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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Do when you're stressed out? What do you do?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
How does it affect you? When I'm stressed out? I snap,
I'm grumpy, I yell. I yell way too much, especially
if I hurt myself, like if I slam my toe
or you know, cut myself when I'm out working in
the garden or whatever. If I bruise myself, hurt myself,
(00:41):
I snap. What do you do when you're stressed? You
know what it does to your heart and to your
body cortisol. When you're stressed and you're not taking time
to take care of you, it's not good. It's not
good what it does to your body. It's not good
what it does to your soul. So don't do as
(01:04):
I do and get stressed out and snap.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Do as I say. Go for a walk. Go for
a walk.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Breathe deep, take five or ten minutes to de stress,
to lower your blood pressure, to look at things from
a different perspective, to remind yourself that your best is
good enough. If you are doing your best, that is enough.
(01:32):
Hi good evening, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who's this?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
This is Courtney.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I am just driving home and me and my husband
actually have had a rough couple of months. Our financial
situation isn't exactly the best. And I was just driving
home and I turn on your show and I heard
you say that money wasn't everything is right. As I
(01:59):
was kind of starting to cry, I heard you say that,
and then you said that the most important times that
you've had in your life actually didn't cost assent, and
that really made me realize how true that is, and
that I'm so in love with him and he just
means the world to me.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
You know, money is good in that it can relieve
stress if you're worrying about the water being cut off
or the utilities being cut off, or not enough food
for your kids. But when the desire or the need
for money becomes more important than the time you spend
with the one you love, or more important than the
(02:40):
special bond or the communication you have with the one
you love, then you got to step back and go,
what am I working for?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
And I was just thinking about all that in my head,
and when I turned on your show, you just happen
to be talking about it, and it just seems as
if it was like a message to me not to
let that stuff, you know, get in the way of
the people that you love. And so that just meant
a lot to me to hear.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
You say that.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Well, God bless you. I hope you're able to work
through your financial struggles. I hope you're able to work together,
and I hope you're able to reunite and reignite.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I should say that passion.
Speaker 5 (03:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Hi, this is Delilah, who's with me on the phone
line tonight?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Oh, mary Anne?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Hi, Marianne. How are you this evening?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
I'm doing fine.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
What can I do for you? Marianne?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
I'm calling me because I just wanted a song to
be played for my mom. He's now a widow. My
father passed away a few years ago, and I just,
you know, like we live in different towns and I
just want a song for her, So touch her on
the phone this evening. She's still in lonely, you know,
(04:01):
just missing my mom and my dad. That name my
mom I wanted to to cheer up. Her name is Julia.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So I hear in your voice that if you could
reach through the miles. You would be there in a heartbeat.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yes, and she's getting up an age And.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Okay, I'll find a song for your mama if you
promise me you'll stop beating yourself up, because it's mom
guilt is bad enough when we're the mom thinking, oh
I wish I could be there for my child more,
I have to work blah blah blah. But but child
guilt is even worse.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So stop it.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Raise your right hand and say, Delilah, I promise I
will stop beating myself up.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I will stop beating myself up for doing.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
The best that I can possibly do for.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
The best that I can possibly do.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
And I'll give myself a break.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
And I'll give myself a break.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
And if you mean that and you will stop, I
will play a wonderful song to honor your mother and
I will say a prayer that she has peace in
her heart tonight.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
Speaker 6 (05:26):
Hi, Ricky, what can I do for you?
Speaker 7 (05:29):
I would just like the dedicated song to my fiance
and I don't really have one in mine. But we're
going through a lot of stressed about getting ready for
a wedding. In a couple of months and just wanted
to see if you could play something for me, Ricky.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
What's your fiance's name, Lisa? How did you and Lisa meet?
Speaker 7 (05:49):
We met actually at college.
Speaker 6 (05:51):
How long have you been together?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Just over three years now, so long enough to.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Know this is who you want to spend forever with. Yeah,
So is there a lot of stress us with the wedding?
