October 3, 2023 • 17 mins
Conventional self-discipline could be more harmful than helpful on your path to success so consider this the new way to use self-discipline. In this episode, we challenge what we know about self-discipline and learn to apply it to enable mental wellness, work-life balance, and self-love. Tune in for more!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the Gold Medal mind Side Podcast.
I'm Runna Hu could be a three time Paralympic gold
medalist snowboarder, and I am so excited to help you
achieve your dreams from a place of self love rather
than self sacrifice. Today we will be discussing self discipline,
but it's almost an anti discipline episode because for me,
there have been so much negativity surrounding the term self discipline.
(00:25):
I used to take pride in my ability to be
self disciplined as a gymnast through school, all the way
up until five years ago on my snowboarding. However, after
my achievement awakening in twenty eighteen, when I went my
first gold medals at the Paralympics, and I came face
to face with the fact that no achievement can provide
me with self fulfillment I was searching for, I came
(00:46):
to realize that self discipline can often be related to
self sacrifice. I used to be in the look how
awesome I amshye goal because I'm so disciplined. I'm sacrificing
all of these things in my life to achieve this goal,
so clearly I deserve it. But the truth is that
that's not discipline, it's just unhealthy achievement behavior. So many
(01:06):
of us were sold. So in this episode, we're going
to explore what self discipline truly means and how we
can make sure we're practicing it in a way that
is healthy and aligned with our truest self to ultimately
achieve our goals in a way that we can be
proud of. You see, I am not only focused on
achieving goals. I believe in balance and well being of
(01:28):
the whole person. So let's dive in. Self discipline can
be defined as the ability to consistently take action towards
achieving specific goals or outcomes, regardless if you feel like
doing it or not. It involves consciously prioritizing what is
important to you in committing to consistent effort and action
over time. It also helps you stay focused when you're
(01:48):
faced with obstacles and challenges, because without it, it's easy
to give up when distractions or temptations arrive that derail
your progress. So honestly, on paper, this sounds pretty awesome.
I'm not gonna lie, but the problem is when self
discipline is taken to the extreme, I don't know about you,
but I feel like there are tons of leading voices
in the personal development arena that scream the importance of
(02:10):
self discipline in a very unhealthy way. I have seen
challenges that are disguised as self discipline, but they're incredibly
unsustainable because they often neglect your personal health, your mental health,
and your overall relationship with life, those around you, and yourself.
So we know there is an importance to self discipline
when it comes to success, but how can we make
sure we are practicing it in a way that is
(02:32):
good for us as well rounded individuals. The solution I
chose for myself five years ago that I've been living
by has proven to be very successful in approaching self
discipline with a focus on self care, mindfulness, and self compassion.
And unhealthy self discipline can create unnecessary pressure. It can
lead to burnout in other mental health struggles, and a
(02:53):
lot of those challenges and education around self discipline often
focuses on setting on real life stick expectations and pushing
ourselves too hard, which leads to burnout. It's unsustainable, causes
anxiety and feelings of inadequacy when we don't meet those goals,
or low self esteem. And prioritizing self discipline over self
care can literally cause physical illness. When I was deep
(03:17):
in my unhealthy self discipline era, I fell victim to
prioritizing whatever my self discipline pursuits needed. For instance, I
never provided my body the rest it needed. While I
was training, I was always in the gym. I was
always on snow. I was always focused on my next competition,
my next event. Everything I did, I was training and
constantly prioritizing my work and my future potential for success
(03:41):
over my family, my hobbies, my mental health, and self care.
I was the definition of work hard, self sacrifice and
one day you can be successful and it will all
pay off. And let me tell you, during this grind time,
I went blind, I developed large nodes down my leg
needs were raised, bumps the size of golf balls. Became
severely allergic to dairy any hint of anything, including butter.
(04:04):
I was on the couch and pain. I developed a
cyst on my prosthetic side the size of a golf ball,
and I had waves of nerve pain so bad that
if you took a deep breath near my general direction,
I would be an excruciating pain. This went on the
entire twenty seventeen twenty eighteen winter season as I was
gearing up for my first Paralympic Games. I saw multiple
(04:25):
doctors during this time, and every single one of my
symptoms was idiopathic, meaning there was no cause or no cure.
It was extremely bizarre. However, a week after winning the games,
every symptom resolved, and since dismantling my understanding of success
and achievement, I have never had any of these symptoms return.
