August 8, 2025 • 31 mins
Ros and Eric debut a brand new 'He Said Ella Dijo' series called 'Couples Terapia' where they tackle tough marital moments you send in. Only problem is, their debut therapy session took a turn when Ros went on a hilarious rant about a tennis match that was
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Rodlin Fantas. All right, all right, hello, welcome to another episode,
he said. You know it's been a minute. Been a minute.
If we're dropping episodes every other week now, I want
to keep it fresh and exciting, and I think we
(00:21):
do have a fun We have a guest coming up
in another episode, but now this episode is back to
just us and we have a fun topic game. We'll
dive into a little bit about what we've had going on,
but we are going to play something in a little
bit on the podcast. First off, let's see summer update
been pretty low key. I think for the most part,
(00:41):
you've been healing from your injury and that's been going
pretty well. I definitely back to normal. Your elbows almost there.
You start physical therapy.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Right yeah, Monday, So see if I can make it all.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
The way straight.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Hi, guys, I had no idea that because of this
thing that I was using to protect my bow. It's
like a a brace, like there's like a glove, and
then the soft brace, my arm got so skinny and
like floppy, and I have it's smaller than the left arm.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
It's not even just from the crazy lack of use. Yeah,
that's what happens.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
So now I feel like she has aged me maybe ten.
Look at that, It's like, what.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Am I gonna do?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
That's easy stuff. It's just it's just a matter of
getting the use back in the anytime. I've had casts
multiple times in my life, it's ankles, and I've had
I've been embraces many times.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
It's just and that happens one process, part of the
cross crazy. So yeah, I'm gonna have to start working
on the problem is that I'm not allowed to do
like weights, not yet.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I mean, let me see what the physical therapist.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Through very slow rehab because the bone has to still connected.
They said about eight weeks for that bone to heal.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
What else we had? I had a birthday seventeenth, which
was which was nice simple. I was working, but the
kids and Ross surprised me the morning with a nice
homemade breakfast and cart God bless her.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
She got up like a five forty five in the
morning to cookie breakfast and it was so sweet.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Got up early. Dylan was up at four thirty in
the morning because he was so excited to be.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Because he wanted to do the decorations.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
And the balloons, and that's all he kept talking about
the night before, and I kept saying, Dylan, I'm gonna
wake you up. So he got up before something. Eric
went to the room. Then Eric said, you have to
go to the room because he keeps asking about he
needs to get everything ready. So I had to go
at four in the morning saying Dylan, it's still nighttime.
I promise you, I'm going to wake you up. I
have the alarm set up. I'm going to wake you up.
(02:36):
And I got up at six fifteen. I got up
at six fifteen to wake him up. And when I
go to the hallway, both of their open. Their doors
were open, and I go to the to the kitchen
and they're cooking out.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I'm going, what is going on? It was very cute, Actually, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
That no, it was. It was awesome. And Savella wrote
me such a beautiful personalized card. It was. It was sweet.
You know when you see these kids getting older and
still still doing nice things for you, and you obviously
had a big part of putting all that together, So
thank you. It was a nice birthday. And then I
worked and yeah, it was very chill. Let's see, we're
gonna go so normally, like you know, like I said,
(03:12):
we dive into host chats but and cover headlines and
all that. But this time we want to do something
different and we're about to you know, listen, we are
not therapists. Let me start by saying that by any means, like,
by any means, but we have had seventeen years of
marriage and twenty years together and so we think it
might be fun to do something called couples dedipia therapy.
(03:39):
We're just diving to do something different. We'll talk about
something on our own side. But in all relationships, you know,
you find annoyances and things that pop up from time
to time.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
And again, take it with a grain of salt.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Is that a saying yeah, And it's more for fun,
I mean, because we're not therapist still by any means,
we just want to have a good time, but we
also want you to get involved, be the judge, the
jury of our situations.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Then and then we want to hear from you as well.
You know, go to our Instagram page at he said
aado podcasts and if you and your partner can't agree
on something, tell us the issue you want to resolve.
It will debate it on the podcast, but we will
definitely keep your names out of it. Don't worry about that.
We won't talk about who anybody is or talk about
(04:19):
your handle so anybody can track you down. It'll just
be fun topics for us to debate, maybe something we've
gone through in our own lives as well, so we'll
do that. We'll start with a couple that are just
kind of for fun. So the other day and this
is really.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
The one that is happening right now that he's all
over the news and TikTok on his it has to
just struggle.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
To debate on that. That's that guy just got nailed.
There's no debate, I know.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But if you're the spouse, how would you handle us like.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
She's doing it? How did she do it out out
and taking him to the cleaners? She should Well, everybody
knows we're talking about this amazing cold play, which I
didn't know. There's two things I just heard on the
radio funny enough coming in for the.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Podcast today that he can't commented on it. That's what
feel the fire?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What is the name of the said? Wow, those two
are either having an affair or they are very shy,
which is wild. And you know what else. Do you
know who the girl is that works for his company?
He hired her six months ago. She's the head of
the HR department.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Oh I know that. Yes, I just found.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
That out, head of the HR department having an affair
with the CEO.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
So if you're the head of a HR department at
a company and there's I know, but there's somebody complaining,
you know, so and so are having an affair to
the head of the HR department, that couple will be
fired immediately.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
That I don't know. I mean, look at on what
was it gm A, What was the with the two
or is that NBC? That was NBC? Right, No, they
both got to let go, and you know that was
a shell.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
She will have to fire herself a bas she's out.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
That's that's no, that's no joke. She's going on the
Bord'll have her gone. But I don't know if that's
in every policy of every company, that you can't forget
the affair. You could be having a relationship with them,
this cowork relationship, affair or not affair or not right,
just a relationship. And I'm sure every company's got their
own policies on dating internally or not dating internally, if
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that's going to be an issue, and if there was
an affair that was out in the open and making
somebody uncomfortable, then that would be probably the hr claim.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I don't traveling.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
They actually go to a different city because I believe
they went to a concert. It's interesting because I was
listening to Bethany Franklin, Bethany Franklin, Anthony Frankl.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Bethany Frankel.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yes, and you know, she's very honest and she's very
like raw, you know when she speaks, which is part
of her appeal. That's what people like her because she's like,
she doesn't care. She would just comment on anything. And
she was saying that ninety nine percent of people, the
human beings, stay cheat and then when somebody goes to
she says ninety nine percent cheat is part of human nature.
And she says that especially when you travel, when you
(06:59):
go fact and you travel somewhere, if they're traveling involved
the whole thing that is away from your surroundings and
if you're lacking something or you're looking for something anyway,
she was saying that that people have to be aware
that when there's traveling involved things.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
There's no way that status correct.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
I don't know if it is or not.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Ninety nine, if you took one hundred couples, ninety nine
of them are having affairs. I don't know. There's no
way that's that interact. That's absurd. I would love to
be desprived to anybody. Can I mean that? For her
to be disproved? If anybody can say I'm right or wrong,
let me know. That's insane. So couples therapy, that's the
first debate.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Do you believe ninety nine?