Are you going through all that? Oh my gosh, we
don't have enough money. We want this, we want that.
Speaker 7 (06:05):
Yes, definitely. We're starting to try to get back to
where we were before and pretty much all the planning's
done with and so we're trying to get back to
where we were before and just try to enjoy the process.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
Can I just remind you of one small thing?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Sure, weddings are just events.
Speaker 6 (06:26):
Yes, that's all they are.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yes, they're a symbolic day to signify a choice, a
decision that you've made in your spirit and in your
heart and in your life.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
But that's all they are is an event.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
And to put stress into your life and into your
fiance's life, and to put financial stress on yourself over
an event is ridiculous.
Speaker 7 (06:50):
Right, Well, it's not so much the financial stuff, it's
just the stress of wanting everything to go well, you know,
if you've had everything planned for years what she wanted,
and so I just it's not me so much. It's
just I want to make everything easy for her, and
I'm the calling one in the relationship to try to
tell her that it's going to be okay.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
So you're marrying a girl who's a little high strung, Yeah,
a little bit of a perfectionist.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
Yes, very much, has the whole.
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Thing planned out in her mind how it has to be.
Speaker 7 (07:22):
Yeah, she's down near got everything the way she wanted to.
I think, with the exception of a couple of things,
but not big ones.
Speaker 6 (07:32):
I hope it goes smoothly.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
But if it doesn't, I hope she's able to roll
with the flow and just to enjoy the fact she's
marrying somebody who adores.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Her as you do.
Speaker 7 (07:41):
Well, thank you, and I do adore I love her
with all my heart.
Speaker 6 (07:44):
I just want her to know that that is obvious, sir.
Let me play a song for you.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Thank you, Beth, Thank you for calling. What can I
do for you?
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Hi, Delilah Hi. Basically, I've gone through a pretty difficult
time with a divorce with a guy who is an addict,
and at one point at time it was so bad.
All I wanted to do was move to a bigger
and better place just to get away from him. And
(08:22):
now it has He's definitely improved his life. It's it's
still not the best for me, but I still plan
on moving. And it's kind of difficult because I do
see his son growing a much stronger bond with him.
He hasn't paid any child support. I have not, you know,
(08:43):
held his son kind of hostage, kind of say like
some women do. I've basically said, you know, you can
see your son, but there's been times when I've prevented
him from seeing his son because his son has a
lot of allergies, a lot of problems health wise, and
I just think that we could better ourselves once Eventually,
when we do move, it's just going to be very difficult.
(09:05):
I'm afraid his son will hate me for the rest
of his life. And I just hope that my son
will understand when we do move.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Okay, how old is your son two?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And are you moving so that he will not have
a relationship with his father or are you moving to
a better, cleaner, safer health or environment.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
It's definitely, because it's going to be a better environment.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
And will you still bend over backwards like you have
been to foster the relationship between him and his dad
and do everything in your power to encourage that and
not discourage it.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Oh yes, Okay, then stop the guilt trip, Mama.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
It's okay to take care of you and to do
what's right by you and not to worry about what
somebody else thinks.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
That doesn't mean you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Don't care about others and you don't love others, but
allowing what other people think to be a relevant part
of your life is foolishness. All you got to worry
about is what's right by you, right by your son,
and if you are doing God's will.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Okay, okay, all right, let me play a song for you.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
Thank you so much to Lave, good luck, my friend,
Thank you, and God bless.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He has blessed me richly.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
You know I think he blesses us all in his
own way.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
You have a good night, thank you, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Ay it's delilah,
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
Do when you're stressed out? What do you do?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
How does it affect you? When I'm stressed out? I snap,
I'm grumpy, I yell. I yell way too much, especially
if I hurt myself, like if I slam my toe
or you know, cut myself when I'm out working in
the garden or whatever. If I bruise myself, hurt myself,
(00:41):
I snap. What do you do when you're stressed? You
know what it does to your heart and to your
body cortisol. When you're stressed and you're not taking time
to take care of you, it's not good. It's not
good what it does to your body. It's not good
what it does to your soul. So don't do as
(01:04):
I do and get stressed out and snap.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Do as I say. Go for a walk. Go for
a walk.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
Breathe deep, take five or ten minutes to de stress,
to lower your blood pressure, to look at things from
a different perspective, to remind yourself that your best is
good enough. If you are doing your best, that is enough.
