October 28, 2024 • 8 mins
Forgiveness doesn't mean you must be in a relationship with someone, it means you have freed yourself from bitterness. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I have put together some of my favorite radio moments
here to share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Do you.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Find yourself so angry, so upset, feeling so bitter that
you don't even want to reach out to the people
closest to you? Is there room in your heart for forgiveness? Now?
If somebody has done something that is evil, that is wrong,
(00:40):
they purposefully hurt you, wounded you. Forgiving them doesn't mean
you have to enter into a relationship with them. It
means you have to forgive them and then never perhaps
see them again, because if they're toxic, they're toxic. But
if you are walking around playing the role of the victim,
(01:01):
nothing is fair. Trust me, nothing's fair. Okay, let's just
establish that right now, because bitterness steals your joy and
it destroys your body, it steals your health.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Hi, David, what can I do for you this evening?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
I was hoping you could play a song for me.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Okay, tell me who are you thinking about and why
you need to hear a song.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
I'm thinking about a woman that I was involved with
a little while ago, and we broke up and we've
both moved on, and I found out that she is
getting married, which I think is really great. I mean,
when we were together, it was really good, and we
were really good together, but it ran its costs, and
(01:47):
when we parted it really wasn't on good terms. But
since then, you know, time passes and you forgive. And
I found out she's getting married, and Ernest, I'm really
happy for her, and I really hope that the man
she's with, you know, just fulfills all her dreams and
gives her the life that you know, we thought we
(02:07):
were going to have together and we couldn't. And I
just I don't know if she's listening or not. I
know she listens to your show religiously, and if she's listening,
you know, I just want to wish her luck, her
and her new fiance, and just hope they have a
really beautiful life together.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I'm really proud of you, because when I say things
like that, I really don't mean them. I really have
that little bitter thing left in me.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
But you're a better person than I am.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
No.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
You know, it was a bad breakup, and you know,
we were both crushed and we were both devastated, and
we kept trying and trying, and it just wasn't happening.
And you know, in the end, all things happened for
a reason, and she's an amazing person. He's a lucky,
lucky guy.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
All Right, I will play a song for them, And
I'm really proud of you for your wonderfully forgiving positive attitude.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Well, thank you so much. Listen. I love your show.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Thanks.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
I really appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Kerrie, welcome.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Well, I would like to dedicate a song to my
son's dad. His name is Michael. If we haven't seen
each other in two years. He's a truck driver, and
we've been talking the past couple days about him coming
through town to see his son, and in the process
of talking, emotions have been stirring up that haven't been
there for a.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
While two years since he's seen his son.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah. Well, there's also been a lot of conflict with
my family and there my family doesn't feel like he
should see his son at all. They're the ones that
split us up in the first place, when we broke
up right before my son was born. Yeah, they're both
grown up and responsible adults. It just seems like the
right time to tell him how I really feel.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So your family has been meddling in your relationship and
keeping this man away from his child for years. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
When I found out I was pregnant, I was nineteen,
and my mom told me, she said, you need to
leave him. We'll raise this baby. And listening to my mother,
of course, and not my heart. I want to kick
myself every.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Day for that. Well, kicking yourself every day isn't going
to do any good. But certainly encouraging this man to
have a relationship with his son would be a good thing.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That's what I've been doing.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
How old are you now, Carrie.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I'm twenty nine, So you've grown up, You've matured, Yes,
and you realized how bad your son needs a dad.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yes I do, Yes, I do very much. I've seen
the reaction on my son's face the past couple days
since he's been talking to his dad, and it's a
very positive thing. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I hope that you two are able to reconcile and
work things out. But whether you are or not, I
hope that your son is able to have a relationship
with his father.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yes, I do too.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Let me find a song.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
About hope and rebuilding things all right?
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Hello, Barbara, this is Delilah.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
Hello, Deliah, how wonderful to speak to you.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
You've got a special person on your heart tonight that
you'd like to get in touch with.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Who is this person?
Speaker 5 (05:20):
My daughter?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
What's her name?
Speaker 5 (05:22):
Claudia?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
And how old is Claudia Fiba?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
How old are you?
Speaker 5 (05:27):
I am sixty nine?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay? How did you lose touch with Claudia?
Speaker 5 (05:31):
Well, she divorced her husband two years ago. When I
have a sixteen year old granddaughter, and my daughter chose
to have this gentleman come and live with her, and I,
you know, she asked me, and I just told her
how I felt that the way I raised her who
was not acceptable. And I haven't heard from her since
and it's been two years.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
So because I mean, did you say, if you do this,
I don't want anything to do with you, or did
you just say I disagree with your decision.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
I disagree with it? And I said, but you know,
my daughters are always open. You're my daughter.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
She asked you your opinion, you gave her your opinion,
and then she turned her back on you, because you're honest.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
That's right. And Delilah, I spoke with my priests. He
brings me communion every Sunday because I can't get to charge,
and he told me just to pray for her. Well,
I pray and pray and pray, but I don't hear anything.
