December 4, 2024 • 10 mins
Petty problems, bah humbugs, and a mama left alone on Christmas... Today's holiday dilemmas and my advice. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's dilemma is kind of a bittersweet.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Story, if you will.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Charlie writes, maybe this is a petty little problem, but
it eats at me. Every year, my workmates and I
have a cookie exchange. We've been doing this for fifteen years.
There's an employee who works there who will A ask
me what I'm making a week before and then do
the same kind of cookie, or b make the same
(01:10):
cookies I made the year before. Then she goes around
asking people which was better. I know this is her problem,
not mine, but I am fed up. Can you think
of anything to say or do to get her to
stop this? Thanks in advance from Charlie. All right, Charlie,
(01:32):
as a mother of fifteen I have dealt with this
kind of problem constantly. He's copying me, She's copying me.
Stay tuned for my words coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
Dilemma is from Charlie, who loves to make cookies for
(01:54):
the Cookie Exchange, but hates being copied. Charlie, can I
be honest with you? And you may lose all respect
for me after this? I am that immature person that
copies people that I admire. That is the way I
have been forever. When I see a piece of artwork
I love, I will go home and try to learn
(02:16):
that artist's style and copy them, mimic them, not the
exact same painting, But you get what I'm saying. I
think this person, Charlie, is trying to tell you that
she is impressed by you, maybe intimidated by you, and
she wants validation that she's as cool as you or
(02:37):
as likable as you are. And once you can see
that she's not doing it to irritate you. She's copying
you out of so much love and respect for you,
maybe it can annoy you a.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Little bit less.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
The other thing you can do is change up your
recipe at the last minute, go Ah, I change my mind.
Instead of making peanut butter cookies and you know, putting
the little fork indentation into them, I decided at the
last minute to put these Hershey's kisses in them. I
don't know, change up the recipe the day before you
bake them, and don't tell her if you really want
(03:16):
to play her game. But I would just instead of
letting it annoy me, step back and go, my gosh,
she really wants to be like me, and so she's
trying very, very hard to be like me. So those
are those are my words of love. Embrace the fact
that she is very impressed by you, and instead of
(03:39):
resenting her for it, maybe realize that you set the
standard for her. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma, says Hi to Delilah.
Gotta be honest. I hate Christmas. It's a time year
(04:00):
that reminds me how alone I am. I'm divorced, no children,
no extended family, and while I've often shared the day
with friends, I always feel like a third wheel. Yes,
I volunteered from time to time, but I find the
only way to get through the day is to stay
(04:21):
in bed and let it pass me by. This isn't
so much a Delilah dilemma as me trying to tell
everyone that Christmas isn't the greatest day of the year
for a lot of us. Sign me scrooge. Okay, Scrooge,
I'm hearing what you're saying, and I am going to
(04:42):
share my opinion. Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is
from someone who does not enjoy Christmas Day the day itself,
(05:02):
because she's divorced, no children, no extended family, and she
feels very alone. I think the problem might be that
you are focusing on the commercial aspects or the societal
aspects of Christmas instead of what Christmas really means. If
(05:26):
you can get away from the commercial ho ho ho
jingle jingle, it's a wonderful life thing that we've turned
these holidays into and instead focus on the spiritual aspects
of the holidays and why they're celebrated, then maybe you
(05:46):
can rejoice that you get time alone with the creator
of everything that ever was, everything that is in everything
that will be.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Just a thought.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I don't think you're Scrooge at all. I think you
are a lovely person that I would love to give
a big hug and invite to my Christmas celebration because
there's so much chaos and so much commotion, and trust me,
you would not feel like a third wheel. But God
bless you and thank you for being honest and transparent
(06:24):
about the aloneness you feel. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma perfect in
time for the holidays. Sally writes, I'm a divorce mother
of two young adults. Their dad hasn't been in their
(06:44):
life much since our divorce, and my kids and I
have always been close. This year, he has a girlfriend
with some money, and they invited the kids to join
them on a tropical vacation over Christmas through New Year.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I'm devastated.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I feel betrayed as I've always poured my heart and
soul into my kids, and now what am I going
to do without them? It feels like he's buying their
time and affection and it makes me sick.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Please help from Sally.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Sally, I will have my mom and Delilah words for
you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Sally,
whose ex husband has not been present in the life
of her children. Now he's got a rich girlfriend, he
swoops in and he's going to take them away for
(07:42):
a few weeks over Christmas and New Year's Sally, rejoice
for your kids. Rejoice for them. They are going to
have an experience that won't make up for the fact
that their dad's been absent, but it will bless their heart.
