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January 2, 2025 10 mins

Cheating is not a mistake, it's a choice. But healing IS possible! ~ Delilah

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast through If you
are in a committed relationship, cheating is a choice, not

(00:24):
a mistake. You can't say I made a little mistake.
That's a ballface. Lie. It's not a mistake. It's a choice.
It's not an accident. It's an on purpose and loyalty,
Loyalty to the one you loved, to the one you
committed to, to your family, to your children. Loyalty is
a responsibility, not a choice. You can't choose, you know

(00:50):
and say, well on this day, I'm not really going
to be faithful. And I'm not just talking about physical cheating.
I'm talking about emotional cheating. I'm talking about betraying your
loved one. So just a little wisdom for you, Hi, Danielle,

(01:13):
this is Delilah. What can I do for you tonight?

Speaker 2 (01:15):
Ela, Well, I want you to play a song for
me if you can. It's a request that I want
to dedicate to my wife, Maria.

Speaker 1 (01:22):
Maria is your wife. Yeah, what do you want to
tell Maria?

Speaker 2 (01:27):
I just want to let her know that this song
is for her, and every word to this song means
everything in my heart that I'm trying to get to
her and that I am very sorry for what happened.
And there's just not enough words that I can say
that will ever take away the pain that she is
hurting right now. But I hope one day in her

(01:47):
life that she'll find it somewhere in her heart to
forgive me. And I really really love her, and I
miss her and the kids, and I just want to
come home.

Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, okay, okay, okay.

Speaker 3 (01:56):
You know you can't call me and say this without
me saying, what did you do that you got kicked
to the curve?

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Buddy?

Speaker 2 (02:04):
Oh? Yeah, I did something foolish that I should never
have done. I'm embarrassed about it.

Speaker 3 (02:09):
Did it involve your lips bumping into somebody else's sort
of yeah.

Speaker 4 (02:14):
Sort of.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah. I hate it when that happens.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Very stupid thing. And I was I don't know why
it happened, It just happened.

Speaker 1 (02:23):
But it's not happening now.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
No, it's not. And I'll do anything in the world
to get my family back.

Speaker 3 (02:30):
And when this happened, was it an emotional thing that happened?
Did you feel an emotional attachment to the other person
or was it just one of those kind of.

Speaker 2 (02:42):
Just a stupid freak accident.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
No, maybe that's not an accident, that's an on purpose.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yeah, you're right.

Speaker 3 (02:50):
Yeah, I will play a song and good luck than
you have a good day.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Hi, good evening.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
Who is this Hi to live And my name is Apprecia.
I am so excited to talk to you right now.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
Hi'll appreciate what can I do for you.

Speaker 4 (03:10):
I've been married since I was eighteen.

Speaker 1 (03:12):
How old are you now?

Speaker 4 (03:13):
Twenty four?

Speaker 1 (03:14):
Okay, so you're still young.

Speaker 4 (03:15):
Well, a couple of weeks ago, me and my husband
finally wind up talking again after a couple of years,
and we're thinking about getting back together. But I'm just
so afraid that he's going to cheat on me, because
that's why we weren't together. He cheated on me a
number of times, and I stood by him until one
day I couldn't take it anymore and we separated. And

(03:35):
now talking about getting back together again.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
And how long have you been apart?

Speaker 4 (03:39):
About two and a half years.

Speaker 3 (03:41):
So you were a child when you married him, a
child when you separated from me.

Speaker 4 (03:45):
Yeah, so I went through by at a young age.

Speaker 3 (03:47):
So during the two years you've been separated, has he
done anything to show you that he is changing his ways?
Or is it the same old, same o and he's
just you know, hoping that you'll open the doors to
your heart, your home and give him another chance.

Speaker 4 (04:02):
It's the same old, same old. He wind up getting
another female, pregnant and having twins.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
So what's the question.

Speaker 4 (04:09):
I don't know what to do.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
It's like, you know what to do.

Speaker 4 (04:11):
I know, I just just loving him so much.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
But you know what to do?

Speaker 4 (04:16):
Yes, I do.

Speaker 1 (04:17):
What you're asking for?

Speaker 3 (04:19):
Is is there any hope that if you took him
back he would change?

Speaker 4 (04:24):
That's what I'm praying for.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
Yeah, but you know what probably not going to happen,
is it?

Speaker 4 (04:29):
Probably not?

Speaker 3 (04:31):
No, you know, it's not even the physical aspects of
cheating that hurts so bad.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
It's the fact that your spirit is violated.

Speaker 4 (04:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (04:40):
You feel like you've opened up, you've loved, you've trusted,
and that was just thrown away. Yeah, so why would
you want to do that again?

Speaker 4 (04:47):
I asked myself that question. Sometimes I don't think it's
going to work. It just it just hurts so bad.
I guess because I was so young and.

