March 3, 2025 • 19 mins
Today Ros and Eric give us an update on their recent trips and attempt to help a listener with how to communicate with their partner but really they discuss their own? Make sure to tune in for all the updates!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is he said a Yadeh with Eric Winter and
Rodlin Fantev. Okay, welcome to another episode, he said, A
ya d ho where ayad Ho was tardy as usual
and they.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I apologize, guys, I thought it was eleven thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
But it was even read texts. You gotta be in
the loop.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
My apology. So how are you? How's everybody?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
He said, A yady I want to start off by
saying one thing. You know, it's so funny. As we
were about to start this podcast, I started getting a
bunch of messages on like cameo and Instagram and fans
reaching out because they listened to the last podcast, and
so many fans felt bad that you were going through
all this social media nightmare, you know, nonsense with all
(00:47):
the messages and blah blah blah, and so a lot
of fans actually reached out and wanted to relate messages
to you, to me saying Roslyn, we love you. We're
actually huge fans of yours for years.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I haven't I haven't read anything.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah. No, they reached out to me directly and let
her know that we just absolutely love her and respect
her and think she's amazing, and we've watched her for
you know, many many years and been fans of years
for a long time, and they just want you to
know that it's not like that everywhere.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
That's very nice.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
So I told them I to make sure to relay
the message.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Appreciate you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So what about uh, our trip to Minnesota we had
Valentine's away from the kids. That was like one of
the last things we talked about.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Yes, it was a success.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
You know, we're friends.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So this mocktail and it's really interesting, you guys, when
you come up with a with a brand from scratch,
from zero that you have to deal with the formula
formula meaning the combination of flavors, and it's like scientific almost.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
What they say. It's chemistry and not just that. But
we're we're trying to you know, we want to do
something that is very low in sugar, but we're very
you know, health conscious. So it's like the things that
are going to be in there as sweeteners aren't going
to be you know, ideally things that are bad sweeteners.
We want to have health healthy properties.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
It's really interesting because the first bad that we got
we didn't go to the distillery in the liquid. That's
what you call it. The liquid was sent to us
and it was four flavors, all based on like Puerto
Rican fruits, not fully native. Some are native, but some
are just very common in Puerto Rico, the guava, starfruit, pomosa, pineapple,
(02:22):
things like that. Now we're going to introduce us. Oh,
now we're gonna introduce canempa. But anyways, the flavors came
back and they were so incredible that we're like, oh
my god, this is the best mocktail on the fruity side,
you know, because they are they are going to have
some fruity component to it. It's not like you're drinking.
(02:43):
I want to do a non alcoholic beer or I
want to do a non alcoholic to hito. But you
know a lot of times it tastes like a mohito,
but it doesn't have alcohol because I don't like the
taste of alcohol. Is that's not my case. My mocktails
are not going to resemble alcohol. They're just gonna be delicious.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
However, I will say couple of them to me, because
you're not a drinker, did have a nice resemblance to certainly.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
The one that has tamarind. But this is what's interesting guys.
So we get the first batch and I was like,
this is it. This is amazing. Then we ask for
the sugar content and we were like oh no, no, wonder.
So we're like, I cannot be promoting something that I
consume because I'm very health conscious. I cannot be giving
people something that is, oh my god, I so yummy.
(03:26):
But you're basically drinking a twistler. So we're like, this
is not going to work. So we've been going back
and forth, back and forth and trying to find like
an element of wealth, wealth wellness. How do you say that?
