Will Compton's Daughter Has Near Death Experience + Drinking Your Wife's Breast Milk

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, guys, welcome to episode three A for the Dads.
I am Sherman Young. I'm the co host alongside Will Compton,
who's the host of the show. This week. We have
some really crazy stories. I won't spoil it here at
the top, but Will has maybe one of the craziest
stories He's definitely told on for the Dads, but maybe

(00:21):
even in Busting History. Make sure you check that out.
We go through Dad callins again. Guys, six to oh
one the Dads. That is our call in number. You
guys have been crushing the call ins. We've had to
dump our voicemails on our for the Dad's phone already
because you guys are blown up the line. We thank
you for that. You guys have been crushing the comments section.

(00:43):
We're seeing comments all over the place, whether that's socials
rather that is YouTube. A reminder for the credits is
when we play dad content. So if you guys want
to continue to dm us, any gender reveals, funny dad moments,
anything that is fun that you want to share with
us is okay for us to post on socials. Make

(01:04):
sure to send that in. And last, but not least, guys,
huge news. We are moving to a new YouTube channel.
So the episodes right now that you're watching are on
Busting with the Boys. Next week, it's going to be
on before the Dad's YouTube channel. We will be posting
all content for the dads from now on on that

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new channel. We'll make it very easy for you guys.
Will is always making fun of the boomers and I
get it. But boomers can figure it out quick and
we'll make sure we'll hold your hand in the process.
We'll be sharing that link of the new channel for
you guys, but be on the lookout for that. Make
sure you subscribe. We got to bump those numbers up.
As Taylor always says on Busting, unsubscribe, re subscribe. It

(01:46):
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new bus and merch. This is a really fun episode.

(02:07):
It was super long. Hope you guys enjoy. Let's jump
into that episode.

Speaker 2 (02:11):
Welcome to for the Dads. Uh, listen a lot to
break down. I've been in Chicago and New York this
past week. Right now, it is currently as you're watching this,
it's Wednesday, It's Wednesday morning. And again, I know I
said in the intro before the dads, the older generation,
the baby boomers who don't quite have everything figured out electronically,
please make sure you're subscribed to this channel on YouTube,

(02:32):
Bust with the Boys.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
And again we will be kicking off.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
We will have a channel of our own here in
July coming up, so be on the lookout for that.
We will be We'll be teeing it up to you,
laying it up to you as easily as possible to
make the transition, because again I know there are a
lot of older dads that listen. And on that note,
I will say, being in the airport at UH at Loguardia,
there were a couple dads who came up and were
just like, hey, man, love the new show.

Speaker 1 (02:57):
Are you serious?

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Yes, dude, I'm sitting there. You know, I'm whipping around
the little double stroller. Who knows the times they called me?
I know, one gentleman caught me in a spot where
I'm just trying to make to the bathroom and just
try to find are we good? Are we good on audio?
Or I'm just trying to find the bathroom. Take a
little quick, you know quick dad time out. Got one
of the little kiddos with me and he just wanted
to come over. He'say, hey, man, don't want anything. I

(03:20):
just want to tap you up and just say I
love the new show. He was wearing like a dad hat.

Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Oh, really looked like a baby boomer. So that was that.
Fired me up? Yes, dude, fired me up. Fired me up.

Speaker 1 (03:31):
It's like in his sixties. I don't want to put
that on fifties. Yeah, a little just say fifty. He
looked good, he looked he looks good.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
For his age.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
Come on, he looked good for his age. That's exciting.

Speaker 2 (03:41):
Yeah, but right now, I know you guys said, you
guys are listening on Wednesday morning again, get the get
the trash cans out to the curb. We are shooting this.
It is nine thirty on Sunday.

Speaker 3 (03:54):
I landed.

Speaker 2 (03:54):
We had hopes and dreams of shooting this episode at
probably four because we have a big week ahead of us.
We have a lot of interviews that we're doing for
tightening you for busting with the boys. So we needed
to get the four of the Dad's pot. In early
Razy week, I hit the boys up saying, hey, we're
sitting on the tarmac right now. We are delayed a
couple hours, so didn't quite make it in. It's bit hell.
I'll just I'm just gonna kick it off. It's been hell.

(04:17):
Number one. New York is overrated. We had fun, we
made memories, we had fun, but I feel like I
just got back from another military tour just being with
the family. Were we were staying at the Hackston and
we were in like a four hundred square foot hotel
room where there's like no extra space, there's no closets.
Our bags are everywhere. When you have a couple of kiddos,

(04:38):
parents out there know this, you'll know this too, but
you're each kid kind of has a bag of their
own because there's so many things that you have to
pack for a seven month old, There's so many things
you have to pack for the three year old. Things
you have to pack for yourself. Your wife's got every
outfit because she was visiting a friend out there in
New York. So there's dinners, there's you know, she had
stuff for work out there, so she's got a throw

(05:00):
outfits that she had, so we had a lot of luggage.
It's pretty much laid out, utilizing as much space as
possible in this small ass hotel room that was a
prison at times, which we can get into. But it's
been a long week. It's been a long week. It's
been a long weekend. It was fun being at Barstool
HQ last week in Chicago, New York. Had some fun moments.

Speaker 1 (05:21):
Yep, two and O on the Dozen, Yes, two and
O on dozen Trivia.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
We made it to the final four. I'll be out
in Boston this Thursday. That'll be live stream on Barstool's
YouTube channel. But the Booze Ponies are We're coming where
two and oh We're coming.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
I love me some Dana Bears, Yeah, shameless.

Speaker 3 (05:40):
Love some Dana Beers.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Love fidal Berg, love fiddle Berg, love file Berg. If
you haven't checked out Tires, go check out Tire season two.
That's no free shout outs to the boy Shane Gillis.
But fidal Berg made a little appearance on episode six
and crushed it. Crushed it with Vince Vaughan and Gillis. Yeah, yeah, uh,
but a lot of good dad stories. I'm glad you
guys are tuned in with us, and again, love all

(06:02):
the comments.

Speaker 3 (06:02):
That you guys are leaving. I was kind of just
scanning through them.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
I love that you guys were just like, fuck it, dude,
go over an hour if you guys have to, we
don't care. I saw I saw one comment. It's like, hey,
you guys's hopes of going under an hour are gone.

Speaker 3 (06:14):
Sherman.

Speaker 1 (06:15):
He now has a spotlight. I'm the problem.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Yeah, yeah, she's got the spotlight.

Speaker 1 (06:21):
There's no way you two are ever going to go
under an hour.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
But that's a good.

Speaker 1 (06:24):
Thing, not wrong.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah, that's a good thing. But just scanning through these comments,
a Rock eighty six shot out. You really appreciate you
boys for featuring me. Shout out. No free shot out
for the dads will ensure them. You guys are the goats.
Thank you for a solid future dad advice and appreciate
recognition for my wife and I was journey. Big hugs,
tiny kisses. Again, just a little little warning down at
the screen. This is not an expert father show or

(06:48):
just a couple of dads just talking shop.

Speaker 1 (06:50):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.

Speaker 2 (06:51):
Here we go Mark Mark Arnett sixty four to seventy seven.
Pro tip for Sureham dad of a ten year old
girl an eight year old boy. Leave the tag on
all the clothes until the day they put them on,
so when they outgrow it, before they actually wear it,
you can just go swap it out at the store
for the next size up. That is a hell of
a comment. That's actually a lot. I can crack a

(07:12):
cold one too. That's something you can crack a cold
one to. No free shout outs to bud Light and
on the voicemails. Like we'll get into the call in
segments later in this show. But Shirm texted me last
week or he messaged me last week saying the voicemail
thing filled up. We had to take the line off
for a moment. Yeah, because it was like three hundred voicemails,

(07:33):
Yes and yeah, we had to shut it down. Get
them off into a dropbox file so that way you
can reopen up the line. There's already eighty seven more
keep calling in. We're gonna I don't know if we're
ever going to figure out a way to get everybody's
voicemail heard, but we're going to try to integrate maybe
more than just one or two. So if you have
a motherfucked moment, if you have a crack a cold

(07:53):
one too moment, if you have a quote or a
theme or something that leaned on recently, or a lesson
that you've liked, you can share with us if you
just want to vent with us different ways where we
might fit them into our segments, other than just a
hotline moment where we only share one or two. Because
I know there's a lot of great voicemails out there.
We would love to get to all of them. It's
like a It's a great pop problem to have. It

(08:14):
also pained me thinking about all the voicemails coming in
because I'm like, damn, I wish we could feature you.
Wish you could feature all of them.

Speaker 1 (08:21):
When you have that many. Chef, we've highlighted a bunch
is like our intern for this show. But when you
have that many voicemails, this guy's cutting up clips. We
got two other interns just fishing through offloading all of
these voicemails into dropbox. They're listening to the voicemails as
they do that so they can categorize the voicemails. Yeah,

(08:44):
it's truly like Santa's Workshop, and the elves are just
like doing the damn thing.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
You say, elves, But we have one and it's Chef.

Speaker 1 (08:51):
Yeah, we have one. And he's having to also be like, hey,
if you guys could jump in here, because there's two
hundred and seventy of these things cut up, these clips.

Speaker 2 (09:01):
He's on intern he's on intern brain like, hey, I'm
working on the show, working pro maybe possibly for a job.
He's trying to do everything possible to make sure this
thing's right. Chef, we appreciate you here on a Sunday night, unpaid,
here on a Sunday, unpaid, unpaid here on a Sunday night.
Shout out the boys. Chef.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
We did buy him dinner, though, I will say that
we bought them down nice good. We got them dinner.
What was the other thing we're talking, Oh, voicemails. The
streets are saying, and I'll pitch this to you, I'll
pitch this to the viewers. But the streets are saying,
it could be fun every five episodes if we did
a strictly call in episode. That's just an idea. We're

(09:41):
not saying it's gonna be officially a thing. Maybe let
us know in the comments.

Speaker 2 (09:45):
If people if we get a I won't say overwhelming,
but if we get a solid response and people just
put need a call in episode, if they just have
that in all caps, yeah we have enough of them.
I think that is where you start take into account. Hey,
this could be this could be fun.

Speaker 1 (10:02):
I'm talking like fifty of those.

Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, fifty be a great number.

Speaker 1 (10:07):
That's a number where it's like, okay, guaranteed we'll do it.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
Yeah, because again, we want this show to be about
embracing fatherhood, building community, being all about the badass dads
out there just embracing the suck and wanted to be
a part of it.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
And when yes, I had some great if we're going on,
just like people comments all that stuff. How to buddy
from high school who is a girl dad reach out
to me. We talked pretty regularly, but just via text,
sent a really nice text about the show that he
was loving it, but said he sent it around to
a bunch of his dad friends and one of them

(10:44):
hit him back like two hours later said just listen
about episodes.

Speaker 2 (10:49):
He's awesome, which got me. I've had guys being like, hey,
I'm not even a dad. But it fires me up
to be one one day just from listening to the show.
So it's like there are people out there watching and
listening that aren't even in parenthood right now. And one
thing that that's also a great reminder because you said
your boy was sharing it with his dads. Whenever we
do stand up our next whenever we do stand stand

(11:09):
up this channel afore the dads, or whether we have
it on both YouTube and audio, no matter what it is,
for this show to get a little bit more awareness,
this will be. We need the organic growth from the
dads out there sharing it in your group chats, letting
other dads know.

Speaker 1 (11:24):
I saw it.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
As a matter of fact, I don't have the comment
pulled up, but when I was scanning, I saw a wife,
a gal watching and it was like, hey, I've sent
this to all my dad friends. I'm trying to get
everybody on board. She's somebody out there out there watching.
I'm sorry I can't shout you out and know your
name right now, but I saw that comment and that
fired me up. So yes, if you're watching and listening,
share around with your with your with your little dad,

(11:46):
gang with the dad army, with your dad group chats,
because that's that's how we're gonna grow the channel.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
That's how we're gonna get this out there.

Speaker 1 (11:53):
True, Hey, this is my very last The streets are saying, okay,
another rumor that's swirling, and then we can jump into
the episode. I would love for just an empty frame
to sit somewhere on this set for next month. That's
that of the.

Speaker 2 (12:11):
Month and we got to pick one, and we gotta
pick one. That's a lot of pressure. That comes with
a lot of pressure.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
But think about how legendary that will be for that
dad when they get selected in their Dad of the month,
they're up there for a whole month.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
Yeah. The problem you run into is like, there's gonna
be I would assume a lot of dads that'll be
doing whatever. We're like, hey, this is how you get
in the running for Dead of the Month. And now
guy's been doing it month after month and they don't
get in a little bit of resentment builds up, like, boys,
are you not seeing the content that I'm pushing your
guys's way.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
But then to that point, I would say, are you
doing it for the love of the game? Are you
doing it for the trophy?

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Oh? Because yeah, we're There is no trophy in fatherhood.
There is no trophy in fatherhood.

Speaker 1 (12:55):
And I am not a dad, so that that's some
stolen valor saying that, and I do apologize. I'm not
dad yet.

Speaker 2 (13:01):
Hey, by the way, how's how's Jildie being doing.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
She's doing very well, she texted me since the day's nine.
On a Sunday, she texted me a picture of her
belly in our third trimester coming any week now, yeah,
thirty seven weeks and said we're ready for dadas. And
I did not reply to that text. So thoughts and prayers.
She's good though, she's doing great. When does a maternity

(13:24):
leave start for her? Because I know she's in healthcare, Like,
I'm sure she's over the fact of being in the
office or she's probably getting there. Yeah, she is grinding, dude.
The people on her floor are doing a great job
of just kind of surrounding her helping her. But Jill
is just to brag about my wife really quick, very pretty,
very hard working, very determined, and so no matter how

(13:47):
many times they're telling her to sit down, what are
you doing, We're giving you the easiest patient on the
floor that she is moving and grooving, doing her thing,
cannot take no for an answer, So she's kind of
her own worst ending me right now?

Speaker 2 (14:01):
Is she going to work until the time comes?

Speaker 1 (14:04):
I mean truly, she has three more shifts left.

Speaker 2 (14:07):
Her shifts are long too, right.

Speaker 1 (14:08):
Oh yeah, they're like twelve hours, they're like six A
to six P. But really it's like five thirty A
to like, yeah, seven thirty p. Yeah, she's just a dude.
She's a trooper. And it sounds like Charles the same way.
I mean, she's got like multiple businesses. She's doing her
thing as well.

Speaker 2 (14:26):
But I uh, I love how you're trying to deflect
it and goes go a different direction.

Speaker 1 (14:33):
Yeah, that's true. And you have told me I need
to yeah, stay in it, except yeah, take the ball
and yeah yeah except yeah, my wife's a badass.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
Yeah, accept the shout out.

Speaker 1 (14:43):
Man, she's badass.

Speaker 3 (14:44):
Should we get into should we get into? Motherfucked?

Speaker 2 (14:46):
I have I have some stories that I've been holding
on my chest. There's one that I haven't even told
you about that was wild, not this past weekend, but
the weekend before. And I refrained from saying it on
Busting with the Boys because I've like, this is a
great one to live on for the dads.

Speaker 1 (15:03):
That's a big moment, dude. We're getting breaking news on FTV.

Speaker 2 (15:06):
This isn't a positive, This is not a this is
a fun This is a learning experience for all of
the parents out there that just a snap of the finger, dude,
and shit can go sideways quick. And this isn't like
a true motherfucked moment, more of like an internalized like
how did this happen? But I'm sitting so to paint

(15:31):
the scene, It's Saturday afternoon and I'm sitting on the island.
I'm sitting at the island and I'm trying to send
an email. I'm trying to send an email. So I'm
on my iPad and Charles sitting on the couch and
she's playing with Scotty. Sorry, Kitchen island, Kitchen Island. I'm
sitting at the kitchen island, Rue sitting there eating lunch.
We're trying to get her to eat lunch, some chicken

(15:51):
fingers before we have some quiet time and before Scotty
goes down for her nap because we hadn't eaten all
morning or she had ate a little bit. But you know, kids,
they want to snack. They want to do all these
different things, and you're trying to Hey, you're gonna eat
some lunch. You need some real food. So I'm sitting
at the kitchen with Rue. Charo is on the couch
with Scotti, playing with Scotti. I'm sending this email. Rue's

(16:14):
in the middle of eating and I'm telling her, you know,
you gotta eat five bites. I'm saying whatever to her,
but she's trying to talk to Charro and I don't
hear anything. Like again, I'm zoned in on my iPad,
trying to get this email out, and she talks to
Charro about doing this magic trick, and Charle's like, oh,

(16:35):
we can do the magic trick later. And Charles kind
of briefing me on what happened after the fact because
this bizarre moment happens and I kind of just lose
all I kind of lose all senses. Fire departments at
the house. Yes, bro, Rue chokes on a coin. She's
Charo had been Charlo had done this as Charlie knows

(16:58):
this magic trick to where it's either behind your ear
or in your hair, or the coin's like on your
elbow and it looks like you eat it, you eat it. Oh,
but she's done this magic trick before, over and over
in front of room because it entertains Rue. So I
guess Rue found this euro this euro coin.

