March 11, 2025 • 42 mins
Brittany Brave is a NYC-via-Miami based comedian, actress, writer, producer and host who’s been seen on TBS, MTV, Quibi, The Wendy Williams Show, SiriusXM and featured in The New York Times, ELLE, Ashton Kutcher’s A-Plus, TimeOut New York, Entrepreneur Magazine and more.
In 2023 Brave was named Best Comedy Act by TimeOut Miami, in 2021, Best Comedian by the Miami New Times, in 2019, named Best New Comic at the NY Comedy Festival and Caroline’s on Broadway and in 2017 an Emerging Talent by TBS Network.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Choosing between lover your career.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Your career won't wake up and tell you it's not
in love with you anymore or something. And it's like,
always been one of my favorite quotes. But I mean
I do I am like, I do have that. Oh,
but I think I want kids and then I'm like,
god do I.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Welcome to ghost therapy, where it's not just about connecting
with deceased loved ones, it's about learning through them and
their new perspective. Hi, guys, welcome to ghost therapy. This
is about up Brosa. Thank you so much for being here.
(00:36):
One more episode, So so happy. I want to tell
you about our guest today. She's Britney Brave. I love
that last name.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
By the way.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
She's a host, she's a writer, she's an actress, she's
a producer, she is everything. People like her really truly
inspire me. I love that she came with such an
open heart, listening and you know, trying to make sense
out of everything I told her. I really loved this
lesson that her guides gave her that was about people pleasing.
(01:12):
I mean, we're all people pleaser sometimes, aren't we, Maybe
at a certain age or maybe we're not maybe you know,
good for you if you're not.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
I was always a people pleaser and.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
It was such a beautiful message what they gave her.
At least they gave her that, and I took it
for myself too. There are a lot of things on
ghost therapy that, even though we're listening to them for
somebody else, we can take from that advice and use
it in our own life.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
So here's Britney Brave. I hope you enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Okay, there's a situation or an incident. I don't know
if it's close to these days or was it in
the past, but they're like you left unexpectedly like this esperala,
you know, and then and there was no need, No
one wants to really harm you.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
You're getting it wrong. Does this make sense to you.
It's it's something about you leaving.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Somewhere or somebody, or it's just like a decision that
you made just a little bit too prematurely. That is fine,
it's fine that you made it. It's just like, don't
think that they're out to get you, or don't think
that they're gonna harm you.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I could think of something, and probably a few someones,
but there's there's one. There's one in particular in somewhat
recent history.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I think that would be the recent one.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
So first, very accurate. Yeah, fine, like read me for filth.
In the first two minutes of this, it's like, okay, whatever.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Just take take everything out and.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's I thank you for translating, but like, yeah, I
agree in Spanish and in English I agree, yes, yes, yes,
let me carry you a little bit more.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I'm going to add to that is I feel that
when you were in that something, you were a very
people pleaser, and that that did not help or that.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
Did not that you somehow.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It's like we're all people pleasers, of course, and especially
in the industry, but it's something you know that affects you.
It's like you have to understand that if it's not
if it's not what it is, and I don't know
how to explain it, like you shouldn't really care, you know,
but part of it, a lot of it is you
(04:08):
trying to be not trying.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Is you being a people pleaser?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Okay, okay, yeah, I could see that with the Something.
That was the first thing that popped up when you
said I mean, I'm sure I could think of other instances,
but I could see something this year that I walked
away from that I had the thought I walked away
from too early, Like even if walking away was inevitable,
I could have stayed a little bit longer. But on
(04:33):
the people pleasing route, Yeah, it didn't feel like it
aligned with me or I kind of felt like I
was making myself smaller.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
By being there and by doing that.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So I think that that kind of probably accelerated me
leaving the way that I did.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But I had regret over leaving as early.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
As I did, even though I knew leaving and departing
was inevitable long term, I did have some regret in
the six three to six months after or that I
was like, why was I so hasty?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Why did this have to happen the way that it did?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, so I can see that, yes, yeah, And just
so you know, and I know you know this in
your heart is there's a green light on it, like
there's a check. You know, it's like you did the
right thing, and you know it was just like, you know,
maybe I believe that what they're telling you is kind
of like next time, don't do the same kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
But there, Yeah, I break the pattern. But they're they're
validating as you did.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
The right thing. We just need to show you what
the lesson to be learned was. Okay, okay, okay, okay, awesome,
thank you for the feedback. Okay, I have I.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Don't know if this is like a father or if
it's boyfriend or but it's like a male energy that
they want to tell you that his love still matters.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
He said, it still matters, and if you're up for it,
go for it.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I feel like mend it or something about you. I
feel like you go like this, like ah whatever, like
a wall and it's but it still matters to you
and you can do something about it.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
I don't know why. I feel like it's a father thing,
but it could be, you know, maybe a boyfriend or something.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
It could be my father. I still have my father
with me.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Oh good.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I do think our relationship has gotten better as I've
gotten older, but there's still a little distance there. There
always is. I'm like much closer to my mom. I
will say that, but in the boyfriend's sense about the
love still mattering, and tell me if I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oversharing too much or whatever.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
But I haven't had a boyfriend in about six years,
I haven't had anything really like significant commitment exclusive. I've
had connections some very strong, albeit brief or or on
and off. My last relationship was very profound and that
it was like my first real relationship, but it was
(07:10):
also very abusive.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
So I think hearing.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
That the love still matters is that's actually like a
message that I've carried with myself despite the darkness around
that relationship. I've had to remind myself that there was
still love there and that love still matters. So that, yeah,
that resonates. And I do have a lot of walls
that I think I think I've done a good job
(07:34):
at bringing them down somewhat predominantly.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
But you know, you know, and.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
And like you said, like they're probably telling you, hey,
you know, love still matters in your life. There is love,
like it's still something that you can grab onto, you know,
like maybe you're you were done with love or whatever,
and this is a way of, I don't know, I
feel like it's a way of don't push it out. Okay, Yeah,
(08:01):
so you know, so maybe because there's still there's always
someone that makes you know, not want to do.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
It again, right, Yeah, And I mean I'm I think
he that relationship exacerbated some of my walls and also
put a mirror up to those walls. And I think
now in the sixth year, since it ending six years
since me walking away, it's probably the first time that
I feel like I'm really ready to pull the walls
(08:30):
down completely right and and work on receiving I guess,
and there was there was somebody who was There was
also another connection somewhat even more recently that would did
not include exclusivity, but was incredibly intense and said walls probably.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Push when it's Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
If it wasn't exclusive, I'm glad the the walls went up,
you see what I'm saying. Yeah, because that's just a
recipe for disaster at one time or the other, for
a disaster.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah, yeah, Yeah, I would think that you were smart
to do that.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, but you know, now you can recognize a little
you know, what's good and what's wrong, what's bad, and
what you really want and what you don't want.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
I still think I left that situation prematurely as well.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Not my ax, my ex obviously that you know, was
a different situation, but that situation in particular also is
I think the situation. I still, like you said, check
Mark green Light, good vibes, made the right choice ultimately,
but I did feel with him as well too that
I left very hastily, defensively and prematurely.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
So so now so we found the past.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, we found we found the fight or flight that
we have been fighting for our entire lives to fight
fight And maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
They're they're like giving you examples. Remember this, remember.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
This, when you did it again, You did it again,
and you did it again.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Tendency to do that.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, it's the tendency one undred person. Is there something
about do you in your job or or maybe in
your hobby? I don't know, but I see you writing
a lot writing And this is really weird because it
says they're saying writing and erasing.
Speaker 4 (10:24):
Does that make sense to you?
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
I yes, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Writing is a big part of my job and I
communications is a big part of what it is I do.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, yeah, got it.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Thank you for the confirmation, because they want to tell
you something. They said, when it comes to your writing,
the erasing part was actually the important thing that they
want to talk about. I don't know, if you're very
like you doubt yourself, and then you go back and
then you doubt. They're like, oh my god, like you
(10:56):
are genius, you are so good at what you do.
