Gavin a Good Time

Gavin, Brooks and the Men are back together for a revealing thought provoking game of COME TO THINK OF IT. After extensive research, we have compiled a wide range of questions that women NEED answers to and the Men are doing just that. The rules...100% honesty and transparency and The Men must answer every question.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin
to grab and I heard radio podcast. Welcome to another
episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like
and wearing his patriotic hat to my left always. Mr
Gavin de Gros, you know you've got some amazing you know,
that's it. You know you're really riveting our audience. Thank

(00:22):
you bringing the house now with that knowledge, you're supposed
to understand that Brooks Um, yeah, I know. Um. He
surprises me every time on this show. I never know
what I'm going to get from. Yeah, It's kind of
why I love doing the show. I never know what
I'm gonna get with myself either. For our listeners out there,
this is what happens. The rest of us get a

(00:45):
like breakdown of what the episode is going to be about,
so our producer Amy will send us an email. This
is what the episode is about. Review this. Here's some questions.
What are your thoughts? Come in prepared a little bit
for it. We don't even send those to Gavin. It's true.
I'm too busy playing single players. Yes, he doesn't even
get them. So he's off the cuff, which is how

(01:07):
we prefer. And I hope you guys enjoyed listening like that.
I would like to see you, like prepare one day
and see if it's just terrible or if you're actually
better if you're prepared. Yeah, but what if I came
in and I actually like some kind of scientists like Gav,
this sucks, man, You're way too ready for this. Yeah,
that's what I'd like to see. Where my pocket protector,
your peman, wearing my clinical lab coat, I could see

(01:29):
you doing that. I don't I get a chalk part
up here. I could write out some equations of how
I think you'll answer certain questions and see how right
I was. I'm gonna be honest. That doesn't sound like
a fun Gavin to me boring yea, so I say so.
I agree the other boys that you here. We have
Dmitri in house with us. Dmitri is that brother? How
are you doing? Fantastic? We missed you in the last

(01:49):
two episodes. This is your first new or first podcast
the new decade. Yeah, so coming out of the gate
a little late, but I'm ready to go. Yeah, ready
and strong. And we also got we also got Rick
in studio. Top Rick. I want to acknowledge you always
for flying down from Oakland. Hey, thank you. I actually
get the email, but I just don't read it. No damn,
by the way, so I'm kind of I'm kind of
flying off the handle tape. I'd take prepared Rick over

(02:13):
unprepared Rick. I think he wants to be like Gavin.
Maybe he looks up to Gavin. He's like, damn, that
guy's cool. I want to try that. Can I say that?
I like? I like Rick's glasses with the white T shirt.
It's looking like a little bit like scientists, an adult
version stand by me, the old school blackgroom glasses with

(02:33):
the T shirt. You know what I mean. I like it.
You guys can't see it, but you just made Rick's day.
Our listeners can't see it. But well, if they go
to the Instagram, hopefully they'll post the photos. You know,
who knows. But the reality is that I didn't want
to pay the eight dollars for the WiFi on the Southwestlide.
That's why I didn't get the email. So I don't know.
It's unscripted. Perfect, it's perfect though. This this episode today

(02:54):
is unscripted. So today we're gonna have a lot of fun.
We're doing Remember, like as a kid, you throw stuff
in a hat and you'd pull a draw out of
a hat, or if you still do it, we're doing
that with questions today. So we always said we started
this podcast, and we always said, our mission here is
to be real, unauthentic and genuine and open and vulnerable
all that kind of stuff. Uh. And so we piled

(03:16):
together a bunch of listener questions that you guys have
sent in for us. Amy has chopped them all up,
put him in a hat, and we're gonna pull from
a hat, and Amy's gonna introduce us. But this is
what we're gonna do. We want to answer your questions.
And I'm challenging all three of you, gentlemen, and Amy
you'll probably chime in on this too. Two really go
at this because our mission is to serve our listeners,

(03:37):
to serve our audience, UM, and to share how men
think and how we approach things. So I'm challenging all
of you guys want to level up this podcast. Gavin's
already laughing. Your buddy Joey's here, So if you don't
tell the honest story, we're gonna get Joey, because I
know Joey knows the real story. I agree with Brooks.
You guys need to be more honest, more vulnerable, houlnerable,

(04:04):
tell us like it is, because sometimes I think you
guys are a little bit too nice, a little bit
too vanilla, a little bit too safe. Bring it vanilla
is a fine flavor. Favor. Is there an alternate hat
that also has all the answers that we could just
draw some random Okay, here's much. Here's what we did.

(04:25):
Danielle Tory and I worked all week. We combiled questions
from Instagram, from listeners, from other women we know, and
we did extensive research into what do women want to know?
And we put all of it into a hat. We
chopped it up. Here are the rules. You are not
allowed to pass. You cannot say pass. You cannot toss

(04:47):
the question back into the hat or avoid answering it.
You must answer, and you must tell the truth. And
this game is called We have three options for what
the title is of the game. You guys pick. It
can be called great Minds Think alike, get it like
like l A like how men think sure sure sure sure,
I like that double on tender, come to think of

(05:08):
it for wishful thinking? What should we call this game.
I like the first one. I feel like this is great.
Minds think alike, Well, okay, except we don't think alike though.
How about here's how you burn down your own career
in forty minutes. About about g having a good time,

(05:33):
having a good time. Alright, we're gaving a good time tonight.
That's pretty good, pretty good, Chuck, set the clock for
sixty minutes. This game is a sixty minute game. When
it is sixty minutes, it is up, it is over,
and you are out of the studio. It's four sixteen,
it's four seventeen, it's four seventeen. At five seventeen. Can

(05:57):
you put a window up of the outdoor so it
kind of like when king out? I will not chime
in too much, too much. Okay, here is question number one,
and then I'm going to pass the hat onto Brooks.
The topic is crying. How do you feel when your

(06:21):
wife or partner cries? You understand it and want to help?
Question Mark, You wish it would stop? Question Mark, would
you prefer that she do that crying alone or with
her girlfriends? Or are you okay with being the shoulder
to cry on if it is not necessarily your fault?
Is it easier to help her with her tears? If

(06:44):
it is your fault, what do you do crying? I'm
fine with, completely fine with like emotions. This is one
thing I've really learned in my life. Emotions are real,
Like they are real things. And for us to judge
anybody else's emotions or what somebody else's going through, for
them to cry and express, for them to be courageous

(07:04):
enough to express what they're going through, and and my
wife to do that, Like, yeah, I am. I am
absolutely fine with crying and actually really improud to be
a person that she trusts to to move through something
like that. With crying is a sign of great weakness, polarity,

(07:26):
polarity on this show. You know it crying it depends listen.
You know you want to be the shoulder to cry
on um, but also it depends. There's a lot of
it's not you don't want it's not like you don't
want to be the shoulder to crime, but also a
lot of it it's also you know, what is the
cause of the emotions? So what is the root of

(07:47):
that that sadness or or um that issue, And uh,
the one thing you don't want to be is the
source of the crying, right, So it depends you know,
if you're if you're the reason that they are crying,
you know, then, um, that can be a really difficult
scenario to be and trying to work through the problems
of relationship and this and that. Um. But there's so

(08:10):
many different versions of what could cause somebody to have
that that sort of emotional response. So yeah, you definitely
want to be able to be there for somebody in
that scenario. But sometimes, to be honest, sometimes the the
scenario can be actually very uncomfortable. Um. And so it
it really it happens to be. It's case specific, and

(08:33):
I think it can go a lot of different directions.
I think a lot of guys have a hard time
being around when are you a politician? You've talked for
two minutes but haven't said one way or the other,
Yes I have, Yes, I have, you're a politician. Yuys,
there's a whole hour I need to fill up here.