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I don't think ninety nine that's crazy. Think of ten
of our friends that are couples, nine of us are
having affairs. Maybe not having affairs, but that's insane.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
They will open up themselves with the possibility of in
an affair.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
That's not insane. That's stupid.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Traveling makes it worse. But my question is did they
did they travel?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Stupid?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Doesn't take it out of men.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
That's just a dumb dumb that that's a whatever she said,
that doesn't make any sense. At the end of the day, Yes,
affairs happened all the time, where they went, what they
were doing. I don't know. I know he's getting a
lot of backlash. He's not supposed to be that.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
You think he's going to leave? Is it going to
step down?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I mean, is bored? Could probably uh, because board could
probably do something if it's bringing.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Guys, Why are you so stupid sometimes?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Why do you say, guys, you always do this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Because he's the ahead of the company.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
But I'm saying, when you have a family and you
have built a company that is a multi million dollar company,
and because you're thinking with your freaking d I c k,
you throw everything down the drain.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
This is where you and I will disagree. I don't
like when you say, guys, women have affairs of a
company doesn't matter. Women have affairs all the time.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I'm not saying that.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
I'm not saying I'm just saying, in that position, just
don't be stupid.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
But that doesn't. But you know that people of high
power have been making crazy mistakes all the time because
they take advantage of their power all the time, men,
women across the board. Anyway, it's a wild situation. I mean,
I think we're equally in agreement on this. I don't
think there's a couple's therapy scenario here. I mean I
would be out of that relationship in no time, and
(09:29):
I would be taking that person to the cleaners for
the public humiliation. The public she's feeling is awful. And
a lot of kids, right, the three kids. I saw
a meme about three kids and I was just notter
what it was, just like, why do we get so rich?
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Well, your husband had no I mean, your dad had
an affair with his coworker. Anyways, it's awful.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So so what's the other topic, Well.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
So how would you handle this? Everybody? So we all
have talked about how Rozlin can deal with anxiety and
she can deal with panic attacks, and it's very real.
And I know it is very real. I don't discredit it.
It's as brutal as it is on her, probably more
brutal on her. But it is very challenging as a
partner because why because I can't even communicate with you
(10:22):
when you're going through it. You won't listen to me,
you won't listen to anything. You like literally zone out,
and you are a different person and you it's it's
scary to the point. So she had to go and
thankfully results her all in everything's great, But she had
to get a biopsy done on her breast and effort
something on a mammogram, which happens at this age. But
at the end of the day classifications they were normal,
(10:44):
they were benign, which is fantastic news. But going there,
and I know for anybody in a situation like this,
like I'm gonna go be checked on for cancer, right,
that's that's a nerve racking, anxiety building situation. Totally get it.
So she asked me to be there. I was off work.
She's like, can you please take me? I can't do
this by myself. I said, no problem, of course, I'll
(11:04):
drive you. I'll block out the morning we go. We're driving,
having normal conversation. All of a sudden, she goes, roll
out the one, roll the window window, put it down,
put it on. I'm having a panic attick. I'm having
a time. She's like, I can't hear. I can't hear.
And she's been sick for a number of days here
coming back from Florida with sebby and we'll talk about
that too, but she was like, I can't hear, and
striving a panic attack because she couldn't hear. Oh my god,
(11:25):
oh my god, I'm getting too hot. Starts trying to
take her shirt off, we're in the car, then tries
to get out of the car while we're in the
middle of the street of a busy street. I'm like, ross,
do not get out of the car right now. Get
in the car, do not get out of the car.
She's freaking out and she's barely listening to me, And
thank god she didn't get out of the car. And
I drive really fast, trying to get out of the
way of traffic, and I try to pull over down
(11:46):
this alley. She gets out of the car, almost takes
her shirt off again, and she's walking around pacing, and
I'm just like, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
This is let me carry on.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
So the cobbles therapy, this is where it comes in.
So yeah, all he said is true. It's a very
overwhelming feeling. I don't it's like you lose It's like
an outer body outer body experience, Like I just don't.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I don't even know what I'm thinking.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
All I know is I'm overheating and the heart starts
raising and you feel like you're gonna pass out.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Even when I'm trying to comfort her or anything in
the car, she won't listen.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
So I get out of the car. I'm walking around.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
He's in the car, and I'm going, oh my god,
Oh my god, my god, I think I'm going to
pass out. It's like, what is happening? So I start praying,
I'm going ross, please, what is going on? I can
hear all kinds of things go through your through your mind.
I'm thinking I can go through this procedure.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
We're late. I don't want to do it. And then
there's a car.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
He goes into an alley that's where I get out,
so we don't stop traffic. And then there's a car
that gets into the alley and it's kind of behind us,
and they stop. So they see me paying my my
my shirt is all the way up, my brass.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Is out right.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
They see that I'm basically showing my bra but I'm
walking around and Eric starts freaking out, saying get in
the car because they're gonna think we're.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Gonna have we're having a domestic dispute.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I told her to go around me. You didn't see
that go around you. You were facing the wall with
your hands up like you were freaking out the ladies
behind me. I put my arm out the window. I said,
please go around, and she went no, I'm parking basically
right where I was blocking. Okay, so I'm blocking where
she has to go, and you're standing in her parking space.
Oh coincidentally, you didn't know all that. And I said,
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bra get in the car, get in the car. I
got to move. This lady needs to pull in there.
Get in the car. So you got in the car
and we pull up a little bit.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
And his concern is somebody thinks that we're having a
domestic dispute. And I'm going, within my panic attack, I'm going,
what the heck is he talking about.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't care what people think. I'm about to.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Die, and he's thinking about somebody thinks that I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Somebody a good couple topics? Did I handle it correctly
or not all? I tried to talk her down in
the car. Wouldn't listen to me. She asked me if
I'm not going to get out of the car in
the middle of the road with moving traffic, she said,
pull over. I pulled over. She got out of the car,
paced around. I tried to Rose, can you get in
the car. She wouldn't listen to me, so I'd stopped talking.
(14:16):
I felt like she.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Needed literally stopped talking like he wasn't there because.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
She wouldn't hear anything I said. So I just tried
to give her her space to pace around see if
she calmed down on her own. Unforeseen I couldn't control
the person that wanted to that you happen to be
in their parking spot, of all places.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I mean, you should have gotten out of the car
and say, sorry, lady, I apologize. My wife is having
had a little bit of a panic attack. Can you
give me one second, let me see me, let me
control the situation.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
And make her sit there just in her car, watching
the whole thing. Wait while you can do to undress. Yeah,
just get in the car. But then it does look
like I'm like, oh my god, this lady thinks that
we probably having a domestic dispute. My door's wide open,
she's walking around, pacing, she's in tears. I'm sitting in
the car.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I was like, this is anyways, I don't know if
it was handled correctly or not. Anyways, I got back
in the car, and then I kept breathing, and then
and we somehow got into the facility where they're doing
the procedure.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I was very hot.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I was inside the place, very nice place, and I'm
going Eric, I'm very hot.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
I'm very hot. Is anybody hot? Why am I hot?
Why am I hot? Anyways? And You're like, no, it's
not hot.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I said, he's cool, Like nohing he goes.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
And maybe you should just go outside and just walk around.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Because my understanding is if someone's going through a panic attack,
what would help. If I panic, it's going to make
it worse for you. And for the record, not to
sway anybody's votes here if I handled this correctly or not.
The doctor at the facility was like, wow, you're great
with this. You really know how to talk to her.
We should bring you in for all our patients. That's
what he said to me.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
It wasn't about the panic attack.
