August 4, 2020 • 39 mins
Eric and Roselyn return
What we missed...
Eric’s major surgery and loss of his voice.
The ups and downs of their marriage during it all.
Does 2020 suck or is there a silver lining?
Eric and Roselyn give us every detail about it all!!
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Rosie, I'm home reality right, I'm home. Okay, This is
he said Ajo with Eric Winter and Rosalind Fantev. Are
(00:27):
we ready for this? You see our kids drum. This
is the new setup for a comeback the podcast on Instagram.
All right, so we're back. Yes, guys, were messed you.
It's been almost three months Eric since this whole insanity,
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well not insanity began, what's five months ago? But then
we stopped doing the podcast, like almost three months ago
because this one over here let me show him had
um multiple surgeries and then what happened to you? Well,
first of all, it's gonna sound like I'm hitting puberty
during this whole podcast, So I apologize. This is my
voice at probably back, which isn't bad. I mean, I'm
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feeling a lot better than I was two months ago.
I was pretty nervous. Eric had low back surgery. Next
surgery to take out titanium discs and put back new discs.
And then let's explain what happened. So, but I had
discs put in my neck twelve years ago that were
like under an experimental study, So those discs weren't FDA proved.
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Those discs ultimately started failing, and because they were failing,
I needed to get those discs out and put in
the new FDA proved discs, and then the chances for
the surgery to have a little bit of a hiccup,
meaning they might graze your vocal courts or they might
inflame your vocal courts. It's like point zero zero zero
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zero one percent. It doesn't happen, And of course it
happens to air Rick Winter Macomber. I did what I
did a revision, so there's there was more risk for
this to happen. The bottom line is, yeah, my the
laryngeal nerve that controls the right got inflamed and aggravated
from the surgery. So my right vocal cord. So because
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it was paralyzed, I sounded like Rod Stewart meets Darth Vader.
Now you sounded like like nobody you. You couldn't speak.
And then he took it so seriously and he was
so pet I didn't talk for five, no, almost a
week at one point, right, I didn't say one word
for five more than that. No, Eric, it was supposed
to be one week, and then you milked it and
milked it, and it was like like two weeks. Yeah,
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you ask your voice, you'd have a I don't even
know how you how you'd comprehend, have no idea either,
but you didn't talk for a while. So imagine the
middle of a pandemic. We are all inside the house
and we have to talk about COVID later, but we
all inside the house and I'm with the kids and
my husband. It's not speaking and had power back surgery
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and his leg is acting up, and then next surgery
and he lost his voice, and we're communicating via text
and writing, and I mean it was text every single
conversation to her and to Sabella, and poor Dylan had
to learn sign language. Essentially. Dyna was so confused because
Dyna is used to Daddy reading him to him at
night and singing to him, and he that he used
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to want a half years old, so he didn't comprehend
that Daddy was not speaking to him. You damage that kid, now,
I damaged him? Are you kidding me? Now? Listen? It
was it was crazy, guys. And then he started and
then I started vocal therapy. I gotta get a shout
out to Noel, my my speech therapist, who's helped me
tremendously get back to this point. Noel help, Noah help,
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Your voice didn't help the marriage. Noel gave my husband
twice a week now, for twice a day. He gets
up in the morning, he has breakfast and then he
goes to his little private place. Nobody can talk to
him because he needs to coalized and work. And Riley
so because you know what, his voice is his livelihood.
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He's an actor. He needs his voice. So the whole
thing was, I'm petrified. I'm never gonna work again. I'm
not gonna be able to do the Rookie My show.
I lost my voice, and everybody's like, Eric, You're going
to be fine. But you know, when you're inside that
headspace and everything is very sensitive as a cancer, and
it takes everything more compassionate. Right now, on the podcast,
I was not I was really annoyed, and I had
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to do a lot of self self work and self
instruction instruct I don't even know how this introspection introspection
about why am I so annoyed that my husband lost
his voice? And I think it was a combination of
of of everything. You know, the world is falling apart,
this country is falling apart. I can't stand the president.
We have COVID, were petrified that we that we don't
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want to get it. The kids need to be healthy.
And then my husband doesn't speak and it wasn't It
was severely annoying. But anyway, so let me give you
I should call Dylan and said Bella to do a
re enactment of Eric's life in the morning. At a night,
everybody has to leave the room because everybody's vocalizing. He
gets into this very zin mode. His arms go to
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a very specific position and he goes. I don't think
he I mean, it is, guys, the most annoying thing.
But you know what, his voice is back. Thank you,
no Il, you made a work. He's much happier. Therefore
everybody's happier. I'm glad you're at least fest up that
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you were no patience for my lack of voice for you, No,
there was. I have a conversation of like, can't you
just have some compassion here at some point I don't
have that chip. That chip is missing in compression for dogs.
That's about it. So aside from that, we um, well,
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that was just one step in the process because right
after dealing with that blow to our minds, and our bodies.
We as a family is hit with COVID. We didn't say,
you know, this is the first time that we say
this openly. Guys. We didn't want to release it. Oh
my god, we got COVID. We didn't want to do
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any of that because it was such an intense and
private moment of the station within the house, because we
don't understand how we did everything everything right. We thought,
you know, with the sanitizing absolutely everything in maniacs, sanitizing
the house and the mask and a loves and going
out very minimally just to the vet because of my dog,
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or to the supermarket. We I mean, it were we
were so petrified and we did everything and people that
know me and know us, you know, we're pretty How
could you like pretty a now and clean? And you know,
and we get COVID. Eric gets it, well, it was
it was Bizarres. We don't know. Again, we don't know
the first person that showed any signs. We think it
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was it was our nanny and our kids. The kids
it was the little fever and then Saidbella the fever
and ar nanny and nanny was feeling uncomfortable, but she
had no fever. So we thought she just had allergies.
So the kids had a fever twenty four hours forty max.
We went away on a little beach vacation for three
days and then it was freezing cold. It's like we
went to the beach and it was the most bizarre
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thing because we are I mean in sweat sweatpants I have,
I'm covered myself, and I'm freezing. The kids were around
anybody around nobody. The beach was completely empty. It was
a great family time bonding. It was beautiful. But the
kids like like Diyler will go back to the to
the to the beach house with the lips blue like
like like freezing. So we thought the kids just kind
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of cold. Thought and then the nanny test test positive.
And by the way, our nanny had symptoms of like
having allergies, so it didn't seem like it was anything outrageous.
The kids had like symptoms of a cold, so we
have a fever. They were complete denial, thinking there's no
way it's COVID. There's no way we have We've been
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so careful. It's like we're so so you know, so
my nanny test is positive for COVID. By then I
have a fever. I'm in bed, I'm miserable. I'm still thinking,
know I have a cold thing. You were more like
you were more like a flu. You were more like
she was hit like she had a solid flu like
body eggs and fever and headache, And Sino says, I'm going,
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oh my god, this freaking beach trip got a sake.
Then my hot mind. Then she gets tested and Rosalind does.
In fact, after the after Nanny has confirmed positive, Rosalind
does also confirmed positive. Then I decide I should probably
get tested in my mom because she's been with us
at the beach and the kids, and I start feeling
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a little bit weird that night, like a little bit
of body aches. No fever, but a little bit of
body aches for one day. Sure enough, I test positive.
My mom test positives positive. The kids test negative, which
is bizarre. We assume that it just if they had it,
it came and went, like the doctors saying, wait, we
have tested them three times and they're always negative. We
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don't understand how they can be instet a household that
everybody's infected and they are negative. So you know why
we have these angels? And God is so good because
Our main concern was if the kids get it, I'm
gonna freak it. This is not crazy, this thing is
I'm positive I have symptoms. For maybe twenty four hours.
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I did get this weird sinus thing and a slight
reduction of taste, but that was about it. My mom
completely asymptomatic, and she was the most high risk. We
were freaking out. She had never one symptom the entire time.
Roslyn gets hit with like the flu and completely wipes
out like crashes and burns. I'm burned. I'm dying in
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bed for a week. I when they tell you, guys,
and I'm sure people that has had it know this.
There's no sense of smell or taste is no joke.
It took me. You're just getting back now. Yeah. But
when I say you don't taste or smell anything, you
don't taste or smell anything. And the body eggs are crazy.
There's this burning sensation that your nose kids really bad sinuses.
