ADVERSITY: The Hard Things

We try to run from that which makes us uncomfortable, and yet the Hard Things are what shape us and make us shine. ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hello, my friend.
You know it's funny we try to run from adversity.

(00:25):
We don't like it when we're uncomfortable. We don't want
to go through tough times. We don't want to do
the hard thing. And yet those are the things that
shape us, that bring out the greatness, the amazing insights

(00:46):
and gifts and talents, and the depth of our compassion.
Those hard things, those are the things that make us shine. Hi, John,
Welcome to the Delilah Show. What can I do for you?

Speaker 2 (01:02):
Hey? So I wanted to call in and request a song.
So I had left an abusive household and my wife
and her family were extremely supportive. Her dad actually became
my best man, and through everything she's been, you know,
the rock in my life. She's been the stronghold. So

(01:22):
I was wanting to see if you could play.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Our wedding song.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
So you left an abusive household as a young person,
it sounds like yes, And how old were you when
your wife now wife? Then I'm assuming girlfriend said, dude,
this is not good for you.

Speaker 2 (01:40):
So I was actually sixteen seventeen.

Speaker 1 (01:43):
And how old was she?

Speaker 2 (01:45):
She's like a little over a year older than I am.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
And she was wise enough to say this is not
good for you.

Speaker 2 (01:51):
Yeah, I mean she's around for a little bit and
she's like, this is not healthy, you know, and then
me being over at her house, you know able to
able to see that.

Speaker 1 (02:02):
And how many years have you been together now?

Speaker 2 (02:05):
So we have actually been together for six years as
of Saturday.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
Congratulations. And her folks loved you from the beginning, thank you?

Speaker 2 (02:14):
Oh yeah, I mean they they took me and as
their own. They called me their son. Any chance to
get to strangers.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
And well you are their son now. I mean you
were like a son before, but now you're their son forever.
Most definitely what's your wife's name? First off?

Speaker 2 (02:32):
Morgan?

Speaker 1 (02:33):
And your amazing father in law that was your best man, Robert?
And how about your your your crazy family? Have they
come around? Have they owned their behavior or did you
just say I can't, I can't, I'm out of here.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
Honestly, I have not talked to them since I had
attempted to when I was there and it was not
working out whatsoever. Wow, Thankfully, my wife's family. I was
able to see it and help get me out of that.
You know, God's really, you know, taking shape in my life,
and you know, it's been amazing and beautiful to be

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able to see, you know, the change, and you know
what a real household and family looks like, and you're
really being able to just break those chains. I guess
I will.

Speaker 1 (03:18):
Play that song, and I hope that your life just
gets better and better with every passing day and that
you're able to turn around and pay it forward. No,
thank you, Hi, Amanda, Hi, how is your night going?

Speaker 3 (03:41):
It's going excellent.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
What can I do to add a note of joy
to this excellence?

Speaker 3 (03:48):
I've just been wanting to reach out and talk to you.
I've been following your show since I was a little girl.
I went through a hard time when I was younger,
and your show has brought me out of it. Listening
to all your stories and other stories on the radio
and the songs helped me come through it.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
Can I ask what kind of hard time? Not that
I'm prying into your business, but I bet there's somebody listening,
Amanda who might be going through a hard time that
might be inspired.

Speaker 3 (04:19):
I was burned in a back of hot water when
I was thirteen months old, and the song's helped me
get through my dating face of accepting myself and accepting others.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
So were you disfigured.

Speaker 3 (04:36):
I've had multiple skin grafts throughout my entire life until
I was twenty one, and I've living a predictive life.
Right now, I've got five kids.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
And you have five children, and you sound the same.

Speaker 3 (04:51):
Yes, five beautiful kids.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
Good for you. So God's done a lot of healing
on the outside, but mostly on the inside.

Speaker 3 (05:01):
Yes, ma'am.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
How old are your babies?

Speaker 3 (05:03):
I have a seventeen, fifteen, ten, and two seven year olds.

Speaker 1 (05:08):
So your hands are full, your days are full, your
heart is full, yes, ma'am. And you want me to
pick a song to celebrate all that you've been through
and all the progress you've.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
Made, Yes, ma'am. I would love for you too.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
Can you look yourself in the mirror, look at yourself
in the eye, and say, dang, I am beautiful, I
am gorgeous, I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

Speaker 3 (05:33):
I'm striving to do that every day.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
Keep striving practice it, even if you don't yet believe it.
Words have power, and when you speak those beautiful words
over yourself into your life. That has power.