(08:54):
This is called philibus. So so so here's the thing.
Here's the thing. A lot of guys have a hard
time being around when they're significant others starts crying and
they don't want to be there because they feel partially guilty,
even if they're not the source of what it is.
They feel like they're not doing a good job helping.
And I think a lot of guys become overwhelmed with

(09:15):
that because a lot of guys, um men don't necessarily
have a propensity to demonstrate their ability to cry right,
So a lot of times it's hard for them to
process someone else crying near them. Um And I think
a lot of men operate out of out of sort
of potential guilty scenario. And you're like, oh God, I
hope I didn't I hope I didn't cause this. You know,

(09:38):
I had a quick question. We probably want to move
on the next question, but I want to say or ask,
is like, do do chicks just go into the crying mode?
They're like, you know, like as like a defense mechanism
or like because sometimes that pisces me off. You know,
it's like you're in an argument, like and then all
of a sudden they go into cry mode. So like
they're becoming because yeah, it's like, you know, screw you,

(10:00):
like stop crying, like we're talking about you know, we're
in an argument, like get over it. Or sometimes it
come out of left field, big Hey, I'm thinking about
we should go get some dinner. Right now, you can
walk out and go by yourself, Party one, Dmitri. Listen,
I don't like when people cry. I don't want to
be the source of the crying. But depending on what

(10:22):
it is, I'll take it for a little while. But
to be honest, I have a little bit of a
fuse that where it's like, all right, well we've done
the crying, so now shut the up. The hammer comes
down from next question? All right, next question, I'm pulling
this out of the hat. Oh, here we go, because
it's it's very timely Valentine's Day. Love it or dread it?
Love it or dread it? I hate it to not

(10:44):
holiday from me. Wow, Gav says. The two married guys
have the eternal romantic, the eternal romantic Valentine's Day? Dread
it could be either or man? Can this can be
an either or thing? Listen, depends if you're dating somebody
or not. It depends if if they're taking it more

(11:06):
seriously than you are. Right, there's a lot of other
options here. So it could be like, oh Valentine's Day,
what are you talking about? It? Like we just met,
you know, what I mean, it's it's a chick holiday.
I mean, is there a dude holiday? I think it's
I think I think it's a good diver a holiday.
Rick is throwing some heat. I love it. I think

(11:28):
Valentine's Day was created by Hallmark and Good Diva. I
think they got together, they had a giant meeting and
they were like, we gotta sell some cards, we gotta
sell some job. I don't I don't know why are
we being romantic because everyone else is being like, there's
nothing more uncomfortable than going to the restaurant and sitting
there and everyone else is there and you have the
short menu. It's like, do you want to go to

(11:49):
a nice restaurant, go to a nice restaurant on a
different day, but to go out because it's Valentine's Day?
Everyone else is doing it. I feel like you're just
going through the motions. I can't stand Valentine's I equally
like it and believed rd it. I think it's fun.
It can be a fun event. It's fun to plan
something to surprise my wife with. But also then when
you're like right now, you're thinking like, oh man, I

(12:09):
have no idea what I'm gonna do for Valentine's Day.
It can be stressful and then if there's expectation with
it too as a dude, that's like, oh god, it
just puts heat on you. To me, to me, it's
an opportunity to wear my favorite teddy. Um, I think
next question, I can't wait to break that thing out
every year. I'm like, this one's got the fuzziness on it.

(12:31):
The lady talking about Teddy Barry. I just want to
see if I could fit in it again, you know
what I mean? Like, look to this. I have another question.
Let's rock that thing you are. You are given one
thousand dollars? What do you do with it? No one
will ever know you received it, you won't be taxed
or judged. What do you truly want to do with it?

(12:52):
And be selfish if that's what you want to do, Okay,
go ahead, Dmitri you what do you want to do?
Underground cash? Boom, hundred grand cash straight. I'd probably buy
a few gifts for myself. I buy some gifts for people,
Like what what give me a gift? Um? I don't know,
I mean, I probably you know what. I'd probably buy
a car. What kind of car? I don't know the

(13:13):
one you drive, Tessa, Oh you have the S. I
gotta get the X because I've got four kids. Yeah,
do that. It's either get that or send them to college.
So I'm trying to I'm debating right now. But you
get to do whatever you That's what I'm saying. That's
why I would get that. Yeah, I would. I would
be a little selfish with it. I would also do
some nice stuff though. I would help some people that

(13:33):
don't have things for sure. Who knows, man, I mean,
I definitely I like to give. I'd like to give
gifts to people, you know, or like buy dinners and
stuff like that. So I'd probably be uh kind of
long long those lines, you know. I'd like to pay
for people's dinners and stuff like that. What about like,
what about a way goose steak for the boys here? Oh? Yeah,

(13:54):
that'd be nice. I'd like to buy stuff from my
friends Ricky, rick I can't believe he's talking about you
like that, right, So Brooks and I get steaks then, right?
It's just terrible. Um, this is this is probably the lamest,
most boring answer. I would invest it, and I would
just watch that baby grow. I tuck that thing away

(14:15):
and what Rick's making some code here. I have no
idea what it is you need to donate that to Ryan? Oh?
I mean Ryan doesn't get any But what I would
do as I would invest it and then I would
text Bryan how much it goes up each month? You
know what? You know what? You know? What it might

(14:35):
be a thing to do, like put that money aside
and like when you have kids, you put it aside
and say, look, I'm gonna either pay for college. I'm
going to give you all the money for college. I
would not even say college. I think, in all honesty,
Hunter grant isn't a whole lot. Like it's gonna go
pretty fast. You start buying a few watches, you Rick,

(14:57):
what's you doing with your money? Give us, give us something.
What's you're doing with a Hunter ground cash? I think
I would save half of it. This is kind of
the story of my life. I'd save half of it
and then I'd go and spend the other half Trusted
Speedo nice yeah one. All the cross all right? As

(15:20):
it crusted my opportunity when I hate reading in public?
How do you like your eggs frozen? So sorry, that's
for you. Gavin you're running out to get his breakfast. Uh.
Anybody want to answer this for me? Let me ask Brooks,
how do you like your eggs? Traditionally scrambled? But like

(15:41):
the last two months, I've switched to easy over because
I scrambled my entire life and something I just want
to try to feel like I'm gonna get crazy. Yeah,
I'm going wild with some easy overs? Is it because
you like you risk hurt over? Easy to it? And
I don't. I don't cook sounds like some some fishing
gear like fans, And when I don't know, I don't

(16:06):
think I can cook them that way. That's why I
just scrambled eggs because I'm not a very good cooking
I just I'm not a good push them around. And
I had some scrambled eggs today. But when I eat
it like a restaurant, Yeah, I want the easy over
easy over easies. I go scramble if I'm in a
short if I don't have much time. If I have time,
I go poached. I love poached eggs and I like
cooking them. There's a whole science too. You gotta spin

(16:27):
the water, you gotta throw a little vinegar in there,
and then you gotta watch them and time it and
poke them and looking forward to science, looking forward a
brunch of your science. I know how you did in
school over easy. It's a very bougie answer. I like
my eggs over medium, very specific. Did you say? Rick's
answer was bougie? The same guy that said, you know,

(16:48):
a hundred grand isn't a lot of guys. I like
my eggs poached. But I mean those are all pretty
fundamental answers. Does anybody here not prefer like waves rancheros
because those are pretty damn good. Okay, yeah, but it
didn't take it said, yeah, okay, you're right. Rick got
a question. Everybody kept it real simple. We're like, let's
it was a question about because I wasn't gonna go

