November 21, 2024 • 8 mins
I hope you don't waste time and energy comparing yourself to others... but we all do it! Let's focus more on celebrating each other, and loving ourselves. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Do Love. Do
you ever compare yourself to others? Do you ever waste
time and energy thinking I'm not good enough, I'm not
(00:24):
smart enough, I'm not thin enough, I'm not young enough.
Or do you ever do it the opposite way? Oh,
she's not as good as me, she's not as smart
as me.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Blah blah blah. Stop doing that.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Don't compare yourself to others. Don't judge others. Don't compare
yourself to others. Celebrate the differences, celebrate the joy in
your life and in your world.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Mandy, how are you tonight?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Oh? All right?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
What can I do for you? On the Delilah Show.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I was wondering if you could play a song for
my boyfriend Stanley. See, we got into a fight earlier
today and we didn't really get a chance to make up.
I hate to admit it, but sometimes I'm a little
bit insecure and I sometimes doubt his true feelings for me.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
So are you a little bit insecure or are you
a lot insecure?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I think it's more a lot insecure.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
So do you drive him nuts with your not trusting
him and not believing he really feels like he says
he feels.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, I think so. I think I drive myself nuts sometimes.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Just a small piece of advice for mother Delilah.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Okay, stop before you're join this very good advice.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
A lot of people think that self worth and self
confidence is real important.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
But you know what I think.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I think if you look to yourself for your worth
or your importance, you're never going to feel like you're
good enough. At least I never did that. In the
whole face of the universe since time began, there's never
been another human being exactly like me, with my insights
and my talents and my skills. Then all of a sudden,
I realized that I had a lot of worth.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Oh thanks.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
So if you're looking at yourself going, oh man, I
don't look as pretty as those other women I see,
and I know they're going to be flirting with them.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
And I never finished the degree that I was going
to go.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
To school and get and I'm not making a million
dollars in my hair as flat. I mean, that's how
I felt this morning when I got up. If you're
looking at that, then you're always going to be insecure.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
That's true.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
So look at that and then say, you know what, sweetie,
I'm blessed to have you in my life and I'm
not going to mess this up.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, all right, good luck? Thanks, Hi, thanks for calling.
This is Delilah.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
Hi, this is Kathleen Hayward.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
I wanted to know if I could request a song?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Sure, who are you thinking of all.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Those women who happened breakup?
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Boy, in my world, that's a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I know three women right now who are going through
breakups with their partners, their significant others, their husbands.
Speaker 5 (03:11):
But the sea is this is an encouraging song.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
And are you going through a breakup or you just
want to encourage others? I just want to encourage others,
all right? And what do you want to tell any
woman that's crying the blues tonight?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You can get to it.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
You will fall down, you made a crawl, but you
will get up.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
And move on.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah, sometimes you gotta crawl before you can walk and
run again.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Huh, that's right. So long as you don't go crawling
back to somebody begging for their love.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
No, don't do that, that kind of crawling.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
We don't want. No, no, all right, you have a
good night.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Thank you for calling, thank you for listening, and thank
you for encouraging. Okay, you have a good night too.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Hi Am Delilah. Who's this?
Speaker 6 (04:10):
This is Brandy.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (04:12):
I have to ask you a couple questions which you
think about something?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Okay, tell me your situation and I'll give you my
most honest opinion.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Thank you. Okay. Well, I'm a senior in high school
this year, and I've had like a lot of boyfriends
on and off, and they've all been kind of like,
you know, all wanting one thing, you know, and it's
I'm kind of.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Hopefully they weren't getting it.
Speaker 6 (04:31):
No, okay, good for myself, you know. And so no
guys really want a girl that's gonna sit.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
You know.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
And so true love waits, Brandy. If they're not willing
to wait, they don't really love you.
Speaker 6 (04:40):
Yeah, and this one guy is and he's so oh
my gosh, he bends over backwards for me and I
care about him so much, but I can't really tell anybody.
I mean, I'm so attracted to him, but he's not
that attractive of a person, but his personality makes him
everybody thinks he's ugly except for me because I don't know.
I know him like nobody does, you know, and it's
I can't tell anybody about it, and he bends over
(05:00):
backwards for me, and I just don't know what to
do because I stay like thinking about him.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
You can't tell anybody about him because they'll think what
I don't know.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
It's so hard not to care what other people think.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Because you know, Brandy listened to Mother Delilah. If you
have the backbone and the strength to turn guys down
because you know that that's not the right thing.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah, that's not how I grew up, then you should.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Have the backbone and the strength to not give a
darn when somebody thinks about someone else.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
If he's a good person, yeah, and.
Speaker 6 (05:29):
I'm trying to like, he won't tell me that he
likes me. You know, he won't tell.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Me, but I know it does he show it, does
he act it does he does? He is he kind?
