all, I am so sorry. It's like,
let me apologize for making that comment.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
Obviously, you don't know a lot about my past and
I didn't. It didn't come from a place of oh,
ha ha, you're going to be how I get back
at my ex and everything like that.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
Actually I had an.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
Amazing time with you, but my ex was kind of
one of those who was kind of abusive and always
made me feel small and like I wasn't good enough
for anybody, and you're just, all of a sudden, this amazing,
beautiful person who showed up, and it was just one
of those things where it was it was more of
like a happy like, oh my god, wait till my
ex sise this because ha ha, I finally like might
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actually be happy for once. And it wasn't to be
petty or to use you as a pawn in a
game or anything like that. It was just more of
like a I'm wow, I finally met somebody like really
nice that I like it and might like me back.
So I'm so sorry for that comment. If it heard you, Okay,
I would say.
Speaker 6 (09:53):
Right now, like I do appreciate the apology for sure,
and you know, I didn't think that's where you'd be
coming from. Really sure if I'm interested, if they gave
us any further. For me, the biggest reason why is
just kind of like the whole X talk. I feel
like this is a lot of talk about your AX
and like I don't even like bringing up like past
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girlfriends or even guys I dated about nothing from the
past like early on, So I feel like this is
a lot coming at me. Does that make sense you
dated guys? Yes, I date people for sure.
Speaker 4 (10:27):
Yeah. Oh yeah, you didn't tell me that, so I
didn't know that.
Speaker 6 (10:32):
So I just thought I'll mention, you know, keeps your
secrets for sure, So you know that's kind of oh,
just a lot.
Speaker 3 (10:42):
Yeah, Well you're getting onto me about like my ex
but you didn't even tell me about your.
Speaker 4 (10:46):
XES, so it's just kind of it's just kind of
odds to me.
Speaker 6 (10:53):
I wasn't really getting onto about your act. I think
for me it was just more about like, oh, that
seemed like some game playing there.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
So yeah, I just I mean, I guess like.
Speaker 3 (11:01):
I kind of like to be upfront about things I
you know, I don't really like to keep things from people,
even though early on in a relationship, you know, because
if you're trying to get to know somebody, you're trying
to get to know somebody.
Speaker 6 (11:12):
Yeah, but like in time for sure. But that is
exactly what I'm trying to say. You just pretty much
stated that there. You know, I just think it takes
time to get to know one to I don't need
to know everything up front.
Speaker 3 (11:23):
I guess I'm just kind of different on that end.
I kind of like, you know, I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
More different Carolina. Would you would you like to go
out with your egg in another date? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6 (11:31):
I think that's just made myself pretty clear here. Again,
I think she seems like a cool girl, but I
think you know she's I'm not the one for her.
You know, it's early on, but I can tell, I
can definitely tell this. We're just not a match.
Speaker 4 (11:43):
But yeah, no, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
I mean, I would feel like to be friends, because
I think you're really cool girls. But I mean I
just I'm not really interested either, because you know, it's
like doing to hide things from me.
Speaker 6 (11:55):
So well, hopefully you know, work friends. We'll leave it
at that.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
Yeah, all right, well see it work, Carolina.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
We have a good first day back after being sick.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
Oh, thank you. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
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