November 14, 2023 • 18 mins
In this special bonus episode I casually share the unfiltered truth about my ongoing battle with consistency. From the highs that kept me going to the lows that usually made me give up, I'll lay it all out there. This episode is a fun hang out where I share how I am no longer identifying as the girl who is consistently inconsistent, but rather simply the girl I want to know myself as: consistent.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello, Hello, Hello, my gold Metal minds. I am so
excited to be with you guys with a bonus episode.
Typically my seasons are going to run seven episodes, but
I really was shooting for a bonus each season, and
that's what today's episode is. What I really want to
talk about and share is I got rid of anything
(00:24):
that matters and I'm like, what can I talk about that? Like,
I am so aligned with in this moment, things that
I'm working on. What am I proud of? And if
you've been following me along on social media, I joined
this campaign and the campaign runs for six weeks and
I have to have a purpose or a goal at
(00:44):
the end of the six weeks, and the journey goes
you know, week one, week two, week three, week four, six,
where I share pieces of that journey. Now why am
I sharing this on my podcast? What does this have
to do with anything? Well, around the same time that
I started that journey with this company, I sat in
my therapist's office and I said many things, but the
(01:06):
biggest one that I came out with was I said,
I just so desperately want to be consistent for the
first time in my life since I did gymnastics, do
you know the last time I did gymnastics twelve years ago? No,
thirteen years ago. So for the last thirteen years, I
(01:27):
could not tell you what it feels like to be
wholly consistent in all the areas of my life that
I want to be consistent in. I can look back,
you know, pre twenty eighteen even now, like consistent ways
that I've shown up for my girls. I feel like I'm,
you know, very consistent in that area. I can think
of ways that I've shown up for my sport consistently,
but there are so many areas that I've dropped the
(01:49):
ball in all of those places, and I know deep
within my gut, like deep within my soul, that I
could do so much better, but I'm not. And there
are a few reasons for this. A. I was undiagnosed
neurodivergent for a really long time and I still am.
I'm awaiting like a full evaluation. It's like a three
(02:10):
part valuation that's coming up this month, which I'm really
excited about. But regardless, like I didn't know how to
take care of myself and set myself up for success
to be consistent up until May of twenty twenty three,
and so I am just in this place of being
ready to stop doing the same old, same old, like
(02:33):
I want to be different. And so this journey that
I have been on with this company, we are approaching
week four. I just finished filming week four, and I
am so proud of myself because for the last three weeks,
I have been the most consistent. I have been on
social media, which is an area that I wanted to fix.
(02:55):
I have been the most consistent in the gym, which
is an air I want it to fix. I have
been the most consistent with eating. You have You guys
have no idea how hard it's been for me to
eat food beyond dinner time. I am so good at
(03:15):
cooking for my family at dinner time. I am from
South Louisiana. Baby, I know how to cook a good dinner,
and I do cook a good dinner. But like doing lunch, snacks,
breakfast that's not coffee, Like, are you kidding me? A,
it's overwhelming, Like you have to plan your meal, you
have to go to the grocery store, you have to
(03:36):
prep it, you have to cook it. That's too much, baby,
I got too much on my plate. And then on
top of that, you also gotta diff for dinner. Yeah,
I do it three times a day, every single day.
Why didn't somebody prepare me for that adulthood? They're like, oh,
you gotta go to work out. Me, I gotta eat
three times a day at a minimum. Think about it.
I gotta go to the grocery store. I gotta cook it.
H uh wild. So for the last three weeks, you guys,
(04:00):
for the first time in my life, I have been
consistent in eating the proper foods for my sport. And
I intend to share with you guys more on that
because it's three weeks or the rest of my life. Like,
I am not going to allow myself to fall back
into old patterns. So today I wanted to talk about
this light switch moment that happened with me in consistency,
(04:23):
because me and consistency we're old. We're all those. Man.
I've been trying to be consistent in areas of my
life long time, long time, and I think just something
shifted in me because I finally realized that I always
set goals to be consistent to get an outcome beyond consistency.
So let's take snowboarding for example, because I feel like
(04:46):
that's just the easiest one right now, I would say, Okay,
I want to be in the gym five days a week,
you know, be on the snow three days a week,
whatever it is. I mean, those are just made up
numbers because I wish I was only on snow or okay,
hold on, that sounded like I did not love snowboarding.