Why are you erasing? And then like going back and forth,
back and forth. Make the freaking decisions. Go with it
and you'll see that it'll be fine. But so much
doubting yourself for a second guessing makes it kind of
I feel like the mojo goes down.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah, getting in my head gets in the way of
what I do specifically, okay, okay, and yeah, yeah, thinking
maybe having a little more faith in the things.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
That I write and come up with as well. Yeah, yeah,
and I've been.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
It's like faith in yourself that you're doing correctly. Yeah,
you see what I said, Because the erasing part, it's
like by the time they show me this, by the
time you're done with something, it's like what in the hell,
Like that wasn't the real that wasn't the original idea.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
They're like, do what you want, like, write.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
It all, write it all out, and then maybe go
back and see what works. But they're like, it's too
many second guests.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, yeah, it's a I mean and I think that
that's an.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Intrinsic thing in what I do specifically, okay, but it
obviously can be a hindrance for sure. And on a
micro level, there's been some new things that I've written
that I haven't had, like very recent in micro that
I haven't had the confidence to lean into. So I've
leaned into ivy raced or leaned into older things. And
(12:33):
also on a more profound scale, there are things that
I have desperately wanted to put pen to paper on
that could be career changing or just very profound, and
I have yet to do it because of this like
resistance that I feel that I'm not good enough er
it's not going to ever really happen or it's not
going to get made, or worse, it's going to get
(12:54):
made and it's not going to be what I think
it is.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
So the need to write feels like a herd almost.
It's okay, right right, There's certain things that.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Are very profound that I thought about writing and that
I need to write, and I have procrastinated horrifically on.
There's no deadline, there's no deadline for them. It's not
like I'm but I'm like one of my.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Just going because it's yours, right.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Do it and write it and make it.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Do it.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Yeah, And I'm going to talk about that because they
want to talk about what you said, like what you
want to write. This is very weird because usually everything's
positive here, like there's no negative connotation on anything.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
But they say.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
You really They're like, you really need to go dark
on this one. Does that make sense?
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Okay, and makes too much sense actually, yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
And what they say about that is like, there's there
is there isn't going to be a problem. You can
go dark, go deep, whatever, and come back.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
You're fine.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Don't be afraid of going there and then not be
able to come back. Okay, and I do see it happening.
But let me give you a little bit more specific.
They mentioned something about you're always surrounded by people. Does
this make sense, like there's.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
Always something that you have to go on?
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, So they're they're kind of they're going, listen,
you gotta get all that out, all those people out.
You gotta be alone with yourself, because that's what's kind
of I feel like being around people makes you feel safe,
and then it's like, oh no, no, I'll do it
(14:40):
some other time.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
I'll do it some other time. No, no, right now.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No, it's like really program yourself and be like I'll
be two days, no phone, no anything by and.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Then go into it.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Because I feel like there's just too much around you
that makes noise and doesn't let your mind kind of silence.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
I couldn't really say that.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Yeah, people are definitely very involved in what it is
I specifically do.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yeah, oh okay, okay, cool, cool.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So that's why there they're so insisting on you being
alone alone, like alone with your.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Thoughts and my What I do specifically is it requires
being around a lot of people often all the time.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
And yeah, I'm sure you're probably getting a little bit
of maybe what it is I do.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
But I see you on a stage, but like I
see you on a small stage. I don't know if
that makes sense, like not a like rolling Stone State,
but like a like.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
A lower stage something like that. Is that? Do you
do theater or I do comedy? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, okay, okay, yeah, and yes, so writing is definitely
a part of what I do, and I've been.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
I don't make sense, okay, Okay.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Writing is what I do. I'm often in front of
lots and lots of people.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I'm often around lots and lots of people after the show,
and I've had the thought in the last couple of
months that I could probably afford to scale back on
the amount of time I spend on stage because I've
spent so much time on stage and that I could
I've had the thought to scale back on that, to
folk to write and to quiet my mind, like if
(16:21):
I could afford to not say yes to every live
performance in front of people, if it means storing that
energy to like write those things that have been And
in terms of going dark, I had shared this idea
to make this with the person I would want to
make this with, and my specific words to him were,
I want, I want to I don't want to hold
back with this. I was like, I want it to
(16:43):
be gory, and it needs to be intense, and it's
going to be like NC seventeen and it needs to
be it needs to be a very accurate, realistic, albeit raw,
hard depiction of what.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
It is I want to tell.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
And the person that I have no filter, well, the
person I would want to collaborate with on it, that's
kind of their specialty, and they were like a thousand
times yes, so yeah, but.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
Now you know what you need to do.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Maybe today was for something, you know, to give you
a little pushy procrastinator.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Write it already.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Just see, you're not gonna make it and put it
out there unless you just write it.
Speaker 4 (17:21):
So yeah, right.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
What I and what I take from this message also
is that don't be worried about losing your place in
the world when when you go down here to write,
everything's going to remain the same. You're going to be fine.
And when you were telling me that about you're on
stage a lot and you don't say no to anything,
I kind of took it that way, like like saying,
it's okay, if you say no to three, you're going
(17:45):
to go down here deep and then you can get
up there again. It's not like you're going to lose anything.
So I kind of interpret it that way, But you
interpret it better. No, that's your life. But I feel
that's it.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Yeah, yeah, And I.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Think that's you know, tapping into that darkness and being
able to come back from it too, because it is,
you know, I feel removed from it, but I also
feel like I carry it with me all the time,
so it's accessible and it's there.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
But it's going to take work to get into it.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
So then sometimes I wonder if the resistance is maybe
some deep seated fear to get out that I won't
be able to get out.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Or totally yeah or something.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
Yeah, yeah, I would imagine that totally.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
So maybe this is what you needed to hear, you know,
to know that everything's going to be fine.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Go do it, you know, go yeah for sure. Okay,
thank you, thank you for that input.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Okay, there's something about this is not mental health, but
it's something about you. I think this is more like
around the house, not not like the work stuff, not
finishing things, not going through with things. And then it
(18:58):
kind of they want to you like it's fine. Just
it's like just do one thing and everything is gonna
be fine. It's like lots of things that I don't
know if you want to do lots of things, it's
like you're and then you end up not doing anything
because you get anxiety about doing it. Okay, So that's
(19:20):
kind of that that little circle. And they're like take
one freaking thing, like today I'm going to whatever, I'm
gonna paint a wall. Okay, paint the wall, and that's
all and applaud yourself for doing it, and then the
rest can wait.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
It's like everything can wait.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
You have to learn that because you're you're not letting
yourself be your best self because of that little site.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah it makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah, probably in work as well too, but definitely at
home and then ending up not getting anything done because
I feel like I have to do it all and
it all has to get done immediately, and then not
trusting myself that if I don't like not trusting myself
that if I don't get it done.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Today, I know I'll forget, I'll let it go, it
won't get done.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
But I mean, I've also struggled with this problem legitimately
my entire life. Like my mom has probably said a
million times, like do one thing and just do less
is more. Do one thing and do it. Well, you're
trying to do too much, you're trying to do That's
been like a chronic issue, and I do feel that
restlessness at home, Like whenever I am home, I'm like I.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Have to pay these bills and do these things and cleanness.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Out and do that, and then then I do I
had the thought before I even got on this, I
was like five minutes late, and I was like, Okay,
why I've done.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Nothing all day? What am I doing? Like yeah, like
nothing like good enough?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, Like you know, like I'm like, do I have
adult ADHD?
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Or like where does this restlessness come from?
Speaker 3 (20:55):
So I think that sounds like something like that. Remember
I told you it it's not mental health, but it's
it has something with ye to do with your with
your head that.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
It's let not like you don't want to, it's like
you can't.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yeah, oh totally you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
Yeah, so maybe it is something around there.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I thought about it, and it's like I think, like,
you know, my job and social media and stuff. But
recently I thought about it and I was like, why
am I suffering with this? Like this could be something
that like I need medication for or help on or
something like.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
It doesn't I didn't never thought of myself as having.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Like ADD or ADHD, but you can't develop it later
in life.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And sometimes when I'm like how did I miss this?
How did I forget this?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
How did I not put this in my calendar that
still hasn't gotten done, like and then I'm like, totally,
this is like I need help, Like there's a reason
I keep doing this.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
So yeah, that does resonate.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
And there and there is because while I'm telling you this,
it's like.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
I never say anything, but I'm gonna say it, like
I take this and I'm gonna keep it too, Like
this what they're telling you, because well, I have A
and I also have FIBROMYALDA, depression and anxiety.
Speaker 4 (22:04):
I have all that.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Shame girl, o CD generalize anxiety disorder vertigo.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
Oh woweah all vertigo.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
Yeah OCD. I had it when I was a child.