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It is very uncomfortable. So please, please, please, um be
be be compassionate to other people and and be mindful
and be respectful and protect yourself and protect all these
It's no joke. At the end, of the day. We're
super lucky. Everybody is negative. We're all good. Now, we're clean.
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Can we talk about how well? But there are people
out there which I agree, look at the bright side
of the things you've gained. We've had more family time
than I've ever experienced. Period. You are cooking out of
control right now. Roslin's cooking so much, and she does
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hate it, and we argue about what we're gonna make.
Here's the thing about Rosalind. She wants to cook. She
sends me to the grocery store to buy five thousand ingredients.
I bring all the ingredients home. She's only into this
whole thing. I'm gonna make this. I found this recipe,
that recipe. I buy everything. Then she starts and goes like, oh, well,
I don't want to do it. Uh. And every morning
I go Rose, we need to take out what you
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want to make for the night? Guys. Correction, this guy
is so obsessed with food. I'm not kidding you. So
we got up six thirty seven in the morning, we
make breakfast for the kids. We're eating breakfast. He's already
asking me, so what are we having for lunch? Um?
What are we having for dinner? I'm going Eric, could
you got out to prep it? We just got up.
Can I just enjoy my freaking breakfast without you thinking
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about what am I cooking for dinner? I don't want
to cook, Okay, I don't want to think that. Here's her,
here's her four thirty. We usually dinner at five. Oh,
oh my god. Well I think I'll probably make the opposite.
The fish is frozen. Oh, I don't know I'm gonna
do this. Then we just put the mushrooms out and
at the end I make it work and they have
a lovely make it work, and the bomb went off.
Are you joking? It always looks a bomb went off.
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And then we got to clean. It's like it stuff everywhere. Everything,
No say anyways, topic yes has sucked in some ways. Beauty,
the family time, it has been incredible. It's been incredible.
And for us, you know, because this is he said,
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is about marriage and and like comp marimonial lonely dad,
like Linten did. So we had a great The beginning
of the quarantine was amazing. We're getting along. We were
doing jacuzzi nights and we were having the blast. Then
surgery started hitting. Eric started falling apart, and then my
compassionate level was not great, and I was actually recovering
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great from the surgeries. It's just her compassionship short circuited
and there was none no because I was taking care
of Listen, I'm taking care of dogs that are sick.
I'm taking care of then I'm cleaning the doing everything
to a lot of stuff with with an attitude and
a mood because your compassion. Ladies, this happened, This happened
to you that when your husband is like like moody
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and like like being an a whole, then your reaction
is instead of being like, honey, let's just talk like
what's going on, it's very difficult for me to do that.
So what I do is that what he's been an,
I'm going to be a b I T SKI And
that's that's a cycle that is very It's not great
because I see him, when I see his energy off,
my energy gets three times more off. And then that's
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how about guys when you try to be sweet and
kind and use these great words and then they don't
react or change at all. What do you mean you
don't do anything different? Do you do anything different? Yeah?
And sometimes I try to be sweet and I try
to be kind. Now what Oh my god. So we
started out super strong and quarantine, then hit some solid
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aggravation patches for a month or so, a month or two,
we got sick. Then we got sick, so everybody was aggravated,
and then even the kids are aggravated. And then now
we're doing good and now we're back too good. I know, right,
we have thank thank God that we have this, this
blessing that we just go through that and then somehow
we get out of it seamlessly. Like we don't even
know how we get out of it, right, because we're
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not even go into therapy because we're not doing that now,
we just what is the meditation? Eric got um this
recording from a colleague from work, this actress Alisa, that
she's great, and Alisa has become very much into and
is a great musician, and they're doing this. Um is
it like the sound ball? It's a soundball, and it's
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about frequencies and energy and sound and and I actually
believe in the philosophy. I think it's it's it's beautiful.
I tried it. I tried, I tried, I tried it,
and I didn't last because my mind is all over
the place, and I'm going through a lot of going
through a lot of that that doesn't allow me to
just um breathe basically. But Eric has been doing it.
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That's another thing. Besides, he every single night and every morning,
every night he takes thirty minutes for himself with headphones.
Nobody can talk to him because he's listening to soundballs
and frequencies, and he's actually helping you a lot. You know.
I look at you, my joys clenching, I'm freaking stressing out.
I want to hit something. And then I look to
the side and Eric, like Eric is like completely eyes closed, headphones,
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basically snoring while he's listening to this thing. And I'm going, well, what,
I'm trying meditation for the first time. Your wife is
here having Muller's breaking molars and I'm about to have
a root canal. He's like, that's nothing. While we're going
through COVID and she gets out of it, she's like
eating something. Crack Mueller just breaks in half and she's like,
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start meditating. Meditating is good. It's been It's actually been
really great for me. I've never been one to meditate.
I've never been one to try this. It's just hard
to clear your mind at first. But it's thirty minutes
of listening to this music and it's it's been very,
very helpful. I'm impressed, and I need to start meditating.
I do praying. That's my form of form of meditation. Anyways,
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let's take a break and when we come back, we're
going to talk about my surgery. Now it's my turn,
my turn. Okay, so we are back now. You guys
know that it's been glorious and it's been shaty, and
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it's been positive and it's been negative. And I'm sure
every family is going through the same thing we're going through,
because yeah, because we're like any other family. Right now,
you know about eric surgeries and lost lost of voice.
The voices back not as you can. You can tell
that he sounds a little bit. I thought I was
doing pretty good, chattered my dream. No, No, you're actually
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doing good. I love your voice. Your voice is beautiful
before and after anyway, So no, it is as my mom.
My mom loves your voice anyways, she loves your voice. Anyways.
So now I'm about to go to work. I have
to go to Canada to work, so I'm gonna have
to postpone this surgery that I was going to have.
And this is a very personal thing, guys. You know how,
by the way, back up before you talk about that,
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she has to go to Canada for work and has
to stay in a quarantine for two weeks by herself,
can't leave the hotel room. If you do, you get
fined like five dollars or something crazy, more than even
know a lot of money. I just made a beauge
jump in cash. But you can find a ton of
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money if you leave your room. And she has to
go for two weeks before she can even start the project,
do you realize what my life is about to become?
While she's resting and sleeping, She's gonna be crying and
having mental breakdowns in a room by herself, and I'll
be running at taking care of my household. That's what happens.
I'm going, oh my god, I'm gonna be able to sleep,
to be able to learn how to meditate properly, I'm
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gonna work out, but it's all inside this room. And
I'm gonna miss my family like I'm already having anxiety,
like gonna miss the kid. You're not gonna miss me.
I'm gonna miss the kids. Yeah, I will miss you
after a week. The first week I'm gonna be like,
you're freed up. No, of course I'm gonna miss you.
So I'm freaking out, Guys, I don't I can't even
think about this trip because I get planic attacks. Anyways,
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I'm flying to Toronto for five hours with a mask.
You guys know my clusterphobia issues. I don't know what
I'm gonna do, but anyways, I can't think about it.
I was gonna do a surgery, which I'm gonna do. Guys.
I have a condition called endometrios I think we have.
So I'm finally going to do something called excision surgery
and you have no idea. Basically, instead of like a
normal blaparoscope, um, what's the name of the one that
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I've done twice, Basically, they laser they burn it out. No,
but it has a name, um oblation, ablation or something
like that. So they they they they burn it right,
but they don't remove the root excition. I'm going to
remove it from the root and I have it all
over me. I have it. I have additions, adhesionsitions. How
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do you say that adhesion adhesions. I've never said that
in my life, that they go to hilo po abart
uh nicolon. I mean, I mean, I mean vehiga like
my bladder and my call on my uterus, my tools. Yeah,
they all have this what's the word adhesions called endo
endometrium tissue. I guess, um, and I have to remove it.
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It's a it's a massive surgery. I'm even considering removing
my uterus because I already had two kids, so I
don't want to have any more freaking periods because I
hate menstruation. It's not that simple. So I'm talking to
the surgeon of the doctor about, um, should I just
remove the endo and and and leave my uterus? But
if you go in and you see something funking my uterus,
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just remove it. I don't care. I don't want to believe.
I don't want to have anything inside of me anyways.