It will bless them, and rejoice for them. Did you
(08:03):
have children. Did you raise children to meet your needs
or did you haven raise children to be a blessing
to them and to help launch them into adulthood. If
you raised your children because you wanted to bless them
and wanted to give them a great life, part of
that is letting them have wonderful experiences. What if it
(08:27):
was somebody in your family. What if a grandparent or
a great aunt or somebody left them a gift of
traveling to a tropical island and staying in a nice
resort for the holidays, and for whatever reason, you weren't
included in that. Would you feel the same resentment or
bitterness or is it just because it's their father who's
(08:52):
been absent and his girlfriend who's wealthy. Instead of resenting
them for giving your kids this opportunity, rejoice for them
and rejoice for yourself because for the first time. You
get to go do what you want to do without
having to meet the needs of anybody else for a
few days. It's not like he's moving them away from
(09:14):
you for the next five years. He's taking them on
a vacation for a few weeks.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
So let them go.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Say here's some sunscreen, don't go outside without a hat on,
have fun, don't get bit by anything. I'll see you
when you get home. Call if you want, send me
a text, send me pictures, please, lots of pictures. And
then you go do things that you've always put on
hold because you're a mama bear, and come back refreshed
(09:45):
and excited to reconnect with your kids and hear about
their experiences. Show grace, show gratitude, and show love. I
so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
As much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey, It's
Delilah to the
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's dilemma is kind of a bittersweet.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Story, if you will.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Charlie writes, maybe this is a petty little problem, but
it eats at me. Every year, my workmates and I
have a cookie exchange. We've been doing this for fifteen years.
There's an employee who works there who will A ask
me what I'm making a week before and then do
the same kind of cookie, or b make the same
(01:10):
cookies I made the year before. Then she goes around
asking people which was better. I know this is her problem,
not mine, but I am fed up. Can you think
of anything to say or do to get her to
stop this? Thanks in advance from Charlie. All right, Charlie,
(01:32):
as a mother of fifteen I have dealt with this
kind of problem constantly. He's copying me, She's copying me.
Stay tuned for my words coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's
Dilemma is from Charlie, who loves to make cookies for
(01:54):
the Cookie Exchange, but hates being copied. Charlie, can I
be honest with you? And you may lose all respect
for me after this? I am that immature person that
copies people that I admire. That is the way I
have been forever. When I see a piece of artwork
I love, I will go home and try to learn
(02:16):
that artist's style and copy them, mimic them, not the
exact same painting, But you get what I'm saying. I
think this person, Charlie, is trying to tell you that
she is impressed by you, maybe intimidated by you, and
she wants validation that she's as cool as you or
(02:37):
as likable as you are. And once you can see
that she's not doing it to irritate you. She's copying
you out of so much love and respect for you,
maybe it can annoy you a.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
Little bit less.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
The other thing you can do is change up your
recipe at the last minute, go Ah, I change my mind.
Instead of making peanut butter cookies and you know, putting
the little fork indentation into them, I decided at the
last minute to put these Hershey's kisses in them. I
don't know, change up the recipe the day before you
bake them, and don't tell her if you really want
(03:16):
to play her game. But I would just instead of
letting it annoy me, step back and go, my gosh,
she really wants to be like me, and so she's
trying very, very hard to be like me. So those
are those are my words of love. Embrace the fact
that she is very impressed by you, and instead of
(03:39):
resenting her for it, maybe realize that you set the
standard for her. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma, says Hi to Delilah.