(17:10):
super deep on it. Okay, next question, How happy are
you on a scale of one to ten? One reason
why you were, why you are where you are on
the scale. How happy are you on a scale of
one to ten? Go Rick, I mean this second, let's
see happy. Actually, you know what, going into this year,

(17:31):
I've been really happy. I've been I'd probably give myself
about a seven. Okay, here's here's the rule for this.
You cannot on a one to ten scale. There's a
rule for anything on a one, you can't pick a
seven because six is like everybody goes seven, it's a
safe play. Six is like, oh, I'm not doing so good.
Eight I'm doing really good. The safe spot, the safe play,
the vanilla play is a seven. Sevens are out. You

(17:52):
cannot pick a seven. So I on a scale from yes,
come on no sevens rick m that makes that makes
eight the new seventh. I found it interesting that he said,
I'm really I've been really happy. A seven Like seven
doesn't sound that's not a tent. A ten is like perfect.
I mean, I don't know. Uh, I don't know. Screw

(18:15):
you Brooks. Are you he was really happy until you
brought I've gone down to a four and a half.
So okay, I'll go at this. I would say right now,
I would be an eight point five. Um, I can't
do eight point five. New rule, okay, eight, fine, whatever,

(18:37):
eight point five you don't want to go over. It's
like the prices right. Um. Here's the thing. I loved
the turn of the new year. I love the turn
of the new decade. Um in my life, there's a
lot of things I'm really working towards and and things.
I'm I want to step into a new stage in
my life. I'm trying this year. I'm really excited about
retiring from hockey and that there's a lot of culture

(18:57):
and conditioning that came with it that I want to get.
I want to let go, not get rid of because
it's a part of me, but I want to let
go of some of that stuff. And so I've never
really had a New Year's because most days, or most years,
we would play at twelve thirty at like at noon
on New Year's Day, so we'd be sleeping the night
before because we have a game at new like the
Winter Classic. Yeah, we'd play it the next day, so

(19:18):
big massive game. We wouldn't get New Years. So this
is like the first year that I got to do
New Year's and really have like an excitement and a
Hope movie and a new decade and stuff and so um,
I would say, like I'm an eight, there's things in
my life I really want to improve and work on,
but like I love my life, and there's good days
and there's bad, but I love my life. That's good.

(19:39):
Good answer, you buddy, good answer. I'm like in the
nine nine five place I feel because I damn, that's
I feel really good, just plummeting over here. If you
guys are that high, I'm screwed, single man. I mean,

(20:02):
if you're under a nine and a half, you're doing something.
When he said seven, I was like, I'm duncan on
this right now. The I just feel really good. I
feel like, you know, like, I just feel like good
things are happening, good things are coming. And um, uh,
you know, maybe it's over maybe I'm over confident about

(20:26):
about um, about where where I'm at in my in
my world, in my life. But I think I just
have a lot of hope, you know what I mean.
I don't know if that's if that's turned into overconfidence
or I just feel very hopeful, you know, UM, And
I feel like things are going in a really good direction.

(20:46):
I feel like, UM, over the course of the last
two to three years, two and a half three years,
I got through a lot of difficult things and UM,
and so it gave me perspective and um, it's been emotional,
but but it having gone through a lot of difficult times,

(21:10):
I can reflect on where I'm at now as compared
to those times, and it gave me a new barometer
on what it means and what that scale means, because
in my in the darkest depths, they were definitely way
below four, you know what I mean. And um so
I know what that is. I've been and I have

(21:32):
been way below for and so that's why I feel
like where I'm at now is certainly more in the
nine to nine and a half range in relationship to
where I was. The world's away from each other. Thanks,
that's powerful for people listening to that's your example of
somebody from the outside. It looks like you have an

(21:54):
amazing life. You're doing what you love, your opportunity all
around you. But even just hearing that you go struggles,
that I go through, struggle horrible struggles. We all do,
and we all de humanizes you to our listeners. And
if if you're listening out there and that's you going
through a tough time, just know that there's better to
do as ahead. And I love the word you used
was hope. It's such a powerful it's hope because I've

(22:15):
been hopeless. You know I've been. I've been in on
the phone. When you hear uh, you know your mom's
gonna die? You know what I mean? There's no stop
in this train. I've been on that phone call. You know,
I've seen that train wreck, you know what I mean.
And uh and she did die, you know. And that

(22:35):
was followed by my grandmother immediately, you know, then followed
by my grandfather and that was a very hard and uh.
And so I so I know, I know that darkness
and uh. Then that's the only reason I can recognize
the light is because I've been in that darkness. That's awesome, man,
thank you for sharing. And Dmitri, the guy ahead of you,
just hit a grand slam, so you're I mean, I

(22:58):
don't I don't know what to say now. Like at first,
I was like, oh, nine and a half, that's cool,
and then he gave all that and I'm like, no,
Now I feel like I should be happy, but I
don't know, Like I'm money between nine and a two,
that's a seven? Where are you doing your math? Seventh
in the middle of nine and two? Uh? You know,

(23:19):
I I'd say six, six, and that's not a pull
the seven out, So I defaulted to sex. I'd say six, Yeah, okay,
we gonna turn. But but I'm but I'm hopeful and
I'm optimistic that things just right now. If you were
to ask, I think things you know, and what's your
reason for saying six? Meaning what's got me happy at
a sex? What or what's not got you happy at

(23:40):
a ten? Um? You know, I'm I'm always I'm always
happy with my with my family and my kids and everything.
But um, you know, I feel like um, I feel
like you know, I feel a little spread thin m hm.
So yeah, are you feeling like you can't get through
the entire hour right now? Well? I think you you know,
you ate up a good point. You have to leave

(24:01):
early today. One more question from you and we'll be done.
So I think we're fine. Okay, next question, I pulled
this one. Do you ever work late? But really it's
because you don't want to deal with the kids and
the kids stuff. Don't have kids, so no, I work
late so I don't have to deal with these guys kids.

(24:23):
I mean, I went, I went through it like I'm
I'm spending an extra four hours at the office just
because I don't want to go home and deal and
deal with all the food and everything like that. But
it's like, you know, an hour or something like there
there are days where I just don't want to go home,
and and maybe it's not even of the kids. It's
may just be like entering back into the house and
being part of the family and doing engaging back in that.
Have you ever considered trading up, like trading the kids

(24:46):
for older kids who don't need you there as much
your kids already in school surprisingly not like you know,
like your twelve year old kid for like it's maybe
a seventeen year old on their way out of the house,
like almost off to college soon. So you're like, I
don't really need to be there. Joanne is doing okay?
Just so we're clear, you're not playing. Yeah, I haven't
just adopted a twenty one year older Uh yeah, So

(25:15):
I will say real quick, I'll say, um, yeah. If
there are times if I'm heading home and I realized
it's right around bedtime and it's gonna be kid, and
I can wait a half hour, then I'll do that.
You always need to fill up the car right, stay

(25:36):
at home? Dad's p t A dad? Does it work
or is it weird? What's PTA? Dad mean? Like the
one that goes to all the school events and parent
teacher association is that association? I hope I get to
do that when I have kids, I'd love to like
do because I don't know what that's like. But I
want to be involved in my child's life. When I
UM stay at home dad, I couldn't do that. I

(25:58):
want to be an actively involved dad, but like to
just stay at home. I think that would like I
would love my kids, but I think my soul would
somewhat die doing that. It's hard. It's hard for me.
I will I will go crazy if I don't do
something for me. Not too far off topic, but specifically

(26:18):
because you you travel so much, Brooks, do you think
you could ever live in one place permanently to raise
a kid in to be like, I'm going to commit
to this one town. This is where they're going to
grow up. They're gonna kill her eighteen years old. Do
you think you could do that? I think I could,
um because my my mom and dad still live in
the house that I grew up in. So I love that.

