February 1, 2024 • 9 mins
Mama D wisdom to help you help yourself out of life's little messes. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
(00:41):
from Kinny, who says, I'm twenty seven have been separated
from my wife, Melanie for a few years y e
a rs. Years, not days, not weeks. Years. We have
two children of our own. She has a daughter from
her first husband. However, I consider her to be mine
as well. While working at a local restaurant chain, I
(01:03):
ended up putting my job before my family. I worked
long shifts, I had no quality time with my family.
We got frustrated with each other, and I was stupid
and left the house instead of staying and working things out.
My purpose for writing this letter tonight is I haven't
had a good night's sleep or been able to keep
(01:25):
my mind off my wife and kids since everything happened,
Let's jump back up to the first line. I've been
separated from my wife, Melanie for a few years. He
goes on to say, I'm so sorry I've not been
the husband and father I should have been. All I
was trying to do is provide. Would you please please
play a song for her that maybe she'll hear, to
(01:46):
let her know that she is still the love of
my life and I need my family back before I
go insane? What can I do, Delilah? From Kenny Kenny,
I will have my words of advice for you coming
up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Kenny. Twenty seven
(02:09):
year old man two children plus a stepdaughter that he
considers his own, and he puts his career, his job
before his family. But here's the problem, Kenny. You said
we have been separated for a few years. There is
a song that came out years ago called too much,
Too Little, too late, And I'm afraid, Kenny, that's where
(02:30):
your letter falls in my category. Too little, too late.
You should have been making amends and changing your life
and telling your wife how precious she is every hour
of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Two years ago.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
When you first realized you had been a knucklehead. But
I don't believe you, and she's not going to believe you,
because if you've waited two years to tell her that
she's the love of your life and you want her back,
she's going to say no. If I was you would
have told me that two years ago, or maybe you've
(03:06):
been telling her and this is a last ditch effort
hoping that if she hears it on the radio it'll
change her heart. That's not going to happen either. If
you have been showing her consistently that you want to
reconcile and that she is the love of your life,
and you're hoping that her hearing it on the radio
will be the thing that pushes her over the edge
(03:26):
to wanting to reconcile, that's not going to work. So
here's what I would do, Kenny. If I were you,
I would spend all the energy that you are saying
you're spending to get your family back together. I would
spend that energy being a good daddy, because even though
your wife and you are separated, you still should be
seeing your children as often as possible and contributing.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
To their lives every day of their life.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
And even though you may not be able to repair
your marriage, you can bless your children by putting them
first and being the daddy that.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You want to be. Good luck and God bless you.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Tina, who says, my daughter
has been with her boyfriend for four years. She's twenty six,
he's forty five. Together they have a beautiful one year
old little girl. She wants to get married. He's not
shown any signs of wanting the same. Her dream has
always been to have a Christmas time wedding. He has
(04:34):
been married twice before and has three other children that
he's given up all rights to. I want my daughter
and granddaughter to be happy, but I'm not sure if
you will ever ask her to marry him. He is
a great father, though. Please help give advice on this situation.
Signed a confused mama named Tina. Tina, I will have
(04:55):
my mother Delilah advice for another mother, that being you
coming up now.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Next.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Tina, whose grown daughter is
living with a man, has a baby by him, big
age difference, and he's not interested in marrying her and
Tina wants to know what to do. Tina, there's nothing
you can do. You have to myobi, Mama bear. You
have to mind your own business because your daughter is
(05:32):
not sixteen, she's twenty six. She's a legal adult, and
you get no say whatsoever in her life or in
your grandchild's life when it comes to her relationships. You
can pray for them, you can be kind to him,
you can spend time getting to know him, and spend
time with your grandbaby and your daughter. But if you
(05:54):
even breathe a word to them, to either one of
them as to what they should or should not do,
your meddling.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
And you can't control them.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
God knows if I could, My adult children would make
very different choices, but that's their life. I get my life,
they get their life, they get to make their decisions,
and in the same respect, I get to make my decisions.
And trust me, most of my grown children would not
agree with a lot of the decisions that I make,
(06:27):
So that's part of being an adult and having free will.