Speaker 3 (04:55):
Honey, it wouldn't have mattered if you were eighteen or
twenty eight or forty eight. When you love like you love,
and when you I love completely and you give all
of yourself to somebody and you're just completely into him
and then they destroy that, it hurts. I'm not gonna
tell you to stop loving him, because that's foolishness. You're
not going to stop loving him, right. I'm not gonna
tell you to stop hoping that he'll change, because you're

(05:17):
gonna hope he's gonna change anyway. I am gonna tell
you if you open yourself up once again to be
intimately connected to somebody who's a lying, cheating dog, you're
gonna get fleas or something worse. Right, Camille wrote and

(05:41):
shared an email, and the title of it is don't
be like Me. She writes, Delilah, this is the story
of the death of my marriage. My husband of twenty
eight years, Anthony and I seem to have the perfect life.
Four wonderful sons, the big house, eight cars, and lots

(06:02):
and lots of family around. Anthony and I had had
many years of great times together. Our problems seemed to
appear when our kids were gone. And it was just
us alone, Delilah. I thought this would be the best
time of our life, but we drifted apart.

Speaker 1 (06:19):
No communication. Life was boring.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Someone else came along and showed me some attention and
I responded. Never did I ever think of straying, but
I did, and this led to our divorce. Anthony was
so hurt by my actions he didn't even want to
try to work it out. My message to anyone contemplating
straying outside of their marriage for attention, don't do it.

(06:48):
Use all of your power and strength to reconnect with
the one you love and make it work. It's been
four years now and I missed my husband so very much.
I will always love him, and he knows how sorry
I am. But he has moved on with his life
and he's getting married to a wonderful person next month.

(07:08):
I want our marriage back and I will never have that.
So to your listeners, don't be like me. Sincerely, can you?

Speaker 5 (07:26):
Hi, Deliah, this is Judy.

Speaker 1 (07:28):
Judy welcome. What can I do for you?

Speaker 5 (07:30):
Well? First of all, I want to tell you you're
the best. I love listening to you. I just want
to dedicate a song to my husband. His name is Brad.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
How long has Brad been your betrothed? Your beloved?

Speaker 5 (07:41):
Brad has been my husband for nine years. The reason
I want to dedicate song to him is we went
out when we were younger. Things didn't work out, and
he kind of went his way, and he was a
really playloy And.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
She pauses, how can I say this delicately? Was a jerk?

Speaker 2 (08:01):
Yeah, it was a dog and.

Speaker 5 (08:03):
He was a good looking woman's man. And twenty years
later we got married and I had two children, two.

Speaker 1 (08:11):
Boys, And how many did he have?

Speaker 5 (08:14):
He didn't have anybody, He didn't have two marriages. When
we got married, no one thought that it would work out.
And for good reason, and all his friends, you know,
we're even making guests that it wouldn't last because he couldn't, you.

Speaker 3 (08:25):
Know, stay faithful and stay committed exactly.

Speaker 5 (08:29):
And we have been married for nine years. He's been
an unbelievable stepfather to my two boys. He's been my
best friend and he's been wonderful.

Speaker 3 (08:38):
So what changed in his heart and his spirit that
made him realize that using women really wasn't a good idea?

Speaker 5 (08:46):
Well, you know, I think he kind of did everything
he wanted to do for twenty years. I think he
kind of got really old, and then I gave him
a call and we got together and he felt it
was right, and he's been unbelievable.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
Yeah. But see, most people who start out on a
path going from point A to point B don't end
up at point C.

Speaker 1 (09:08):
So if he changed his attitude.

Speaker 3 (09:11):
About women and respecting women and not being promiscuous, it
wasn't that he had gotten it out of his system,
because that's addictive behavior that, you know. That's like saying, well,
I'm doing cocaine until I you know, I'm tired of
doing it. Something changed in him that said, you know what,
I need to alter my worldview.

Speaker 1 (09:30):
And the way I treat people and take a different course.

Speaker 5 (09:33):
It's because he really loves me, I know it.

Speaker 3 (09:35):
If his love for you motivated him to do that,
that's a pretty amazing love.

Speaker 5 (09:40):
And it is and nobody believes it. And every day
we look at each other when he laughs and he goes,
I can't believe we're married after going out when we
were nineteen years old, and he's just the best and
we are best friends. And I tell everybody, don't ever
get married unless someone's your best friends. Then I guess
that this was the time. It will never end. I

(10:02):
know for a fact that he would never do anything
different and do anything with anyone but me, And it's
just an amazing story.

Speaker 3 (10:12):
That is an amazing story, and you are very, very
blessed to have that kind of trust.

Speaker 5 (10:17):
And I'm so lucky. But he's also so lucky because
the best thing that ever could have happened to him
with me and my two children. And I really feel
that way, and so does he.

Speaker 1 (10:28):
I'm going to find a good song for you too.

Speaker 3 (10:30):
I'm proud of him for making those changes, and I'm
thrilled for you that you're with the love in your life.

Speaker 1 (10:39):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Ay, It's Delilah
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