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Speaker 1 (00:00):
She doesn't want you to feel guilty. She's like, I
was put where I was supposed to be.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Don't worry, I can pick believe it makes sense.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
Welcome to ghost Therapy, where it's not just about connecting
with Decie's loved ones, it's about learning through them and
their new perspective. Hi, guys, Welcome to gost Therapy. This
is Paula Pedrosa. This time around we have Joanna Restrepo
(00:35):
with us. This girl, Oh my gosh, she wanted some
advice from Grandma, but I think that she was benefited
all obviously, but we were all benefited from here. Even
when I finished the session, everybody here in production, everybody
over there, uh in Sonoo, they were like, oh my gosh,
(00:58):
like all these tips she gave, all this advice. I
felt like she was talking to me. And I'm like,
oh my god, I feel like she was talking to
me too. It's like that grandma that everybody needs in
their life to give advice. It was that I really
really wanted to listen to this one because.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
You like, you'll see, you'll see how everything she says
is just pertains to everybody listening, and it pertains to
everybody's life in a way.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
She got a handful and so did we. And I'm
so thankful for this because I know that this is
something I can give to you guys that will last
a lifetime. This is gholst Therapy. Hey, guys from Ghirls' Therapy.
(01:56):
Thank you so much for being here. One more week,
one more podcast. So happy to have Johanna Stripo with us,
Colombian actress. I'm so happy to meet you, so proud
to have a Latina representing us over there. Thank you
so much for being here.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Thank you so much for having me. I'm so so
happy for we're here. And let's see what happened today.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
And I would just like to know who we're going
to talk to today.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
The only person I feel some connection with my grandmother,
with your grandmother.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
We got it, okay, but I don't go in with.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Us, okay, Lo midd okay.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Sally is them means al finale. So there's something about
an energy that she says that at the end, everybody
was tied together and she was very happy about that,
Like she left very happy because something about I don't
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know if everybody coming together at the end or something
about things being resolved in a way that everything was
so tight for her, Like so like everything came full
circle for her.
Speaker 5 (03:32):
Does that?
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Does that mean anything to you?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Makes sense for it because my well, well, while she
was alive, all her siblings and her daughters and sons
were like each one by their side. But after she
passed away, my mom become the oldest sister and she
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put everybody together. So right now, my me, my mom, family,
her siblings are very tight, all the time together, even
the small trips. Yeah, all the family.
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Wow, she's so happy about that. Like for her, it's like, okay,
I'm good. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (04:16):
I'm not here, but my keys are together. I got
it exactly. So your mom came came through for her.
That's awesome if you can tell your mom this message.
She's very happy about it, So that means that she's
done a good job. I feel like it's something that
must have been hard, I imagine. So yeah, so she's
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very happy about and she's very thankful. So that's for you,
and that's for your mom because I'm sure it's a
team effort. She's happy about them, and she's smiling.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
She also shows me maybe it's not even relevant to you,
But she shows me a lot of green, but not
like the normal green, like a very like like a
pastel kind of green. Do you know what that means?
If that color means anything to you?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
She loved the Emeralds.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
The emeralds, okay, she liked.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
The gold and Jaeleries and everything. So probably is that
the color and is my mom's favorite color.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
Actually, she's showing me a lot of that, like in
a happy way, like green, green green. You know, maybe
it's nothing relevant, but maybe your mom will be like, oh,
you know that, maybe that's something special for her. Also,
she's very she wants to let you guys know like
she's very okay or she was very okay. She wants
me to see her in a place where she was
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put in that. I don't know if it was something
that you guys felt kind of uncomfortable with or you
felt guilty about, but she kind of wants you, wants
to ease your h She doesn't want you to feel guilty.
She's like, I was put where I was supposed to be.
Don't worry, I.
Speaker 2 (05:58):
Can't fick believe it and makes sense in my family,
it's very important to have the first Arnold to say
in English, but last tumbas Carla because my family is
from a small town in Colombia. The name is Barbosa. Okay,
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you know, there is very important somebody pass away, you
will be able to touch and touch them. When my mom,
my grandmother passed away, they put her up like up
up and my mom was so mad and everybody was
so mad because she was there, and my mom were
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feeling guilty because she has to put like stairs for
touching her.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Oh my breaking, that's crazy, that's crazy. She even if
your mom is mad, and I get it, she's so
fine with it that your mom needs to know that
she's okay.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
No, and I know, I don't know. I feel like
small connection with my grandmother and and even though her
life was very hard and everything, I feel like she
was okay. It's like okay, it's just a place. But
I have to be for the trinity. But that doesn't
mean that is important for me mine. It's more important
for me to see y'all together.