So what happens as part of the protocol to be
able to accomplish this surgery, I have to do a
massive change of nutrition. I'm taking all these supplements. I
am doing pelvic floor therapy, which I didn't know about
this before, but basically it's a physical therapist that is
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UM trained to do pelvic work with women, and they
basically um put their fingers inside of you and they
release tension all over your muscles and all that. And
my husband always thinks of somebody's finger. How you said
therapists a letty therapists Heather Um Fusion wellness. I recommend her.
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She's incredible and she makes it painless and seamless, and
she's teaching me a lot. I have to use these
devices that look like a masturbating but actually know it's
like a crystal thing and you put it into release. No,
it's like it doesn't look like a dealer. It's like
a like a weird shape. So you put it in.
What I'm going through, guys in between surgeries for Eric
losing a voice, COVID quarantine. She president, what I'm going
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through is so insane to prep for the surgery, and
then I'm doing pain pain management and they give me
something called Lyrica. Do you know can you explain with Lyrica?
I don't know a whole lot other than I guess
it shuts down the nervous system a bit to reset it.
But now she's looping and drugged. No, I'm no, I wish.
I wish. I'm basically taking this these pills at night
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to be able to to to make me to help
me sleep deep, and to work on my nerves while
I'm sleeping. I guess I don't even know it's it's
it's pain management. So I'm doing this whole protocol. And
I was so excited guys when I when I learned
that I was taking something that I was going to
help me sleep. Then what happens to me with a
freaking learr Not that I'm wie awake my dreams again.
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I cannot alter anything lucid dreams. Here's the thing. We're
falling apart. This has become a podcast about how we
are aging and falling the hell apart during quarantine. I
think it's too much time in quarantine that's causing us
to go crazy. I need to go back to Yeah, yeah,
I need to go back to work. I can't. But anyways,
so that's what's happening now. She's meditating and she slept
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well last night last night. Yeah, because I have a coach. Now,
I have a coach that I talked to once a
week that helps me through the process of this whole
protocol that I have to do before this surgery, because
this surgery is life changing. I've lived in pain for
since I got my period for the first time in
my lab at eleven. I've been in paining my whole life.
I just I'm a function and functioning pain person. So
when nobody knows that I'm in pain while I'm talking
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to you, and that I'm cramping all the time, and
my p MS is terrible because I am very positive
and I am ambitious and I am as pit fire.
So I just go through life acting like I don't
have pain, but I have pain anyways. So it's a
big protocol. And I have a coach and she said
to me Ross at night, when you take your lyric,
I give yourself thirty minutes. Then turn everything off. No
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social media, no work, no TV, no nothing, meditate. For
years I've been telling her, turn your iPad off, no
social media, stop looking at Instagram, to fall asleep, and
when you do your the lights of the iPad are
keeping you awake. And she doesn't ever listen to me,
has never listened to me. Now, a coach told her,
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and she did it right away. It's very different your
husband telling you something or a coach that is highly
trained and educated in different matters. When the coach tells you,
then it makes more sense. And your husband tells you
is just annoying. I don't think so. I've been telling
you could have solved this problem years ago. You just
refused to listen to me. You have, all right, you have,
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so thank you for helping me Eric at that time,
even though I didn't listen on that note. Let's take
a break, so now we're back, guys, thank you so
much for listening and for allowing our venting to be
part of your day. Oh I feel so good. This
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was like a therapy session, Eric Winter right, it was great.
I'm sorry for the listeners, but it was great. It
was all right. Well, thank you for sticking with us
um through this, you know, hiatus this little short break
and we're gonna answer some listener emails and questions. First
one is from at Redondo Puppy two. Questions Number one,
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how have you guys handled the shopping food situation during quarantine?
Who does the food shopping and how often? And do
you guys order out? So it's been it's been, you know, um, Eric,
Well he's done more. More of the food shopping than me.
Um at least once a week. You know what it's
Let me let me talk about this. We are a
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family of four, right, we have two kids and then
mom and dad. I don't think I will never comprehend
how we go through food so fast, Like he goes
to Whole Foods and it's like a five and fifty dollars.
Yes we have you're joking, I've done it, and we
buy like, okay, we have food for three weeks. We're
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gonna be fine. We come home, of course, we we
leave everything is outside. We on pacatside, sanitize everything, we
call we put it all inside, and within a week
we're like, oh, we don't to go back to the supermarket.
Oh my god. Possible because we buy all the filler
foods like excuse me, vegetables, the fruits, the snacks that
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go in the pantry. But you don't buy foods for meals.
You buy like one salmon, one salmon's one meal. Then
you run out of stuff. You don't understand. That's why
I end up being the shopping because I'm a little
bit more comprehensive when I shop, and I take my
time and I go through and then you get no snacks.
She comes back, and our pants full of junk. I
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come back, and we have food that lasts at least
a weekend, guys meaning junk like um junk, gluted free,
a cardboard crucker. Can somebody please? I wish I had somebody?
Just she she thinks, just because it's a marshmallow cereal
from Whole Foods, it's a healthy cereal. It's still a
marshmallow cereal, which is fine. It just has cane sugar,
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not corn syrup, so it's better for you, but still
not great food. Well, we have kids and experienced kids kids.
I'm fine with marshmallow stuff and I'm fine with that.
But if you're gonna go buy rice crispies, she goes, Oh,
but it's a healthy rice krispy. I'm like, no, it's not.
It's the same thing as anyway. It's ron rise. It's
no sugar, it's no sugar, no such things whatever, it's
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no such thing. It has sugar on the poppy. I
think we I think we answered your question strated around
her question. So he goes sometimes and I go sometimes
with the glove with the mask, doing the line, being annoyed,
sending pictures of him about the lines about I can't
believe I'm doing this and they look at this long line.
We should have used this girl that will do it
for us, but he doesn't want to pay the fifty
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dollars for the girl to go to this show. And
then she gets no, we used the girl when we
were in quarantine to do it for us, and then
ross like this is ridiculous. She keeps texting me asking
me what I want because they don't have what I
what I'm asking for, and like, that's why you don't know.
She was great? What are you talking about? No, she
was awesome because she dealt with you going back and
forth with every change. But you complained about the process.
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Now I didn't know. I didn't love that anyways. So
and we're going all the times. Do we still go
to the grocery store a lot, at least every week
every other week, And it's bad because we're supposed to
be inside the house and we order and we order
out way too much. Even after going to the grocery
store for all this stuff, we order out way too much.
This is what's crazy. We order out on the present,
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like leaves it in front and then we grab it
and then we sang it az a bag and then
we get everything out and then we sanitized every box
and then like it's almost like we sanding ties in
the food. It's disgusting. Oh my god, why is life
this battle? What happened through? What happened to the world?
Because parent, so we're so paranoid. It's like we're sanitizing,
like like my my, my nanny ll go bless her um.
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She brought some avocados and she was washing the avocados
with soap inside inside the sink, washing the avocado with
soap and water. It's in Saturday, anyway. Second question has
been home and around each other with this force slowdown
with your jobs led to more sex and falling around
are less depends on which month of quarantine you asked.
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The beginning of quarantine fantastic, second half of quarantine nightmare,
third part of quarantine picking up. But then Rosin's leaving town,
so she's super happy because she gets to go on vacation. Yes, yeah, right,
I'm gonna be working like crazy, I'm gonna be miserable, guys,
but I'm gonna be working on making money, which makes
me happy. So ups and downs, But let's say we're
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at because we had a good couple of months of
surgeries and COVID issues. We had supernatural circumstances that, you
know what, forced the sex life to take a little pause,
which is okay, No, it's not okay. Christina, What are
your thoughts on body hair? Do you prefer all natural
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some grooming? What are your preferences for yourself and for
each other? I'm very curious on your answers. What hair
well have you er? You actually prefer? Well, what you're
talking about left a beer? Like if you follow me
on social media or here social media, you see that
Eric has decided to become a bomb bum. Wow everyone
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with beards. She just called you a bum. That is
so not true. No, I didn't say that. I mean
it's just for you because you're such a metro sexual.
Oh my god, I'm so pretty, so pretty, meto sexual
kind of beards, metro sexual. Let me put my creams on.
Oh my god, I'm so hot. I'm so hot. I'm
so pretty. Because you're that kind of person. It is
interesting that you said, you know what, I'm just gonna
let go and and leave facial hair all over my face.
