February 3, 2022 • 27 mins
Bachelorette fan favorite Tyler Cameron is here answering your dating and relationship questions. In fact, he'll answer anything you want to know!
He was Hannah B's runner up but he came out the real winner.
He's handsome and a sweetheart and knows HOW MEN THINK.
He's got the moves on Fox's The Real Dirty Dancing so make your move and ask us anything.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hey everyone,
I'm Tyler Cameron and you may know me as a
contestant from the Bachelor of Season, but I am also
an entrepreneur, the author of Me Deserve Vetter, and co
founder of the Andrey A. C. Cameron Foundation, and I'm
currently competing on the fast competition series The Real Dirty Dancing.
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I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think.
I'm gonna answer all your questions and solve the fascinating
questions of how men think or do we? But first,
this is eleven Questions with Tyler Cameron. Let's get into it.
What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. I
guess what I'm known for is my time on the Bachelorette. Um,
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that's kind of how I came onto the scene. But
tell you about myself. I was a kid worn to
raise in Jupiter, Florida. Um, got it? You know it.
Was a football player, you know, tried playing pro, got
cut out the Ravens a couple of times. Uh, then
I got hurt. My career was done. I was like
broke jock at this point. Um, I went back to school,
finished up my m b A, uh, got my GC license,
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and I started building houses and I just got my
first house going. And then The Bachelor I called and
they wanted me to come on the show. And that
was kind of how I got my start. And now,
you know, back and forth between New York and Florida
and building houses and kind of doing the same thing. Still, UM,
who are you in your personal life? Me? I just
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like to be home with my friends. I grew up
with my family. UM, I'm a very simple guy. I
like to be on my boat, like to be on
the water. Uh like to just honestly be home and
being juper four. That's my happy place. So that's kind
of my personal life. Three shows that I am binge
watching right now. Right now, I'm watching Friday Night Lights.
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I've never seen the TV show I'm a Football Guy.
I fell in love with the show just recently watching it.
Another one is made incredible show on Netflix. UM, really
kind of opens your eyes to domestic violence and how
you know rough that can really be really changed my
you know, showed me so much about that world that
I just never saw or could imagine. UM, very very
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great show and then Kevin Hart has a show on
there called True Story and it's Kevin Hart not being funny,
being serious drama and he one crussures it into it's
just a show full of anxiety. It's like, oh my god,
how can this happen? How can that happen? So those
are my three shows checking out, Friday Night Lights Made
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and True Story. What is my favorite food? Either a
steak or cheeseburger. Um, My brother's steaks are number one.
He can cook so damn good. And my favorite burger
is from a place called Four Charles, but the same
burger Ashibalt and restaurational Hardware. They'll check those burgers out
and get back to me. Best burger in the world
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number two, shake shack. Um, tell us about out your career.
My career, Um, well, I'm into building houses. I'm building
four houses right now. They're spec home, so I'm building
them on speculation that somebody buys them. Uh so I'm
designing it doing all that fun stuff. I'm working on
my path which has been a lot of fun. But
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also we Buttu hads a little bit, you know, on
design ideas and whatnot. But you know, that's that's that's
part of my life. I also owned two restaurants, working
on getting my third, and just just signed a deal
today and close hopefully in a month from my third restaurant.
So very excited about that. It's all about the health
food space. And then I just love, you know, fitness,
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and I want to do more in that world. And
I guess I'm just kind of all over the place.
You know. My dad always says, you know, go with
the money. Uh. What's your biggest fear in life? Um?
My biggest fear in life is to to not have
a family. Um. I want to be a dad, I
want to be a husband, I want to raise kids.
I want to have a bunch of land, let them
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all run around and and be goofballs and let you
join them with them. You know. So I think not
having a family is definitely my biggest fear in life.
What is my biggest pet? Peeve? All Right, if I
call you and you text me back, what's up? We're fighting?
I hate that just calling me. Call me back. I
don't want to. I'm probably driving or something, so I
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can't text, So call me back. So if I'm driving,
if I'm calling, you, don't test me, call me back. Uh.
What makes you the most happy. For me, the things
that made me the most happy is being home, being
with my friends, being with my family. Uh, those are
the most important people in my life. Being with my dog,
so getting back to Jupiter, Florida, and just being around
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the people that I love. And you know, last night
I watched an episode of Real Day Dancing. I sat
next to my nanna and I got to share that
experience with her, and to me, that's what it's all about. Um,
what is your ideal Saturday morning? This is my favorite
Saturday ritual. So if you guys know, you guys know
my trainer, Phil Fit. He's also a big brother to me.
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I've known. I've been working with him since I was
in the seventh grade. That's my guys, my big brother.
I love him to death. So Phil comes over, all
my friends come over and Phil works us out in
the garage in the driveway down the street. All the
neighbors are watching us because we look like Radius. But
Phil is killing us. We're dying. So we'll do a
Phil Fit workout. We'll go to my restaurant Three Natives.
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We'll get a healthy little luncheon afterwards, and then after
that we go hit the boat and have a wonderful
down the water. That's my perfect ideal Saturday morning. Um.
