September 12, 2024 • 9 mins
Intoxicating, romantic love is a flash in the pan compared to respectful, authentic, REAL love. Have you felt the difference? ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, do Love. Hey,
it's Delilah. You know, real love and romantic love that
(00:24):
songs are written about are two very different things. Usually,
romantic love is intoxicating and it's delicious and it's delightful,
but it is such a small slice of the pie
that makes up the commitment of love. Romantic love is
mostly emotional, but real love. Real love is when you
(00:48):
like someone's personality, you really enjoy their personality. Real love
is when you respect someone's values. And the third piece
of this puzzle is when you want to help somebody
to be the best version of themselves. When you like
(01:09):
them personally, you like their personality, when you respect their
values and the way they conduct themselves, and when you
want to help somebody be the very best they can
possibly be, that is when you know you really love somebody. Rebecca,
this is Delilah. What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I would like to dedicate a song to my husband, Dwyane.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
What do you want to tell your honey?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I want to tell him that I love him very
much and that I do trust him one hundred percent.
He made a comment after twelve years of marriage the
other day that I was just waiting for him to
leave and that I still didn't trust him. After my
first marriage, I put a lot of walls up, and
he thinks that those walls are still there, and I
(01:55):
just want him to know that they're not.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Why would he think those walls are still up.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I'm a very independent became very independent person after my
first divorce, and it is hard to let the walls down.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
And so are you sure they are down?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Probably not.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Okay, let's get honest here, because you called me to
say there's no walls, that I trust him completely and
he's completely all the way in my heart. And now
I'm hearing maybe there are some walls, and maybe, Rebecca,
you need to do a little bit of work here
on this heart.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I probably do.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Now, your husband is not your counselor. He's not a therapist.
He's and even if he is a licensed counselor or
a therapist, he shouldn't be the one helping you through this.
Have you thought that maybe you should go get some healing.
How long has it been that you've been divorced from
this last situation fifteen.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Almost sixteen years ago.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Don't you think it's kind of time to work through
that and let that nonsense be in the past.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Yeah, it's I wasn't at home. I stayed at home
my children were born, so when my first husband walked out,
it was a struggle.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
But sixteen years honey, it's time to let the past
be the past. Because what's happening is your husband is
paying a debt he does not owe.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
He is he is, He's paid it a lot over
the past.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That's not right, that's not fair, and that's not good
and that's not healthy. So go talk to whoever you
need to talk to to work through the anks, to
get to a point of healing so you can be
completely and totally free to love your hobby with every
fiber of your being without anything from the past coming
in between you. Yes, ma'am, Hi David, thank you for
(03:38):
your patience. Who's on your heart tonight.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
My wife, Cecilia.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Why do you sound sad when you say that instead
of excited.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
We've been having some problems and she recently moved in
with her parents.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
With my son, So that's why you sound so sad. Yeah,
because your heart is being shattered into a million pieces exactly.
So why are you and Cecilia separated.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Let's just say if there was an award for the
worst husband of the year, I'd be a safe bet
there that bad.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Huh yeah, on a scale of one to.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Ten, oh probably even, and eleven.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Would denote that you did something inappropriate with her best friend. David,
that's how bad eleven is. Are you sure you want
to go to that into the scale minute? Okay? All right,
so you're this is a grovel call.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, we've been We've been talking and seeing each other
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
This is a gravel call, David, admit.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It, it is. You're right.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Just put it out there, say Secilia, I am crawling.
I would crawl across shards of broken glass to be
back with you and my baby.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
That is it.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Go ahead, swallow your man pride and just say it.
I would give anything to make it up to her.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Anything.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
How about being a better husband and father? Yeah, there
you go. Let me play us for you. Thank you,
good luck. Hi Marie, welcome to the Delilah Show. How
(05:15):
are you tonight? I'm fine in you, I'm wonderful. So
what can I do? Marie? To make your night a
little more special.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Me and my husband are going to some problems because
he getting mad at me because I love Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay, back up, back up, back up. First off, what's
your husband's name?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
One?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
One?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
And how long have you been married?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Six months?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So you're pretty much newlyweds.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Okay, Now go ahead, tell me what kind of a
fuss and you're doing at each other.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
I'm giving other guys my number because I like the
attention that I get from other guys.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
You're married, but you're giving other guys your phone number. Yeah,
that would cause problems in a marriage.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
I just like the attention because when we go out there,
compliment me and I'm so eagle minus. So I just
love the attention that I give from other guys.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
How old are you, sweetie?
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Twenty eight?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
So you know what I'm going to suggest you do
really quickly, Yes, as soon as you get off this
phone call and find a counselor and figure out what
is so broken in you that you're insecure and what
is causing you to need that kind of attention that's
(06:28):
going to ultimately destroy your marriage. Okay, Because there's something
that happened, something that caused you to be willing to
sacrifice what it is that you have for something that's unhealthy.