I love snowboarding, but sometimes it could be a little
much when it's training and not having fun. So anyway,
(05:09):
my goal is to do all of these things because
in my head, I'm like, well, then I'll win a
gold medal at the Games. So I want to be
consistent so that I win a gold medal at the Games. Now,
that has never worked for me, Like, for whatever reason,
that has not been enough for me to be consistent.
And what changed was this trip, this therapy session that
I had. I rolled up into her office. I said
(05:31):
many words like I said, and I said, I want
my only goal right now to be consistency in the
areas that I care about. I want to be consistent.
I want to be known to myself as a consistent person,
Like I want to be able to look in the
mirror and be like that Brenda girl, she's consistent, because
up until this point, I would look at the mirror
and be like, Oh, that Brenda girl, she's consistently inconsistent,
Like she's always going to circle back to the things
(05:54):
that are important, but she's always inconsistent about it, like
she's going to drop the ball. That's how identified myself.
That's how I saw myself, and it felt like something
that couldn't change. It still feels like something that's really
hard to change. I mean, I've read, y'all. I'm a
big reader. If you could see this area of my
closet right now I'm filming in my closet, you could
(06:14):
see so many books. I love reading, I love understanding
and consistency. I read the books on habits. I did
all that. None of it really stuck. None of it.
Like I remember in what is It? Tiny Havocs, Atomic habits,
and they're all the same, and they were like, Oh,
I want to identify as a person that goes to
the gym, So I'm going to go to the gym
every day for seven minutes or whatever. And that gets
(06:36):
me to the gym that never worked for me, that
never worked for me until I said I'm going to
identify as someone who's consistent in the areas that she
cares about. Now that worked for me, So it's kind
of the same theory, but I had to look at
it from a more intrinsic level of like something within
myself I wanted to change, not something that I wanted
(06:57):
to do more of, because routine and habits and sticking
to them and setting them is really difficult for me.
So with that, I said, Okay, I want to be
known to myself as someone who is consistent. I want
to be able to look in the mirror and know
that I am one consistent girl. And if I can't
(07:17):
uphold what I'm trying to do, you know, I show
myself grace and I get back on track. But if
I could control it, I do. So. For instance, I
just drove, you know, ten hours about to get a
stocket made, so ten hours down, I was there all
day getting a stocket made. Ten hours back. I did
not go to the gym those three days. I was
(07:38):
exhausted and so telling myself like, yeah, you didn't you
didn't hit your workouts, but you rested, you recovered, you
gave yourself nutrition, water, you took care of yourself in
other ways. So that when you got back home, you
can go to the gym. So that's today. So so
long as I go to the gym today, baby, we're
back on track. And I firmly believe I'm still a
(07:59):
consistent person, even though I didn't go to the gym,
Like I don't want to hurt myself trying to stay consistent.
But in those moments that I can, you bet your
bottom dollar, I'm going to be in the areas that
it needs to be. Also was consistent in other ways,
that's neither here nor there. So I had somebody reach
out to me, one of my good friends, and she
was like, Hey, I'm really wanting to be in the
gym more. I want to get my way under control.
(08:20):
I've got these goals for myself and it's really hard
to do it, Like how do you do it? How
do you stay motivated? And literally, she could not have
asked me that at a better time, because I'm also
starting on a similar journey even though I'm for their
head because I'm always in the gym, but I'm like
adding more consistency to that. And something my therapist said
(08:43):
when we were talking about consistency, she said, Okay, well
what are your priorities with consistency. I was like, well,
social media, gym, snowboarding, when that rolls around, PT mom
and I want to be a good mom, those are
the areas I want to be consistent. Speaking is another one. Anyway,
Oh my god LinkedIn, Oh I'm stressing myself on now.
(09:03):
So she was like, okay, well I had a client.
This is my therapist speaking. Who said and this is
also from tiny habits or atomic habits, but we're going
to pretend that it's not. Who said, I want to
go to the gym. I want to be healthy, and
I'm going to go for seven minutes, and I'll always
show up because it's only seven minutes. I can do
(09:24):
anything for seven minutes. I just got to get my
shoes and go to the gym seven minutes, and then
I always end up there for twenty right, Like, so
setting the bar low is kind of what that conversation
like sparked for me. And so I, you know, let
my friend know this, and I was like, look like
I'm going through this too. I think one thing that
holds me back from being consistent, and holds me back
(09:46):
from new habits and new goals and new things is
I set the bar really high because I know what
I can achieve. I set the bar really high because
I know that I'm a person who can do hard
things and amazing things, and I hold myself to a
really high standard because I respect myself and I know
that I can do that. However, that's not the way
(10:06):
to make these life long changes. I know that we
want to, and maybe we can for a minute, but
it's not a sustainable way to ultimately change your life.