(26:40):
I love that sort of stability type thing, and that's
something I want to bring to my family. Do you
love that? As an adult? Now? Though you think you
could be in one place because you've tasted the life
of somebody on the road who's in a new town
or new new exciting town or city, or out in
the wilderness or whatever. You've you've had a life that
affords that you think you can really So here's the thing.

(27:02):
It's not a choice of It's not black or white.
It's not a or B. I think I want both.
So as much as I want a home and a
stable environment for the kids to be in, I also
want to expose them to the world and to take
them everywhere with me. It's how like my dog right now?
I take my dog everywhere I go. If I go
to Idaho, if I go to New York, if I
go to Miami, dog with you, of course. But but

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do you think you can raise somebody for eighteen years
of their live and say our home base will be
in I think I think it's easy. I mean, you
can be honest with you that time flies. And then
the other thing is the kids obviously become the priority.
So basically you're in once they start hitting school, they're
making friends, they're in they're in groups, they're in sports,
there and dance, whatever you want to call it. Do

(27:46):
you there there in that? Do you have dogs? I
will on Sunday? Do you have dogs? Can I ask
you questions? My man, you're getting dog. That's amazing. It
makes me nervous because he's told us he doesn't like dogs.
Let me ask you a question. What's harder? What's wait?
What's easier? Flying with the child or with a dog.

(28:08):
You can't put your You can't put your child down below,
you know that, right, But walking on the plane, my
dog flies with me. My dog flew with me last night,
we flew my dog is pretty easy. But you have
kids and you've had a dog, so which is easier
to child? Younger kids are harder because they're kind of
scrambling and they're out of control and they're they're a
little bit more needy. But right now, my my kids
are thirteen eleven and they just chill and there, they're

(28:29):
in their seats and it's no problem. They watch something,
they go the broom on the run. Because the younger
ones are tough. Let's get back on topic, Dmitri, Dad,
could you do it? Um? I couldn't do that fully. No, Um,
very similar to what you said. But I will say
this my schedule right now, Although it sounds funny because
I just said I feel stretched thin or whatever, but
my schedule right now is easy to allow me to

(28:52):
spend a lot of time with the kids. So I
work heavy in the morning and then I so I
picked them up every day and I do a lot
of stuff with them in the afternoon. Um, so I
get a little bit of both. But if that was
fully it and I didn't have the other stuff, it
would be very difficult for me. Yeah, And I think so.
I have a friend of a friend that basically he
is the stay at home dad and she has a

(29:12):
very successful job and he's at home. He's part of
the p t A and he's raising he's raising the kids.
He's got a couple of boys, and I think a
third child that's a girl. And I was talking to
him one time and he was telling me that he
is part of the PTA and that it's that it's
odd that that he wants to be a part of
his kids families to that degree brooks where he's in

(29:34):
the p t A. But he also is realized where
he's going into a group or a crowd that's predominantly
all women or all moms, all stages that way, they
don't let the boys wrestle and kindergarten, what because I
know guys in the p t A. They don't want
the boys. But it's an awkward socially thing for him.

(29:54):
But like, you know, so, um, I forget what the
question was, but basically, you know, I think it's good
that he does it, but I think it's a weird
he's in a weird spot. I'll say this. I get
this because I'm at the school a lot. I get often.
I'll get because my wife works. They'll be like, so,
where's your wife. We haven't seen her? And for ed
like just constantly constantly with that, and it's like, and

(30:15):
it's different from me because I'm not a stay at
home dad. I work, but my hours are just odd.
So they'll say that. So lately I've been hitting him with,
well she left me. So just just jars them right
and just stops them in their tracks and shut them
up like that. Um, by the way, I see nothing.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with a stay at home dad.

(30:38):
I don't either, but it's just not for me. I
could not do that level of just there's I have
my own personal goals and that's maybe selfish, but it
will make me happy and we'll make me a better
dad to be honest, let's see. I agree with that
Amy just grunted. So if anybody's gonna marry Amy, be
prepared to work. Question markis I get it, and I
think it does work for some people, but I think
it is tough. I think I'll get letters, but I

(31:02):
think there is something you don't find it sexy. Oh no, no, no,
the masculine too much squished down when I do think
there's an important part of being the feminine role and
the masculine role when you're a man and a woman.
So I don't know, it's really tough to break down

(31:26):
because I think in theory, yes, sometimes it's you have
to do that, but I think it is very challenging
for the man. I think he feels emasculated. And I
think Rick is alluding to that, Rick saying this guy
is doing it, but it is hard to be the
dude in the room with eight five ladies in the
p t A. That would be so difficult. I would
actually love to hear from any of our listeners out

(31:49):
there that if you are this man, if you are
a stay at home man or stay at home dad,
and in the p t A, any of that, I'd
love for you to send us an email, reach out
to us on Instagram and just hear your thought on
it and what a man, what your struggles with it are.
Maybe it depends on how hot the moms are in
the class. I saw Rick light up when they said
when she said one guy in like five moms, you

(32:09):
were like, whoa, I gotta get it on this pt
A thing. So I will say when I pulled I
pulled a bunch of men about this question, and they
said it doesn't work, and it's sometimes it can be
a downfall for the relationship. I could be wrong, but
this is the research. What if he's staying home because

(32:31):
it's cheaper to work on your own house than to
hire somebody, and uh, he doesn't make as much money
as say it would cost to renovate the home. That
seems like a job, kind of a job staying while
he renovates. Yeah, I think that's cool, you know what
I mean, because it costs quite a bit of money
to rebuild a house. You know. I love the idea
of guys in that scenario. My dad, my dad was

(32:51):
working on our house all the time while he had
job at the same time. But he was always you know,
swinging a hammer. I love the idea of the kids
running around while you're building and swinging a hammer and
doing that stuff. Then yeah, no, that's a terrible idea.
Sounds pretty safe. We helped him, I mean, I thought
it was good for us. Okay, go ahead, have you
got a question? All right, here's the here's the one
I pulled out of the hat. Thanks for this one.

(33:14):
Women who don't wear a bra? Who's sexy or not?
I find I haven't worn a bra in a long time,
so it affects me not at all. And my boobs
are right in the same spot as they've always been
and still care. You're not allowed to avoid the question, cups.
So anyway, how do I feel about that? Well, I

(33:36):
guess it depends, you know, I mean it, it depends
on you know, how much out there that it is.
We can see that you are are not wearing a bra,
and you know, some people don't wear a bra and
they don't wear pretty much anything else on top of
that either, So it depends on how how clad give
they are answer, Mr politician, depends if they've got a

(33:59):
hot bod, then I'd say, by all means to do
is you'd like to do? You know what I mean.
If it's uh, if it's the old you know, the
old pancake bod rocking the yoga pants, and then you're like,
what are you doing? Break out? Because Rick was the
one who had this topic, so I feel like he
has a story that he's being shy about. By the way,
but by the way, what's with everybody wearing yoga pants?

