September 19, 2023 • 28 mins
Did you know that it's absolutely possible to find that perfect balance between success and happiness? It's true! All it takes is a few adjustments in our personal and professional goals to make it a reality. That's what this episode is all about—setting goals and going after them while also prioritizing self-love.
As we dive into this topic, I can't help but feel like we're having a heart-to-heart conversation, just like I would with a close friend. I'm excited to share all my insights on personal growth through healthy goal-setting. Trust me, I've learned the importance of self-care the hard way, but now I want to save you the trouble. Together, we'll uncover the secrets to achieving both success and happiness in life, so you can fast-track your journey to living your very own gold medal life.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the Gold Medal Mindset Podcast. It's
me Brenda Huckabee, three time Paralympic snowboarding gold medalists, and
I am so thrilled to be here with all of you.
Welcome to Season two, Episode one, where we will dive
deep into the tools and skills necessary to not only
achieve those huge, ambitious goals, but also to learn how
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to have a life full of love, full of pride
without sacrificing the things that mean the most to us.
I started this journey because I had finally reached the
pinnacle of my career. I was standing at the very
top of the podium at the Paralympics, no more accolades
to chase. I thought I had finally made it, believing
that now because I had reached my goal, I could
experience true freedom. I could save her life. I thought
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I had finally made it and I could love myself
and find happiness finally. But guess what, as you could imagine,
no achievement, no matter how grand, can provide what I
was truly seeking, which was self worth. So over the
next five years, I made it a personal mission of
mine to day if I could accomplish these monumental goals
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without sacrificing myself, without sacrificing my mental health, without sacrificing
my relationships, time with my family, hobbies, and things that
are just really important to me. I'll be honest. I
was petrified. I had no idea if I could be
successful from this new place of self worth. I didn't
know if I could achieve my goals from a place
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of self love. I had leaned into so heavily this
quote unquote dark side, believing that I had a competitive
edge because I deemed myself unworthy, because I was constantly
trying to prove myself. And I don't know about you,
but in some ways that served me. From the snowboard,
that served me. In putting my head down and getting
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to work, that served me. But when it came to
enjoying life, into slowing down, into seeing how I was feeling,
and to seeing how my health was, it did not
serve me. I was burning out my body, out my
mental health, neglecting my relationships. I was struggling to have
it all, and I truly believed I couldn't. I truly
believed I needed to be this way to be successful.
So I knew this way was working in sports but
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not working in my everyday life. I needed a shift
if I was going to stay on this earth, if
I was going to keep maintaining the life that I
had built. I knew I needed to shift. I knew
I needed to change, but I had no idea if
it was going to serve me successfully. When it came
to starting this, I had to completely unlearn conventional ideas
of success. I had to release how I was taught
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what it took to be successful, and I had to
go out on my own path. And I call this
path the gold Metal Life, which is a life worth
fighting for. And you will hear me throughout all the
next episodes in possibly seasons on the Gold Metal Mindset,
where I say a life worth fighting for? So what
does that mean? As a cancer survivor myself who had
witnessed many of my friends lose their battle, I made
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it a personal mission to not only live for myself,
but also to live for my friends who lost their
battle that didn't have the chance to be and live
the way that they dreamed of. You often hear me
repeat it because it holds such immense significance for me.
A life worth fighting for means cherishing every moment. It
means knowing that if you were to be stripped away
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of everything tomorrow, you have made the absolute most out
of your time. And this isn't about wealth and money
and status. This isn't about being the very best. What
it is about is savoring each step of your journey
and relishing in every breath that you get to take.
And that is the essence of a gold medal life.
Each and every one of us possesses the power to
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live a life worth fighting for right now, and it
begins with charting the course of how you want to
live your life. Where do you want to go and
how do we do that? And it's a very simple
practice that is in the majority of my past episodes
and I'm sure it'll come up again in the future,
and it's setting goals. Today. We won't solely be focusing
on the goal aspects of goal setting, because that is
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all in season one. What we will be doing, though,
is exploring the reasons why we should set goals, so
ultimately we'll learn how to establish goals that determine our
personal success. We're going to be taken back the reins
of our lives we're going to shatter all those preconceived
notions of success. And finally, I would not be doing
y'all justice if I did not give y'all five evidence
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based strategies that you could use today to empower you
with tools to craft your goals and move you forward
in a life worth fighting for. Some people may argue
that goals totally detract from the present moment, and to
some extent that may be true. However, the benefits like
far outweigh the cons and we're going to be diving
into that today so that we can make the most
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informed decision when we're setting these goals that align with
our truest selves, that align with what we really want.
So get ready for that transformative journey, guys. The Gold
Medal Mindset podcast is here to ignite your passion, unleash
your potential, and guide you towards a life that surpasses
your wild today. So if you're ready, let's get into it.
And it is so hard to not break into a
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digitat song right now until weekend. Anyway, Oh my gosh,
let's go. So I recently learned that only twenty percent
of people set goals for themselves. That means there are
eighty percent of people out here walking around this earth
right now without some kind of goal. What are y'all doing?
He's mindlessly walking, like just letting life pull you where
you should be going. To some extent, I kind of
actually see the benefit of that. But let's be real, though,
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If you don't have a roadmap for how you're living
your life, how do you know that you're in control
of it. I'm gonna pause here for a second because
that word control just kind of triggered me a little bit,
because we're not in full control. I mean, I was
a competitive gymnast going for an nc DOUAA scholarship whenever
I got cancer and lost my leg, so clearly I
was not in control of that goal any longer. However,
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I was in control of how I responded. And if
I didn't set goals for myself, be it to walk again,
be it to learn to snowboard, or to simply even
go on a trip for snowboarding, I wouldn't be here today.
And so goals are not necessary like a set in
stone you have to do this. Rather, it's a way
to direct your steps. But I digress. Not having goals
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just seems like incredibly overwhelming to me. And it's because
they have so much power and benefits that are way
beyond success careers. You can really set goals for your
personal life and that is going to transform your quality
of life. Goals help you trigger new behaviors, new habits,
new processes. They guide your focus and priorities, giving you
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direction and reduce a stress and strain on your body
and your mind. They are crucial, y'all, not only professionally,
and I really want to make sure I'm honing on
on that they really transform your life personally. Now. One
thing that I find about goals that are so amazing
is they can really put you in places that you
never saw yourself in. They have the power to take
you to unexpected experiences and introduce you to new people.