To your mom medicated me and but she took me off.
She's like, we'll find a way, you know, because I
was like, oh like this, and yeah, in.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
My early years as a toddler, I was incredibly OCD.
And I would tell my mom, I'm having weird thoughts
and I can't stop thinking about these things and how
do I get.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
My thoughts out of my head?
Speaker 2 (22:33):
And my mom was like, they're just thoughts, They're just thoughts,
Like they're just like just yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
If I don't touch this three times, I'm gonna die.
And then I had to touch everything through to oh
yeah I do that sometimes and when I talk about
it, it comes it comes.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Back, and I still do it as an adult sometimes,
like when I put eyeshadow on, I'm like, I have
if I put four strokes here, I have to put
four strokes here, or little yeah, oh.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
My god, yes yes, yeah, yes.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
So maybe like I don't know, maybe try maybe go
to a doctor and say, look, is this manageable? Or
maybe I could take a little bill that can help
me organize myself. And until I learned like little ways
to manage my life and then you go off for me,
you never know. But there is a lot of people
like a laid in life add happening.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah that it almost feels like it's the same problem
I've had my entire life. It's just taken on new
forms depending on Like when I was younger, it was
this severe OCD, but that's what made me such a
good student and like excel at everything, you know, and
then now it's kind of evolved into like ady D
kind of like it's the opposite where when you try
(23:43):
to right right and try to exceed like that and everything,
and now you're like, oh wait, I'm doing nothing and
I can't focus, so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Right, and I keep doing nothing and then I go
to bed and I you know, now.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I have a spirit question telling me to get to it.
That's what's happening.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
Get your ass off of the couch and just do it.
Find a solution.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, for your for your well like
for your well being.
Speaker 4 (24:08):
You know, that's like what they see you.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
They're always with you, and they see you and they
know what's happening.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
So that's why.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
They tell you what you need to know, not what
you want to know, but you need to know this.
So I'm glad they told you that you already.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Knew, but that was a nice reminder.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
They're giving you tips. Yeah, I'm a nice reminder. Okay,
here we go. I do see they want me to
tell you that. They're like, tell her that what's next
is and they show me like a stack of papers
like this big. I feel like it's like a movie
(24:46):
or like a you know, like a script thing. I
don't know if you're into that or not, but they're like,
this is this is going to change your life. It's
gonna advance. I feel like your career, you're just everything
you do. So they're like, this is the next part
of yours, this is the next time Okay, and it's
(25:08):
a really thick script.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
So I'm thinking, you know, it could be like a
series or you know, it's okay, and they wanted to
know that it's okay, go for it. You're gonna go
for it, you know how. It's like they're telling you you.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
Got this, okay, you got okay, Okay, now you got
this okay, So don't be afraid.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
And if you do have some of these ideas, go
for it.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
The specific, the specific thing that I needed to write
would be a script.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Oh, the one, the dark one.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Around me, the thing that I've and it's like some
people have said book, but the book doesn't feel right.
It's always felt like movie.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
But that specific thing about writing and dark and everything
has the thing that's been looming is a movie script.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Oh so there you go. That's your next chapter. Yeah,
there you can. That's what that's when you need to do. Okay.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah, it doesn't sound like a book because it's not.
It's just paper, no, you know, covers or anything. I
see like a script.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
So yeah, yay ya, yay, Okay.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Yes we do, Yes, we do. I'm so happy for you.
Good good good Okay. On a lighter note, they're kind
of smiling. Now, I feel like they really needed to
talk to me, like they really need to go deep
on stuff. And now that the energy is kind of
like lighter, it's moving a little bit better. Let me
(26:41):
tell you something because they're like, now let's laugh. Like
I feel like enough of course you're a comedian. It's like,
now let's laugh a little bit. Okay, let me see
what's you don't have any kids, right, They're like and
like they set them for something funny. They're like, you
(27:04):
are so better off. You're gonna be so happy without kids.
Don't even sweat it. Don't even think like oh I
should have or I They're like, don't regret, be happy,
and they're like, believe me, you'll enjoy life.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Okay something like that.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
Okay, maybe later on or something like that. But they're like,
I mean, you can go ahead and have your kid
if you want. That's how they see your life, and
they see it like in a very prosperous way and
just like a very happy way.
Speaker 4 (27:37):
So there's no regret.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
So not missing out on not having those traditional things
right now.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
My mom tells me that all the time too, which
also half.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Hurts my feelings. She goes. Whatever you do, don't get
married and have kids. And I was like, I'm slightly
offended by what you just said.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
But okay, okay, married, yes, because married you can marry
your best friend and it's gonna be awesome and you
can do shit together and it's fine.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
But a kid, how old?
Speaker 1 (28:04):
Thirty three?
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Okay? Oh? Standing?
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (28:08):
I had my net forty Yeah, so she's five and
I'm forty five. It's like I don't have it in
me anyone, you know, It's like.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
What did I do? It's like I waited too long?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Now if I feel that I always used to.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I was pretty sure that I wanted kids, which was
interesting when I was younger and I was so certain
I wanted kids and marriage, And as I've kind of
gotten older and into my career, maybe.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
It's attached to the career. Probably, I don't know if
I have that desire.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
But it's interesting that that message came in because as
a thirty three year old woman, it does linger you
do wonder like am I missing out on? Should I
start focusing on I do? Do I want those things?
I think I want those things? Am I behind in
my life? Because I'm so far from those things. So
(28:58):
it's a natural you know.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Right, it's natural for us to think that because that's
what they make us think. But I believe that. I've
always said, like, you can also marry your career and be.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
So happy because what happens is.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
That when you have a child, your career suffers so
much and your way of life and you're you're stepping up,
stepping up, and then it all falls down. So that
when you have such a big love for your career,
I believe that that's super valid. Yeah, you know it said, No,
I love my career and that's what really makes me happy.
(29:34):
How do I know if a child is going to
make me happy? Since I that I don't have one,
I don't know, but this, Yeah, so I'm sticking to
what I know, and I'm sticking to what I love,
and that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
One of my favorite quotes is from Lady Gaga where
she says, if you're choosing between love or your career,
your career won't wake up and tell you it's not
in love with you anymore or something. And it's like
always been one of my favorite quotes. But I mean,
I do I am, like I do have that Like, oh,
but I think I want kids, and then I'm like,
(30:06):
god do I like, you know, I'm on planes a
lot for work, so when they're screaming and crying, I'm
like where they fit? And I'm like, I'm really annoyed
right now, but that could be my life.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
And then then I feel this guilt for not wanting it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
But then I'm like, what's what if I do have
a kid and then all of a sudden I have
this like.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Postpartum person Yeah, it's a real thing. And then you know,
like I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
And that lasts a long time.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Yeah, and then I have been thinking about like freezing
my like just in case I want them, so I
have the option.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
That could be too.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
That could be too because maybe later on in your
life you're like.
Speaker 4 (30:45):
I don't know, you marry a millionaire or something like that.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
You know, like, okay, I get him the millionaire from.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
Work a little bit, you're the millionaire.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
I'm the man.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
No good good no.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
But you can choose your projects, true not, you know,
the hustle is different.
Speaker 4 (31:03):
But then what happens is that.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Because kind of this happened to me, I'm an actress
in a in a TV host. I've always been, but yeah,
in Telemundo and all that stuff, and I kind of
stepped off because for my husband, and so now I
feel like before it, since I was a starving actress
or whatever at some point, that's when you hustle.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Oh yeah, but when you can't, when you.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Don't have to hustle, it changes.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Something dies, and it does.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
It does.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I got that advice early in my comedy career where
I was so clinging onto my pr business and certain
gigs and clients, and another comedian said, you have to
let it go and kind of not be afraid to be.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
Broke and starving for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
And that was so like new to me and foreign
because I've always had this fear of money and this
fear of security and this fear of probably also a
fear of wealth at some point too. But he had
kind of said to me, he was like, something will
change when you're doing this to feed yourself. And when
you're doing this, it's like your brain chemistry changes.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
So you're it's so cutthroat, it's so like what am I?
Speaker 4 (32:15):
I have to go? Right?
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Yeah, So it's interesting, but yeah, I mean, so you
never know you're right.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
The hustle does change.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Yeah, the hustle does tant but but it does at
the same time, it does give you like creativity spaces
and stuff like that, you.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
Know, freeze them, we'll see if not, donate them.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
That's good to know because it's like, you know, I
am thirty four in a couple months, and like it
is crossing my mind, like should I start focusing.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
On building a family a little more?