And I really get icked out when I say, like,
I want to change my life. But I feel like,
for the first time in a really long time, I'm
actually seeing what my life could be if I stick
(10:31):
to what I'm doing and keeping the bar low, because
keeping the bar low is more sustainable. And also for
the people who maybe identified with the fact that we
hold ourselves to such high standards because we know what
we can achieve, reminding ourselves that again, just because you
(10:53):
miss a day doesn't mean you're not what you're working on.
Life has so many factors, and it's weighing your pros
and cons, it's being in that moment. It's all the
choices that you make, and they all have a meaning
and a purpose. And if you're allowing yourself to breathe
and be in that moment, then you're always going to
make the best choice for yourself when it comes to
(11:16):
your choices and your decisions. So the other thing that
I kind of came up with when I was talking
to my friend and also somewhat happened in therapy, was
I said, Okay, so we have like setting the small goal,
lowering the bar, we said, having a goal. Well, shoot,
I don't know if we said this, so we're gonna
say it anyway, Like it's not the ADHD podcast, but
(11:37):
it might as well be, because your girl did not
make an outline. So what I mean by this is like,
again for me, I kind of already explained it a
little bit, but I just want to make sure that
it's clear. Is I set the goal for myself inconsistency, right,
Like I want to be consistent in the areas that
(11:57):
I care about. I didn't set any other goal, Like
I honestly right now have no other goals. I kind
of like scratch them off. I know what I'm working towards,
but like I don't know where I'm going to end
up in those areas. But I know what I'm working
towards anyway. My friend I said, if going to the
gym isn't enough motivation, okay, just saying that I'm going
to be a person that goes to the gym, If
(12:18):
that's not enough motivation, If saying I'm going to get
fit because I want to look a certain way and
I don't. I don't know. I'm just trying to make
stuff up. Then if that's not enough, And if going
to the gym for a longer life isn't enough, if
we're going to the gym for family reasons isn't enough.
But you know, you need to do it, and maybe
you even want to do it. You need to find
(12:40):
something in there that you can connect to. Going to
the gym a different goal. So maybe consistency is your
goal like mine. Maybe going to more public places and
feeling comfortable is your goal. Maybe moving your body for
the sake whatever it is. Literally, you know, it's really
(13:01):
cool and really fun. You get to make it up,
you get to decide to be whatever you want. I
feel like we passed that up so much. I know
I do. I am somebody who has to have all
the information from everyone before I make a decision about myself.
I'm working on it, and I gotta tell you, I
have yet to see someone say that. Girl. You get
to make up your why completely entirely. It could be nothing.
(13:25):
It could mean nothing to anybody else, but mean the
world to you, and that is enough. You get to
define it. So anyway, lower your bar, have a why
that makes sense to you, regardless if it makes sense
to anybody else. Do the dang thing. Identify with yourself, like,
(13:46):
find a way that you identify with yourself that makes
you feel good. Wow. We talked a lot on this,
but we I talked a lot on this podcast. I
really really hope that you guys enjoyed it. I think
I'm gonna wrap it here because I feel like we
got I got it all out. I mean, this is
where I'm at with consistency. I'm feeling really proud of myself.
I've had to stop so many times and say you
(14:09):
just beat your limit, like you just did that, and
then I say, okay, but there's more to come. But
the fact that I've been able to stop along the
journey celebrate those small wins and yeah sometimes or at
least when I started it and I knew that the
bar was low, I still celebrated because I still beat
my past consistencies. I still beat what my past self
(14:32):
did with a higher bar, right Like, even though the
bar was low, I still did better than I ever
had when the bar was higher. That deserves celebrating. So
if you're like me, you're struggling with consistency or whatever
it is, it just starts with a decision to change.
And I want to change. I think that's been the
(14:52):
biggest thing for me. I've been comfortable in being known
as someone who's consistently inconsistent, and something changed to me
and I was like, I can't do this anymore. It's
not serving me. It's not serving me to identify with this.
It's not cute anymore. I don't want to do it.