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That actually looked phenomenal. People loved it. I stopped shaving
since the day I wrapped production on the Rookie, and
I didn't shave four four months. I think it was
so I had a crazy chrizzly Adam's beard. It was
like big and shaggy, and it was bushy. It was
like big. I kept trimming it to try and make
it look nicer. Yeah, he good, he has he can
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get away. Would you say it took a ship on?
What you said? My host tell you, like, you can
put a piece of crap in on top of your
head and you still look good because you have that face.
You're genetically bland. So then I got bored while having
my beard and decided to try and trim the sides
of my hair and shaved these like wild thing from
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Major League Charlie sheen own. I need to need to document.
I shaved the sides of my head into like a
weird mr T. I don't know the hell I did,
but I screwed the side of my head. Hair grew out,
grew out the length on top, and then now, well
my hair is long. She's videoing this. Eric is talking
about his that he did as as a mistake, but no,
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but move anyway. So now I'm fully I've trimmed up
the beard and now I have a crazy So I
went from vikings. Now I've got a goatee that's kind
of like Sons of Anarchy, super long, bushy goatee hot.
And then I think my western mustache is coming next.
And then he decided to to how his beer. We
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did you posted that when we went on the beach.
Thing I got, I've never I've never used like a
just from men. I've never done that in my life.
The only grays I have are in my beard. And
I was like, you know what, I'm just not gonna
say anything to her, and I'm gonna try and use
this just for men on my beard and just see
what up and see what it looks like, just for
for kicks work in and he is dying. He's beard
like Jet Black liked. I got it was very it
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was comical. It didn't go with a gew collar. It
was a joke. I'm going, what are you doing with
this midlife crisis that you're away leaving a beard? And
I had a line in my side burn from the die.
So I had grays that went to straight brown with
like a super clean line. It was so bad. I was,
I you're going through a midlife crisis, Like, what's going on?
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You just turned forty four? Are you happy? Because you
know you can as our friend Danny has a Lamborghini. Lamborghini, Lamborghini, Lamborghini.
When you rub it and Matt give you wishes, Lamborghini.
Oh I'm sorry, So that you know what he tells you,
you can use it at any time. So if you're
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going through a midlife crisis, go go to the house
and get it. Thank you, thank you. So we'll see
how So anyways, out to your question, we keep side
getting very sidetracked. Um, I have been pretty grisly as
far as the facial hair goes. I think both of
us prefer some grooming for sure with body. You know,
if I leave like like hair all over my armpits
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or legs, I mean, I would love you, but I
would stack near in the shower every day. This is funny, guys,
This is a funny story. So so I used there
because I used to go waxing like down there, but
that hurts so much, and I did it for many, many,
many many years, and now I'm like, I'm old. And
I'm like, I'm over it, So I'm just gonna use
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the their. You know, the thing that this is a
white thing that you put and then it kind of
kills your follicle for a couple for a bit of
a little bit. It doesn't last as long as waxing
and going at a wax place that that you scream.
So basically I used there and then um. So every
time down there, it's getting like kind of like savage
and like jungle time, which is great. It's nature is
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the way she say, what do you talk? So when
I get it's getting long and he's like starts thinking
about oh I want or whatever whatever. So it's so funny.
So I walk into the into the take. I'll take
what I can get. I don't really care what Eric
places the now how you saying there? He places the
nail with a little white um towel cloth next to it, folded,
and that's he's kee to let me know that he's
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expecting for me to use their so I can have
no hair. It is so funny. And every time I
see I'll go, ah, yes, I'm gonna I do it
very night. You said, there's and that's a lot of competitive.
That's been kind. That's sweetness. What's the freaking there the shower,
that's sweetness. You're too But I think, look, I think
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good grooming is. I think it's important. It shows you care.
You know, it's crazy she will groom. She went to
the freaking pelvic floor massage and groom the ship out
of herself for a pelvic massage with some chick. And
for me, she doesn't groom herself. What the hell is that? Like,
I go to the guy to call legice or something,
I like, I look perfectly true and it's like like
a ba looks like disgusting, right, And Eric is like,
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why are you doing that for Dr Goldberg? And you
can do it for me when I'm not gonna go
to the guy of colleges or Harry because it's different,
it's not Are you out of your mind? I got
to take care anyway. I guess he likes um. He
likes um good grooming down there, grooming. I like legs, groomed, armpits, groomed,
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all that stuff. Yeah, I mean it's it's it's good.
You're pretty good about that stuff. Yeah, I am happ't
seen you walk around to me like you know hairy
legs or anything. No, No, don't do that. I don't
do that anyways. Should we take us a little pause
and come back, Let's do it? Okay, eat themos discon
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having like a bit of a discussion as a family
because you know that UM schools are going to be
closed for a while because of the COVID, and Eric
is much more comfortable sending the kids back to school
UM sooner than could. I don't know if I'm if
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I'm up for that. I don't know if I'm comfortable
sending my kids back to school even I know they're
gonna take there's gonna because it's just I feel like
it's uh pet those those kids. I just feel so
bad for Dylan, in particular, two years old. He can't
be with any of his friends at school we have.
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He's a super shy kid as it is, and he's
missing out on these major socializing milestones things that he
needs to be doing. And I think as long as
all the precautions are being made, you know, it's important
for his growth. Once Sabella goes back, once once we
realize that the big schools are opening, then it's inevitable
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Dylan is gonna have to go back, because what's the
point of keeping one at home if the other one
is already back at school and they're gonna have things
much more ironed out with their situation with the big schools.
They are they are, and I know there's gonna be
precaution sticking, but guys, the numbers are going up. This
pandemic is it's gonna go on and on about that,
(36:26):
out of out of you saying I think it's out
of control. So I think we need to we need
to think about this twice every because you said, let's
do what it's It's gonna be fine until the kid
comes back from schools sick, and then you're gonna be like,
why the heck did I do that? I understand that's life.
At some point, they're gonna have to get back to
some Look at I'm the home school teacher. I'm I'm
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gonna go back to work. You're gonna be working and
we're gonna have to hire. What are we gonna do
a freaking teacher if you're gone working and I'm back
at work. And Sabella's got I mean, she can do
a lot of stuff on her own, but she's still
I know, a lot of parents are already talking about
hiring like a teacher to come to the house. And
I'm gonna have to do that because if I'm working
on your work, and how are we going to accomplish
this thing? I mean, my mom or you know, somebody's
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that to help too. I have no idea. That's another
reason why, And I don't know. I just think the
socializing aspect of school is super important and we're struggling
with this. We can't seem to get on the same page. No,
we can't. We can. When are you gonna go back
to the gym? I don't go to the gym. Gyms
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are closed now, which is a one on one I
have a child to go to them to Maria you
watch her on zoom. I know, but before COVID, I
was I wasn't going to the gym. I was going
to her private gym like at her complex and it
was just me and Maria and Carly m. I don't know.
I can go to a gym, go to like like
a LF fitness or even just kids. We need to have. Well,
now that we've announced that we've had COVID, maybe nobody
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will even come near us. But we called we called
that where the plague like our close friends that we're
planning when when can we When? When can the kids
started having play dates again? I that nobody's going to
come to the house where the healthy. Now we're perfectly
find guys, but I feel like we need social time.
I mean I haven't. We haven't done it anything because
especially with my voice. I did it before at the
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beginning of COVID, I had gathering. I had one gathering
with my everybody in mass apart. We were sitting down
of the party. Everybody had that. It was crazy, it
was comical, but we did it. We were there for
like four hours and we had a blast and we
talked so much. We need that again, guys, we need
that again. But it's crazy. Well we made it. We
got through our first podcast back. Yes, let's see if
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we can keep this rolling. You will just take care
of your voice, continue your vocalization. I'll just run a
mile so I don't have to listen to it. Show
some compassion. Oh my god, get the food out early
for dinner. I know. I hope you guys enjoyed. Enjoyed it.
We enjoyed um talking to you guys when we have
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All right, so we're back. Yes, guys, were messed you.
It's been almost three months Eric since this whole insanity,
(00:48):
well not insanity began, what's five months ago? But then
we stopped doing the podcast, like almost three months ago
because this one over here let me show him had
um multiple surgeries and then what happened to you? Well,
first of all, it's gonna sound like I'm hitting puberty
during this whole podcast, So I apologize. This is my
voice at probably back, which isn't bad. I mean, I'm
(01:11):
feeling a lot better than I was two months ago.