(01:32):
Hi good evening, Welcome to the Delilah Show. Who's this?
Speaker 3 (01:37):
This is Courtney.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
I am just driving home and me and my husband
actually have had a rough couple of months. Our financial
situation isn't exactly the best. And I was just driving
home and I turn on your show and I heard
you say that money wasn't everything is right. As I
(01:59):
was kind of starting to cry, I heard you say that,
and then you said that the most important times that
you've had in your life actually didn't cost assent, and
that really made me realize how true that is, and
that I'm so in love with him and he just
means the world to me.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
You know, money is good in that it can relieve
stress if you're worrying about the water being cut off
or the utilities being cut off, or not enough food
for your kids. But when the desire or the need
for money becomes more important than the time you spend
with the one you love, or more important than the
(02:40):
special bond or the communication you have with the one
you love, then you got to step back and go,
what am I working for?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Yeah, that's right.
Speaker 4 (02:49):
And I was just thinking about all that in my head,
and when I turned on your show, you just happen
to be talking about it, and it just seems as
if it was like a message to me not to
let that stuff, you know, get in the way of
the people that you love. And so that just meant
a lot to me to hear.
Speaker 3 (03:08):
You say that.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Well, God bless you. I hope you're able to work
through your financial struggles. I hope you're able to work together,
and I hope you're able to reunite and reignite.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I should say that passion.
Speaker 5 (03:19):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Hi, this is Delilah, who's with me on the phone
line tonight?
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Oh, mary Anne?
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Hi, Marianne. How are you this evening?
Speaker 3 (03:34):
I'm doing fine.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
What can I do for you? Marianne?
Speaker 3 (03:38):
I'm calling me because I just wanted a song to
be played for my mom. He's now a widow. My
father passed away a few years ago, and I just,
you know, like we live in different towns and I
just want a song for her, So touch her on
the phone this evening. She's still in lonely, you know,
(04:01):
just missing my mom and my dad. That name my
mom I wanted to to cheer up. Her name is Julia.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
So I hear in your voice that if you could
reach through the miles. You would be there in a heartbeat.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
Yes, and she's getting up an age And.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Okay, I'll find a song for your mama if you
promise me you'll stop beating yourself up, because it's mom
guilt is bad enough when we're the mom thinking, oh
I wish I could be there for my child more,
I have to work blah blah blah. But but child
guilt is even worse.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
So stop it.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Raise your right hand and say, Delilah, I promise I
will stop beating myself up.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I will stop beating myself up for doing.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
The best that I can possibly do for.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
The best that I can possibly do.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
And I'll give myself a break.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
And I'll give myself a break.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
And if you mean that and you will stop, I
will play a wonderful song to honor your mother and
I will say a prayer that she has peace in
her heart tonight.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Thank you so much. I appreciate it.
Speaker 6 (05:26):
Hi, Ricky, what can I do for you?
Speaker 7 (05:29):
I would just like the dedicated song to my fiance
and I don't really have one in mine. But we're
going through a lot of stressed about getting ready for
a wedding. In a couple of months and just wanted
to see if you could play something for me, Ricky.
Speaker 6 (05:44):
What's your fiance's name, Lisa? How did you and Lisa meet?
Speaker 7 (05:49):
We met actually at college.
Speaker 6 (05:51):
How long have you been together?