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So many times, y'all, I have found myself setting a
goal and then I find new friends, and then those
friends introduce me to new experiences, and then over time,
even more goals pop up, and then new people, new experiences,
new communities. It is such a special experience because every
time that I have a goal, I started to notice
how many things just simply all in place in my life.
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I always say that life has a way of working out,
and when you have a goal and a plan, you're
able to truly see that, even in those moments that
hurt so much that you're feeling lost, like there's no
way any of this matters, it always seems to work out.
Having a goal is a source of focus and direction
that can provide you with so much optimism when things
aren't easy. They can provide you with a sense of
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I'm okay I got this, or a sense of oh
my gosh, that was so special, like I just want
to cherish this moment. I'm so grateful to step out
of my comfort zone. I'm so grateful to gain insight
from this experience. I'm so grateful that I got to
enjoy the personal growth, valuable insight that came from this experience.
I'm so grateful that I got to enjoy the valuable
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connections that were provided for me, even though it was
really hard to get here. They have so much power,
y'all in transforming you into something you never thought you
can be, and that is in the best way. So
while goals are essential for growth, it's so important to
understand that there are pitfalls. There are potential pitfalls. I
mean I feel like if there weren't, it would be
too good to be true. And that is one thing
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I'm not about is selling you some cheap quick fix
like this is going to be hard work. Life is
hard work. But it doesn't have to be bad work.
It doesn't have to be painful work, it doesn't have
to be a sacrifice. So we're going to talk about
these pitfalls today just so that we can shine a
light on them. We have them in our awareness so
that we can avoid them, and if we can't avoid them,
how we can move through them so that it's not
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hindering your success, whether that's in your personal life or
your professional life. So there is a staggering statistic that
research those ninety two percent of people fail to achieve
their goals. And this is often due to the lack
of tools or understanding in navigating life's challenges, or maybe
they're falling prey to what I like to call the
three detriments to six. The first detriment to success is
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that goals can damage your self esteem if you perceive
failure as personal reflection. So understanding that failure is a
learning opportunity and it's a chance to grow and help
better build your resilience and maintain progress towards your goals.
Failure is not an end all be all. In fact,
you'll failure is just a learning experience, just like successes,
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and in some ways, honestly, it has provided me the
same amount of positive benefits just as success, because you
gain so much insight, you gain so much value from
your failures. One of my favorite unsolicited advices to give
people when they're going through something challenging or maybe they're
feeling stock or lost, often tell people, even if you fail,
you can always come back to where you are now,
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And then I laugh and I do some finger guns,
because no, you can't. You never will be right where
you are, because you will always be further ahead. If
you went for it, if you tried, because you learned something,
you gained something, you will never be where you are
are now. You will always be further ahead. When I
first started my snowboarding journey, and I was living in
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Louisiana and I was trying to figure out if Utah
was going to be that thing that I wanted to
do and go to. I was going to leave my friends,
my family, and all of my comforts that I knew
to go to Utah to snowboard. I was so scared.
I was scared, y'all. I mean, I feel like anybody
with a rational brain would have been scared in that moment.
But something was pulling me to go for it. I
knew that there was a reason that it was on
my heart, and I would have rather lived with the
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what if I do it and I fail than the
what if I stay here? And I always wonder what
if I did go for it? Could my life have
been different. The second thing, I know that no matter
what happens, I can always come back to where I
am now LJK, because I'll always be further ahead. I
feel like I joke about this all the time, especially
at home when I'm talking about my goals or with
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my friends or whatever, and I'm like, I feel like
I fail significantly more than I succeed. I'm so comfortable
with failure. I'm actually at a point now where I'm like,
when's that success going to come around? But regardless into
a place where I know failure is inevitable, and I've
allowed myself to just move through it, to learn from it,
to get feedback from it, to gain insight, to pivot,
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to turn to make space for my own personal healing.
Failure teaches us more about ourselves than our circumstances. And
I think whenever I finally leaned into that, I started
to really understand the power of failure. And I also
started to understand the power of success. And I realized
how they play hand in hand because success has the
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same amount of power as failure. They both teach you something.
They both give you something. You just have to be
open and willing and ready to receive it from both.
I feel like far too often people reach a successful
moment and then they move on. They're like, yeah, I
did it, and then they don't take anything from it
and move on. Similar to failure, they fail, Oh this sucks,
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I quit. I'm gonna go do something else. They are
both powerful teachers. Just got to sit in the suck
for a second and let it teach something. The second
detriment to success is that setting goals can cause you
to neglect other important areas of your life. Maybe you
get super hyper focused and you neglect your personal life,
your family, your friend or hobbies, recovery, rest, self, cares
of love. So it's crucial to remember, guys, that life
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is so much more than an achievement. We have to
strike a balance. We have to say, Okay, this is
a part of me, This is a part of my life,
and also so are my relationships, So are my hobbies,
So are my rest and recovery and recharging. As an athlete,
I cannot give one hundred and ten percent of my
body if I do not take time to rest my body,
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if I do not take time to rest my mind,
if I do not take time to look at those
moments that I was scared, to look at those moments
that I wasn't successful, to look at those moments that
I maybe had an injury, what was going on in
my mind at the time. If I don't sit down
and do that, I am not going to better myself
as an athlete. I have so many rookie athletes that
come in and they have to go all out balls,
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just give it all they've got, all the time, one
hundred to percent. Every single day, they burn out, they
get injured, they don't make it to the successful levels
that they could reach. I've been an athlete my entire life,
and there is so much importance in slowing down and
recharging and getting your mental right. Because ninety percent of
your success is made in those moments and ten percent
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is putting it out on the line. And so when
we remember that sports teaches us so much about life,
and that can be applied to every single area of
your life, be it your career, your relationship, your hobbies,
whatever it is, ninety percent of it is mental, ninety
percent of it is rest, and ten percent is getting
out there and doing the dang thing. We also need
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to remember that life is so much more than an achievement,
and achievement is a moment in time where you reach
that destination. But there are two things that we need
to remember. One that journey is what we will remember most.