And I'm afraid of it.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
If you don't hear something soon and you have had
no contact with your granddaughter either.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
She comes Christmas and I give her a present and
her birthday and that's it. I don't see them.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Oh, barb, Well, I am going to play a song
for you. I'm going to pray that God will work
in this situation. I hope that your daughter realizes that,
you know, you two are allowed to have disagreements and
she's allowed to live her life the way she sees fit,
and you're allowed to comment if she asks you, right,
But that doesn't mean you can't have a relationship.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
In my situation. The Lord has.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Called my mom home, but we had a little falling
out because I didn't agree with.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Her living situation. It was sort of a revere whole situation.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
But you know, we both had to realize that we
can we can have our separate lives and still respect
and love each other absolutely.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Hi, Becky, what can I do for you.
Speaker 6 (07:17):
I'm calling because my parents they were together for nineteen
years and we went through one hell of a year.
My mom decided to leave us, and I'm helping my
dad raise my younger sister. I have twin girls, and
we're just trying to be I guess the support to
my dad. And it's really hard because you were saying
(07:37):
how forgiveness is really important. It's just so hard for
us to forgive her because she wants to come back
to us, and it just seems okay.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
But what are your options when it comes to forgiveness.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Oh, there's not much, I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
No, you have two options. You can either forgive her
and let go of the anger and the resentment, or
you can hold on to that and be unforgiving. But
understand that forgiveness does not mean that you allow her
to come back into the situation. Forgiveness means you let
go of your bitterness and your hurt and your rage.
(08:14):
But if she's not a healthy person, if she's not
making healthy choices, then bringing her back into that environment
may not be what's best for you kids. If she
chose to leave and she went off and made bad choices,
then by all means, I would suggest you forgive her,
because to stay embittered will only hurt you. I so
(08:38):
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
I have put together some of my favorite radio moments
here to share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:13):
Do you.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Find yourself so angry, so upset, feeling so bitter that
you don't even want to reach out to the people
closest to you? Is there room in your heart for forgiveness? Now?
If somebody has done something that is evil, that is wrong,
(00:40):
they purposefully hurt you, wounded you. Forgiving them doesn't mean
you have to enter into a relationship with them. It
means you have to forgive them and then never perhaps
see them again, because if they're toxic, they're toxic. But
if you are walking around playing the role of the victim,
(01:01):
nothing is fair. Trust me, nothing's fair. Okay, let's just
establish that right now, because bitterness steals your joy and
it destroys your body, it steals your health.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Hi, David, what can I do for you this evening?
Speaker 4 (01:20):
I was hoping you could play a song for me.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Okay, tell me who are you thinking about and why
you need to hear a song.
Speaker 4 (01:27):
I'm thinking about a woman that I was involved with
a little while ago, and we broke up and we've
both moved on, and I found out that she is
getting married, which I think is really great. I mean,
when we were together, it was really good, and we
were really good together, but it ran its costs, and
(01:47):
when we parted it really wasn't on good terms. But
since then, you know, time passes and you forgive. And
I found out she's getting married, and Ernest, I'm really
happy for her, and I really hope that the man
she's with, you know, just fulfills all her dreams and
gives her the life that you know, we thought we
(02:07):
were going to have together and we couldn't. And I
just I don't know if she's listening or not. I
know she listens to your show religiously, and if she's listening,
you know, I just want to wish her luck, her
and her new fiance, and just hope they have a
really beautiful life together.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I'm really proud of you, because when I say things
like that, I really don't mean them. I really have
that little bitter thing left in me.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
But you're a better person than I am.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
No.
Speaker 4 (02:38):
You know, it was a bad breakup, and you know,
we were both crushed and we were both devastated, and
we kept trying and trying, and it just wasn't happening.
And you know, in the end, all things happened for
a reason, and she's an amazing person. He's a lucky,
lucky guy.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
All Right, I will play a song for them, And
I'm really proud of you for your wonderfully forgiving positive attitude.
Speaker 4 (03:00):
Well, thank you so much. Listen. I love your show.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Thanks.