Speaker 7 (05:53):
Just over three years now, so long enough to.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Know this is who you want to spend forever with. Yeah,
So is there a lot of stress us with the wedding?
Are you going through all that? Oh my gosh, we
don't have enough money. We want this, we want that.
Speaker 7 (06:05):
Yes, definitely. We're starting to try to get back to
where we were before and pretty much all the planning's
done with and so we're trying to get back to
where we were before and just try to enjoy the process.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
Can I just remind you of one small thing?
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Sure, weddings are just events.
Speaker 6 (06:26):
Yes, that's all they are.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Yes, they're a symbolic day to signify a choice, a
decision that you've made in your spirit and in your
heart and in your life.
Speaker 6 (06:37):
But that's all they are is an event.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
And to put stress into your life and into your
fiance's life, and to put financial stress on yourself over
an event is ridiculous.
Speaker 7 (06:50):
Right, Well, it's not so much the financial stuff, it's
just the stress of wanting everything to go well, you know,
if you've had everything planned for years what she wanted,
and so I just it's not me so much. It's
just I want to make everything easy for her, and
I'm the calling one in the relationship to try to
tell her that it's going to be okay.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
So you're marrying a girl who's a little high strung, Yeah,
a little bit of a perfectionist.
Speaker 4 (07:17):
Yes, very much, has the whole.
Speaker 6 (07:19):
Thing planned out in her mind how it has to be.
Speaker 7 (07:22):
Yeah, she's down near got everything the way she wanted to.
I think, with the exception of a couple of things,
but not big ones.
Speaker 6 (07:32):
I hope it goes smoothly.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
But if it doesn't, I hope she's able to roll
with the flow and just to enjoy the fact she's
marrying somebody who adores.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Her as you do.
Speaker 7 (07:41):
Well, thank you, and I do adore I love her
with all my heart.
Speaker 6 (07:44):
I just want her to know that that is obvious, sir.
Let me play a song for you.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Thank you, Beth, Thank you for calling. What can I
do for you?
Speaker 5 (08:00):
Hi, Delilah Hi. Basically, I've gone through a pretty difficult
time with a divorce with a guy who is an addict,
and at one point at time it was so bad.
All I wanted to do was move to a bigger
and better place just to get away from him. And
(08:22):
now it has He's definitely improved his life. It's it's
still not the best for me, but I still plan
on moving. And it's kind of difficult because I do
see his son growing a much stronger bond with him.
He hasn't paid any child support. I have not, you know,
(08:43):
held his son kind of hostage, kind of say like
some women do. I've basically said, you know, you can
see your son, but there's been times when I've prevented
him from seeing his son because his son has a
lot of allergies, a lot of problems health wise, and
I just think that we could better ourselves once Eventually,
when we do move, it's just going to be very difficult.
(09:05):
I'm afraid his son will hate me for the rest
of his life. And I just hope that my son
will understand when we do move.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Okay, how old is your son two?
Speaker 1 (09:14):
And are you moving so that he will not have
a relationship with his father or are you moving to
a better, cleaner, safer health or environment.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
It's definitely, because it's going to be a better environment.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
And will you still bend over backwards like you have
been to foster the relationship between him and his dad
and do everything in your power to encourage that and
not discourage it.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Oh yes, Okay, then stop the guilt trip, Mama.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
It's okay to take care of you and to do
what's right by you and not to worry about what
somebody else thinks.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
That doesn't mean you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Don't care about others and you don't love others, but
allowing what other people think to be a relevant part
of your life is foolishness. All you got to worry
about is what's right by you, right by your son,
and if you are doing God's will.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
Okay, okay, all right, let me play a song for you.
Speaker 5 (10:07):
Thank you so much to Lave, good luck, my friend,
Thank you, and God bless.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
He has blessed me richly.
Speaker 5 (10:13):
You know I think he blesses us all in his
own way.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
You have a good night, thank you, bye bye.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on Ay it's delilah,
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