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Like should I be putting this on higher up on
my priority list in the event that I do want
these things? And do I feel a little behind? Is
my life so lopsided towards my career too much? Like
that's been a co So that's affirming to hear. Now, girl,
pull out.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
Now, girl, you're doing fine.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Get back on birth control. You're doing fine.
Speaker 4 (33:09):
No, kids, you're doing fine.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
Yes, yes, And they say it with like a smile.
So this is all like a positive kind of thing
instead of being like oh, no kids, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
You're good. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
Do you have any questions about anything more about future endeavors?
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I am remiss to ask my here's my cliche moment
that I have to ask, So please, I do want
to ask about love or connection as I mean, I
feel like some like I always have felt like my
career is much more in control and health for the
(33:49):
most part, Like you know, you have more control over.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Those things necessarily than you do.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
You still have control when it comes to romance and connection,
but obviously that's a little bit more right like fate
and timing and any factors that are outside. So I've
always felt very in control of my career and confident
that I can like steer it where I want it
to go.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
It's interesting to say, try your best. I have a
couple of thoughts on that too, But I.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Am curious about like love and connection just because it
has been six years since having something very very significant,
and they're have been people in between that have been
profound and significant and intense and have shaped my healing
journey and who I am.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
But I guess I do have a like And I.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Don't even want to put a title on. It's not
even like the next boyfriend or the next one. It's
just like, what are we seeing in terms of like,
is there anyone? And if there's not, it's totally okay.
It's someone coming in? Is someone not?
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Like I don't care what the answer is. I'm not
afraid of.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
It just as long as it right.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
Yeah, because I don't feel like I'm operating from like
a scarcity thing with it either.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
But it is like I'm.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
So interested in seeing, like what that part of my
life looks like in the next X.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
Amount of time, Like in the next.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Sure, yeah, maybe they'll be fine. Now I don't know, Okay,
five five.
Speaker 4 (35:09):
Is a little bit more realized. I yess, just like
a little disclosure.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
We are not allowed to talk about give you your future
as towards when it comes to love, or we're not
allowed to see when you're gonna die, but we're not
allowed to see like, oh, you're going to meet a
man at this and he's gonna be like this. And
it's very rare that that information comes through because just
(35:37):
a little explanation. The whole love thing is very much
lesson like life lesson and I can and we're not
allowed to give you like a little peak at your
life lesson because all of it, the whole process is
what makes you stronger, what makes you better, what makes
you worse, and that's your life. So having that said, uh, I'm.
Speaker 4 (36:02):
Going to ask and let's see what we can see.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
I totally understand, and I wasn't asking like how tall
is he? How bigwig?
Speaker 4 (36:11):
No?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
No, I know you were not much just like aware
is that part of my life and healing going?
Speaker 4 (36:18):
You know?
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Yeah that baby, Like if you're ready and you haven't
noticed it.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Or there's something on it like that I still need
to ye.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Or yeah, okay, here we go. Okay.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
When they when they I put the word love here,
you know, let's you know, what is it. First of all,
they use the word radical, like I think that you're
very radical. I don't know in what sense, okay, but
that's the word. And then they they say pushy. I
could see, yeah, yeah, I could see okay yeah. And
(36:54):
then she said, try to kind of like imagine a
situation where you're living together or you're together and you're
working over there and he's working over there. You're kind
of separate, doing your own thing, and then but you're together, okay.
And then this is kind of something like very very important.
(37:17):
I don't know why, but it's.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
Like giving space but at the same being together. And
I transition to this because he says, if he wants
something unconventional, don't think you can handle it, because you can't.
So only like the.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Filter for you is like when you meet somebody, the
filter is you want to have like non exclusive or
you want you know, for forever, not getting married, you
live in your house, all those things that sound cool
right now or sound like, oh like an independent woman
(37:56):
kind of thing. They're like, no, no, no, you're like you know,
you're you're very conventional. You are you have values, you
have that bring you. We were brought up, you know,
the old fashioned way. Don't try to change yourself for
that person and be like I'm gonna try to be
cool and I'm gonna yeah, let's go.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
With the flow. No no, no, no no, have them
meet your mom, have them, you know, take you out,
have them paid, Like that is your red flag as
to get out.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
They're like all these unconventional things. It's like, stop thinking
that you're cool in that sense and just do you know,
do it. It's just they're like only except the the
the calmness of it all and the the the right thing,
do the right thing that feels good in your heart,
(38:49):
like a warm heart.
Speaker 4 (38:51):
That's it. If you have another question before.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
We close up anything else, you see I.
Speaker 4 (38:58):
See good, I see clear paths.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
I see I see kind of like changes that are
kind of.
Speaker 4 (39:11):
It's not gonna go up right here, or you're like
like this type of change.
Speaker 3 (39:15):
It's kind of like like this and then it's gonna
go up. So it's kind of I feel like it's keep.
Speaker 4 (39:21):
Doing what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
You're doing it well, but work on the next step
while you're doing what you're doing well. Right, Okay, So
nothing's gonna change nothing. It's gonna be great. You're gonna
be making money and everything. But for sure, I do
see that script, and I do see it in a
way that's not just in your hand.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
You see what I'm saying. It's like, yeah, turning it in.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
Oh wow, yeah, finally getting it on and turning it in.
Speaker 4 (39:51):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
So go deep, go dark, doing the damn thing.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
As the kids says, yes and and and it's and
it's gonna it.
Speaker 4 (40:00):
It's I see like a lot of.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Like a lot of yellow, like a lot of green money, white,
your all your your path looks right gold white.
Speaker 4 (40:15):
So whatever you're doing, you're doing great.
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Okay, we love it. Okay, we love it.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
I'm just gonna say goodbye to your spirit guides and
tell them to go to the light where they belong.
And I think everybody around here that was here in
the reading that assisted thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
Yes, tell them, I say thank you, and I love them.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
And keep doing what they're doing, and they're with you
all the time. They're in my will. I love their words.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Continue being honest with me, continue.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
Yell at me, like give me like a gray hair
if I don't write the script gray hairs and wrinkles
like whatever.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
A sign, a sign the next time A fuck.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
Boys like I don't want marriage and we're going to
be open and I'm going to see thirty other girls.
Speaker 1 (41:05):
Just just tell them to.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
Be it's not worth it because it's people that take
your energy away, take your time away, take your focus away,
and for what for nothing? No, no, let's find some purpose.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Let's find some purpose with everything.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
But you know, I think, yeah, definitely in denial with
myself over being I am more traditional than what I
give myself credit for. And I joke about it in
my act like I'm not a chill girl. Like I'm
not a chill like and I'm never going to be
chill and like the chill and like the sooner that
I accept that.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
You know exactly, Yeah, that you're an old fart.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah's all right, and that's okay.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
And I can do that some conditional stuff for a second.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
But at the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Like when I was raised by happily married to parents, monogamous,
you know, traditional good family structure, that will be what
I returned to.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
I just have to just believe that I deserve it,
and that it's coming.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
Exactly and that it's that it's out there. You're doing great.
Thank you so much. Thank you, bye bye, thank you.
M
Choosing between lover your career.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Your career won't wake up and tell you it's not
in love with you anymore or something. And it's like,
always been one of my favorite quotes. But I mean
I do I am like, I do have that. Oh,
but I think I want kids and then I'm like,
god do I.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Welcome to ghost therapy, where it's not just about connecting
with deceased loved ones, it's about learning through them and
their new perspective. Hi, guys, welcome to ghost therapy. This
is about up Brosa. Thank you so much for being here.
(00:36):
One more episode, So so happy. I want to tell
you about our guest today. She's Britney Brave. I love
that last name.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
By the way.
Speaker 3 (00:47):
She's a host, she's a writer, she's an actress, she's
a producer, she is everything. People like her really truly
inspire me. I love that she came with such an
open heart, listening and you know, trying to make sense
out of everything I told her. I really loved this
lesson that her guides gave her that was about people pleasing.
(01:12):
I mean, we're all people pleaser sometimes, aren't we, Maybe
at a certain age or maybe we're not maybe you know,
good for you if you're not.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
I was always a people pleaser and.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
It was such a beautiful message what they gave her.