I was pretty nervous. Eric had low back surgery. Next
surgery to take out titanium discs and put back new discs.
And then let's explain what happened. So, but I had
discs put in my neck twelve years ago that were
like under an experimental study, So those discs weren't FDA proved.
(01:35):
Those discs ultimately started failing, and because they were failing,
I needed to get those discs out and put in
the new FDA proved discs, and then the chances for
the surgery to have a little bit of a hiccup,
meaning they might graze your vocal courts or they might
inflame your vocal courts. It's like point zero zero zero
(01:55):
zero one percent. It doesn't happen, And of course it
happens to air Rick Winter Macomber. I did what I
did a revision, so there's there was more risk for
this to happen. The bottom line is, yeah, my the
laryngeal nerve that controls the right got inflamed and aggravated
from the surgery. So my right vocal cord. So because
(02:19):
it was paralyzed, I sounded like Rod Stewart meets Darth Vader.
Now you sounded like like nobody you. You couldn't speak.
And then he took it so seriously and he was
so pet I didn't talk for five, no, almost a
week at one point, right, I didn't say one word
for five more than that. No, Eric, it was supposed
to be one week, and then you milked it and
milked it, and it was like like two weeks. Yeah,
(02:39):
you ask your voice, you'd have a I don't even
know how you how you'd comprehend, have no idea either,
but you didn't talk for a while. So imagine the
middle of a pandemic. We are all inside the house
and we have to talk about COVID later, but we
all inside the house and I'm with the kids and
my husband. It's not speaking and had power back surgery
(03:01):
and his leg is acting up, and then next surgery
and he lost his voice, and we're communicating via text
and writing, and I mean it was text every single
conversation to her and to Sabella, and poor Dylan had
to learn sign language. Essentially. Dyna was so confused because
Dyna is used to Daddy reading him to him at
night and singing to him, and he that he used
(03:22):
to want a half years old, so he didn't comprehend
that Daddy was not speaking to him. You damage that kid, now,
I damaged him? Are you kidding me? Now? Listen? It
was it was crazy, guys. And then he started and
then I started vocal therapy. I gotta get a shout
out to Noel, my my speech therapist, who's helped me
tremendously get back to this point. Noel help, Noah help,
(03:43):
Your voice didn't help the marriage. Noel gave my husband
twice a week now, for twice a day. He gets
up in the morning, he has breakfast and then he
goes to his little private place. Nobody can talk to
him because he needs to coalized and work. And Riley
so because you know what, his voice is his livelihood.
(04:04):
He's an actor. He needs his voice. So the whole
thing was, I'm petrified. I'm never gonna work again. I'm
not gonna be able to do the Rookie My show.
I lost my voice, and everybody's like, Eric, You're going
to be fine. But you know, when you're inside that
headspace and everything is very sensitive as a cancer, and
it takes everything more compassionate. Right now, on the podcast,
I was not I was really annoyed, and I had
(04:26):
to do a lot of self self work and self
instruction instruct I don't even know how this introspection introspection
about why am I so annoyed that my husband lost
his voice? And I think it was a combination of
of of everything. You know, the world is falling apart,
this country is falling apart. I can't stand the president.
We have COVID, were petrified that we that we don't
(04:49):
want to get it. The kids need to be healthy.
And then my husband doesn't speak and it wasn't It
was severely annoying. But anyway, so let me give you
I should call Dylan and said Bella to do a
re enactment of Eric's life in the morning. At a night,
everybody has to leave the room because everybody's vocalizing. He
gets into this very zin mode. His arms go to
(05:09):
a very specific position and he goes. I don't think
he I mean, it is, guys, the most annoying thing.
But you know what, his voice is back. Thank you,
no Il, you made a work. He's much happier. Therefore
everybody's happier. I'm glad you're at least fest up that
(05:29):
you were no patience for my lack of voice for you, No,
there was. I have a conversation of like, can't you
just have some compassion here at some point I don't
have that chip. That chip is missing in compression for dogs.
That's about it. So aside from that, we um, well,
(05:51):
that was just one step in the process because right
after dealing with that blow to our minds, and our bodies.
We as a family is hit with COVID. We didn't say,
you know, this is the first time that we say
this openly. Guys. We didn't want to release it. Oh
my god, we got COVID. We didn't want to do
(06:12):
any of that because it was such an intense and
private moment of the station within the house, because we
don't understand how we did everything everything right. We thought,
you know, with the sanitizing absolutely everything in maniacs, sanitizing
the house and the mask and a loves and going
out very minimally just to the vet because of my dog,
(06:34):
or to the supermarket. We I mean, it were we
were so petrified and we did everything and people that
know me and know us, you know, we're pretty How
could you like pretty a now and clean? And you know,
and we get COVID. Eric gets it, well, it was
it was Bizarres. We don't know. Again, we don't know
the first person that showed any signs. We think it
(06:56):
was it was our nanny and our kids. The kids
it was the little fever and then Saidbella the fever
and ar nanny and nanny was feeling uncomfortable, but she
had no fever. So we thought she just had allergies.
So the kids had a fever twenty four hours forty max.
We went away on a little beach vacation for three
days and then it was freezing cold. It's like we
went to the beach and it was the most bizarre
(07:17):
thing because we are I mean in sweat sweatpants I have,
I'm covered myself, and I'm freezing. The kids were around
anybody around nobody. The beach was completely empty. It was
a great family time bonding. It was beautiful. But the
kids like like Diyler will go back to the to
the to the beach house with the lips blue like
like like freezing. So we thought the kids just kind
(07:38):
of cold. Thought and then the nanny test test positive.
And by the way, our nanny had symptoms of like
having allergies, so it didn't seem like it was anything outrageous.
The kids had like symptoms of a cold, so we
have a fever. They were complete denial, thinking there's no
way it's COVID. There's no way we have We've been
(07:58):
so careful. It's like we're so so you know, so
my nanny test is positive for COVID. By then I
have a fever. I'm in bed, I'm miserable. I'm still thinking,
know I have a cold thing. You were more like
you were more like a flu. You were more like
she was hit like she had a solid flu like
body eggs and fever and headache, And Sino says, I'm going,
(08:19):
oh my god, this freaking beach trip got a sake.
Then my hot mind. Then she gets tested and Rosalind does.
In fact, after the after Nanny has confirmed positive, Rosalind
does also confirmed positive. Then I decide I should probably
get tested in my mom because she's been with us
at the beach and the kids, and I start feeling
(08:40):
a little bit weird that night, like a little bit
of body aches. No fever, but a little bit of
body aches for one day. Sure enough, I test positive.
My mom test positives positive. The kids test negative, which
is bizarre. We assume that it just if they had it,
it came and went, like the doctors saying, wait, we
have tested them three times and they're always negative. We
(09:00):
don't understand how they can be instet a household that
everybody's infected and they are negative. So you know why
we have these angels? And God is so good because
Our main concern was if the kids get it, I'm
gonna freak it. This is not crazy, this thing is
I'm positive I have symptoms. For maybe twenty four hours.
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I did get this weird sinus thing and a slight
reduction of taste, but that was about it. My mom
completely asymptomatic, and she was the most high risk. We
were freaking out. She had never one symptom the entire time.
Roslyn gets hit with like the flu and completely wipes
out like crashes and burns. I'm burned. I'm dying in
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bed for a week. I when they tell you, guys,
and I'm sure people that has had it know this.
There's no sense of smell or taste is no joke.
It took me. You're just getting back now. Yeah. But
when I say you don't taste or smell anything, you
don't taste or smell anything. And the body eggs are crazy.
There's this burning sensation that your nose kids really bad sinuses.
(10:06):
It is very uncomfortable. So please, please, please, um be
be be compassionate to other people and and be mindful
and be respectful and protect yourself and protect all these
It's no joke. At the end, of the day. We're
super lucky. Everybody is negative. We're all good. Now, we're clean.
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Can we talk about how well? But there are people
out there which I agree, look at the bright side
of the things you've gained. We've had more family time
than I've ever experienced. Period. You are cooking out of
control right now. Roslin's cooking so much, and she does
(10:48):
hate it, and we argue about what we're gonna make.
Here's the thing about Rosalind. She wants to cook. She
sends me to the grocery store to buy five thousand ingredients.