You're addicted to that high of getting attention. It sounds
like just like somebody could be addicted to alcohol or
(06:50):
to gambling. And I understand that I'm not judging you
for it, but you need to find a healthy way
to get attention that's not a flirtatious or sexual thing
that honors yourself and your husband instead of bringing dishonor
to yourself.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Good luck, sweetie, Thank you, Delilah. You have a good night. Hi,
good evening. Who is this?
Speaker 3 (07:20):
This is Michael. How are you?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Michael? I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I'm not doing too good, Delia.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Michael, what's wrong, buddy?
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Well, me and my girlfriend, Well, we've been fighting for
the last couple of weeks, and one day I flipped
out because we got in a fight over at a restaurant.
We was going out to eat with with her grandparents.
And after that we got in a big old fight
and I got mad and I was punching things and
I was kicking things, and I just lost my temper.
And then the next day she said that she didn't
(07:50):
know if she wanted to be with me, and I
really said some mean, mean things to her, and I
really apologize for that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
What you are is somebody a young man who, for
whatever reason and needs to learn self control.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Yeah that's what I need to do. How old are you,
I'm only nineteen.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Okay, before you you escalate again and end up in jail,
find an anger management program. I know there's a funny
movie about it, but when you do have an anger problem,
it's not funny.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
But all I want to tell her is that I'm
really sorry and I love her and I want her
to stay with me, because she's talking about moving out
and stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
She would be crazy to stay with you, honey.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Yes, I know that. I know that she needs.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
To take care of her while you take care of you. Yeah,
I know that's what you need to tell her. Not
stay with me, not begging, not pleading. You need to
grow up and say, you know what, I'm a young man.
If I'm old enough to have a relationship, I'm old
enough to be a man and go get the help
that I need.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I told her that, go talk.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
To a professional, get into a program before it's too late.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Yeah, you're right, I tell her that I love her
so very much, and that I apologie for everything that
I said, and I will work on my temper and
I will go get help and I will do what
I can to make her happy.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I will tell her that you have a good night,
you two. I so hope you have enjoyed these radio
moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
I'll share more with you each weekday. On Ay, It's Delilah.
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast, do Love. Hey,
it's Delilah. You know, real love and romantic love that
(00:24):
songs are written about are two very different things. Usually,
romantic love is intoxicating and it's delicious and it's delightful,
but it is such a small slice of the pie
that makes up the commitment of love. Romantic love is
mostly emotional, but real love. Real love is when you
(00:48):
like someone's personality, you really enjoy their personality. Real love
is when you respect someone's values. And the third piece
of this puzzle is when you want to help somebody
to be the best version of themselves. When you like
(01:09):
them personally, you like their personality, when you respect their
values and the way they conduct themselves, and when you
want to help somebody be the very best they can
possibly be, that is when you know you really love somebody. Rebecca,
this is Delilah. What can I do for you?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
I would like to dedicate a song to my husband, Dwyane.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
What do you want to tell your honey?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
I want to tell him that I love him very
much and that I do trust him one hundred percent.
He made a comment after twelve years of marriage the
other day that I was just waiting for him to
leave and that I still didn't trust him. After my
first marriage, I put a lot of walls up, and
he thinks that those walls are still there, and I
(01:55):
just want him to know that they're not.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Why would he think those walls are still up.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I'm a very independent became very independent person after my
first divorce, and it is hard to let the walls down.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
And so are you sure they are down?
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Probably not.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
Okay, let's get honest here, because you called me to
say there's no walls, that I trust him completely and
he's completely all the way in my heart. And now
I'm hearing maybe there are some walls, and maybe, Rebecca,
you need to do a little bit of work here
on this heart.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
I probably do.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Now, your husband is not your counselor. He's not a therapist.
He's and even if he is a licensed counselor or
a therapist, he shouldn't be the one helping you through this.
Have you thought that maybe you should go get some healing.
How long has it been that you've been divorced from
this last situation fifteen.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Almost sixteen years ago.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Don't you think it's kind of time to work through
that and let that nonsense be in the past.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Yeah, it's I wasn't at home. I stayed at home
my children were born, so when my first husband walked out,
it was a struggle.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
But sixteen years honey, it's time to let the past
be the past. Because what's happening is your husband is
paying a debt he does not owe.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
He is he is, He's paid it a lot over
the past.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
That's not right, that's not fair, and that's not good
and that's not healthy. So go talk to whoever you
need to talk to to work through the anks, to
get to a point of healing so you can be
completely and totally free to love your hobby with every
fiber of your being without anything from the past coming
in between you. Yes, ma'am, Hi David, thank you for
(03:38):
your patience. Who's on your heart tonight.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
My wife, Cecilia.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Why do you sound sad when you say that instead
of excited.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
We've been having some problems and she recently moved in
with her parents.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
With my son, So that's why you sound so sad. Yeah,
because your heart is being shattered into a million pieces exactly.