Gotta be honest. I hate Christmas. It's a time year
(04:00):
that reminds me how alone I am. I'm divorced, no children,
no extended family, and while I've often shared the day
with friends, I always feel like a third wheel. Yes,
I volunteered from time to time, but I find the
only way to get through the day is to stay
(04:21):
in bed and let it pass me by. This isn't
so much a Delilah dilemma as me trying to tell
everyone that Christmas isn't the greatest day of the year
for a lot of us. Sign me scrooge. Okay, Scrooge,
I'm hearing what you're saying, and I am going to
(04:42):
share my opinion. Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is
from someone who does not enjoy Christmas Day the day itself,
(05:02):
because she's divorced, no children, no extended family, and she
feels very alone. I think the problem might be that
you are focusing on the commercial aspects or the societal
aspects of Christmas instead of what Christmas really means. If
(05:26):
you can get away from the commercial ho ho ho
jingle jingle, it's a wonderful life thing that we've turned
these holidays into and instead focus on the spiritual aspects
of the holidays and why they're celebrated, then maybe you
(05:46):
can rejoice that you get time alone with the creator
of everything that ever was, everything that is in everything
that will be.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Just a thought.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
I don't think you're Scrooge at all. I think you
are a lovely person that I would love to give
a big hug and invite to my Christmas celebration because
there's so much chaos and so much commotion, and trust me,
you would not feel like a third wheel. But God
bless you and thank you for being honest and transparent
(06:24):
about the aloneness you feel. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma perfect in
time for the holidays. Sally writes, I'm a divorce mother
of two young adults. Their dad hasn't been in their
(06:44):
life much since our divorce, and my kids and I
have always been close. This year, he has a girlfriend
with some money, and they invited the kids to join
them on a tropical vacation over Christmas through New Year.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I'm devastated.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
I feel betrayed as I've always poured my heart and
soul into my kids, and now what am I going
to do without them? It feels like he's buying their
time and affection and it makes me sick.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
Please help from Sally.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Sally, I will have my mom and Delilah words for
you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Sally,
whose ex husband has not been present in the life
of her children. Now he's got a rich girlfriend, he
swoops in and he's going to take them away for
(07:42):
a few weeks over Christmas and New Year's Sally, rejoice
for your kids. Rejoice for them. They are going to
have an experience that won't make up for the fact
that their dad's been absent, but it will bless their heart.
It will bless them, and rejoice for them. Did you
(08:03):
have children. Did you raise children to meet your needs
or did you haven raise children to be a blessing
to them and to help launch them into adulthood. If
you raised your children because you wanted to bless them
and wanted to give them a great life, part of
that is letting them have wonderful experiences. What if it
(08:27):
was somebody in your family. What if a grandparent or
a great aunt or somebody left them a gift of
traveling to a tropical island and staying in a nice
resort for the holidays, and for whatever reason, you weren't
included in that. Would you feel the same resentment or
bitterness or is it just because it's their father who's
(08:52):
been absent and his girlfriend who's wealthy. Instead of resenting
them for giving your kids this opportunity, rejoice for them
and rejoice for yourself because for the first time. You
get to go do what you want to do without
having to meet the needs of anybody else for a
few days. It's not like he's moving them away from
(09:14):
you for the next five years. He's taking them on
a vacation for a few weeks.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
So let them go.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Say here's some sunscreen, don't go outside without a hat on,
have fun, don't get bit by anything. I'll see you
when you get home. Call if you want, send me
a text, send me pictures, please, lots of pictures. And
then you go do things that you've always put on
hold because you're a mama bear, and come back refreshed
(09:45):
and excited to reconnect with your kids and hear about
their experiences. Show grace, show gratitude, and show love. I
so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments.
Speaker 2 (10:01):
As much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey, It's
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