Help me. That was actually one really funny part of
my therapy session because I literally started the conversation with, look,
(15:15):
I want help. I want you to tell me exactly
what to do, please go into detail. But then I
don't know why I'm going to fight everything that you
say because I don't want to do that, because you
told me to do that, and now it's not fun anymore,
and I don't want to do that, And I'm going
to do everything else but that, because how dare you
(15:37):
have the audacity to tell me what to do? And uh,
I don't think that's how you should open up conversations
with somebody who's going to share their expertise with me.
You No, it was all good. I mean again, that's
something I'm working on too, because it's like I like
to know the why and deeply understand why I'm doing
something before I do it. So those are my moments,
(16:01):
So please tell me what to do. And if I
don't fully fully understand what you're telling me, I'm not
going to do it. But yeah, that's only hurting myself.
I'm working on it anyway. I hope you guys liked
this episode. Again, it was a bonus episode. I just
wanted to come on here chitchat talk about where I'm at,
what I'm dealing with and moving forward on these podcasts.
I cannot tell you exactly where it's going to go.
I had some original goals of continuing the mindset focus
(16:24):
and I wanted to take it to getting guests and
doing more of that, and I will probably continue on
that path, though I'm feeling like I want to talk
more about Paralympic snowboarding, my snowboarding career at being an athlete. Yeah,
it's a tricky situation to be in because I think
they go hand in hand really well. Though, if I
(16:45):
do end up talking more about my sports, it'll be
a lot more technical as well as you know, be
really cool to do like Q and a's with athletes
and other people. So, you know what, If you guys
have any ideas or what you want to see, please
feel free to DM me to not treat you poorly. Well,
I would never treat you poorly, but I would never
like I promise to not be offended by what you say. Internally,
(17:10):
I promise to not say how dare you have the
audacity to tell me what to do on my podcast?
I will never say that out loud, but I might
stay it internally, but I promise not to. I will
be better than my brain. So I actually would really
love your foodback at all times because I will take
it gently with myself. Anyway. I look forward to you
(17:32):
guys seeing the next season. Stay tuned on one that
will be. I'll send out an email to my subscriber list.
I'm not sure yet, we're working on it. I've got
a big season of snowboarding ahead of me, and so
it'll either be after the season or you know, maybe
it'll be after the new year. I don't know. Stay tuned.
We'll see where it goes. We'll see what I decide
(17:54):
to do with this. But I really do enjoy this
time with you guys. And yeah, I'll see you guys
on season three to be determined. And bye.
Hello, Hello, Hello, my gold Metal minds. I am so
excited to be with you guys with a bonus episode.
Typically my seasons are going to run seven episodes, but
I really was shooting for a bonus each season, and
that's what today's episode is. What I really want to
talk about and share is I got rid of anything
(00:24):
that matters and I'm like, what can I talk about that? Like,
I am so aligned with in this moment, things that
I'm working on. What am I proud of? And if
you've been following me along on social media, I joined
this campaign and the campaign runs for six weeks and
I have to have a purpose or a goal at
(00:44):
the end of the six weeks, and the journey goes
you know, week one, week two, week three, week four, six,
where I share pieces of that journey. Now why am
I sharing this on my podcast? What does this have
to do with anything? Well, around the same time that
I started that journey with this company, I sat in
my therapist's office and I said many things, but the
(01:06):
biggest one that I came out with was I said,
I just so desperately want to be consistent for the
first time in my life since I did gymnastics, do
you know the last time I did gymnastics twelve years ago? No,
thirteen years ago. So for the last thirteen years, I
(01:27):
could not tell you what it feels like to be
wholly consistent in all the areas of my life that
I want to be consistent in. I can look back,
you know, pre twenty eighteen even now, like consistent ways
that I've shown up for my girls. I feel like I'm,
you know, very consistent in that area. I can think
of ways that I've shown up for my sport consistently,
but there are so many areas that I've dropped the
(01:49):
ball in all of those places, and I know deep
within my gut, like deep within my soul, that I
could do so much better, but I'm not. And there
are a few reasons for this. A. I was undiagnosed
neurodivergent for a really long time and I still am.
I'm awaiting like a full evaluation. It's like a three
(02:10):
part valuation that's coming up this month, which I'm really
excited about. But regardless, like I didn't know how to
take care of myself and set myself up for success
to be consistent up until May of twenty twenty three,
and so I am just in this place of being
ready to stop doing the same old, same old, like
(02:33):
I want to be different. And so this journey that
I have been on with this company, we are approaching
week four. I just finished filming week four, and I
am so proud of myself because for the last three weeks,
I have been the most consistent. I have been on
social media, which is an area that I wanted to fix.