Speaker 1 (07:18):
Totally, like for her, because what happens is that when
they pass, they are they are automatically like they go
up there and they know, you know, they ask for forgiveness.
They see what they went through everything, you know, it's
like they put a movie of their life, like what
you did, what you did wrong, what you did wrong,
and you didn't notice stuff like that, and then they
become absolutely happy. They can't feel negative, they can't be
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negative in any way, so they're fine. So for us,
it's a little difficult to understand that. You know, a
lot of people think like, oh no, if the ashes
aren't spread over the Atlantic, then she must not be resting.
It's like, no, they're fine because they're with us. It's fine,
and they're with us, you know. It's not like you
go and maybe this message will be for your mom too.
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It's not like you go to see her certain place
and touch her. You know, she's next to her, she's
next to you, she's every single day. They have that superpower.
So for them, they think it's so like even funny.
A lot of people take it seriously and I understand it.
That's what we know. But like for them, it's so funny,
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like oh my god, they think that they have to
do this and tend me flowers. Dude, I'm right here,
you know, I'm not there. Oh so yeah, so just
let her know so she can feel a little less
guilty about that she's fine, okay. She wants to, you know,
know that she's very thankful. Something about before passing away,
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she was given very a lot of options for her
to be happy. I kind of think it's around like
maybe you can live with me, maybe I can do
this for you. Like she always felt like she was
given options. She never felt like she was being imposed
upon or she never felt unhappy. She was very thankful
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that there was an effort. And I don't know for
how many people this is in particular, but she felt
like there was always an effort for her to be okay.
But she talks about a lot of them, you know,
and she's like, thank you, thank you, because I always
just the feeling of knowing that I had options made
me so much, made me feel so much better.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
Does this make sense, Yeah, it makes sense because she
was very grateful all the time. And I already say
my mom was the oldest ones. But my mom is
like another four or five sisters, and all of them
lived in Gene, but my grandmother live in so returned
that they have the opportunity to take her. Too many
gen and let's say something doing two weeks she was
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playing house by house, so spending time here in time here,
then time here, then time here, and ben after all
these care or something like that, she will go back
to it a small town, so probably has made made
some sense over it.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, yeah, that totally makes sense because I feel like
that probably gave her more life than you could imagine,
you know, that gave her like, oh, I'm here, I'm here.
If she would have been like in the same place,
taken care by one person or something like that, she
would have felt probably very unloved or very unwanted. And
I think that that's what made her so happy, just
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the effort that everybody put in and she was well
received everywhere. I think that, you know, I'm sure your
mom will love that too, but that you know that
she always felt wanted loved, and she's very thankful for that. Yeah,
that's pretty awesome. That's pretty cool. Not everybody gets that
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chance in particular exactly, So that's pretty awesome. Okay, let
me see what else? What did she die off? If
you don't mind asking.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Her the way how she died and how she was
very hard for the family because a motorcycle killed her.
She was passing. She was passing the streets of crossing
the street and a guy in a motorcycle didn't sell
her and by that was funny, fun.
Speaker 7 (11:26):
Gladoli or el.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
I'm going to try to say this in during the
week before, my grandfather was very sick. I think he
was on the hospital. He was at the hospital. So
that Sunday she spent time with my mom and she
talked with my mom as her best friend. Her like
her heartbreaking is all the pain that she has in
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her life. And she loved jewelry and she had nine kids,
and she told my mom, Mommy, if I die, please
give this and this and this to Jo your dad
take those jewelries and spending who else you know right
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alone is my mom took her to Almedro Metrosa. Please
let me know, Mama ploo, Mammy Joy is commerical, Ala,
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I said, form work the.
Speaker 8 (13:05):
Instantania Really, Joe stansas me.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
That was your closure looking at her up there, Okay,
thank you for sharing that with me. She wanted to escape.
She's like, tell her, I want to talk about my death.