That journey is where life was made. That journey is guaranteed,
and that outcome is so if we spend all of
our time focusing on that outcome, focusing on where we're
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trying to go, focusing on neglecting our life in the
here and now so that we can get to potentially
somewhere else, we're going to be perpetually dissatisfied. It is
not setting us up for success mentally, physically, emotionally. And
remember that where you are here and now is what
matters most, and that destination. That outcome is not guaranteed,
no matter how much you try to control it. I
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don't mean to say that as a downer for me.
That is so empowering to know right here, right now,
I'm living that life. I'm making those memories. When I
reach that top and I can look back and I
can say, dang, that was so worth it. I loved that.
That is so empowering to know that we may not
have control over the outcome, but we have control over
how we live our life today. And that brings us
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to our third detriment, which is becoming overly fixated on
achieving a specific outcome. And this can be very detrimental
to your well being because being flexible and open to
different paths, different outcomes can contribute to a healthier mindset.
We know where we want to go, and maybe we
have a concrete goal of something that is success related.
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And often this is where that detriment lies. Is when
we're so focused on something outside of ourself, that's where
these pitfalls and these downfalls come from. But when we
get overly fixated on that one outcome and we're not
leaving room for creativity or for adaptability, or where you're
trying to go on this journey. That's where we can
have a lot of pain. Plus the destination, like I
had said before, is never ever guaranteed. But that journey
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is finding ways that allow you to fulfill and enjoy
life in the moment, not living goal to goal, and
that will help you feel balanced, that will help you
feel satisfied. And take it from me. When I was
growing up until the age of fourteen, I was so
hyper focused on the outcome of being a collegiate gymnast
on scholarship. Y'all, I eight slept, breathed gymnastics. I was
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in the gym for over thirty hours a week, every
day after school and on weekends, training my little butt off.
And then one day I was diagnosed with cancer, had
an amputation, and I lost gymnastics. I lost my goals,
I lost my passions, I lost my identity because I
was so hyper focused on this and I told myself
that this was who I am. I was devastated when
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I lost it. I had to pick up the pieces
of a shattered life because I was only allowing myself
to be focused on one outcome, one possibility, and a
future so far away and uncertain. So when we set
our outcome, we must let it go. We must have
room for creativity, for other places to go, for flexibility,
for resilience, and so setting your goals with that in
mind is going to help you avoid the pitfalls of failure.
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And I had to say, y'all, when I first learned
that people don't set goals, my mind is absolutely blown,
especially because it's eighty percent of y'all. Well, not y'all y'all,
because I know if you're listening to this podcast, either
you're part of this twenty percent or if you're in
the eighty percent, after this episode, you will no longer
be I feel like I have so many goals in
my life right now, and I have had goals my
entire life. Maybe it's my neurodivergence, maybe it's just how
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I am wired, but I have literally always had goals
for myself. I haven't always had goals that are professional.
I haven't always had goals that are related to my career.
Sometimes I go through seasons, actually back in like twenty twenty,
twenty twenty one, even some in twenty twenty two, I
kind of let go of those professional goals. Not only
set goals for myself intrinsically, how I wanted to live,
how I wanted to show up. More peace, more happiness,
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more awareness, more living in the moment. And goals don't
have to be this big thing. It can just be
small things that help you and enhance your life for
the better. I read this quote from Lou Holtz and
it says, if you're bored with life, you don't get
up every morning with a burning desire to do things,
that means you don't have enough goals. And I love
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that because setting goals is the first step to finding
your meaning and your purpose in life. Goals can provide
a sense of direction and drive, and they combat those
feelings of boredom or lack of motivation. And that kind
of leads us into our next topic, which is you
are the only person who can define your success. I
don't know if you've ever caught yourself in this endless
cycle of comparing your worst day to somebody's best day
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on social media, or maybe you're scrolling through social media
and you're just feeling inadequate. Maybe you're constantly highlighting areas
in your life where you could be better, where you
could do more, and that is a feeling I think
that resonates with so many of us, and I've discovered
on my own journey and in conversations with so many
other people who have felt the same way. We often
fall into this trap of comparing ourselves because we are
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measuring our own worth against somebody else's standards, not always
our own desires. The key here is breaking free from
the cycle and truly and fully understanding what success means
to you individually, and by defining success on our own terms,
we can finally free ourselves from those shackles of comparison.
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We can genuinely celebrate the achievements of others without feeling
inadequate or lacking within ourselves because success is not a
one size fits all concept. It's a deeply, deeply personal
and subjective experience. And when we grasp this truth, we
open ourselves up to a world of fulfillment, to a
world of contentment in our own unique journey. So when
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I was preparing for this podcast, I looked up what
is the number one cause of unhappiness when it comes
to achieving success? And what I found is the number
one cause of unhappiness when it comes to achieving success
is the belief that success will bring you happiness. People,
including myself in the past, often set goals with the
expectation that achieving them will make them happy, it will
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provide them with self worth that they were looking for.
But once they achieve those goals, they realize that happiness
was never guaranteed and never really a part of the outcome,
and they still feel unfulfilled. We live in a society
that idolizes chasing success. It's literally baked into the American dream.
It's baked into our homes and our schools, and it's
this idea that anyone can make it. All you need
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is hard work, determination, and sacrifice the things that matter
most of you, and that's how you'll get there. But
that's just not true. We don't talk about the dark
side of chasing success this way and how it can
leave you just perpetually dissatisfied. And I am someone who
has accomplished everything I have set out to do. I
made it to the very top of my sport, to
the point where there was no more achievements to accomplish,
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and that finality forced me to confront these feelings of inadequacy.
They forced me to see how much baggage I was
carrying around for so long. But there are very few
instances in life as clear cut as winning a gold medal.
Your success can feel like you're constantly moving that goalpost
one that is always just a few steps out of reach.
I did this, and now I'm going to chase this goal,
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and I'm going to chase this goal. Even after winning
the Paralympics, the first question that they ask at the
bottom of the course is what's next for you? Like
miss ma'am, let me just enjoy this moment, please. I
know one thing to be true is that the outcome
is never guaranteed. Step Backs can and most likely will happen,
goals can and most likely will shift, and so much
as outside of our immediate control. But what we can
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control is how we show up for ourselves, how we
show up for the people around and the mindsets that
we put towards our achievements and towards our failures. And
knowing where I am right now is enough to be happy.
