September 13, 2023 • 9 mins
Folks needing advice... to you agree with mine? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from somebody that I think may have twisted bent violated
(00:46):
the girlfriend rule. We'll see. Emily says. I've known this guy,
Christopher for years, but we were never good friends. This
past year, however, we attended a Christian summer camp and
spent a lot of time together along with my best
friend Kaylee. It quickly became clear that he liked her
very much and that she liked him very much. But
she already had a boyfriend. She confessed her feelings to Christopher.
(01:11):
I was happy that she liked him and he was
so clearly spent with her. I suggested to him that
they should talk. Now. Months after camp, she is still
dating her boyfriend and he is still very much in
love with her. Since Christopher lives seven hours away and
Kayleie lives an hour and a half away, we all
keep in contact via email and texting. Lately, Christopher and
(01:36):
I have been texting a lot, and I'm beginning to
realize how much I care about him, But all he
seems to be able to talk about is her her.
I'm half heartedly comforting him while wishing that I realized
before that I had liked him and told him. Then
now I'm pining away and I want this hurting to stop.
(01:56):
I've tried to get over him, but no luck so far.
I want to tell him, but I don't want to
wreck our friendship. Should I say something? How should I
go about this? I'm really confused. From Emily, Emily, I
will have my mother, Delilah advice for you. Not that
you will listen because you're a teenager and teenagers never
listen to their mother, but maybe because I'm not your mother,
(02:19):
I'm other teenagers' mothers, you'll listen. Stay tuned. That's coming
out Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from three teenage friends who
are triangulating. That's what it's called. That is the clinical
term for minding other people's business triangulating. Emily, Christopher likes
(02:44):
your friend. He is smitten with her. He is head
over heels with her. He's not interested in you, and
he's made that very clear. So what is wrong with
you that you would want to pursue somebody who has
told you time and time and time again he's interested
in someone else. If he decided to turn his attention
to you, you would always feel like you were second fiddle,
(03:06):
like you were competing with her, like he secretly liked her,
and you would never ever feel secure. That is not
a good way to feel. So be his friend. Tell
him I am no longer going to talk to you
about our other friend. That's triangulating. It's not healthy. Good luck,
have a great summer. I'll chitchat you with you when
(03:27):
I can. And then, Emily, invest yourself in your life,
not your best friend's life, not the boy who likes
your best friend's life, but your life. Doing things you
love to do, meeting people that are like minded, reading
good books, going on bike rides, hiking, gardening, doing something
(03:48):
that fulfills your heart. And when you meet the guy
that is head over heels smitten for you the way
Christopher is for your friend, then you'll know that it's
time to give your heart. Is it really worth all
(04:09):
this drama? Is the question I would pose about tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma from Anonymous. I am in a relationship with
this man that I met just over a year ago.
Anonymous rites he is a truck driver and had a
female co driver at the time. She started problems for
him and me from the start. Since he got a
(04:31):
second truck and I've been riding with him the last
few months, she is still an issue. He came home
two weeks ago and she did also well. She drove
him somewhere that he needn't to be and didn't tell
me until after the fact. She sees me and she
won't speak to me. I want to trust him. I
(04:53):
want to trust him and believe that he hasn't cheated
on me, but it's hard. There's also a new girl
that works in the shop who texts him every day
when we're on the road. Now we're heading home again
to have our truck work done. I have a few
errands to run and he told me to call before
I come back to the shop because the truck might
be at the dealership. Is this basically a call to
(05:14):
stay away? Where is he going to be? He doesn't say,
but I'm not to worry. Well, I'm worried. I'm not
sure what to do or think. Please help me. Thank you,
I'm lost, Anonymous. Oh, dear Anonymous, I will help you
reset that GPS. Coming up next Tonight's Delilah's dilemma. If
(05:42):
you just missed, this mess is from somebody named Anonymous
who needs help because she says, thank you, I'm lost. Yes,
you are. Your GPS is not working, your guy picker system,
your GPS guy picker system is broken, and you are
(06:03):
very lost. Run drive, get away from this mess before
you lose your mind and your serenity. You say, I
want to trust him and believe that he hasn't cheated
on me. Are you serious? This guy is a pack
of lies. He is a player. You say, the other
lady is the problem. She's not the problem. He's the problem.
