February 20, 2024 • 10 mins
We try to make love into some complicated thing that needs decoding, but at the heart of the matter, it's the simplest thing on earth. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Do So, what
in the world is going on in your world? Are
(00:22):
you busy? Are you chasing your dreams? Or are you
chasing somebody else? Don't do that. Don't ever chase somebody else.
If somebody is meant to love you and be in
your life, you won't have to guess where they are
or play guess how I feel, none of that. There
(00:43):
won't be any of that. There'll just be a comfortable
knowing and you'll know. You'll know that this person is
meant to be by your side, whether it's a sweetheart
or a best friend, You'll just you'll know, and you
won't have to work for it or chase after it. Hi,
(01:05):
good evening, Welcome to the Delilah schell.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Who is this?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Hi?
Speaker 4 (01:09):
This is Teresa.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Hi, Teresa, welcome. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Well, I have an interesting story for you. I thought
you would like to hear.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Tell me your story.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
When I was like twenty years old, I met what
I thought was the love of my life and we
dated for a while. We were getting serious and then
I found out that he had a girlfriend that he
was living with on and off. So I broke up
the relationship because I was devastated. I was really crazy
(01:41):
about him, and I had no contact with him for
forty years. And then I was in the hospital one
night for like a heart condition, and I thought, you
know what, it's time to call him and have a
talk with him after forty years. And I called him
(02:06):
and he was very receptive and we had a long chat,
and he thought he thought I hated him because I
broke up with him, but I tried to explain that
I was devastated and that that that's why I broke
up with him.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
At the time, Well, I hope you broke up with
him because he was a liar and a cheater and
a deceitful person. Not that you should ever hate anyone,
but somebody whose character shows you that they are a liar,
a cheater and deceitful, not somebody you should continue in
relationship with.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Right, Right, that's true, But I just thought it was
I thought it was very interesting that forty years later
I actually ended up going out on a date with him.
But he has he has a significant other with whom
he's been together for many years. But I just thought
(03:05):
after forty years, I don't know what I was thinking,
I guess so basically, what you're saying is he hasn't changed.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
He's still deceitful.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Well, probably, but when we got together after forty years,
just to go out and have a drink, he did
tell me, you know, that he was with someone all
these years and he was still receptive to talking to me.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And what you're saying is he is still a deceitful person.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
I don't know if I would say that.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Well, if he's got a significant other that he's living
with and has been for years and he wants to
see you again, that tells me that he's not very honest,
don't you think.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Well, he wanted to see me, you know, to catch
up on the forty years we hadn't seen each other
or spoken with each other, but I knew he was
devoted to his significant other.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
If my husband decided to hook up with somebody to
go over all the years they were apart for forty
years without talking to me about it, I would not
be a happy woman If he said, you know what,
this old girlfriend reached out to me and I was
really not good to her all those years ago, and
I would like to make amends to her. Can I
have her come over here and meet you so we
(04:31):
can talk about it. That would be one thing. But
if he went out and met some gal that he
had a relationship with years ago, guess what.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah, I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
I think that you are hoping to be loved and
to be cherished, and he was the one that got
away and didn't love you and cherish you. And you
want to finish that story somehow. You want to have closure,
but you had closure minute you found out he was
living with somebody else.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Well, that's very true. Everything you're saying is very true.
And I have to let it go.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
You have to let it go, and you have to
honor yourself.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
That's all very true.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You do.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
You sound like a very kind, very sweet person, and
you deserve to be cherished.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Well, thank you. I appreciate that. And I have to
remember that and realize what I was hanging on to
didn't really exist.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Nope, it doesn't I know, But.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I appreciate you listening to my story.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
All Right, you have a great night. God bless you.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
Thanks Delilah.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Hi Alexa, what can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (05:52):
Well, Astrea else will be going on a day with
a guy and he told me that he's an a
mega special by asking me out to be a girlfriend.
And he decided to ghost me and blog me on
everything and delete the app that we were talking on.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
So too bad for him. He missed out on what
sounds like a very sweet girl.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
Yeah he did.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So why are you feeling down? Had you invested a
lot of time and energy into him?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
I did, and it feels like I did something wrong.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
So let's just think about how long had you guys been.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
Talking, been tolling for four months and.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
You're finally going to meet up and spend time together
and get to know one another and he doesn't show
and then he blocks you. Yeah, so do you really
think you did something wrong? Or do you think you
did something wrong by spending that much energy caring about
somebody who's an absolute jerk?