Speaker 5 (15:38):
It was about because I tried to call my concerns
about the procedure that I was about to have, Because guys,
I did this procedure when I was dating Eric, maybe
nineteen years ago, on all the breast and I passed
out when they put the needle, I passed out.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
So my concern was, oh, my god, I don't want
to go through this again. I hate it.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
So guys, tell us what you think. Did I handle
it good or night?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Was domestic abuse.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Seconds after you got after you fell and hit your
head in the driveway and you had black and blue
eyes and everything was all messed up. It's like, how
did what happened to Ross? I'm like, oh, she fell,
and it's like, oh, typical story. And I'm like, I
swear to god, I was at a tennis match. I
didn't hit her.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
I didn't do anything.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Your mind doesn't have to go there.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
People were nobody.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Was thinking anything like that at all.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I was sitting there, panic that you sit there and
going to tell your parents, Oh my god, I have a.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Big My parents are going to think that you hit me.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I don't want any I was not home. I was
not there that you weren't even thinking that, because I
don't want anybody thinking I did anything like thinking. People
joked me. Richard T at work was was jokingly going,
how did that look for you? And I was like,
I was freaked out.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
No, that's terrible.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
All right, next time? So how would you handle this?
And I don't blame ros I think we did the
best we could. But she's at our daughter's national tennis tournament,
which I've said this before the way it goes down
with tennis parents, and I'm not listen. I was not
the best observer of tennis. Early on in Sebbi's playing time.
We've talked about this. I was a little out of control.
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I've calmed way down. A lot of parents not so
much so. She's at national's huge tournament. Sebbi's playing with
a girl that Sebbi should have just beat right away,
and Sebby wasn't playing at the top of her game,
but battled and ended up taking to a tie break,
and before going to the tiebreak, then this girl the
entire match. This girl wasn't entitled. And I hate I
don't like to talk about other post kids, so I'm
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not gonna really say much more. Just not the best
behavior on the court, hitting the ball at Sabella on
changeovers like on purpose, at her back when she's not looking,
throwing things at her, screaming, yelling, and talking down to
Sabella in the match, like just not good sportsmanship. And
I'm trying. She ruime, No.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
She was just throwing the ball in a very she
got frustrated when Sabella was started to do well, and
just her behavior was not great sportsman ship.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
I thought she was talking.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
No, she was just throwing the ball to Sabella in
a very just her malicious.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Her parents were being a little bit overly obnoxious, probably
with cheering, which I'm not going to say that we've
never done, and Ross is done for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Guys, I saw this girl. This was funny.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
I saw the girl playing before because Sabella was playing
her first match of the day and I sat far
away and the court in front of me was this
girl playing. So I was able to watch my daughter
and this girl, I don't know who she is right
playing so I kind of understood her game.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
So when it comes she.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Wins her match very well. Sabella wins her match, and
now they have to play each other. Granted there's twenty
something courts, and it happens to be that I was
able to watch that girl that plays my daughter next,
and I says, Sabella, this is the deal. This is
what the girl likes to do.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
But the mom was sitting.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Down the whole time because she was watching their daughter play.
So I saw the behavior, which I have no problem
because I do the same. I'm very encouraging to Sabella,
and Sabella makes a point I'm going sa and I'm
very vocal, and people hate it, so I'm not mad
at a mom that does that because I do the same,
So I have no But there's etiquette.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah, you do it when your kid does well. You
don't you don't clap at somebody else's very obvious, unfortunate.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
What a kills me is guys at the tennis community,
Like we have talked many many times, it's so stuck
up and everybody behaves. It's just I'm listened this family,
the Latino family, so you will think that me as
a Latina and these people as Latinos in this country.
If the girls are playing against each other, we don't
know each other, right, but we should. There should be
(19:51):
some kind of commonality, you know what I mean, instead
of like, hi, how are you? Good luck to your daughter?
Good luck to your daughter, and at.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Least keep it sim big problem for what happened, you know.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
But what kills me is that you will expect that,
you know what, Let's just be cool.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Our play.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Our daughters are playing their competitors, they're playing against each other.
It's each other, is the nationals. But I and I'm
a fault because I had a hat, I had glasses.
I was very like I'm sitting there at the bleachers. First,
the mom shows up with the trainer. I don't even
look at them, So I should have been I should
be the bigger person. If I'm expecting for people to
be nice, I should be like, Hi, good afternoon.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I don't say anything. Of course, they don't say anything.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
It's just there's.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Tension for no reason.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There shouldn't be an attention. There's your stupid the tennis tennis.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
So anyways, they start playing. I'm telling Sabella a, Sabella,
you know what to do. I get I start getting
frustrated because Sabella is just not playing her best. The
girl is having a festival, doing the things that I
told Sabella, be mindful that this is what she's gonna do.
The mom being a great mom. Every time the girl
will make a point or Sabella will lose a point,
she will be clapping, come on, good job, good girl.
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I'm not gonna say her name. Anyways, and I'm quiet,
and they're speaking in Spanish. At this point, I don't
think they know. They don't know who I am. They
don't recognize me, they don't act like they know who
I am. They don't even know if I speak the language.
So the coach starts talking about Sebbi's play, and I'm going,
oh my god, Jesus lure her cue leather cute. Yes,
just keep calm ras, don't lose your bananas. It's okay anyways,
(21:18):
but I'm edgy because Sabella is losing stupidly. The girl
does her slice, Sabella doesn't get to the freaking ball
or a drop shot. And I say, in Spanish very loud,
I said to her, Jadelodi, he basse total dia.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I told you about this. She's gonna do this all
day long.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
And I said very loud, and I saw the mom
react like, oh kaka, she speaks Spanish. So I've been
listening to all they've been saying, and now they realize
I understand.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I understood everything they said. Anyways, the mom.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
They're all shocked. The coach stops commenting. The mom's still
being very supportive of his girl.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
But I'm not doing anything. So I'm thinking if I'm like.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Come on, Sabella, come on, Sabella, and I see the
parents next to me, next to the point that we
can touch each other, being quiet, I think I will
tone it down.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Anyways, I know me. I said, let me just leave
this location, and.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
I'm gonna go all the way to this other areas Florida,
I Pantano. So I'm basically next to our lagoon, gondo iguanas,
twiguan as, basically my size, thinking there's gonna be a
crocodile coming out of this lagoon. But because I don't
want to have problems, I'm just gonna sit over here
by myself.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Continue, well, carry on, you carry on.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
I don't know anyway.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Sabella loses the first set, then she wins the second set.
I am very vocal now because the mom is going well,
good job, so I get very vocal, and every time
Sebela know when the girl is on my side.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Of the court started coming here, jump, you're taking to
the big trauma of because I want to have a
second set. Sabbi comes back the girl and I'm going
and the girl tells Raz to shut the f up.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
The little girl thirteen years old from fourteen years old.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Little girl. She was doing the same thing that her
parents were doing. But the problem is Sabella is now
coming back, and because Roz is cheering on her daughter,
the girl turns to Roses and says, shut the f
up now very loud. Everybody heard it, which is a
huge player violation. So what upsets me? And I said
to Roz and text she told me this girl did this.
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I said, go to the front desk, stop everything right now,
and you tell them what this girl did. I'm not
going to remember doing it, saying the text. It's in
the text. She said, I don't want to make a scene. Well, unfortunately,
Sabella lost the match. Who cares about a single match break?
She almost who cares? She lost? But what sucks is
the way that this went down, the way this girl
was allowed to do that, and that at a national
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level should be an immediate reprimand the girl should lose
a game, lose points at a minimum, or even disqualified
or some parents said she could have been disqualified the promise.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I didn't report it.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I didn't report the incident to the managers of the
directors of the thing immediately because Sabella and it's funny
because the.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Referee how you call them, the.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Umpire made the girl apologize.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
At the party, said to me, ma'am, you have to move,
and I said, my understanding is that I have to
be ten feet away from the court and more than
twenty feet away from the moving Then Isabella said, mom,
please move over there almost in tears, and I moved
and because I didn't want to jeopardize Isabella, because I
know they're going to go into a tiebreak. Sabella has
a chance to beat this girl. I don't want to
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cause a problem, so I just change locations.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
I should have would would have done as parents, because
that was a long way of getting to that.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
They would have context. What would you guys tell sorry
that it was boring? I guess no, it wasn't boring.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
What would you people do as parents? Is she right
or wrong? What do you think who was right or wrong? No? Like,
what what's the therapy? What's the question of the therapy session?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Would you have handled it my way?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
I don't know. I don't know what your way?