Let me reveal that again, trying to find an element
of wellness and make it a functional mocktail so when
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you're drinking it is actually good for you.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
There's a health benefit along the way. That is going
to be important to us because obviously, like we said,
we're health conscious, but we are something.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
You're driving me mad.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I heard this back for I have to fix the camera.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Eric is interrupting my flow. He's going back and forth,
back and forth, back and forth. That clip okay, anyways, Yeah,
so we wanted to be healthy, deligious, so that's what
happened in Minnesota.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Would do then, but then We found out when we
were doing a sign in Miami that THHC mocktails are
actually selling through the roof, So we might do one
mocktail just THC in it, which is going to be
awesome to get roseland drinking that one. I can't wait
for her.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
So we tested the THHC and our friends which hopefully
are going to be our partners in this business venture,
were there and Eric and they took it and not
they didn't feel anything, And of course I take it,
and then I'm asking everybody, you guys, don't feel like
a little lightheaded like nobody felt anything, but.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
She felt it. But she made herself feel it, which
always happens with you like him association.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
What I am. My system is very clean, so anything
that I introduced to it that might give it a
little bit of a whatever feeling, it happens.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
We did have a fun quick trip though, because it
Wasentine's Day and we landed and it was full of
snow in Minnesota. It was amazing. Went to an awesome
steakhouse and just a fun like single day getaway with
another couple that exup of friends of ours and being
able to be you know, away from the kids for
a night, which you always missed them, but like being
away from them for the night was fun, and like
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experiencing a snowy Minneapolis was was cool. So it was
a great trip.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
It was really and eric One came back to Los
Angeles and I went from Minnesota snowing, freezing to Puerto
Rico for two days ninety degrees, humid, sunny, and I
was like, oh, my music video to the point that
my big, big coat. I left it with my friend Jarline,
and I said, Jarline, can you just keep this because
I don't need to hear in Puerto Rico and I
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can't even fit it in some of my luggage and
I don't want to put it on. So yeah, I
left for my coat. Anyway, So with the music video
for the girls for the movie, it was unbelievable and
I'm very excited.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Yeah, it was cool. It was great. It was a
very productive trip.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
And now I leave again.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Now she goes again, go NiFe on the road for
a month.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Oh life on the road.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
She's going to do a movie with Rob Low in Budapest,
which is gonna be interesting, but it's gonna be fun
because in three weeks we're going to go meet her
there with me and the kids, and we're gonna go
to Budapest for a week and Sebbie's gonna play tennis there,
and then we're gonna go on vacation to Paris for
a week right after that. Since we're over in that
part of the world, We're like, let's extend spring break.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So they've been wanting they've been wanting to go to
Paris so badly.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yes, I he's taking French in school, so she'll get
a chance to do something and try it. And then
I go back to Paris right after that for the
con that I'm doing in Paris for in May, like
the first week in a mess.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
So you're going back to back.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I got to go to Paris back to back within
like a month apart.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
So I'll be seeing y'all in France. That'll be fun.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Let me tell them then, now spend He's not out,
But guys, I'm doing this movie is horror. I've never
done horror, and that's one of the things that entices
me because I was like, I've never done this. Genera,
that's how you say general, it's a hey needle, And
I said, and then I love Roblou, so I was like,
this is going to be pretty cool, but I didn't know,
to be honest, and I learned after the fact that
it is based on an ip that people that like horror,
(07:05):
they love it. It's like a thriller horror and it's
called the Third Parent and it's this character that is
very spooky called Tommy Tommy Taffy, and people that know
about Tommy Taffy is like a huge deal because I
guess it's a very not beloved because it's scary, but
a very well known ip. So yeah, I'm gonna get
(07:27):
ready to be depressed and scared for every depression.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It's gonna be scared for your life because where you
live or will you die? People are gonna have to
watch it.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
They're gonna have to watch it, you know what I'm
gonna this is something completely unrelated. But guys, I don't
know if anybody, I'm sure a lot of our listeners
because it's pretty common. It's just that people don't recognize
it if you suffer from a panic attack. So everybody
knows that I'm very cloustrophobic, but I don't really feel
like I suffer from like a panic attack. Anyways, I'm
listening to this podcast and the guess is the Latino
(08:00):
that is very well known, you know her beautiful girl,
and she's talking about her life and you know on
her journey. She comes from Tijuana, then moved to San
Diego and now she does really well. And she was
saying that she was experimenting panic attacks and she never
had that before experiencing and then she was describing the
(08:24):
bad one that she had in Vegas. Was she was
there with her husband. She came from work for like
seven months. She was in Mexico shooting a soap for
seven months, having a blast, but at the same time
miserable because she was away from her husband and her kid,
and she didn't realize how bad it was. And it
hit her when she went back, came back to the
(08:44):
States and she had a full own panic attack on
a little getaway to Vegas with her husband just to reconnect.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Wait, she didn't have panic attack when she was gone,
she had it when she reached.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
She knew she was funky, well she was away kind
of like I'm acting like I'm happy, but I'm actually
not very happy. I can't wait to get out of here.
So she was going through the motions, but a full
on physical panic attack. She had it when she came back.
So now the therapist is saying, it was your body
basically going haywire because you're back into your routine, and
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it was the way your body basically was coping with
like I'm back, and the repressing all those feelings for
several months. It just came crashing down when she was back,
and when she was explaining the symptoms, I was like,
oh my god, you remember when I was away. I
think I went to I think I was in Puerto
Rico doing on the card the movie that is going
(09:40):
to come out with Wan the Sikes, and then I
went straight to the Mohurica fe And then as I
was gone for a while and I came back, you
were sleeping. I landed like at midnight, kids were sleeping.