Knowing where I am right now is enough to have
self worth. Where I am right now is all I
ever need to be in nothing else, No one else
can provide that for me, except for myself right here,
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right now. There's a quote by Maya Angelo, and she
says success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and
liking how you do it. And if I could get
that tattooed on my chest, maybe I would, because I
firmly believe in those words. When we focus too much
on those external factors like money or status or material possessions,
it leads to on happiness. We need to focus on
ourselves and the personal growth, relationships, meaningful experiences because that
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is going to continue long term success and fulfillment. And
that starts right now today, not when, not if, right now.
I said this at the beginning, and I'm going to
do it now. Here are some actual evidence based tips
to start this process for yourself, to setting these goals.
And the first thing you're going to do is you're
going to start with a decision. Write it down. What
the heck are you even going to try to achieve?
You need to actually decide, You need to make a choice,
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and you need to start putting action towards it. It
all starts with that decision. It all is within yourself.
It all starts with you having the power to say
this is who I am these are my desires, these
are my passions, this is my purpose, this is what
I'm here to do. And once you have that decision,
once you have what you want in life. I like
to do this visualization, and it's like a future me visualization.
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I sit in a quiet room, I sit with my journal,
I tap into my inner child. I choose to play
with my imagination and I say, you know what, I'm
going to pretend that the future from me maybe five
years from now, ten years from now. Hey, you can
even go fifty years from now if you want. Whatever
you're feeling in the moment, that person is coming to
talk to me now and they are sharing with me
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what made their life worth living. Maybe it was something
with your marriage, maybe it was something with your children,
your career. I just allow my future to sit with
me and tell me what they learned, tell me what
was hard, what was beautiful, what they did to begin
this journey, what they would do differently, And I just
allow myself to sit in my imagination for a second,
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and when I'm done, I write it all out. And
I often find either a goal within that conversation with
myself or just a new way to show up in
my life and my relationships. And I will say it
time and time again, I'm not just talking about our
goals that are going to elevate you professionally. I'm also
talking about the ones that are just going to make
your life better with your relationships with yourself. So now
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that you have your decision, you're just going to double
check and make sure that it aligns with your values,
who you are, what you want. You're going to take
it and turn it into a smart goal. And I'm
not going to do that today. We're not going to
get into the nitty gritty of smart goals. That is
all in season one. So if you want those details,
if you want those practical steps, those no hows, go
back and listen to episode one, season one, and I
guarantee you will come out feeling strong and secure in
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your goal setting process. Now, if you're not feeling like
listening to the those episodes, I highly discourage you to
skip them, and I encourage you to listen. But a
smart goal is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time sensitive,
and those have been proven to be the best measures
of goal setting. There are other ways to do them
as well, which I do talk about in season one,
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episode one through five. So go give these a listen
so that you can feel really strong and confident in
your goal setting abilities. Now, the third thing you're going
to do is you're going to write it down. Just
writing your goal down is already forty two percent more
effective than keeping it stored in your mind. So once
you have a clear idea of what you want, write
it down. It makes it more tangible, it gives a
sense of importance, it's a great reminder. It shows you
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where your priorities are. So when you write this down,
make sure you're using positive language. And so instead of
saying I don't want to be struggling financially, maybe you
could say I want to be financially stable. This is
going to help you focus your mind on what you
do want rather than what you don't. And the next
thing you're going to do, the fourth thing, is you're
going to make a plan. A goal without a plan
is just a dream. So get really detailed on where
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you're going to go and what you want to accomplish,
and break that big goal into smaller, more manageable steps.
And just remember, guys, like it doesn't have to go
in that order. Just knowing like, Okay, these are the
things that I would like to do prior to reaching
that goal. And some things can change and shift, some
things are less important than you thought in the beginning. Regardless,
write it down just so that you always have a
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sense of direction. I guarantee it will help. When I
was training for the Paralympics, there are in four year cycles.
If I have to look at the next four years,
I would be so overwhelmed of not knowing, Okay, where
are these checkpoints, where are these milestones? How can I
make sure that I am moving in the right direction
of my goals? And so I wrote down the different
competitions that I would need. I wrote down how I
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needed to perform at the competitions, what I needed to
do to be able to perform at that level, what
kind of training schedule. Sometimes it changes, sometimes it shifts,
but I have a very clear idea of how I'm
going to get there. I guarantee guys at help, So
write it down. I like to do little treat myselves.
Whenever I achieve something. I like to do check ins
and make sure that I'm enhancing my weaknesses, my strengths
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and moving forward in a way that brings me joy
and happiness and making sure that I'm not sacrificing the
things I love the most to achieve these small steps.
And so there's so much benefit in writing out this plan,
way more than just being an organized person. And finally,
the last thing number five is you're gonna put action
towards it. That's right, You're going to take that first step, y'all.
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First step can often feel like the hardest, but it
is the most impactful. Once you put that first step down,
it is so much easier to put the second, the third,
the fourth, fifth, because you have history in it, You've
done it, You've already gotten started. There is a commitment.
You are showing up for yourself. Finally, and so put
one foot in front of the other. Embrace the uncertainty.
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Embrace what is going to happen next. Embrace the messine
is the unknowing, the learning, the failure, the success, and
get excited because you're freaking doing the dang thing. You
can't wish it, whant it be from your couch, but
you sure as crap can start putting one foot in
front of the other and getting the dang thing done.
And so you got this, You have all the tools
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the skill is necessary to accomplish this. You are more
than enough, and you are worthy and deserving of living
a life worth fighting for, living a gold medal life.
I feel like I have had so much in this episode,
so we're gonna leave it here. I really hope that
you got some benefits out of this. I would love
it if you could leave me a review, a comment
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so that we can keep this party going. And if
you're feeling extra freaky, what you could do is you
could share with me one way that you are applying
today's episode into your own life. Tag me on Instagram
at Bren Underscore Hawks that's b r in Underscore Hducks.
Tag me in your stories. I would love to see
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it so I can cheer you on and be there
with you in this process. Guys, that is where my
heart is at. That is what I love to do.