I bring all the ingredients home. She's only into this
whole thing. I'm gonna make this. I found this recipe,
that recipe. I buy everything. Then she starts and goes like, oh, well,
I don't want to do it. Uh. And every morning
I go Rose, we need to take out what you
(11:10):
want to make for the night? Guys. Correction, this guy
is so obsessed with food. I'm not kidding you. So
we got up six thirty seven in the morning, we
make breakfast for the kids. We're eating breakfast. He's already
asking me, so what are we having for lunch? Um?
What are we having for dinner? I'm going Eric, could
you got out to prep it? We just got up.
Can I just enjoy my freaking breakfast without you thinking
(11:32):
about what am I cooking for dinner? I don't want
to cook, Okay, I don't want to think that. Here's her,
here's her four thirty. We usually dinner at five. Oh,
oh my god. Well I think I'll probably make the opposite.
The fish is frozen. Oh, I don't know I'm gonna
do this. Then we just put the mushrooms out and
at the end I make it work and they have
a lovely make it work, and the bomb went off.
Are you joking? It always looks a bomb went off.
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And then we got to clean. It's like it stuff everywhere. Everything,
No say anyways, topic yes has sucked in some ways. Beauty,
the family time, it has been incredible. It's been incredible.
And for us, you know, because this is he said,
(12:13):
is about marriage and and like comp marimonial lonely dad,
like Linten did. So we had a great The beginning
of the quarantine was amazing. We're getting along. We were
doing jacuzzi nights and we were having the blast. Then
surgery started hitting. Eric started falling apart, and then my
compassionate level was not great, and I was actually recovering
(12:37):
great from the surgeries. It's just her compassionship short circuited
and there was none no because I was taking care
of Listen, I'm taking care of dogs that are sick.
I'm taking care of then I'm cleaning the doing everything
to a lot of stuff with with an attitude and
a mood because your compassion. Ladies, this happened, This happened
to you that when your husband is like like moody
(12:58):
and like like being an a whole, then your reaction
is instead of being like, honey, let's just talk like
what's going on, it's very difficult for me to do that.
So what I do is that what he's been an,
I'm going to be a b I T SKI And
that's that's a cycle that is very It's not great
because I see him, when I see his energy off,
my energy gets three times more off. And then that's
(13:20):
how about guys when you try to be sweet and
kind and use these great words and then they don't
react or change at all. What do you mean you
don't do anything different? Do you do anything different? Yeah?
And sometimes I try to be sweet and I try
to be kind. Now what Oh my god. So we
started out super strong and quarantine, then hit some solid
(13:42):
aggravation patches for a month or so, a month or two,
we got sick. Then we got sick, so everybody was aggravated,
and then even the kids are aggravated. And then now
we're doing good and now we're back too good. I know, right,
we have thank thank God that we have this, this
blessing that we just go through that and then somehow
we get out of it seamlessly. Like we don't even
know how we get out of it, right, because we're
(14:02):
not even go into therapy because we're not doing that now,
we just what is the meditation? Eric got um this
recording from a colleague from work, this actress Alisa, that
she's great, and Alisa has become very much into and
is a great musician, and they're doing this. Um is
it like the sound ball? It's a soundball, and it's
(14:25):
about frequencies and energy and sound and and I actually
believe in the philosophy. I think it's it's it's beautiful.
I tried it. I tried, I tried, I tried it,
and I didn't last because my mind is all over
the place, and I'm going through a lot of going
through a lot of that that doesn't allow me to
just um breathe basically. But Eric has been doing it.
(14:48):
That's another thing. Besides, he every single night and every morning,
every night he takes thirty minutes for himself with headphones.
Nobody can talk to him because he's listening to soundballs
and frequencies, and he's actually helping you a lot. You know.
I look at you, my joys clenching, I'm freaking stressing out.
I want to hit something. And then I look to
the side and Eric, like Eric is like completely eyes closed, headphones,
(15:12):
basically snoring while he's listening to this thing. And I'm going, well, what,
I'm trying meditation for the first time. Your wife is
here having Muller's breaking molars and I'm about to have
a root canal. He's like, that's nothing. While we're going
through COVID and she gets out of it, she's like
eating something. Crack Mueller just breaks in half and she's like,
(15:35):
start meditating. Meditating is good. It's been It's actually been
really great for me. I've never been one to meditate.
I've never been one to try this. It's just hard
to clear your mind at first. But it's thirty minutes
of listening to this music and it's it's been very,
very helpful. I'm impressed, and I need to start meditating.
I do praying. That's my form of form of meditation. Anyways,
(15:56):
let's take a break and when we come back, we're
going to talk about my surgery. Now it's my turn,
my turn. Okay, so we are back now. You guys
know that it's been glorious and it's been shaty, and
(16:16):
it's been positive and it's been negative. And I'm sure
every family is going through the same thing we're going through,
because yeah, because we're like any other family. Right now,
you know about eric surgeries and lost lost of voice.
The voices back not as you can. You can tell
that he sounds a little bit. I thought I was
doing pretty good, chattered my dream. No, No, you're actually
(16:37):
doing good. I love your voice. Your voice is beautiful
before and after anyway, So no, it is as my mom.
My mom loves your voice anyways, she loves your voice. Anyways.
So now I'm about to go to work. I have
to go to Canada to work, so I'm gonna have
to postpone this surgery that I was going to have.
And this is a very personal thing, guys. You know how,
by the way, back up before you talk about that,
(16:59):
she has to go to Canada for work and has
to stay in a quarantine for two weeks by herself,
can't leave the hotel room. If you do, you get
fined like five dollars or something crazy, more than even
know a lot of money. I just made a beauge
jump in cash. But you can find a ton of
(17:20):
money if you leave your room. And she has to
go for two weeks before she can even start the project,
do you realize what my life is about to become?
While she's resting and sleeping, She's gonna be crying and
having mental breakdowns in a room by herself, and I'll
be running at taking care of my household. That's what happens.
I'm going, oh my god, I'm gonna be able to sleep,
to be able to learn how to meditate properly, I'm
(17:40):
gonna work out, but it's all inside this room. And
I'm gonna miss my family like I'm already having anxiety,
like gonna miss the kid. You're not gonna miss me.
I'm gonna miss the kids. Yeah, I will miss you
after a week. The first week I'm gonna be like,
you're freed up. No, of course I'm gonna miss you.
So I'm freaking out, Guys, I don't I can't even
think about this trip because I get planic attacks. Anyways,
(18:03):
I'm flying to Toronto for five hours with a mask.
You guys know my clusterphobia issues. I don't know what
I'm gonna do, but anyways, I can't think about it.
I was gonna do a surgery, which I'm gonna do. Guys.
I have a condition called endometrios I think we have.
So I'm finally going to do something called excision surgery
and you have no idea. Basically, instead of like a
normal blaparoscope, um, what's the name of the one that
(18:26):
I've done twice, Basically, they laser they burn it out. No,
but it has a name, um oblation, ablation or something
like that. So they they they they burn it right,
but they don't remove the root excition. I'm going to
remove it from the root and I have it all
over me. I have it. I have additions, adhesionsitions. How
(18:46):
do you say that adhesion adhesions. I've never said that
in my life, that they go to hilo po abart
uh nicolon. I mean, I mean, I mean vehiga like
my bladder and my call on my uterus, my tools. Yeah,
they all have this what's the word adhesions called endo
endometrium tissue. I guess, um, and I have to remove it.
(19:08):
It's a it's a massive surgery. I'm even considering removing
my uterus because I already had two kids, so I
don't want to have any more freaking periods because I
hate menstruation. It's not that simple. So I'm talking to
the surgeon of the doctor about, um, should I just
remove the endo and and and leave my uterus? But
if you go in and you see something funking my uterus,
(19:29):
just remove it. I don't care. I don't want to believe.
I don't want to have anything inside of me anyways.
So what happens as part of the protocol to be
able to accomplish this surgery, I have to do a
massive change of nutrition. I'm taking all these supplements. I
am doing pelvic floor therapy, which I didn't know about
this before, but basically it's a physical therapist that is
(19:51):
UM trained to do pelvic work with women, and they
basically um put their fingers inside of you and they
release tension all over your muscles and all that. And
my husband always thinks of somebody's finger. How you said
therapists a letty therapists Heather Um Fusion wellness. I recommend her.