Speaker 1 (17:18):
It's a big coin, a little bit bigger than a quarter.

Speaker 2 (17:20):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know if it's bigger than a quarter,
but it's up there. Yeah, and Rue apparently finds this coin.
I didn't see the coin. And again, mind you, I'm
thinking she's just eating lunch, and I'm just trying to
get this email off, thinking she's eating, like you know,
we do this all we do this every day, and
so Ru's trying to get her attention Charles like I'll
do it for you later or not right now, I'm

(17:41):
playing with Scotty or something. So I guess Rue in
her mind is like, I'm going to try to do
this magic trick on my own. Who I'm sitting there
on my iPad and I hear like choking, gagging, and
I stop, and I look over at Rue and her
fingers are down her throat and she's like, oh, and buddy,
it's not even registering to me that she's choking at

(18:02):
the moment. I look over at her, and she puts
her fingers in her mouth amp and like gags and
I'm like, what are you doing? Thinking that she's just
like gagging herself, you know what I mean, like just
like being like, oh okay, I found something new. I'm
like choking myself from gagging myself. And I'm like, what
are you doing? And she starts like panicking like uh uh,

(18:23):
and I'm like are you are you choking? And Charl's like,
oh my god, she's choking. She's choking. Charlie like sprints
over to the island. I like, stand up. I'm in like,
what in the fuck is going on? Ruth's choking on
this coin? She's like, are you choking a coin? She's
like yeah, And I get behind Rue and I start
trying to do the heimlik and I'm I'm like, you know,
I'm like got it up under a sternum and I'm

(18:43):
like trying to go like up with it. Charle's like,
are you doing it the right way? I'm like I
think so. When I started like trying to jump with
her to get this coin out, the coin's not coming out, bro, Yes,
it's okay. It's tap being and you've seen.

Speaker 1 (18:54):
Rue throat hurts listening to you tell the story, buddy.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
It was so I'm smiling through it at this moment,
but this was such a fucking panic. She's choking and
Charles like, Charle's like watching it and starts like digging
down her throat. She's like, I got it, I got it,
I got it. No, he tries to get it up
and she's like, I lost it. I lost it. It's
down there and Ruth's panicking. I'm panicking and you know,
we tried. Charli gets on behind her and try to
do the homack. I'm like, what do we do? What

(19:20):
do we do? She's like, she's like, call nine one one,
Call nine one one. I fucking call nine one one.
I'm in a panic. You know. They're taking it slow,
like what's your name, what's your address, what's PROHNE number
in case we need to call you?

Speaker 3 (19:32):
What's happening? I'm like, my three year old is choking.

Speaker 1 (19:34):
She's still currently choking on this coin. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (19:36):
We're trying to get out of her and it's not
coming out.

Speaker 1 (19:38):
And are they coaching you?

Speaker 2 (19:41):
Godly, It's hard to remember because it was such a
moment of like panic and you don't know what's going on,
Charles just jumps into like superhero mode, like yelling all
these coaching directions to do it. I'm thinking, I'm doing
the Heimlit correctly because I took the CPR class back
when I was a lifeguard back in high school. Yeah,
and I'm just talking to I'm talking to whoever nine

(20:04):
one one on the phone and saying what's going on.
They're like, we're sending somebody over to you. As they're
sending somebody over to me. That call lasted three minutes.
Probably around the two minute mark, Charo is down.

Speaker 3 (20:12):
Her throat again.

Speaker 2 (20:13):
She's like, I got it, I got it, and then
pulls it out, gets the coin out. As they're driving
over to the house and I'm like, coins out. She's fine.
She's like is she breathing? And I walk over to
the room, I'm like, hey, you know, I'm asking her
questions and stuff. She seems like she's gonna be okay.
She's just in a panic and she's crying. There's blood
everywhere because Charle probably scraped her throat or scraped something

(20:35):
inside of her mouth. Because there's blood on my there's
blood on my shirt, there's blood on the counter. Yes, bro, Yes,
I've been holding that on me for over a Yes,
And that was one of those moments where it's like
you're internally motherfucking yourself because I was just trying to
do something on the iPad and next thing you know,

(20:55):
she's gagging and choking.

Speaker 3 (20:57):
And it happened. It happened quick, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (21:01):
Yes, if you turn away for one second, you have
food set up, you're trying to get something off on
the iPad and she's gagging herself and the next thing you know,
she's choking on a coin and fire department ambulance comes over,
they're running her vitals, they're doing all this stuff. She
checks out, Fine, she's all good, but she was choking
on a fucking coin. Bro from winning to mimic of

(21:25):
magic trick? Can we.

Speaker 1 (21:32):
Really quick before we jump into this, Can we crack
a cold one to Chario saving today?

Speaker 2 (21:38):
Oh buddy, yeah we can, because Chrall went into superhero mode. Yeah.
I was in it. I was in just panic. Like
I again, I'm like trying to do the Heimlich. I
think I'm doing it right, but nothing, your mind is
going everywhere. That was so long ago. When you do
the CPR class that you don't know if you're doing
it correctly.

Speaker 1 (21:58):
And bro the fact that she had the wherewithal to
just be like, I'm digging this shit out.

Speaker 3 (22:04):
Yeah, yeah, get.

Speaker 2 (22:06):
I'm getting it because I'm seeing it happen and my
eyes are wide open again. I was just like a
kid sitting on the fucking sideline thinking like I don't know,
you're thinking your kid could die right there. Because then
when the fire department everybody comes over and they're kind
of breaking it down. They're like, hey, if by any
chance this were to happen ever again and she goes unconscious,

(22:28):
all you have to do is just hit like the
I think it was like thirty CPR, Yeah, CPR compressions presses,
whatever it is, give her some marriages to keep oxygen
going to her brain. But they're like, if she was unconscious, like,
we would have still been able. We would have still
been able to save her. With it being a coin,
we would have still been able to save her even
if she's unconscious. Yeah, So just to put your mind

(22:49):
at ease, because you're thinking, if they don't get.

Speaker 1 (22:52):
Here before her eyes closed, before her.

Speaker 2 (22:55):
Eyes closed, like she would die. That's what's happening. That's
what I'm thinking of my mind. I'm assuming Charles and
the same exact thing.

Speaker 1 (23:01):
Also, we are not experts and do not take any
Yeah this is not yeah yeah yeah, but while I
asked this question, this is my personal question too.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
Will.

Speaker 1 (23:09):
This is not for the listeners to take in as advice.
Aren't you supposed to do like the two finger the
three finger thing with toddlers and not like the full
hand compression.

Speaker 3 (23:21):
So Chef Jack is saying, yes, take his advice.

Speaker 1 (23:25):
Yeah, you can take no.

Speaker 2 (23:27):
I think with like rue her being three, you would
still go like on on the front. It feels like, uh,
it feels scotty. You'd be flipping her back and forth,
patting on the back and patting on the front. Yeah.
For the compressions, I think, yeah, you do like fingers
or whatever. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah dude, that was so

(23:53):
long ago, but I was trying to I was trying
to like remember, like as I'm just like doing the
hoimelock and everything else.

Speaker 1 (23:58):
But it was ar will Okay. Also that brings that
reminds me and I'm gonna go buy one.

Speaker 3 (24:05):
Go take a CPR class.

Speaker 1 (24:06):
Hey one, go take a CPR class. You can get
them for free. At your local county hospital. Don't quote
me on that, but do I'm almost positive that's a thing.
If Chef Jack can google that, I'm almost positive that's
a thing. Secondly, these choking like kid rescuer things, it's

(24:28):
those little like it's like a mask and you do
the suction is really bad radio, but yeah, you put
it on like it's a mask and it has this
little almost like a ball pumper thing on the bottom.
And I've been seeing videos on the internet that make
me want to go buy that thing tomorrow. I know

(24:49):
you have a kid in the world.

Speaker 3 (24:50):
Yeah, that would be smart to do.

Speaker 1 (24:52):
But oh my god, buddy, it was terrifying. It was
terrifying round of.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
The yeah, yeah, dude. She flew into action, bro, And
I'm sitting there like, how did this happen so quick?
You know what I mean? Because I was the one
like sitting by her. Oh yeah, And again I looked
over like I heard the I heard the choke in
the gag and I look over at her and then

(25:21):
she's looking at me and she like does it again?
And I'm like, what are you doing? And she just
starts kind of panicking, and I'm like, are you all right?
And Charles like, oh my god, she's choking. She's choking.
Sprints over. I'm like, she's choking. She's like she's got
a coin. I'm just thinking a fucking coin. I'm just thinking,
what in the hell is happening again, immediately started doing
the Heimlich Charles like idly standing by, just like watch out.

(25:44):
She's like watch out, move you call.

Speaker 3 (25:46):
Nine one one. She starts fucking trying to dig down.

Speaker 2 (25:48):
Dude. It was.

Speaker 3 (25:49):
It was terrifying. Dude, Thank god I.

Speaker 1 (25:50):
Do have a nurse for a wife.

Speaker 2 (25:53):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (25:55):
Yeah, I'm gonna pop quizzer when I get home and
not tell her this part of the story first. I'd
be like, theoretically, yeah, like Scarlet's cheering on it. You know,
she gets a coin down there. Where are we doing
tess her? Yeah, but hopefully.

Speaker 2 (26:08):
You heimelick until you would Basically what they were kind
of telling us is you would you would heim lick
and try to get it out up until they go unconscious.
When they go unconscious again, you can't like don't panic,
and you sit there and do the compressions. You would
hit thirty compressions, try to blow get auction to their brain.
You're just trying to keep oxygen going until help gets there. Yeah,

(26:29):
because they were there within like within five minutes from
the call. Damn, we were on the phone. She's like,
I got somebody headed your way. And even when I
was like, hey, the coin's out, I think she's all good,
they're already on their way. So whenever they get there,
like they'll choke bottles and make sure everything's clear. And
they were saying, it's it's honestly, it's better, like it's
a good thing that it was that it was a
coin and not food, because food can start breaking down

(26:51):
and actually block her throat or where she was breathing.
Because since root didn't pass out, they were under the
impression that it probably wasn't fully blocking her airways.

Speaker 1 (27:01):
Well, and it's so big it probably got caught up
more like in her.

Speaker 2 (27:05):
Yeah, it was like it was like I'm not sure
it was like up here, and they're like if it
would have got there, like you know, showing her if
it would have got down to here. You know, they
were just kind of talking to her to have conversation
with her. She was just like trum, Yeah, I slept.

(27:26):
I mean, you're you're beating yourself up. Just as a parent,
because you take your eyes off of it for a
minute and something can go sideways like that, and then
you know, Charles was Charle was struggling for a while afterwards,
and you know, I'm like, you know, maybe we don't
teach the magic trick to Scotti.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
Did she laugh?

Speaker 2 (27:49):
She yeah, she knew I was joking, but she's like, yeah,
like you're just not you know, Charle's not thinking she
was gonna do something like that, No, because the last
time I saw charge do that magic trick was a
long time ago, and I guess rue she saw the
coin and it probably just reminded her of the magic trick.

(28:09):
She's like, look, mom, I think like rou was showing her, like,
hey mama, do the matrics. She's like, I'm playing with Scotty.
I'll do the magic trick with here with you in
a little bit. And then she just got a wild
hair and was like, yeah, I'm gonna try this magic trick. Ude.

Speaker 1 (28:20):
Thank god she did that, right. I mean, obviously it
would have been better if it hadn't happened, but thank
god she did it in front of you guys. Thank
god y'all were there.

Speaker 2 (28:30):
Dude.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
Yeah, yeah, no, doubt, no doubt, I very randomly. This
is just a dad tip for people out there. Uh,
we were at a family like easter hunt. Somebody had
a green pool cover. I was young enough to think
that the pool cover was like a putting green because
it kind of looked like AstroTurf or whatever. Walked out

(28:53):
on it and went underneath, uh the pool cover. My
cousin ended up getting help almost drowned. But it was
like one of those things where like everybody's easter hunting,
like Easter egg hunting, and then all of a sudden
they look up and you know, my dad's seeing somebody
trying to fish me out. It's crazy, dude, it can

(29:13):
just happen.

Speaker 3 (29:14):
It happens.

Speaker 2 (29:15):
And were at our We were at a friends a
few weeks ago and we were in the pool in
the backyard and Rue was playing on a couple of
the noodles And can't like fully swim yet. But she
can do like a couple of things, you know what
I mean. She can go underwater, she can swim like
a couple of strokes or something like that, but she
can't handle herself by herself with water. But I'm in
the water with all I'm in the water with her
and our friends' kids. Yeah, and one came outside and

(29:40):
was wearing an outfit and I was complimenting her outfit,
and you know, I'm like playing with Rue, but Rue
wanted to play on this noodle.

Speaker 3 (29:45):
She's like, no, Dad, let go, and.

Speaker 2 (29:47):
So I'm like, let go, and she kind of does
a thing where she like, let's go for a end,
goes underwater and then comes back up on the noodle. Yeah,
we've been we were playing for we were playing for
a long time. There's probably been forty minutes at this point.
And then the other one, the sibling, comes out and
wants to show me his outfit because I'm complimenting his sister. Oh,
well look at this, and I'm like, look over my
Oh that's awesome, buddy, and dude. I turn around and

(30:09):
Srew was like struggling in the water for a moment.

Speaker 3 (30:12):
I pick her.

Speaker 2 (30:12):
I just pick her up. It wasn't like anything close
to her drowning or nothing like that, but just another
subtle reminder that you turn your head for like one
minute and things could be things could be crazy. Nobody
saw either, Like I picked her up and she was
like crying for a second, I'm like, hey, sweetheart, like,
this is why you know you need to use the noodle,
this is why you need to be close to the side,

(30:33):
because she was like, you know, she's like trying to
get she's like trying to do things more for herself.
She's trying to like prove to herself that she can
do more without help and things like that. Yeah, and
uh but yeah, that was just another like just quick
reminder that you can turn your head for a second
and something could just go south. It's scary, dude, It's nuts.

Speaker 1 (30:51):
See what in the world while you were telling that. Uh,
my throat felt terrible the entire time you were telling
that story, and I felt like I had something in
my throat. That was the worst story I've heard in
a while.

Speaker 2 (31:04):
When the first time when Charles said she had it,
I got it.

Speaker 3 (31:07):
I got it.

Speaker 2 (31:07):
I got it. And then she's like, I lost it.
I lost it. What's going on?

Speaker 1 (31:13):
Yeah, thirty minutes, Oh got you?

Speaker 2 (31:14):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (31:15):
Oh yeah, well one second and.

Speaker 2 (31:20):
I lost I lost it. Like in my brain, I'm thinking,
holy fuck, how are we going to get out of this?
Cause again I'm not thinking about like when the fire
they were over at the house, being like, oh, she
would have we would have still got it out and
you guys would have been fine. I'm thinking that was
like a life or death moment getting that out before
the ambulance.

Speaker 3 (31:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (31:40):
Yeah, what, So what's your mother?

Speaker 1 (31:44):
So what's my mother? Well, I'm glad you asked, well,
my motherfucked?

Speaker 2 (31:48):
Is that?

Speaker 1 (31:49):
My wife said? I need to talk with you guys
more about college football and less with her.

Speaker 3 (31:54):
She not, she not, she's not a ball fan.

Speaker 1 (31:57):
She's a ball fan.

Speaker 2 (31:58):
But is she a ball fan?

Speaker 1 (32:01):
But when, apparently, when she's hungry in the morning, when.

Speaker 2 (32:04):
She's third trimester hungry in the morning, and you're bitching
about Baylor, she don't want to hear it.