You're sleeping. And I got a really bad headache on
my way back to the house, which I get this
a lot, because I think because of the migraine. And
I remember putting the luggage in the living room and
(10:02):
then walk into the kitchen and having a full on
tingling sensation. My hands were fully tingling, numb, my body.
I had to sit down at the bar. I'm sitting down,
my heart is racing. I'm going, oh my god, I
think I'm gonna have a heart attack. I didn't want
to wake you up. I never told me, so I
walked all the way, basically crawling to the little kitchen
(10:24):
nuke and I basically plumped myself into that bench and
I'm praying and praying and breathing, going, oh my god,
I'm gonna have a heart attack and nobody they're gonna
find me dead. And I'm breathing. I didn't take you.
The next morning and I'm breathing and breathing, and I
basically I got out of it and I was like, Okay,
I think it's gone. And then I drank some water,
I had something to eat, I took a shower, and
(10:45):
I went to bed. And I will never I was
I always always stay with me going what was that
about it? Because I'm talking about it. It was no more
than ten minutes.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
What's weird is you think you had the panic attack
while you were gone? Now when you arrived.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
No, And I was like, when I'm living sitting to
this podcast of this girl, I was like, oh my god,
she described exactly what I went through.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Maybe there's a panic attack of reintegrating back into life.
I have no idea because it is a weird thing.
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Have you ever had a panic attack?
Speaker 1 (11:15):
No, I don't suffer, so you don't know what that is.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
But I don't suffer from that either.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You do versions claustrophobia, I mean, but not like that.
But you panic. So it's like you leading you. You
do suffer from panic attacks.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
It just comes when talking about the panic attack that
you just don't know what's happening with you. I wasn't
in a confined space. I was none of that.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Your panic attacks get triggered bout other things. But you
have had panic attacks.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
So maybe I'm susceptible.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Yeah, for sure, you definitely that's something you deal with.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I'm going to tell you something. It's no fun, like
that suffer from this, like not the closerphobia. One people
that suffer from like panic attacks. Like we have a
good friend of ours that have twins and one of
them out of nowhere, has a panic attack, and they're
like trying to deal with that situation. It's like it
must be really scary.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It has to be tough. I mean, it's a lot
to cope with and people, don't you know, when you
travel for a long periods of time, not to shoot,
but anybody, it is hard. Like it's you know, there's
a moment where you're like, wow, okay, I'm away, I
can sleep in a little bit, I get to experience
something new. But then you very quickly realize like, oh
my god, I'm gone from my family for a long time.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Well, the only reason I took this job, guy, is
to be honest with you, was because it is going
to coincide with spring break. And I was like, the
kids and Eric can come. So I'm away for five weeks,
but you guys are there for two weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Away for five weeks. You're there for oh yeah, yeh,
you're away a half weeks and two get there.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
So I'm going to be alone before three and a
half weeks and then you guys come. That's the only
way and the only reason why, because you know how
I get when I have to leave, I'll get down.
I'm like I get a little and see, I'm I'm
not happy this one. It's really far away. But the
only reason that I'm going you know what, ros's just
enjoy it. You've never done this. Genera is a great script.
(13:07):
Just enjoyed. And I know it is because, Oh, they're coming, Oh,
they're gonna come. By the time I realize that I'm
by myself, boom, you guys are there. Yeah, So I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It'll be good, it'll be good, it'll be fun. Before
we wrap up, let's let's jump into some listener questions. Yes,
because it's going to take a little bit. There's some
good questions today. Actually, there's always good questions, I would say, actually,
but these are some good ones. What is the best
way to solve an argument with your spouse? My spouse
gets really passionate, and I want to talk calmly, but
we cannot seem to get on the same page when
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it comes to communication. Who do you think it's more
worked up in our relationship? As say that again, who
gets more worked up in our relationship? Who is when
it comes to an argument like this listener is saying
they want to talk calmly, but they can't seem to
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get on the same page because their spouse gets really passionate.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
What do you think.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I think I get both. I think I start calm
and then when I don't feel like you want to talk,
I get more passionate, and then you start to close
down more. The more passionate I get, so I try
to talk calm and.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Then I tell you, the more you keep talking about it,
the more upset I'm going to get. So they were
not on the same page because they were not even
talking calmly. The thing is that the dynamics in this relationship, guys,
it's been almost twenty years our relationship, okay, have changed
because Eric used to be much more passive and just
more like a cancer, you know, like more like a
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little bit more calm. And I think because of survival.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
You have survival, survival. You put me on the brink
of survival. That's that you triggered me in a good way.