(20:15):
She's incredible and she makes it painless and seamless, and
she's teaching me a lot. I have to use these
devices that look like a masturbating but actually know it's
like a crystal thing and you put it into release. No,
it's like it doesn't look like a dealer. It's like
a like a weird shape. So you put it in.
What I'm going through, guys in between surgeries for Eric
losing a voice, COVID quarantine. She president, what I'm going
(20:37):
through is so insane to prep for the surgery, and
then I'm doing pain pain management and they give me
something called Lyrica. Do you know can you explain with Lyrica?
I don't know a whole lot other than I guess
it shuts down the nervous system a bit to reset it.
But now she's looping and drugged. No, I'm no, I wish.
I wish. I'm basically taking this these pills at night
(21:00):
to be able to to to make me to help
me sleep deep, and to work on my nerves while
I'm sleeping. I guess I don't even know it's it's
it's pain management. So I'm doing this whole protocol. And
I was so excited guys when I when I learned
that I was taking something that I was going to
help me sleep. Then what happens to me with a
freaking learr Not that I'm wie awake my dreams again.
(21:20):
I cannot alter anything lucid dreams. Here's the thing. We're
falling apart. This has become a podcast about how we
are aging and falling the hell apart during quarantine. I
think it's too much time in quarantine that's causing us
to go crazy. I need to go back to Yeah, yeah,
I need to go back to work. I can't. But anyways,
so that's what's happening now. She's meditating and she slept
(21:42):
well last night last night. Yeah, because I have a coach. Now,
I have a coach that I talked to once a
week that helps me through the process of this whole
protocol that I have to do before this surgery, because
this surgery is life changing. I've lived in pain for
since I got my period for the first time in
my lab at eleven. I've been in paining my whole life.
I just I'm a function and functioning pain person. So
when nobody knows that I'm in pain while I'm talking
(22:04):
to you, and that I'm cramping all the time, and
my p MS is terrible because I am very positive
and I am ambitious and I am as pit fire.
So I just go through life acting like I don't
have pain, but I have pain anyways. So it's a
big protocol. And I have a coach and she said
to me Ross at night, when you take your lyric,
I give yourself thirty minutes. Then turn everything off. No
(22:25):
social media, no work, no TV, no nothing, meditate. For
years I've been telling her, turn your iPad off, no
social media, stop looking at Instagram, to fall asleep, and
when you do your the lights of the iPad are
keeping you awake. And she doesn't ever listen to me,
has never listened to me. Now, a coach told her,
(22:47):
and she did it right away. It's very different your
husband telling you something or a coach that is highly
trained and educated in different matters. When the coach tells you,
then it makes more sense. And your husband tells you
is just annoying. I don't think so. I've been telling
you could have solved this problem years ago. You just
refused to listen to me. You have, all right, you have,
(23:08):
so thank you for helping me Eric at that time,
even though I didn't listen on that note. Let's take
a break, so now we're back, guys, thank you so
much for listening and for allowing our venting to be
part of your day. Oh I feel so good. This
(23:30):
was like a therapy session, Eric Winter right, it was great.
I'm sorry for the listeners, but it was great. It
was all right. Well, thank you for sticking with us
um through this, you know, hiatus this little short break
and we're gonna answer some listener emails and questions. First
one is from at Redondo Puppy two. Questions Number one,
(23:51):
how have you guys handled the shopping food situation during quarantine?
Who does the food shopping and how often? And do
you guys order out? So it's been it's been, you know, um, Eric,
Well he's done more. More of the food shopping than me.
Um at least once a week. You know what it's
Let me let me talk about this. We are a
(24:11):
family of four, right, we have two kids and then
mom and dad. I don't think I will never comprehend
how we go through food so fast, Like he goes
to Whole Foods and it's like a five and fifty dollars.
Yes we have you're joking, I've done it, and we
buy like, okay, we have food for three weeks. We're
(24:33):
gonna be fine. We come home, of course, we we
leave everything is outside. We on pacatside, sanitize everything, we
call we put it all inside, and within a week
we're like, oh, we don't to go back to the supermarket.
Oh my god. Possible because we buy all the filler
foods like excuse me, vegetables, the fruits, the snacks that
(24:54):
go in the pantry. But you don't buy foods for meals.
You buy like one salmon, one salmon's one meal. Then
you run out of stuff. You don't understand. That's why
I end up being the shopping because I'm a little
bit more comprehensive when I shop, and I take my
time and I go through and then you get no snacks.
She comes back, and our pants full of junk. I
(25:16):
come back, and we have food that lasts at least
a weekend, guys meaning junk like um junk, gluted free,
a cardboard crucker. Can somebody please? I wish I had somebody?
Just she she thinks, just because it's a marshmallow cereal
from Whole Foods, it's a healthy cereal. It's still a
marshmallow cereal, which is fine. It just has cane sugar,
(25:40):
not corn syrup, so it's better for you, but still
not great food. Well, we have kids and experienced kids kids.
I'm fine with marshmallow stuff and I'm fine with that.
But if you're gonna go buy rice crispies, she goes, Oh,
but it's a healthy rice krispy. I'm like, no, it's not.
It's the same thing as anyway. It's ron rise. It's
no sugar, it's no sugar, no such things whatever, it's
(26:03):
no such thing. It has sugar on the poppy. I
think we I think we answered your question strated around
her question. So he goes sometimes and I go sometimes
with the glove with the mask, doing the line, being annoyed,
sending pictures of him about the lines about I can't
believe I'm doing this and they look at this long line.
We should have used this girl that will do it
for us, but he doesn't want to pay the fifty
(26:25):
dollars for the girl to go to this show. And
then she gets no, we used the girl when we
were in quarantine to do it for us, and then
ross like this is ridiculous. She keeps texting me asking
me what I want because they don't have what I
what I'm asking for, and like, that's why you don't know.
She was great? What are you talking about? No, she
was awesome because she dealt with you going back and
forth with every change. But you complained about the process.
(26:45):
Now I didn't know. I didn't love that anyways. So
and we're going all the times. Do we still go
to the grocery store a lot, at least every week
every other week, And it's bad because we're supposed to
be inside the house and we order and we order
out way too much. Even after going to the grocery
store for all this stuff, we order out way too much.
This is what's crazy. We order out on the present,
(27:06):
like leaves it in front and then we grab it
and then we sang it az a bag and then
we get everything out and then we sanitized every box
and then like it's almost like we sanding ties in
the food. It's disgusting. Oh my god, why is life
this battle? What happened through? What happened to the world?
Because parent, so we're so paranoid. It's like we're sanitizing,
like like my my, my nanny ll go bless her um.
(27:26):
She brought some avocados and she was washing the avocados
with soap inside inside the sink, washing the avocado with
soap and water. It's in Saturday, anyway. Second question has
been home and around each other with this force slowdown
with your jobs led to more sex and falling around
are less depends on which month of quarantine you asked.
(27:47):
The beginning of quarantine fantastic, second half of quarantine nightmare,
third part of quarantine picking up. But then Rosin's leaving town,
so she's super happy because she gets to go on vacation. Yes, yeah, right,
I'm gonna be working like crazy, I'm gonna be miserable, guys,
but I'm gonna be working on making money, which makes
me happy. So ups and downs, But let's say we're
(28:08):
at because we had a good couple of months of
surgeries and COVID issues. We had supernatural circumstances that, you
know what, forced the sex life to take a little pause,
which is okay, No, it's not okay. Christina, What are
your thoughts on body hair? Do you prefer all natural
(28:30):
some grooming? What are your preferences for yourself and for
each other? I'm very curious on your answers. What hair
well have you er? You actually prefer? Well, what you're
talking about left a beer? Like if you follow me
on social media or here social media, you see that
Eric has decided to become a bomb bum. Wow everyone
(28:52):
with beards. She just called you a bum. That is
so not true. No, I didn't say that. I mean
it's just for you because you're such a metro sexual.
Oh my god, I'm so pretty, so pretty, meto sexual
kind of beards, metro sexual. Let me put my creams on.
Oh my god, I'm so hot. I'm so hot. I'm
so pretty. Because you're that kind of person. It is
interesting that you said, you know what, I'm just gonna
let go and and leave facial hair all over my face.
(29:12):
That actually looked phenomenal. People loved it. I stopped shaving
since the day I wrapped production on the Rookie, and
I didn't shave four four months. I think it was
so I had a crazy chrizzly Adam's beard. It was
like big and shaggy, and it was bushy. It was
like big. I kept trimming it to try and make
it look nicer. Yeah, he good, he has he can
(29:34):
get away. Would you say it took a ship on?