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Would have been lost ur bananas and cause a problem.
I'm probably true out the mom that's out.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I would have yes, I would have asked the situation
correct course.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
So I didn't escalate the situation because I don't want
Sabella or the girl to be I mean, the girl
should have been disqualified. But my concern was I don't
want to stop this match and cause Sabella a problem
because they're going to say, well, she's screaming, and I'm
going to say, well, they're screaming, so it's going to
become like he said, she said, So my reaction was like,
let her finish the thing. I thought she was going
to pull it off. But to this day, but it
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bothers you every it bothers me because it things about it,
because I don't understand how a thirteen fourteen year old
girl will have the nerve to disrespect an adult the
way she did. If Sabella would have done that to
girl girl, I would be this qualifying you go and
apologize and don't you ever talk to an adult that way?
Speaker 1 (25:43):
One hundred million?
Speaker 3 (25:45):
And I also bother me that the parents they didn't
have the nerve to come over saying we're so sorry.
You know what.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
You know girls, you know they're very nervous.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
We apologize on her behalf and I would have been,
you know, and I apologize because I guess I was screaming,
but you were screaming, so it became it became a
piasing contest and I'm sorry, congratulations So your girls she beats.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
The parents just scooted off right, Yeah, they were uncomfortable.
Whatever it bothers me, is I mean you're one hundred.
I'm fully in agreement about that part a million. If
Sabella would have done that out pull, I would have
embarrassed the heck out of Sabella. Sabella, you're out of
this match. You lose, You forfeit. This girl wins. I
would have made it a point to embarrass my daughter,
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because it's not about winning or losing a dumb fourteen
year old tennis tournament or a game or a match.
It is about teaching your kids principles and values in
life and respect for adults so that when they grow
older they understand that it was disgusting.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
It was so disgusting. The girl at the end came
over to me and I by choice, no, by choice.
They told her, you have to apologize at the moment,
and she told the Empire, well, can I do it
at the end of the match, still being defiant, and
when it happened, God bless Sabella.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Oh did it during the match? She apologized you.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
No, no, no, no, after the match, but the Empire
for the tie break, you need to go to apologize,
and she said, well, kind of do it after the match,
and the Empire said, well, I guess so, which I don't.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Like, which again goes to the point I'm making about
this Usta Tennis and the way they managed stuff. If
you're at a level one tournament, these umpires should know
what the hell they're doing.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
The girl comes to me at the end, the boys crying.
I'm hugging her.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
I'm going it's okay, mammy, I'm so proud of you.
Blah blah blah. The girl comes up. He says, ma'am,
I'm sorry for what I did. I'm so sorry. And
I looked at her and I said, you know what,
I appreciate that, thank you so much. Now I'm going
to tell you something that was very disrespectful. And she's like,
I know, ma'am, and she left and I was like, okay,
maybe she doesn't want to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
She doesn't want me finding a report, which I will.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
But then Zabella said to me, well, she did that
because they told her she needed to, and she was
told to do it at the moment, and she said
I'm going to do it after the match.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
So it was even.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
See and this is where if I would have heard
all that, I would have stopped the match. I would
have talked to the umpire and said, can you come
here please?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
No, when the Empire went to the other mom to
ask about for the assessment and they didn't come to
me asking me what happened they didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh, no, that umpire screwed up multiple anyways, I don't
know where the couple's therapy question isn't all this but
sports parents or non? What would you do? Last couple's
therapy question? To wrap up this episode because we are
running out of time here, we were going to talk
about trips, traveling, packing overpacking in our situation and are
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always when we travel. Roseland's the overpacker, right, I mean,
you can't even probably argue that you think do you
think you pack what's needed? Or do you think you
always overpacka needed? Do you think you use everything that
you pack.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
For the most part? Correct?
Speaker 1 (28:46):
Do you think you could ever reduce how much you pack? No?
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Because I don't repeat close you do. But if you're
I have an outfit for absolutely everything, but.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
If you're staying at a place where you have washer and.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
Dryer, Yeah, I do it for panties and brass. But
why I think like that?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
I don't. I don't. I watch everything while I want
I use it, but not thinking that I'm going to
use it again.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
But if you're not going to like events or something,
just reuse. Change up the top with the pants.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
It's just what. It's just who I am, is what
I do.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
So she always does that. But I'm sure women in
general a lot of times and men too, can overpack
with a lot of stuff, like too many shoes, too
many sneakers, too many of this, that whatever.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
Then what happens with her because like, oh my god,
I think I owned her packed. I don't have enough.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
I didn't bring it up.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
I didn't bring enough shoes, I didn't bring enough clothes.
I'm going I told you, she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
There's many times where I've like been scramping like it happened.
And when we were in Dominican Republic, I was like,
dang it, I didn't bring a belt. Dang it, I
didn't bring that. I was like to buy something. So
she's not wrong. I tend to and he.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
Uses the same swimsuit every single day. I don't understand
it rotated from like maybe fifteen years ago. No, fifteen
years ago at least, so said I when for his
birthday said I want to get him like at least
two pairs of swimsuits because we got to go to
Puerto Rico and they didn't have anything because they have
the short ones and you're like the ones on a longer,
so I could short was becoming more popular.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Yeah. So anyways, she tends, like I said, to overpack,
to the point when she went to do her movie
and Budapezant granted she was there for six weeks. I
think it was she took five pieces of luggage, five
at an airbnb with a washer and driver, and I
was like, you're gonna be for six weeks because you're
on set most of the time, like in wardrobe for
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the movie, so you're not even having to change clothes.
And but then it got to the point where we
went to Paris afterwards on vacation and she went shopping
and buy too much stuff that she had to buy
another piece of luggage to bring stuff home.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It was awesome, that's normal.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
It's more of my luggage.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
That's normal for women.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Women to that.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
You agree that when you go to.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
A place for like a month and a half and
then you go to a five year this vacation, you
want to make sure that you have everything you need.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
All right. I don't know what are your thoughts underpacking? Overpacking?
Better to be safe than sorry overpacking. I try to
underpack okay, because we get stuck. Let us know what
you think. Send us in your uh couples therapy questions,
couples that no, right?
Speaker 2 (31:04):
That was perfect?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Oh? Perfect? Set us in your thoughts and we will
address them on future episodes. We appreciate you guys for listening.
Thank you, and you thanks for listening. Don't forget to
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Speaker 3 (31:25):
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Speaker 1 (31:29):
See you next time.
Speaker 5 (31:30):
Bye,
This is he said a Yadiho with Eric Winter and
Rodlin Fantas. All right, all right, hello, welcome to another episode,
he said. You know it's been a minute. Been a minute.
If we're dropping episodes every other week now, I want
to keep it fresh and exciting, and I think we
(00:21):
do have a fun We have a guest coming up
in another episode, but now this episode is back to
just us and we have a fun topic game. We'll
dive into a little bit about what we've had going on,
but we are going to play something in a little
bit on the podcast. First off, let's see summer update
been pretty low key. I think for the most part,
(00:41):
you've been healing from your injury and that's been going
pretty well. I definitely back to normal. Your elbows almost there.