Maybe maybe actually, well not if we're arguing I'm in survival.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
But listen, yes I have elevated your life completely. But wow,
what I'm saying is inspired. But yeah, inspired, you have inspired,
you know. But what I'm talking about is that you
used to be much more calm. I'm more like sentimental.
I'm very like, no, let's just have a dialogue, because
you're you went to school for psychology, so you're all
about let me, let me just pick your brain and
(15:13):
because I will go from zero to sixty really fast
because I don't have the patience all the time or
the temperament to talk.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah, you boiled my water a lot more like we
say the podcast.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Yeah you have changed immensely because now you like to
compete with me.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Yeah, you've boiled my water a lot, and I've calmed
you down. You're fired in a lot. But like we
always say, when you boil it too much, I overflow.
And then when you get put down too far, then
you forgot the thing.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I think we communicate. It depends on the question. So
what is a fan?
Speaker 1 (15:42):
So I mean the listener question is like they can't
see me get on the same page. What's the best
way to solve an argument? Because you like a psychology,
All I'm going to say is this, I don't think
there's one rhyme or reason because we're not in that
relationship with you guys, and I know that is specific
to you. All the more you can keep calm, I
would say easier. It will keep your partner, your spouse calm.
(16:03):
They can be a little passionate, but I think try it.
If you guys can remind each other when you're not
arguing that anytime we get into a situation, let's do
our best to try to hear what the other person
is saying without reacting too heavily. And then once you
hear it and you take it in, then you each
get that moment of time to sort of have a
platform to speak, but you can't interrupt and you can't
get too passionate. I only say this because we've had
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therapy going over these kinds of things and repeating maybe maybe.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
You should exactly, maybe you should practice, And we've talked
to two therapists and they all say the same thing.
I think it's an exercise that you do when you
go to compos therapy, which is very hard to accomplish.
But if you're having an argument, the first thing you
need to do. If you guys are at different levels
when it comes to frequency, when it comes to the delivery,
if you're calm on the other person is screaming or
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vice versa, the first thing is that the comp person
has to say, you know what, We're not going to
solve anything by communicating like this, because I already tune
you out. You screaming me, I'm not listen so it's
about respect. So let's just respect each other. And I'm
gonna speak, and then you speak, But you do this, okay, speak,
you let the person speak, and then you say what
I hear you saying is the following, and then you
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repeat what you believe the person is saying.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Oh, you believe you're repeating exactly what they're saying to
make sure that you're understanding what they're saying.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Yeah, but usually when you repeat has a little bit
of an interpretation.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Yes, but if you interpret it the wrong way, then
that person.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
And the person needs to correct and say, no, that's
not what I said. This is what I said. Okay,
let me repeat it again exactly, because a lot of
times usually the argument is not about that, it's about
something else. It's just the person is not telling you.
You know, I'm pissed out because two days ago I
expected this from you and you didn't do it, and
now I'm in a heightened state and now this bothered me.
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So it's a way of you diffusing by saying what
I think you're saying is this. No, that's not it. Okay,
so explain it to me again. Oh so you're upset because.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Of that, Let me. Let me just say this, guys,
and this will go to another listener question before we go.
Because we do believe in couple's therapy. You don't always
have to go when there's a problem. You can do
it to stay consistent and stay on the same page,
which we have done. We've done it when there's a problem,
and we've done it when we want to just stay
consistent and with help each other. We are horrible at
this exercise. I'll just tell you we are not good
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at it. This is what the therapist is.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Very funny. Eric goes like this. Every time that I
say something, He's like, you know what, we can go
to a therapy about it. I'm gonna call let's go
to therapy about it?
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Yeah, because that helps it tough.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
I wand no intimated.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I need a third party. I need someone in the middleways.
I want to have that person. You don't listen anything
I have to say. So I love I love a
good therapy session. But also we're not good at this
exercise as well. Let you know, this is what the
therapist tells us, So do your best. Please. We'll do
some more listener questions on our next episode, for sure,
(18:53):
but we appreciate you all. The next episode might be
me alone by the way, for a few weeks. We
appreciate you all listening. Thanks again. Remember if you have
something you want to ask us, please send it to
our dms at, he said ado Or email us at
Ericinros at iHeartRadio dot com. And uh, we love you guys.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Thank you guys. I'm going to miss you. Love you,
love you.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Thanks for listening. Don't forget to write us a review
and tell us what you think.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
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Speaker 1 (19:27):
See you next time.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Bye,
This is he said a Yadeh with Eric Winter and
Rodlin Fantev. Okay, welcome to another episode, he said, A
ya d ho where ayad Ho was tardy as usual
and they.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I apologize, guys, I thought it was eleven thirty.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
But it was even read texts. You gotta be in
the loop.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
My apology. So how are you? How's everybody?