Speaker 1 (32:10):
When I'm trying to tell her, Hey, here's the deal.
Like a lot of people are kind of sleeping on Baylor.
They could have a really good season, though, Honey. They're
eight and four last year.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
Sweetheart.

Speaker 3 (32:18):
When you look at Baylor's schedule, what do you see?

Speaker 1 (32:21):
And tell me really quick, tell me. Are you more
worried about Auburn? Are you more worried about SMU? And
I get it, SMU is a ACC school, but they
were a playoff team last year.

Speaker 2 (32:30):
Honey, Sherman, get your head out the fucking clouds. We're
about to have a baby here in two weeks, and
you're talking about Baylor football.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
We're going to the game. I already told you we're going.
I would go to the game with you.

Speaker 2 (32:42):
Go talk to your buddies at work.

Speaker 1 (32:44):
No, But she quite literally was like, do you realize
where you work? Because I told her. I was like, honey,
I just like, I like talking about this stuff. She goes, well,
I want to talk about us. I want to talk
about our daughter that's about to be here. Maybe you
can talk about that at work where you guys talk
about sports and stuff. I was like, you know what, God,
motherfucked in that situation. But she's right, I need to

(33:07):
talk about that stuff.

Speaker 2 (33:08):
You know. But is she You're just trying to include her.
I am, here's an interest in my life. She chefs
back to She's.

Speaker 1 (33:16):
Like, sure, yeah, he said.

Speaker 2 (33:21):
Women want there are men to talk more, and when
they want to talk about their interest, that being football,
they're trying to be vulnerable and share something with you.

Speaker 1 (33:28):
This is a moment where I will get going, dude,
like I'm talking, I'm not even I'm probably missing turns
left and right on the way to Velvet Taco where
she wanted to have breakfast. They don't have breakfast tacos.
I didn't complain. I took her to Velvet Taco. And
I'm probably missing turns left and right. I'm talking about Baylor,
and I get it. It's okay. I'm not upset about it,

(33:50):
but uh, it does hurt because when she's talking about
her shows or she's talking about her stuff, I've been listening.

Speaker 2 (33:57):
Yeah, buddy, this is the space, this is the show
to do it all because for you to be as
much of a college football fan or a football fan
in general as I know you to be, and you
just got to the point where you were like you said,
she's right, and it's like, hang on a second. You
gotta love yourself, bro.

Speaker 1 (34:13):
I don't even think I was talking about Baylor. Was
the best part. I don't even know what I was
talking about. But I wasn't even talking about Baylor.

Speaker 2 (34:21):
You're trying to share an interest with your wife.

Speaker 1 (34:22):
Yeah, I was just I was just sharing something along
the lines of I wish I could remember, but I
think I was talking about some SEC team and I
was talking about their schedule and like, yeah, it's kind
of crazy. Game days always usually following Bama, and you know,
I'm going like a million miles an hour, and she's
just like, this is the last thing I want to

(34:43):
talk about right now. I'm like, honey, I get that,
but like you put on.

Speaker 2 (34:48):
Yeah, how many things is she talking about that you
don't want to hear about? Yeah?

Speaker 1 (34:51):
And when you eat it, I eat it. When you
put on the Damilio Show, the Riality TV Fallen Charlie
d'milio and her sister, I sit there, Yeah, for those
forty five minutes, sweetheart.

Speaker 2 (35:04):
I do my best to create space. When you want
to tell me back about this Onyx and Storm book
that you're reading, I'm trying to buy in. It's hard.
But ladies, let me tell you. When your man talks
to you about college football and the upcoming season and
you just tell him, hey, go talk to your boys
about this at work, you're just telling us you don't
matter right now.

Speaker 1 (35:25):
And you know what the worst part is, because she
is a longhorn. I guarantee you if I've been talking
about arch Man now, honey, you know that you know
they're saying this, and that they're saying sarks really only
like a player's coach. If he doesn't have the squad,
he can't really get a team there. He's not a
numbers guy. Yeah, and she would listen and eat that
up all day if I was talking about the Longhorns.

(35:46):
If I wasn't talking about her longhorns, that's pretty selfish. Yeah,
cut that part out, cut that part out. But yeah,
that's my that's my motherfucked it. It doesn't even touch
uh will's I feel like yours is motherfucked crack a
cold one and potentially dad hack. Don't take us, you know,

(36:09):
verbatim on that.

Speaker 2 (36:10):
But yeah, I mean it's all it's all of the
things in one survival kit.

Speaker 1 (36:15):
I'm looking it up at.

Speaker 2 (36:16):
Yeah, they like that. The dad hack again for two
weeks in a row, coming more so from my wife,
jumping action and try to dig that fucking coin out.

Speaker 3 (36:23):
Of their throat.

Speaker 1 (36:24):
Get in there that it doesn't matter.

Speaker 2 (36:26):
Hey, if you see blood.

Speaker 1 (36:27):
You just the eyes closed. It's okay, all right, fine,
department's gonna get there.

Speaker 2 (36:33):
Fine. Oh buddy, Yeah that.

Speaker 1 (36:35):
Was dude, you've had it. That was two weeks.

Speaker 2 (36:39):
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Speaker 2 (38:38):
My crecit cald one this week is going to go
to finding your way back to your teammate. I was
wondering if I would tell this story on this show.
I kind of vented to the boys about it before
the show started. But finding your way back to your
teammate in my in this circumstance, In this situation, it's
my teammate is my wife. We we were in New
York over the weekend. We had a lot of great moments,

(39:01):
but we had a couple of down moments. In one
of those down moments is we were at each other's
throat at like two in the morning on Saturday. I'll
preface this, sweetheart, you were right, you were right.

Speaker 3 (39:14):
I was wrong.

Speaker 1 (39:16):
This sounds like a motherfucked as well.

Speaker 2 (39:18):
Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, but you got to crack a
cold one too, because we made we found our way.
We both apologized to each other.

Speaker 1 (39:24):
There we go.

Speaker 2 (39:26):
But we had a great night on Saturday where we
we got a sitter. We were out in New York.
Charo had a work thing earlier in the week and
then parlayed into visiting a friend, a really good friend
of hers in New York, and we were hanging out
with that couple. They have two little ones of their own,
like eight years old and five years old, so the
five year old was close with Rue. They were great

(39:46):
to Rue. They were great with the kids. But on Saturday,
we've been doing all the family stuff to where you know,
we're all with each other. We're going to dinner, we're
doing breakfast. Hey, let's go to the pool, let's do
this and that. But on Saturday, it was just it
was just the adults. We got a sitter, We went out,
we had dinner. There was a little double date. We
had dinner up on a rooftop somewhere, and then afterwards,
at ten forty five, we went to this speakeasy magic show.

(40:09):
It's a really cool setup. You go in, you kind
of in this waiting area, like inside of this bar.
Guy comes up and grabs you.

Speaker 1 (40:15):
He was like, was there a secret cut?

Speaker 2 (40:18):
Uh? Yeah, but the person who booked it had to
do all the secret codes stuff, gotcha Okay, So he
grabs sham, takes him over. Hey, you guys are going
to the other side. Tell him George sent you go
to the other side. It's the cleaners, to where the
cleaners is closed. And you walk in and you know,
you got the desk sitting up front. You got all
these clothes hanging from like dry cleaning and everything else.

(40:38):
You say, what the code is, Hey, George sent us,
and you take your little coupon. You walk behind. There's
like a door behind all the closes. You're like walking
through the close and everything else. There's a secret little door.
You entered the secret door, and then you're back in
this bar area with a little stage and it was
a magic show. We had a great time at the
magic show, a lot of different magicians. You know, they
have about ten minutes at each table and they get

(40:59):
up and they do different they do different sets, they
do different things.

Speaker 3 (41:03):
It was a great night.

Speaker 2 (41:04):
During that night again double date, we had a sitter
for all four kids at my wife's friend's apartment. So
Ruin Scott Yeah, ru and Scottie are essentially having a
little sleepover at at Susan's. Okay, so they're at Susan's.

(41:25):
They have a little movie night, they watch Frozen, they
go down to sleep. Rue's having a little sleeping bag sleepover.
Scotty's down for the count around seven, seven thirty. She's
the easy one to put down. And Rue and and Uh.
The two friends, the eight year old and the five
year old, they do a little sleepover together in one
of their bedrooms. And throughout that night they're alluding to, hey,

(41:47):
the kids seem like they're having a great time. They
can just stay all night at our house. And Charles's
kind of pushing back, Oh, we can go back and
we can get them, And in my mind bubbling up
is like, hey, if they're offering, and take them up
on this offer, and we could just go back to
our hotel room or four hundred foot square foot hotel room.
We could have the bed to ourselves, we could sleep

(42:08):
and we don't have to worry about the kids in.

Speaker 1 (42:10):
That in that moment, are you doing any hints towards
Jara of kind of like a hey, no.

Speaker 2 (42:16):
I think I nudge her one time, like, hey, it'd
be kind of nice, kind of nice. She's like, hey, sweetheart,
there are kids. I feel you, I feel you, but.

Speaker 1 (42:23):
Would be nice.

Speaker 2 (42:25):
And at this point, it's like one one thirty in
the morning, and I am absolutely beat. Everybody's kinda beat,
and we're finishing out this magic show. And again they're
doubling down, doubling down on. Hey, they're already asleep. They
can just sleep at our they can just sleep at
the apartment, and they you know, we'll just we'll handle
them in the morning.

Speaker 3 (42:46):
And I'm thinking it.

Speaker 2 (42:47):
Could be kind of nice, sweetheart, come on, she doesn't
want to do it. They they're tripling down.

Speaker 1 (42:53):
I was just about to say, don't tell me they
triple down, tripled Then then it's like you you may
even be kind of rude. Then it's like, what they
don't want their kid, We're not good enough.

Speaker 2 (43:04):
Yeah, yeah, and then yeah. Then he gets to the
point where I'm like, we're uber and back, and I'm
thinking to myself, why aren't we getting an uber back
to the hotel like they've offered us, Like, why not
take them up on this offer, knowing that my man
Chris on the other side is probably like, he's probably
i'd be nice. You guys can get your kids. You know,

(43:25):
he's not saying nothing, No, he's like, yeah, he'll be fine,
dam too.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
Or I know my man Chris, He's like, yeah, you guys.

Speaker 2 (43:32):
Get your kids. Get you And I'm thinking, hey, sweet,
let's fucking just go back to the hotel room. So
we go back, We wake them up. It's two in
the morning, we wake up, we wake up Scottie, you know,
Charles getting Scottie and the carrier.

Speaker 3 (43:45):
I'm getting rue.

Speaker 2 (43:47):
We get an uber to go back to the hotel,
roosting a tantrum the entire time back to hotel. Obviously
she's tired, Yeah, all the different things, right, And I'm
just sitting there, I'm exhausted, and I'm starting to get
in like a bad mood for the fact that we
ended up taking the kids back to the hotel. And
we're pushing them down. We're going down the hall. We
got the stroller going down the hall. And Troll makes

(44:07):
a comment, it seems like you're it seems like you're
kind of mad, kind of mad at me right now,
because I think roommate the comment like that day you frustrated.
Oh no, that is not frustrated, that is just tired.
And charl goes, it feels like you're kind of mad
at me right now. And I'm like, we could have
left the kids at the apartment and came back to
the hotel. This is basically all I said. Oh so

(44:28):
you are mad at me. I'm just saying it would
have been nice if we could have just came back
to the hotel room and got some sleep with each other.
And so I'm, you know, doing this thing when when
I get upset, I'm very much like an internal an
internal being. A lot of things fester inside. I'm more
so suppressed. I suppress. I know my therapist would say, hey,
you need to talk about this stuff. I'm a guy
that suppresses my emotions when when.

Speaker 1 (44:49):
I've traveled with you for travel shoots, that happens also
when you get tired. It seems like yeah, so it
was a little double down.

Speaker 3 (44:59):
Oh yeah, yeah, we were wipe.

Speaker 2 (45:01):
We were exhausted because you're run around, you're doing some
with the kids all day, and nap time there wasn't
really a whole much of a nap time because again
you're just on the move, you're in a different city. Yes,
And then when we're going back to our hotel room,
like our hotel room is insanely small, so we're all
four on the bed, Scotty's playing. You're trying to get
her down, but she doesn't really want to go down,
so it's like, all right, we're just gonna eat this
nap time. So everyone's essentially just exhausted. And because I

(45:25):
was on an earth, now that was a different that
was a different day. All these days run together. But
you're sleeping in you're sleeping in the bed with your toddler.
We don't do we don't normally do that. So it
was like, you know, she's adjusting all night long. You're
waking up like about eight times because her foot is
like on your face and you're like, hey, sweetheart, you got.

Speaker 1 (45:41):
To move over.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
Go bother mom or something apparently like between them and pillow. Yeah,
she's in between us. But we were just at that
part of the night to where there was not a
lot of like, uh, diplomatic resolution. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you
know what I mean. Yeah, and uh, where we said
a few things back and forth to each each other.
Okay that I'm not proud of. I know she's not

(46:03):
proud of. I escalated the situation because I more so
wanted to suppress a maternalize and say no, I don't
want to talk about this shit. I want to go
to bed and I want to sleep on it. It's like, oh,
so you don't want to get you don't want to
get this figured out and talk about it tonight. No,
I don't want to talk about it tonight. I want
to go to sleep. I want to put the kid down.
I want to go to sleep. Well, she's like, well,
Ru's already asleep, but can't you just help me with Scotty.

(46:24):
I still got to do my face routine and brush
my teeth and everything else. And I told her, I said,
I told you that when we got to the apartment
that I had Ru, meaning you have Scotti. So even
though Ruth's asleep, that's a win for me. You got
to put Scottie down. That was the deal. So, oh,
so you're not going to be my teammate. You can't

(46:46):
have some perspective on how I've been grinding with the
kiddos all week long out here in New York while
you were in Chicago. I'm like, oh, so now you
want to bring up the scoreboard. Now you want to
scoreboard me to death? Make me feel guilty. I wish
I could have been out here with you.

Speaker 1 (47:02):
Are you in your pjs while you're having this?

Speaker 2 (47:04):
Just in my short so yeah, I guess I'm in
my pj's. I'm like scratching Ru's back, And there's a
part of you, there's a part of me after the fact.
I wasn't thinking about it in the moment, but after
the fact that my I kind of hate that. I
was kind of going back and forth with mom, like
because Rue was there. I think she was sleeping, But
you know, when you're young, it's like you could be
fake sleeping and you're listening to mom and dad argue.
I don't know if she's old enough to have that
figured out yet.

Speaker 1 (47:24):
Well you all doing Uh have you ever seen the
other guys?

Speaker 2 (47:28):
Yeah? Of course, which we're fighting.

Speaker 1 (47:31):
You said I that means you have Scotty.

Speaker 2 (47:34):
You No, No, we were not wasn't too high, but
we were allowed. We were loud enough. I was loud
enough for sure. And I kind of do things where
like roll over there, Charles like sitting there like like shaking,
like you know, rocking Scotty trying to get her to
sleep because she's fussy now. But you got Scottie at
that volume with that Yeah, I think I I can't

(47:56):
believe remember, oh, no thing. I kind of like roll
over and I'm trying to fall asleep and try not
to think about all the words that I said because
I'm trying to just sleep. She's like, so you don't
want to figure this out. No, I don't want to
figure this out. I want to go to sleep. Just
log us a therapy session. We can talk about this
with a therapist. And she's like, we don't have she's

(48:17):
not booked for next week. I'm like, well, you better
book her because we need to figure out We got
to Yeah, we got to talk about this conversation with
the therapist. And she's like, oh, it doesn't seem like
it's very healthy if we have to use the therapist
to talk about this, Like we need to be using.
We need to be doing the stuff that she's talked to.

Speaker 1 (48:32):
Us about to help us through. Not to solve every Yeah, yeah,
not to solve it.

Speaker 2 (48:38):
The sweethearted is June you don't want to respect mental
What is it mental Health Awareness Month?

Speaker 1 (48:43):
I think it's Pride month? Is it both? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (48:45):
It might be both, It might be better. Yeah, yeah,
June teenth, Come on, there's a lot of things going on,
of things going on.

Speaker 1 (48:50):
Come on, dude, June's a big month.

Speaker 2 (48:52):
And I like to think I I kind of I
hardheaded that argument to where listen, I'm going to sleep.