So love them, love them completely, pray for them, and
then let it go because you can't control them.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You can't even influence them. And trust me, anything you.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Say is going to be met with resistance, So just
love them and let it go. Dear Delilah, my dilemma
is this. Three years ago, I started dating a man
named Chris. I fell head over heel in love with
him over time. We've both been married and divorce before,
(07:04):
and it was a long time before I would see
anyone else after my divorce. I dated Chris for a
year before I let my family or my children meet him.
After two years, he lost his house. He now lives
with us, but we don't share the same room. He's
old fashioned and he sleeps downstairs. I sleep upstairs. He's afraid,
(07:25):
he says, to fall in love again, because he was
hurt so badly in the past. So I wait, I've
been waiting all this time for him to fall in
love with me. He says he loves me, but he
isn't capable of more right now, And so I wait.
I fell for him, hook line and sinker. But is
it wise for me to continue waiting? I have everything
(07:46):
a woman could want, a healthy family, a healthy companion,
but it's not enough.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
I want him to love me.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I want him to let go of his fear and
fall from me the way I've fallen for him. Okay, Christine,
I'm going to have my suggestions for your dilemma coming
up next. A minute ago, I read a letter from
(08:14):
Christine who has been involved with a man for three
years who has moved into her house, sleeps downstairs, and
tells her, quite honestly, that he's not in love with
her and doesn't want to commit to her. Christine, listen
to Mother Delilah. This is not a boyfriend. This is
not a relationship. This is somebody who is mooching off
(08:38):
of you. Girlfriend. You're giving him free room and board,
and he's being very honest with you. He's telling you
he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. So
believe him and then get him out of your house.
You deserve somebody who is going to adore you, crawl
over shards of broken glass to be with you. But
(09:00):
you will never find that somebody so long as mister
couch Potato is sleeping in your basement because your heart
is wrapped up in him, but his heart is not
wrapped up in you.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
He's loving the situation.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
He gets somebody to pay his way through life while
you're lying in bed aching for the one that you love.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Who's just downstairs and not interested.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
His actions his words are telling you he does not
have the ability to give his heart to you and
to adore you.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
So believe him, and then say bye bye.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Hey it's Delilah.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess, and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
(00:41):
from Kinny, who says, I'm twenty seven have been separated
from my wife, Melanie for a few years y e
a rs. Years, not days, not weeks. Years. We have
two children of our own. She has a daughter from
her first husband. However, I consider her to be mine
as well. While working at a local restaurant chain, I
(01:03):
ended up putting my job before my family. I worked
long shifts, I had no quality time with my family.
We got frustrated with each other, and I was stupid
and left the house instead of staying and working things out.
My purpose for writing this letter tonight is I haven't
had a good night's sleep or been able to keep
(01:25):
my mind off my wife and kids since everything happened,
Let's jump back up to the first line. I've been
separated from my wife, Melanie for a few years. He
goes on to say, I'm so sorry I've not been
the husband and father I should have been. All I
was trying to do is provide. Would you please please
play a song for her that maybe she'll hear, to
(01:46):
let her know that she is still the love of
my life and I need my family back before I
go insane? What can I do, Delilah? From Kenny Kenny,
I will have my words of advice for you coming
up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Kenny. Twenty seven
(02:09):
year old man two children plus a stepdaughter that he
considers his own, and he puts his career, his job
before his family. But here's the problem, Kenny. You said
we have been separated for a few years. There is
a song that came out years ago called too much,
Too Little, too late, And I'm afraid, Kenny, that's where
(02:30):
your letter falls in my category. Too little, too late.