Speaker 1 (00:27):
He said, A yady I want to start off by
saying one thing. You know, it's so funny. As we
were about to start this podcast, I started getting a
bunch of messages on like cameo and Instagram and fans
reaching out because they listened to the last podcast, and
so many fans felt bad that you were going through
all this social media nightmare, you know, nonsense with all
(00:47):
the messages and blah blah blah, and so a lot
of fans actually reached out and wanted to relate messages
to you, to me saying Roslyn, we love you. We're
actually huge fans of yours for years.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I haven't I haven't read anything.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Yeah. No, they reached out to me directly and let
her know that we just absolutely love her and respect
her and think she's amazing, and we've watched her for
you know, many many years and been fans of years
for a long time, and they just want you to
know that it's not like that everywhere.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
That's very nice.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
So I told them I to make sure to relay
the message.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Appreciate you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So what about uh, our trip to Minnesota we had
Valentine's away from the kids. That was like one of
the last things we talked about.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Yes, it was a success.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
You know, we're friends.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
So this mocktail and it's really interesting, you guys, when
you come up with a with a brand from scratch,
from zero that you have to deal with the formula
formula meaning the combination of flavors, and it's like scientific almost.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
What they say. It's chemistry and not just that. But
we're we're trying to you know, we want to do
something that is very low in sugar, but we're very
you know, health conscious. So it's like the things that
are going to be in there as sweeteners aren't going
to be you know, ideally things that are bad sweeteners.
We want to have health healthy properties.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
It's really interesting because the first bad that we got
we didn't go to the distillery in the liquid. That's
what you call it. The liquid was sent to us
and it was four flavors, all based on like Puerto
Rican fruits, not fully native. Some are native, but some
are just very common in Puerto Rico, the guava, starfruit, pomosa, pineapple,
(02:22):
things like that. Now we're going to introduce us. Oh,
now we're gonna introduce canempa. But anyways, the flavors came
back and they were so incredible that we're like, oh
my god, this is the best mocktail on the fruity side,
you know, because they are they are going to have
some fruity component to it. It's not like you're drinking.
(02:43):
I want to do a non alcoholic beer or I
want to do a non alcoholic to hito. But you
know a lot of times it tastes like a mohito,
but it doesn't have alcohol because I don't like the
taste of alcohol. Is that's not my case. My mocktails
are not going to resemble alcohol. They're just gonna be delicious.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
However, I will say couple of them to me, because
you're not a drinker, did have a nice resemblance to certainly.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
The one that has tamarind. But this is what's interesting guys.
So we get the first batch and I was like,
this is it. This is amazing. Then we ask for
the sugar content and we were like oh no, no, wonder.
So we're like, I cannot be promoting something that I
consume because I'm very health conscious. I cannot be giving
people something that is, oh my god, I so yummy.
(03:26):
But you're basically drinking a twistler. So we're like, this
is not going to work. So we've been going back
and forth, back and forth and trying to find like
an element of wealth, wealth wellness. How do you say that?
Let me reveal that again, trying to find an element
of wellness and make it a functional mocktail so when
(03:47):
you're drinking it is actually good for you.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
There's a health benefit along the way. That is going
to be important to us because obviously, like we said,
we're health conscious, but we are something.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
You're driving me mad.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
I heard this back for I have to fix the camera.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Eric is interrupting my flow. He's going back and forth,
back and forth, back and forth. That clip okay, anyways, Yeah,
so we wanted to be healthy, deligious, so that's what
happened in Minnesota.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Would do then, but then We found out when we
were doing a sign in Miami that THHC mocktails are
actually selling through the roof, So we might do one
mocktail just THC in it, which is going to be
awesome to get roseland drinking that one. I can't wait
for her.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
So we tested the THHC and our friends which hopefully
are going to be our partners in this business venture,
were there and Eric and they took it and not
they didn't feel anything, And of course I take it,
and then I'm asking everybody, you guys, don't feel like
a little lightheaded like nobody felt anything, but.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
She felt it. But she made herself feel it, which
always happens with you like him association.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
What I am. My system is very clean, so anything
that I introduced to it that might give it a
little bit of a whatever feeling, it happens.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
We did have a fun quick trip though, because it
Wasentine's Day and we landed and it was full of
snow in Minnesota. It was amazing. Went to an awesome
steakhouse and just a fun like single day getaway with