Speaker 1 (48:59):
I don't want to argue about that.

Speaker 2 (49:00):
I want to talk about this being a dude, being
a full on dude, having a low moment as a husband,
as a father, and as a man.

Speaker 3 (49:08):
In the next morning, she beats me to an apology.

Speaker 2 (49:10):
She's like, hey, you know, I'm sorry for uh I
said some things I didn't mean last time. I am
sorry for bringing the schoolboard that makes it. I didn't
want it to go there, and I was like, I
want to be I did want to. I needed to
be the first to apologize because I was being a
bit about the entire situation, because I just wanted to,
like just go back to the room. We don't got
the kids. It's like they offered, we take it up night,

(49:31):
me and you. We go back, we sleep, we wake up,
we go down and get lattes, like we enjoyed just
a nice little morning before a little pool day that
we were about to have on Saturday or whenever that was.

Speaker 3 (49:43):
And she's giving me the whole Hey, the kids are.

Speaker 2 (49:45):
Our responsibility, Like, I don't want to put our kids,
the responsibility of our kids on my friend when even
though she's offering and saying yes, like I know what
it takes to, you know, handle a couple of kids,
and they would have all four of them doing all
their morning routines and they're getting the same amount of
that we're getting. Yeah, And she's like it's our kids
are our responsibility. I'm thinking of myself like, yes, she's right,

(50:07):
but we would have had a little lifeline, we would
have had a little anyway, what I'm cracking a cold
one too. We ended up finding our way back to
each other. We were both apologetic to each other because
you know, I was being a pussy. Yeah, well that's
why I said. I was like, I'm sorry for being
a pussy last night. Like I was really bitching about
it and I was taking it out on you, and
I'm sorry for that.

Speaker 1 (50:29):
Everyone won in that situation.

Speaker 2 (50:31):
Yeah, it's one of those I was going back and
forth on if I wanted to tell that story on here,
But then I think, like, that's real life. Yeah, that's
a that's like you go at it, and that's a
perfect example of an argument over something like trivial when
you look back at it now. Yeah, but it was

(50:53):
a good moment of like Charro's going off of that
philosophy of like the right choice here is the harder
one to make to go pick up our kids. Now
you say that, I feel even worse because you're one
hundred percent right.

Speaker 1 (51:05):
Like, and I live by those words just because Jill's
stepdad says religiously, He's like, if you have two options,
the right one is usually the harder one to do.
And I'm like, all right, God.

Speaker 2 (51:15):
But that doesn't I couldn't see that, so I could
not see it in the moment.

Speaker 1 (51:19):
I didn't want to see that in the moment. We
always get blinded in moments like that. I do all
the time. Yeah, and I'm really bad. I feel like
every single wedding I've ever been to, the dad of
the bride that like, you know, talks that right before
the receptions about the guys. You know, the only advice

(51:40):
I'd give you guys is, uh, never go to bed angry.
You know, solve it before you go, Like, dude, I
know that's what they all say.

Speaker 2 (51:47):
The whole Yeah, don't go to bed angry. I struggle
with that because I am just such a being that
I almost need a night's sleep and I'll be a
lot more clear minded when I wake up, because when
I'm in it, I'm just not in I'm just not
in the mental space to solve it the way that
we actually need to solve it.

Speaker 1 (52:06):
Yes, Jill sounds like very similar to Charro. She wants
to do it right then and there and what that entails.
And this is nothing against Jill. That it's gonna be
a lot of monologuing from Jill, and I need to
keep maintain eye contact. I need to show her that
I'm listening. But it's also one point thirty in the morning.

(52:27):
I want to go to bed. I'm exhausted, and I
don't have the brain capacity to fully solve this thing.
And it's hard. It's a double edged sword because it's like, Jill,
you're not getting the best of me right now. I
know you want to solve this right now, but you
you're getting a pissed off, upset, tired, and probably hungry
sherman right now. Who sucks. That's the worst version of me.

Speaker 2 (52:47):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (52:47):
So if we did this tomorrow, yeah, with sound minds
and a nice sleep and some thought. Yeah, but that's
just life, dude.

Speaker 3 (52:57):
They Yeah, can you wake up the next morning?

Speaker 2 (52:59):
You're kind of feeling a little weird, like, you know,
I know I need to say something I need to
figure out right at the right time. Yes, right to them,
we're kind of like, hey, you want to get Scotty
in this? Or hey do you want you know, I'm like, hey,
what do you want me to get in the what
do we need to get in the green backpack for
the day?

Speaker 3 (53:13):
Like how long were we gonna plan to be out?

Speaker 2 (53:15):
Like you know, I'm trying to do all the stuff,
and you know, it's just sitting in your mind, like
we know we have some some words we need to say,
like apologizing.

Speaker 1 (53:24):
What was the little quote you said? The hard the
hard choice. The hard choice is usually the right one
to make. I'm just gonna call my wife. I have
a good feeling about this before she picks up.

Speaker 2 (53:38):
I have a good feeling about this.

Speaker 1 (53:41):
It's ten twenty on a Sunday.

Speaker 2 (53:45):
Yeah, I we're in the middle of this episode right now,
and I just I feel I felt inclined to call
you and tell you that I am once again sorry
for the way I acted the other night. That Sureham
just hit me with a quote that said the hard
choice is usually the right choice to make. And in
that moment of in that moment of weakness, I was

(54:07):
very much trying to take the easy way out, and
I was projecting on you in a way that you
did not deserve. And again I said it yesterday, but
I was I was being a bitch when I was
when we were coming back to the hotel, and I
just once again, I want to apologize to you and
then say I'm sorry a bit. It's kind of, you know,
it's kind of a mix because we're on the show.

(54:28):
I was kind of talking about my crack of cold.
One was finding your way back to your teammate, Charo.

Speaker 1 (54:32):
I will say this, and I'll just interject here. I
do apologize when I said that quote. He grabbed his
phone and was like kind of partially halfway listening to
what I was talking about. I could tell he was like,
I need to call my wife right now. So I
don't think this is fully a bit. I think he
really did want to call you.

Speaker 2 (54:50):
Thanks, You're welcome. I hope you hope you're enjoying your night.
I know it's ten twenty on a Sunday. I will
be home soon. But again, I just yeah, I had
loser mentality the other night when Surem hit me with
that quote on the hard choice is usually the right one,
I was like, God, yes, she was. No. No, I

(55:11):
believe that because you were kind of giving me the
right like I was thinking of from a perspective of
more selfishness, on we would have a room to ourselves,
your your friends tripled down and offered to have the kids,
and that felt like the easiest, most comfortable choice to make.
And when ru hit me, or when not Rue, when
Suram hit me with that quote, I'm thinking back to it,
and you were leaning into I know, but these the

(55:32):
kids are our responsibilities. So I'm like, you were choosing
the hard choice even though you probably you know you
would have loved to have done the same thing as me.

Speaker 4 (55:42):
I don't know what to say, because.

Speaker 3 (55:47):
You could just say I love you and you're the
best husband in the world.

Speaker 1 (55:51):
Well, I agree, Okay, let's go.

Speaker 2 (55:56):
I love you, so I'll see you later. I think
they went well.

Speaker 1 (56:01):
I think that Hey, I think that was pretty good.

Speaker 2 (56:07):
Yeah, it went pretty good, she said, I.

Speaker 1 (56:09):
Agree with what you said.

Speaker 2 (56:10):
She did.

Speaker 1 (56:11):
Yell you. Yeah, hey, we're you're if like you're in
the doghouse right now. I think you're like well out
of it, you know what I mean, Like your tails
still might be in the doghouse.

Speaker 2 (56:21):
Ol, buddy, out of the doghouse, when I tell you,
I put on a heroic performance when we had to
sit on the tarmac for ooh, that's all of two
and a half hours today when we were flying back
from LaGuardia. Yeah yeah, I mean I had Rue all right,
had Scotty on my lap. I you know, BASE essentially
gave Charles like a two two and a half hour
break because I was like, hey, do you want me

(56:42):
to hold Scotty? And because I again Charles like carrying Scotty.
I'm messing with Rue a lot of the time. But dude,
when you're stuck on the tarmac. We were stuck on
the runway. We were supposed to fly out at noon.
We got on, we got boarded around twelve thirty, and
we didn't leave until about three, like take off till
about three. Like that. Dude, that's a different kind of Hell. Yeah,

(57:04):
that's a different type of Like the kids were good
for the most part, Little dad hack out there. If
you're flying with your family, always sit by the window.
Reason being if there's a blowout or a heavy diaper
and your wife's in the aisle, she would usually have
to be the one to go to the back.

Speaker 1 (57:25):
After that, photegal. Yeah, it's crazy, it's crazy.

Speaker 2 (57:32):
But you got you got to you got to strategize
at some points. I listen, I was I was a one.
They were in c but they got to do the
family boarding after a But I don't work this hard
to you know, just let my A one go to
waste on Southwest. Yeah, so I hold down the row
that we're gonna be on full flight, not an empty seat,
the entire not an empty seat when we were taking off.

(57:55):
Yeah yeah, so I'm holding down the row and it's like,
you know, I just happen to be on the inside.

Speaker 3 (58:00):
And I was thinking about.

Speaker 2 (58:01):
This whenever we were getting towards the end and Scottie
I was seeing kind of a blowout. She had wetness
on the outside of that. Oh shit, nice, know, we
gotta change it. But matter of fact, Charle changes are
right there in the row. I ended up putting Rue
on my lap and she just changes Scotty right there
in the middle seat. Oh damn, Yeah, Charles scared to

(58:22):
get her hands dirty.

Speaker 1 (58:23):
No, that's dial.

Speaker 2 (58:26):
She ain't scared to get her hands dirty. She'll she'll
do it in public if she has to.

Speaker 1 (58:34):
I need to train on diaper training. By the way,
that is something that I am very like, not nervous about.
But I'm like, I want to be a pro. I
want to be an Officianado.

Speaker 2 (58:44):
Oh you'll you'll get there. You'll, you'll, you'll you'll learn quick.

Speaker 1 (58:47):
You'll learn quick watching you do it that one time.
It's the only barrier you get across. You got to
get across is once you realize there they're more durable
than you INTI bait.

Speaker 2 (59:00):
Yeah, because you want to be very careful. You think
everything hurts them. Like when I was putting clothes on Rue,
for I mean really first several months, I'm always like
very careful because I don't want to pull a string
of a strand of hair, you know what I mean. I
don't want her to be uncomfortable as I'm trying to
put like a shirt or something over a head. But
once you get past kind of that barrier that they're
that they're pretty durable, then you'll you'll get rolling.

Speaker 3 (59:23):
Not in a way to where you're throwing them around.

Speaker 2 (59:25):
But I remember when you were you were at the
house and I was like, hey, go ahead, like change
your diaper or I was having you do something. Oh,
just seeing how you were very cautious.

Speaker 1 (59:36):
You were having me practice feeding. Yeah, you have practice feeding.

Speaker 2 (59:41):
Yeah, I was holding on when I was showing you
the diaper. I was showing you you.

Speaker 1 (59:46):
Showed me the diaper change.

Speaker 2 (59:48):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (59:48):
But then you were like, hey you can feed her
like here, you put your elbow up here.

Speaker 2 (59:52):
Yes, you were being super which I completely get. Like
I was the same, Like I was the same way.

Speaker 1 (59:57):
I was holding a glass ballerina. Yeah, I was like,
what in the world is this? Yeah, You're like not.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Get her, get her sitting up.

Speaker 1 (01:00:06):
You gotta push it in just I'm like late, and
then Brad doing the bottle during the trailer. Dude, I
always think about that, putting the bottle underneath his chin
and Scotty just I'm like, oh my god, I was
getting so nervous.

Speaker 2 (01:00:25):
So easy, there you go.

Speaker 1 (01:00:27):
You're sitting like ten feet back. You're like, what are
you doing?

Speaker 2 (01:00:32):
Just move it. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:00:35):
We ran long again, which is which is totally fine,
Which is totally fine. But I was going to kick
it too. We had a survival kit and a dad hack.
I was gonna hit the what are the odds?

Speaker 3 (01:00:48):
What was your crack a cold one?

Speaker 1 (01:00:50):
Oh yeah, okay, crack a cold one will probably.

Speaker 2 (01:00:53):
Listen, listen. We got enough comments. People don't care.

Speaker 3 (01:00:55):
If it goes over.

Speaker 1 (01:00:56):
It's okay.

Speaker 3 (01:00:57):
If we go, it's okay if it goes over. Until
people say, hey, you guys gonna shut the fuck up.

Speaker 2 (01:01:02):
I think it's all right. I think we gotta go.
I think we got enough good feedback. Like in my head,
I'm thinking these would be a lot better if they're
under an hour. I would love to ideally hit that
every episode. Yeah, but no, Like I don't know if
I'm in my own head about it. A lot of
the times and all the reassuring comments. It's like, hey,
we love you guys, taking your time, you guys talking
everything else.

Speaker 3 (01:01:20):
It's kind of like, bro, just rip it.

Speaker 2 (01:01:22):
Bro.

Speaker 1 (01:01:22):
Well, if we're coming in with two stories like that
off the top, I mean those are bangers. We looked up.
We looked up after the choking story, it was thirty
five minutes.

Speaker 2 (01:01:32):
Yeah, and that felt like that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:34):
Yeah, it was the worst minutes I've ever been through.
You're having to listen to that. Yeah, okay, So my
crack a cold one.

Speaker 2 (01:01:41):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (01:01:41):
Will brought up Daily Dad, and then he also brought
up Strong Fathers Strong Daughters. I made it my homework
assignment that first week to get both of those books.
I have both of those books as well. Some others
shout out Papa Sheerm. He listens to the episodes. He
actually the one that got on Amazon and said, I

(01:02:01):
heard you wanted these? Do you want these? As like
a little gift, let's go. So Papa Shirm hooked it up.
I dove into Strong Father's Strong Daughters. I literally have
only read the intro. So we got it last night
or two days ago. I got it and started reading
it last night out loud to Jill. I have only

(01:02:25):
gotten through the intro and then like part of chapter one,
but I cannot recommend it more just because the introduction
is and I forget the author's name. That's terrible that
I forgot her name. Strong Father's Strong Daughters by Meg Meeker,
shout out Magneeker. So written by a woman, And essentially

(01:02:47):
in the introduction, she's like, hey, listen, I've been a
doctor for like this long I've had to treat She's
done some stuff in mental health as well as well
as being like a family pressitioner, I think is what
she is. She's like, I've had all these daughters come in,
all these girls, it's the same thing about their dad,

(01:03:08):
of like, these are the types of qualities that I
love in my dad, or somebody that had a terrible
relationship with my dad. It's these are the things that
I really wanted from my dad. Yeah, And she's basically
sitting there in that introduction and just being like, Dad's
you are the most important relationship with your daughter no
matter what. Don't care who they married, don't care who

(01:03:30):
they date, who their best friend is, if they're best
friends with Taylor Swift, does not matter. You are going
to be the most important relationship in your daughter's life.
Bar Nune. Even with mom and hearing that and reading
it aloud, and then Jill like sitting there on the couch,
it was fun, dude. I was getting like actually really

(01:03:52):
juiced up of like because I'm hearing you talk about that,
I'm hearing Jill every now and then she said this
great quote, She's like, the only thing I've ever been
worried about you, Sherman, is that our kids are gonna
love you more than me. And she was like, and
that's the best thing I could ever be worried about.
And she's always talking about Scarlet's gonna be a daddy's girl,

(01:04:14):
She's gonna be obsessed with you. You're gonna be her favorite
person in the whole world. So like hearing all those
things and then reading from this doctor Meg Meeker that
wrote this like best selling book, like it is your
job to be her needle in life, of like morality,
of spiritually, of emotionally, Like you are going to be

(01:04:35):
the driving force in her life. Buckle up, because you
play a really important role. And she had a great
quote she was like, if you knew how important your
role was in your daughter's life, you'd be terrified. And
I stopped reading out loud, and I looked at Jill.
I said, well, good thing. I'm already scared shitless, so
I uh, like, I'm very excited, and so I wanted
to crack a cold one to you. I know we

(01:04:56):
already cracked our bud lights, but I'm just oked off
of like, and that was only off of one night
of reading. I'm gonna get home. I have so much
coffee in me it's late at night that I'm gonna
have to read The Fall asleep. I know exactly what
I'm reading, So shout out to you and uh for
that book recommendation, and I'll do like a more succinct

(01:05:20):
breakdown I guess of like each chapter as I go
through it.