You start physical therapy.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Right yeah, Monday, So see if I can make it all.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
The way straight.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
Hi, guys, I had no idea that because of this
thing that I was using to protect my bow. It's
like a a brace, like there's like a glove, and
then the soft brace, my arm got so skinny and
like floppy, and I have it's smaller than the left arm.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
It's not even just from the crazy lack of use. Yeah,
that's what happens.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
So now I feel like she has aged me maybe ten.
Look at that, It's like, what.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Am I gonna do?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
That's easy stuff. It's just it's just a matter of
getting the use back in the anytime. I've had casts
multiple times in my life, it's ankles, and I've had
I've been embraces many times.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
It's just and that happens one process, part of the
cross crazy. So yeah, I'm gonna have to start working
on the problem is that I'm not allowed to do
like weights, not yet.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I mean, let me see what the physical therapist.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Through very slow rehab because the bone has to still connected.
They said about eight weeks for that bone to heal.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
What else we had? I had a birthday seventeenth, which
was which was nice simple. I was working, but the
kids and Ross surprised me the morning with a nice
homemade breakfast and cart God bless her.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
She got up like a five forty five in the
morning to cookie breakfast and it was so sweet.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
Got up early. Dylan was up at four thirty in
the morning because he was so excited to be.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
Because he wanted to do the decorations.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
And the balloons, and that's all he kept talking about
the night before, and I kept saying, Dylan, I'm gonna
wake you up. So he got up before something. Eric
went to the room. Then Eric said, you have to
go to the room because he keeps asking about he
needs to get everything ready. So I had to go
at four in the morning saying Dylan, it's still nighttime.
I promise you, I'm going to wake you up. I
have the alarm set up. I'm going to wake you up.
(02:36):
And I got up at six fifteen. I got up
at six fifteen to wake him up. And when I
go to the hallway, both of their open. Their doors
were open, and I go to the to the kitchen
and they're cooking out.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I'm going, what is going on? It was very cute, Actually, yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
That no, it was. It was awesome. And Savella wrote
me such a beautiful personalized card. It was. It was sweet.
You know when you see these kids getting older and
still still doing nice things for you, and you obviously
had a big part of putting all that together, So
thank you. It was a nice birthday. And then I
worked and yeah, it was very chill. Let's see, we're
gonna go so normally, like you know, like I said,
(03:12):
we dive into host chats but and cover headlines and
all that. But this time we want to do something
different and we're about to you know, listen, we are
not therapists. Let me start by saying that by any means, like,
by any means, but we have had seventeen years of
marriage and twenty years together and so we think it
might be fun to do something called couples dedipia therapy.
(03:39):
We're just diving to do something different. We'll talk about
something on our own side. But in all relationships, you know,
you find annoyances and things that pop up from time
to time.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
And again, take it with a grain of salt.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
Is that a saying yeah, And it's more for fun,
I mean, because we're not therapist still by any means,
we just want to have a good time, but we
also want you to get involved, be the judge, the
jury of our situations.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Then and then we want to hear from you as well.
You know, go to our Instagram page at he said
aado podcasts and if you and your partner can't agree
on something, tell us the issue you want to resolve.
It will debate it on the podcast, but we will
definitely keep your names out of it. Don't worry about that.
We won't talk about who anybody is or talk about
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your handle so anybody can track you down. It'll just
be fun topics for us to debate, maybe something we've
gone through in our own lives as well, so we'll
do that. We'll start with a couple that are just
kind of for fun. So the other day and this
is really.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
The one that is happening right now that he's all
over the news and TikTok on his it has to
just struggle.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
To debate on that. That's that guy just got nailed.
There's no debate, I know.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
But if you're the spouse, how would you handle us like.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
She's doing it? How did she do it out out
and taking him to the cleaners? She should Well, everybody
knows we're talking about this amazing cold play, which I
didn't know. There's two things I just heard on the
radio funny enough coming in for the.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Podcast today that he can't commented on it. That's what
feel the fire?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What is the name of the said? Wow, those two
are either having an affair or they are very shy,
which is wild. And you know what else. Do you
know who the girl is that works for his company?
He hired her six months ago. She's the head of
the HR department.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Oh I know that. Yes, I just found.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
That out, head of the HR department having an affair
with the CEO.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
So if you're the head of a HR department at
a company and there's I know, but there's somebody complaining,
you know, so and so are having an affair to
the head of the HR department, that couple will be
fired immediately.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
That I don't know. I mean, look at on what
was it gm A, What was the with the two
or is that NBC? That was NBC? Right, No, they
both got to let go, and you know that was
a shell.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
She will have to fire herself a bas she's out.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
That's that's no, that's no joke. She's going on the
Bord'll have her gone. But I don't know if that's
in every policy of every company, that you can't forget
the affair. You could be having a relationship with them,
this cowork relationship, affair or not affair or not right,
just a relationship. And I'm sure every company's got their
own policies on dating internally or not dating internally, if
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that's going to be an issue, and if there was
an affair that was out in the open and making
somebody uncomfortable, then that would be probably the hr claim.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
I don't traveling.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
They actually go to a different city because I believe
they went to a concert. It's interesting because I was
listening to Bethany Franklin, Bethany Franklin, Anthony Frankl.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
Bethany Frankel.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yes, and you know, she's very honest and she's very
like raw, you know when she speaks, which is part
of her appeal. That's what people like her because she's like,
she doesn't care. She would just comment on anything. And
she was saying that ninety nine percent of people, the
human beings, stay cheat and then when somebody goes to
she says ninety nine percent cheat is part of human nature.
And she says that especially when you travel, when you
(06:59):
go fact and you travel somewhere, if they're traveling involved
the whole thing that is away from your surroundings and
if you're lacking something or you're looking for something anyway,
she was saying that that people have to be aware
that when there's traveling involved things.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
There's no way that status correct.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
I don't know if it is or not.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
Ninety nine, if you took one hundred couples, ninety nine
of them are having affairs. I don't know. There's no
way that's that interact. That's absurd. I would love to
be desprived to anybody. Can I mean that? For her
to be disproved? If anybody can say I'm right or wrong,
let me know. That's insane. So couples therapy, that's the
first debate.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Do you believe ninety nine?
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I don't think ninety nine that's crazy. Think of ten
of our friends that are couples, nine of us are
having affairs. Maybe not having affairs, but that's insane.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
They will open up themselves with the possibility of in
an affair.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
That's not insane. That's stupid.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Traveling makes it worse. But my question is did they
did they travel?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Stupid?
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Doesn't take it out of men.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
That's just a dumb dumb that that's a whatever she said,
that doesn't make any sense. At the end of the day, Yes,
affairs happened all the time, where they went, what they
were doing. I don't know. I know he's getting a
lot of backlash. He's not supposed to be that.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
You think he's going to leave? Is it going to
step down?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I mean, is bored? Could probably uh, because board could
probably do something if it's bringing.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Guys, Why are you so stupid sometimes?
Speaker 1 (08:34):
Why do you say, guys, you always do this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Because he's the ahead of the company.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
But I'm saying, when you have a family and you
have built a company that is a multi million dollar company,
and because you're thinking with your freaking d I c k,
you throw everything down the drain.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
This is where you and I will disagree. I don't
like when you say, guys, women have affairs of a
company doesn't matter. Women have affairs all the time.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
I'm not saying that.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
I'm not saying I'm just saying, in that position, just
don't be stupid.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
But that doesn't. But you know that people of high
power have been making crazy mistakes all the time because
they take advantage of their power all the time, men,
women across the board. Anyway, it's a wild situation. I mean,
I think we're equally in agreement on this. I don't
think there's a couple's therapy scenario here. I mean I
would be out of that relationship in no time, and
(09:29):
I would be taking that person to the cleaners for
the public humiliation. The public she's feeling is awful. And
a lot of kids, right, the three kids. I saw
a meme about three kids and I was just notter
what it was, just like, why do we get so rich?