At least they gave her that, and I took it
for myself too. There are a lot of things on
ghost therapy that, even though we're listening to them for
somebody else, we can take from that advice and use
it in our own life.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
So here's Britney Brave. I hope you enjoy it.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Okay, there's a situation or an incident. I don't know
if it's close to these days or was it in
the past, but they're like you left unexpectedly like this esperala,
you know, and then and there was no need, No
one wants to really harm you.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
You're getting it wrong. Does this make sense to you.
It's it's something about you leaving.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
Somewhere or somebody, or it's just like a decision that
you made just a little bit too prematurely. That is fine,
it's fine that you made it. It's just like, don't
think that they're out to get you, or don't think
that they're gonna harm you.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I could think of something, and probably a few someones,
but there's there's one. There's one in particular in somewhat
recent history.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
I think that would be the recent one.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
So first, very accurate. Yeah, fine, like read me for filth.
In the first two minutes of this, it's like, okay, whatever.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Just take take everything out and.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
That's I thank you for translating, but like, yeah, I
agree in Spanish and in English I agree, yes, yes, yes,
let me carry you a little bit more.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
I'm going to add to that is I feel that
when you were in that something, you were a very
people pleaser, and that that did not help or that.
Speaker 4 (03:44):
Did not that you somehow.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
It's like we're all people pleasers, of course, and especially
in the industry, but it's something you know that affects you.
It's like you have to understand that if it's not
if it's not what it is, and I don't know
how to explain it, like you shouldn't really care, you know,
but part of it, a lot of it is you
(04:08):
trying to be not trying.
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Is you being a people pleaser?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Okay, okay, yeah, I could see that with the Something.
That was the first thing that popped up when you
said I mean, I'm sure I could think of other instances,
but I could see something this year that I walked
away from that I had the thought I walked away
from too early, Like even if walking away was inevitable,
I could have stayed a little bit longer. But on
(04:33):
the people pleasing route, Yeah, it didn't feel like it
aligned with me or I kind of felt like I
was making myself smaller.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
By being there and by doing that.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
So I think that that kind of probably accelerated me
leaving the way that I did.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
But I had regret over leaving as early.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
As I did, even though I knew leaving and departing
was inevitable long term, I did have some regret in
the six three to six months after or that I
was like, why was I so hasty?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Why did this have to happen the way that it did?
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, so I can see that, yes, yeah, And just
so you know, and I know you know this in
your heart is there's a green light on it, like
there's a check. You know, it's like you did the
right thing, and you know it was just like, you know,
maybe I believe that what they're telling you is kind
of like next time, don't do the same kind of thing.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Yeah, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (05:28):
But there, Yeah, I break the pattern. But they're they're
validating as you did.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
The right thing. We just need to show you what
the lesson to be learned was. Okay, okay, okay, okay, awesome,
thank you for the feedback. Okay, I have I.
Speaker 3 (05:43):
Don't know if this is like a father or if
it's boyfriend or but it's like a male energy that
they want to tell you that his love still matters.
Speaker 4 (05:56):
He said, it still matters, and if you're up for it,
go for it.
Speaker 3 (06:03):
I feel like mend it or something about you. I
feel like you go like this, like ah whatever, like
a wall and it's but it still matters to you
and you can do something about it.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
I don't know why. I feel like it's a father thing,
but it could be, you know, maybe a boyfriend or something.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
It could be my father. I still have my father
with me.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
Oh good.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I do think our relationship has gotten better as I've
gotten older, but there's still a little distance there. There
always is. I'm like much closer to my mom. I
will say that, but in the boyfriend's sense about the
love still mattering, and tell me if I'm.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Oversharing too much or whatever.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
But I haven't had a boyfriend in about six years,
I haven't had anything really like significant commitment exclusive. I've
had connections some very strong, albeit brief or or on
and off. My last relationship was very profound and that
it was like my first real relationship, but it was
(07:10):
also very abusive.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
So I think hearing.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
That the love still matters is that's actually like a
message that I've carried with myself despite the darkness around
that relationship. I've had to remind myself that there was
still love there and that love still matters. So that, yeah,
that resonates. And I do have a lot of walls
that I think I think I've done a good job
(07:34):
at bringing them down somewhat predominantly.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
But you know, you know, and.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
And like you said, like they're probably telling you, hey,
you know, love still matters in your life. There is love,
like it's still something that you can grab onto, you know,
like maybe you're you were done with love or whatever,
and this is a way of, I don't know, I
feel like it's a way of don't push it out. Okay, Yeah,
(08:01):
so you know, so maybe because there's still there's always
someone that makes you know, not want to do.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
It again, right, Yeah, And I mean I'm I think
he that relationship exacerbated some of my walls and also
put a mirror up to those walls. And I think
now in the sixth year, since it ending six years
since me walking away, it's probably the first time that
I feel like I'm really ready to pull the walls
(08:30):
down completely right and and work on receiving I guess,
and there was there was somebody who was There was
also another connection somewhat even more recently that would did
not include exclusivity, but was incredibly intense and said walls probably.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Push when it's Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
If it wasn't exclusive, I'm glad the the walls went up,
you see what I'm saying. Yeah, because that's just a
recipe for disaster at one time or the other, for
a disaster.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Yeah, yeah, Yeah, I would think that you were smart
to do that.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Yeah, but you know, now you can recognize a little
you know, what's good and what's wrong, what's bad, and
what you really want and what you don't want.
Speaker 4 (09:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
I still think I left that situation prematurely as well.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Not my ax, my ex obviously that you know, was
a different situation, but that situation in particular also is
I think the situation. I still, like you said, check
Mark green Light, good vibes, made the right choice ultimately,
but I did feel with him as well too that
I left very hastily, defensively and prematurely.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (09:43):
So so now so we found the past.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
Yeah, we found we found the fight or flight that
we have been fighting for our entire lives to fight
fight And maybe.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
They're they're like giving you examples. Remember this, remember.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
This, when you did it again, You did it again,
and you did it again.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Tendency to do that.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Yeah, it's the tendency one undred person. Is there something
about do you in your job or or maybe in
your hobby? I don't know, but I see you writing
a lot writing And this is really weird because it
says they're saying writing and erasing.
Speaker 4 (10:24):
Does that make sense to you?
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:26):
I yes, oh yes.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Writing is a big part of my job and I
communications is a big part of what it is I do.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
Yeah, yeah, got it.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Thank you for the confirmation, because they want to tell
you something. They said, when it comes to your writing,
the erasing part was actually the important thing that they
want to talk about. I don't know, if you're very
like you doubt yourself, and then you go back and
then you doubt. They're like, oh my god, like you
(10:56):
are genius, you are so good at what you do.
Why are you erasing? And then like going back and forth,
back and forth. Make the freaking decisions. Go with it
and you'll see that it'll be fine. But so much
doubting yourself for a second guessing makes it kind of
I feel like the mojo goes down.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (11:18):
Yeah, getting in my head gets in the way of
what I do specifically, okay, okay, and yeah, yeah, thinking
maybe having a little more faith in the things.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
That I write and come up with as well. Yeah, yeah,
and I've been.
Speaker 3 (11:37):
It's like faith in yourself that you're doing correctly. Yeah,
you see what I said, Because the erasing part, it's
like by the time they show me this, by the
time you're done with something, it's like what in the hell,
Like that wasn't the real that wasn't the original idea.
Speaker 4 (11:56):
They're like, do what you want, like, write.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
It all, write it all out, and then maybe go
back and see what works. But they're like, it's too
many second guests.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Yeah, yeah, it's a I mean and I think that
that's an.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
Intrinsic thing in what I do specifically, okay, but it
obviously can be a hindrance for sure. And on a
micro level, there's been some new things that I've written
that I haven't had, like very recent in micro that
I haven't had the confidence to lean into. So I've
leaned into ivy raced or leaned into older things. And
(12:33):
also on a more profound scale, there are things that
I have desperately wanted to put pen to paper on
that could be career changing or just very profound, and
I have yet to do it because of this like
resistance that I feel that I'm not good enough er
it's not going to ever really happen or it's not
going to get made, or worse, it's going to get
(12:54):
made and it's not going to be what I think
it is.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
So the need to write feels like a herd almost.
It's okay, right right, There's certain things that.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Are very profound that I thought about writing and that
I need to write, and I have procrastinated horrifically on.
