March 13, 2024 • 10 mins
Oh my, have we got ourselves into some pickles! Let's see if we can't sort things out a bit. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey it's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
(00:24):
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma, reads Dear Delilah. About a year and a
half ago, I met the nicest, kindest man after I
(00:47):
had just been dumped and I was left heartbroken. I
truly felt he was the one for me. I could
be myself around him, and we like to travel together
do fun things on weekends. I felt I'd met someone
truly special. Then I started having issues with his family.
(01:10):
They were very demanding of our time. I wanted to
spend time with him myself more than they were willing
to share. It became a major source of tension in
our relationship, and we ended up breaking it off. It's
been three months since he and I last spoke, and
I miss him. I wish I could have communicated better
(01:32):
that I just needed some time away from his family.
I want a life with him, just not with them.
I hope we can reconnect somehow. I hope he can
forgive me. What should I do? From brook Brook, I
will have my Mama Delilah words for you coming up next.
(02:00):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilomae is from Brooke, who started dating a man,
fell in love with him, and soon realized she was
actually dating his family because he never had time away
from them just to spend one on one with her. Brooke,
don't you don't give me enough details here to figure
out what you mean by his family? Are you talking
(02:22):
about it? Was he a single dad with children or
was he a young man who still lives at home
and shares his life with mom and dad. I don't
know what you mean by his family, and you don't
say how old you are or how old he is,
so I really need those details in order to answer
(02:44):
your question. Can you reconnect? I don't know if you
can reconnect. If by family his family you mean he's
got children, then no, you will not have time to
yourself with him. If he has children, young children need
his attention, if they're under sixteen seventeen eighteen. You're not
going to get a lot of alone time with dad.
(03:06):
If by his family you mean his parents or siblings,
then the problem isn't them. The problem is him being
unwilling to sort of disconnect from them and be committed
to you. And if he doesn't want to do that
or is unwilling to do that, there's nothing you can do.
(03:30):
So if I were you, I would ask if we
could sit down and have a conversation, put your cards
on the table, say I really love you. I would
like to reconnect if we can and have a relationship,
but I need some time with you that doesn't involve
your family members. And again, if by family you're talking
(03:54):
about min and her children, then that's not going to happen.
If by family members you're talking siblings or mom and dad,
that can only happen if he wants that to happen.
And if he doesn't want that to happen, you don't
want to be with him, because that's a boy that
refuses to grow into a man. So my best advice
(04:14):
would be to communicate openly and honestly. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
is from Kayla who says I'm about to be twenty
seven and I still haven't found the one in capital letters,
the one for me. I'm starting to lose hope that
(04:37):
there is anyone out there. I desperately want to build
a family. I want to have a home, a dog,
and all of those normal things. Starting to feel that
maybe I am not worthy of the love of another.
I would do anything for my soulmate. I know that
God is supposed to bring you your person the right time,
(05:01):
but I can help but feel everyone around me gets
to be happy with someone, and yet it's not my turn.
I'm really trying not to give up, but it's so hard.
Got any words of comfort or advice from Kayla? Oh?
Yes I do, young lady. Stay tuned for my words
coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Kayla, who
(05:34):
is feeling left behind like everybody else gets to be
in love with her. Kayla, the thing that startles me
about your letter is where you say I'm starting to
feel that maybe I'm not worthy of love from another. Honey,
you are so worthy. You are so worthy, and that
scares me because if you truly believe that, you will
(05:57):
lower your standards. Desperate to be loved, you will lower
your standards and partner with somebody who's not good for you.
So please don't do that. Please don't do that. I
know you've got a biological clock that's going TikTok, TikTok,
and you're thinking, I've only got ten years to figure
(06:17):
this out. Stop that. Stop thinking that way, and instead
get fully involved in your life. Go do the things
you love. If you love to skate, go skating. If
you're a border go boarding. If you love to identify birds,
(06:40):
join a bird watching group. If you love to paint,
sign up for some paint classes. If you love to sculpt,
go find a studio where you can throw clay with
other people. Go get involved, Kala with your life and
your passions. And when you do that, guess what you're
going to find like my people who share similar interest
(07:04):
and guess what you might You just might find love
in the process of learning how to sculpt a clay pot.