another couple that exup of friends of ours and being
able to be you know, away from the kids for
a night, which you always missed them, but like being
away from them for the night was fun, and like
(05:17):
experiencing a snowy Minneapolis was was cool. So it was
a great trip.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
It was really and eric One came back to Los
Angeles and I went from Minnesota snowing, freezing to Puerto
Rico for two days ninety degrees, humid, sunny, and I
was like, oh, my music video to the point that
my big, big coat. I left it with my friend Jarline,
and I said, Jarline, can you just keep this because
I don't need to hear in Puerto Rico and I
(05:42):
can't even fit it in some of my luggage and
I don't want to put it on. So yeah, I
left for my coat. Anyway, So with the music video
for the girls for the movie, it was unbelievable and
I'm very excited.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Yeah, it was cool. It was great. It was a
very productive trip.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
And now I leave again.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Now she goes again, go NiFe on the road for
a month.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Oh life on the road.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
She's going to do a movie with Rob Low in Budapest,
which is gonna be interesting, but it's gonna be fun
because in three weeks we're going to go meet her
there with me and the kids, and we're gonna go
to Budapest for a week and Sebbie's gonna play tennis there,
and then we're gonna go on vacation to Paris for
a week right after that. Since we're over in that
part of the world, We're like, let's extend spring break.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
So they've been wanting they've been wanting to go to
Paris so badly.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yes, I he's taking French in school, so she'll get
a chance to do something and try it. And then
I go back to Paris right after that for the
con that I'm doing in Paris for in May, like
the first week in a mess.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
So you're going back to back.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
I got to go to Paris back to back within
like a month apart.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (06:39):
So I'll be seeing y'all in France. That'll be fun.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Let me tell them then, now spend He's not out,
But guys, I'm doing this movie is horror. I've never
done horror, and that's one of the things that entices
me because I was like, I've never done this. Genera,
that's how you say general, it's a hey needle, And
I said, and then I love Roblou, so I was like,
this is going to be pretty cool, but I didn't know,
to be honest, and I learned after the fact that
it is based on an ip that people that like horror,
(07:05):
they love it. It's like a thriller horror and it's
called the Third Parent and it's this character that is
very spooky called Tommy Tommy Taffy, and people that know
about Tommy Taffy is like a huge deal because I
guess it's a very not beloved because it's scary, but
a very well known ip. So yeah, I'm gonna get
(07:27):
ready to be depressed and scared for every depression.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
It's gonna be scared for your life because where you
live or will you die? People are gonna have to
watch it.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
They're gonna have to watch it, you know what I'm
gonna this is something completely unrelated. But guys, I don't
know if anybody, I'm sure a lot of our listeners
because it's pretty common. It's just that people don't recognize
it if you suffer from a panic attack. So everybody
knows that I'm very cloustrophobic, but I don't really feel
like I suffer from like a panic attack. Anyways, I'm
listening to this podcast and the guess is the Latino
(08:00):
that is very well known, you know her beautiful girl,
and she's talking about her life and you know on
her journey. She comes from Tijuana, then moved to San
Diego and now she does really well. And she was
saying that she was experimenting panic attacks and she never
had that before experiencing and then she was describing the
(08:24):
bad one that she had in Vegas. Was she was
there with her husband. She came from work for like
seven months. She was in Mexico shooting a soap for
seven months, having a blast, but at the same time
miserable because she was away from her husband and her kid,
and she didn't realize how bad it was. And it
hit her when she went back, came back to the
(08:44):
States and she had a full own panic attack on
a little getaway to Vegas with her husband just to reconnect.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Wait, she didn't have panic attack when she was gone,
she had it when she reached.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
She knew she was funky, well she was away kind
of like I'm acting like I'm happy, but I'm actually
not very happy. I can't wait to get out of here.
So she was going through the motions, but a full
on physical panic attack. She had it when she came back.
So now the therapist is saying, it was your body
basically going haywire because you're back into your routine, and
(09:17):
it was the way your body basically was coping with
like I'm back, and the repressing all those feelings for
several months. It just came crashing down when she was back,
and when she was explaining the symptoms, I was like,
oh my god, you remember when I was away. I
think I went to I think I was in Puerto
Rico doing on the card the movie that is going
(09:40):
to come out with Wan the Sikes, and then I
went straight to the Mohurica fe And then as I
was gone for a while and I came back, you
were sleeping. I landed like at midnight, kids were sleeping.
You're sleeping. And I got a really bad headache on
my way back to the house, which I get this
a lot, because I think because of the migraine. And
I remember putting the luggage in the living room and
(10:02):
then walk into the kitchen and having a full on
tingling sensation. My hands were fully tingling, numb, my body.