Speaker 2 (01:05:24):
Yeah, it's I'm only a few chapters in, but it is.
It's cool that you say that too, because I feel
like a lot of people have DM me saying that
they got that, that they got strong Fall Strong sick.
People I've talked or have mentioned The Daily Dad. I
know I've recommended it before, and a couple of people
also were talking about the twelve hours and twelve weeks
like a sleep the sleeping method, but a lot of

(01:05:46):
people getting strong father strong daughters, And dude, I'm telling you,
whether again you're an expecting father, whether you're somebody that's
already doing it and your daughter is young, whether you're
older and you have a teenage daughter, Like, there are
so many stories that she breaks down on that Yeah,
it's like the greatest thing in the world, and you,
just as I'm reading it, you already know it's going

(01:06:06):
to be one of the hardest things in the world,
especially when they get older and resent you and have
all these things where they push back on and they
don't listen to you, and you kind of, I would assume,
feel like you don't have a great relationship with your daughter.
You come across a lot of these stories that you're
almost it's like in my head as I'm reading it
and I have a three year old, it's like, oh,

(01:06:28):
this is going to be inevitable that you're going to
have these like bumps in the road, or these could
potentially be long periods of feeling like you're not doing
good enough for your daughter. So even if you're a
dad right now and you have a teenager, you have
somebody who's in their twenties, and you'll read these stories
and I'm sure you'll get whether it's flashbacks or even
things to look out and prepare for that you're not

(01:06:49):
going to be able to stop just because you feel
like you have the best relationship of all time with
your daughter, because it seems just from what I'm reading
that there are going to be those moments. There's gonna
be those phases impossibly like years where it seems like
they're far away from you. So it's cool. I think
the book is incredible. I think that I would strongly
recommend the book to every girl that out there.

Speaker 1 (01:07:09):
Yeah, dude, it's sick. Even when you were just talking
about in the teenage years when they started pushing back,
she was like, that's when they need you even there most.

Speaker 2 (01:07:18):
And it's not even something that I feel like you're
going to have like a result from. Yeah, it's just
going to be knowing that you still have to intentionally,
just through your actions, just show that you're being there,
because it's it's like them testing you, and they might
not even know that they're testing you because they're so
they're so hormonal, Yeah, that they might just be resistant
to you. But it's like I feel like the book

(01:07:41):
gives you a lot of good perspective to be prepared
for or again, you might be in it. You might
be in those teenage years to where you just you're
able to compartmentalize and understand what's happening, and it gives
you some good practical ways to continue to show up
even though it probably doesn't feel like you're showing up. Yeah,
so the book is the book is incredible so far.

Speaker 1 (01:08:03):
One last note I would say on the book that
was something that caught my attention. And the introduction was
she said, and this is for any dad's out there
that like maybe you don't have the strongest relationship with
your daughter. She had a great quote, and they're saying,
this book isn't just for like dad's at the you know,
precipice of this relationship. If you're trying to heal or
trying to like recover that relationship with your daughter, it

(01:08:25):
is never too late. And that's Meg Meeker's words and
not mine, but she says, you know, it's never too
late to revitalize that relationship, Like even if you are
separated from your daughter right now, like there's still a
place in her heart where like she wants dad, she
needs dad. So I thought that those were powerful words.

(01:08:46):
I was like, damn, dude.

Speaker 2 (01:08:47):
Dude, it's it's buckle up. You'll get you'll get teary eyed.
Yeah I'm not.

Speaker 1 (01:08:52):
I mean I didn't last night, but you'll.

Speaker 2 (01:08:54):
Even get teary eyed over the stories that you kind
of just read about. That's like, it's just you know,
it's tough.

Speaker 1 (01:09:01):
There were there were some stuff just at the beginning
of chapter one where she was talking about like sex
education and stuff for you know, what the kids are
learning in school. And this book was written I don't
know when, but it sounds like maybe written a ways back,
not too far back, but like we have Google, Yeah,
we do have Google.

Speaker 2 (01:09:19):
There's gonna be one story you come up on here
pretty soon to where it's like the daughter, something happened
to the daughter and she kind of told her dad,
and her dad was going off for like a uh.

Speaker 1 (01:09:32):
Two thousand and six, okay, because.

Speaker 2 (01:09:34):
Yeah, six, her dad was going out for a tea time,
and the daughter was kind of telling her dad and
he just made the comment like, oh, boys will be boys,
and just that comment right there, and it dives into
it dives into that that girl's story and it just
I don't know, man, You'll you'll you'll get a lot
of perspective, a lot of like, oh shit stuff that

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you'll just think about like as a man, you know
what I mean. Yeah, that if you don't know any better,
you get caught up and hearing the whole.

Speaker 1 (01:10:03):
Boys will be boy's phrase.

Speaker 2 (01:10:04):
Yeah, And now that it's like you have a daughter
and you're you're seeing it from a whole different perspective
and a whole different lens, you just realize how truly
important like those moments are.

Speaker 3 (01:10:17):
It's you'll like it.

Speaker 1 (01:10:19):
Damn, I'm still you'll like it. But that was that
was my kracker cole one. And did you already do
your crackerle one?

Speaker 2 (01:10:27):
My cracker hole was finding your way back to your tea.
My cracker call one ended in a phone call to
the missus, just hey, sweet, I just want you to know,
is this a bit? I am on the show? You
are calling me out saying that this is a bit.
But I do mean every word that I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:10:40):
I was just checking my mis calls because I saw
a Jay on there for Jill, but it was actually
Jared Beamon, who might be the second most important Jay
in my life.

Speaker 2 (01:10:49):
Yeah, Jared Demon.

Speaker 1 (01:10:51):
Jared Demon, that's a producer here. We got, we got.
You have a what are the odds? I do have
a what are the odds? I put Will on the
spot earlier. I've warned you multiple times. This has been
a recurring issue with me at my past jobs. I
do a very poor job of asking for PTO in advance.

(01:11:11):
I feel like this was well in advance, though, But
I did put you on the spot in front of
chef and I said, Hey, Baylor is playing Auburn for
their season opener night game blackout in Waco. Ari bought
tickets for it. What are the odds night game blackout Waco?

(01:11:31):
Scarlett is going?

Speaker 2 (01:11:34):
Yeah, that was so Sran was like, so I got
tickets to this game. It's like August twenty ninth, August
twenty eight, somewhere around there.

Speaker 3 (01:11:43):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:11:43):
Paternity leave, I know, I got it up until football
season starts. However, once paternity to leave in what's paternity leave.

Speaker 1 (01:11:51):
In labor day weekend?

Speaker 2 (01:11:53):
Yeah? How about some vacation time? What are the changes?
I get out of the office and go to the
Baylor home opener blackout blackout, I said, I don't see
why not.

Speaker 3 (01:12:06):
I reserve the right to change my mind.

Speaker 1 (01:12:07):
You one hundred percent do you one hundred percent.

Speaker 2 (01:12:10):
Don't see why not? I think you are insane. How
old Scarlet gonna be eight weeks? Yeah, maybe two months? Yeah,
you're taking her to a game? Hell yeah, she's going
phones on.

Speaker 1 (01:12:21):
Hell yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:12:22):
You know you ain't gonna You're not gonna be at
that entire game.

Speaker 1 (01:12:25):
Oh yeah, No, I'll be in the concourse probably, you know,
five minutes in the first quarter, Jill going, Jill's going. Okay,
it's a family affair.

Speaker 2 (01:12:34):
So if it's a full, premeditated, planned out affair, got
a hotel room in Waco, there's a chance you might
get to be at the entire game. But I would
assume eight weeks postpartum, she ain't gonna want to say.

Speaker 1 (01:12:49):
That whole fucking game.

Speaker 2 (01:12:50):
She's gonna be at that game. When you guys get
in Waco, she's gonna be like, what the fuck are
we doing?

Speaker 1 (01:12:55):
She and to bring it to bring it back to
our buck or my motherfucked quit talking about CFP. She's
actually very stoked for the sounding yeah right now, So
you're saying the what are the odds shout out FanDuel
the what are the odds? And what are the odds?
Might not even be with your boss. Yeah, no, the

(01:13:16):
what are the odds are? Will we make it through
the whole game? Can Scarlett make it through a full
ninety those odds?

Speaker 2 (01:13:23):
Or you're got you got plus fifteen hundred at least? Okay,
I can make it through the whole game. I mean
I know that this might be a little tam I
and you don't even have to share this is she breastfeeding?

Speaker 1 (01:13:38):
Yeah? I feel so kind of weird as but they
have they have the little you know, like kids sections,
the little baby sections that you go into in the
concourse for like the breastfeeding. The diaper changes could be
kind of nice.

Speaker 2 (01:13:54):
Could be kind of nice. I'm excited to hear how
that experience goes. The chef said, we need a dad vlog?
Yeah we are. This is for the dads.

Speaker 1 (01:14:06):
Can I at some point I.

Speaker 2 (01:14:07):
Would assume we might expand in the vlogs?

Speaker 1 (01:14:11):
Can I, uh, could we send somebody down to film
that blog?

Speaker 2 (01:14:18):
Possibly potentially if I buy the game ticket for him? Well,
I mean that would this this is where it's like
the company would Oh okay, we're gonna make a vlog
out of it. It's for the brand. Yeah, yeah, you
know what I mean. Yeah, you wouldn't have to come
out of pocket to Okay, this fun.

Speaker 1 (01:14:37):
That could be fun or it could be the worst
blog ever because it's like yeah, she you know.

Speaker 2 (01:14:45):
Oh she she's gonna go feed you mind if I.

Speaker 1 (01:14:48):
Get the camera chef and Jared or in the hotel
room we're trying to put her dad. We're like, all right, Jill,
you mind if we filmed this? Okay, so Jill, hey
for this scene. It's actually to be really good because
here's what we're gonna do. But yeah, I guess.

Speaker 2 (01:15:04):
So.

Speaker 1 (01:15:04):
One of the odds is will I make it? Will
I go to the game? Will we make it through
the game? Now that we've talked through this, you'll go
to the Yeah you're allowed to go. Yes, Okay, let's now.

Speaker 2 (01:15:14):
What are the odds is? Will you make it through
a full game with the missus, like with with the squad.

Speaker 1 (01:15:19):
And any any bears out there, any dad bears out
If you gotta eat tips at McLain Stadium, I gotta
reach out to McLean and see what the.

Speaker 2 (01:15:32):
Most important thing is that you and Jill are just committed. Yes, dude,
you guys are committed. I think you can make it happen.
She told me all she wants again, you keep saying,
she told me this is a different time frame.

Speaker 1 (01:15:46):
This is different time frame than eight weeks. But she
said the only thing she wants in this world is
sushi and alcohol postpartum. Okay, she said, as long as
she gets a couple of dogs and a couple old ones,
a couple of bud lights before the game, She's gonna
be a happy camper. She's a big beer girl, She's

(01:16:06):
a bit a big dog girl. She loves live sporting events.
I don't think Jill is the issue. I think I
think Scarlet is the issue.

Speaker 2 (01:16:14):
Again. This is Jill pre momick in a little differently
and may maybe maybe maybe she'ld be a road dog
and none of that will change.

Speaker 1 (01:16:24):
Oh yeah, and I'll be sober, sure but all day. Yeah,
and let her just you babe, you go.

Speaker 2 (01:16:30):
But it's almost like you like learn different things on
the fly because moms are so in tune with everything
that's going on that moments of that they find out
everything that they put in their body ends up going through.

Speaker 1 (01:16:43):
If they're breastfeeding. Oh yeah, she wouldn't be able to
breastfeed if she's drinking. She's not pumping dump.

Speaker 3 (01:16:48):
Yeah, the old pump and dump. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:16:50):
Fuck so you never know, you never know, never know, Okay, godspeed.

Speaker 1 (01:16:56):
Yeah, there's a lot. It sounds like we're.

Speaker 2 (01:16:57):
Shut out, fand shut out baby sweetheart, you said we
was doing this like you know what are the Osmo
home presented by Fandel We gotta we can't.

Speaker 1 (01:17:07):
Pump and dump this segment shots going, demons going, They
will might even go. I think Will's gonna cub.

Speaker 3 (01:17:14):
No Huskers play Cincinnati. Oh, come on, Augus, come on.

Speaker 1 (01:17:17):
Now a Baylor two and a half. By the way,
two and a half dogs at home? Night game Blackout
be fun game, Be a fun game.

Speaker 2 (01:17:27):
Uh, Survival Kit dad Hacks, we can rip through these.
I see you got a survival Kit one on here.
Like again, Survival Kit and dad Hacks kind of run.
I feel like they kind of run together because my
dad hack is almost my dad hack is a product.
I guess I could be survival Kit. I guess my
dad hack could have been. And that's not even a
dad hack, that's a parent hack. Even the mom's out

(01:17:48):
there listening. You get that window seat on the plane,
make the old dog go in the aisle. I'm telling you,
that's strat right there, that's some high level strat.

Speaker 1 (01:17:57):
That's strat. That was a gag crazy after that though,
but it's it's a good strat. I love that strat.

Speaker 2 (01:18:06):
Hein nobody there dads will even Dad's a vibe with
this too, But I think there's there's not a dad
in the game that times up bathroom breaks quite like myself.

Speaker 1 (01:18:16):
Yeah, you have said that, you you have Scottie down
almost to the tea.

Speaker 2 (01:18:22):
What are you talking about. I'm talking about bathroom breaks
like you use them as like a lifeline. You're talking
to hold the kid. You're holding the kid. You've been
putting in you know, you've been putting in the holden time.
You've been looking over at the wife. She had been Yeah, hey, Scotty,
daddy's got to hit the bathroom. You offload them now
it's their turn to hold the kid. They're not just

(01:18:43):
going to give the kid back to you when you
come back from the bathroom. You'll be going to the
bathroom doing your thing, and all of a sudden the
time shifted or it's like.

Speaker 1 (01:18:52):
You can get an extra a couple of minutes. When
she tries to hand Scotty back to you, I didn't
wash my hands.

Speaker 2 (01:18:56):
Hold on, yeah, hey, let's let's go up and get
bedtime started. I'm gonna run to the bathroom real quick.
They'll get bedtime started first. You know what I mean. Yeah,
it's just a little subtle It's a little subtle game. Okay, now,
just putting out into the universe.

Speaker 1 (01:19:11):
I have a note section that I'll add bathroom breaks too.

Speaker 2 (01:19:16):
I'll come up with more situations too, so that this
can be like a solid, solid clip in the future.

Speaker 1 (01:19:22):
I have a for mine. I was just gonna say,
I'm looking at my survival kit and my dad Hack
and I feel like they should one hundred percent be switched.
Now I'm looking at it.

Speaker 2 (01:19:32):
Let me go ahead and hit the survival kit, my
survival kit shout out. This baby product is going to
be is called the mom Cozy. What the mom Cozy
is is it? It's this deal that you put the
water in and it heats it up for you. You charge it,
you have it on the go, but it heats it
up for you. So if you want to get the
water up to one oh five. So that way, when

(01:19:53):
you have the bottle, once you get to the formula
phase or the formula stage, or even I guess, yeah,
breast milk you could just put you could dump breast
milk in it and it'll heat it up for you.
So if you're on the go, grab some some room temp,
water cold, what doesn't even matter. Throw water in it,
hit the button, gets it up to ninety five, one
oh five, whatever your desired temperature is.

Speaker 3 (01:20:15):
Heats it up to it.

Speaker 2 (01:20:16):
You throw it in the bottle, You put the formula,
and you shake it up and you're ready to go.
So my survival kit is called it's called the mom
Cozy because you'll you'll learn too. It's like if you're
gonna go out and you might heat up milk before
you go, thinking like, all right, she's gonna eat or here,
or she's gonna eat in about twenty to thirty minutes,
so we'll be able to have a heated bottle in
the car for him, or like there's some backpacks that

(01:20:38):
have like a little insulated insulated sleeve that you might
set it in and hope that it lasts for however
long you need it. But this little mom cozy is
like this little portable heat up like it looks like
a little I don't want to say yetti, but it's something.
It's something like that to where you put the water in.
It's got a little it's got a little battery pack

(01:20:59):
on the bottom that you would charge, plug in and charge.
You charge it up, and whenever you turn on, it'll
heat up your water to the to the desired temperature.