(02:55):
I have been the most consistent in the gym, which
is an air I want it to fix. I have
been the most consistent with eating. You have You guys
have no idea how hard it's been for me to
eat food beyond dinner time. I am so good at
(03:15):
cooking for my family at dinner time. I am from
South Louisiana. Baby, I know how to cook a good dinner,
and I do cook a good dinner. But like doing lunch, snacks,
breakfast that's not coffee, Like, are you kidding me? A,
it's overwhelming, Like you have to plan your meal, you
have to go to the grocery store, you have to
(03:36):
prep it, you have to cook it. That's too much, baby,
I got too much on my plate. And then on
top of that, you also gotta diff for dinner. Yeah,
I do it three times a day, every single day.
Why didn't somebody prepare me for that adulthood? They're like, oh,
you gotta go to work out. Me, I gotta eat
three times a day at a minimum. Think about it.
I gotta go to the grocery store. I gotta cook it.
H uh wild. So for the last three weeks, you guys,
(04:00):
for the first time in my life, I have been
consistent in eating the proper foods for my sport. And
I intend to share with you guys more on that
because it's three weeks or the rest of my life. Like,
I am not going to allow myself to fall back
into old patterns. So today I wanted to talk about
this light switch moment that happened with me in consistency,
(04:23):
because me and consistency we're old. We're all those. Man.
I've been trying to be consistent in areas of my
life long time, long time, and I think just something
shifted in me because I finally realized that I always
set goals to be consistent to get an outcome beyond consistency.
So let's take snowboarding for example, because I feel like
(04:46):
that's just the easiest one right now, I would say, Okay,
I want to be in the gym five days a week,
you know, be on the snow three days a week,
whatever it is. I mean, those are just made up
numbers because I wish I was only on snow or okay,
hold on, that sounded like I did not love snowboarding.
I love snowboarding, but sometimes it could be a little
much when it's training and not having fun. So anyway,
(05:09):
my goal is to do all of these things because
in my head, I'm like, well, then I'll win a
gold medal at the Games. So I want to be
consistent so that I win a gold medal at the Games. Now,
that has never worked for me, Like, for whatever reason,
that has not been enough for me to be consistent.
And what changed was this trip, this therapy session that
I had. I rolled up into her office. I said
(05:31):
many words like I said, and I said, I want
my only goal right now to be consistency in the
areas that I care about. I want to be consistent.
I want to be known to myself as a consistent person,
Like I want to be able to look in the
mirror and be like that Brenda girl, she's consistent, because
up until this point, I would look at the mirror
and be like, Oh, that Brenda girl, she's consistently inconsistent,
Like she's always going to circle back to the things
(05:54):
that are important, but she's always inconsistent about it, like
she's going to drop the ball. That's how identified myself.
That's how I saw myself, and it felt like something
that couldn't change. It still feels like something that's really
hard to change. I mean, I've read, y'all. I'm a
big reader. If you could see this area of my
closet right now I'm filming in my closet, you could
(06:14):
see so many books. I love reading, I love understanding
and consistency. I read the books on habits. I did
all that. None of it really stuck. None of it.
Like I remember in what is It? Tiny Havocs, Atomic habits,
and they're all the same, and they were like, Oh,
I want to identify as a person that goes to
the gym, So I'm going to go to the gym
every day for seven minutes or whatever. And that gets
(06:36):
me to the gym that never worked for me, that
never worked for me until I said I'm going to
identify as someone who's consistent in the areas that she
cares about. Now that worked for me, So it's kind
of the same theory, but I had to look at
it from a more intrinsic level of like something within
myself I wanted to change, not something that I wanted
(06:57):
to do more of, because routine and habits and sticking
to them and setting them is really difficult for me.
So with that, I said, Okay, I want to be
known to myself as someone who is consistent. I want
to be able to look in the mirror and know
that I am one consistent girl. And if I can't
(07:17):
uphold what I'm trying to do, you know, I show
myself grace and I get back on track. But if
I could control it, I do. So. For instance, I
just drove, you know, ten hours about to get a
stocket made, so ten hours down, I was there all
day getting a stocket made. Ten hours back. I did
not go to the gym those three days. I was
(07:38):
exhausted and so telling myself like, yeah, you didn't you
didn't hit your workouts, but you rested, you recovered, you
gave yourself nutrition, water, you took care of yourself in
other ways. So that when you got back home, you
can go to the gym. So that's today. So so
long as I go to the gym today, baby, we're
back on track. And I firmly believe I'm still a
(07:59):
consistent person, even though I didn't go to the gym,
Like I don't want to hurt myself trying to stay consistent.