Speaker 4 (03:02):
I really appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Kerrie, welcome.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Well, I would like to dedicate a song to my
son's dad. His name is Michael. If we haven't seen
each other in two years. He's a truck driver, and
we've been talking the past couple days about him coming
through town to see his son, and in the process
of talking, emotions have been stirring up that haven't been
there for a.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
While two years since he's seen his son.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Yeah. Well, there's also been a lot of conflict with
my family and there my family doesn't feel like he
should see his son at all. They're the ones that
split us up in the first place, when we broke
up right before my son was born. Yeah, they're both
grown up and responsible adults. It just seems like the
right time to tell him how I really feel.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
So your family has been meddling in your relationship and
keeping this man away from his child for years. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
When I found out I was pregnant, I was nineteen,
and my mom told me, she said, you need to
leave him. We'll raise this baby. And listening to my mother,
of course, and not my heart. I want to kick
myself every.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Day for that. Well, kicking yourself every day isn't going
to do any good. But certainly encouraging this man to
have a relationship with his son would be a good thing.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
That's what I've been doing.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
How old are you now, Carrie.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I'm twenty nine, So you've grown up, You've matured, Yes,
and you realized how bad your son needs a dad.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Yes I do, Yes, I do very much. I've seen
the reaction on my son's face the past couple days
since he's been talking to his dad, and it's a
very positive thing. Well.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I hope that you two are able to reconcile and
work things out. But whether you are or not, I
hope that your son is able to have a relationship
with his father.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yes, I do too.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Let me find a song.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
About hope and rebuilding things all right?
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Hello, Barbara, this is Delilah.
Speaker 5 (05:11):
Hello, Deliah, how wonderful to speak to you.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
You've got a special person on your heart tonight that
you'd like to get in touch with.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
Who is this person?
Speaker 5 (05:20):
My daughter?
Speaker 1 (05:21):
What's her name?
Speaker 5 (05:22):
Claudia?
Speaker 2 (05:23):
And how old is Claudia Fiba?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
How old are you?
Speaker 5 (05:27):
I am sixty nine?
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay? How did you lose touch with Claudia?
Speaker 5 (05:31):
Well, she divorced her husband two years ago. When I
have a sixteen year old granddaughter, and my daughter chose
to have this gentleman come and live with her, and I,
you know, she asked me, and I just told her
how I felt that the way I raised her who
was not acceptable. And I haven't heard from her since
and it's been two years.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
So because I mean, did you say, if you do this,
I don't want anything to do with you, or did
you just say I disagree with your decision.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
I disagree with it? And I said, but you know,
my daughters are always open. You're my daughter.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
She asked you your opinion, you gave her your opinion,
and then she turned her back on you, because you're honest.
Speaker 5 (06:07):
That's right. And Delilah, I spoke with my priests. He
brings me communion every Sunday because I can't get to charge,
and he told me just to pray for her. Well,
I pray and pray and pray, but I don't hear anything.
And I'm afraid of it.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
If you don't hear something soon and you have had
no contact with your granddaughter either.
Speaker 5 (06:25):
She comes Christmas and I give her a present and
her birthday and that's it. I don't see them.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Oh, barb, Well, I am going to play a song
for you. I'm going to pray that God will work
in this situation. I hope that your daughter realizes that,
you know, you two are allowed to have disagreements and
she's allowed to live her life the way she sees fit,
and you're allowed to comment if she asks you, right,
But that doesn't mean you can't have a relationship.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
In my situation. The Lord has.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Called my mom home, but we had a little falling
out because I didn't agree with.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Her living situation. It was sort of a revere whole situation.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
But you know, we both had to realize that we
can we can have our separate lives and still respect
and love each other absolutely.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Hi, Becky, what can I do for you.
Speaker 6 (07:17):
I'm calling because my parents they were together for nineteen
years and we went through one hell of a year.
My mom decided to leave us, and I'm helping my
dad raise my younger sister. I have twin girls, and
we're just trying to be I guess the support to
my dad. And it's really hard because you were saying
(07:37):
how forgiveness is really important. It's just so hard for
us to forgive her because she wants to come back
to us, and it just seems okay.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
But what are your options when it comes to forgiveness.
Speaker 6 (07:50):
Oh, there's not much, I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
No, you have two options. You can either forgive her
and let go of the anger and the resentment, or
you can hold on to that and be unforgiving. But
understand that forgiveness does not mean that you allow her
to come back into the situation. Forgiveness means you let
go of your bitterness and your hurt and your rage.
(08:14):
But if she's not a healthy person, if she's not
making healthy choices, then bringing her back into that environment
may not be what's best for you kids. If she
chose to leave and she went off and made bad choices,
then by all means, I would suggest you forgive her,
because to stay embittered will only hurt you. I so
(08:38):
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah
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