So I'm assuming she has some words for you because
of that. I'm assuming because she wants to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
For sure, because it's not easy. Was away. It was
very traumatic family.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Of course too too traumatic. And she is laughing and
laughing and laughing.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, I can see her.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
You tell me all this and yes, I know, and
this smile because she's laughing because she, you know, like
a prankster, like ah, you never saw that one coming,
you see what I'm saying, Like yeah, in a very
weird way, like she would get pleasure out of laughing
at people, or like like she had like this the humor.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
And you know what is the most funny thing lent
is yes, model, So that makes.
Speaker 1 (14:52):
So much sense because you would. I was like, you're
almost crying here, and she's like, ah, I knew it. God,
stay that you know that. Yeah, she's laughing about it
because obviously she's not sad anymore, you know what I'm saying,
So she doesn't remember what sad is.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
No, And while she was here, she was suffering. She
had in Coloma. I suppose I suppose I need to
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put ower.
Speaker 5 (15:46):
The b n d C.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Come comes in Esda. It wasn't It wasn't him. It
was the fact that what I had to through with him,
that was my pain. He said, That's what I was
running kind of away from he said, but but just
know that. And she had like a very like a
very nice message. Not maybe not for these times, but
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it's a very she says, Listen, I decided what to do.
I was there for a reason, or I wasn't there
for a reason. I did what I had to do.
But that doesn't that's not on you. That was on me,
you know, because I feel like maybe if she was
suffering a lot, you guys were like, oh, what did
he do? Or I can't believe he did that. He's like, no, no, no,
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I was. I was there, you know I was. I
was accepting it. So I just want everybody to know
that it was me. It was all me. I was
suffering because of what he would do, but not exactly
because of him, of the love that I had for him,
because for some strange and weird reason, because of what
you tell me, She's like, I loved him so.
Speaker 5 (17:00):
Much around.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Yeah, look at you, like right now, maybe like that's
not the message that's on the in the world. It's
like whatever you can do this, He's like, no, no,
when you love someone so much, see, that's yes, And
you need to know that she was she was better
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than you thought she was you know, it was more
about what she would put up with. But she's like,
I was very happy. I loved him very much. And
then when you said, like about the rest, she was like,
he's just he's like he's not paying what he did, Like,
he's not paying for what he did. He's like, he's just, uh,
(18:01):
there's something about him never saying I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
See Mama is later.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
And she's like, so God is kind of letting him
be go through what he has to go through because
he needs to know that he never said sorry and
that he needs to find a way. So maybe you'll
get a call someday and be like, I'm sorry, Yeah
remember forty years ago, Well okay, sorry you know, something
like that. But yeah, that's that's his teaching right now.
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That's his teaching. It's like, yeah, like, it's not about
what you did, it's of the fact that you've never
said you were sorry, because that could have made everybody's
life a little better and and it didn't. So there
you go. That's that's the big mystery with him. And
he's gonna be fine and he's gonna go with God
and everything will be okay, but he needs to stick
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around and learn his lessons. She wants to talk about
you now. She has a lot of sense of pride
towards you that kind of reflects upon something like she
never thought you would do basically, or she never even
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imagined it, and she's like, wow, good for you. She's
very proud. I don't know if it's like, I don't
know if it's career wise or like lifestyle wise, kind
of maybe together.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
Is I think it's maybe together because I was a blonde,
the little beautiful girl in the family that everybody were like,
oh my gosh, she's gonna be you know that mommy girl.
Right when I was sixteen, I say, by y'all to
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United State, excuse, I want to be a model, you
want to work in my career and blah blah blah.
So actually it was living when she pass away. So
and I was the first one, the first person in
my whole family and the whole generation that I always
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that I for the first time, Sally place.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Right did something, the first one with her dreams did
something with That's why she's so proud. Wow, the first one. Okay,
that's that's a big that's a big one.
Speaker 2 (20:37):
Okay, she's so proudly.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
Then she's so proud of that, and mostly because she
she laughs again, she's like, never thought you would do it?
Never thought, you know, like never never, No, you were working.
Is because she has such a dark humor that I
don't know if she's like joking or she's real or something, but.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Yeah, I feel like that, Yeah, she was like that.
