February 19, 2024 • 11 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast lo I am
here to uplift you, to remind you that you are
(00:23):
worthy of happiness. If somebody is stealing your joy, change
your circumstances. Now. If you're a minor, if you're a child,
you can't do that. If you are in an abusive
or a destructive home, you can't change your circumstances. You
(00:45):
can talk to someone, however, if you're being hurt and
let them know and get help someone you trust. But
if you're an adult, if you're over the age of eighteen,
and you are in a relationship or a situation, maybe
it's a work situation, I don't know. But if you're
in a situation where you are not being treated with
(01:05):
dignity and respect, then change or a situation. God has
a wonderful plan for your life. There is a hope
for a wonderful future sometimes though, you've got to be
brave enough to take that first step. Good evening, Welcome
(01:29):
to the Delilah Show.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Who is this My name is Kelly.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Hi, Kelly, Welcome. What can I do?
Speaker 3 (01:36):
For you.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Well, pretty much. My story is I would just like
to dedicate any song to my to my mama because
this past Thanksgiving, my mama was down for Thanksgiving and
she realized that I was in a very toxic, abusive
relationship and it's been going on for ten years. And
(02:00):
she took me and she said, just come home with me, Kelly,
and I did, and I escaped that relationship all thanks
to her.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Were you eager to get out or were you like
a lot of us when we're stuck in it, we
don't even see how bad it is.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It took me years to figure it out. I'm thirty
three now. I got married when I was twenty two,
and oh gosh, I've been through the Ringer. Let's just
say that this everything, every verbal, mental emotional abuse, so
I can go through. I'm going through a live PTSD
and emotional memories and I'm taking it day by day.
(02:42):
It's been about two months now, So.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
And are you done? Are you really done? You're not
going to run back into the same mess.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I'm done this time because when she was there at
my home for Thanksgiving, he disrespected her in a way
way that he disrespected me, and it opened my eyes
to the monster I was living with.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
But you didn't see it as abused. When it was you,
he was disrespecting, But when it was your sweet mama,
you went, Okay, you cross the line, buddy. Yes, I
hope you know now that that is the code of
every abuser, that they isolate you and get you away
from the people that you love the most. You know that, right, Yes, absolutely,
(03:33):
that's what abusers do.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yes, they do. He alienated me from my entire family
I have. I have five brothers that have told me, Kelly,
we love you. We never hated you, but we hated
seeing you being taken advantage of. So I just slowly
but surely trying to mend all the relationships I was
(03:56):
alienated from because of him.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Good for you and starting to heal. I hope you're
getting some counseling and talking to somebody and working through everything.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Oh absolutely, absolutely, Like I said, just the PTSD and
the you know, not being able to sleep at night.
But I'm taking it day by day and I'm praying
every two a day. I wake up every day and
pray because I know I'm one of the lucky ones.
You know, I'm one of the lucky ones that actually
guile this relationship unharmed. If you know what I.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Mean, well, I wouldn't say you got out unharmed. I
would say you got out alive because I can hear
in your voice just the the heartache and the harm.
You didn't get out unharmed, but you did get out alive. Absolutely,
not right now, because you are healing right now. But
once this healing journey, once you're down the road of
(04:50):
this healing journey, you're going to be able to reach
back and help other young women who are just starting.
I would love that.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I would love to be advocates for women like me.
Absolutely absolutely. That's why I called your station about fifty
times trying to get through, because you know, I just
want to tell women out there, you know, don't wait.
You know it's just gonna be more years of abuse
and more heartache and more hurt if you stay. Just
(05:21):
the first sign of this person, either if it's a
man or a woman abusing you in some way, it
has to be over, you know, save yourself to heartache.
And my mama, she just means the world to me,
and I'm grateful. I'm grateful that God kept her alive
so I could have this time with her.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I'm grateful that God kept you alive so you could
have this time with her too.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I know I care more about other people than myself.
I gotta be honest, I get it.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Well. I'm proud of you, honey. I'm so proud of you,
and I hope that you get help and healing, and
I hope you're able to reach out and join an
organization or something that gives hope to other people who
are being abused.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Absolutely absolutely, I love that. I would love that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I'm going to play a song for you and everybody
else who has come through, come out on the other
side and is taking life one day at a time
and breathing the fresh air of freedom from abuse. Thank you.