Unhealthy self discipline doesn't only affect your mental health, it
(04:48):
can also deteriorate your physical health. So it's crucial to
strike a balance between self discipline and self care and
to be kind and compassionate to ourselves throughout the entire process.
This will just help you be overall more healthy. After
the twenty eighteen Paralympics, I started to find love for myself.
I stopped self sacrificing on my achievement journey, and I
(05:09):
picked up a few practices that are some non negotiables
in my life. While I still set and work towards
big goals, I know there is so much more to
life than any external validation. I know that no matter
what I accomplished, I will not be provided the self
worth I was searching for. So when I set goals,
I make them realistic, I map at plans, I take small,
(05:29):
sustainable action to achieve those goals, and I release control
of the outcome I will create. When I set any goal,
I know that so much of my life can happen
and plans can shift. And for me, goals are a
direction to know how to act in my life, to
know where I am going. But they are not my
entire life. What is part of my life is self care.
As an athlete, I've had profound results by taking time
(05:52):
to recover, to rest, and to nurture my body. The
same goes mentally. You're so much stronger, more focused, and
overall better when you prioritize self care that has healing results. Now,
I don't know about you, but not only do I
love hearing personal stories, I also love having tips that
I can apply to my own life. And everything I
share here, guys, is so simple it will benefit your
(06:13):
life satisfaction. However, simple doesn't mean easy. Nothing worthwhile in
life is easy, and as you continue to practice this
way of living, it does become easier. So let's dive
into some tips for approaching self discipline in a healthy way.
Number one, She's back. Oh, she's back again, so soon,
because she is absolutely important to any goal, relationship, or
(06:36):
process in life, and she has none other than drum roll.
Please prioritizing self care and mental wellness. There are so
many ways you can give yourself moments of self care
throughout the day. You can take breaks, you can practice mindfulness.
You can engage in activities that bring you joy relaxation
with no other goal than to enjoy the experience. Self
(06:58):
care for me has shifted from star in care routines,
shower routines, daily readings, pull fitness for the sheer enjoyment
of it, gardening, sanga, and so much more. So some
days I have more to give myself than others. But
even as a self love, self care practicing queen, there
are days when I neglect it, and at the end
of the day I always know I did not take
care of myself well because I can feel it in
(07:19):
my body mind, which leads me to number two. Now,
this one was kind of touched on in self care,
but I'm giving it its own area because it's that
big and it's practicing mindfulness or meditation and being present
in the moment and accepting your thoughts and feelings without judgment,
cultivating an awareness and accepting your thoughts and emotions, and
this can enhance emotional resilience, and it can reduce stress.
(07:40):
And I have gained so much insight on how to
do tasks or whether or not I want to do tasks,
and just overall how to live better than I was.
And you don't have to get on your meditation pillow
and ring a bell instead, you can start right now.
It's just giving yourself a moment of silence to focus
on your breathing, fail your stomach rise to one two
(08:02):
three four five six seven eight exhale one two three
four I six seven eight. It is really that simple.
That is all there is to it. I know. For me,
when I first was taught to do mindfulness and meditation,
(08:22):
I was like, girl, I don't I can't shut my
mind off. I'm adhd. I got too many things going on.
If I turn my brain off, how are things going
to get done? And what I've come to learn is
meditation and mindfulness isn't about turning your brain off. It's
simply being aware of what is coming up. It's knowing
that I am not these thoughts. I am just someone
who is aware of these thoughts, and I can't always
(08:45):
get rid of them. So instead I'm just going to
look at them and I'm going to observe them, and
I'm not going to give them any meaning. And over time,
I've been practicing mindfulness now for five years and I
can't turn my brain off. And you even ask somebody
with ADHD. That is so amazing to me because I
never thought I would see myself there. I can take
moments and they're not always long of just complete quiet
in my brain. It's very hard for me to do
(09:06):
while I'm doing activities, so that is one that I
do while I'm sitting down and focusing and concentrating on
nothing other than my breath. But it can happen. So
this next tip is a personal favorite of mine, and
I just want to set this up by saying I
am a very frugal gal. I do not like buy
in things, but occasionally I like to treat myself, especially
if there's a reason to celebrate. I like to use
(09:27):
positive reinforcement to encourage good behavior, to encourage consistency and
acknowledge the progress that I've made and this is going
to help build confidence and self esteem. And when I
am planning a new goal and I'm looking at the
path ahead, especially one that is going to take years
to see good results. When I'm planning out these goals,
I set moments in to treat myself through these checkpoints.