I love seeing other people succeed, and so I want
to hear from you what you are doing and I
will see you in the next episode. Thank you for
being with me. Season two. Let's do it, Let's get it.
Let's live a life worth fighting for by you, guys,
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I love you and I will see you in the
next episode.
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to the Gold Medal Mindset Podcast. It's
me Brenda Huckabee, three time Paralympic snowboarding gold medalists, and
I am so thrilled to be here with all of you.
Welcome to Season two, Episode one, where we will dive
deep into the tools and skills necessary to not only
achieve those huge, ambitious goals, but also to learn how
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to have a life full of love, full of pride
without sacrificing the things that mean the most to us.
I started this journey because I had finally reached the
pinnacle of my career. I was standing at the very
top of the podium at the Paralympics, no more accolades
to chase. I thought I had finally made it, believing
that now because I had reached my goal, I could
experience true freedom. I could save her life. I thought
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I had finally made it and I could love myself
and find happiness finally. But guess what, as you could imagine,
no achievement, no matter how grand, can provide what I
was truly seeking, which was self worth. So over the
next five years, I made it a personal mission of
mine to day if I could accomplish these monumental goals
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without sacrificing myself, without sacrificing my mental health, without sacrificing
my relationships, time with my family, hobbies, and things that
are just really important to me. I'll be honest. I
was petrified. I had no idea if I could be
successful from this new place of self worth. I didn't
know if I could achieve my goals from a place
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of self love. I had leaned into so heavily this
quote unquote dark side, believing that I had a competitive
edge because I deemed myself unworthy, because I was constantly
trying to prove myself. And I don't know about you,
but in some ways that served me. From the snowboard,
that served me. In putting my head down and getting
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to work, that served me. But when it came to
enjoying life, into slowing down, into seeing how I was feeling,
and to seeing how my health was, it did not
serve me. I was burning out my body, out my
mental health, neglecting my relationships. I was struggling to have
it all, and I truly believed I couldn't. I truly
believed I needed to be this way to be successful.
So I knew this way was working in sports but
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not working in my everyday life. I needed a shift
if I was going to stay on this earth, if
I was going to keep maintaining the life that I
had built. I knew I needed to shift. I knew
I needed to change, but I had no idea if
it was going to serve me successfully. When it came
to starting this, I had to completely unlearn conventional ideas
of success. I had to release how I was taught
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what it took to be successful, and I had to
go out on my own path. And I call this
path the gold Metal Life, which is a life worth
fighting for. And you will hear me throughout all the
next episodes in possibly seasons on the Gold Metal Mindset,
where I say a life worth fighting for? So what
does that mean? As a cancer survivor myself who had
witnessed many of my friends lose their battle, I made
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it a personal mission to not only live for myself,
but also to live for my friends who lost their
battle that didn't have the chance to be and live
the way that they dreamed of. You often hear me
repeat it because it holds such immense significance for me.
A life worth fighting for means cherishing every moment. It
means knowing that if you were to be stripped away
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of everything tomorrow, you have made the absolute most out
of your time. And this isn't about wealth and money
and status. This isn't about being the very best. What
it is about is savoring each step of your journey
and relishing in every breath that you get to take.
And that is the essence of a gold medal life.
Each and every one of us possesses the power to
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live a life worth fighting for right now, and it
begins with charting the course of how you want to
live your life. Where do you want to go and
how do we do that? And it's a very simple
practice that is in the majority of my past episodes
and I'm sure it'll come up again in the future,
and it's setting goals. Today. We won't solely be focusing
on the goal aspects of goal setting, because that is
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all in season one. What we will be doing, though,
is exploring the reasons why we should set goals, so
ultimately we'll learn how to establish goals that determine our
personal success. We're going to be taken back the reins
of our lives we're going to shatter all those preconceived
notions of success. And finally, I would not be doing
y'all justice if I did not give y'all five evidence
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based strategies that you could use today to empower you
with tools to craft your goals and move you forward
in a life worth fighting for. Some people may argue
that goals totally detract from the present moment, and to
some extent that may be true. However, the benefits like
far outweigh the cons and we're going to be diving
into that today so that we can make the most
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informed decision when we're setting these goals that align with
our truest selves, that align with what we really want.
So get ready for that transformative journey, guys. The Gold
Medal Mindset podcast is here to ignite your passion, unleash
your potential, and guide you towards a life that surpasses
your wild today. So if you're ready, let's get into it.
And it is so hard to not break into a
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digitat song right now until weekend. Anyway, Oh my gosh,
let's go. So I recently learned that only twenty percent
of people set goals for themselves. That means there are
eighty percent of people out here walking around this earth
right now without some kind of goal. What are y'all doing?
He's mindlessly walking, like just letting life pull you where
you should be going. To some extent, I kind of
actually see the benefit of that. But let's be real, though,
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If you don't have a roadmap for how you're living
your life, how do you know that you're in control
of it. I'm gonna pause here for a second because
that word control just kind of triggered me a little bit,
because we're not in full control. I mean, I was
a competitive gymnast going for an nc DOUAA scholarship whenever
I got cancer and lost my leg, so clearly I
was not in control of that goal any longer. However,
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I was in control of how I responded. And if
I didn't set goals for myself, be it to walk again,
be it to learn to snowboard, or to simply even
go on a trip for snowboarding, I wouldn't be here today.
And so goals are not necessary like a set in
stone you have to do this. Rather, it's a way
to direct your steps. But I digress. Not having goals
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just seems like incredibly overwhelming to me. And it's because
they have so much power and benefits that are way
beyond success careers. You can really set goals for your
personal life and that is going to transform your quality
of life. Goals help you trigger new behaviors, new habits,
new processes. They guide your focus and priorities, giving you
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direction and reduce a stress and strain on your body
and your mind. They are crucial, y'all, not only professionally,
and I really want to make sure I'm honing on
on that they really transform your life personally. Now. One
thing that I find about goals that are so amazing
is they can really put you in places that you
never saw yourself in. They have the power to take
you to unexpected experiences and introduce you to new people.