(06:44):
Hi is this Heather? Yes, Hi Heather? How are you tonight?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
I'm great. I have been trying to get hold of
you for so long. I listened to you. I'm twenty
four years old and I've listened to you since I
was really young. I want to make a request. I
don't care. You can pick the song, but I I
met a man nine months ago. He's awesome. I didn't
like him at first. For two months, me and him
just argued. He intrigued me. I intrigued him. So we've
(07:11):
called back and forth and just argued just to talk
to each other, and then we met two months later.
I just I fell head over hills in love with him.
I've been with him since I had got out of
a bad relationship with my ex husband. He had smacked
me around and everything, and I lost my kids and
he's been there to help me fight, to get my
(07:32):
kids back, and to just be my support in my rock.
And I've never had anybody like that in my life.
And I just I wanting to know how much I
love him.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
What's his name?
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Bill?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
So do you have your kids back?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Not yet. I We're still in the process of fighting.
But now I have visitation of him. I didn't even
have visitation of my kids when I'm met him. Why
because a lot of things that happened. I wasn't emotionally
stable enough to take care of my children when I was.
Me and my ex split up because he had to
smack me around. I was seventeen when I'm married.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
But you're taking classes, Are you taking parenting classes? Are
you doing everything?
Speaker 3 (08:07):
I'm taking parenting classes, I'm going to counseling. I've got
a strong support system because of him. Now, I want
to thank him for everything he's done. I don't think
he knows from day to day how much I appreciate
him for just being there. I'm engaged to be married
to him, and it's like my life is finally getting
(08:27):
back on track and I just want him to know
how much I love him.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And we're not going to get off track like this again.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
No, never again.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Good Heather, Good luck. I'm glad you're turning your life around.
That is so encouraging to hear. And I hope that
soon your family's.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Back together, right too.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Good luck, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm glad you've got a person that you can lean
on and that's there for you.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Yeah, he's great, all right, you have a good in it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Hi, Ruth, this is Delilah. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (09:01):
How are you, Dalilah?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
I am wonderful my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
I listen to your show every night.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
It's kind of a happy ending story. I guess I
was in a really bad marriage. I was married for
twelve years and the last period of my marriage there
was a lot of alcohol involved, a lot of violence
directed at me. So it was really I need to
get out, and it was a hard thing to do.
I have three children, and I did it with a
(09:29):
lot of help for my church. I don't think I
could have done it without that. I blamed God for
a while. I tried not to blame God, but you know,
I couldn't help it, and I said, Okay, now I
have to start my life all over.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Isn't Isn't that funny how when we're in bad situations
that we that we put ourselves in, we turn around
and say, God, how could you have let this happen
to me?
Speaker 4 (09:50):
It was so wrong of me to blame God. I mean,
I know that.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I'm not saying it's wrong. It's human nature. I do
the same thing, but time after time after time, I
will make choices that lead me to distress of situations
and then everything will blow up in my face and
then I'll sit there and cry, God, how could you
have let this happen to me? And He's like, Honey,
I gave you a few road signs along the way.
Don't think you were paying very much attention.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
It took a real serious thing to really make me
get out. I've been divorced now a year and I
actually met Jay and I didn't really know him very well.
I knew his mom and dad really well. It was Jay,
Jay is my boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Oh okay, well, how did we skip from the fact
that we were in an abusive marriage to a boyfriend? Now?
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Well?
Speaker 4 (10:32):
I met him for my church so things started looking up.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
How long have you been divorced?
Speaker 4 (10:39):
A little over a year, okay.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I was separated for two before that, So it's time.
It's time to heal, it's time to move on. And
you've met somebody's that looks like he's a good guy.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
I've actually known him for ten years. I met him
while I was married because he went to the same
church that I did. And then about four years ago
we started getting involved on activities together and just yeah,
we're all friends, a bunch of us and my friends
were like, you know, you really want to go out
with Jay? And I said, no, no, I really don't
want to do that. You're dating now, I'm dating now,
we've been dating. It'll be six months next week.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
And what song would you like to hear?
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Can you pick something? You know, just something sweet and nice.
And he's just a good guy with a lot of faith,
and he's really turned my life around.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Something sweet and nice about in new beginnings.