Are you more of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? Uh? Well,
I was the backup quarterback in college, so I can
understand being the armchair quarterback, but I'm definitely more of
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the athlete. I don't really enjoy watching football as much
as I do playing it or playing any sport, so
I'm definitely more of the athlete. But I will definitely
chir up a bad quarterback if I see it. Uh well,
keeps motivated. Um. You know, my number one dream and
goal in life is to be a dad, but also
coach high school football. So I want to grind. I
want to make money so I can be in a
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point in life where I can put you know, so
everything I'm done. I just want to be a dad,
coach football, help kids get to college, and be a
great husband. And so until you to that point, I'm
gonna work and grinding my butt off and then just
get to that point and live life after that. That
was eleven Places with Todd Cameron. We're about to take
a break, but when we get back, we're gonna be
answering your live call, so to an in, Hi, how
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are you going on? I'm newly married and as a
thank you, and we we were honeymooning in Florida. We
went to Jupiter. It's so nice over there. But I
was wondering if you had any advice as to how
we can keep this, like really when feeling alive, since
it's you know, brand new. But what would you suggest?
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So what I would suggest, one is always have a schedule,
like have one day night dedicated every week, and there's
no vans or buzz about like Dad's y'all's night, So
it forces you to get out of the house. Because
I think it's so easy to get comfortable. Oh, we'll
just sit inside and watch TV in order food again today.
Oh well, since you know it's so easy to get comfortable,
But I think you gotta keep going and doing different
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things and seeing different things. Um. I challenge y'all to
go take dance classes every week. Oh, go take dance
classes every week, maybe once or twice a week. You
know it's gonna create so much more intimacy. It's just
so much fun, you know, and it's like it's something
completely reality ordinary, some totally different to challenge for both
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of you guys, and you guys will learn how to
pick each other up. There's so many bye busses that
come from dancing. You have to both be vulnerable and
you'll see a different side of each other. And it's
could be a fun activity, you know, and then go
have a couple of cocks, goes out towards and that's
your night. That sounds amazing. I to do that. But
what's your favorite type of dance? Now? I need to know? Um, So,
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like me, I would love to learn how to do
like the mamba, like the ballroom dancing, all like that stuff.
I think that stuff is fun because there's so many
different types of dances to do within that, you know,
all that stuff like shot all that. So if you
could go out there like, okay, this week we're gonna
learn you know, the maringa or the bachata or you
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know all that stuff like I think ballroom, you know Latin,
all that stuff is a ton of fun, and so
I would I would definitely go for that. So I
love that We're totally gonna do that. Well you know
how it goes, and you need to tag me in
your stories and your posts. I can see you'll they're
doing it okay, all right, thank you? Bye? Bye? Hi, Hey,
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how are you? How are you good? Good? Nice to
meet you. Where are you calling from? I'm calling for
Indiana the Midwest. There we go. So obviously I've been
through breakups and everything, and there's always been something I've
been dying to know from a guy's perspective. Yeah, I'm
just curious how males process a breakup, like if they
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really think about the person, or if they actually get
upset at night, if they feel lonely, like any of that. Yeah,
we definitely feel all those. Um, we definitely feel all
those I still think about, you know, my past lead,
you know the people, I my recent my my recent relationship. Um,
I still you know, a nice and time he keeps
me on my damn what you know, what the heck happened?
Or why am I here? But like that's all part
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of growth and learning and growing and putting in your past.
But we definitely feel what y'all feel. You know, it's
not just the one sided thing, um, you know, and
it's it's kind of hard to understand because like for me,
when we break up and it's done done, like I
try to cut off all communication, you know, because I
don't want to go back, you know, and so it's
like you don't know what other person is feeling or
how they're reacting. But it's definitely, uh, we would definitely
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feel it on both ends. So you know, on a break,
every not alone, no one wants to be there. Yeah,
that's good to know you never know. Yeah, yeah, but
don't go back. Don't go back of course now perfect? Well,
thank you, yes, of course, have h what's up Becky? Hi? Tyler?
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How's it going good? How are you doing good? Where
are you calling from Los Angeles? There we go? Yes, yes, um,
okay Tyler. The question that I have for you to
better understand men is what are some insecurities men have
that women may not really think about or be aware of,
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or that it just are not obvious. Yeah. Um, I
would say, like a complement goes a long way with us.
You know, oh you don't have it look good or
you know you look handsome today, like like we'll be
through the roof, you know what I mean, we'll be
so happy, so sot. You know, I think little things
like that, you know, Um, I think finances can be
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an insecurity. I know a lot of guys you know
that you know, I'm friends with and even sometimes myself,
I have my own insecurities within it. But they don't
want to take the next step forward, you know, they
don't want to get engaged because they don't have the
money to get the right ring or to do this
or do that. So it holds them back. And I
think it's more of an it's an insecurity thing, and
it's something that I think it doesn't really make a knit,
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you know, the difference if you guys are really for
each other, you know, And so I think finance is
another big insecurity um. And then definitely, like you know,
being in shape, you know, I think men who are
out of shape definitely lose confidence, and men that are
in shape, you know, they they had that confidence. That's important.