And I think I call my family neuristic that I
was God black sheep, go away and run away because
I was a mommy girl. Whatever my mom wants, I
was there. Whatever. If my mom wants me to be
at nine pm on a Friday night and live my
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friends away, Okay, I will do it.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
Right, right right. So this was like completely out of.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
The of the book.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
Got it, got it? Oh my god, that's awesome. She's
so proud of it. And also she's like, I'm your
biggest fan. She's like, I'm your biggest fan and I
will always be. She's like, and she talks a lot
about with you in particular, she's very proud of the
of your balance in life. I feel like work family
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kind of thing. I don't know this makes sense to you,
because she's like, not everybody really, and I don't know
if you maybe think that you don't have it, but
like from upstairs, it's like you have it. You see
what I'm saying. Yeah, Yeah, she's like very proud of that.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
Yeah, I'm trying. I'm trying to my vest between my
child and my husband you and at that time it
has a lot of sy mad things. But yeah, that's
what I do. So I try travel a lot, okay,
but my time here and next my husband, I try
to be focused twenty per seven to me, completely, that's
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what she's talking about.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Yeah, and you're doing it very well, you see what
I'm saying, like very well. Like this is not a
compliment that many people get, you see what I'm saying.
And so I'm very happy to give you this message
because I'm sure that makes you very proud and I'm
sure that is a positive thing in your life in general.
Completely Yeah, and she I feel I see your husband
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correct me if I'm wrong. I see like a like
a best friend type of person that kind of like
understands and is like happy for you to be happy,
which is also not a message everybody gets about their spouse.
And she's like, so you guys understand each other and
you don't have kids, right, because she she kind of
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makes me feel like you have a cool life with
no kids, right, And she's like, it doesn't have to
be the cookie cutter way. Why in the world would
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you go ahead and live a normal life that people
tell you that's supposed to be normal. Right.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
That's it's weird because my husband friends, all of them
have kids and the typical lives life. And for us
the last week and he was so overwhelmed with each other.
He was like, I want to go away, take me away.
Next day. Johanna was booking a trip to Hawaii or
we're launching Hawaii next day. And I was like, this
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is a type of very good life, Like are you
kidding me?
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Of course, Oh yes it is. Oh yes it is.
And the fact that you're happy with it is even better.
You see what I'm saying, Because a lot of people
have that life and it's like they don't like it
because they're like, no, I wanted a baby. Jogola Tis Week,
Clara in Question Day, God bets We Clara.
Speaker 2 (24:45):
Locse, it's funny. I'm gonna say something that is going
to be funny, and probably so many psychologists up there,
it's gonna they're gonna kill me. But I found more
joining traveling instead of therapy, and I have pictures, so
I'm like, okay, I prefer going okay, looking up. I
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have been learning how to see everything different eyes and
not judging.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Before yeah yeah yeah, and letting letting your soul in
your body, uh, take breaks and letting them, letting yourself
have fun. Because sometimes it's about I don't I don't go.
I don't take a trip until I deserve it. And
what is deserving? Well, because I've re.
Speaker 2 (25:39):
Trying and I've made money, everything's short. The journey is
already here, so why not.
Speaker 1 (25:47):
Exactly, it's about you giving yourself the opportunity of being happy.
And if it's going to Hawaii for lunch, then it's
going to a wife whatever, just go for it. And wow,
that's you know what. That's something that I'm sure a
lot of people are going to be listening to and
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are going to be like, you're right, you.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Know that is what is the point. Like literally, my
grandmother was on the way to make some launch and
she passed away just crossing the street. That teach me
a lot. I was like, what is it going to
wait until tomorrow? To wait until the kids are going
I achieved that degree, or achieve that Girlma, the time
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is now.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
And then you get run over and everything. So she said,
she's laughing right now, and she said but seriously, She's like,
I just want them to know I suffered nothing. I
don't remember a moment of suffering at all. She's like,
I just went straight up there. She's like, so, don't
everythink of yeah something like that, just like if you
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think that that was coming system they obviously, but I
mean said, but it's the big scheme of life. It's
like ten months in the hospital, Ina is worse than
just like no, like bye, she went, she she didn't suffer,
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she's got she's good, she lived a good life. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
like it really in hurt through her eyes, it really
sounds funny and it really sounds like a perfect way
to die, you know, not forever forever, but you guys.