So why are you and Cecilia separated.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Let's just say if there was an award for the
worst husband of the year, I'd be a safe bet
there that bad.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Huh yeah, on a scale of one to.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
Ten, oh probably even, and eleven.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Would denote that you did something inappropriate with her best friend. David,
that's how bad eleven is. Are you sure you want
to go to that into the scale minute? Okay? All right,
so you're this is a grovel call.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, we've been We've been talking and seeing each other
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
This is a gravel call, David, admit.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
It, it is. You're right.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Just put it out there, say Secilia, I am crawling.
I would crawl across shards of broken glass to be
back with you and my baby.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
That is it.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Go ahead, swallow your man pride and just say it.
I would give anything to make it up to her.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
Anything.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
How about being a better husband and father? Yeah, there
you go. Let me play us for you. Thank you,
good luck. Hi Marie, welcome to the Delilah Show. How
(05:15):
are you tonight? I'm fine in you, I'm wonderful. So
what can I do? Marie? To make your night a
little more special.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
Me and my husband are going to some problems because
he getting mad at me because I love Okay.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Okay, back up, back up, back up. First off, what's
your husband's name?
Speaker 4 (05:32):
One?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
One?
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
And how long have you been married?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Six months?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
So you're pretty much newlyweds.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (05:41):
Okay, Now go ahead, tell me what kind of a
fuss and you're doing at each other.
Speaker 4 (05:45):
I'm giving other guys my number because I like the
attention that I get from other guys.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
You're married, but you're giving other guys your phone number. Yeah,
that would cause problems in a marriage.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
I just like the attention because when we go out there,
compliment me and I'm so eagle minus. So I just
love the attention that I give from other guys.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
How old are you, sweetie?
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Twenty eight?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
So you know what I'm going to suggest you do
really quickly, Yes, as soon as you get off this
phone call and find a counselor and figure out what
is so broken in you that you're insecure and what
is causing you to need that kind of attention that's
(06:28):
going to ultimately destroy your marriage. Okay, Because there's something
that happened, something that caused you to be willing to
sacrifice what it is that you have for something that's unhealthy.
You're addicted to that high of getting attention. It sounds
like just like somebody could be addicted to alcohol or
(06:50):
to gambling. And I understand that I'm not judging you
for it, but you need to find a healthy way
to get attention that's not a flirtatious or sexual thing
that honors yourself and your husband instead of bringing dishonor
to yourself.
Speaker 4 (07:05):
I hear you.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Good luck, sweetie, Thank you, Delilah. You have a good night. Hi,
good evening. Who is this?
Speaker 3 (07:20):
This is Michael. How are you?
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Michael? I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 3 (07:25):
I'm not doing too good, Delia.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Michael, what's wrong, buddy?
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Well, me and my girlfriend, Well, we've been fighting for
the last couple of weeks, and one day I flipped
out because we got in a fight over at a restaurant.
We was going out to eat with with her grandparents.
And after that we got in a big old fight
and I got mad and I was punching things and
I was kicking things, and I just lost my temper.
And then the next day she said that she didn't
(07:50):
know if she wanted to be with me, and I
really said some mean, mean things to her, and I
really apologize for that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
What you are is somebody a young man who, for
whatever reason and needs to learn self control.
Speaker 3 (08:02):
Yeah that's what I need to do. How old are you,
I'm only nineteen.
Speaker 1 (08:06):
Okay, before you you escalate again and end up in jail,
find an anger management program. I know there's a funny
movie about it, but when you do have an anger problem,
it's not funny.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
But all I want to tell her is that I'm
really sorry and I love her and I want her
to stay with me, because she's talking about moving out
and stuff.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
She would be crazy to stay with you, honey.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Yes, I know that. I know that she needs.
Speaker 5 (08:31):
To take care of her while you take care of you. Yeah,
I know that's what you need to tell her. Not
stay with me, not begging, not pleading. You need to
grow up and say, you know what, I'm a young man.
If I'm old enough to have a relationship, I'm old
enough to be a man and go get the help
that I need.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
I told her that, go talk.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
To a professional, get into a program before it's too late.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Yeah, you're right, I tell her that I love her
so very much, and that I apologie for everything that
I said, and I will work on my temper and
I will go get help and I will do what
I can to make her happy.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I will tell her that you have a good night,
you two. I so hope you have enjoyed these radio
moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
I'll share more with you each weekday. On Ay, It's Delilah.
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