I don't know, But what I do know is that
you are worthy of love. You are worthy of being
cherished and being treated like a queen. So don't settle,
don't compromise, and don't be impatient. Just live your life fully,
(07:28):
and in doing so, you are going to meet a
lot of awesome people. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says Hi, Delilah.
I'm Jane. I love hearing you on the radio. I
just want to say I'm a huge fan. I want
to tell you what's been bothering me. You see, my
(07:51):
mom and my older brother are always disagreeing over almost everything,
and I just can't take they're yelling and screaming anymore.
They often try to pull me into the disagreement and
try to get me to take sides to help solve it.
I just don't know what to do. Seems like I'm
(08:14):
everyone's problem solver, but I can't find a solution to
my own dilemma. Can you help me find some peace? Please?
From Janie C. Janie, I will help you see your
way out of that. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
(08:36):
is from Jane, who is in relationship with her mom
and or older brother who are always fighting and they
keep trying to drag her into it. Janie, I want
you to raise your right hand and repeat after me.
Here's what you are to say when your mom or
your brother tries to drag you into it. You raise
your hand and you say, my name is Wes. This
(09:00):
ain't my mess. Got it, My name is Wes. This
is not my mess. I know your name's really Janey, see,
but it doesn't rhyme and it doesn't work. But if
you can just practice that line, my name is Wes,
this is not my mess. After two or three times
saying that, they'll come to you. They'll want you to
participate in their quarreling, and you say, what's my name?
(09:23):
What's my name? My name? What is my name? My
name is Jane C. Wes. This ain't my mess. Ah.
I would tell you a very long story about where
I came up with that line. It was like nineteen
eighty one, but it has been with me ever since
and it serves me well. Practice it, Janey. Let other
(09:47):
people deal with their mess. You walk away, In fact,
go for a walk, go outside, walk around the block,
get out of the house when they're screaming and fussing,
and find some peace in your heart. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
(10:08):
each weekday on Hey it's delilah do
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, Hey it's Delilah.
Every night on my radio show, we share something called
(00:24):
a Delilah dilemma, where you write to me or you
call me with yours situation and I try to help
you come up with the right solution. Today, we're going
to listen to some of those on this podcast. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma, reads Dear Delilah. About a year and a
half ago, I met the nicest, kindest man after I
(00:47):
had just been dumped and I was left heartbroken. I
truly felt he was the one for me. I could
be myself around him, and we like to travel together
do fun things on weekends. I felt I'd met someone
truly special. Then I started having issues with his family.
(01:10):
They were very demanding of our time. I wanted to
spend time with him myself more than they were willing
to share. It became a major source of tension in
our relationship, and we ended up breaking it off. It's
been three months since he and I last spoke, and
I miss him. I wish I could have communicated better
(01:32):
that I just needed some time away from his family.
I want a life with him, just not with them.
I hope we can reconnect somehow. I hope he can
forgive me. What should I do? From brook Brook, I
will have my Mama Delilah words for you coming up next.
(02:00):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilomae is from Brooke, who started dating a man,
fell in love with him, and soon realized she was
actually dating his family because he never had time away
from them just to spend one on one with her. Brooke,
don't you don't give me enough details here to figure
out what you mean by his family? Are you talking
(02:22):
about it? Was he a single dad with children or
was he a young man who still lives at home
and shares his life with mom and dad. I don't
know what you mean by his family, and you don't
say how old you are or how old he is,
so I really need those details in order to answer
(02:44):
your question. Can you reconnect? I don't know if you
can reconnect. If by family his family you mean he's
got children, then no, you will not have time to
yourself with him. If he has children, young children need
his attention, if they're under sixteen seventeen eighteen. You're not
going to get a lot of alone time with dad.
(03:06):
If by his family you mean his parents or siblings,
then the problem isn't them. The problem is him being
unwilling to sort of disconnect from them and be committed
to you. And if he doesn't want to do that
or is unwilling to do that, there's nothing you can do.