You should have been making amends and changing your life
and telling your wife how precious she is every hour
of the day.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
Two years ago.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
When you first realized you had been a knucklehead. But
I don't believe you, and she's not going to believe you,
because if you've waited two years to tell her that
she's the love of your life and you want her back,
she's going to say no. If I was you would
have told me that two years ago, or maybe you've
(03:06):
been telling her and this is a last ditch effort
hoping that if she hears it on the radio it'll
change her heart. That's not going to happen either. If
you have been showing her consistently that you want to
reconcile and that she is the love of your life,
and you're hoping that her hearing it on the radio
will be the thing that pushes her over the edge
(03:26):
to wanting to reconcile, that's not going to work. So
here's what I would do, Kenny. If I were you,
I would spend all the energy that you are saying
you're spending to get your family back together. I would
spend that energy being a good daddy, because even though
your wife and you are separated, you still should be
seeing your children as often as possible and contributing.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
To their lives every day of their life.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
And even though you may not be able to repair
your marriage, you can bless your children by putting them
first and being the daddy that.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
You want to be. Good luck and God bless you.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Tina, who says, my daughter
has been with her boyfriend for four years. She's twenty six,
he's forty five. Together they have a beautiful one year
old little girl. She wants to get married. He's not
shown any signs of wanting the same. Her dream has
always been to have a Christmas time wedding. He has
(04:34):
been married twice before and has three other children that
he's given up all rights to. I want my daughter
and granddaughter to be happy, but I'm not sure if
you will ever ask her to marry him. He is
a great father, though. Please help give advice on this situation.
Signed a confused mama named Tina. Tina, I will have
(04:55):
my mother Delilah advice for another mother, that being you
coming up now.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Next.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Tina, whose grown daughter is
living with a man, has a baby by him, big
age difference, and he's not interested in marrying her and
Tina wants to know what to do. Tina, there's nothing
you can do. You have to myobi, Mama bear. You
have to mind your own business because your daughter is
(05:32):
not sixteen, she's twenty six. She's a legal adult, and
you get no say whatsoever in her life or in
your grandchild's life when it comes to her relationships. You
can pray for them, you can be kind to him,
you can spend time getting to know him, and spend
time with your grandbaby and your daughter. But if you
(05:54):
even breathe a word to them, to either one of
them as to what they should or should not do,
your meddling.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
And you can't control them.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
God knows if I could, My adult children would make
very different choices, but that's their life. I get my life,
they get their life, they get to make their decisions,
and in the same respect, I get to make my decisions.
And trust me, most of my grown children would not
agree with a lot of the decisions that I make,
(06:27):
So that's part of being an adult and having free will.
So love them, love them completely, pray for them, and
then let it go because you can't control them.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
You can't even influence them. And trust me, anything you.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
Say is going to be met with resistance, So just
love them and let it go. Dear Delilah, my dilemma
is this. Three years ago, I started dating a man
named Chris. I fell head over heel in love with
him over time. We've both been married and divorce before,
(07:04):
and it was a long time before I would see
anyone else after my divorce. I dated Chris for a
year before I let my family or my children meet him.
After two years, he lost his house. He now lives
with us, but we don't share the same room. He's
old fashioned and he sleeps downstairs. I sleep upstairs. He's afraid,
(07:25):
he says, to fall in love again, because he was
hurt so badly in the past. So I wait, I've
been waiting all this time for him to fall in
love with me. He says he loves me, but he
isn't capable of more right now, And so I wait.
I fell for him, hook line and sinker. But is
it wise for me to continue waiting? I have everything
(07:46):
a woman could want, a healthy family, a healthy companion,
but it's not enough.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
I want him to love me.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I want him to let go of his fear and
fall from me the way I've fallen for him. Okay, Christine,
I'm going to have my suggestions for your dilemma coming
up next. A minute ago, I read a letter from
(08:14):
Christine who has been involved with a man for three
years who has moved into her house, sleeps downstairs, and
tells her, quite honestly, that he's not in love with
her and doesn't want to commit to her. Christine, listen
to Mother Delilah. This is not a boyfriend. This is
not a relationship. This is somebody who is mooching off
(08:38):
of you. Girlfriend. You're giving him free room and board,
and he's being very honest with you. He's telling you
he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. So
believe him and then get him out of your house.
You deserve somebody who is going to adore you, crawl
over shards of broken glass to be with you. But
(09:00):
you will never find that somebody so long as mister
couch Potato is sleeping in your basement because your heart
is wrapped up in him, but his heart is not
wrapped up in you.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
He's loving the situation.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
He gets somebody to pay his way through life while
you're lying in bed aching for the one that you love.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
Who's just downstairs and not interested.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
His actions his words are telling you he does not
have the ability to give his heart to you and
to adore you.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
So believe him, and then say bye bye.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah to
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