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So many times, y'all, I have found myself setting a
goal and then I find new friends, and then those
friends introduce me to new experiences, and then over time,
even more goals pop up, and then new people, new experiences,
new communities. It is such a special experience because every
time that I have a goal, I started to notice
how many things just simply all in place in my life.
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I always say that life has a way of working out,
and when you have a goal and a plan, you're
able to truly see that, even in those moments that
hurt so much that you're feeling lost, like there's no
way any of this matters, it always seems to work out.
Having a goal is a source of focus and direction
that can provide you with so much optimism when things
aren't easy. They can provide you with a sense of
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I'm okay I got this, or a sense of oh
my gosh, that was so special, like I just want
to cherish this moment. I'm so grateful to step out
of my comfort zone. I'm so grateful to gain insight
from this experience. I'm so grateful that I got to
enjoy the personal growth, valuable insight that came from this experience.
I'm so grateful that I got to enjoy the valuable
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connections that were provided for me, even though it was
really hard to get here. They have so much power,
y'all in transforming you into something you never thought you
can be, and that is in the best way. So
while goals are essential for growth, it's so important to
understand that there are pitfalls. There are potential pitfalls. I
mean I feel like if there weren't, it would be
too good to be true. And that is one thing
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I'm not about is selling you some cheap quick fix
like this is going to be hard work. Life is
hard work. But it doesn't have to be bad work.
It doesn't have to be painful work, it doesn't have
to be a sacrifice. So we're going to talk about
these pitfalls today just so that we can shine a
light on them. We have them in our awareness so
that we can avoid them, and if we can't avoid them,
how we can move through them so that it's not
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hindering your success, whether that's in your personal life or
your professional life. So there is a staggering statistic that
research those ninety two percent of people fail to achieve
their goals. And this is often due to the lack
of tools or understanding in navigating life's challenges, or maybe
they're falling prey to what I like to call the
three detriments to six. The first detriment to success is
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that goals can damage your self esteem if you perceive
failure as personal reflection. So understanding that failure is a
learning opportunity and it's a chance to grow and help
better build your resilience and maintain progress towards your goals.
Failure is not an end all be all. In fact,
you'll failure is just a learning experience, just like successes,
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and in some ways, honestly, it has provided me the
same amount of positive benefits just as success, because you
gain so much insight, you gain so much value from
your failures. One of my favorite unsolicited advices to give
people when they're going through something challenging or maybe they're
feeling stock or lost, often tell people, even if you fail,
you can always come back to where you are now,
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And then I laugh and I do some finger guns,
because no, you can't. You never will be right where
you are, because you will always be further ahead. If
you went for it, if you tried, because you learned something,
you gained something, you will never be where you are
are now. You will always be further ahead. When I
first started my snowboarding journey, and I was living in
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Louisiana and I was trying to figure out if Utah
was going to be that thing that I wanted to
do and go to. I was going to leave my friends,
my family, and all of my comforts that I knew
to go to Utah to snowboard. I was so scared.
I was scared, y'all. I mean, I feel like anybody
with a rational brain would have been scared in that moment.
But something was pulling me to go for it. I
knew that there was a reason that it was on
my heart, and I would have rather lived with the
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what if I do it and I fail than the
what if I stay here? And I always wonder what
if I did go for it? Could my life have
been different. The second thing, I know that no matter
what happens, I can always come back to where I
am now LJK, because I'll always be further ahead. I
feel like I joke about this all the time, especially
at home when I'm talking about my goals or with
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my friends or whatever, and I'm like, I feel like
I fail significantly more than I succeed. I'm so comfortable
with failure. I'm actually at a point now where I'm like,
when's that success going to come around? But regardless into
a place where I know failure is inevitable, and I've
allowed myself to just move through it, to learn from it,
to get feedback from it, to gain insight, to pivot,
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to turn to make space for my own personal healing.
Failure teaches us more about ourselves than our circumstances. And
I think whenever I finally leaned into that, I started
to really understand the power of failure. And I also
started to understand the power of success. And I realized
how they play hand in hand because success has the
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same amount of power as failure. They both teach you something.
They both give you something. You just have to be
open and willing and ready to receive it from both.
I feel like far too often people reach a successful
moment and then they move on. They're like, yeah, I
did it, and then they don't take anything from it
and move on. Similar to failure, they fail, Oh this sucks,
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I quit. I'm gonna go do something else. They are
both powerful teachers. Just got to sit in the suck
for a second and let it teach something. The second
detriment to success is that setting goals can cause you
to neglect other important areas of your life. Maybe you
get super hyper focused and you neglect your personal life,
your family, your friend or hobbies, recovery, rest, self, cares
of love. So it's crucial to remember, guys, that life
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is so much more than an achievement. We have to
strike a balance. We have to say, Okay, this is
a part of me, This is a part of my life,
and also so are my relationships, So are my hobbies,
So are my rest and recovery and recharging. As an athlete,
I cannot give one hundred and ten percent of my
body if I do not take time to rest my body,
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if I do not take time to rest my mind,
if I do not take time to look at those
moments that I was scared, to look at those moments
that I wasn't successful, to look at those moments that
I maybe had an injury, what was going on in
my mind at the time. If I don't sit down
and do that, I am not going to better myself
as an athlete. I have so many rookie athletes that
come in and they have to go all out balls,
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just give it all they've got, all the time, one
hundred to percent. Every single day, they burn out, they
get injured, they don't make it to the successful levels
that they could reach. I've been an athlete my entire life,
and there is so much importance in slowing down and
recharging and getting your mental right. Because ninety percent of
your success is made in those moments and ten percent
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is putting it out on the line. And so when
we remember that sports teaches us so much about life,
and that can be applied to every single area of
your life, be it your career, your relationship, your hobbies,
whatever it is, ninety percent of it is mental, ninety
percent of it is rest, and ten percent is getting
out there and doing the dang thing. We also need
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to remember that life is so much more than an achievement,
and achievement is a moment in time where you reach
that destination. But there are two things that we need
to remember. One that journey is what we will remember most.
That journey is where life was made. That journey is guaranteed,
and that outcome is so if we spend all of
our time focusing on that outcome, focusing on where we're
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trying to go, focusing on neglecting our life in the
here and now so that we can get to potentially
somewhere else, we're going to be perpetually dissatisfied. It is
not setting us up for success mentally, physically, emotionally. And
remember that where you are here and now is what
matters most, and that destination. That outcome is not guaranteed,
no matter how much you try to control it. I
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don't mean to say that as a downer for me.