Speaker 1 (01:21:09):
This thing looks sick. Yeah, I didn't even know.

Speaker 3 (01:21:12):
It's a game changer.

Speaker 2 (01:21:13):
It's a game changer because you could just have in
you know, again, you could just have a bottle of
water and whenever it's time to eat or time to feed.
It could be hours later. But you have this thing,
and you might be on the go to where you're
not anywhere where you can get some hot water or
some warm water, because usually people will heat it up,
whether you know, they get hot water in this at
the bottle, yeah, in the in the hot water, or
they got a little they got a little bottle warmer

(01:21:34):
in the house. This is like one on the go.

Speaker 1 (01:21:37):
I didn't even realize that you had to heat it up.

Speaker 2 (01:21:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:21:40):
But now, thinking back to one of my favorite movies
as a kid baby say out. I don't know if
you'll ever saw that one burns himself trying to heat
up the bottle the OG's node.

Speaker 2 (01:21:49):
Then you know, yeah, but I didn't know heat. I
didn't know you had to have heat and milk either.

Speaker 1 (01:21:54):
That's crazy, okay, mom cozy because if you.

Speaker 2 (01:21:57):
Think about it, when they're feeding on the booth, there
didn't add that body temperature milk. It's coming out warm.

Speaker 1 (01:22:03):
Bro, I've been learning about uh, colostrum, colosstrum. Yeah, dude,
I saw some body like.

Speaker 2 (01:22:15):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, the little yeah, listen to this. So
apparently this is my wife giving me this game. But
apparently if your kid is like sick or they have
a cold or something, the mom their body knows because yeah,
the baby's like communicating with the tea like when they

(01:22:37):
latch on, and they're ultimately telling the mom what it
needs nutrient wise, and the mom ultimately makes it like
when they're breastfeeding. So if they're sick or something, the
mom is like formulating something based off the communication between
the nipple and the mouth when they connect that hey,
my body, the baby needs this right now, so it
provides them the nutrients that they need. Even when they're sick.

Speaker 1 (01:22:58):
It's crazy here looking for aliens. We've been aliens the
whole time. That's crazy. Nuts, that's so cool, dude. That
is like the human body is so badass. Like the
way that everything on Jill's body is just like changing
to make this happen is crazy. We were talking about
like the swelling and the legs. Yeah, these Jill's gone

(01:23:22):
up like three shoe sizes, and the fact that there
is telepathy between the tit and the baby is nuts.

Speaker 2 (01:23:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:23:31):
And then also for any meat heads out there that
think that, I swear to God, people like sell colostrum.
Jill was telling me this. They they will like syringe
it out and they'll they'll freeze it. And then these
bodybuilders are like these juice heads.

Speaker 3 (01:23:50):
One of the best things.

Speaker 1 (01:23:50):
Oh yeah, they're like, oh hey, who gets colossum? Yeah, yeah,
he gets a colostrum, bro. Jill told me registered nurse
that doesn't that doesn't do the trick for adults. It
does have a lot of nutrients in it, but it's
not worth all the time of you know, buying some
clossrum on the black market. That's what the streets are saying,

(01:24:11):
Are you buying are you buying coloster.

Speaker 2 (01:24:13):
You're looking at me like I like the supplement clossrum.

Speaker 1 (01:24:17):
I'm not there is a supplement.

Speaker 2 (01:24:18):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, colossrum is a big thing
on the one. Yeah, you're trying to get jack.

Speaker 1 (01:24:23):
You want to get some gloss the guys you're one
of the guys that you was talking about.

Speaker 2 (01:24:30):
Jill, Listen, she might be wrong in saying that because
it seems to be a lot of research buying clossrum.

Speaker 1 (01:24:40):
Yeah. I think so, Okay, maybe I'm mixing up two stories.
And she was talking about breast milk.

Speaker 2 (01:24:47):
Yeah, so there are guys like I had an ex
neighbor of mine that thinks like boom milk is like
the fountain of youth. So he would tell me, he
would he would tell me like, hey, he would tell
Charles if you got any left over that not gonna use,
Like he'll take it.

Speaker 1 (01:25:01):
He said that to her face.

Speaker 2 (01:25:02):
Yes.

Speaker 1 (01:25:04):
What was her reaction to that? Laughter, like nervous laughter, Like.

Speaker 3 (01:25:09):
Yeah, because we're like friends, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (01:25:10):
Yeah, yeah, but he's like.

Speaker 2 (01:25:12):
He's dead ass, seriously. But I'll be like, you drink
your wife's boot milk and he's like, yes.

Speaker 1 (01:25:20):
Good for him, dude, was he jacked?

Speaker 2 (01:25:24):
He's yeah, he's a he's a good looking human being.

Speaker 1 (01:25:27):
Okay, maybe there is some some science behind it. And
Jill's what he says, Oh she has to pump indom. Yeah,
and the kids like something like that.

Speaker 2 (01:25:41):
Oh oh yeah, you're talking about when he comes up
to his mom and he's like he's like sucking at
the teat and he's like, uh, how old is he?
And she's like she's like, uh, what'd you say? Forty
eight months?

Speaker 1 (01:25:53):
Or yeah, oh yeah, she says some ridiculous amount of
months that equals up to like seven.

Speaker 2 (01:25:58):
Yeah, or like seventy two months. He's like so so.

Speaker 1 (01:26:01):
Three yeah, oh my god, great call out.

Speaker 2 (01:26:07):
Yeah, I was mixing up the Yeah, there are there
are cats out there that drink boot milk. I tasted, Charles.
I haven't like drank it, you know what I mean? Like,
as I'm gonna use this as a supplement.

Speaker 1 (01:26:17):
You did it? Is like a bit to be funny.

Speaker 2 (01:26:19):
Yeah, I did it, Like let me see what this
is all about. Yeah yeah, and it really won't that bad.

Speaker 1 (01:26:24):
I'm gonna try.

Speaker 2 (01:26:25):
It really won't that bad.

Speaker 1 (01:26:26):
I'm not gonna sit here and act like I'm not
gonna try it. Yeah, but yeah, dude, seeing the colossrum
was crazy.

Speaker 2 (01:26:32):
Yeah, because it's just it's different for every woman. It's
like Charles having a really hard time on herself because
I want to say, with rue, she might have got
to about four months. And there are some women who
you know, they like freeze their boot milk and they
have like months worth of supply. But it just varies
for it just varies for everybody. Scotty, she had a
little bit more. She's able to do more. Maybe her

(01:26:54):
body was adjusted for the second pregnancy. Yeah, because some
women will breastfeed for a long time. I don't even know.
I don't even want to say a number, but they'll
be able to breastfeed for like a long time, Like
I'm talking like a year, over a year, as long
long as they can. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:27:07):
Yeah, because they're like back in the olden days when
like you would have like a back in the medieval,
Back in the medieval, what would they call those the
nursing the wet nurse.

Speaker 2 (01:27:17):
I don't know, we'll say it for this story, the
wet nurse.

Speaker 1 (01:27:21):
I hope I'm not like saying some super non PC
but I'm pretty sure that's what Yeah, yeah, yeah, a
wet nurse that just like she just always had boot
milk gun. Yeah, you didn't have to breastfeed. It was like,
you know, put her, put her on nurse.

Speaker 2 (01:27:37):
Yeah, because there's just so many different variables, one being
the mom like the supply that they have, and then
another one is like if the kid is like breastfeeds, well,
sometimes it won't be coming out fast enough, so they'll
be very irritated, and then then you start to switch
to the bottle because they're just not getting a lot.

Speaker 3 (01:27:54):
There's a lot of different things that.

Speaker 2 (01:27:55):
You'll that you'll experience in the damn in the postpartum life,
because that's a that's a real thing that goes down.

Speaker 1 (01:28:00):
I feel like I'm in a holding pattern right now
with this podcast. I'm very excited for Scarlett to be here.
Obviously for Scarlett to be here, but I feel like
just the amount of stuff that's gonna hit me in
week one, I'm gonna.

Speaker 3 (01:28:12):
Yeah, it'd be some fun. Yeah, it'll be some good story.

Speaker 1 (01:28:14):
It's gonna be seeing there chuckling as I'm like cross
eyed and like, yeah, what the fuck is?

Speaker 2 (01:28:19):
And you'll have different experiences, you know what. I mean, yeah, well,
I'm assuming that you'll probably have like different experiences.

Speaker 1 (01:28:24):
Oh yeah, for sure.

Speaker 2 (01:28:25):
That it won't be the exact same thing that I experience.
Like everybody, everybody's different, so you just never know, but
it will be.

Speaker 1 (01:28:31):
Yeah, it's gonna be nice.

Speaker 2 (01:28:32):
The fact that you're you're playing this Waycoat trip, we
gate we Scarlet's life. She's gonna go to her first
ball game.

Speaker 1 (01:28:42):
And you think the Bears are gonna lose with Scarlet,
there'd be crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:28:45):
That'd be crazy. That'd be crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:28:47):
There's no way. Oh yeah, my survival kid and Dad
hacks A'll go really quick. We have the baby Breza
nice that was give to us. It's kind of like
our was that you.

Speaker 3 (01:29:03):
Get the bottle cleaner one or you got like the
Formula one.

Speaker 1 (01:29:05):
Bottle cleaner one, and that thing is crazy. I got
to see it in action. Jill also bought the set
where it like holds the bottles and stuff for Yeah,
we had it on our what was it called where
all your gifts are on the Internet and your loved
ones like registry registry. It was on our baby registry,

(01:29:26):
So shout out whoever got that for us. But the
Baby Breza is sick, And I'm like, why aren't all
dishwashers like this? Now that I think about it, if
you just had a smaller dishwasher instead of waiting all
for your dishes to just like collect over a long
time and put in this dishwasher where it's so big
that it's not really like getting everything, why not have

(01:29:47):
like a small concentrated dishwasher like this baby Breza that
just gets it dialed and you only put like the
cups and plates that you use from dinner in it.
But watching that thing work, it was crazy.

Speaker 2 (01:29:59):
There might be one out there, And now as you
said that, if there's not, maybe it's our first product.
That'd be six just great manufacture, our first product.

Speaker 1 (01:30:06):
You just George Foreman style pushing these mini diss and guys,
I'm well compted when I'm not podcasting cleaning dishes.

Speaker 2 (01:30:16):
Uh.

Speaker 1 (01:30:17):
And then Survival or dad Hack was Goodwill. Goodwill came
in Clutch today. It was a Sunday all the city
dumps where you can like go legally dump your stuff.
We're cleaning out the house because her parents, my parents,
they're all going to be coming in next week. Because
Jill gets to induced on the second so they're gonna
come in on the thirtieth. The moms, I think are

(01:30:39):
gonna be staying with us kind of on and off.
Everybody has hotel rooms and airbnbs, but Jill wants the
house looking perfect. So we're like purging all this stuff.
All the city dumps are closed. I'm like, where the
hell can I take all this stuff today to like
get it out here, because Jill's like, I want it
gone Goodwill. Dude asked zero questions, and I'm sitting there,

(01:31:02):
I'm giving them like two or three chances. Like the
couple in New York. I'm like, you sure, like I
don't know. I don't know what's in this container. I
don't know what I'm about to like dump in here.
And they're like, oh, well, that's the miscellaneous bin so
you can just it was incredible, dude. It was just
a weight off the chest. So Dad Hacks if you know,

(01:31:24):
the missus is ever Anya. It's like, hey, you gotta
get this this stuff out of here. Go to good Will.

Speaker 2 (01:31:30):
Dude.

Speaker 1 (01:31:30):
They asked zero questions. Love that, but be good to them.
Don't give them a bunch of nasty stuff to sift through,
which I hope I didn't I look through it enough
that it's like, Okay, nothing's gonna you know, piss them off.
But yeah, it was a good little dad hack.

Speaker 3 (01:31:45):
That's it. That is a good dad hack. Should we
dive into the to the voicemails.

Speaker 1 (01:31:48):
Let's dive into the voicemails. Do you want to do
a serious one or a funny one? First? H serious? Okay?
And the serious is not over serious overly serious? This
week it's more so this dad is looking for advice
directly from Will Compton. I cannot answer this question.

Speaker 4 (01:32:10):
Hey, fellas, this is Thomas from Chattanooga. Want to call
in and get some advice from the boys about making
the jump from one to two kids. My wife's expecting
our second in November. We'll have two under two. Just
kind of wanted to see what that jump was like
and what to expect from it.

Speaker 2 (01:32:31):
All right, thanks fellas, Thomas from Chattanooga.

Speaker 3 (01:32:34):
Appreciate you calling in.

Speaker 2 (01:32:35):
Brother two under two I here is a different animal.

Speaker 3 (01:32:40):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:32:41):
Charl and I we had our we were trying to
go for two under two, but we obviously if you
listen to the IVF podcast on bus with the Boys
around Mother's Day that we dropped it. We had problems
getting pregnant with the second one with Scotti, and so
Rue was I would say, what was about two and
a half when we had so we didn't necessarily have.

Speaker 3 (01:33:02):
Two under two. I do hear two under two is
like a different.

Speaker 2 (01:33:04):
Animal, because again it's like the first one. They haven't
been walking very long. Rue I feel like she's not
she's not the most useful, but she's somebody who's aware
of like she's wanting to help out. So I feel
like that helps. When you have the older one, they're
over two years old, you'll be you think you'll be
playing man to man because you're not necessarily outnumbered yet.

(01:33:26):
You'll be too two v two in the household, but
you're still somewhat playing a bit of zone defense because
what the older one needs. The older one's gonna be favoring,
whether mom or dad at the time the newborn, you
guys are gonna be able to like you already know
what to expect out of the second one because you
had the first one, So the second one really won't
be a problem. Once they get sleeping, it's it's gonna
be all about getting them to sleep, getting them in

(01:33:47):
a good rhythm. I would strongly recommend twelve hours by
twelve weeks. I forget who the author is, but that's
a good book out there for like for like sleep training.
It's not too aggressive. It's how to get to the
kid to adapt to your life versus the other way around.
And that was like a method we went by. So really,
the first one's all about getting in that good sleep routine,
because that one, again, it's like when they first come out,
it's they're eating every three hours. You kind of know

(01:34:09):
what to expect. With that second one. It's going to
be the older one that is going to be experiencing
new emotions as they age. They're gonna have there used
to being the only child. They're no longer the only child.
Something that we did with Rue because we were very
intentional about how we introduced Scotty into the world with Rue.

(01:34:30):
And I was getting this stuff from like honestly Instagram.
But one thing that we did when Scotty was born
is when Rue came to the hospital, we had our
nanny holding Scottie. We had our nanny holding the newborn.
So that way, when Rue walked into the room for
your first child, you you and mom are their entire world.

(01:34:51):
So when she's walking into the room to check on Mom,
the entire goal was while I was walking room, it's like, Hey,
we're gonna go see mom and you can meet your
new little sister. So we wanted Rue to see when
she walked into the room, Mom not holding the newborn,
Mom who Rue saw as her entire world being Mom
recovering from having Scotty, the second child. So Rue could

(01:35:14):
walk in, crawl up on the bed with mom, check
in on mom. And then we were like, hey, do
you want to meet Scotty? Do you want to meet
your baby's sister who our nanny was holding. So as
a family, we kind of go over and introduce Rue
to Scotty. So that way Rue feels like the baby
is getting introduced to all of us at the same
time getting introduced to our world. That was one thing
that we did. The second thing that we did, which

(01:35:35):
Steve and Cha shout out to the boy Stephen Cha
for putting me on this and I feel like this
isn't like a secret or anything. But when we were
taking Scotty home, our second baby home, we were telling
Rue as we were driving in the car, Hey, Scotty
got you a present when you get home, and we
got her like some like ELSA, some little like ELSA

(01:35:55):
jewelry or something from the store. So when Rue got home,
Scotto he had a gift for her. We're like, hey, Scotty,
got this gift for you and re opened up. I
was all excited. So we were very intentional about introducing
the second baby into our home with Rue being our oldest.
So I would I would recommend a couple of those things.