(09:49):
This can be after a week of starting a new
habit or reaching a new milestone, not quitting when I
really wanted to because it was PMDD causing me to
give up and stuck with it, and I deserve a little.
So whatever your reason is, take a moment to celebrate.
Sometimes my celebrations are a coffee at a local shop
or going thrifting or a big gift that I've wanted
for a while. So for me, I make sure that
(10:11):
the reward matches the task. Now, this one MM is
up there in importance and self discipline is the key,
but it will not always go as plan and life
happens you happen. Whatever the reason, show yourself compassion. Instead
of relentlessly pushing yourself towards your goals, treat yourself with
kindness and understanding, and recognize that mistakes will happen and
(10:34):
challenges are a part of this journey, and by reducing
the negative self talk when you don't stay consistent towards
your goals, when you do mess up or whatever you
want to call it, you can develop a more positive
relationship with yourself. Often challenge myself to see myself through
the lens of my mother or my best friend, and
how would I talk to someone I care about but
I hold them to the same unrealistic standard or what
(10:57):
I honor where they are and be proud of their progress.
I can guarantee it's the latter. And there is this
like line that I do struggle to draw sometimes and
I have known this and I've been aware of this myself,
but sometimes I can be a little too kind on
myself and I start seeing that, hey, I'm no longer
making progress, and that is where a coach comes in
(11:17):
for me, and I'm able to kind of get back
on track with where I was. And this is especially
true somebody with ADHD, because sometimes if I miss one
day of a habit, it has gone forever. And so
I really have to stay diligent on what I have
implemented in my life, why I have started it, holding
compassion from when I miss a day I don't beat
myself up, and I find ways to get back into it. Now,
(11:39):
this one should be done first before you even embark
on self discipline towards your goals. You should identify, develop,
and set realistic goals that align with your personal values
and priorities. This will help you stay motivated during challenging
times and prevent burnout. So you can't live for other
people's ideal future for you. No matter how much mental
(12:00):
gymnastics you do to make yourself think you want it,
you will burn out. You must find a way to
live for yourself. Find your own passions, your own values,
your own identities, and live from them each day at
a time. It's the only way. So we now understand,
the main focus of self discipline is being consistent in
your approach to your goals and taking care of yourself
(12:23):
in the process. But what happens when your brain literally
struggles with consistency no matter how hard you try. If
you're neurodivergent like me over here with ADHD, or you're
not neurodivergent, but this is something that you do struggle with.
I have a few quick strategies that I use to
help me stay on track without getting too overwhelmed. Number
one is I break my tasks into smaller, more manageable steps.
(12:45):
I use a reward system, as I said, to motivate myself.
So basically, what you're doing is you're getting dopamine from
doing your tasks. And it might not be from the
completion of a task, because I don't fully receive dopamine
from that, but I do receive dopamine from the reward
of purchasing something or a coffee or a suite. So
I make sure that I set those moments up in
(13:08):
alignment with something that I have completed. And also I
do treat myself outside of that, but I try to
make sure that that is consistent. Make sure the reward
matches the task, and your reward isn't too much of
that quick dopamine, because good luck getting back to doing
what you were doing before. So be really mindful in
what you end up choosing for yourself. Know yourself, pay attention,
(13:29):
be aware, but I guarantee this could help you stay consistent.
Number two, what you're gonna do is create a visual
schedule or a checklist that you can see and set
alarms to remind you of your tasks. Remember to include
that self care activity and prioritize them in those checklists.
Just be careful not to get too sucked into the
planning stage. I get so much more dopamine motivation and
(13:50):
energy in the beginning stages of a goal, so I
either have to purchase pre made resources or just make
shift something small. Otherwise I'll spend all of my mental energy, motivation,
and care on the plan and I never get to
the end goal. So be really mindful of that. But
make sure, like you're setting alarms, you're having visual cues
on what you're trying to accomplish, and this is going
to help you stay on task and on trend of
(14:11):
what you're trying to accomplish. And number three, she's making
a third return practice mindfulness. This can help you say
focused and avoid burnout. It'll force you to slow down
and be present and reconnect with your breathing, and this
will help you gain insight into your goals and the
best path to achieve them. So it'll help you see,
(14:31):
oh my god, wait, I've been so hyper fixated on
this task for six hours and I haven't eaten. And
if you've been hearing my stomach in the background, you
know that's kind of where I am in this moment.