Speaker 3 (09:44):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (09:44):
Well, your husband had no I mean, your dad had
an affair with his coworker. Anyways, it's awful.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So so what's the other topic, Well.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
So how would you handle this? Everybody? So we all
have talked about how Rozlin can deal with anxiety and
she can deal with panic attacks, and it's very real.
And I know it is very real. I don't discredit it.
It's as brutal as it is on her, probably more
brutal on her. But it is very challenging as a
partner because why because I can't even communicate with you
(10:22):
when you're going through it. You won't listen to me,
you won't listen to anything. You like literally zone out,
and you are a different person and you it's it's
scary to the point. So she had to go and
thankfully results her all in everything's great, But she had
to get a biopsy done on her breast and effort
something on a mammogram, which happens at this age. But
at the end of the day classifications they were normal,
(10:44):
they were benign, which is fantastic news. But going there,
and I know for anybody in a situation like this,
like I'm gonna go be checked on for cancer, right,
that's that's a nerve racking, anxiety building situation. Totally get it.
So she asked me to be there. I was off work.
She's like, can you please take me? I can't do
this by myself. I said, no problem, of course, I'll
(11:04):
drive you. I'll block out the morning we go. We're driving,
having normal conversation. All of a sudden, she goes, roll
out the one, roll the window window, put it down,
put it on. I'm having a panic attick. I'm having
a time. She's like, I can't hear. I can't hear.
And she's been sick for a number of days here
coming back from Florida with sebby and we'll talk about
that too, but she was like, I can't hear, and
striving a panic attack because she couldn't hear. Oh my god,
(11:25):
oh my god, I'm getting too hot. Starts trying to
take her shirt off, we're in the car, then tries
to get out of the car while we're in the
middle of the street of a busy street. I'm like, ross,
do not get out of the car right now. Get
in the car, do not get out of the car.
She's freaking out and she's barely listening to me, And
thank god she didn't get out of the car. And
I drive really fast, trying to get out of the
way of traffic, and I try to pull over down
(11:46):
this alley. She gets out of the car, almost takes
her shirt off again, and she's walking around pacing, and
I'm just like, oh my god.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
This is let me carry on.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
So the cobbles therapy, this is where it comes in.
So yeah, all he said is true. It's a very
overwhelming feeling. I don't it's like you lose It's like
an outer body outer body experience, Like I just don't.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I don't even know what I'm thinking.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
All I know is I'm overheating and the heart starts
raising and you feel like you're gonna pass out.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Even when I'm trying to comfort her or anything in
the car, she won't listen.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
So I get out of the car. I'm walking around.
Speaker 3 (12:29):
He's in the car, and I'm going, oh my god,
Oh my god, my god, I think I'm going to
pass out. It's like, what is happening? So I start praying,
I'm going ross, please, what is going on? I can
hear all kinds of things go through your through your mind.
I'm thinking I can go through this procedure.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
We're late. I don't want to do it. And then
there's a car.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
He goes into an alley that's where I get out,
so we don't stop traffic. And then there's a car
that gets into the alley and it's kind of behind us,
and they stop. So they see me paying my my
my shirt is all the way up, my brass.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Is out right.
Speaker 3 (13:00):
They see that I'm basically showing my bra but I'm
walking around and Eric starts freaking out, saying get in
the car because they're gonna think we're.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
Gonna have we're having a domestic dispute.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I told her to go around me. You didn't see
that go around you. You were facing the wall with
your hands up like you were freaking out the ladies
behind me. I put my arm out the window. I said,
please go around, and she went no, I'm parking basically
right where I was blocking. Okay, so I'm blocking where
she has to go, and you're standing in her parking space.
Oh coincidentally, you didn't know all that. And I said,
(13:33):
bra get in the car, get in the car. I
got to move. This lady needs to pull in there.
Get in the car. So you got in the car
and we pull up a little bit.
Speaker 3 (13:40):
And his concern is somebody thinks that we're having a
domestic dispute. And I'm going, within my panic attack, I'm going,
what the heck is he talking about.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
I don't care what people think. I'm about to.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
Die, and he's thinking about somebody thinks that I'm doing.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
Somebody a good couple topics? Did I handle it correctly
or not all? I tried to talk her down in
the car. Wouldn't listen to me. She asked me if
I'm not going to get out of the car in
the middle of the road with moving traffic, she said,
pull over. I pulled over. She got out of the car,
paced around. I tried to Rose, can you get in
the car. She wouldn't listen to me, so I'd stopped talking.
(14:16):
I felt like she.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Needed literally stopped talking like he wasn't there because.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
She wouldn't hear anything I said. So I just tried
to give her her space to pace around see if
she calmed down on her own. Unforeseen I couldn't control
the person that wanted to that you happen to be
in their parking spot, of all places.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
I mean, you should have gotten out of the car
and say, sorry, lady, I apologize. My wife is having
had a little bit of a panic attack. Can you
give me one second, let me see me, let me
control the situation.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
And make her sit there just in her car, watching
the whole thing. Wait while you can do to undress. Yeah,
just get in the car. But then it does look
like I'm like, oh my god, this lady thinks that
we probably having a domestic dispute. My door's wide open,
she's walking around, pacing, she's in tears. I'm sitting in
the car.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
I was like, this is anyways, I don't know if
it was handled correctly or not. Anyways, I got back
in the car, and then I kept breathing, and then
and we somehow got into the facility where they're doing
the procedure.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
I was very hot.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I was inside the place, very nice place, and I'm
going Eric, I'm very hot.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
I'm very hot. Is anybody hot? Why am I hot?
Why am I hot? Anyways? And You're like, no, it's
not hot.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
I said, he's cool, Like nohing he goes.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
And maybe you should just go outside and just walk around.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Because my understanding is if someone's going through a panic attack,
what would help. If I panic, it's going to make
it worse for you. And for the record, not to
sway anybody's votes here if I handled this correctly or not.
The doctor at the facility was like, wow, you're great
with this. You really know how to talk to her.
We should bring you in for all our patients. That's
what he said to me.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
It wasn't about the panic attack.
Speaker 5 (15:38):
It was about because I tried to call my concerns
about the procedure that I was about to have, Because guys,
I did this procedure when I was dating Eric, maybe
nineteen years ago, on all the breast and I passed
out when they put the needle, I passed out.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
So my concern was, oh, my god, I don't want
to go through this again. I hate it.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
So guys, tell us what you think. Did I handle
it good or night?
Speaker 2 (16:01):
Was domestic abuse.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Seconds after you got after you fell and hit your
head in the driveway and you had black and blue
eyes and everything was all messed up. It's like, how
did what happened to Ross? I'm like, oh, she fell,
and it's like, oh, typical story. And I'm like, I
swear to god, I was at a tennis match. I
didn't hit her.
Speaker 4 (16:16):
I didn't do anything.
Speaker 2 (16:18):
Your mind doesn't have to go there.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
People were nobody.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Was thinking anything like that at all.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
I was sitting there, panic that you sit there and
going to tell your parents, Oh my god, I have a.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
Big My parents are going to think that you hit me.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
I don't want any I was not home. I was
not there that you weren't even thinking that, because I
don't want anybody thinking I did anything like thinking. People
joked me. Richard T at work was was jokingly going,
how did that look for you? And I was like,
I was freaked out.
Speaker 2 (16:49):
No, that's terrible.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
All right, next time? So how would you handle this?
