DELILAH DILEMMAS: Whoops!

Dang! I HATE it when I do foolish things and get into foolish situations. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone! ~ Delilah

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Every night on
my radio show, we have Delilah's Dilemmas. We love them all.

(00:24):
When you call or you write with a situation that
you're in and you just need a little advice and direction,
we love them all, and today we wanted to share
some of them with you on Hey It's Delilah. Tonight's
Delilah's Dilemma says, my name is Kathleen. I fell in
love with a guy that I've known for years. We

(00:46):
were friends for a long time and then decided to date.
That didn't last too long, but I feel the need
to help him out with his problems, as I am
his friend and I care. However, he in his way
and I went mine. I think he has taken me
out of his life. We fought over something foolish. I

(01:07):
didn't do anything wrong. Now I feel like I should
continue to try to contact him. How about just to
say happy thirty fourth birthday? What should I do? From Kathleen? Kathleen,
I will have my words for you coming up next.

(01:29):
Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Kathleen, who had a friend
for years, dated for a while, then they went their
separate ways and he hasn't contacted her at all, and
she would like to try to continue to reach out
to him and help him with his problems. Kathleen, if
he wanted your help with his problems, he would be
contacting you. If he wanted to be in a relationship

(01:51):
or a friendship with you, he would probably be contacting you.
My feeling is he's not showing any signs of wanting
a friendship with you, so believe him. Don't try to
convince him that you're worth it, because you are worth it.
You are valuable, You are wonderful, and if somebody doesn't

(02:12):
treat you the way that you should be treated, if
they're not reaching back to connect with you and to
be friends with you, stop chasing after them. It's only
going to break your heart. Tonight's letter says, Hi, Delilah,
this is David. I'm hoping you can help me. My

(02:33):
father recently died and was brought back to life by
the paramedics. Because of this, my father has become permanently
blind and he has trouble speaking. As a result, now
my brother doesn't want any kind of relationship with our father.
He used to love our dad, and I don't understand

(02:56):
why he doesn't want a relationship with him now. I
don't know what I should do. Should I try to
talk him into going and seeing our father, or should
I even care about that. I don't want to see
him ruin his relationship with our father. He's not even
going to go see him on his birthday. I'm hoping
you can give me some advice. Thanks for your help

(03:18):
from David. David, I will give you my best words
of advice. Coming up next Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is a heartbreaker.
A young man named David whose father died and then

(03:39):
was brought back to life, but as a result, is
permanently disabled, and his younger brother doesn't want any relationship
with the disabled father now, and David's trying to fix that. David,
you know, there's something called the beatitudes, and one of
the beatitudes is where God said, Blessed are the peacemakers.

(04:00):
You're a peacemaker, David. You have the heart of a peacemaker.
You want to see people come together in relationships, and
you want to facilitate that, and that is a wonderful quality.
You want to be the bridge of love between your
father and your brother. However, you have to learn, as

(04:21):
well as the peacemakers are blessed the Serenity prayer, you
have to ask God to give you the wisdom to
recognize what you can and can't change. You can certainly
have a conversation with your brother and say, I know
it's awkward for you. I know it's hard for you
to see our dad, who was once so able bodied

(04:43):
now being disabled. I know it's hard for you to
talk to him, and I know that makes it very uncomfortable.
But our dad still needs us more than ever. Our
dad needs our love and support and comfort. And I
really think that you're doing Dad a disservice and you're
not honoring him or respecting him by distancing yourself. But

(05:08):
that's all you can do, David. You can only share
your heart and then leave it in your brother's court.
If he finds it too painful, too uncomfortable to be
emotionally available for your dad. You can't fix that. All
you can do is make sure you're there all the
more emotionally for your dad when my mom had cancer

(05:29):
and was dying. It robbed her of her freedom. She
was in a wheelchair, she could no longer speak well,
and some of her best friends, people she had known
and loved for forty or fifty years, told my sister
and I they couldn't come and see her because it
was too painful to see her that way. And I
want to disagree with them. I don't really care if
it's painful for you. I don't really care what you feel.

(05:51):
My mom needs you right now. But then I realized
I can't change them. All I could do is say
okay and try to be there for my sister who
is taking care of my mom. So good luck and
God bless you, and thank you for being a peacemaker.

(06:15):
Karen writes, my dilemma is concerning our fourteen year old daughter.
She was born with a birth defect that requires she
wear a brace so that she can walk at school.
She is bullied and taunted about this, and her self
esteem just keeps getting lower. She's smart, beautiful, musical, and artistic.

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She's very loving and cannot stand to hear harsh words
about anyone, even those kids she doesn't like so much.
My husband and I try praising her and telling her
that those children who treat her that way are just
being mean. But I know it's so hard for her.
She absolutely loves your radio show and loves you're always

(07:00):
sound advice. I was hoping that somehow you would be
able to take a few seconds to address issues such
as hers, so maybe that she and other bullied children
can hear that some children say mean and hurtful things
for no obvious reasons. It breaks my heart because I
just don't know what to do or say so she
can be happy and the happy, cheerful child she once was.

(07:24):
I know she will be forever changed by some of
the things that were said, but I know her smile
is hiding in there somewhere. From a concerned mom named Karen. Karen,
I want you to go get your daughter, and I
want you to set her next to the radio, and
I want you to listen very very carefully to what

(07:45):
I'm going to share with you in a minute. Okay.
Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Karen, a mom who is
concerned about her fourteen year old daughter. She says, my
daughter was born with a birth effect that requires her
to wear a brace so that she can walk. At school,

(08:06):
she's taunted and bullied and her self esteem keeps getting lower.
You don't say what your daughter's name is, Karen, but
I want to tell you about a young girl that
was born in nineteen sixty and when she was a
couple of months old, the doctors discovered that her legs
had formed wrong in the womb, and because of that,

(08:28):
the doctors put her in cast, and her mother had
to carry her on a pillow the first year or
two of her life because she was in cast. When
the cast came off, the braces went on, steel braces
that went down her legs. They were bound around her
waist with a belt, they were bound below her knee,

(08:50):
and they went into big clumsy shoes that the kids
called clodhoppers. I could describe what those braces look like,
and I can describe what those braces felt like because
I was that little girl. I was twelve years old
before the braces came off my legs and I was

(09:12):
able to walk normal. But the taunting that I heard
and the names I was called before the braces came
off still ring in my head on occasion, and I
truly believe, Karen, it was that experience that God used
to create who I am today. Your character is carved

(09:37):
with a tool called pain. So your daughter needs to
understand that she will have compassion beyond her years, and
wisdom beyond her years. And that compassion, that wisdom, that tenderness,
that musical talent, that artistic talent can change the world.

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So don't let foolish people who are bullying you take
away your joy. Don't let that happen. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah. Do