There's no deadline, there's no deadline for them. It's not
like I'm but I'm like one of my.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Just going because it's yours, right.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Do it and write it and make it.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Do it.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Yeah, And I'm going to talk about that because they
want to talk about what you said, like what you
want to write. This is very weird because usually everything's
positive here, like there's no negative connotation on anything.
Speaker 4 (13:34):
But they say.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
You really They're like, you really need to go dark
on this one. Does that make sense?
Speaker 4 (13:43):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Okay, and makes too much sense actually, yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
And what they say about that is like, there's there
is there isn't going to be a problem. You can
go dark, go deep, whatever, and come back.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
You're fine.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Don't be afraid of going there and then not be
able to come back. Okay, and I do see it happening.
But let me give you a little bit more specific.
They mentioned something about you're always surrounded by people. Does
this make sense, like there's.
Speaker 4 (14:17):
Always something that you have to go on?
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, So they're they're kind of they're going, listen,
you gotta get all that out, all those people out.
You gotta be alone with yourself, because that's what's kind
of I feel like being around people makes you feel safe,
and then it's like, oh no, no, I'll do it
(14:40):
some other time.
Speaker 4 (14:40):
I'll do it some other time. No, no, right now.
Speaker 3 (14:42):
No, it's like really program yourself and be like I'll
be two days, no phone, no anything by and.
Speaker 4 (14:48):
Then go into it.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
Because I feel like there's just too much around you
that makes noise and doesn't let your mind kind of silence.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
I couldn't really say that.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Yeah, people are definitely very involved in what it is
I specifically do.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
Yeah, oh okay, okay, cool, cool.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
So that's why there they're so insisting on you being
alone alone, like alone with your.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Thoughts and my What I do specifically is it requires
being around a lot of people often all the time.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
And yeah, I'm sure you're probably getting a little bit
of maybe what it is I do.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
But I see you on a stage, but like I
see you on a small stage. I don't know if
that makes sense, like not a like rolling Stone State,
but like a like.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
A lower stage something like that. Is that? Do you
do theater or I do comedy? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yeah, okay, okay, yeah, and yes, so writing is definitely
a part of what I do, and I've been.
Speaker 4 (15:54):
I don't make sense, okay, Okay.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
Writing is what I do. I'm often in front of
lots and lots of people.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
I'm often around lots and lots of people after the show,
and I've had the thought in the last couple of
months that I could probably afford to scale back on
the amount of time I spend on stage because I've
spent so much time on stage and that I could
I've had the thought to scale back on that, to
folk to write and to quiet my mind, like if
(16:21):
I could afford to not say yes to every live
performance in front of people, if it means storing that
energy to like write those things that have been And
in terms of going dark, I had shared this idea
to make this with the person I would want to
make this with, and my specific words to him were,
I want, I want to I don't want to hold
back with this. I was like, I want it to
(16:43):
be gory, and it needs to be intense, and it's
going to be like NC seventeen and it needs to
be it needs to be a very accurate, realistic, albeit raw,
hard depiction of what.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
It is I want to tell.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
And the person that I have no filter, well, the
person I would want to collaborate with on it, that's
kind of their specialty, and they were like a thousand
times yes, so yeah, but.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
Now you know what you need to do.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Maybe today was for something, you know, to give you
a little pushy procrastinator.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Write it already.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Just see, you're not gonna make it and put it
out there unless you just write it.
Speaker 4 (17:21):
So yeah, right.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
What I and what I take from this message also
is that don't be worried about losing your place in
the world when when you go down here to write,
everything's going to remain the same. You're going to be fine.
And when you were telling me that about you're on
stage a lot and you don't say no to anything,
I kind of took it that way, like like saying,
it's okay, if you say no to three, you're going
(17:45):
to go down here deep and then you can get
up there again. It's not like you're going to lose anything.
So I kind of interpret it that way, But you
interpret it better. No, that's your life. But I feel
that's it.
Speaker 4 (17:58):
Yeah, yeah, And I.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Think that's you know, tapping into that darkness and being
able to come back from it too, because it is,
you know, I feel removed from it, but I also
feel like I carry it with me all the time,
so it's accessible and it's there.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
But it's going to take work to get into it.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
So then sometimes I wonder if the resistance is maybe
some deep seated fear to get out that I won't
be able to get out.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
Or totally yeah or something.
Speaker 4 (18:24):
Yeah, yeah, I would imagine that totally.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
So maybe this is what you needed to hear, you know,
to know that everything's going to be fine.
Speaker 4 (18:32):
Go do it, you know, go yeah for sure. Okay,
thank you, thank you for that input.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
Okay, there's something about this is not mental health, but
it's something about you. I think this is more like
around the house, not not like the work stuff, not
finishing things, not going through with things. And then it
(18:58):
kind of they want to you like it's fine. Just
it's like just do one thing and everything is gonna
be fine. It's like lots of things that I don't
know if you want to do lots of things, it's
like you're and then you end up not doing anything
because you get anxiety about doing it. Okay, So that's
(19:20):
kind of that that little circle. And they're like take
one freaking thing, like today I'm going to whatever, I'm
gonna paint a wall. Okay, paint the wall, and that's
all and applaud yourself for doing it, and then the
rest can wait.
Speaker 4 (19:35):
It's like everything can wait.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
You have to learn that because you're you're not letting
yourself be your best self because of that little site.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Yeah it makes a lot of sense.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Yeah, probably in work as well too, but definitely at
home and then ending up not getting anything done because
I feel like I have to do it all and
it all has to get done immediately, and then not
trusting myself that if I don't like not trusting myself
that if I don't get it done.
Speaker 1 (20:08):
Today, I know I'll forget, I'll let it go, it
won't get done.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
But I mean, I've also struggled with this problem legitimately
my entire life. Like my mom has probably said a
million times, like do one thing and just do less
is more. Do one thing and do it. Well, you're
trying to do too much, you're trying to do That's
been like a chronic issue, and I do feel that
restlessness at home, Like whenever I am home, I'm like I.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
Have to pay these bills and do these things and cleanness.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Out and do that, and then then I do I
had the thought before I even got on this, I
was like five minutes late, and I was like, Okay,
why I've done.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Nothing all day? What am I doing? Like yeah, like
nothing like good enough?
Speaker 2 (20:48):
Yeah, Like you know, like I'm like, do I have
adult ADHD?
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Or like where does this restlessness come from?
Speaker 3 (20:55):
So I think that sounds like something like that. Remember
I told you it it's not mental health, but it's
it has something with ye to do with your with
your head that.
Speaker 4 (21:05):
It's let not like you don't want to, it's like
you can't.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yeah, oh totally you see what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
Yeah, so maybe it is something around there.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
I thought about it, and it's like I think, like,
you know, my job and social media and stuff. But
recently I thought about it and I was like, why
am I suffering with this? Like this could be something
that like I need medication for or help on or
something like.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
It doesn't I didn't never thought of myself as having.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
Like ADD or ADHD, but you can't develop it later
in life.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And sometimes when I'm like how did I miss this?
How did I forget this?
Speaker 2 (21:35):
How did I not put this in my calendar that
still hasn't gotten done, like and then I'm like, totally,
this is like I need help, Like there's a reason
I keep doing this.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
So yeah, that does resonate.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
And there and there is because while I'm telling you this,
it's like.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
I never say anything, but I'm gonna say it, like
I take this and I'm gonna keep it too, Like
this what they're telling you, because well, I have A
and I also have FIBROMYALDA, depression and anxiety.
Speaker 4 (22:04):
I have all that.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Shame girl, o CD generalize anxiety disorder vertigo.
Speaker 4 (22:11):
Oh woweah all vertigo.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
Yeah OCD. I had it when I was a child.
To your mom medicated me and but she took me off.
She's like, we'll find a way, you know, because I
was like, oh like this, and yeah, in.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
My early years as a toddler, I was incredibly OCD.
And I would tell my mom, I'm having weird thoughts
and I can't stop thinking about these things and how
do I get.
Speaker 1 (22:32):
My thoughts out of my head?
Speaker 2 (22:33):
And my mom was like, they're just thoughts, They're just thoughts,
Like they're just like just yeah, so yeah.
Speaker 3 (22:40):
If I don't touch this three times, I'm gonna die.
