CHEATER, CHEATER: It's a choice, not a mistake.

Loyalty to the one you committed to is a responsibility, also, NOT a choice. ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. If you are
in a committed relationship, cheating is a choice, not a mistake.

(00:24):
You can't say I made a little mistake. That's a
ball faced lie. It's not a mistake. It's a choice.
It's not an accident. It's an on purpose and loyalty,
Loyalty to the one you love, to the one you
committed to, to your family, to your children. Loyalty is
a responsibility, not a choice. You can't choose, you know

(00:49):
and say, well on this day, I'm not really gonna
be faithful. And I'm not just talking about physical cheating.
I'm talking about emotional cheating. I'm talking about betraying your
loved one. So just a little, a little wisdom for you. Hi, Daniel,

(01:10):
this is Delilah. What can I do for you tonight? Well,
I want you to play a song for me if
you can. It's a request that I want to dedicate
to my wife, Maria. Maria is your wife. Yeah, what
do you want to tell Maria? I just want to
let her know that this song is for her and
every word to this song means everything in my heart

(01:31):
that I'm trying to get to her and that I
am very sorry for what happened. And there's just not
enough words that I can say that will ever take
away the pain that she is hurting right now. But
I hope one day in her life that she'll find
somewhere in her heart to forgive me. And I really
really love her, and I miss her and the kids,

(01:51):
and I just want to come Okay, okay, okay, okay.
You know you can't call me and say this without
me saying, what did you do that you got to
the curve? Buddy? Oh? Yeah, I did something foolish and
I should never have done. I'm embarrassed about it. Did
it Did it involve your lips bumping into somebody else's
sort of yeah, I hate it when that happens, very

(02:16):
stupid thing, and I was I don't know why it happened,
It just happened. But it's not happening now. No, it's
not ten um. I'll do anything in the world to
get my family back. And when this happened, was it
an emotional thing that happened? Did you feel an emotional
attachment to the other person or was it just one

(02:37):
of those kind of just a stupid freak accident. No, babe,
that's not an accident, that's an on purpose. Yeah, you're right. Yeah,
I will play a song and good luck, Thank you,
you have a good day. Hi, good evening. Who is this?

(03:00):
Hi Toli and my name was Apprecia. I am so
excited to talk to you right now. Hi, La Precia.
What can I do for you? I've been married since
I was eighteen. How old are you now? Okay, so
you're still young. Well, a couple of weeks ago, me
and my husband finally wind up talking again after a
couple of years, and we're thinking about getting back together.
But I'm just so afraid that he's going to cheat

(03:23):
on me, because that's why we weren't together. He cheated
on me a number of times, and I stood by
him until one day I couldn't take it anymore and
we separated. And now talking about getting back together again.
And how long have you been a part? About two
and a half years. So you were a child when
you married him, a child when you separated from it. Yeah,
so I went through by at a young age. So

(03:44):
during the two years, you've been separated, Has he done
anything to show you that he is changing his ways?
Or is it the same old, same Oh, and he's
just you know, hoping that you'll open the doors to
your heart in your home and give him another chance.
It's the same old, same old. He lined up getting
another female pregnant in having twins. So what's the question?

(04:05):
I don't know what to do. It's like, you know
what to do. I know, I just just loving him
so much, But you know what to do? Yes, I
do what you're asking for? Is is there any hope
that that if you took him back he would change?
That's what I'm praying for it. Yeah, but you know
what probably not going to happen? Is it? Probably not?

(04:28):
You know, it's it's not even the physical aspects of
cheating that hurts so bad. It's the fact that your
spirit is violated. You feel like you've opened up, you've loved,
you've trusted, and that was just thrown away. So why
would you want to do that again? I asked myself
that question. Sometimes I don't think it's gonna work. It

(04:48):
just it just hurts so bad. I guess because I
was so young, and honey, it wouldn't have mattered if
you were eighteen or twenty or forty eight. When you
love like you love, and when you love completely and
you give all of yourself to somebody and you're you're
just completely into him and then they destroy that, it hurts.
I'm not going to tell you to stop loving him,
because that's foolishness. You're not going to stop loving him.