But in those moments that I can, you bet your
bottom dollar, I'm going to be in the areas that
it needs to be. Also was consistent in other ways,
that's neither here nor there. So I had somebody reach
out to me, one of my good friends, and she
was like, Hey, I'm really wanting to be in the
gym more. I want to get my way under control.
(08:20):
I've got these goals for myself and it's really hard
to do it, Like how do you do it? How
do you stay motivated? And literally, she could not have
asked me that at a better time, because I'm also
starting on a similar journey even though I'm for their
head because I'm always in the gym, but I'm like
adding more consistency to that. And something my therapist said
(08:43):
when we were talking about consistency, she said, Okay, well
what are your priorities with consistency. I was like, well,
social media, gym, snowboarding, when that rolls around, PT mom
and I want to be a good mom, those are
the areas I want to be consistent. Speaking is another one. Anyway,
Oh my god LinkedIn, Oh I'm stressing myself on now.
(09:03):
So she was like, okay, well I had a client.
This is my therapist speaking. Who said and this is
also from tiny habits or atomic habits, but we're going
to pretend that it's not. Who said, I want to
go to the gym. I want to be healthy, and
I'm going to go for seven minutes, and I'll always
show up because it's only seven minutes. I can do
(09:24):
anything for seven minutes. I just got to get my
shoes and go to the gym seven minutes, and then
I always end up there for twenty right, Like, so
setting the bar low is kind of what that conversation
like sparked for me. And so I, you know, let
my friend know this, and I was like, look like
I'm going through this too. I think one thing that
holds me back from being consistent, and holds me back
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from new habits and new goals and new things is
I set the bar really high because I know what
I can achieve. I set the bar really high because
I know that I'm a person who can do hard
things and amazing things, and I hold myself to a
really high standard because I respect myself and I know
that I can do that. However, that's not the way
(10:06):
to make these life long changes. I know that we
want to, and maybe we can for a minute, but
it's not a sustainable way to ultimately change your life.
And I really get icked out when I say, like,
I want to change my life. But I feel like,
for the first time in a really long time, I'm
actually seeing what my life could be if I stick
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to what I'm doing and keeping the bar low, because
keeping the bar low is more sustainable. And also for
the people who maybe identified with the fact that we
hold ourselves to such high standards because we know what
we can achieve, reminding ourselves that again, just because you
(10:53):
miss a day doesn't mean you're not what you're working on.
Life has so many factors, and it's weighing your pros
and cons, it's being in that moment. It's all the
choices that you make, and they all have a meaning
and a purpose. And if you're allowing yourself to breathe
and be in that moment, then you're always going to
make the best choice for yourself when it comes to
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your choices and your decisions. So the other thing that
I kind of came up with when I was talking
to my friend and also somewhat happened in therapy, was
I said, Okay, so we have like setting the small goal,
lowering the bar, we said, having a goal. Well, shoot,
I don't know if we said this, so we're gonna
say it anyway, Like it's not the ADHD podcast, but
(11:37):
it might as well be, because your girl did not
make an outline. So what I mean by this is like,
again for me, I kind of already explained it a
little bit, but I just want to make sure that
it's clear. Is I set the goal for myself inconsistency, right,
Like I want to be consistent in the areas that
(11:57):
I care about. I didn't set any other goal, Like
I honestly right now have no other goals. I kind
of like scratch them off. I know what I'm working towards,
but like I don't know where I'm going to end
up in those areas. But I know what I'm working
towards anyway. My friend I said, if going to the
gym isn't enough motivation, okay, just saying that I'm going
to be a person that goes to the gym, If
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that's not enough motivation, If saying I'm going to get
fit because I want to look a certain way and
I don't. I don't know. I'm just trying to make
stuff up. Then if that's not enough, And if going
to the gym for a longer life isn't enough, if
we're going to the gym for family reasons isn't enough.