I had to sit down at the bar. I'm sitting down,
my heart is racing. I'm going, oh my god, I
think I'm gonna have a heart attack. I didn't want
to wake you up. I never told me, so I
walked all the way, basically crawling to the little kitchen
(10:24):
nuke and I basically plumped myself into that bench and
I'm praying and praying and breathing, going, oh my god,
I'm gonna have a heart attack and nobody they're gonna
find me dead. And I'm breathing. I didn't take you.
The next morning and I'm breathing and breathing, and I
basically I got out of it and I was like, Okay,
I think it's gone. And then I drank some water,
I had something to eat, I took a shower, and
(10:45):
I went to bed. And I will never I was
I always always stay with me going what was that
about it? Because I'm talking about it. It was no more
than ten minutes.
Speaker 1 (10:54):
What's weird is you think you had the panic attack
while you were gone? Now when you arrived.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
No, And I was like, when I'm living sitting to
this podcast of this girl, I was like, oh my god,
she described exactly what I went through.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Maybe there's a panic attack of reintegrating back into life.
I have no idea because it is a weird thing.
I don't know what.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
Have you ever had a panic attack?
Speaker 1 (11:15):
No, I don't suffer, so you don't know what that is.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
But I don't suffer from that either.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
You do versions claustrophobia, I mean, but not like that.
But you panic. So it's like you leading you. You
do suffer from panic attacks.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
It just comes when talking about the panic attack that
you just don't know what's happening with you. I wasn't
in a confined space. I was none of that.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
Your panic attacks get triggered bout other things. But you
have had panic attacks.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
So maybe I'm susceptible.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Yeah, for sure, you definitely that's something you deal with.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
I'm going to tell you something. It's no fun, like
that suffer from this, like not the closerphobia. One people
that suffer from like panic attacks. Like we have a
good friend of ours that have twins and one of
them out of nowhere, has a panic attack, and they're
like trying to deal with that situation. It's like it
must be really scary.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It has to be tough. I mean, it's a lot
to cope with and people, don't you know, when you
travel for a long periods of time, not to shoot,
but anybody, it is hard. Like it's you know, there's
a moment where you're like, wow, okay, I'm away, I
can sleep in a little bit, I get to experience
something new. But then you very quickly realize like, oh
my god, I'm gone from my family for a long time.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
Well, the only reason I took this job, guy, is
to be honest with you, was because it is going
to coincide with spring break. And I was like, the
kids and Eric can come. So I'm away for five weeks,
but you guys are there for two weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
Away for five weeks. You're there for oh yeah, yeh,
you're away a half weeks and two get there.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
So I'm going to be alone before three and a
half weeks and then you guys come. That's the only
way and the only reason why, because you know how
I get when I have to leave, I'll get down.
I'm like I get a little and see, I'm I'm
not happy this one. It's really far away. But the
only reason that I'm going you know what, ros's just
enjoy it. You've never done this. Genera is a great script.
(13:07):
Just enjoyed. And I know it is because, Oh, they're coming, Oh,
they're gonna come. By the time I realize that I'm
by myself, boom, you guys are there. Yeah, So I'm fine.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
It'll be good, it'll be good, it'll be fun. Before
we wrap up, let's let's jump into some listener questions. Yes,
because it's going to take a little bit. There's some
good questions today. Actually, there's always good questions, I would say, actually,
but these are some good ones. What is the best
way to solve an argument with your spouse? My spouse
gets really passionate, and I want to talk calmly, but
we cannot seem to get on the same page when
(13:36):
it comes to communication. Who do you think it's more
worked up in our relationship? As say that again, who
gets more worked up in our relationship? Who is when
it comes to an argument like this listener is saying
they want to talk calmly, but they can't seem to
(13:56):
get on the same page because their spouse gets really passionate.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
What do you think.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I think I get both. I think I start calm
and then when I don't feel like you want to talk,
I get more passionate, and then you start to close
down more. The more passionate I get, so I try
to talk calm and.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Then I tell you, the more you keep talking about it,
the more upset I'm going to get. So they were
not on the same page because they were not even
talking calmly. The thing is that the dynamics in this relationship, guys,
it's been almost twenty years our relationship, okay, have changed
because Eric used to be much more passive and just
more like a cancer, you know, like more like a
(14:35):
little bit more calm. And I think because of survival.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
You have survival, survival. You put me on the brink
of survival. That's that you triggered me in a good way.
Maybe maybe actually, well not if we're arguing I'm in survival.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
But listen, yes I have elevated your life completely. But wow,
what I'm saying is inspired. But yeah, inspired, you have inspired,
you know. But what I'm talking about is that you
used to be much more calm. I'm more like sentimental.