And then I had to touch everything through to oh
yeah I do that sometimes and when I talk about
it, it comes it comes.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Back, and I still do it as an adult sometimes,
like when I put eyeshadow on, I'm like, I have
if I put four strokes here, I have to put
four strokes here, or little yeah, oh.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
My god, yes yes, yeah, yes.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
So maybe like I don't know, maybe try maybe go
to a doctor and say, look, is this manageable? Or
maybe I could take a little bill that can help
me organize myself. And until I learned like little ways
to manage my life and then you go off for me,
you never know. But there is a lot of people
like a laid in life add happening.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
Yeah that it almost feels like it's the same problem
I've had my entire life. It's just taken on new
forms depending on Like when I was younger, it was
this severe OCD, but that's what made me such a
good student and like excel at everything, you know, and
then now it's kind of evolved into like ady D
kind of like it's the opposite where when you try
(23:43):
to right right and try to exceed like that and everything,
and now you're like, oh wait, I'm doing nothing and
I can't focus, so yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (23:50):
Right, and I keep doing nothing and then I go
to bed and I you know, now.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
I have a spirit question telling me to get to it.
That's what's happening.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
Get your ass off of the couch and just do it.
Find a solution.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, for your for your well like
for your well being.
Speaker 4 (24:08):
You know, that's like what they see you.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
They're always with you, and they see you and they
know what's happening.
Speaker 4 (24:15):
So that's why.
Speaker 3 (24:16):
They tell you what you need to know, not what
you want to know, but you need to know this.
So I'm glad they told you that you already.
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Knew, but that was a nice reminder.
Speaker 3 (24:25):
They're giving you tips. Yeah, I'm a nice reminder. Okay,
here we go. I do see they want me to
tell you that. They're like, tell her that what's next
is and they show me like a stack of papers
like this big. I feel like it's like a movie
(24:46):
or like a you know, like a script thing. I
don't know if you're into that or not, but they're like,
this is this is going to change your life. It's
gonna advance. I feel like your career, you're just everything
you do. So they're like, this is the next part
of yours, this is the next time Okay, and it's
(25:08):
a really thick script.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
So I'm thinking, you know, it could be like a
series or you know, it's okay, and they wanted to
know that it's okay, go for it. You're gonna go
for it, you know how. It's like they're telling you you.
Speaker 3 (25:22):
Got this, okay, you got okay, Okay, now you got
this okay, So don't be afraid.
Speaker 4 (25:28):
And if you do have some of these ideas, go
for it.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (25:32):
The specific, the specific thing that I needed to write
would be a script.
Speaker 4 (25:37):
Oh, the one, the dark one.
Speaker 1 (25:43):
Around me, the thing that I've and it's like some
people have said book, but the book doesn't feel right.
It's always felt like movie.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
But that specific thing about writing and dark and everything
has the thing that's been looming is a movie script.
Speaker 4 (26:00):
Oh so there you go. That's your next chapter. Yeah,
there you can. That's what that's when you need to do. Okay.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
Yeah, it doesn't sound like a book because it's not.
It's just paper, no, you know, covers or anything. I
see like a script.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
So yeah, yay ya, yay, Okay.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
Yes we do, Yes, we do. I'm so happy for you.
Good good good Okay. On a lighter note, they're kind
of smiling. Now, I feel like they really needed to
talk to me, like they really need to go deep
on stuff. And now that the energy is kind of
like lighter, it's moving a little bit better. Let me
(26:41):
tell you something because they're like, now let's laugh. Like
I feel like enough of course you're a comedian. It's like,
now let's laugh a little bit. Okay, let me see
what's you don't have any kids, right, They're like and
like they set them for something funny. They're like, you
(27:04):
are so better off. You're gonna be so happy without kids.
Don't even sweat it. Don't even think like oh I
should have or I They're like, don't regret, be happy,
and they're like, believe me, you'll enjoy life.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
Okay something like that.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
Okay, maybe later on or something like that. But they're like,
I mean, you can go ahead and have your kid
if you want. That's how they see your life, and
they see it like in a very prosperous way and
just like a very happy way.
Speaker 4 (27:37):
So there's no regret.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
So not missing out on not having those traditional things
right now.
Speaker 1 (27:42):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
My mom tells me that all the time too, which
also half.
Speaker 1 (27:47):
Hurts my feelings. She goes. Whatever you do, don't get
married and have kids. And I was like, I'm slightly
offended by what you just said.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
But okay, okay, married, yes, because married you can marry
your best friend and it's gonna be awesome and you
can do shit together and it's fine.
Speaker 4 (28:03):
But a kid, how old?
Speaker 1 (28:04):
Thirty three?
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Okay? Oh? Standing?
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (28:08):
I had my net forty Yeah, so she's five and
I'm forty five. It's like I don't have it in
me anyone, you know, It's like.
Speaker 4 (28:16):
What did I do? It's like I waited too long?
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Now if I feel that I always used to.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
I was pretty sure that I wanted kids, which was
interesting when I was younger and I was so certain
I wanted kids and marriage, And as I've kind of
gotten older and into my career, maybe.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
It's attached to the career. Probably, I don't know if
I have that desire.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
But it's interesting that that message came in because as
a thirty three year old woman, it does linger you
do wonder like am I missing out on? Should I
start focusing on I do? Do I want those things?
I think I want those things? Am I behind in
my life? Because I'm so far from those things. So
(28:58):
it's a natural you know.
Speaker 3 (29:00):
Right, it's natural for us to think that because that's
what they make us think. But I believe that. I've
always said, like, you can also marry your career and be.
Speaker 4 (29:09):
So happy because what happens is.
Speaker 3 (29:11):
That when you have a child, your career suffers so
much and your way of life and you're you're stepping up,
stepping up, and then it all falls down. So that
when you have such a big love for your career,
I believe that that's super valid. Yeah, you know it said, No,
I love my career and that's what really makes me happy.
(29:34):
How do I know if a child is going to
make me happy? Since I that I don't have one,
I don't know, but this, Yeah, so I'm sticking to
what I know, and I'm sticking to what I love,
and that's yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
One of my favorite quotes is from Lady Gaga where
she says, if you're choosing between love or your career,
your career won't wake up and tell you it's not
in love with you anymore or something. And it's like
always been one of my favorite quotes. But I mean,
I do I am, like I do have that Like, oh,
but I think I want kids, and then I'm like,
(30:06):
god do I like, you know, I'm on planes a
lot for work, so when they're screaming and crying, I'm
like where they fit? And I'm like, I'm really annoyed
right now, but that could be my life.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
And then then I feel this guilt for not wanting it.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
But then I'm like, what's what if I do have
a kid and then all of a sudden I have
this like.
Speaker 1 (30:24):
Postpartum person Yeah, it's a real thing. And then you know,
like I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
And that lasts a long time.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Yeah, and then I have been thinking about like freezing
my like just in case I want them, so I
have the option.
Speaker 4 (30:40):
That could be too.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
That could be too because maybe later on in your
life you're like.
Speaker 4 (30:45):
I don't know, you marry a millionaire or something like that.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
You know, like, okay, I get him the millionaire from.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
Work a little bit, you're the millionaire.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
I'm the man.
Speaker 4 (30:54):
No good good no.
Speaker 3 (30:57):
But you can choose your projects, true not, you know,
the hustle is different.
Speaker 4 (31:03):
But then what happens is that.
Speaker 3 (31:07):
Because kind of this happened to me, I'm an actress
in a in a TV host. I've always been, but yeah,
in Telemundo and all that stuff, and I kind of
stepped off because for my husband, and so now I
feel like before it, since I was a starving actress
or whatever at some point, that's when you hustle.
Speaker 4 (31:27):
Oh yeah, but when you can't, when you.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Don't have to hustle, it changes.
Speaker 4 (31:32):
Something dies, and it does.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
It does.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I got that advice early in my comedy career where
I was so clinging onto my pr business and certain
gigs and clients, and another comedian said, you have to
let it go and kind of not be afraid to be.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
Broke and starving for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
And that was so like new to me and foreign
because I've always had this fear of money and this
fear of security and this fear of probably also a
fear of wealth at some point too. But he had
kind of said to me, he was like, something will
change when you're doing this to feed yourself. And when
you're doing this, it's like your brain chemistry changes.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
So you're it's so cutthroat, it's so like what am I?
Speaker 4 (32:15):
I have to go? Right?
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Yeah, So it's interesting, but yeah, I mean, so you
never know you're right.
Speaker 1 (32:21):
The hustle does change.