(06:25):
He's playing all of you girls against each other. Go
the other direction. If you want a healthy, committed, loving relationship,
you will never have that with a player. You will
never have that with somebody who cannot commit but likes
(06:45):
to have a whole box full of chocolates to sample. Okay.
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Theta, who says, I'm em
I'm mailing you today because I have a dilemma. I
feel as though my boyfriend of five years and I
have lost touch with each other in our relationship. Emotionally
(07:09):
and physically. We're far apart. We don't even sleep in
the same room. We never spend time together. All he
wants to do is work, work, work, even on his
days off. I know he's a hard worker, but he
needs to understand how I feel. I long to be
held and loved again, have someone hold me at night.
(07:33):
I want to leave, but I'm afraid I'll be making
a mistake. He tells me he's working hard for our family,
but there's no point when your family is leaving. This
has been going on for over a year now. I've
talked to him many many times, and nothing has changed. Delilah,
can you please give me words of advice? I am
(07:54):
emotionally lost from Theda. Theda, I will indeed give you
my words of advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
is from a woman who has been with a man
for five years and now he's gone, even though he's
in the next room. Theta he's gone. You're talking to
(08:18):
a wall. You're saying, hold me, love me, want me,
need me, and he's saying, no, I can't, I'm too busy.
So you have a choice. You can stay in an
empty relationship in the hopes that one day he will change,
or you can recognize that you are not a priority
in his life. You don't even exist in his life.
(08:39):
His excuse of I'm doing this for you is nonsense.
It's a lie. He is either involved with drugs or
alcohol or another person, or he is a workaholic. Either way,
it doesn't matter. He is not making his family a priority.
So you have a choice. Stay and be miserable, or
(09:01):
go and be miserable missing him. But if you stay,
he will not change. If you go, he may miss
you enough to get help. I so hope you have
enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing
them to you. I'll share more with you each weekday
(09:21):
on Ey It's Delilah Lo
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from somebody that I think may have twisted bent violated
(00:46):
the girlfriend rule. We'll see. Emily says. I've known this guy,
Christopher for years, but we were never good friends. This
past year, however, we attended a Christian summer camp and
spent a lot of time together along with my best
friend Kaylee. It quickly became clear that he liked her
very much and that she liked him very much. But
she already had a boyfriend. She confessed her feelings to Christopher.
(01:11):
I was happy that she liked him and he was
so clearly spent with her. I suggested to him that
they should talk. Now. Months after camp, she is still
dating her boyfriend and he is still very much in
love with her. Since Christopher lives seven hours away and
Kayleie lives an hour and a half away, we all
keep in contact via email and texting. Lately, Christopher and
(01:36):
I have been texting a lot, and I'm beginning to
realize how much I care about him, But all he
seems to be able to talk about is her her.
I'm half heartedly comforting him while wishing that I realized
before that I had liked him and told him. Then
now I'm pining away and I want this hurting to stop.
(01:56):
I've tried to get over him, but no luck so far.
I want to tell him, but I don't want to
wreck our friendship. Should I say something? How should I
go about this? I'm really confused. From Emily, Emily, I
will have my mother, Delilah advice for you. Not that
you will listen because you're a teenager and teenagers never
listen to their mother, but maybe because I'm not your mother,
(02:19):
I'm other teenagers' mothers, you'll listen. Stay tuned. That's coming
out Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from three teenage friends who
are triangulating. That's what it's called. That is the clinical
term for minding other people's business triangulating. Emily, Christopher likes
(02:44):
your friend. He is smitten with her. He is head
over heels with her. He's not interested in you, and
he's made that very clear. So what is wrong with
you that you would want to pursue somebody who has
told you time and time and time again he's interested
in someone else. If he decided to turn his attention
to you, you would always feel like you were second fiddle,
(03:06):
like you were competing with her, like he secretly liked her,
and you would never ever feel secure. That is not
a good way to feel. So be his friend. Tell
him I am no longer going to talk to you
about our other friend. That's triangulating. It's not healthy. Good luck,
have a great summer. I'll chitchat you with you when
(03:27):
I can. And then, Emily, invest yourself in your life,
not your best friend's life, not the boy who likes
your best friend's life, but your life. Doing things you
love to do, meeting people that are like minded, reading
good books, going on bike rides, hiking, gardening, doing something
(03:48):
that fulfills your heart. And when you meet the guy
that is head over heels smitten for you the way
Christopher is for your friend, then you'll know that it's
time to give your heart. Is it really worth all
(04:09):
this drama? Is the question I would pose about tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma from Anonymous. I am in a relationship with
this man that I met just over a year ago.