So after this episode, I'm gonna go eat. But I
often have to set timers for a quick reminder to meditate,
to eat, to do a habit that I'm trying to implement,
And when I don't ignore those timers, I can feel
(14:53):
a major shift in my energy, my focus, clarity, and insight.
So it is super helpful and all in all, guys,
please remember that self discipline is crucial for achieving your goals,
but it's essential to approach it in a healthy way.
Prioritize your self care, practice mindfulness, cultivate self compassion. We
can maintain our mental and physical well being while striving
(15:14):
for success. So find a balance between self discipline and
self care because that is the key to living of
fulfilled life and avoiding burnout and other negative effects. Remember
you have the power to define success on your own
terms and pursue goals that truly align with your values
and aspirations. Thank you for tuning in to Season two,
(15:36):
Episode three of the Gold Metal Mindset Podcast. As we
wrap up today's discussion on self discipline, I want to
leave you with a little homework. It's time to take
a step towards achieving your dreams from a place of
self love rather than self sacrifice. So I encourage you, guys,
to reflect on your own approach to self discipline. Are
you prioritizing your well being and your self care? Are
you being mindful and compassionate towards yourself as you work
(15:58):
towards your goals and remer Guys, finding a balance is crucial.
So I hope you found this discussion on self discipline
enlightening and inspiring. And if you enjoyed this episode and
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(16:20):
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self discipline from a place of self love and well being.
And remember, self discipline doesn't have to be about sacrificing
(16:43):
your happiness or neglecting your self care. But integrating self care, mindfulness,
and self compassion into your journey, you can achieve your
goals while nurturing your overall wellbeing. You have the power
to redefine what self discipline needs to you and create
a life where achievement and well being go hand in hand.
So let's commit to practicing self discipline in a way
(17:04):
that is sustainable and healthy and nurturing our minds and
our bodies while reaching our dreams. So thank you guys
for being a part of the Gold Medal Mindset community.
Your supports the world to me. So let's go out
there embrace self discipline in a healthy, empowering way.
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the Gold Medal mind Side Podcast.
I'm Runna Hu could be a three time Paralympic gold
medalist snowboarder, and I am so excited to help you
achieve your dreams from a place of self love rather
than self sacrifice. Today we will be discussing self discipline,
but it's almost an anti discipline episode because for me,
there have been so much negativity surrounding the term self discipline.
(00:25):
I used to take pride in my ability to be
self disciplined as a gymnast through school, all the way
up until five years ago on my snowboarding. However, after
my achievement awakening in twenty eighteen, when I went my
first gold medals at the Paralympics, and I came face
to face with the fact that no achievement can provide
me with self fulfillment I was searching for, I came
(00:46):
to realize that self discipline can often be related to
self sacrifice. I used to be in the look how
awesome I amshye goal because I'm so disciplined. I'm sacrificing
all of these things in my life to achieve this goal,
so clearly I deserve it. But the truth is that
that's not discipline, it's just unhealthy achievement behavior. So many
(01:06):
of us were sold. So in this episode, we're going
to explore what self discipline truly means and how we
can make sure we're practicing it in a way that
is healthy and aligned with our truest self to ultimately
achieve our goals in a way that we can be
proud of. You see, I am not only focused on
achieving goals. I believe in balance and well being of
(01:28):
the whole person. So let's dive in. Self discipline can
be defined as the ability to consistently take action towards
achieving specific goals or outcomes, regardless if you feel like
doing it or not. It involves consciously prioritizing what is
important to you in committing to consistent effort and action
over time. It also helps you stay focused when you're
(01:48):
faced with obstacles and challenges, because without it, it's easy
to give up when distractions or temptations arrive that derail
your progress. So honestly, on paper, this sounds pretty awesome.
I'm not gonna lie, but the problem is when self
discipline is taken to the extreme, I don't know about you,
but I feel like there are tons of leading voices
in the personal development arena that scream the importance of
(02:10):
self discipline in a very unhealthy way. I have seen
challenges that are disguised as self discipline, but they're incredibly
unsustainable because they often neglect your personal health, your mental health,
and your overall relationship with life, those around you, and yourself.