And I don't blame ros I think we did the
best we could. But she's at our daughter's national tennis tournament,
which I've said this before the way it goes down
with tennis parents, and I'm not listen. I was not
the best observer of tennis. Early on in Sebbi's playing time.
We've talked about this. I was a little out of control.
(17:20):
I've calmed way down. A lot of parents not so
much so. She's at national's huge tournament. Sebbi's playing with
a girl that Sebbi should have just beat right away,
and Sebby wasn't playing at the top of her game,
but battled and ended up taking to a tie break,
and before going to the tiebreak, then this girl the
entire match. This girl wasn't entitled. And I hate I
don't like to talk about other post kids, so I'm
(17:41):
not gonna really say much more. Just not the best
behavior on the court, hitting the ball at Sabella on
changeovers like on purpose, at her back when she's not looking,
throwing things at her, screaming, yelling, and talking down to
Sabella in the match, like just not good sportsmanship. And
I'm trying. She ruime, No.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
She was just throwing the ball in a very she
got frustrated when Sabella was started to do well, and
just her behavior was not great sportsman ship.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
I thought she was talking.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
No, she was just throwing the ball to Sabella in
a very just her malicious.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Her parents were being a little bit overly obnoxious, probably
with cheering, which I'm not going to say that we've
never done, and Ross is done for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Guys, I saw this girl. This was funny.
Speaker 3 (18:25):
I saw the girl playing before because Sabella was playing
her first match of the day and I sat far
away and the court in front of me was this
girl playing. So I was able to watch my daughter
and this girl, I don't know who she is right
playing so I kind of understood her game.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
So when it comes she.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Wins her match very well. Sabella wins her match, and
now they have to play each other. Granted there's twenty
something courts, and it happens to be that I was
able to watch that girl that plays my daughter next,
and I says, Sabella, this is the deal. This is
what the girl likes to do.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
But the mom was sitting.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Down the whole time because she was watching their daughter play.
So I saw the behavior, which I have no problem
because I do the same. I'm very encouraging to Sabella,
and Sabella makes a point I'm going sa and I'm
very vocal, and people hate it, so I'm not mad
at a mom that does that because I do the same,
So I have no But there's etiquette.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Yeah, you do it when your kid does well. You
don't you don't clap at somebody else's very obvious, unfortunate.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
What a kills me is guys at the tennis community,
Like we have talked many many times, it's so stuck
up and everybody behaves. It's just I'm listened this family,
the Latino family, so you will think that me as
a Latina and these people as Latinos in this country.
If the girls are playing against each other, we don't
know each other, right, but we should. There should be
(19:51):
some kind of commonality, you know what I mean, instead
of like, hi, how are you? Good luck to your daughter?
Good luck to your daughter, and at.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
Least keep it sim big problem for what happened, you know.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
But what kills me is that you will expect that,
you know what, Let's just be cool.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Our play.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Our daughters are playing their competitors, they're playing against each other.
It's each other, is the nationals. But I and I'm
a fault because I had a hat, I had glasses.
I was very like I'm sitting there at the bleachers. First,
the mom shows up with the trainer. I don't even
look at them, So I should have been I should
be the bigger person. If I'm expecting for people to
be nice, I should be like, Hi, good afternoon.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
I don't say anything. Of course, they don't say anything.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
It's just there's.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
Tension for no reason.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There shouldn't be an attention. There's your stupid the tennis tennis.
Speaker 3 (20:32):
So anyways, they start playing. I'm telling Sabella a, Sabella,
you know what to do. I get I start getting
frustrated because Sabella is just not playing her best. The
girl is having a festival, doing the things that I
told Sabella, be mindful that this is what she's gonna do.
The mom being a great mom. Every time the girl
will make a point or Sabella will lose a point,
she will be clapping, come on, good job, good girl.
(20:54):
I'm not gonna say her name. Anyways, and I'm quiet,
and they're speaking in Spanish. At this point, I don't
think they know. They don't know who I am. They
don't recognize me, they don't act like they know who
I am. They don't even know if I speak the language.
So the coach starts talking about Sebbi's play, and I'm going,
oh my god, Jesus lure her cue leather cute. Yes,
just keep calm ras, don't lose your bananas. It's okay anyways,
(21:18):
but I'm edgy because Sabella is losing stupidly. The girl
does her slice, Sabella doesn't get to the freaking ball
or a drop shot. And I say, in Spanish very loud,
I said to her, Jadelodi, he basse total dia.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I told you about this. She's gonna do this all
day long.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
And I said very loud, and I saw the mom
react like, oh kaka, she speaks Spanish. So I've been
listening to all they've been saying, and now they realize
I understand.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I understood everything they said. Anyways, the mom.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
They're all shocked. The coach stops commenting. The mom's still
being very supportive of his girl.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
But I'm not doing anything. So I'm thinking if I'm like.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Come on, Sabella, come on, Sabella, and I see the
parents next to me, next to the point that we
can touch each other, being quiet, I think I will
tone it down.
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Anyways, I know me. I said, let me just leave
this location, and.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
I'm gonna go all the way to this other areas Florida,
I Pantano. So I'm basically next to our lagoon, gondo iguanas,
twiguan as, basically my size, thinking there's gonna be a
crocodile coming out of this lagoon. But because I don't
want to have problems, I'm just gonna sit over here
by myself.
Speaker 2 (22:29):
Continue, well, carry on, you carry on.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
I don't know anyway.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Sabella loses the first set, then she wins the second set.
I am very vocal now because the mom is going well,
good job, so I get very vocal, and every time
Sebela know when the girl is on my side.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Of the court started coming here, jump, you're taking to
the big trauma of because I want to have a
second set. Sabbi comes back the girl and I'm going
and the girl tells Raz to shut the f up.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
The little girl thirteen years old from fourteen years old.
Speaker 1 (23:04):
Little girl. She was doing the same thing that her
parents were doing. But the problem is Sabella is now
coming back, and because Roz is cheering on her daughter,
the girl turns to Roses and says, shut the f
up now very loud. Everybody heard it, which is a
huge player violation. So what upsets me? And I said
to Roz and text she told me this girl did this.
(23:24):
I said, go to the front desk, stop everything right now,
and you tell them what this girl did. I'm not
going to remember doing it, saying the text. It's in
the text. She said, I don't want to make a scene. Well, unfortunately,
Sabella lost the match. Who cares about a single match break?
She almost who cares? She lost? But what sucks is
the way that this went down, the way this girl
was allowed to do that, and that at a national
(23:46):
level should be an immediate reprimand the girl should lose
a game, lose points at a minimum, or even disqualified
or some parents said she could have been disqualified the promise.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
I didn't report it.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
I didn't report the incident to the managers of the
directors of the thing immediately because Sabella and it's funny
because the.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Referee how you call them, the.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
Umpire made the girl apologize.
Speaker 3 (24:06):
At the party, said to me, ma'am, you have to move,
and I said, my understanding is that I have to
be ten feet away from the court and more than
twenty feet away from the moving Then Isabella said, mom,
please move over there almost in tears, and I moved
and because I didn't want to jeopardize Isabella, because I
know they're going to go into a tiebreak. Sabella has
a chance to beat this girl. I don't want to
(24:27):
cause a problem, so I just change locations.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
I should have would would have done as parents, because
that was a long way of getting to that.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
They would have context. What would you guys tell sorry
that it was boring? I guess no, it wasn't boring.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
What would you people do as parents? Is she right
or wrong? What do you think who was right or wrong? No? Like,
what what's the therapy? What's the question of the therapy session?
Speaker 2 (24:51):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Would you have handled it my way?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
I don't know. I don't know what your way?