Anonymous rites he is a truck driver and had a
female co driver at the time. She started problems for
him and me from the start. Since he got a
(04:31):
second truck and I've been riding with him the last
few months, she is still an issue. He came home
two weeks ago and she did also well. She drove
him somewhere that he needn't to be and didn't tell
me until after the fact. She sees me and she
won't speak to me. I want to trust him. I
(04:53):
want to trust him and believe that he hasn't cheated
on me, but it's hard. There's also a new girl
that works in the shop who texts him every day
when we're on the road. Now we're heading home again
to have our truck work done. I have a few
errands to run and he told me to call before
I come back to the shop because the truck might
be at the dealership. Is this basically a call to
(05:14):
stay away? Where is he going to be? He doesn't say,
but I'm not to worry. Well, I'm worried. I'm not
sure what to do or think. Please help me. Thank you,
I'm lost, Anonymous. Oh, dear Anonymous, I will help you
reset that GPS. Coming up next Tonight's Delilah's dilemma. If
(05:42):
you just missed, this mess is from somebody named Anonymous
who needs help because she says, thank you, I'm lost. Yes,
you are. Your GPS is not working, your guy picker system,
your GPS guy picker system is broken, and you are
(06:03):
very lost. Run drive, get away from this mess before
you lose your mind and your serenity. You say, I
want to trust him and believe that he hasn't cheated
on me. Are you serious? This guy is a pack
of lies. He is a player. You say, the other
lady is the problem. She's not the problem. He's the problem.
(06:25):
He's playing all of you girls against each other. Go
the other direction. If you want a healthy, committed, loving relationship,
you will never have that with a player. You will
never have that with somebody who cannot commit but likes
(06:45):
to have a whole box full of chocolates to sample. Okay.
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Theta, who says, I'm em
I'm mailing you today because I have a dilemma. I
feel as though my boyfriend of five years and I
have lost touch with each other in our relationship. Emotionally
(07:09):
and physically. We're far apart. We don't even sleep in
the same room. We never spend time together. All he
wants to do is work, work, work, even on his
days off. I know he's a hard worker, but he
needs to understand how I feel. I long to be
held and loved again, have someone hold me at night.
(07:33):
I want to leave, but I'm afraid I'll be making
a mistake. He tells me he's working hard for our family,
but there's no point when your family is leaving. This
has been going on for over a year now. I've
talked to him many many times, and nothing has changed. Delilah,
can you please give me words of advice? I am
(07:54):
emotionally lost from Theda. Theda, I will indeed give you
my words of advice. Coming up next, Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
is from a woman who has been with a man
for five years and now he's gone, even though he's
in the next room. Theta he's gone. You're talking to
(08:18):
a wall. You're saying, hold me, love me, want me,
need me, and he's saying, no, I can't, I'm too busy.
So you have a choice. You can stay in an
empty relationship in the hopes that one day he will change,
or you can recognize that you are not a priority
in his life. You don't even exist in his life.
(08:39):
His excuse of I'm doing this for you is nonsense.
It's a lie. He is either involved with drugs or
alcohol or another person, or he is a workaholic. Either way,
it doesn't matter. He is not making his family a priority.
So you have a choice. Stay and be miserable, or
(09:01):
go and be miserable missing him. But if you stay,
he will not change. If you go, he may miss
you enough to get help. I so hope you have
enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing
them to you. I'll share more with you each weekday
(09:21):
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