GROWTH: Stretch & Change

Not all growth comes easily, but as the old saying goes, the only thing we can count on is change. Embrace it!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Do I want
to remind you of a truth. Growth is painful. Change

(00:24):
is painful for some folks, it's really painful. I enjoy change.
I enjoy the changing of the seasons. I used to
move every two years. I enjoy change. But a lot
of people not so much. Nothing is as painful as
staying stuck somewhere you don't belong. If you are stuck

(00:48):
someplace you don't belong, that is painful. So make a change,
make a change and grow. My friend, hi Odie, who
is on your heart tonight?

Speaker 2 (01:06):
My wife?

Speaker 1 (01:07):
So you were telling me beforehand off the air that
you two have hit some rocky roads. Yes, now are
the are the roads smoothing out at all? Or are
there still like bumps and cliffs ahead?

Speaker 2 (01:22):
Tons of cliffs and I can't climb them all by myself.
It's very hard. The cliffs are hard. I'm very tired.
I was mean to her, you know, pushed her away,
not paying attention to her. But I'm trying to make
it up now. I'm like totally different I'm more energetic now,
I want to do more things. You know, she's the

(01:43):
one for me.

Speaker 1 (01:45):
How long have you been married, Odie?

Speaker 2 (01:47):
Twenty years?

Speaker 1 (01:49):
And when did you realize that you had pushed her away?
How long ago did you finally open your eyes and go,
wait a minute, wait a minute.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
Like a week or two ago. I noticed I was
being really mean to her, So I was trying to,
you know, change, But then something happened and I got
even more. It just pumped me up.

Speaker 1 (02:12):
Okay, so this is this change is a brand new change. Yes,
and you know what, She's not going to believe it
anymore than I am until it's been like six months
instead of two or three weeks. If you want her
to believe that you are truly committed to her and
that you want to make this work, you're going to

(02:34):
have to take the focus off of trying to win
her back and put the focus on you getting the
help that you need, because a couple of weeks is
not going to change ten or fifteen years of bad habits. Yeah,
So what you need to do is you need to

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find a good counselor you need to focus on the
issues that shut your heart to your family, to your
wife and get some counseling so that you can truly
change your heart. And when she sees that you are
truly truly committed to change, that is when you will

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know if her heart still belongs to you. I will
play a song for you, and I will say a
prayer for you. All right, God bless you, honey. Hi, Jessica,
What can I do for you?

Speaker 3 (03:42):
I heard you talk about negativity and hope and love
and them, you know, kind of like brought me home
because I've never really been a positive person in my life.
But about a year ago I had met my fiancee
j and he really just changed my life completely. I mean,
this past year has been hard, but it's been probably

(04:03):
one of the best years of my entire life. You know,
I grew up a broken home, you know, going back
and forth between my parents and just always having that
negativity around in my life. And since he's been around,
like he's sold in that gap of happiness to where
I wake up and want to have hope and he

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has made huge impact on our life.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
So did you know that negative thinking Negativity, like you described,
is a habit, and when you get in the habit
of thinking that way, your brain will automatically go that way.
And it sounds like Jay helped you break that habit
and learn a new way of looking at the world.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
Definitely. And he comes from a broken childhood himself. He
didn't have that love that I didn't have either, but
he grew and you know, he's done with so much
stuff in his life, and yet he's one of the
strongest people I've ever met in my entire life. And
he's just he really brings out everything in me that

(05:09):
I was ever lacking. He's seldom that gap that we
have been lacking for so long. I really cannot be
any more blessed to have him in our lives. And
I probably don't tell him as much as I should,
but I just want him to know that, like, I'm
very grateful and I'm blessed to have him.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Let me find the perfect song to try to say
everything your heart is feeling.

Speaker 3 (05:30):
Thank you very much.

Speaker 1 (05:41):
Hi, good evening. Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who's this?
This is Gordon Gordon? Welcome. What can I do for you?

Speaker 4 (05:48):
Okay, Well, I'm forty years old and I've had, you know,
my share of relationships, and I was a pretty shallow
person you know, I never really been or dated a
plus A woman, and I've just recently met somebody that's
that's incredible. I mean, the girl's just incredible. She has
everything that I've been looking for all my life all

(06:09):
in one person. She's smart, she's confident, she's very beautiful,
and she's very very mature for her age. And you know,
she's just brought feelings out of me that I haven't
had since high school. She's got me writing poetry again.
I mean I used to write a lot and just
recently so, I mean, I just it's weird feelings all
over again. It's like starting from the beginning, you know,

(06:32):
spent all that time looking for the right person and
went through all these relationships. We've got two kids out
of you know, one of the relationships, which I'm very
glad and proud of. But I was just, you know,
like I said, I can't believe how shallow I was
and looking for the right person. And now I wasn't
really looking. It just kind of happened, you know, and
I kind of opened myself up to a situation and

(06:53):
I'm kind of glad I did. And I was wondering
if you could play a song.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
For me for So, are you telling me you're in lums?

Speaker 4 (07:00):
Oh? Yeah, that's definitely what it is.

Speaker 1 (07:02):
You are in love and for the first time in
your life, you're recognizing that it's not all about appearance.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
But well, I'll tell you I'm not the greatest looking
guy either.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
So and how did you grow up?

Speaker 4 (07:13):
There's a lot more to it than that. And I
just started, you know, looking around and noticing stuff. And
like I said, I finally opened my eyes and my
heart to somebody else that you know, has really shown
me what I missed all these years. You know.

Speaker 1 (07:33):
I received a letter from Christina Piper, who had an
amazing story to share. What a journey, she says. I'm
a convicted felon. I was convicted of conspiracy to manufacture
meth amphetamines. I was addicted to meth. I was married
to my ex husband then he was so abusive towards me.

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But I knew a little about God, so I kept
praying and asking God to please help me get out
of this horrible situation. Sure enough, surprise, surprise, God was listening.
My axe was sent to federal prison. He won't be
getting out for many years. A month before I had

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been sentenced to six months at Alpha House and five
years probation. While there, I delivered a beautiful baby girl.
With lots of prayers and a changed heart, I was
able to stay out of prison and raise my daughter.
While I was staying in the Alpha House, I met
a wonderful man, a man who happens to be a pastor,

(08:38):
A man who now happens to be my husband. Yes,
I am now a pastor's wife, from a convicted felon
to a pastor's wife. Now that I've shared this with you,
do you see how God works all things out? Just
ask Christina. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations and uh I

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pray that you are bless. I so hope you have
enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing
them to you. I'll share more with you each weekday
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