(01:36:17):
And then it's like how you can immerse your oldest
into being helpful with Scottie. You're like, hey, do you
want to do you want to show Scotty how we
do your bedtime routine? That actually kills two birds with
one stone, because you're trying to get you know, it's
hard enough to get your your oldest one in the
bedtime routine every night consistently. So you're like, hey, do

(01:36:37):
you want to show Scotty how we do bedtime? How
we do our routine, And so Rue would be like
helping out, we do this, we do that kind of
talking to the baby, and in the same breath, Ruth's
getting ready for bed. So you're kind of like, you know,
you're kind of gaming her up to get ready for
bed as well. She obviously you're your oldest doesn't know
how to read yet. But we would tell we would
have Rue like, hey, what books should we read Scotty

(01:36:59):
for the first time? Which we do here, what we
do there? And so we were we were We allowed
Rue to be very instrumental into introducing Scotty into our house.
So those would be the things that I would tell you.
As far as going one to two, you know you'll
get mixed reviews. You know you have you'll have the
people that are like, oh, you only have one kid, now,
wait till you have the second one. But honestly, dude,

(01:37:20):
it's not. It's not that bad. You're already in your
own routine of having a kid in the first place,
and balancing work, family, being home, all those different things,
and helping your wife out. The second one is really
not as as difficult when you have to. Obviously, mom's
going to be leaning on you to help with the
older one a lot more getting ready for bed because

(01:37:41):
she's going to be on a lot more of a
routine with the newborn.

Speaker 3 (01:37:44):
But it's not it's not.

Speaker 2 (01:37:45):
As bad as I feel like what reviews can be
on going one to two.

Speaker 1 (01:37:50):
Yeah, and I'm speaking so out of turn. I have
no idea, but I almost see it as like as
the two get older, like that their relationship starts budding.
They're able to start pouring into each other. They're able
to kind of entertain each other in types of ways
to where almost like the two dog principle.

Speaker 2 (01:38:12):
I guess, yeah, yeah, Well, it's like once they can
start smiling, like anytime Scotty's like smiling at Rue, or
because Scotty watches Rue a lot, just play and do
all the things and just making the comments Scotty loves
you so much, Oh, Scotty loves her big sister, you know,
getting them to say it back and forth. So Rue
feels very connected to Scotti. And another thing that we

(01:38:33):
would do that I think we learned on Instagram as well.
I know for me I did. It was like how
you kind of talk to the newborn with the oldest
sitting there. So it's like if Rue wants my attention
to play, Hey dad, Dad, can we play Hide and Seek?
And I know I gotta do something with Scotti before
I play with Rue. And I'm trying to be conscious

(01:38:54):
about just telling Rue like Hey, I gotta de feed Scotty.
I can't play with you right now. Instead, I would
look to Scott and be like, hey, all right, we
can play hide and seek. I just got to tell
Scotty something that I look at Scotty. Hey, Scotty, when
I'm done feeding you, I'm gonna go have to play
hide and seek with your sister if that's okay with you.
So I'm kind of telling Scotty. I'm kind of saying
that in front.

Speaker 1 (01:39:12):
Of Rue, so Rue knows that, oh.

Speaker 2 (01:39:15):
Dad's gonna spend time with me, he just has to.
He's letting Scotty know he's got to play with me
before he plays, yes, dude, versus being like, I can't
play with you right now, I'll play with you after
I'm done feeding Scotty. Because then in their brain or
what I've tried, like learning or gathering, like in their
brain it's like, oh, I'm second fiddle to this new trial.
So that could build up some resentment like in their
brain because I, sweetheart, I can't play with you right now.

(01:39:37):
Let daddy. Daddy will play with you after I'm done
doing what I gotta do with Scotty. Instead, I'll look
at Scotty and explain what I'm gonna have to do
with Rue after I get done executing what I need
to execute with the new.

Speaker 1 (01:39:47):
Dude, that is some serious game.

Speaker 2 (01:39:49):
You like that?

Speaker 3 (01:39:50):
Yeah, dude, shout out Instagram, man, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:39:52):
Shout out Instagram. That's so sick.

Speaker 2 (01:39:55):
You're like, listen to the breakdown and you hear the
why behind it, and you're like, oh that that that
makes a lot of sense, yes, and how it could
come off to the child that doesn't know any better.
They're just hearing, no, I can't play with you right now.
I gotta do this with the newborn. And it's like, well,
you know, where's the time for me? You know what
I mean? And then I can build up some it
can build up whatever the resentment is. Like, really, the
only issue we have with the ruined Scotti is if

(01:40:17):
Rus just starting to break down and she sees Mom
say holding Scotty like it happened today on the on
the flight like Charo had, Scottie had the carrier and
she was shrapped to her chest, and ru was just
like having a little moments like Mom, I want you
to hold me. I don't want you to hold Scotty. Yeah,
so then you got to kind of, hey, I'll take
the baby so she can hold Rue and stuff like that.
But really that's about as much jealousy that we've seen

(01:40:41):
out of Rue. It's more of just like when Ruth's
having a moment and see Scotty being held, She's like,
I want you to hold me. I don't want you
to hold Scotty.

Speaker 1 (01:40:47):
It's very much the power. Forgot where I heard this
or read it, but the power of we, the power
of us, like using those types of terminology with like
co workers, even if it's a job that only you're
gonna be doing, but if you're saying it to your
coworker of like yeah, if we do that, yeah, that's
gonna work out great. I think that would be the

(01:41:08):
best option for us. It's like integrating we're a team. Yeah,
Like you're letting Rue know like, hey, we are playing
hide and go seek. That's a given. We just gotta
break it to this little thing over here. I love that, dude.
Yeah it's been Yeah, it's worked out. It's been a
good move for us.

Speaker 2 (01:41:26):
But that that's what I would That would be my
advice on going from one to two.

Speaker 1 (01:41:30):
Let's go and then we'll be reaching out to Thomas
in Chattanooga to get his address and he'll be receiving.

Speaker 2 (01:41:38):
Did we do a good job following up with our
callers from last week? Let's go chef.

Speaker 1 (01:41:43):
Yeah, so we and yes, our friends that do the
merch stuff. We have like a great doc that's all
put together. We're gonna be putting people's addresses into it.
We also you and I need to write some thank
you for those guys as well. That will be included
with so huge shout out to Thomas for reaching out.

(01:42:08):
We have another call from Stephen, Stephen Steven. Let's go Stephen.
This one might sting for you.

Speaker 5 (01:42:19):
What's up, boys, This is Stephen. I'm currently living in
Warner Robbins of Georgia, originally from the borough. When it
comes to kids, let's just talk about the bedtime routine.
My kids have had the same bedtime routine since the
dawn of time. Seven o'clock, they go lay down eight o'clock.

(01:42:42):
They're usually asleep by then. I feel that when it
comes time to put them to bed at seven o'clock,
it's not just oh, hey, go to bed, it's seven o'clock.

Speaker 2 (01:42:51):
No, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 5 (01:42:53):
My kids I have to put them to bed, so
I have to go in the room. I got to
make sure they're steiling fans on. I gotta turn on
the curtain lights. I gotta turn on their little box
van because we're from the South and we gotta have
two fans in our bedroom at all times. I gotta
cover them up and kiss them and tell them good night.

(01:43:13):
And all this time, they know they're gonna be thirsty.
They know they're gonna want water. Yep, my daughters have
a billion water cups. You know they got the o Wallas,
they got the Stanley's. Do you think they fill that
thing up knowing they want it before bed? Absolutely not.

(01:43:34):
So as I finish the routine, I kiss them and
tell them good night, I go to leave the room
and I hear can you fill up my a walla?
And the rage that fills up inside of me could
blow the roof off the building. Because they have known
since I started putting them to bed that they were

(01:43:57):
gonna be thirsty. Bedtime routine super important. But I know
I'm not the only one out there that gets frustrated
by it. And then I just sit here and think,
I just cannot wait for them to get older and
put themselves to bed, and I cannot wait until they
put themselves to bed. I got a twelve year old boy,
and I got three daughters, ten year old, eight year

(01:44:21):
old and a three year old. Well that's my story.

Speaker 1 (01:44:24):
Shout out to the boys.

Speaker 2 (01:44:26):
Have a good day. Steven from Georgia appreciates you calling in.
The first thing I would say, listen, I can tell
by your voice. I know you're in it right now.
I know you're in it, and you said the words
I can't wait until they can put themselves to bed.
But I need you just to pause for me, and
I need you to understand. All of us dads, all
of us parents. I have those thoughts many times throughout

(01:44:48):
the week, and I have to just remind myself that
one day, one day, we're going to be old, and
all of these kids are going to be out of
the house, and we're going to be own, lonely, and
we're going to be trying to talk to our wives
about the college football sked coming up, and.

Speaker 1 (01:45:00):
They ain't gonna want to hear it. They're not gonna
carry You're.

Speaker 2 (01:45:02):
Gonna be an empty nester and you're gonna wish that
you were back in this moment, hoping that you can
put your daughter to bed and she can annoy you
by saying, Hey, dadda, can you fill up my what
did he call it?

Speaker 3 (01:45:14):
The the a wala? That can you filla walla?

Speaker 2 (01:45:18):
You are going to miss that one day and we
both know that you're going to And I know as
I sit there and say this, you're like, God, damn it.
I know he's right because we all go through that shit.
We always get so mad when you get him to bed.
Hey dad, Dad, I'm hungry all of a sudden. It's like, buddy, rue,
that is why you had to eat your dinner. There's
no snacking. There's no snacking a night. We got to

(01:45:39):
set a precedent. We got to stand on business. Daddy,
Can I listen? I go through the waterface or we're
in the waterface, like Dad, that kind of have some water.
I'll already kind of have it filled up. But here's here,
Here would be some unsolicited advice that I would give
you before you enter that war room. Yeah, each night
is you lay out the expectation of bedtime and it

(01:46:02):
doesn't always go smooth. It doesn't.

Speaker 3 (01:46:04):
We know that it doesn't.

Speaker 2 (01:46:06):
But if you lay out the expectation like, Hey, we're
gonna have a good, clean, fun bedtime. We're gonna have
a consistent bedtime tonight. There's no problems.

Speaker 1 (01:46:15):
Does the heart need to turn black for bedtime? Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:46:18):
When when when you hear that door click, your heart
needs to turn black knowing that you have a mission
to accomplish that is bedtime, and you lay out the
expectations like, hey, we're gonna get your pjs on. Rush
will still wear a pull up. We're gonna get the pullup.

(01:46:38):
We're gonna get the pjs on. That's never That's hasn't
necessarily been a problem, unless she wants to go see
mom and give her a hug before bed. We're gonna
brush your teeth. Dad is gonna brush your hair. I'm
gonna start low on the hair, just like you like it.
We're not gonna We're gonna try to minimize as many
tangles as possible. I know, dads feel me on that.
It's kind of a learning curve when you're going through
brushing the air. You gotta start low, you gotta start

(01:46:58):
at the bottom.

Speaker 1 (01:46:59):
That's game.

Speaker 2 (01:47:01):
We're gonna get your pjs on. We're gonna read two
books because what you don't want to get into is
you get on a rhythm, you get in, you build
some momentum, because dads, I know we're all good storytellers
out there when we're hitting, when we're hitting the green
eggs and ham, we're hitting the you know, fancy, Nancy,
I'm reading Ziggy and the Three Little Pigs right now.

Speaker 3 (01:47:19):
Yes, they've hadded a fourth pig.

Speaker 1 (01:47:20):
Hungry hungry caterpillar.

Speaker 2 (01:47:22):
Hungry hungry caterpillar. You set the precedent with two books.
We're gonna read two books. We're gonna brush your teeth,
and we're gonna get in bed. And when we get
in bed, you better not be thirsty. If you need
a drink of water, you're gonna drink it before you
get You're gonna drink it before you brush your teeth. Now,
when you get to bed, they're still gonna want that water. However,

(01:47:46):
now that you set precedent and you set expectation, you
can look at them say, sweetheart, I have a water
bottle sitting over there right now. We're not gonna drink
this water long because Dad already told you that we're
not drinking water once we get in bed. Yeah, now
you go get them the water. They take a little
sip and be like that one's on the house. Next time,
it's gonna cost you. But you got to understand that

(01:48:09):
Dad said we weren't gonna have water. So that way,
it just starts to cultivate a behavior to where at
least they think twice about getting the water. And if
they do get the water, they're gonna keep it short.
They're gonna keep it sweet. That would be that would
be my advice.

Speaker 1 (01:48:24):
So don't don't have water living on the nightstand.

Speaker 2 (01:48:28):
So we started that way, okay, But when I knew
she was gonna get me for some water, yeah, I
would already have it kind of filled up. Yeah, and I.

Speaker 3 (01:48:36):
Wouldn't fill it up very much.

Speaker 2 (01:48:38):
When she's like I need more water, it's like, sweet art,
we both know you're gonna wet the bet if you
drink more water.

Speaker 3 (01:48:42):
Yeah, she might throw fin. I might end up getting
her more water.

Speaker 2 (01:48:45):
But what I try to set the expectation on is
this is all the water you have. You know when
it's gone, it's gone. So you can have your water
in the crib. I'll let you keep it in the
crib if you want to. But there's only like a
little bit of water in there, so she can utilize
the water if she wants to. She's trying to stay
she's trying to continue to stay up and find new things.
When she was younger, it would be she has to

(01:49:06):
tell the stairs a good night, she has to tell
the rail good night. Just tell all of her stuffed
animals good night. Yep, I gotta go tell this door
good night. You got to take them all around the
house to say good night to everything. But you realize
they're strategizing against you. They're negotiating to stay up longer.
It's all about setting expectations right from the jump, and
those expectations always they always.

Speaker 3 (01:49:27):
They won't go according to plan.

Speaker 2 (01:49:29):
However, you're setting expectations so that way when they get there, listen,
I'll get you out of bed. We can go say
good night to the world one more time at the window.
But whenever we say good night, we're not going anywhere else.
We're going in the bed. Okay. You make them say okay,
and when they say okay, you get them up. You
go over there when they say good night to the world,
Where do we go now we go to bed?

Speaker 1 (01:49:48):
Can I pitch you a plan really quick. Since I
have not gone through bedtime routine. Can you tell me
if this is a good plan? Yeah, I get daughter,
I get Scarlet. I say, hey, Scarlett, we're gonna go
get our night night water. It's the only water that
we're gonna get before night night.

Speaker 2 (01:50:04):
This is it.

Speaker 1 (01:50:05):
Let's go fill it up together. We go fill it up, Scarlett.
I know that you want to say nine night to
the stairs, to the railing. Let's go ahead and do that.
I'm holding her and she's got her water. We're telling
night night to all the stuff that we want to do.
I'm I'm knocking out all the things that she's wanted
to do with her before bet and after we do this,
we're going to bed. Let's sell the stuffed animals night night.
Let's sell the blah blah blah. Is that too much

(01:50:27):
to like feed into those little things that she's wanting
to do? Am I giving her too much of what
she wants?

Speaker 2 (01:50:32):
You won't know until she starts negotiating with you, and
then after a few days you're gonna understand what a
rhythm is and what is imperative is you don't go
one by one, is that you just lay out the
plan before it happens. So if it's we're gonna go
down and get water, we're gonna say good night to
the stuff, or whatever their cadence is.

Speaker 1 (01:50:52):
Yeah, yeah, we're.

Speaker 2 (01:50:53):
Gonna go downstairs and get water. We're gonna say good
night to the animals. And when we say good night
to the animals, after the last one, we're gonna get bed. Okay.
Once they say okay, they might want something else, and
they might be crying about something else. You gotta know
that you got to give them enough of what they're wanting.
But then you implement the expectation of bedtime. After that

(01:51:13):
second or third thing out of their list of five, Hey,
you're not getting all five. Here's the three that I'll
give you, because you know it's bedtime right now. Here's
the two or three that I'll give you. We'll go
do those things. But after that second or third one
we're now getting, we're gonna get back in bed. Okay.
Is that a deal? They'll say? Okay, So then you
start hitting the things. Where do we go to next bedtime?

Speaker 1 (01:51:35):
Two books?

Speaker 2 (01:51:36):
Yeah, I'm a two book guy. I'm a two book guy.
She'll get me up to three four every now, and
then sometimes you got to negotiate too. It'll be like
you might get two books and it's like I want
I want one more book, and they're not wanting to
go brush your teeth. Like hey, sweetheart, here's what we
can do. Let's brush your teeth. We'll get you in
bed and I'll read you one more book. They might

(01:51:57):
not want. They might want the book on the couch.
So again, you gotta it's gonna be instinct, it's gonna
be in the moment, but you're gonna have to give
to get some It's all about places. It's all about
setting the expectation. That's all I say. It's about setting
the expectation, laying out the expectation and getting them to say, okay,
getting them to think like, okay, that is a good deal.