Speaker 3 (05:49):
Yes, Pam, it does.

Speaker 4 (05:50):
Well.

Speaker 1 (05:50):
Let me play a beautiful song for you. God. Bless you, God,
bless you.

Speaker 3 (05:54):
Thank you.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
Good evening. Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who is this?

Speaker 4 (06:09):
This is Lindsay.

Speaker 1 (06:10):
Lindsey, thank you for calling. Are you an old friend,
somebody who's been listening for years or a new friend
who just found us.

Speaker 4 (06:20):
I've been listening to you for a few years. It
always brings me peace.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Thank you, thank you. Welcome tonight. What can I do
for you?

Speaker 4 (06:27):
So I heard that you were asking if there was
anyone on our.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
Minds and on your mind, on your heart, somebody who's inspired.

Speaker 4 (06:35):
You all the above. My dad passed away in December,
and tonight was my mom's first anniversary with autum.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
How many years forty? Oh my word, yep, that's a
whole whole lot of time to love one person.

Speaker 3 (06:51):
It was a.

Speaker 4 (06:52):
Beautiful marriage and we took her out to dinner and
you know, but it just it wasn't the same without him,
of course no.

Speaker 1 (07:00):
And you all thought back tears and it didn't work,
and you end up crying. But she knows you're there.
She knows you're holding space for her, she's doing the
same for you.

Speaker 4 (07:10):
Yep, that sums it up. She's very strong and she's
very positive. She actually also has cancer, so it's been
a pretty hard year for her family.

Speaker 1 (07:21):
How old are you.

Speaker 4 (07:22):
I'm thirty, Oh, honey.

Speaker 1 (07:25):
Way way way too young to have this kind of loss.

Speaker 4 (07:30):
Yeah, but you know, it's the small things that makes
the day worth it.

Speaker 1 (07:34):
So tell me something wonderful about your dad, like a
favorite memory, something that's so small and so simple, but
so profound.

Speaker 4 (07:44):
Dancing around in my living room to the Beatles.

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Dad was a Beatle fan. That means he had good taste.

Speaker 4 (07:49):
Of me huge he did. Yeah, we would. When my
mom and my sister went on a walk, I would
stay in there with him. I was maybe six or
seven years old, and we would dance around like fools
in our living room to meet the Beatles album. So
with all of the original classics.

Speaker 1 (08:08):
Let me see what I can do to bring those
memories back to your heart. Thank you, Thank you for Colin,
Thank you for sharing. You know, I love love love
hearing from people. And although it's not your marriage, it's
your parents' marriage. But who have figured out how to
navigate the ups and downs and the heartbreaks and the

(08:32):
twist and the turns and still have such a love
filled union.

Speaker 4 (08:39):
I know it wasn't easy for them. They had their
ups and downs, but they always came out stronger the
other side.

Speaker 1 (08:45):
It sounds like there was a whole lot of love.

Speaker 4 (08:49):
Definitely not missing any of that. We have plenty of
love going around in our family.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
Let me play a song to honor Daddy. What's his name?

Speaker 3 (08:59):
Don?

Speaker 1 (09:00):
I will play a song for Dad and Mom, and
I'll ask everybody to send healing thoughts and prayers AND's
direction and just ask God to grant her more time
with you.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
Thank you.

Speaker 4 (09:12):
I really appreciate that.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
Thank you, Honey, here's a big hug. If I could
reach through the phone lines, I would give you the
biggest time.

Speaker 4 (09:19):
I appreciate that.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
Ritchie, welcome. How can I help you tonight? I'd like
for you to.

Speaker 4 (09:31):
Play a song for my stepdaughter who passed and last year.

Speaker 3 (09:36):
And my wife passed.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
Susan and I sit every night I work.

Speaker 3 (09:41):
With one of your sons work I don't want to
say where, and.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
I'm out driving around every night thinking of them. And
if you could play a song for me, Okay, if
you have the job that one of my sons has,
and I'm guessing you might be wearing a certain apparel,
type of apparel that goes with that. Josh, how are

(10:06):
you keeping your sanity with all that heartache inside?

Speaker 4 (10:11):
It's very very odd. I just try to hold everything together.

Speaker 1 (10:16):
You know, I'll be here taking care of you at night.
How's that I listen to.

Speaker 3 (10:21):
You every night though.

Speaker 4 (10:22):
I love you the best.

Speaker 1 (10:24):
Thank you. Let me play a song for your heart. Okay,
thank Youah, have a good night, sweetie. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.