Speaker 4 (11:23):
Yeah, okay, thanks Delilah.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
You have a good night, you too. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast lo I am
here to uplift you, to remind you that you are
(00:23):
worthy of happiness. If somebody is stealing your joy, change
your circumstances. Now. If you're a minor, if you're a child,
you can't do that. If you are in an abusive
or a destructive home, you can't change your circumstances. You
(00:45):
can talk to someone, however, if you're being hurt and
let them know and get help someone you trust. But
if you're an adult, if you're over the age of eighteen,
and you are in a relationship or a situation, maybe
it's a work situation, I don't know. But if you're
in a situation where you are not being treated with
(01:05):
dignity and respect, then change or a situation. God has
a wonderful plan for your life. There is a hope
for a wonderful future sometimes though, you've got to be
brave enough to take that first step. Good evening, Welcome
(01:29):
to the Delilah Show.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
Who is this My name is Kelly.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Hi, Kelly, Welcome. What can I do?
Speaker 3 (01:36):
For you.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Well, pretty much. My story is I would just like
to dedicate any song to my to my mama because
this past Thanksgiving, my mama was down for Thanksgiving and
she realized that I was in a very toxic, abusive
relationship and it's been going on for ten years. And
(02:00):
she took me and she said, just come home with me, Kelly,
and I did, and I escaped that relationship all thanks
to her.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
Were you eager to get out or were you like
a lot of us when we're stuck in it, we
don't even see how bad it is.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It took me years to figure it out. I'm thirty
three now. I got married when I was twenty two,
and oh gosh, I've been through the Ringer. Let's just
say that this everything, every verbal, mental emotional abuse, so
I can go through. I'm going through a live PTSD
and emotional memories and I'm taking it day by day.
(02:42):
It's been about two months now, So.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
And are you done? Are you really done? You're not
going to run back into the same mess.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
I'm done this time because when she was there at
my home for Thanksgiving, he disrespected her in a way
way that he disrespected me, and it opened my eyes
to the monster I was living with.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
But you didn't see it as abused. When it was you,
he was disrespecting, But when it was your sweet mama,
you went, Okay, you cross the line, buddy. Yes, I
hope you know now that that is the code of
every abuser, that they isolate you and get you away
from the people that you love the most. You know that, right, Yes, absolutely,
(03:33):
that's what abusers do.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Yes, they do. He alienated me from my entire family
I have. I have five brothers that have told me, Kelly,
we love you. We never hated you, but we hated
seeing you being taken advantage of. So I just slowly
but surely trying to mend all the relationships I was
(03:56):
alienated from because of him.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Good for you and starting to heal. I hope you're
getting some counseling and talking to somebody and working through everything.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Oh absolutely, absolutely, Like I said, just the PTSD and
the you know, not being able to sleep at night.
But I'm taking it day by day and I'm praying
every two a day. I wake up every day and
pray because I know I'm one of the lucky ones.
You know, I'm one of the lucky ones that actually
guile this relationship unharmed. If you know what I.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Mean, well, I wouldn't say you got out unharmed. I
would say you got out alive because I can hear
in your voice just the the heartache and the harm.
You didn't get out unharmed, but you did get out alive. Absolutely,
not right now, because you are healing right now. But
once this healing journey, once you're down the road of
(04:50):
this healing journey, you're going to be able to reach
back and help other young women who are just starting.
I would love that.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I would love to be advocates for women like me.
Absolutely absolutely. That's why I called your station about fifty
times trying to get through, because you know, I just
want to tell women out there, you know, don't wait.
You know it's just gonna be more years of abuse
and more heartache and more hurt if you stay. Just
(05:21):
the first sign of this person, either if it's a
man or a woman abusing you in some way, it
has to be over, you know, save yourself to heartache.
And my mama, she just means the world to me,
and I'm grateful. I'm grateful that God kept her alive
so I could have this time with her.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I'm grateful that God kept you alive so you could
have this time with her too.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
I know I care more about other people than myself.
I gotta be honest, I get it.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Well. I'm proud of you, honey. I'm so proud of you,
and I hope that you get help and healing, and
I hope you're able to reach out and join an
organization or something that gives hope to other people who
are being abused.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Absolutely absolutely, I love that. I would love that.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I'm going to play a song for you and everybody
else who has come through, come out on the other
side and is taking life one day at a time
and breathing the fresh air of freedom from abuse. Thank you.
(06:44):
Hi is this Heather? Yes, Hi Heather? How are you tonight?