Speaker 6 (05:36):
Yes, Like he lives so far away from me, but yeah,
he'll come and bring me to school at seven o'clock
in the morning, you know.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Just brand Brandy Brandy. If he's getting up early to
drive you to school, you know he's crazy about you.
What else matters?
Speaker 6 (05:50):
I don't know. It's it's high school.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
You know it's high school.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
But here's the thing, Like I said, if you have
the backbone and the courage and the strength the stand
up for what you know is right, then you know
it's not right to listen to unkind things other people say,
especially about somebody's physical appearance.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Yeah. I mean I tell myself that all the time,
that it's so different hearing it from SOMEBODYO.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Follow what you know to be good and right and true. Okay,
what's his name?
Speaker 6 (06:17):
Brandon?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
All right, let me play a song for you.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Okay, thanks, Sarah, welcome. What can I do for you?
On the Delilah Show?
Speaker 5 (06:30):
Yes, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I'm wonderful. Thank you for asking.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I listened to your show all the time. I absolutely
love it. Well. I've been married for a little over
a year and Ray, when my husband and I started dating,
his ex girlfriend was trying to patch things up with him,
and he chose me very early on in a relationship.
And I'm just so blessed and thankful that he chose me.
We got married and we now have a six month
(06:54):
old little girl. And he was just the most amazing
man in the world. And I'm just so thankful and
blessed as he chose me.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
And it sounds like, as much as you love him,
he's very blessed that he chose you.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
He is a wonderful, wonderful person, and I'm just I
feel very lucky to have him.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Well, it sounds like he's moved on and has forgotten her.
When are you going to move on and forget her?
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm working on it. It's a process.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Come on, honey, you're raising his baby. Let it go.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Yeah, she was just she was such a close part
of the family. His mom sometimes mentions her name so okay, and.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
She probably always will so. But this isn't about his
mom or him. It's about you. That you're defining your
husband's role in your life and your position with him
as the one he chose over her means you need
to get over.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Her, right, Yep? I agree with you.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
That's baggage you're carrying around.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
He's not.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Make a vow to yourself that from this day forward,
you won't consider yourself that he chose me over her.
One how about the God brought you together and it's
the way it was supposed to be.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
Okay, I think I can do that.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Okay, you work on that, and I'll work on that song.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
Okay, thank you very much.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey it's Delilah.
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Do Love. Do
you ever compare yourself to others? Do you ever waste
time and energy thinking I'm not good enough, I'm not
(00:24):
smart enough, I'm not thin enough, I'm not young enough.
Or do you ever do it the opposite way? Oh,
she's not as good as me, she's not as smart
as me.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
Blah blah blah. Stop doing that.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Don't compare yourself to others. Don't judge others. Don't compare
yourself to others. Celebrate the differences, celebrate the joy in
your life and in your world.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Mandy, how are you tonight?
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Oh? All right?
Speaker 2 (01:00):
What can I do for you? On the Delilah Show.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I was wondering if you could play a song for
my boyfriend Stanley. See, we got into a fight earlier
today and we didn't really get a chance to make up.
I hate to admit it, but sometimes I'm a little
bit insecure and I sometimes doubt his true feelings for me.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
So are you a little bit insecure or are you
a lot insecure?
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I think it's more a lot insecure.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
So do you drive him nuts with your not trusting
him and not believing he really feels like he says
he feels.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Yeah, I think so. I think I drive myself nuts sometimes.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Just a small piece of advice for mother Delilah.
Speaker 3 (01:34):
Okay, stop before you're join this very good advice.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
A lot of people think that self worth and self
confidence is real important.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
But you know what I think.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
I think if you look to yourself for your worth
or your importance, you're never going to feel like you're
good enough. At least I never did that. In the
whole face of the universe since time began, there's never
been another human being exactly like me, with my insights
and my talents and my skills. Then all of a sudden,
I realized that I had a lot of worth.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Oh thanks.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
So if you're looking at yourself going, oh man, I
don't look as pretty as those other women I see,
and I know they're going to be flirting with them.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
And I never finished the degree that I was going
to go.
Speaker 4 (02:17):
To school and get and I'm not making a million
dollars in my hair as flat. I mean, that's how
I felt this morning when I got up. If you're
looking at that, then you're always going to be insecure.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
That's true.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
So look at that and then say, you know what, sweetie,
I'm blessed to have you in my life and I'm
not going to mess this up.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, all right, good luck? Thanks, Hi, thanks for calling.
This is Delilah.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
Hi, this is Kathleen Hayward.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 3 (02:52):
I wanted to know if I could request a song?
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Sure, who are you thinking of all.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Those women who happened breakup?
Speaker 5 (03:02):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Boy, in my world, that's a lot.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
I know three women right now who are going through
breakups with their partners, their significant others, their husbands.
Speaker 5 (03:11):
But the sea is this is an encouraging song.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
And are you going through a breakup or you just
want to encourage others? I just want to encourage others,
all right? And what do you want to tell any
woman that's crying the blues tonight?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
You can get to it.