But you know, you need to do it, and maybe
you even want to do it. You need to find
(12:40):
something in there that you can connect to. Going to
the gym a different goal. So maybe consistency is your
goal like mine. Maybe going to more public places and
feeling comfortable is your goal. Maybe moving your body for
the sake whatever it is. Literally, you know, it's really
(13:01):
cool and really fun. You get to make it up,
you get to decide to be whatever you want. I
feel like we passed that up so much. I know
I do. I am somebody who has to have all
the information from everyone before I make a decision about myself.
I'm working on it, and I gotta tell you, I
have yet to see someone say that. Girl. You get
to make up your why completely entirely. It could be nothing.
(13:25):
It could mean nothing to anybody else, but mean the
world to you, and that is enough. You get to
define it. So anyway, lower your bar, have a why
that makes sense to you, regardless if it makes sense
to anybody else. Do the dang thing. Identify with yourself, like,
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find a way that you identify with yourself that makes
you feel good. Wow. We talked a lot on this,
but we I talked a lot on this podcast. I
really really hope that you guys enjoyed it. I think
I'm gonna wrap it here because I feel like we
got I got it all out. I mean, this is
where I'm at with consistency. I'm feeling really proud of myself.
I've had to stop so many times and say you
(14:09):
just beat your limit, like you just did that, and
then I say, okay, but there's more to come. But
the fact that I've been able to stop along the
journey celebrate those small wins and yeah sometimes or at
least when I started it and I knew that the
bar was low, I still celebrated because I still beat
my past consistencies. I still beat what my past self
(14:32):
did with a higher bar, right Like, even though the
bar was low, I still did better than I ever
had when the bar was higher. That deserves celebrating. So
if you're like me, you're struggling with consistency or whatever
it is, it just starts with a decision to change.
And I want to change. I think that's been the
(14:52):
biggest thing for me. I've been comfortable in being known
as someone who's consistently inconsistent, and something changed to me
and I was like, I can't do this anymore. It's
not serving me. It's not serving me to identify with this.
It's not cute anymore. I don't want to do it.
Help me. That was actually one really funny part of
my therapy session because I literally started the conversation with, look,
(15:15):
I want help. I want you to tell me exactly
what to do, please go into detail. But then I
don't know why I'm going to fight everything that you
say because I don't want to do that, because you
told me to do that, and now it's not fun anymore,
and I don't want to do that, And I'm going
to do everything else but that, because how dare you
(15:37):
have the audacity to tell me what to do? And uh,
I don't think that's how you should open up conversations
with somebody who's going to share their expertise with me.
You No, it was all good. I mean again, that's
something I'm working on too, because it's like I like
to know the why and deeply understand why I'm doing
something before I do it. So those are my moments,
(16:01):
So please tell me what to do. And if I
don't fully fully understand what you're telling me, I'm not
going to do it. But yeah, that's only hurting myself.
I'm working on it anyway. I hope you guys liked
this episode. Again, it was a bonus episode. I just
wanted to come on here chitchat talk about where I'm at,
what I'm dealing with and moving forward on these podcasts.
I cannot tell you exactly where it's going to go.
I had some original goals of continuing the mindset focus
(16:24):
and I wanted to take it to getting guests and
doing more of that, and I will probably continue on
that path, though I'm feeling like I want to talk
more about Paralympic snowboarding, my snowboarding career at being an athlete. Yeah,
it's a tricky situation to be in because I think
they go hand in hand really well. Though, if I
(16:45):
do end up talking more about my sports, it'll be
a lot more technical as well as you know, be
really cool to do like Q and a's with athletes
and other people. So, you know what, If you guys
have any ideas or what you want to see, please
feel free to DM me to not treat you poorly. Well,
I would never treat you poorly, but I would never
like I promise to not be offended by what you say. Internally,
(17:10):
I promise to not say how dare you have the
audacity to tell me what to do on my podcast?
I will never say that out loud, but I might
stay it internally, but I promise not to. I will
be better than my brain. So I actually would really
love your foodback at all times because I will take
it gently with myself. Anyway. I look forward to you
(17:32):
guys seeing the next season. Stay tuned on one that
will be. I'll send out an email to my subscriber list.
I'm not sure yet, we're working on it. I've got
a big season of snowboarding ahead of me, and so
it'll either be after the season or you know, maybe
it'll be after the new year. I don't know. Stay tuned.
We'll see where it goes. We'll see what I decide
(17:54):
to do with this. But I really do enjoy this
time with you guys. And yeah, I'll see you guys
on season three to be determined. And bye.
Host
Brenna Huckaby
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