I'm very like, no, let's just have a dialogue, because
you're you went to school for psychology, so you're all
about let me, let me just pick your brain and
(15:13):
because I will go from zero to sixty really fast
because I don't have the patience all the time or
the temperament to talk.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
Yeah, you boiled my water a lot more like we
say the podcast.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Yeah you have changed immensely because now you like to
compete with me.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Yeah, you've boiled my water a lot, and I've calmed
you down. You're fired in a lot. But like we
always say, when you boil it too much, I overflow.
And then when you get put down too far, then
you forgot the thing.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
I think we communicate. It depends on the question. So
what is a fan?
Speaker 1 (15:42):
So I mean the listener question is like they can't
see me get on the same page. What's the best
way to solve an argument? Because you like a psychology,
All I'm going to say is this, I don't think
there's one rhyme or reason because we're not in that
relationship with you guys, and I know that is specific
to you. All the more you can keep calm, I
would say easier. It will keep your partner, your spouse calm.
(16:03):
They can be a little passionate, but I think try it.
If you guys can remind each other when you're not
arguing that anytime we get into a situation, let's do
our best to try to hear what the other person
is saying without reacting too heavily. And then once you
hear it and you take it in, then you each
get that moment of time to sort of have a
platform to speak, but you can't interrupt and you can't
get too passionate. I only say this because we've had
(16:27):
therapy going over these kinds of things and repeating maybe maybe.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
You should exactly, maybe you should practice, And we've talked
to two therapists and they all say the same thing.
I think it's an exercise that you do when you
go to compos therapy, which is very hard to accomplish.
But if you're having an argument, the first thing you
need to do. If you guys are at different levels
when it comes to frequency, when it comes to the delivery,
if you're calm on the other person is screaming or
(16:52):
vice versa, the first thing is that the comp person
has to say, you know what, We're not going to
solve anything by communicating like this, because I already tune
you out. You screaming me, I'm not listen so it's
about respect. So let's just respect each other. And I'm
gonna speak, and then you speak, But you do this, okay, speak,
you let the person speak, and then you say what
I hear you saying is the following, and then you
(17:14):
repeat what you believe the person is saying.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Oh, you believe you're repeating exactly what they're saying to
make sure that you're understanding what they're saying.
Speaker 2 (17:22):
Yeah, but usually when you repeat has a little bit
of an interpretation.
Speaker 1 (17:26):
Yes, but if you interpret it the wrong way, then
that person.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
And the person needs to correct and say, no, that's
not what I said. This is what I said. Okay,
let me repeat it again exactly, because a lot of
times usually the argument is not about that, it's about
something else. It's just the person is not telling you.
You know, I'm pissed out because two days ago I
expected this from you and you didn't do it, and
now I'm in a heightened state and now this bothered me.
(17:49):
So it's a way of you diffusing by saying what
I think you're saying is this. No, that's not it. Okay,
so explain it to me again. Oh so you're upset because.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Of that, Let me. Let me just say this, guys,
and this will go to another listener question before we go.
Because we do believe in couple's therapy. You don't always
have to go when there's a problem. You can do
it to stay consistent and stay on the same page,
which we have done. We've done it when there's a problem,
and we've done it when we want to just stay
consistent and with help each other. We are horrible at
this exercise. I'll just tell you we are not good
(18:17):
at it. This is what the therapist is.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
Very funny. Eric goes like this. Every time that I
say something, He's like, you know what, we can go
to a therapy about it. I'm gonna call let's go
to therapy about it?
Speaker 1 (18:27):
Yeah, because that helps it tough.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
I wand no intimated.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
I need a third party. I need someone in the middleways.
I want to have that person. You don't listen anything
I have to say. So I love I love a
good therapy session. But also we're not good at this
exercise as well. Let you know, this is what the
therapist tells us, So do your best. Please. We'll do
some more listener questions on our next episode, for sure,
(18:53):
but we appreciate you all. The next episode might be
me alone by the way, for a few weeks. We
appreciate you all listening. Thanks again. Remember if you have
something you want to ask us, please send it to
our dms at, he said ado Or email us at
Ericinros at iHeartRadio dot com. And uh, we love you guys.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Thank you guys. I'm going to miss you. Love you,
love you.
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Thanks for listening. Don't forget to write us a review
and tell us what you think.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
If you want to follow us on Instagram, check us
out at, he said ajo or sens at email Eric
and Ross at iHeartRadio dot com. He said. AJAB is
part of iHeartRadio's Mike Will Do That podcast network.
Speaker 1 (19:27):
See you next time.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Bye,
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