So we know there is an importance to self discipline
when it comes to success, but how can we make
sure we are practicing it in a way that is
(02:32):
good for us as well rounded individuals. The solution I
chose for myself five years ago that I've been living
by has proven to be very successful in approaching self
discipline with a focus on self care, mindfulness, and self compassion.
And unhealthy self discipline can create unnecessary pressure. It can
lead to burnout in other mental health struggles, and a
(02:53):
lot of those challenges and education around self discipline often
focuses on setting on real life stick expectations and pushing
ourselves too hard, which leads to burnout. It's unsustainable, causes
anxiety and feelings of inadequacy when we don't meet those goals,
or low self esteem. And prioritizing self discipline over self
care can literally cause physical illness. When I was deep
(03:17):
in my unhealthy self discipline era, I fell victim to
prioritizing whatever my self discipline pursuits needed. For instance, I
never provided my body the rest it needed. While I
was training, I was always in the gym. I was
always on snow. I was always focused on my next competition,
my next event. Everything I did, I was training and
constantly prioritizing my work and my future potential for success
(03:41):
over my family, my hobbies, my mental health, and self care.
I was the definition of work hard, self sacrifice and
one day you can be successful and it will all
pay off. And let me tell you, during this grind time,
I went blind, I developed large nodes down my leg
needs were raised, bumps the size of golf balls. Became
severely allergic to dairy any hint of anything, including butter.
(04:04):
I was on the couch and pain. I developed a
cyst on my prosthetic side the size of a golf ball,
and I had waves of nerve pain so bad that
if you took a deep breath near my general direction,
I would be an excruciating pain. This went on the
entire twenty seventeen twenty eighteen winter season as I was
gearing up for my first Paralympic Games. I saw multiple
(04:25):
doctors during this time, and every single one of my
symptoms was idiopathic, meaning there was no cause or no cure.
It was extremely bizarre. However, a week after winning the games,
every symptom resolved, and since dismantling my understanding of success
and achievement, I have never had any of these symptoms return.
Unhealthy self discipline doesn't only affect your mental health, it
(04:48):
can also deteriorate your physical health. So it's crucial to
strike a balance between self discipline and self care and
to be kind and compassionate to ourselves throughout the entire process.
This will just help you be overall more healthy. After
the twenty eighteen Paralympics, I started to find love for myself.
I stopped self sacrificing on my achievement journey, and I
(05:09):
picked up a few practices that are some non negotiables
in my life. While I still set and work towards
big goals, I know there is so much more to
life than any external validation. I know that no matter
what I accomplished, I will not be provided the self
worth I was searching for. So when I set goals,
I make them realistic, I map at plans, I take small,
(05:29):
sustainable action to achieve those goals, and I release control
of the outcome I will create. When I set any goal,
I know that so much of my life can happen
and plans can shift. And for me, goals are a
direction to know how to act in my life, to
know where I am going. But they are not my
entire life. What is part of my life is self care.
As an athlete, I've had profound results by taking time
(05:52):
to recover, to rest, and to nurture my body. The
same goes mentally. You're so much stronger, more focused, and
overall better when you prioritize self care that has healing results. Now,
I don't know about you, but not only do I
love hearing personal stories, I also love having tips that
I can apply to my own life. And everything I
share here, guys, is so simple it will benefit your
(06:13):
life satisfaction. However, simple doesn't mean easy. Nothing worthwhile in
life is easy, and as you continue to practice this
way of living, it does become easier. So let's dive
into some tips for approaching self discipline in a healthy way.
Number one, She's back. Oh, she's back again, so soon,
because she is absolutely important to any goal, relationship, or
(06:36):
process in life, and she has none other than drum roll.
Please prioritizing self care and mental wellness. There are so
many ways you can give yourself moments of self care
throughout the day. You can take breaks, you can practice mindfulness.
You can engage in activities that bring you joy relaxation
with no other goal than to enjoy the experience. Self
(06:58):
care for me has shifted from star in care routines,
shower routines, daily readings, pull fitness for the sheer enjoyment
of it, gardening, sanga, and so much more. So some
days I have more to give myself than others. But
even as a self love, self care practicing queen, there
are days when I neglect it, and at the end
of the day I always know I did not take
care of myself well because I can feel it in
(07:19):
my body mind, which leads me to number two. Now,
this one was kind of touched on in self care,
but I'm giving it its own area because it's that
big and it's practicing mindfulness or meditation and being present
in the moment and accepting your thoughts and feelings without judgment,
cultivating an awareness and accepting your thoughts and emotions, and
this can enhance emotional resilience, and it can reduce stress.