Speaker 3 (24:55):
Would have been lost ur bananas and cause a problem.
I'm probably true out the mom that's out.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
I would have yes, I would have asked the situation
correct course.
Speaker 3 (25:03):
So I didn't escalate the situation because I don't want
Sabella or the girl to be I mean, the girl
should have been disqualified. But my concern was I don't
want to stop this match and cause Sabella a problem
because they're going to say, well, she's screaming, and I'm
going to say, well, they're screaming, so it's going to
become like he said, she said, So my reaction was like,
let her finish the thing. I thought she was going
to pull it off. But to this day, but it
(25:24):
bothers you every it bothers me because it things about it,
because I don't understand how a thirteen fourteen year old
girl will have the nerve to disrespect an adult the
way she did. If Sabella would have done that to
girl girl, I would be this qualifying you go and
apologize and don't you ever talk to an adult that way?
Speaker 1 (25:43):
One hundred million?
Speaker 3 (25:45):
And I also bother me that the parents they didn't
have the nerve to come over saying we're so sorry.
You know what.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
You know girls, you know they're very nervous.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
We apologize on her behalf and I would have been,
you know, and I apologize because I guess I was screaming,
but you were screaming, so it became it became a
piasing contest and I'm sorry, congratulations So your girls she beats.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
The parents just scooted off right, Yeah, they were uncomfortable.
Whatever it bothers me, is I mean you're one hundred.
I'm fully in agreement about that part a million. If
Sabella would have done that out pull, I would have
embarrassed the heck out of Sabella. Sabella, you're out of
this match. You lose, You forfeit. This girl wins. I
would have made it a point to embarrass my daughter,
(26:25):
because it's not about winning or losing a dumb fourteen
year old tennis tournament or a game or a match.
It is about teaching your kids principles and values in
life and respect for adults so that when they grow
older they understand that it was disgusting.
Speaker 3 (26:41):
It was so disgusting. The girl at the end came
over to me and I by choice, no, by choice.
They told her, you have to apologize at the moment,
and she told the Empire, well, can I do it
at the end of the match, still being defiant, and
when it happened, God bless Sabella.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
Oh did it during the match? She apologized you.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
No, no, no, no, after the match, but the Empire
for the tie break, you need to go to apologize,
and she said, well, kind of do it after the match,
and the Empire said, well, I guess so, which I don't.
Speaker 1 (27:08):
Like, which again goes to the point I'm making about
this Usta Tennis and the way they managed stuff. If
you're at a level one tournament, these umpires should know
what the hell they're doing.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
The girl comes to me at the end, the boys crying.
I'm hugging her.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
I'm going it's okay, mammy, I'm so proud of you.
Blah blah blah. The girl comes up. He says, ma'am,
I'm sorry for what I did. I'm so sorry. And
I looked at her and I said, you know what,
I appreciate that, thank you so much. Now I'm going
to tell you something that was very disrespectful. And she's like,
I know, ma'am, and she left and I was like, okay,
maybe she doesn't want to.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
She doesn't want me finding a report, which I will.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
But then Zabella said to me, well, she did that
because they told her she needed to, and she was
told to do it at the moment, and she said
I'm going to do it after the match.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
So it was even.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
See and this is where if I would have heard
all that, I would have stopped the match. I would
have talked to the umpire and said, can you come
here please?
Speaker 3 (28:01):
No, when the Empire went to the other mom to
ask about for the assessment and they didn't come to
me asking me what happened they didn't.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Oh, no, that umpire screwed up multiple anyways, I don't
know where the couple's therapy question isn't all this but
sports parents or non? What would you do? Last couple's
therapy question? To wrap up this episode because we are
running out of time here, we were going to talk
about trips, traveling, packing overpacking in our situation and are
(28:31):
always when we travel. Roseland's the overpacker, right, I mean,
you can't even probably argue that you think do you
think you pack what's needed? Or do you think you
always overpacka needed? Do you think you use everything that
you pack.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
For the most part? Correct?
Speaker 1 (28:46):
Do you think you could ever reduce how much you pack? No?
Speaker 3 (28:49):
Because I don't repeat close you do. But if you're
I have an outfit for absolutely everything, but.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
If you're staying at a place where you have washer and.
Speaker 2 (28:57):
Dryer, Yeah, I do it for panties and brass. But
why I think like that?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
I don't. I don't. I watch everything while I want
I use it, but not thinking that I'm going to
use it again.
Speaker 1 (29:05):
But if you're not going to like events or something,
just reuse. Change up the top with the pants.
Speaker 2 (29:10):
It's just what. It's just who I am, is what
I do.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
So she always does that. But I'm sure women in
general a lot of times and men too, can overpack
with a lot of stuff, like too many shoes, too
many sneakers, too many of this, that whatever.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
Then what happens with her because like, oh my god,
I think I owned her packed. I don't have enough.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
I didn't bring it up.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
I didn't bring enough shoes, I didn't bring enough clothes.
I'm going I told you, she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
There's many times where I've like been scramping like it happened.
And when we were in Dominican Republic, I was like,
dang it, I didn't bring a belt. Dang it, I
didn't bring that. I was like to buy something. So
she's not wrong. I tend to and he.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
Uses the same swimsuit every single day. I don't understand
it rotated from like maybe fifteen years ago. No, fifteen
years ago at least, so said I when for his
birthday said I want to get him like at least
two pairs of swimsuits because we got to go to
Puerto Rico and they didn't have anything because they have
the short ones and you're like the ones on a longer,
so I could short was becoming more popular.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Yeah. So anyways, she tends, like I said, to overpack,
to the point when she went to do her movie
and Budapezant granted she was there for six weeks. I
think it was she took five pieces of luggage, five
at an airbnb with a washer and driver, and I
was like, you're gonna be for six weeks because you're
on set most of the time, like in wardrobe for
(30:21):
the movie, so you're not even having to change clothes.
And but then it got to the point where we
went to Paris afterwards on vacation and she went shopping
and buy too much stuff that she had to buy
another piece of luggage to bring stuff home.
Speaker 2 (30:33):
It was awesome, that's normal.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
It's more of my luggage.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
That's normal for women.
Speaker 1 (30:36):
Women to that.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
You agree that when you go to.
Speaker 3 (30:39):
A place for like a month and a half and
then you go to a five year this vacation, you
want to make sure that you have everything you need.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
All right. I don't know what are your thoughts underpacking? Overpacking?
Better to be safe than sorry overpacking. I try to
underpack okay, because we get stuck. Let us know what
you think. Send us in your uh couples therapy questions,
couples that no, right?
Speaker 2 (31:04):
That was perfect?
Speaker 1 (31:05):
Oh? Perfect? Set us in your thoughts and we will
address them on future episodes. We appreciate you guys for listening.
Thank you, and you thanks for listening. Don't forget to
write us a review and tell us what you think.
Speaker 3 (31:17):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
out at he said. Ajo Orson is an email Eric
and Ross at iHeartRadio dot com.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
He said.
Speaker 3 (31:25):
AJAB is part of iHeartRadio's Mike WULTUTAP podcast network.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
See you next time.
Speaker 5 (31:30):
Bye,
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Season Two Out Now! Law & Order: Criminal Justice System tells the real stories behind the landmark cases that have shaped how the most dangerous and influential criminals in America are prosecuted. In its second season, the series tackles the threat of terrorism in the United States. From the rise of extremist political groups in the 60s to domestic lone wolves in the modern day, we explore how organizations like the FBI and Joint Terrorism Take Force have evolved to fight back against a multitude of terrorist threats.