(05:09):
I'm not going to tell you to stop hoping that
he'll change, because you're gonna hope he's going to change anyway.
I am going to tell you if you open yourself
up once again to be intimately connected to somebody who's
a lying, cheating dog, you're gonna get fleas or something worse.

(05:36):
Camille wrote and shared an email, and the title of
it is don't be like Me. She writes, Delilah, this
is the story of the death of my marriage, my
husband of twenty eight years, anthy and I seem to
have the perfect life for wonderful sons. The big house,
eight cars, and lots and lots of family around. Anthony

(06:02):
and I had had many years of great times together.
Our problems seemed to appear when our kids were gone
and it was just us alone. Delilah. I thought this
would be the best time of our life, but we
drifted apart. No communication. Life was boring. Someone else came
along and showed me some attention and I responded. Never

(06:24):
did I ever think of straying, but I did, and
this led to our divorce. Anthony was so hurt by
my actions he didn't even want to try to work
it out. My message to anyone contemplating straying outside of
their marriage for attention, don't do it. Use all of

(06:45):
your power and strength to reconnect with the one you
love and make it work. It's been four years now
and I miss my husband so very much. I will
always love him, and he knows how sorry I am.
But he has moved on with his life and he's
getting married to a wonderful person next month. I want

(07:05):
our marriage back and I will never have that. So
to your listeners, don't be like me. Sincerely, Camille, Hi, Delile,
this is Judy. Judy welcome. What can I do for you? Well,

(07:26):
First of all, I want to tell you you're the best.
I love listening to you. I just want to dedicate
a song to my husband. His name is Brad. How
long has Brad been your betrothed, your beloved Brad Hason,
my husband for nine years. The reason I wanted to
did a case song to him is we went out
when we were younger. Things didn't work out, and he

(07:46):
kind of went his way and he was a really
playloy and uh, she pauses out how can I say
this delicately? He was a jerk, a dog, and he
was looking woman's man. And twenty years later we got
married and I had two children, two boys, And how

(08:08):
many did he have? He didn't have anybody, He didn't
have a few marriages. When we got married. No one
thought that it would work out. And for good reason,
and all of his friends, you know, we're even making
guests that it wouldn't last because he couldn't, you know,
stay faithful and exactly. And we have been married for
nine years. He's been an unbelievable stepfather to my two boys.

(08:30):
He's been my best friend and he has been wonderful.
So what changed in his heart and his spirit that
made him realize that using women really wasn't a good idea? Well,
you know, I think he kind of did everything he
wanted to do for twenty years, and then you've kind
of got really old, and then I gave him a

(08:51):
call and we got together and he felt it was
right and he is been unbelievable. But see, most people
who start out on a path going from point A
to point B don't end up at point C. So
if he changed his attitude about women and respecting women
and not being promiscuous, it wasn't that he had gotten

(09:12):
it out of his system, because that's addictive behavior that
you know. That's like saying, while I'm doing cocaine until
I you know, I'm tired of doing it. Something changed
in him that said, you know what, I need to
alter my worldview and the way I treat people and
take a different course. It's because he really loves me,
I know it. If his love for you motivated him

(09:33):
to do that, that's a pretty amazing love. And it
is and nobody believes it. And every day we look
at each other. When he laughed and he goes, I
can't believe we're married after going out when we were
nineteen years old, and he's just the best and we
are best friends, and I tell everybody, don't ever get
married unless someone's your best friend. Then I guess that

(09:53):
this was the time, and it will never end. I
know for a fact that he would never do anything
different and do anything with anyone but me, And it's
just an amazing story. That is an amazing story, and
you are very, very blessed to have that kind of trust.
And I'm so lucky. And but he's also so lucky

(10:16):
because the best thing that ever could have happened to
him with me and my two children. And I really
feel that way, and so does he. I'm going to
find a good song for you too. I'm proud of
him for making those changes, and I'm thrilled for you
that you're with a loan of your life. I so

(10:36):
hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as
I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with
you each weekday. And hey, it's Delilah.