That is so empowering to know right here, right now,
I'm living that life. I'm making those memories. When I
reach that top and I can look back and I
can say, dang, that was so worth it. I loved that.
That is so empowering to know that we may not
have control over the outcome, but we have control over
how we live our life today. And that brings us
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to our third detriment, which is becoming overly fixated on
achieving a specific outcome. And this can be very detrimental
to your well being because being flexible and open to
different paths, different outcomes can contribute to a healthier mindset.
We know where we want to go, and maybe we
have a concrete goal of something that is success related.
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And often this is where that detriment lies. Is when
we're so focused on something outside of ourself, that's where
these pitfalls and these downfalls come from. But when we
get overly fixated on that one outcome and we're not
leaving room for creativity or for adaptability, or where you're
trying to go on this journey. That's where we can
have a lot of pain. Plus the destination, like I
had said before, is never ever guaranteed. But that journey
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is finding ways that allow you to fulfill and enjoy
life in the moment, not living goal to goal, and
that will help you feel balanced, that will help you
feel satisfied. And take it from me. When I was
growing up until the age of fourteen, I was so
hyper focused on the outcome of being a collegiate gymnast
on scholarship. Y'all, I eight slept, breathed gymnastics. I was
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in the gym for over thirty hours a week, every
day after school and on weekends, training my little butt off.
And then one day I was diagnosed with cancer, had
an amputation, and I lost gymnastics. I lost my goals,
I lost my passions, I lost my identity because I
was so hyper focused on this and I told myself
that this was who I am. I was devastated when
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I lost it. I had to pick up the pieces
of a shattered life because I was only allowing myself
to be focused on one outcome, one possibility, and a
future so far away and uncertain. So when we set
our outcome, we must let it go. We must have
room for creativity, for other places to go, for flexibility,
for resilience, and so setting your goals with that in
mind is going to help you avoid the pitfalls of failure.
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And I had to say, y'all, when I first learned
that people don't set goals, my mind is absolutely blown,
especially because it's eighty percent of y'all. Well, not y'all y'all,
because I know if you're listening to this podcast, either
you're part of this twenty percent or if you're in
the eighty percent, after this episode, you will no longer
be I feel like I have so many goals in
my life right now, and I have had goals my
entire life. Maybe it's my neurodivergence, maybe it's just how
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I am wired, but I have literally always had goals
for myself. I haven't always had goals that are professional.
I haven't always had goals that are related to my career.
Sometimes I go through seasons, actually back in like twenty twenty,
twenty twenty one, even some in twenty twenty two, I
kind of let go of those professional goals. Not only
set goals for myself intrinsically, how I wanted to live,
how I wanted to show up. More peace, more happiness,
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more awareness, more living in the moment. And goals don't
have to be this big thing. It can just be
small things that help you and enhance your life for
the better. I read this quote from Lou Holtz and
it says, if you're bored with life, you don't get
up every morning with a burning desire to do things,
that means you don't have enough goals. And I love
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that because setting goals is the first step to finding
your meaning and your purpose in life. Goals can provide
a sense of direction and drive, and they combat those
feelings of boredom or lack of motivation. And that kind
of leads us into our next topic, which is you
are the only person who can define your success. I
don't know if you've ever caught yourself in this endless
cycle of comparing your worst day to somebody's best day
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on social media, or maybe you're scrolling through social media
and you're just feeling inadequate. Maybe you're constantly highlighting areas
in your life where you could be better, where you
could do more, and that is a feeling I think
that resonates with so many of us, and I've discovered
on my own journey and in conversations with so many
other people who have felt the same way. We often
fall into this trap of comparing ourselves because we are
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measuring our own worth against somebody else's standards, not always
our own desires. The key here is breaking free from
the cycle and truly and fully understanding what success means
to you individually, and by defining success on our own terms,
we can finally free ourselves from those shackles of comparison.
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We can genuinely celebrate the achievements of others without feeling
inadequate or lacking within ourselves because success is not a
one size fits all concept. It's a deeply, deeply personal
and subjective experience. And when we grasp this truth, we
open ourselves up to a world of fulfillment, to a
world of contentment in our own unique journey. So when
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I was preparing for this podcast, I looked up what
is the number one cause of unhappiness when it comes
to achieving success? And what I found is the number
one cause of unhappiness when it comes to achieving success
is the belief that success will bring you happiness. People,
including myself in the past, often set goals with the
expectation that achieving them will make them happy, it will
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provide them with self worth that they were looking for.
But once they achieve those goals, they realize that happiness
was never guaranteed and never really a part of the outcome,
and they still feel unfulfilled. We live in a society
that idolizes chasing success. It's literally baked into the American dream.
It's baked into our homes and our schools, and it's
this idea that anyone can make it. All you need
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is hard work, determination, and sacrifice the things that matter
most of you, and that's how you'll get there. But
that's just not true. We don't talk about the dark
side of chasing success this way and how it can
leave you just perpetually dissatisfied. And I am someone who
has accomplished everything I have set out to do. I
made it to the very top of my sport, to
the point where there was no more achievements to accomplish,
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and that finality forced me to confront these feelings of inadequacy.
They forced me to see how much baggage I was
carrying around for so long. But there are very few
instances in life as clear cut as winning a gold medal.
Your success can feel like you're constantly moving that goalpost
one that is always just a few steps out of reach.
I did this, and now I'm going to chase this goal,
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and I'm going to chase this goal. Even after winning
the Paralympics, the first question that they ask at the
bottom of the course is what's next for you? Like
miss ma'am, let me just enjoy this moment, please. I
know one thing to be true is that the outcome
is never guaranteed. Step Backs can and most likely will happen,
goals can and most likely will shift, and so much
as outside of our immediate control. But what we can
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control is how we show up for ourselves, how we
show up for the people around and the mindsets that
we put towards our achievements and towards our failures. And
knowing where I am right now is enough to be happy.