(34:23):
Everybody all the time? Leisure? I just assumed they were
all doing yoga? Is that not ateist creation of all mankind? No? No, no,
that depends on the neighborhood, my friend. So you know what,
when did this become just normal socially socially acceptable? You
know what it is? They're like, I give up, pants up,

(34:46):
I give up. That's what the right one that's listen,
have you been? This depends on the neighborhood. You guys
are living in Hollywood, Okay, there's people here who exercise
nine hours a day. That's one that's like they're on
their way to exercise class. But if you're not okay

(35:07):
and you're rocking, rocking that stuff, absolutely, everyone like what
is this? They're like, like just leggings to just I'd
love to have our female Everything is exposed, you can
see everything. I'd love to have our female listeners way
in this a what about the guys you want us
wearing like we look like that happens, I don't want

(35:29):
that means they're wearing stuff they shouldn't be, Peter, Pan, Peter.
I think that goes back to the question is you
know in terms of the braw thing, It's like, you know,
I was going through the airport the other day and
I saw this cute, kind of younger, attractive girl and
she wasn't wearing a bra, and I was like, Wow,
that's actually that's very attractive. But then you get to
the other side of that. What her dad say? What

(35:54):
fight are you on? Go ahead, get to the other side.
The other side of it is you get. You get
the people that are wearing maybe the yoga pants that
shouldn't be, or the people that aren't wearing a bra
that maybe should be. Why No, I think good, I
like that. Why shouldn't they be they shouldn't be? Um,
maybe it's an expression of freedom. M See, I have

(36:17):
no problem with it. I actually I actually can find
it sexy. Hey listen, if I'm obviously we all have
different taste, but if you're attracted to the body, and
you see a certain thing when they're not wearying, of
course you're gonna go wow, oh my god. You know what?
I think the bra unlike maybe in the fifties where
the bra was like just to hold the boobs. Now

(36:38):
it's part of fashion. So like like tonight, I'm wearing
a bra, I'm wearing a shirt right now, but later
tonight when we all go out, I'm gonna take the
shirt off because the bra is supposed to it's supposed
to show. And bras have become much more like cute
and fashionable, So I think they're more like a fashion

(37:00):
statement than just serving the purpose. But I don't know.
I like both. Both can be extremely sexy. I'll go,
let's go, or Rick, you want to go, oh oh holy.
This is like a question kay driving, Um, let's go this.
Why do men always drive when a couple is in
the car, The man is always driving? Why what if

(37:22):
your wife girlfriend wanted to drive. I watched a hundred
cars go by in Lake Tahoe and it was a
couple in front of a man that was driving. Nine Barrett,
And if it was a couple, it was the man driving.
The time do men think they are better drivers than women?
One of those cars in Tahoe was Gavin and I
and he was driving. Wait a minute, men think women?
Why do men always drive? Rick? I don't know the

(37:44):
answer to that question. But I just went on a
road trip with my family and I drove the entire
time and my wife was like, Hey, do you want
me to drive? Do you want me to drive? I'm like, no,
I got it. It's all good. Like for some reason,
I just feel more comfortable and more in control of
the car when I'm driving instead of versus her, even
though she's a great driver. Okay, but Dmitri, yeah, we
all know they're just horrible drivers, right boy, We're gonna

(38:05):
get some hate mail this decade. I'm writing one right now. Um.
But I think I drive most of the time or
all the time. But it's not like that's just the
way it is. I think maybe my wife doesn't want
to drive. I will say this. I was dating a
girl one time and I was like, Oh, do you
want to drive? And she's like what? And I was like,
did you want to drive? She's like, uh, this is

(38:25):
shortly after college and she's like, I've never been around
a guy that didn't want to drive, and I was like,
I don't know what to tell you, but maybe I was.
I think I said, I don't feel like driving. I
was like, maybe you should go back and date the
guys that you did that you did it before, Like
who cares? Like I didn't feel like driving? I said,
do you want to drive? Like? I don't care. I
do most of the driving, I think, but it's just
I think maybe my wife doesn't want to drive, and
that's why it happens. Yev I prefer doing the driving.

(38:48):
I love to drive. I get a thrill from driving.
What is the thrill? Let's hear the other option is
your dog driving? Like gambling with my life? The other
thing I love to drive. I just enjoy the act
of driving. I truly get a kick out of it. Yeah.
I like the joy of driving, but I also like
it has nothing to do with a man or a

(39:09):
woman driving. It's just I sometimes when I'm not driving,
I don't always feel safe, and so I'm always the
one that's putting my foot, you know, when there's a
break or if I'm in the back of my back driver,
and it's like I just, you know, unless I know
the person well enough where I'm like, okay, yeah, Gavin,
you're you're a good driver. We've driven a lot together.
I get it. Would you let your wife drive? Like,
do you think she is a good driver? Totally? Yeah.

(39:31):
It's actually sometimes fun to like because I would probably
drive the time too, but it's actually sometimes fun. It's
like a novelty when my wife drives and I get
to like just chill and run tunes and look around,
and I'm like, this is awesome. I do understand as
a woman, I drive percent at the time, but when
I am in a car with like a boyfriend, there

(39:52):
is something sort of charming about them driving, Like I
get that, and you're sort of the it's it's very
feminine and masculine. You're like one of those. And then
he comes around and opens the door. It's really cute.
So I have a question. I pulled this one out
because I want I don't want it to get missed.

(40:14):
And you have to tell the truth, Like, seriously, you
have to tell the truth. Oh man, do you think
you are good in bed? Or do you maybe need improvement?
Every guy's going to say they're good. Can we change
that to great? Because good is like I like where
you're going are you great in bad? So the question

(40:36):
is the question now is are you good great in bed?
Or do you need work? Or do you need work?
I'll go with this, Um, I don't know, I would say,
because one of my goals this year is to really
explore like learning about sexuality. The amount of time in

(40:57):
my life that I've studied hockey, athletics, training, nutrition, pressure,
high performance, mindset, all of that stuff you're going to
dedicate essentially, But I did the opposite. I studied sex
with my whole life. Now I'm doing hockey. There you go.
But so here's the thing is, that's what people think
that people people think that, and we've had some amazing

(41:19):
um sexologists on this show that people think that sexuality
is just the act of sex, of just having sex,
and there's so much more to it. Here's a question,
this is an honest question for everybody in this room
and every single person listening. Are you fully, a hundred percent,
fully expressed in your true sexuality with your partner, with

(41:43):
everything you could not imagine having a better sex life.
Are you truly there? No? And I'm not either. I'm
not either. So that's what one of my goals this
year is to really dive into so then we're all
essentially that's a state of suffering. We're not We're not
tens out of tens were It doesn't mean you're the
best performer. It just means are you fully expressed? Do

(42:06):
you even know who you are? Sexually? And I truly,
to my core do not. But I'm super excited about
that journey to really learn about sexuality and also get
better at the performance of it, but also just the
understanding of who I am, who my wife is that
sort of dance. How do you all feel about receiving

(42:27):
um instruction during it? And I want everybody to answer
the first question, which is are you great? But also
like in the midst of it, are you open to
the woman saying let's try this? Or what do you
think about this? Or I read this in a book?
Can we try it? Because she pass you the I
ke Emmanuel and be like, this is how you need
to put the shell together? Well, you guys should all
read you all should read Sorry, I have to like

(42:48):
kind of touch Rick a little bit on purpose. Uh,
you guys should all read this book called Slow Sex.
It's by I think her name is Nicole Day done.
And it talks about or asthmic meditation and I highly
I know that's what my guy said when I said,
can we try this? And he's all, I highly recommend.