Speaker 3 (06:48):
I'm great. I have been trying to get hold of
you for so long. I listened to you. I'm twenty
four years old and I've listened to you since I
was really young. I want to make a request. I
don't care. You can pick the song, but I I
met a man nine months ago. He's awesome. I didn't
like him at first. For two months, me and him
just argued. He intrigued me. I intrigued him. So we've
(07:11):
called back and forth and just argued just to talk
to each other, and then we met two months later.
I just I fell head over hills in love with him.
I've been with him since I had got out of
a bad relationship with my ex husband. He had smacked
me around and everything, and I lost my kids and
he's been there to help me fight, to get my
(07:32):
kids back, and to just be my support in my rock.
And I've never had anybody like that in my life.
And I just I wanting to know how much I
love him.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
What's his name?
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Bill?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
So do you have your kids back?
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Not yet. I We're still in the process of fighting.
But now I have visitation of him. I didn't even
have visitation of my kids when I'm met him. Why
because a lot of things that happened. I wasn't emotionally
stable enough to take care of my children when I was.
Me and my ex split up because he had to
smack me around. I was seventeen when I'm married.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
But you're taking classes, Are you taking parenting classes? Are
you doing everything?
Speaker 3 (08:07):
I'm taking parenting classes, I'm going to counseling. I've got
a strong support system because of him. Now, I want
to thank him for everything he's done. I don't think
he knows from day to day how much I appreciate
him for just being there. I'm engaged to be married
to him, and it's like my life is finally getting
(08:27):
back on track and I just want him to know
how much I love him.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
And we're not going to get off track like this again.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
No, never again.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Good Heather, Good luck. I'm glad you're turning your life around.
That is so encouraging to hear. And I hope that
soon your family's.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Back together, right too.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Good luck, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
I'm glad you've got a person that you can lean
on and that's there for you.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Yeah, he's great, all right, you have a good in it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
Hi, Ruth, this is Delilah. What can I do for you?
Speaker 4 (09:01):
How are you, Dalilah?
Speaker 1 (09:02):
I am wonderful my boyfriend.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
I listen to your show every night.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
It's kind of a happy ending story. I guess I
was in a really bad marriage. I was married for
twelve years and the last period of my marriage there
was a lot of alcohol involved, a lot of violence
directed at me. So it was really I need to
get out, and it was a hard thing to do.
I have three children, and I did it with a
(09:29):
lot of help for my church. I don't think I
could have done it without that. I blamed God for
a while. I tried not to blame God, but you know,
I couldn't help it, and I said, Okay, now I
have to start my life all over.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Isn't Isn't that funny how when we're in bad situations
that we that we put ourselves in, we turn around
and say, God, how could you have let this happen
to me?
Speaker 4 (09:50):
It was so wrong of me to blame God. I mean,
I know that.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
I'm not saying it's wrong. It's human nature. I do
the same thing, but time after time after time, I
will make choices that lead me to distress of situations
and then everything will blow up in my face and
then I'll sit there and cry, God, how could you
have let this happen to me? And He's like, Honey,
I gave you a few road signs along the way.
Don't think you were paying very much attention.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
It took a real serious thing to really make me
get out. I've been divorced now a year and I
actually met Jay and I didn't really know him very well.
I knew his mom and dad really well. It was Jay,
Jay is my boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
Oh okay, well, how did we skip from the fact
that we were in an abusive marriage to a boyfriend? Now?
Speaker 3 (10:31):
Well?
Speaker 4 (10:32):
I met him for my church so things started looking up.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
How long have you been divorced?
Speaker 4 (10:39):
A little over a year, okay.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
I was separated for two before that, So it's time.
It's time to heal, it's time to move on. And
you've met somebody's that looks like he's a good guy.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
I've actually known him for ten years. I met him
while I was married because he went to the same
church that I did. And then about four years ago
we started getting involved on activities together and just yeah,
we're all friends, a bunch of us and my friends
were like, you know, you really want to go out
with Jay? And I said, no, no, I really don't
want to do that. You're dating now, I'm dating now,
we've been dating. It'll be six months next week.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
And what song would you like to hear?
Speaker 4 (11:12):
Can you pick something? You know, just something sweet and nice.
And he's just a good guy with a lot of faith,
and he's really turned my life around.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Something sweet and nice about in new beginnings.
Speaker 4 (11:23):
Yeah, okay, thanks Delilah.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
You have a good night, you too. I so hope
you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I
enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you
each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
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