Speaker 9 (27:35):
Yeah see because they say, yeah, she's okay, she's fine,
she's happy.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
And uh and and that and whatever. She told you
to your mom that you need to tell your mom, but.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
To setuff that semper stuff because it's what can I
say it? I started getting more connected with her when
I after I get divorced and I moved to the
United States, I start like feeling feeling because when I
was kid, I was very mean to her, and after
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she as a boy, I realized that, oh, sure, I
don't have my grandmother anymore, and I don't have that
person to look up or I have. Having experience, so
many friends has their grandmother and I don't have none
of them. I don't have my father or my grand mother.
Because I was like, oh, shoes, and then I saw
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pictures of her and she and she's always around flowers.
So I think my way to celebrate her is having
flowers around me. I don't love flowers and smell the
flowers remember her because I don't have to anyone with her.
She was away when I was las sixteeing and everything,
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but when it was key, it feels like something just
blash my mind of her memories.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Okay, got it.
Speaker 2 (29:18):
So it's kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
I know, I know what you mean. Especially when we
decide to leave our countries, and we would decide to
leave our something happens. It's not that you don't love
them anymore. It's more about like you get disconnected in
a certain way that makes it seem kind of like
you don't love them that much, but you really do.
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It's just a different way of of living the love.
Exactly while you were saying this, she's like, Okay, She's like,
let's do this, because she says, let's not think about
the connection that maybe changed in the past. She said,
how about if we form a new connection, because like,
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for her, now is like you're a woman, you know,
like an actual woman, and she's like, now we like
she never got to connect with you at that level,
you see. So she's like, if you can wherever you can.
She's like, I don't care if it's on the floor
or in the bathroom. She's like, get a little picture
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of me, put it in a marquito, you know, just
a portrait, a little picture, and then put a little
a little candle, nothing but white that breaks a white light.
And whenever you get flowers or go buy me flowers,
it could be four flowers, but like the flowers, what
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she wants you to do is that that day that
you buy them, you close your eyes and be like, uh,
icye green, icy purple. Okay, let me get the green
and the purple once like you'll fee She's gonna send
you that message of what she wants that day. Okay, Okay,
She's never gonna come down to visit you. She's always
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there with you. You see what I'm saying. So it's
not about putting this up so she could come and
visit you. It's more about having her because with that
light of the candle and with the flowers, then you're
gonna see her with another perspective. You're a woman now,
you're seeing her with the flowers, you're seeing her. And
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then when you can, if you can just talk like
I like women thinks that you could never talk about
with her. You know, Ah, I did this. Oh this
was funny. I remember when you did this. That's it.
You don't have to do it every day. You don't
have to be it. It doesn't have to be in a
prayer form if you don't want it. It's free freestyle,
just freestyling, you know, and just yeah and just be
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there and whenever you can, And if you can't buy
flowers for a week or a month, it's fine. It's
not about being like system in that that time. It's
about you connecting with her whenever you feel like, Okay,
I'm gonna buy flowers for my grandma day. Okay, this
and that, and it's just going to connect you and
you'll She's like, she's gonna feel me. She's going to
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feel me like she hasn't felt me in a long time.
She's like, and she said, and she gives me the
she still gives me the green for some reason. I'm
sure you'll figure out in a way later on why
the green is so present today.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
The only green that I have from my mother grandmother
right now is those ears earrings over here. Okay, well,
she was away. She had a ring some gold in emeralds,
and obviously my mom changed the form and she gave me.
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She gave it to me those over here, So following
the only green that I'll probably in my mind right.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Now, I'll be okay, but it could. I don't feel
it's that, but I think that maybe she's insisting so
much because she wants it to be in your head
for when it happens. I feel it's something that's going
to be like, oh, this is what she was talking about,
Like oh wait and see, yeah, wait and see. And
(33:19):
that's going to be beautiful. Because whenever you're fortunate enough
to receive these type of messages are going to be
kind of like future references. It's so beautiful because you're like,
oh my god, and that connection is amazing, So don't
worry too much about it. You'll feel it. But this
is a way she's giving you to put everything together
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that you're talking about and make it a new connection
that'll take you into your next twenty thirty years. Perfect Okay, okay, okay, Johanna,
Well we have come to it and end. I think
my guide's my angels. I thank God, thank you, thank
you all of you for being here today. Johanna. I
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give you back your energy and I take my back
those perfecto. I mean, she's just waving with such a
big smile. She's like, I'm very happy. I'll see you
back here soon. Thank you, no, thank you. Joining such
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a pleasure to to talk to you, and thank you
for being so open.