(07:40):
And I have gained so much insight on how to
do tasks or whether or not I want to do tasks,
and just overall how to live better than I was.
And you don't have to get on your meditation pillow
and ring a bell instead, you can start right now.
It's just giving yourself a moment of silence to focus
on your breathing, fail your stomach rise to one two
(08:02):
three four five six seven eight exhale one two three
four I six seven eight. It is really that simple.
That is all there is to it. I know. For me,
when I first was taught to do mindfulness and meditation,
(08:22):
I was like, girl, I don't I can't shut my
mind off. I'm adhd. I got too many things going on.
If I turn my brain off, how are things going
to get done? And what I've come to learn is
meditation and mindfulness isn't about turning your brain off. It's
simply being aware of what is coming up. It's knowing
that I am not these thoughts. I am just someone
who is aware of these thoughts, and I can't always
(08:45):
get rid of them. So instead I'm just going to
look at them and I'm going to observe them, and
I'm not going to give them any meaning. And over time,
I've been practicing mindfulness now for five years and I
can't turn my brain off. And you even ask somebody
with ADHD. That is so amazing to me because I
never thought I would see myself there. I can take
moments and they're not always long of just complete quiet
in my brain. It's very hard for me to do
(09:06):
while I'm doing activities, so that is one that I
do while I'm sitting down and focusing and concentrating on
nothing other than my breath. But it can happen. So
this next tip is a personal favorite of mine, and
I just want to set this up by saying I
am a very frugal gal. I do not like buy
in things, but occasionally I like to treat myself, especially
if there's a reason to celebrate. I like to use
(09:27):
positive reinforcement to encourage good behavior, to encourage consistency and
acknowledge the progress that I've made and this is going
to help build confidence and self esteem. And when I
am planning a new goal and I'm looking at the
path ahead, especially one that is going to take years
to see good results. When I'm planning out these goals,
I set moments in to treat myself through these checkpoints.
(09:49):
This can be after a week of starting a new
habit or reaching a new milestone, not quitting when I
really wanted to because it was PMDD causing me to
give up and stuck with it, and I deserve a little.
So whatever your reason is, take a moment to celebrate.
Sometimes my celebrations are a coffee at a local shop
or going thrifting or a big gift that I've wanted
for a while. So for me, I make sure that
(10:11):
the reward matches the task. Now, this one MM is
up there in importance and self discipline is the key,
but it will not always go as plan and life
happens you happen. Whatever the reason, show yourself compassion. Instead
of relentlessly pushing yourself towards your goals, treat yourself with
kindness and understanding, and recognize that mistakes will happen and
(10:34):
challenges are a part of this journey, and by reducing
the negative self talk when you don't stay consistent towards
your goals, when you do mess up or whatever you
want to call it, you can develop a more positive
relationship with yourself. Often challenge myself to see myself through
the lens of my mother or my best friend, and
how would I talk to someone I care about but
I hold them to the same unrealistic standard or what
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I honor where they are and be proud of their progress.
I can guarantee it's the latter. And there is this
like line that I do struggle to draw sometimes and
I have known this and I've been aware of this myself,
but sometimes I can be a little too kind on
myself and I start seeing that, hey, I'm no longer
making progress, and that is where a coach comes in
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for me, and I'm able to kind of get back
on track with where I was. And this is especially
true somebody with ADHD, because sometimes if I miss one
day of a habit, it has gone forever. And so
I really have to stay diligent on what I have
implemented in my life, why I have started it, holding
compassion from when I miss a day I don't beat
myself up, and I find ways to get back into it. Now,
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this one should be done first before you even embark
on self discipline towards your goals. You should identify, develop,
and set realistic goals that align with your personal values
and priorities. This will help you stay motivated during challenging
times and prevent burnout. So you can't live for other
people's ideal future for you. No matter how much mental
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gymnastics you do to make yourself think you want it,
you will burn out. You must find a way to
live for yourself. Find your own passions, your own values,
your own identities, and live from them each day at
a time. It's the only way. So we now understand,
the main focus of self discipline is being consistent in
your approach to your goals and taking care of yourself
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in the process. But what happens when your brain literally
struggles with consistency no matter how hard you try. If
you're neurodivergent like me over here with ADHD, or you're
not neurodivergent, but this is something that you do struggle with.