Speaker 5 (06:50):
I mean I did something wrong by him too much
energy in it?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, because if you put that much energy into somebody
who is that jerky? So you wasted a few months
of your time, But you know what you learned something
you learned a lot, and hopefully next time, you'll recognize
those red flags before they ghost you.
Speaker 6 (07:15):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
So deep breath and know in your heart that you
did nothing wrong, but that the only thing you did
wrong was fall in like with a jerk.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
And you're very young and you've got a very good
future ahead of you. So do yourself a favor and
don't spend this much energy worrying about boys, but instead
spend energy taking care of you. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Hi Marianne, Hi, how are you. I'm wonderful. Tell me
your story.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
I have had a lot of problems in my life
in the past. Here my husband that I was with
for seven years, he left me and left me with
three children when he turned forty years old.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Little midlife crisis going on there.
Speaker 6 (08:10):
Yeah, yeah, definitely, and he abandoned us with no support
or any kind of means for support at all. So
it was quite a struggle. Two months later after it
all happened, I met this wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Man two months after he left you.
Speaker 6 (08:25):
After well, he had had an affair for a year
and he finally admitted it that he was having an affair.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So it was just two months after he left.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Right, and we became wonderful friends. He became wonderful friends
with my children. Everything was great, and then he started
stepping in and out of my life.
Speaker 7 (08:44):
You are doing the same thing I did in my past,
and that is you are repeating patterns that you probably
learned in childhood, and that is you give, and you give,
and you love and you care, but you fall for
men who are not committed to you.
Speaker 6 (09:00):
You're right.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
What you need to do is not jump back into
a relationship. You need to jump into a healing program
for yourself. Love is being there through the good times
and the bad.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
You're right, You're one hundred percent right. You're brought to
hear it through my eyes.
Speaker 7 (09:17):
And once you realize how valuable you are and how
precious you are, then and only then will you not
be willing to settle for this kind of crazy treatment.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
You right, shoulders back, sister.
Speaker 7 (09:31):
There are wonderful men out there, so many awesome men
who would love to be a part of your life
and your children's lives on a permanent basis, on a
committed basis. Don't settle for less. I so hope you
have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy
bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
You pop it in
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Do So, what
in the world is going on in your world? Are
(00:22):
you busy? Are you chasing your dreams? Or are you
chasing somebody else? Don't do that. Don't ever chase somebody else.
If somebody is meant to love you and be in
your life, you won't have to guess where they are
or play guess how I feel, none of that. There
(00:43):
won't be any of that. There'll just be a comfortable
knowing and you'll know. You'll know that this person is
meant to be by your side, whether it's a sweetheart
or a best friend, You'll just you'll know, and you
won't have to work for it or chase after it. Hi,
(01:05):
good evening, Welcome to the Delilah schell.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Who is this?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Hi?
Speaker 4 (01:09):
This is Teresa.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
Hi, Teresa, welcome. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Well, I have an interesting story for you. I thought
you would like to hear.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Tell me your story.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
When I was like twenty years old, I met what
I thought was the love of my life and we
dated for a while. We were getting serious and then
I found out that he had a girlfriend that he
was living with on and off. So I broke up
the relationship because I was devastated. I was really crazy
(01:41):
about him, and I had no contact with him for
forty years. And then I was in the hospital one
night for like a heart condition, and I thought, you
know what, it's time to call him and have a
talk with him after forty years. And I called him
(02:06):
and he was very receptive and we had a long chat,
and he thought he thought I hated him because I
broke up with him, but I tried to explain that
I was devastated and that that that's why I broke
up with him.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
At the time, Well, I hope you broke up with
him because he was a liar and a cheater and
a deceitful person. Not that you should ever hate anyone,
but somebody whose character shows you that they are a liar,
a cheater and deceitful, not somebody you should continue in
relationship with.
Speaker 4 (02:43):
Right, Right, that's true, But I just thought it was
I thought it was very interesting that forty years later
I actually ended up going out on a date with him.
But he has he has a significant other with whom
he's been together for many years. But I just thought
(03:05):
after forty years, I don't know what I was thinking,
I guess so basically, what you're saying is he hasn't changed.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
He's still deceitful.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
Well, probably, but when we got together after forty years,
just to go out and have a drink, he did
tell me, you know, that he was with someone all
these years and he was still receptive to talking to me.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
And what you're saying is he is still a deceitful person.