(03:30):
So if I were you, I would ask if we
could sit down and have a conversation, put your cards
on the table, say I really love you. I would
like to reconnect if we can and have a relationship,
but I need some time with you that doesn't involve
your family members. And again, if by family you're talking
(03:54):
about min and her children, then that's not going to happen.
If by family members you're talking siblings or mom and dad,
that can only happen if he wants that to happen.
And if he doesn't want that to happen, you don't
want to be with him, because that's a boy that
refuses to grow into a man. So my best advice
(04:14):
would be to communicate openly and honestly. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
is from Kayla who says I'm about to be twenty
seven and I still haven't found the one in capital letters,
the one for me. I'm starting to lose hope that
(04:37):
there is anyone out there. I desperately want to build
a family. I want to have a home, a dog,
and all of those normal things. Starting to feel that
maybe I am not worthy of the love of another.
I would do anything for my soulmate. I know that
God is supposed to bring you your person the right time,
(05:01):
but I can help but feel everyone around me gets
to be happy with someone, and yet it's not my turn.
I'm really trying not to give up, but it's so hard.
Got any words of comfort or advice from Kayla? Oh?
Yes I do, young lady. Stay tuned for my words
coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Kayla, who
(05:34):
is feeling left behind like everybody else gets to be
in love with her. Kayla, the thing that startles me
about your letter is where you say I'm starting to
feel that maybe I'm not worthy of love from another. Honey,
you are so worthy. You are so worthy, and that
scares me because if you truly believe that, you will
(05:57):
lower your standards. Desperate to be loved, you will lower
your standards and partner with somebody who's not good for you.
So please don't do that. Please don't do that. I
know you've got a biological clock that's going TikTok, TikTok,
and you're thinking, I've only got ten years to figure
(06:17):
this out. Stop that. Stop thinking that way, and instead
get fully involved in your life. Go do the things
you love. If you love to skate, go skating. If
you're a border go boarding. If you love to identify birds,
(06:40):
join a bird watching group. If you love to paint,
sign up for some paint classes. If you love to sculpt,
go find a studio where you can throw clay with
other people. Go get involved, Kala with your life and
your passions. And when you do that, guess what you're
going to find like my people who share similar interest
(07:04):
and guess what you might You just might find love
in the process of learning how to sculpt a clay pot.
I don't know, But what I do know is that
you are worthy of love. You are worthy of being
cherished and being treated like a queen. So don't settle,
don't compromise, and don't be impatient. Just live your life fully,
(07:28):
and in doing so, you are going to meet a
lot of awesome people. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says Hi, Delilah.
I'm Jane. I love hearing you on the radio. I
just want to say I'm a huge fan. I want
to tell you what's been bothering me. You see, my
(07:51):
mom and my older brother are always disagreeing over almost everything,
and I just can't take they're yelling and screaming anymore.
They often try to pull me into the disagreement and
try to get me to take sides to help solve it.
I just don't know what to do. Seems like I'm
(08:14):
everyone's problem solver, but I can't find a solution to
my own dilemma. Can you help me find some peace? Please?
From Janie C. Janie, I will help you see your
way out of that. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
(08:36):
is from Jane, who is in relationship with her mom
and or older brother who are always fighting and they
keep trying to drag her into it. Janie, I want
you to raise your right hand and repeat after me.
Here's what you are to say when your mom or
your brother tries to drag you into it. You raise
your hand and you say, my name is Wes. This
(09:00):
ain't my mess. Got it, My name is Wes. This
is not my mess. I know your name's really Janey, see,
but it doesn't rhyme and it doesn't work. But if
you can just practice that line, my name is Wes,
this is not my mess. After two or three times
saying that, they'll come to you. They'll want you to
participate in their quarreling, and you say, what's my name?
(09:23):
What's my name? My name? What is my name? My
name is Jane C. Wes. This ain't my mess. Ah.
I would tell you a very long story about where
I came up with that line. It was like nineteen
eighty one, but it has been with me ever since
and it serves me well. Practice it, Janey. Let other
(09:47):
people deal with their mess. You walk away, In fact,
go for a walk, go outside, walk around the block,
get out of the house when they're screaming and fussing,
and find some peace in your heart. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
(10:08):
each weekday on Hey it's delilah do
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