(43:09):
It's supposed to be life changing, and I think it
could you say orgasmic meditation? Do you want me to
quickly what it is? In a nutshell? For fifteen minutes?
For fifteen minutes, the man is fully clothed, the woman
is half naked, and you do something. You have to
read it in the book to her for fifteen straight minutes,

(43:31):
and it's supposed to be like life changing. Okay, back
to the time. What's like what annoy her? Yeah, because
that's what happened. What happened? Hey? Those coming off now?
Or no? No? I mean, I'm not gonna lie, But
when would be a good time you touch a part
of her? Hold on? Hold on? Can you leave the
room for the fifteen minutes and come back? Let's hold on.

(43:53):
I'm I'm raining this in because this is this is honestly,
this is a really horton question. Minutes, get off your sandwich.
Kick here, here's here's rick. This is this is to
me the eyes, This is a really important question. These
topics like this are really why we do this podcast.

(44:13):
Back to the original question, are you do you feel
you are good and great and bad or are you
willing to like have some assistance and and learn more
about it and get And I'm definitely up for more assistance.
I don't think I'm great. I think I'm good. I
think there's tons for a room room of improvement. Um.
But again, like I mean, all these things that Amy's

(44:34):
bringing up in the books and stuff like that, it's like,
I'm just lucky to get laid like once a week. Seriously,
how are you? How are you gonna once a week?
Come on, you need more? It's true, Like come on, Dmitri,
pick me up here, bro. So it's like I don't
have fifteen minutes to sit there and go. It's like

(44:57):
like like' just ride. It's like, hey, bail the room
for fifteen minutes ago. Are they laying there in their
yoga pants? So I think, yeah, I think I'm pretty
I think I'm pretty good, but I definitely there's tons
of room for improvement. Yeah, gav, life is good, you know, politician,

(45:21):
answer the question. I get the job done, you know,
I think you know, I'm very happy and uh and
and they're happy. The only true sort of like criticism
of this conversation. You have fifteen minutes, Rick to try it.
It's fifteen minutes that if your wife came to you

(45:43):
with this book and it changes people's lives, you have
I'm asking for fifteen minutes. And I'm not mad at
you because my guy did the same thing. He was like,
I'm not doing that, but then he did do it.
So it's fifteen minutes and it's supposed to really be
life changing, Like, why don't you go home and try
it and then tell us if it works? I was
he wearing the bra when you guys did it? Modified?

(46:09):
So Amy, I'm on your side on this. And so
here's my question and and the concept I want to
propose UM because I'm like, this is an area of
my life I'm actively like pursuing it right truthfully at UM.
There's a concept called pleasure first. Pleasure first, So your day,

(46:30):
the most important thing in your day is pleasure. And
when I read that, when I started thinking about that,
how often in my life have I woke up thinking, Okay,
I gotta feed the dog, gotta get the dogs out
to pee walk them, I want to work out, I
got this stuff, I want to do all of this stuff,
and then oh, I try and fit pleasure in after
that or maybe at at night when we go to bed.
But what if I looked at my life and what

(46:51):
would the quality of my life be if I woke
up prioritizing pleasure as the absolute most important thing in
my day. It's hard to have pleasure when the dogs
are crapping on the rug though, But yeah, but if
you have, if you're in pleasure, if you have pleasure,
you probably don't give a damn about that. Think about
how you're feeling after you've been pleasure, after you've expressed yourself.

(47:13):
You are more loving, more kind, more patient, We have
more gratitude for everything. Everybody's awesome, things are funnier. Maybe
pleasure first is a new concept that I'm trying to
like explore in my life because it's not been. It's
been almost last in the course of my life. Can't
listen to anyone say they don't have fifteen minutes. You do?
You have fifteen minutes a few times a week to

(47:34):
try it. You meditate, sex, meditate. We actually have fifteen
minutes left in this sixty minutes. Question, What do you
do when you wanted to have pleasure first, but your
dog is jumping on your bed looking at you, saying me,
put lock the door, put them outside. I got I
got a question. It's gonna take fifteen minutes. Ton, Okay,

(47:57):
it's something. This is like a paragraph. It's some we've
talked about before, scheduling sex. I'm gonna rattle down the
bullet points here. How do we really feel about it?
I used to think it was ridiculous, but my boyfriend
this is from the person that wrote it. But my
boyfriend works has a ton going on as the kids,
have the time and traveled, so we scheduled sex. I
knew only options this week were Wednesday and Thursday. It

(48:18):
was kind of fun to think about it ahead of
time and to get excited. I get why you need
to do it, but I can't let it go by
the wayside. I will say, I think he did it
to make me happy when he wasn't quite as into
it as part of it. He thought it was a
little tough. So I need to figure out how to
work on that. So she tried scheduling sex. She seems
to like it, but she has to get her boyfriend
more on it. So this this is a perfect follow
up question to what I was just talking about, because

(48:39):
why can't they like if I that, I would totally
be up for scheduling sex because I know it's going
down here and it's like a hockey game like seven
pm Saturday night, like it's go time. Like I know,
I would totally be in for that. Life changes my
alarm just one off. I'm supposed to be having sex
right now, but now I'm here, can I ask a question?

(49:00):
Can you see? It sounds crazy to me, but I'm
down for that, as long as you can have sex
before that time too, like whenever, Like okay, we'll do
that time too. But I don't want it to be like, Okay,
you're not gonna do this like three months from now
when it's I'm not do it. But we're not quite

(49:20):
there yet. This summer summer, it's going to be really
form count is act activated. Just stay on the question.
Nobody is saying you can't have sex other times. She's
just just saying just to make sure that there is
an absolute must must time at least that time, whatever
time that is, so per day, per week, per weekend,

(49:44):
whatever y'all do it. But Okay, I get it. I
just said I don't have fifteen minutes, Like this woman
is going ahead and saying, here is fifteen minutes, here
is an hour. You are not free to book other
things to get it. Okay, I understand. But on the surface,
when I hear these types of things, it's so hard

(50:04):
for me to wrap my head around it, like we're
gonna schedule sex like, well, you've got a different lifestyle
to what I mean. It's like what but in your
lives where it seems to make sense to at least
make sure that there's a time to do it. But
it's hard for me to still understand. I have to say,
if I, if I may, candidly speaking say, it's hard

(50:24):
for me to wrap my head around the concept of
not having the desire enough to go that long to
the point where you feel like you have to have
it on the schedule. No, she's just looking at the
calendar saying, it's busy. I want to have connection with you.
Here's the thing. Let me propose it this way. Let's
say there's an absolutely beautiful, lovely woman that you are

(50:47):
so into. You are just into this person, and she
says to you, I'm super busy, you're super busy this week.
I want to carve out an hour where we can
totally explore and connect physically and everything that you want
sexually we can explore in that hour. You're telling me
you wouldn't be just dying for seven o'clock or nine
o'clock to come around. Okay, I can. I can embrace

(51:08):
that concept. I'll tell you where I'd have a hard
time if we showed up. I knew we had an hour.
In the first fifteen minutes she was meditating. Well, we
made some progress there, Rick DoD you have any thought
on that? No, it's all good. Yeah, with the bank. Okay,

(51:31):
here's a question. Here's a question a month my door,
Nash is coming in thirty Um. The new topic you're
moving on here here clowns? Snoring? Any of you snore?
Snoring can destroy relationships. It's mostly men that snored you.