Speaker 3 (01:52:17):
That's I can get those couple of things.

Speaker 1 (01:52:19):
Okay, I feel comfortable with that.

Speaker 2 (01:52:21):
Yeah, you'll rocket.

Speaker 1 (01:52:23):
I'm definitely like, just from the relationship of Jill and
I with our dogs, like I know that I'm gonna
have to be the disciplinarian, the one that's kind of
you know, setting that line and as our miss missus
Meek or doctor Meek is telling me and strong father's
shock daughters like, I'm gonna be driving the boat.

Speaker 2 (01:52:43):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:52:44):
So I'm I'm already just from my poor performance with
Ru and her sticker book of giving her exactly what
you wanted in the in the moment and given JJ
here in the office exactly what he wanted in the moment.
I'm just like, man, I gotta with Scar, I gotta
lock in. Yeah, my heart has to turn black at
some point. Yeah yeah, And dadas is gonna have to

(01:53:07):
step up and say no, no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 2 (01:53:10):
It's gonna go. You gotta know when you realize what
they want, you got to think in your mind, I'm
gonna give them what they want, but you have to
follow it up with what your expectation is going to
be after that and then get them to say okay,
and then when it happens, then then they know what
do we do next?

Speaker 1 (01:53:26):
We get in bed, are you ever doing story times?

Speaker 2 (01:53:29):
Like?

Speaker 1 (01:53:29):
Are you ever making stuff up? I feel like you'd be.

Speaker 2 (01:53:31):
Good at that. Uh. I will if I get the
light off and I'm laying next to her because she
loves when dadad lays next to her in bed at night,
So I'll like lay down by her crib because you know,
the low back. I'm not trying to like stand up
the entire time or sit sometimes they get so I'll
be like laying down on a pillow next to her crib.
If she wants another story, I'll just bet how about
Dadad tells you a story, and then I'll just I'll

(01:53:52):
just riff on something and tell her a story, usually
like something it's like a sports moment that happened back
in my that happened back in the day, oh yeah,
of myself, and I'll just make up a different character.

Speaker 1 (01:54:04):
Dude, I can't believe or I can't wait until she
becomes like aware of your playing background. That's gonna be fun.

Speaker 2 (01:54:12):
No, it'll be interesting because it won't mean shit to him. No,
it'll mean shit when it's cool.

Speaker 1 (01:54:16):
Oh oh yeah, like elementary time. Yeah, uh huh yeah yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:54:19):
Yeah, but that's yeah, I'll riff and do some story time.
I love reading the children's books because I love like
doing different voices, like she loves she would be on
a kick of like Beauty and the Beast, changing beasts voice,
like changing all the voices. I love doing that kind
of stuff.

Speaker 1 (01:54:33):
Oh dude, shout out Brett Burford that he was our neighbor.
He would sometimes he and his wife would babysit while
my dad and mom like went out to dinner, and
he would read us the o G. Harry Potters, which
miss Amy was not a fan of.

Speaker 2 (01:54:47):
My mom.

Speaker 1 (01:54:48):
Yeah, I don't think she knew that he was reading
us Harry Potter, but he would get into that hagrid
voice and get into that dumble Doore voice. Heah, I
still remember that. I'm thirty two years old and I
still just dine laughing wizard.

Speaker 2 (01:55:02):
Oh, stuff up.

Speaker 1 (01:55:05):
We have our topic quote.

Speaker 2 (01:55:07):
Or yes, dude, so mine is going to come from
let me find it. Mine is going to come from
The Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday. This book right here
highly recommend great one to half just on the dinner
table if you're eating every night, just a little breakup session, like, hey,
you want Data to read something out of his book.
She'll say yes, and then we'll read something out of

(01:55:28):
The Daily Dad. Three hundred and sixty six Meditations on Parenting, Love,
and Raising Great Kids by Ryan Holiday, a number one
New York Times best selling author of the Obstacle is
The Way in the Daily Stoic Big in the Stoicism
love Ryan Holiday's books, So we rock the Daily Dad
for dinner time.

Speaker 1 (01:55:46):
Shout out, going to one hundred and ten percent. I
see they went one day extra of a three hundred
and sixty.

Speaker 3 (01:55:52):
Yeah right, yeah, yeah, I can appreciate that.

Speaker 2 (01:55:54):
Yeah. But also it's a flex, like what are you
trying to just make an extra day?

Speaker 1 (01:55:59):
Come all right, come on?

Speaker 2 (01:56:03):
This this is one for man, I'm stuck between two.
This one's called just go to bed. So this is
for dads out there, and this is great for us
because we love staying up and playing pubg. A lot
of career guys out there, a lot of working dads,
a lot of working moms that stay up late and
sacrifice or sleep to stay up late doing whatever they're doing.

(01:56:24):
In our case, sometimes I'll stay up late playing a
video game or just doom scrolling.

Speaker 1 (01:56:29):
Because this is is he about to tell us not
to do that?

Speaker 2 (01:56:32):
Uh, he's not about to tell you not today. I'll
read it to you. I'll read it to you. Okay.
Here's a quote from Arthur Choppenhauer. Sleep is the interest
we have to pay on the capitol, which is called
in at death. The higher the interest rate and the
more regularly it is paid. The further the date of
redemption is postponed. All right here it is. You know

(01:56:54):
your kids are a mess when they don't sleep. That's
why you follow the bedtime ritual religiously. You know that
kids get into trouble at night if left to their
own devices. That's why your teenager has a curfew that
you enforce with an iron fist. And yet here you
are up late again, mindlessly watching TV. Here you are
tired in the morning again because you were uplate on

(01:57:14):
your phone. You could have gone to bed. You knew
you should have gone to bed, but you didn't. Who
suffers your kids do because you're grouchy, because you don't
have the energy, because you're behind, because maybe they even
sense that you're a hypocrite. If you want to be
a better parent, start going to bed earlier, Give yourself
a bedtime that you honor and respect and enforce, value sleep.

(01:57:36):
Take care of yourself and everyone else will benefit.

Speaker 1 (01:57:43):
That hits home. Dude, we do stay up. We are
we are too really bad.

Speaker 2 (01:57:49):
Yeah, we can be a couple times, definitely, those couple
nights a week that will stay up playing the video
game doesn't mean I'm gonna stop playing yeah, just means
that this is a great reminder that even when you
do stay up late, you're just aware that we are
doing it to ourselves. That almost makes I'll versus stand

(01:58:09):
up late your grouch. You're kind of pissing a moment
everybody you're making it. You're just in a bad mood
because you stayed up late, you feel bad about yourself
for doing it, and you're just more so projecting on
everybody else. Something like this right here just makes me
aware that I am doing it to myself, so be
aware and be intentional of it the next day. To know,
like if you if I am going off the rock

(01:58:30):
or a little bit, that it's only because I did
it to myself the night before. I that.

Speaker 1 (01:58:37):
Just inspired me as far as Pubgen nights go, because
now I know the cost, and it's.

Speaker 3 (01:58:44):
A cost that we will continue to pay.

Speaker 1 (01:58:45):
It is a cost, Like they know that we got
to be accountabilly buddies the next day, truly, which I
feel like we already kind of do at the office
those those next days, Like I pumped into my veins,
I'm like, I know what I did, yeah, and I'm
but I gotta show up this next day. And kick ass.

(01:59:08):
But I do love that message, just because as far
as work goes, I obviously don't have a kid yet,
but as far as work goes, do when I'm getting
that sleep, it's crazy how much better I'm operating and
so applying that to like, you know, being able to
have those conversations with my kids and my wife and
be more there, be more present. Yeah, that's a that's

(01:59:30):
a good learning Listen. Did you have another one?

Speaker 3 (01:59:32):
It's a good little reminder. I did have two.

Speaker 2 (01:59:33):
I might as well just read the second one says
right here. This one's called it's good that you worry
about this, a quote from Michael Ian Black. One great
thing about having kids is that they force you into
an active practice of love, whether you're ready for it
or not. The question hits you in a soft place.
It hits you when you least expect it, and yet
it's there constantly. Am I a good parent? Am I

(01:59:56):
screwing this up? Your own parents will try to reassure
you that every parent thinks this way, except that's not true.
There are, in fact two types of parents who never
think that. There are parents who are so convinced that
they're the center of the universe, that they never question themselves,
never wonder what they're doing wrong. Then there are parents
who don't even care enough to ask, although they are

(02:00:16):
very different. In the end, these two types of parents
are the same. They are not good parents. But you
the type who is always checking in and wondering am
I doing enough? Who actually cares about whether you're doing
a good job or not. You are, by definition, a
good parent because you are thinking about your kids first,
not yourself. It's proof that you care, that you have

(02:00:39):
self awareness, that you're always trying to improve, that you
would stop to evaluate your own performance, that it would
bother you to give anything less than the full measure
of your devotion is all the evidence you need to
reach a positive conclusion. So if you feel that negative thought,
that doubt come up today, be reassured. It means that

(02:00:59):
you're putting them first, and it means that you're doing
a good job. I like that a lot. Yeah, solid
one for solid one for parents. The it kind of
sucks to read there where he just says they're not
good parents, because I'm sure it's, like, you know, I
feel like every parent kind of thinks are wonders that
they're doing a good job or not?

Speaker 1 (02:01:20):
Of course, yes, everybody thinks about anything in their life,
not just parenting of like am I a good friend?
Am I a good husband? Am I a good employee?

Speaker 2 (02:01:30):
Yeah? I guess it's like a good m reminder or
shift in perspective of asking yourself like have I checked
in with the wife? Have I checked in with my wife?
Have I checked in with my kids? Have I checked
in with myself? To kind of measure performance whatever that
performance is. I don't think there is like a measuring
stick for it. Yeah, but if you're at least like
conscious of it enough to think like so, because we

(02:01:53):
don't know what our blind spots are unless we ask
people in our close circle, you know what I mean?

Speaker 1 (02:01:59):
Yeah, I know exactly what. But you man, it's something
that I'm already starting to think about with like the
everything that's coming up, and like the next three weeks
for me are about to be a whirlwind. It's about
to be crazy. Yeah, And I'm already starting to think
to myself about like still trying to prioritize Jill even
though Scarlet is going to be in the picture, and

(02:02:21):
like that's going to be our main focus no matter what.
But with postpartum depression and all the things that you
hear of like hey, is is Jill? Like am I
doing enough for Scarlet? But I am I also doing
enough to support Jill? And is Jill okay in this moment?

Speaker 2 (02:02:37):
You know?

Speaker 1 (02:02:38):
It's I feel like it's one of those things that
like the like we were talking about last week, when
you ask yourself you're like, man, I hope I'm going
to be a good dad. It's like the fact that
you're asking yourself that, or that you're wanting that, that's
already a good sign.

Speaker 2 (02:02:52):
Yeah, yeah, it's And if you're somebody out there thinking
of because I, like you said about like just you know,
making sure Jill's all right, if Jill's good, being on
the same page with Jill, it's like essentially asking your
wife those questions like you know, hey, am I doing enough?
What do you need from me right now? Or am

(02:03:15):
I operating how you would assumed if you could give
me a performance evaluation right now? And some of those
questions are some of those thoughts might be like scared
to have with your wife, Like if you're a dad
right now listening thinking to yourself like maybe I haven't
checked in with myself recently, or I haven't checked in
with my wife, and it could be like a frightening
thing because you might know what the answer is. You
almost just have to you almost have to lean in

(02:03:37):
and still seek those answers that you might not be
excited to hear. Because it's one thing that we talk
about all the time is like conflict delayed is conflict multiplied.

Speaker 1 (02:03:46):
Yeah, And so.

Speaker 2 (02:03:47):
If you don't seek out those answers and rip that
band aid off and kind of hear something that you
might not be ready to hear, it would be just
to open that door. It would be like, yeah, open
that door and face it and have those conversations, because
that's you know, right, like anytime like I might not
be doing something well enough, or when charl and I
are laying in bed and it's just as simple as

(02:04:07):
like you know, hey, what do you.

Speaker 1 (02:04:10):
Need out of me this week?

Speaker 2 (02:04:11):
Where it's like we should know that answer, but it's
almost allowing the space for that conversation to happen and
them to even say it.

Speaker 1 (02:04:19):
Out loud, or the fact that you're even asking yeah, yeah, yeah,
or like I feel like I fell short here and
you're seeking feedback whatever that might be.

Speaker 2 (02:04:30):
It's like all those conversations are important.

Speaker 1 (02:04:32):
I I one hundred percent have not checked in with
Jill like that. I'm trying to remember the last time
that I've done that.

Speaker 2 (02:04:40):
I really, yeah, and me intentionally, I don't. I'm not
thinking of the last time I actually did that charing
and I will do as you know, a couple's therapies.
So I feel like that stuff comes out when we're
sitting down talking about it, and sometimes you're.

Speaker 3 (02:04:52):
Just not you're not privy or you're not aware.

Speaker 2 (02:04:55):
It's like, oh, oh snap, I didn't know that you
know this was happening or this was in your mind.
And I can do a better job of seeking out
whether it's that information, her feelings in a certain situation.

Speaker 1 (02:05:09):
But yeah, dude, which I gotta get that dialed into
what couple therapy. That's another thing that Jill and I
did pre mariital.

Speaker 3 (02:05:19):
Yeah, the premarital counseling.

Speaker 1 (02:05:20):
Yeah, prepping for and it was awesome, dude, And I
like we every I feel like every two weeks we're like,
we gotta get that counselor thing set up. We got it,
you know with the therapists and national Yeah, I'll ask well,
I heard that he does couples.

Speaker 2 (02:05:35):
You know, Yeah, we love doing it. There are times
where I'm not necessarily sure we're going to talk about
going into it because I'm like, i feel like everything's
been going pretty smooth, and I'm not one of those
types who likes to just sit in like what we're
feeling in every moment. Yeah, you know what I mean.
You know, I'm like a guy's guy, I guess when
it comes to that. But I do enjoy I do

(02:05:56):
have a different perspective on therapy since doing it and
going to it, because I do feel like we get
a lot out of it because you have a third
party perspective that has zero bias toward either of our lives, Yes,
helping us kind of talk through what our differences might be,
and they're there to kind of help you zoom out
and see it for what it is, and you like
learn a different skill set of communication and like what

(02:06:18):
your triggers are and you you come to find out
you get some stuff off your chest that you might
have been feeling and you didn't necessarily know that you
were feeling. So I was really shaky on it at first.
At times, I'm not like the biggest fan of going
in and talking about all the emotions and the feelings
of everything. It's like, hey, we know we have to do.
Why sit in this for an hour of our time?
But every time we leave a session, we always feel like.

Speaker 1 (02:06:41):
A lot better one hundred percent. We always feel a
lot better one hundred percent. That got me stoked.

Speaker 2 (02:06:49):
That got me.

Speaker 1 (02:06:51):
Wanting to I know Jill's going to be asleep when
I get home tonight, but.

Speaker 2 (02:06:55):
It's fucking eleven thirty at night.

Speaker 1 (02:06:56):
Oh.

Speaker 3 (02:06:58):
I hope you guys have enjoyed it. We went a
little longer than.

Speaker 2 (02:07:00):
Even last week, but you guys said, hey, fucking just
let it rip, don't cut it short. Yeah, we like
the longer ones. Hopefully you guys do. Hopefully you guys
enjoyed this one. Shut out all the dads, man, shout
out everybody tune in, whether your mom or dad, somebody
just interested in parenting. Are you guys just like listen
to me and sure and talk about stuff like this.
We appreciate it, man.

Speaker 1 (02:07:20):
We appreciate it. Shout out the guy that say he
sits on a tractor and he said make it three hours. Yeah,
the chapter all, yeah, did you see that one?

Speaker 3 (02:07:27):
No, I did not see that one, but I am
laughing like I did hear that one.

Speaker 2 (02:07:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yea yeah all right for the dads,
that's fucking take out the trash boys. Come on, yeah
that was.

Speaker 1 (02:07:41):
Was that on purpose? No, I just flipped that's tune
a round. That's great, SOD. Tell my wife a probably
ten thirty

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