Speaker 5 (03:28):
You will fall down, you made a crawl, but you
will get up.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
And move on.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Yeah, sometimes you gotta crawl before you can walk and
run again.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Huh, that's right. So long as you don't go crawling
back to somebody begging for their love.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
No, don't do that, that kind of crawling.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
We don't want. No, no, all right, you have a
good night.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Thank you for calling, thank you for listening, and thank
you for encouraging. Okay, you have a good night too.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Hi Am Delilah. Who's this?
Speaker 6 (04:10):
This is Brandy.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What can I do for you?
Speaker 6 (04:12):
I have to ask you a couple questions which you
think about something?
Speaker 4 (04:15):
Okay, tell me your situation and I'll give you my
most honest opinion.
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Thank you. Okay. Well, I'm a senior in high school
this year, and I've had like a lot of boyfriends
on and off, and they've all been kind of like,
you know, all wanting one thing, you know, and it's
I'm kind of.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Hopefully they weren't getting it.
Speaker 6 (04:31):
No, okay, good for myself, you know. And so no
guys really want a girl that's gonna sit.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
You know.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
And so true love waits, Brandy. If they're not willing
to wait, they don't really love you.
Speaker 6 (04:40):
Yeah, and this one guy is and he's so oh
my gosh, he bends over backwards for me and I
care about him so much, but I can't really tell anybody.
I mean, I'm so attracted to him, but he's not
that attractive of a person, but his personality makes him
everybody thinks he's ugly except for me because I don't know.
I know him like nobody does, you know, and it's
I can't tell anybody about it, and he bends over
(05:00):
backwards for me, and I just don't know what to
do because I stay like thinking about him.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
You can't tell anybody about him because they'll think what
I don't know.
Speaker 6 (05:07):
It's so hard not to care what other people think.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
Because you know, Brandy listened to Mother Delilah. If you
have the backbone and the strength to turn guys down
because you know that that's not the right thing.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah, that's not how I grew up, then you should.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Have the backbone and the strength to not give a
darn when somebody thinks about someone else.
Speaker 2 (05:26):
If he's a good person, yeah, and.
Speaker 6 (05:29):
I'm trying to like, he won't tell me that he
likes me. You know, he won't tell.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Me, but I know it does he show it, does
he act it does he does? He is he kind?
Speaker 6 (05:36):
Yes, Like he lives so far away from me, but yeah,
he'll come and bring me to school at seven o'clock
in the morning, you know.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Just brand Brandy Brandy. If he's getting up early to
drive you to school, you know he's crazy about you.
What else matters?
Speaker 6 (05:50):
I don't know. It's it's high school.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
You know it's high school.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
But here's the thing, Like I said, if you have
the backbone and the courage and the strength the stand
up for what you know is right, then you know
it's not right to listen to unkind things other people say,
especially about somebody's physical appearance.
Speaker 6 (06:07):
Yeah. I mean I tell myself that all the time,
that it's so different hearing it from SOMEBODYO.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Follow what you know to be good and right and true. Okay,
what's his name?
Speaker 6 (06:17):
Brandon?
Speaker 2 (06:18):
All right, let me play a song for you.
Speaker 4 (06:19):
Okay, thanks, Sarah, welcome. What can I do for you?
On the Delilah Show?
Speaker 5 (06:30):
Yes, Hi, how are you?
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I'm wonderful. Thank you for asking.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I listened to your show all the time. I absolutely
love it. Well. I've been married for a little over
a year and Ray, when my husband and I started dating,
his ex girlfriend was trying to patch things up with him,
and he chose me very early on in a relationship.
And I'm just so blessed and thankful that he chose me.
We got married and we now have a six month
(06:54):
old little girl. And he was just the most amazing
man in the world. And I'm just so thankful and
blessed as he chose me.
Speaker 4 (07:01):
And it sounds like, as much as you love him,
he's very blessed that he chose you.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
He is a wonderful, wonderful person, and I'm just I
feel very lucky to have him.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
Well, it sounds like he's moved on and has forgotten her.
When are you going to move on and forget her?
Speaker 5 (07:15):
I'm working on it. It's a process.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Come on, honey, you're raising his baby. Let it go.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
Yeah, she was just she was such a close part
of the family. His mom sometimes mentions her name so okay, and.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
She probably always will so. But this isn't about his
mom or him. It's about you. That you're defining your
husband's role in your life and your position with him
as the one he chose over her means you need
to get over.
Speaker 5 (07:41):
Her, right, Yep? I agree with you.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
That's baggage you're carrying around.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
He's not.
Speaker 3 (07:49):
Yep.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Make a vow to yourself that from this day forward,
you won't consider yourself that he chose me over her.
One how about the God brought you together and it's
the way it was supposed to be.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
Okay, I think I can do that.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Okay, you work on that, and I'll work on that song.
Speaker 5 (08:06):
Okay, thank you very much.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey it's Delilah.
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