(51:52):
Men snore more when they are out of shape or overweight.
What do you do if your partner snores? Should you
sleep in separate bedrooms? Do you do? Men think snoring
as a d a breaker for women? Do any of
your wives or girlfriend's snore a lot? Of just any
topic on story. Let's go by snore. I mean I don't.
I'm not one of those, like, you know, like a
bear kind of a store. But I mean I do snore,
like if I'm in a deep sleep. I've been told

(52:12):
that I do snore. Um. I caught myself actually on
the plane the other day. I was flying back from
New York, and I fell asleep before we even took off,
and it was like I could almost hear myself like, uh, yeah,
I was that dude somebody putting a sock. But shut
this guy up. But I'm not a huge store, you know,

(52:36):
and I don't have like or I don't have any
of that other kind of stuff. I do think. I
don't think it ruins relationship. It's just a fact of life.
You know. It's like, dude, part of either getting old
or it's getting gray hair or you know, what are
you gonna do get divorced because you're getting great hair
or you're balding or whatever. That's like, so what you're snoring?
That being said, disruptive. It is disruptive. Very can be

(52:57):
very disruptive what I typically do. My wife will occasionally snore.
She's gonna kill me is I just grabbed the pillow
and kind of toss it on or all like no, no, no, no.
It's just like I'll, you know, kind of push her
and say, hey, baby, you're snoring, and she's like okay, okay,
and then as long as you're comfortable pal. So I

(53:19):
don't know what you guys think of this, but my
guy snores, and the odds are we will never sleep
in the same room for like an entire night. We
just always have. But there's there's a there's a mouthpiece
that goes in and puts their jaw back and so
so there's you can do, like a snore guard. You
can do different ways of your air passages. Separate rooms
is not a deal breaker. It's okay if you are

(53:41):
lucky enough to have an extra room. It's a little
tricky when traveling, like to a hotel, but we figure
it out. You're not bs. You're not gonna go get
a separate room. You're not gonna get married and live
in a separate room like that. Just a story for
I'm saying people that are married here. Story. When I

(54:01):
was eighteen, I was playing hockey in Seattle and so
my billet family, the family that I lived within Seattle.
The man snored like a freaking semitruck, Like he just
snored outrageously. And they slept in different rooms. They literally
had their own bedrooms. I thought it was weird as hell,
and I don't think I never want my relationship ever
to come to that. Did they seem like a happy couple.

(54:23):
They did not. They did not seem like they had
romance or connection or affection present in their lives. They
to me, maybe they did, but to me, it felt
like they were roommates. Did he wear like a mouthpiece
or anything to kind of prevent the snoring? There's tons
of cures. How about a motorcycle him? How side? Just
you know, in there, just question what's the whole helmet?

(54:48):
You know? Go ahead, who is your best friend? And
tell us one thing about him? You can't say my
wife boring? All right, Rick's wife is off the table. Guys. Yeah,
my answer, um telling me to go first. You say

(55:10):
it was kind of an open ended question. You got
a little awkward there. Um. I got a buddy of mine.
I consider him as my best My best buddy, we
can we talk about stuff. We all we all, Uh,
this is where it gets even more awkward. Um, you know,
but we talked about stuff, and UM, we can be
honest and you know, we got each other back, give
each other honest things. But we also, um take screenshots

(55:33):
of people's like face, stupid Facebook posts and stuff when
we just text them like all day long and make
fun of it keeps you laughing all day long. I
got a good buddy. And what what makes my relationship
with him so special is whenever we get together, it's
like we're still back in high school, or we're still
back in college, we're still whatever, Like nothing changes, and

(55:53):
it's like you just pick up and you're back to
You're telling the same stupid jokes, you're talking about the
same people, you're you know, you're rinking, messing around, doing
whatever you're doing. Um, And and that's what to me
makes a best friend or you know, a best friend. Yeah,
that's my best buddy right there. Yes, bring him in, actually,

(56:14):
bring him get over here. Come on, I've been let's
t him up here up. He doesn't like this, uh,
this type of stuff, this type of let's have his
you know, his name is Joey me and but me
and Joey have been buddies since we were let's see
you about twenty years and uh, let's see I was

(56:35):
about twenty one when I met Joey two and Joey
was working a cafe in a neighborhood I was living in, right,
and we became friends from hanging out there, and uh,
we wasn't friends friendly at first, right, he think I
think he thought I was a dick. Right, you got

(56:55):
you got your Joey the mic he you were well
at least you didn't say you are. Yeah, yeah yeah,
And uh, anyway, we became friends over time, and it's
my best buddy, man, So you know, we we worked
together and uh, travel together. Man. We were you know,

(57:16):
our our families are you know, we know each other's families.
And he's a great guy man, you know. And I
think part of that friendship is because we met at
a very important time in our lives as well, you know,
your early twenties, one years old probably and um, and
you know, I've had I still you know, I still

(57:37):
am tight with guys I grew up with, you know,
my best friend growing up, I'm still super tight with,
you know, and my best buddies going up, I'm still
super tight with. I still hang out with their families
and see them and and all those great things and
other guys I met throughout time. Um, and I'm still
tight with a bunch of bunch of dudes. But but
me and him, we just it's like it's like we

(58:00):
you just see the world in very much the same way.
I think we came up in a particular in a
particular time in our lives that we identify with even
though we grew up differently. Um and Uh, I think
we share a lot of the same values and and
things like that. You know, I think, um and he's

(58:23):
and he his his his creative mind is similar to
my creative mind, but his pragmatic mind is similar to
my pragmatic mind. You guys met at an important time
in your life. You needed a sandwich, and he worked
in a cafe. Boom boom boom. Actually, since he used
all the oxygen in the room, might not be real quick?
Are you dead yet? Like my brother Jordan's uh, my

(58:47):
brother Derek, uh. And then all my all my buddies
growing up. Man, I've been buddies for thirty six years
of these guys. Um, my buddy Corey here in town.
I got Curtis Blake, Uh, my buddy Ryan, my buddy scummy,
um scummy. His last name is skull Moski. Um. I
have too many. I have too many amazing buddies to

(59:08):
even just list one. Blake Tyrrell, Like just so, you
don't have a person you talk to the most, talk
to the most all of them. But right now, who
who would be your joy in the corner? Who's the
one you talked to the most? Because I talk I
talked to all those guys here. The one I was
the one I would talk to the most. He I
talked to the most, The one I would the two
that I would talk to the most would be uh,
Derek and Corey here in town because they both live

(59:30):
here in l A. So that proximity, Like it's easy
for me to drive the DS. Corey comes and works
out of my house five times a week, so I
see those guys more. Um so those who would I
talk to the most of those. But there, but there is,
but but there is that that love. You know, there's
elements of the guys you grow up with, your your youngest,

(59:50):
youngest times in your life. They're almost more like family
than than anything else. You know what I'm saying. It's
kind of like when you know someone since you're three,
it's it's it's weird, honest with you, it's uh, blood blood,
you know. And me and Joey became blood, you know

(01:00:12):
what I mean. And so that's the thing, you know
what I mean, We're still talking about We're still talking
about Joey. Joey your your book is coming out. I'm
gonna flick. I'm gonna flick and his brick. Okay, next question,
this one, I want to make this. I want to
stipulate this. This has a kids in the question, but
I think you can answer it if you don't have kids. So,
if you were to have kids one day, what is

(01:00:33):
one thing you don't want your kids to know about
you that you were friends with? Gavin? What's one thing
I don't want my kids to know about me? I'll
tell you all the stuff you guys that want your
kids to know. Yeah, I mean, to be honest, I
think probably looking back on like smoking weed or you know,
doing doing a doing a drag or two. Um, I

(01:00:57):
mean I'm ashamed of that, all right, to be ashamed
of that, because I mean, I'm spending a lot of
time right now. My son's at a pivotal age where
he's either getting introduced to that or whatever the case
may be, and it's like, no, don't do that, or
you know, be careful about this. And I was going
through the same time, but I was I made the
you know, I tried it, you know. So it's like