Knowing where I am right now is enough to have
self worth. Where I am right now is all I
ever need to be in nothing else, No one else
can provide that for me, except for myself right here,
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right now. There's a quote by Maya Angelo, and she
says success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and
liking how you do it. And if I could get
that tattooed on my chest, maybe I would, because I
firmly believe in those words. When we focus too much
on those external factors like money or status or material possessions,
it leads to on happiness. We need to focus on
ourselves and the personal growth, relationships, meaningful experiences because that
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is going to continue long term success and fulfillment. And
that starts right now today, not when, not if, right now.
I said this at the beginning, and I'm going to
do it now. Here are some actual evidence based tips
to start this process for yourself, to setting these goals.
And the first thing you're going to do is you're
going to start with a decision. Write it down. What
the heck are you even going to try to achieve?
You need to actually decide, You need to make a choice,
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and you need to start putting action towards it. It
all starts with that decision. It all is within yourself.
It all starts with you having the power to say
this is who I am these are my desires, these
are my passions, this is my purpose, this is what
I'm here to do. And once you have that decision,
once you have what you want in life. I like
to do this visualization, and it's like a future me visualization.
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I sit in a quiet room, I sit with my journal,
I tap into my inner child. I choose to play
with my imagination and I say, you know what, I'm
going to pretend that the future from me maybe five
years from now, ten years from now. Hey, you can
even go fifty years from now if you want. Whatever
you're feeling in the moment, that person is coming to
talk to me now and they are sharing with me
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what made their life worth living. Maybe it was something
with your marriage, maybe it was something with your children,
your career. I just allow my future to sit with
me and tell me what they learned, tell me what
was hard, what was beautiful, what they did to begin
this journey, what they would do differently, And I just
allow myself to sit in my imagination for a second,
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and when I'm done, I write it all out. And
I often find either a goal within that conversation with
myself or just a new way to show up in
my life and my relationships. And I will say it
time and time again, I'm not just talking about our
goals that are going to elevate you professionally. I'm also
talking about the ones that are just going to make
your life better with your relationships with yourself. So now
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that you have your decision, you're just going to double
check and make sure that it aligns with your values,
who you are, what you want. You're going to take
it and turn it into a smart goal. And I'm
not going to do that today. We're not going to
get into the nitty gritty of smart goals. That is
all in season one. So if you want those details,
if you want those practical steps, those no hows, go
back and listen to episode one, season one, and I
guarantee you will come out feeling strong and secure in
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your goal setting process. Now, if you're not feeling like
listening to the those episodes, I highly discourage you to
skip them, and I encourage you to listen. But a
smart goal is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time sensitive,
and those have been proven to be the best measures
of goal setting. There are other ways to do them
as well, which I do talk about in season one,
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episode one through five. So go give these a listen
so that you can feel really strong and confident in
your goal setting abilities. Now, the third thing you're going
to do is you're going to write it down. Just
writing your goal down is already forty two percent more
effective than keeping it stored in your mind. So once
you have a clear idea of what you want, write
it down. It makes it more tangible, it gives a
sense of importance, it's a great reminder. It shows you
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where your priorities are. So when you write this down,
make sure you're using positive language. And so instead of
saying I don't want to be struggling financially, maybe you
could say I want to be financially stable. This is
going to help you focus your mind on what you
do want rather than what you don't. And the next
thing you're going to do, the fourth thing, is you're
going to make a plan. A goal without a plan
is just a dream. So get really detailed on where
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you're going to go and what you want to accomplish,
and break that big goal into smaller, more manageable steps.
And just remember, guys, like it doesn't have to go
in that order. Just knowing like, Okay, these are the
things that I would like to do prior to reaching
that goal. And some things can change and shift, some
things are less important than you thought in the beginning. Regardless,
write it down just so that you always have a
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sense of direction. I guarantee it will help. When I
was training for the Paralympics, there are in four year cycles.
If I have to look at the next four years,
I would be so overwhelmed of not knowing, Okay, where
are these checkpoints, where are these milestones? How can I
make sure that I am moving in the right direction
of my goals? And so I wrote down the different
competitions that I would need. I wrote down how I
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needed to perform at the competitions, what I needed to
do to be able to perform at that level, what
kind of training schedule. Sometimes it changes, sometimes it shifts,
but I have a very clear idea of how I'm
going to get there. I guarantee guys at help, So
write it down. I like to do little treat myselves.
Whenever I achieve something. I like to do check ins
and make sure that I'm enhancing my weaknesses, my strengths
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and moving forward in a way that brings me joy
and happiness and making sure that I'm not sacrificing the
things I love the most to achieve these small steps.
And so there's so much benefit in writing out this plan,
way more than just being an organized person. And finally,
the last thing number five is you're gonna put action
towards it. That's right, You're going to take that first step, y'all.
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First step can often feel like the hardest, but it
is the most impactful. Once you put that first step down,
it is so much easier to put the second, the third,
the fourth, fifth, because you have history in it, You've
done it, You've already gotten started. There is a commitment.
You are showing up for yourself. Finally, and so put
one foot in front of the other. Embrace the uncertainty.
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Embrace what is going to happen next. Embrace the messine
is the unknowing, the learning, the failure, the success, and
get excited because you're freaking doing the dang thing. You
can't wish it, whant it be from your couch, but
you sure as crap can start putting one foot in
front of the other and getting the dang thing done.
And so you got this, You have all the tools
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the skill is necessary to accomplish this. You are more
than enough, and you are worthy and deserving of living
a life worth fighting for, living a gold medal life.
I feel like I have had so much in this episode,
so we're gonna leave it here. I really hope that
you got some benefits out of this. I would love
it if you could leave me a review, a comment
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so that we can keep this party going. And if
you're feeling extra freaky, what you could do is you
could share with me one way that you are applying
today's episode into your own life. Tag me on Instagram
at Bren Underscore Hawks that's b r in Underscore Hducks.
Tag me in your stories. I would love to see
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it so I can cheer you on and be there
with you in this process. Guys, that is where my
heart is at. That is what I love to do.
I love seeing other people succeed, and so I want
to hear from you what you are doing and I
will see you in the next episode. Thank you for
being with me. Season two. Let's do it, Let's get it.
Let's live a life worth fighting for by you, guys,
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I love you and I will see you in the
next episode.
Host
Brenna Huckaby
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