Speaker 4 (03:38):
I don't know if I would say that.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
Well, if he's got a significant other that he's living
with and has been for years and he wants to
see you again, that tells me that he's not very honest,
don't you think.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Well, he wanted to see me, you know, to catch
up on the forty years we hadn't seen each other
or spoken with each other, but I knew he was
devoted to his significant other.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
If my husband decided to hook up with somebody to
go over all the years they were apart for forty
years without talking to me about it, I would not
be a happy woman If he said, you know what,
this old girlfriend reached out to me and I was
really not good to her all those years ago, and
I would like to make amends to her. Can I
have her come over here and meet you so we
(04:31):
can talk about it. That would be one thing. But
if he went out and met some gal that he
had a relationship with years ago, guess what.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah, I hear what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
I think that you are hoping to be loved and
to be cherished, and he was the one that got
away and didn't love you and cherish you. And you
want to finish that story somehow. You want to have closure,
but you had closure minute you found out he was
living with somebody else.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
Well, that's very true. Everything you're saying is very true.
And I have to let it go.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
You have to let it go, and you have to
honor yourself.
Speaker 4 (05:12):
That's all very true.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You do.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
You sound like a very kind, very sweet person, and
you deserve to be cherished.
Speaker 4 (05:19):
Well, thank you. I appreciate that. And I have to
remember that and realize what I was hanging on to
didn't really exist.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
Nope, it doesn't I know, But.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
I appreciate you listening to my story.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
All Right, you have a great night. God bless you.
Speaker 4 (05:38):
Thanks Delilah.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
Hi Alexa, what can I do for you?
Speaker 5 (05:52):
Well, Astrea else will be going on a day with
a guy and he told me that he's an a
mega special by asking me out to be a girlfriend.
And he decided to ghost me and blog me on
everything and delete the app that we were talking on.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
So too bad for him. He missed out on what
sounds like a very sweet girl.
Speaker 4 (06:13):
Yeah he did.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So why are you feeling down? Had you invested a
lot of time and energy into him?
Speaker 5 (06:21):
I did, and it feels like I did something wrong.
Speaker 3 (06:25):
So let's just think about how long had you guys been.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
Talking, been tolling for four months and.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
You're finally going to meet up and spend time together
and get to know one another and he doesn't show
and then he blocks you. Yeah, so do you really
think you did something wrong? Or do you think you
did something wrong by spending that much energy caring about
somebody who's an absolute jerk?
Speaker 5 (06:50):
I mean I did something wrong by him too much
energy in it?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, because if you put that much energy into somebody
who is that jerky? So you wasted a few months
of your time, But you know what you learned something
you learned a lot, and hopefully next time, you'll recognize
those red flags before they ghost you.
Speaker 6 (07:15):
Yep.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
So deep breath and know in your heart that you
did nothing wrong, but that the only thing you did
wrong was fall in like with a jerk.
Speaker 5 (07:29):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
And you're very young and you've got a very good
future ahead of you. So do yourself a favor and
don't spend this much energy worrying about boys, but instead
spend energy taking care of you. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Hi Marianne, Hi, how are you. I'm wonderful. Tell me
your story.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
I have had a lot of problems in my life
in the past. Here my husband that I was with
for seven years, he left me and left me with
three children when he turned forty years old.
Speaker 2 (08:08):
Little midlife crisis going on there.
Speaker 6 (08:10):
Yeah, yeah, definitely, and he abandoned us with no support
or any kind of means for support at all. So
it was quite a struggle. Two months later after it
all happened, I met this wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Man two months after he left you.
Speaker 6 (08:25):
After well, he had had an affair for a year
and he finally admitted it that he was having an affair.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
So it was just two months after he left.
Speaker 6 (08:33):
Right, and we became wonderful friends. He became wonderful friends
with my children. Everything was great, and then he started
stepping in and out of my life.
Speaker 7 (08:44):
You are doing the same thing I did in my past,
and that is you are repeating patterns that you probably
learned in childhood, and that is you give, and you give,
and you love and you care, but you fall for
men who are not committed to you.
Speaker 6 (09:00):
You're right.
Speaker 7 (09:01):
What you need to do is not jump back into
a relationship. You need to jump into a healing program
for yourself. Love is being there through the good times
and the bad.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
You're right, You're one hundred percent right. You're brought to
hear it through my eyes.
Speaker 7 (09:17):
And once you realize how valuable you are and how
precious you are, then and only then will you not
be willing to settle for this kind of crazy treatment.
Speaker 2 (09:28):
You right, shoulders back, sister.
Speaker 7 (09:31):
There are wonderful men out there, so many awesome men
who would love to be a part of your life
and your children's lives on a permanent basis, on a
committed basis. Don't settle for less. I so hope you
have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy
bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Speaker 6 (10:00):
You pop it in
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