(01:01:19):
that part is I'm ashamed of. I mean, I know
he's gonna do it, so it's it's it is what
it is, and he's at some point going to make
his own decisions. Um. I can't look back on my
life where I'm like, oh, I totally regret this. I
would never never tell my kids, you know, um, not
to make you straight too much, but I have a question.
Are you gonna tell your kids not to do any

(01:01:40):
of it? No? Are you gonna address certain lines because
do you think that there's a certain line that's sort
of permissible because if you dropped too too much of
a hammer on him, are you afraid they're gonna overdo
it when they finally do something wrong? Totally? I'm afraid
of it all, um. And I'm I'm pretty liberal in
terms of having those conversations and and being open about

(01:02:03):
experimenting with things. You know. I I've come to kind
of the reality that he's they're gonna try it, So
I think it's more of like, what are your decisions
after you try it? Are you gonna get in a car?
Are you gonna let your friend get in a car?
Are you gonna what are you gonna do? And I
think those are the those are the concerns that I have,

(01:02:25):
and and that would be the I mean, I'm not
going to drop the hammer. I mean, it really kind
of depends on what the what the scenario is, right, Dmitri.
What what I don't want my kids to know about
me is the things that the the emotion, things that
make me selfish when I shouldn't be so. For example,
if I'm talking them into sleep and I'm so tired
and one of them just starts telling a story, and

(01:02:47):
they have every right to tell that story, but in
my head, I'm like, shut up, I'm so tired right now.
I don't want them to know because I think it's
so sweet that they have these stories they want to share,
but I don't want them to know that there have
been time is when I've been like, come on, man,
let's zip it up, let's go um. I appreciate that honestly, dude,

(01:03:07):
that's not an easy thing to say. And I appreciate
because and then and the truth is like, yeah, that happens.
But I also like, I don't want them to know
it because that's my problem. That's me being tired. That's
not anything that they do. So I don't want them
to think wrong from that. Here's here's mine. I don't
have kids, but here's what the question is. What would
I not want them to know? Um, I would like
my kids to know that I've just been with their mom,

(01:03:31):
like with my wife, Like I would love to have
our kids see us as a unit, just as know
us as a unit. I'm sorry for a minute, I
thought you meant like I had just been with your
mom two minutes. Know, like like my mom and dad right,
like like my mom and dad don't tell stories of
x is or of like like when I see my
mom and dad, they've been married forty five years, their

(01:03:54):
mom and dad together and they don't share. And I
don't know if that's good or bad that they don't share.
But I love just the notion of looking at my
mom and dad as a partnership. And I hope and
that's just I hope when I have kids that um,
that they know me and my wife as their mom
and dad as a partnership, as a togetherness um, and

(01:04:16):
not know other stuff about our past. I don't know
if that's right or wrong, but that's a truthful answer
to that question. My niece penis on my iPad, So
what a follow up? So I always let them. I
just have to admit it. So I always let them
use my iPads when I go games only games only.

(01:04:37):
So then I go over and my nieces are looking
at photos on my iPad and I go, oh god,
I had a total panic. And I go, you guys,
there's weird photos in there for my work. My little
niece it was nine. She goes, we know, Auntie, we
saw that. We just went past it. And then they
were like, my aunt works with penises. Gave what's something?

(01:05:00):
If you had kids, you would never want them to know.
We don't have a lot of time. You got two sentences.
Um good, Sure, I'm not sure, man, I mean there's plenty.
Probably the amount of destruction I went through or self

(01:05:26):
created until I got it right, m hm, you know
what I mean? And you know I wouldn't say it
was total self destruction. But I would say that it
certainly wasn't all necessarily you know, all building towards a
good thing my whole life, you know what I mean,

(01:05:46):
so um, but there was certainly you know bad. There
are plenty of bad decisions along the way, you know,
and a lot of selfish decisions, so that that's probably
some of the stuff i'd i'd want to keep keep
them protected from, you know. Um. But at the same time,
I don't necessarily want to try to convince my kids

(01:06:07):
I was some kind of angel, because because I wasn't
and I'm not and uh and I think that sets
the bar too high, and I think it allows them
to see their own disappointment a little too clearly if
they're not a little angel. And I don't believe in
um creating this uh, I don't believe in the complete
idyllic uh uh lie that children are sold about how

(01:06:31):
they should behave, how perfect they have to be, because
I think that creates a a box that is I think,
far more evil than the things you could expose them to.
That to show them that, um, you know, the world
is imperfect and it's okay if you're not perfect, and uh,
you know, dad wasn't perfect either, and your aunt has

(01:06:53):
penis pectures on your iPad and exactly, exactly exactly. I
think creating some of these impossible standards, it creates more
of the of their creative creates, more of them being
self conscious about themselves and things like this. And I
think it's more destructive to children to create impossible standards
and to be at least somewhat real as an adult

(01:07:15):
about how imperfect we are. And what I think is
important is usually using your experiences to help guide them
through their life. You know, like it's not all cookie cutter,
it's not all perfect, and so like you're using your
either failures or successes and to help shape them. That's
that's the most important thing. As apparent, time is up.

(01:07:36):
Time is up. So we are going to do the
last few questions as a speed round. Ready, Yes, you
speed round means you have to go fast. Here we go.
Let me put it in fifty. Like taking baths, I do.
I don't. I love a bath man. I'll never take
one unless it's with my wife. Yeah, I take them.

(01:07:57):
I love a bath. First. Celebrity crushed periscope Christie Brinkley,
Lisa malano I think, Jessica Alba, I don't remember. Do
you pee in the shower? Only in the shower, even
if I'm not showering, I get in the shower only
like three times. I actually, I actually think it's disgusting

(01:08:21):
because I watched so many dudes piss in the shower
for years, and I'm just like, that's not just kidding me.
You don't pee in the shower. It's not I'm not
saying I don't I have, it's not. I'm not proud
of it. Someone told me it is bad for the drain.
Do you feel Brad Pitt is fairly handsome? Yes? Sure?

(01:08:41):
Do I think he's Yeah, he's handsome Brad Pitt or
Leo brad Pitt. Brad Pitt looks tougher. When your wife, girlfriend,
or teenage daughter needs you to buy tampons, how do
you really feel about it? I don't know, buy him
give her the apple pay? I mean, I don't give it. Obviously,

(01:09:04):
I go and by them. I don't give you them,
but I usually make a joke out of it because
you bring it up to the thing and I'll be like,
so are there instructions for me to use these? That
was a great that Dmitri, you put a great bow
on this episode. Um, that was awesome, guys. I always
I love when we get to answer listener questions, So

(01:09:26):
I want to I want to one applaud all of
you guys, because people listening it's not easy too, It's
not always easy to be in our seat and share
things that are personal to us and about our lives
and our families and people in our lives. So I
want to, uh, just give a nod to all you guys.
We're really committing to this episode. That was That was awesome.
I think yeah, we provided some great value. I hope

(01:09:47):
and anybody listening, if you have more questions, we always
want them. Send us an email, Um, what's our email?
Man at our heart radio dot com and and always
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because I'm tired of writing all of them. Yours was
the egg one. Hey, by the way, guys, I appreciate
I appreciate you guys. This was fun. I'm up to

(01:10:08):
a six point five now. Yeah. The best thing is
now you get to skip right over seven and you'll
be at an eight PC. Seven is like the thirteen
in the elevator now just skipping it over. That's it
for this episode. Thank you guys, thank you everyone for listening.
We appreciate you so much. Happy New Year, Happy new decade,
and we'll see you right back here next week. Till then,

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take care of one another, love one another, have a
fantastic week.