I have a few quick strategies that I use to
help me stay on track without getting too overwhelmed. Number
one is I break my tasks into smaller, more manageable steps.
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I use a reward system, as I said, to motivate myself.
So basically, what you're doing is you're getting dopamine from
doing your tasks. And it might not be from the
completion of a task, because I don't fully receive dopamine
from that, but I do receive dopamine from the reward
of purchasing something or a coffee or a suite. So
I make sure that I set those moments up in
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alignment with something that I have completed. And also I
do treat myself outside of that, but I try to
make sure that that is consistent. Make sure the reward
matches the task, and your reward isn't too much of
that quick dopamine, because good luck getting back to doing
what you were doing before. So be really mindful in
what you end up choosing for yourself. Know yourself, pay attention,
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be aware, but I guarantee this could help you stay consistent.
Number two, what you're gonna do is create a visual
schedule or a checklist that you can see and set
alarms to remind you of your tasks. Remember to include
that self care activity and prioritize them in those checklists.
Just be careful not to get too sucked into the
planning stage. I get so much more dopamine motivation and
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energy in the beginning stages of a goal, so I
either have to purchase pre made resources or just make
shift something small. Otherwise I'll spend all of my mental energy, motivation,
and care on the plan and I never get to
the end goal. So be really mindful of that. But
make sure, like you're setting alarms, you're having visual cues
on what you're trying to accomplish, and this is going
to help you stay on task and on trend of
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what you're trying to accomplish. And number three, she's making
a third return practice mindfulness. This can help you say
focused and avoid burnout. It'll force you to slow down
and be present and reconnect with your breathing, and this
will help you gain insight into your goals and the
best path to achieve them. So it'll help you see,
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oh my god, wait, I've been so hyper fixated on
this task for six hours and I haven't eaten. And
if you've been hearing my stomach in the background, you
know that's kind of where I am in this moment.
So after this episode, I'm gonna go eat. But I
often have to set timers for a quick reminder to meditate,
to eat, to do a habit that I'm trying to implement,
And when I don't ignore those timers, I can feel
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a major shift in my energy, my focus, clarity, and insight.
So it is super helpful and all in all, guys,
please remember that self discipline is crucial for achieving your goals,
but it's essential to approach it in a healthy way.
Prioritize your self care, practice mindfulness, cultivate self compassion. We
can maintain our mental and physical well being while striving
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for success. So find a balance between self discipline and
self care because that is the key to living of
fulfilled life and avoiding burnout and other negative effects. Remember
you have the power to define success on your own
terms and pursue goals that truly align with your values
and aspirations. Thank you for tuning in to Season two,
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Episode three of the Gold Metal Mindset Podcast. As we
wrap up today's discussion on self discipline, I want to
leave you with a little homework. It's time to take
a step towards achieving your dreams from a place of
self love rather than self sacrifice. So I encourage you, guys,
to reflect on your own approach to self discipline. Are
you prioritizing your well being and your self care? Are
you being mindful and compassionate towards yourself as you work
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towards your goals and remer Guys, finding a balance is crucial.
So I hope you found this discussion on self discipline
enlightening and inspiring. And if you enjoyed this episode and
found any value or insights in it, share it. I
would really be incredibly grateful if you could just take
a moment to leave a review or a rating on
your preferred podcast platform, and your feedback and support will
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help me reach more people who can benefit from these
empowering conversations. Additionally, I encourage you to share this episode
on social media with your friends, family, or anyone who
might find it helpful, and together we can create a
ripple effect of positive change and empower others to approach
self discipline from a place of self love and well being.
And remember, self discipline doesn't have to be about sacrificing
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your happiness or neglecting your self care. But integrating self care, mindfulness,
and self compassion into your journey, you can achieve your
goals while nurturing your overall wellbeing. You have the power
to redefine what self discipline needs to you and create
a life where achievement and well being go hand in hand.
So let's commit to practicing self discipline in a way
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that is sustainable and healthy and nurturing our minds and
our bodies while reaching our dreams. So thank you guys
for being a part of the Gold Medal Mindset community.
Your supports the world to me. So let's go out
there embrace self discipline in a healthy, empowering way.
Host
Brenna Huckaby
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