What you said? My host tell you, like, you can
put a piece of crap in on top of your
head and you still look good because you have that face.
You're genetically bland. So then I got bored while having
my beard and decided to try and trim the sides
of my hair and shaved these like wild thing from
(29:57):
Major League Charlie sheen own. I need to need to document.
I shaved the sides of my head into like a
weird mr T. I don't know the hell I did,
but I screwed the side of my head. Hair grew out,
grew out the length on top, and then now, well
my hair is long. She's videoing this. Eric is talking
about his that he did as as a mistake, but no,
(30:20):
but move anyway. So now I'm fully I've trimmed up
the beard and now I have a crazy So I
went from vikings. Now I've got a goatee that's kind
of like Sons of Anarchy, super long, bushy goatee hot.
And then I think my western mustache is coming next.
And then he decided to to how his beer. We
(30:46):
did you posted that when we went on the beach.
Thing I got, I've never I've never used like a
just from men. I've never done that in my life.
The only grays I have are in my beard. And
I was like, you know what, I'm just not gonna
say anything to her, and I'm gonna try and use
this just for men on my beard and just see
what up and see what it looks like, just for
for kicks work in and he is dying. He's beard
like Jet Black liked. I got it was very it
(31:11):
was comical. It didn't go with a gew collar. It
was a joke. I'm going, what are you doing with
this midlife crisis that you're away leaving a beard? And
I had a line in my side burn from the die.
So I had grays that went to straight brown with
like a super clean line. It was so bad. I was,
I you're going through a midlife crisis, Like, what's going on?
(31:32):
You just turned forty four? Are you happy? Because you
know you can as our friend Danny has a Lamborghini. Lamborghini, Lamborghini, Lamborghini.
When you rub it and Matt give you wishes, Lamborghini.
Oh I'm sorry, So that you know what he tells you,
you can use it at any time. So if you're
(31:53):
going through a midlife crisis, go go to the house
and get it. Thank you, thank you. So we'll see
how So anyways, out to your question, we keep side
getting very sidetracked. Um, I have been pretty grisly as
far as the facial hair goes. I think both of
us prefer some grooming for sure with body. You know,
if I leave like like hair all over my armpits
(32:14):
or legs, I mean, I would love you, but I
would stack near in the shower every day. This is funny, guys,
This is a funny story. So so I used there
because I used to go waxing like down there, but
that hurts so much, and I did it for many, many,
many many years, and now I'm like, I'm old. And
I'm like, I'm over it, So I'm just gonna use
(32:36):
the their. You know, the thing that this is a
white thing that you put and then it kind of
kills your follicle for a couple for a bit of
a little bit. It doesn't last as long as waxing
and going at a wax place that that you scream.
So basically I used there and then um. So every
time down there, it's getting like kind of like savage
and like jungle time, which is great. It's nature is
(32:58):
the way she say, what do you talk? So when
I get it's getting long and he's like starts thinking
about oh I want or whatever whatever. So it's so funny.
So I walk into the into the take. I'll take
what I can get. I don't really care what Eric
places the now how you saying there? He places the
nail with a little white um towel cloth next to it, folded,
and that's he's kee to let me know that he's
(33:21):
expecting for me to use their so I can have
no hair. It is so funny. And every time I
see I'll go, ah, yes, I'm gonna I do it
very night. You said, there's and that's a lot of competitive.
That's been kind. That's sweetness. What's the freaking there the shower,
that's sweetness. You're too But I think, look, I think
(33:43):
good grooming is. I think it's important. It shows you care.
You know, it's crazy she will groom. She went to
the freaking pelvic floor massage and groom the ship out
of herself for a pelvic massage with some chick. And
for me, she doesn't groom herself. What the hell is that? Like,
I go to the guy to call legice or something,
I like, I look perfectly true and it's like like
a ba looks like disgusting, right, And Eric is like,
(34:08):
why are you doing that for Dr Goldberg? And you
can do it for me when I'm not gonna go
to the guy of colleges or Harry because it's different,
it's not Are you out of your mind? I got
to take care anyway. I guess he likes um. He
likes um good grooming down there, grooming. I like legs, groomed, armpits, groomed,
(34:29):
all that stuff. Yeah, I mean it's it's it's good.
You're pretty good about that stuff. Yeah, I am happ't
seen you walk around to me like you know hairy
legs or anything. No, No, don't do that. I don't
do that anyways. Should we take us a little pause
and come back, Let's do it? Okay, eat themos discon
(35:00):
having like a bit of a discussion as a family
because you know that UM schools are going to be
closed for a while because of the COVID, and Eric
is much more comfortable sending the kids back to school
UM sooner than could. I don't know if I'm if
(35:23):
I'm up for that. I don't know if I'm comfortable
sending my kids back to school even I know they're
gonna take there's gonna because it's just I feel like
it's uh pet those those kids. I just feel so
bad for Dylan, in particular, two years old. He can't
be with any of his friends at school we have.
(35:44):
He's a super shy kid as it is, and he's
missing out on these major socializing milestones things that he
needs to be doing. And I think as long as
all the precautions are being made, you know, it's important
for his growth. Once Sabella goes back, once once we
realize that the big schools are opening, then it's inevitable
(36:05):
Dylan is gonna have to go back, because what's the
point of keeping one at home if the other one
is already back at school and they're gonna have things
much more ironed out with their situation with the big schools.
They are they are, and I know there's gonna be
precaution sticking, but guys, the numbers are going up. This
pandemic is it's gonna go on and on about that,
(36:26):
out of out of you saying I think it's out
of control. So I think we need to we need
to think about this twice every because you said, let's
do what it's It's gonna be fine until the kid
comes back from schools sick, and then you're gonna be like,
why the heck did I do that? I understand that's life.
At some point, they're gonna have to get back to
some Look at I'm the home school teacher. I'm I'm
(36:47):
gonna go back to work. You're gonna be working and
we're gonna have to hire. What are we gonna do
a freaking teacher if you're gone working and I'm back
at work. And Sabella's got I mean, she can do
a lot of stuff on her own, but she's still
I know, a lot of parents are already talking about
hiring like a teacher to come to the house. And
I'm gonna have to do that because if I'm working
on your work, and how are we going to accomplish
this thing? I mean, my mom or you know, somebody's
(37:09):
that to help too. I have no idea. That's another
reason why, And I don't know. I just think the
socializing aspect of school is super important and we're struggling
with this. We can't seem to get on the same page. No,
we can't. We can. When are you gonna go back
to the gym? I don't go to the gym. Gyms
(37:29):
are closed now, which is a one on one I
have a child to go to them to Maria you
watch her on zoom. I know, but before COVID, I
was I wasn't going to the gym. I was going
to her private gym like at her complex and it
was just me and Maria and Carly m. I don't know.
I can go to a gym, go to like like
a LF fitness or even just kids. We need to have. Well,
now that we've announced that we've had COVID, maybe nobody
(37:51):
will even come near us. But we called we called
that where the plague like our close friends that we're
planning when when can we When? When can the kids
started having play dates again? I that nobody's going to
come to the house where the healthy. Now we're perfectly
find guys, but I feel like we need social time.
I mean I haven't. We haven't done it anything because
especially with my voice. I did it before at the
(38:13):
beginning of COVID, I had gathering. I had one gathering
with my everybody in mass apart. We were sitting down
of the party. Everybody had that. It was crazy, it
was comical, but we did it. We were there for
like four hours and we had a blast and we
talked so much. We need that again, guys, we need
that again. But it's crazy. Well we made it. We
got through our first podcast back. Yes, let's see if
(38:35):
we can keep this rolling. You will just take care
of your voice, continue your vocalization. I'll just run a
mile so I don't have to listen to it. Show
some compassion. Oh my god, get the food out early
for dinner. I know. I hope you guys enjoyed. Enjoyed it.
We enjoyed um talking to you guys when we have
(38:56):
missed you we give every week, we're like, when do
we go to the podcast again? We have to do
the podcast us because it's like a release. We enjoy
making people laugh and we enjoyed saying relatable stories so
people understand that we all equal, we're all the same.
So if anybody hasn't done so yet, make sure to
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(39:17):
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