Speaker 3 (32:23):
Yeah, the hustle does tant but but it does at
the same time, it does give you like creativity spaces
and stuff like that, you.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
Know, freeze them, we'll see if not, donate them.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
That's good to know because it's like, you know, I
am thirty four in a couple months, and like it
is crossing my mind, like should I start focusing.
Speaker 1 (32:45):
On building a family a little more?
Speaker 2 (32:47):
Like should I be putting this on higher up on
my priority list in the event that I do want
these things? And do I feel a little behind? Is
my life so lopsided towards my career too much? Like
that's been a co So that's affirming to hear. Now, girl,
pull out.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
Now, girl, you're doing fine.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Get back on birth control. You're doing fine.
Speaker 4 (33:09):
No, kids, you're doing fine.
Speaker 3 (33:11):
Yes, yes, And they say it with like a smile.
So this is all like a positive kind of thing
instead of being like oh, no kids, no, no, no.
Speaker 1 (33:20):
You're good. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
Do you have any questions about anything more about future endeavors?
Speaker 2 (33:27):
I am remiss to ask my here's my cliche moment
that I have to ask, So please, I do want
to ask about love or connection as I mean, I
feel like some like I always have felt like my
career is much more in control and health for the
(33:49):
most part, Like you know, you have more control over.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Those things necessarily than you do.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
You still have control when it comes to romance and connection,
but obviously that's a little bit more right like fate
and timing and any factors that are outside. So I've
always felt very in control of my career and confident
that I can like steer it where I want it
to go.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
It's interesting to say, try your best. I have a
couple of thoughts on that too, But I.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
Am curious about like love and connection just because it
has been six years since having something very very significant,
and they're have been people in between that have been
profound and significant and intense and have shaped my healing
journey and who I am.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
But I guess I do have a like And I.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
Don't even want to put a title on. It's not
even like the next boyfriend or the next one. It's
just like, what are we seeing in terms of like,
is there anyone? And if there's not, it's totally okay.
It's someone coming in? Is someone not?
Speaker 1 (34:43):
Like I don't care what the answer is. I'm not
afraid of.
Speaker 4 (34:46):
It just as long as it right.
Speaker 2 (34:48):
Yeah, because I don't feel like I'm operating from like
a scarcity thing with it either.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
But it is like I'm.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
So interested in seeing, like what that part of my
life looks like in the next X.
Speaker 4 (35:00):
Amount of time, Like in the next.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Sure, yeah, maybe they'll be fine. Now I don't know, Okay,
five five.
Speaker 4 (35:09):
Is a little bit more realized. I yess, just like
a little disclosure.
Speaker 3 (35:14):
We are not allowed to talk about give you your future
as towards when it comes to love, or we're not
allowed to see when you're gonna die, but we're not
allowed to see like, oh, you're going to meet a
man at this and he's gonna be like this. And
it's very rare that that information comes through because just
(35:37):
a little explanation. The whole love thing is very much
lesson like life lesson and I can and we're not
allowed to give you like a little peak at your
life lesson because all of it, the whole process is
what makes you stronger, what makes you better, what makes
you worse, and that's your life. So having that said, uh, I'm.
Speaker 4 (36:02):
Going to ask and let's see what we can see.
Speaker 1 (36:05):
I totally understand, and I wasn't asking like how tall
is he? How bigwig?
Speaker 4 (36:11):
No?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
No, I know you were not much just like aware
is that part of my life and healing going?
Speaker 4 (36:18):
You know?
Speaker 1 (36:18):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (36:19):
Yeah that baby, Like if you're ready and you haven't
noticed it.
Speaker 1 (36:23):
Or there's something on it like that I still need
to ye.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Or yeah, okay, here we go. Okay.
Speaker 3 (36:32):
When they when they I put the word love here,
you know, let's you know, what is it. First of all,
they use the word radical, like I think that you're
very radical. I don't know in what sense, okay, but
that's the word. And then they they say pushy. I
could see, yeah, yeah, I could see okay yeah. And
(36:54):
then she said, try to kind of like imagine a
situation where you're living together or you're together and you're
working over there and he's working over there. You're kind
of separate, doing your own thing, and then but you're together, okay.
And then this is kind of something like very very important.
(37:17):
I don't know why, but it's.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
Like giving space but at the same being together. And
I transition to this because he says, if he wants
something unconventional, don't think you can handle it, because you can't.
So only like the.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Filter for you is like when you meet somebody, the
filter is you want to have like non exclusive or
you want you know, for forever, not getting married, you
live in your house, all those things that sound cool
right now or sound like, oh like an independent woman
(37:56):
kind of thing. They're like, no, no, no, you're like you know,
you're you're very conventional. You are you have values, you
have that bring you. We were brought up, you know,
the old fashioned way. Don't try to change yourself for
that person and be like I'm gonna try to be
cool and I'm gonna yeah, let's go.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
With the flow. No no, no, no no, have them
meet your mom, have them, you know, take you out,
have them paid, Like that is your red flag as
to get out.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
They're like all these unconventional things. It's like, stop thinking
that you're cool in that sense and just do you know,
do it. It's just they're like only except the the
the calmness of it all and the the the right thing,
do the right thing that feels good in your heart,
(38:49):
like a warm heart.
Speaker 4 (38:51):
That's it. If you have another question before.
Speaker 1 (38:54):
We close up anything else, you see I.
Speaker 4 (38:58):
See good, I see clear paths.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
I see I see kind of like changes that are
kind of.
Speaker 4 (39:11):
It's not gonna go up right here, or you're like
like this type of change.
Speaker 3 (39:15):
It's kind of like like this and then it's gonna
go up. So it's kind of I feel like it's keep.
Speaker 4 (39:21):
Doing what you're doing.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
You're doing it well, but work on the next step
while you're doing what you're doing well. Right, Okay, So
nothing's gonna change nothing. It's gonna be great. You're gonna
be making money and everything. But for sure, I do
see that script, and I do see it in a
way that's not just in your hand.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
You see what I'm saying. It's like, yeah, turning it in.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
Oh wow, yeah, finally getting it on and turning it in.
Speaker 4 (39:51):
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 1 (39:52):
So go deep, go dark, doing the damn thing.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
As the kids says, yes and and and it's and
it's gonna it.
Speaker 4 (40:00):
It's I see like a lot of.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Like a lot of yellow, like a lot of green money, white,
your all your your path looks right gold white.
Speaker 4 (40:15):
So whatever you're doing, you're doing great.
Speaker 1 (40:18):
Okay, we love it. Okay, we love it.
Speaker 3 (40:22):
I'm just gonna say goodbye to your spirit guides and
tell them to go to the light where they belong.
And I think everybody around here that was here in
the reading that assisted thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (40:37):
Yes, tell them, I say thank you, and I love them.
Speaker 2 (40:40):
And keep doing what they're doing, and they're with you
all the time. They're in my will. I love their words.
Speaker 1 (40:47):
Continue being honest with me, continue.
Speaker 2 (40:51):
Yell at me, like give me like a gray hair
if I don't write the script gray hairs and wrinkles
like whatever.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
A sign, a sign the next time A fuck.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
Boys like I don't want marriage and we're going to
be open and I'm going to see thirty other girls.
Speaker 1 (41:05):
Just just tell them to.
Speaker 3 (41:07):
Be it's not worth it because it's people that take
your energy away, take your time away, take your focus away,
and for what for nothing? No, no, let's find some purpose.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Let's find some purpose with everything.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
But you know, I think, yeah, definitely in denial with
myself over being I am more traditional than what I
give myself credit for. And I joke about it in
my act like I'm not a chill girl. Like I'm
not a chill like and I'm never going to be
chill and like the chill and like the sooner that
I accept that.
Speaker 4 (41:42):
You know exactly, Yeah, that you're an old fart.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
Yeah's all right, and that's okay.
Speaker 2 (41:48):
And I can do that some conditional stuff for a second.
Speaker 1 (41:51):
But at the end of the day.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
Like when I was raised by happily married to parents, monogamous,
you know, traditional good family structure, that will be what
I returned to.
Speaker 1 (42:02):
I just have to just believe that I deserve it,
and that it's coming.
Speaker 4 (42:05):
Exactly and that it's that it's out there. You're doing great.
Thank you so much. Thank you, bye bye, thank you.
M
Host
Paola Pedroza
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