I know, when I work out and I feel good
about myself, I feel better about put myself out there.
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But when I'm being a piece of crap and eaten
like crap, I feel like crap, you know what I mean.
I'm not confident myself to go put myself out there.
And so you can have those insecurities as well. So
I think those are the big three right there, got it?
So look good, feel good, make sure words of affirmation. Yeah,
all of it good, awesome, Thank you, Tyler, thank you. Hello,
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Hi Tyler, how are you? How you doing good? Good?
Nice to meet you. So my question for you is
what do you do when a man is bread crumbing? You?
Should you just leave? Or should you stick around because
you know that there's something there bread crumbing? You give me,
give me the definition of bread combing. Like, you know,
he shows up, he like a couple of texts here
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and there, and then he'll disappear, or he wants to
hang out through this weekend but not the next weekend.
And then when you do hang out, there's like good
chemistry between you guys, and you have an excellent time.
But then it's not like not fully committed. So I
guess you can say he's half committed. I guess that's
what bread crumbing is. Like. Yeah, so, so I don't
like bread crumbing. You know, if I'm if I'm talking
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to someone, I'm interested in their bread coming me, I'm
not gonna like it, you know, And uh, you know,
I think the best thing to do is is be
up front. So I'm like, you know, I'm not for this.
I'm not just gonna be someone you talked to here
and there and and then if they're not for it,
then that's not your person. You know, you can, you
can move on with peace and just keep going. But
I'm up front, I hate it. If you're gonna leave
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me along, you know, keep me. I'm good. I'm gonna
be up front with you to tell you how it is.
And that's it. So you know, I think it just
comes with having a conversation, because no one wants to
be bread crumb. You know, even though the chemistry is
there and you feel good about it, say something or else,
you're always gonna be like waiting and waiting and waiting,
and that's the worst feeling in the world, you know,
like hoping for the next text or the next call
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because like you enjoy seeing that person. But I have
a conversation, be up front, and if it goes your way, great,
and if it doesn't, it just leading to the next
best thing. Then you know that that wasn't the person
for you exactly. But it's tough. It's hard, it's hard
to have the conversation, it's hard to be forward and transparent.
But you will feel so much better and you will
get so much better at doing it once you do it,
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you know, great, very nice. Thanks, it will be beneficial
right than nice? Meet so Carly, Hey, guys, how's it
going good? Where are you calling from? I'm calling from Brooklyn. Brooklyn.
There we go, neighbors. Really, where do you live? Alright? Right?
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Like the Low Reside? Okay? Cool? Yeah, I live in Williamsburg.
There you go. So what's going on? Um? Well, so
I just recently moved to New York. Um from Arizona.
Thank you, I love it. Um. I was in a
three year relationship and finally ready to start dating again. UM.
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So I know you lived here and have experience with that.
So I was just wondering, like, how if you have
any advice on meeting guys in the city without being
on an app? Yeah, that would be on the app. Um,
I would do you have a group of friends like
girls yet? Yeah? Definitely gets brought up with the girls
and get out and just like you know, you're there's
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always people out, always people around. You know, if you
go to a bar, you're always gonna meet people. So
get with your friends and just just kind of go out,
start meeting and start finding like the spots that everyone
kind of hangs out at um you know. There there's
tons of bars and tons of restaurants that people are
all at hanging out. I think that's the best way.
Just I wouldn't go to a club because you're not
gonna be able to have a conversation with anybody. But
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go to go to go to you know, a fun
little bar. There's so many cool little spots in the
city that are very intimate but fun and got good people.
Go to Do West. I like that place, great place
to me people and and and you know, we go there.
It's fun. There's great people there all the time, and
just like but it's like not loud, not overbearing, you know,
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and it's it's a good time. So so go to
Do West. Just just go thing and I'll go tonight.
Well I appreciate you Colling. Yeah, thank you guys so much.
Hi Tyler, Hey, how are you good? How are you good?
Where you at? I'm in Greenville, South Carolina. I've been there. Yeah,
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I went there for a wedding last summer, last eummer night. Okay,
summer is hot. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm eight and single,
and I think it's getting a little frustrating and maybe
a little discouraging, UM, meeting guys I'm off the apps.
Not it's not for me, um. And the majority of
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my friends are married, so that's always fun going out
with a bunch of married people. So I wanted to
know if you had any insight on where to meet people,
UM and ways to initiate like conversation with someone that
aren't like having my married guy friend winging man me
and just kind of like actually have some success because
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it's through out here. Yeah, no, I get it. UM.
So I think you know, going out in groups is fun. UM.
I think, uh, just like kind of hitting like the
happening areas like not clubs, nothing like that, but like
like a chill bar or a fun dinner spot where
one gets drinks at, you know, like wherever it's like
good to socialize at. Um. I've been to some spots
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in Greevent where it's not good to socialize at, but
the spots better than I do. It's an amazing place.
But also like you're married, friends like those are like
you align with those people that they guarantee you. Like
the guys that they're married, you know they're married to
has friends that are kind of aligned with the same thing.
You know, maybe they do stuff together and you can join,
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like you know, go to their dinner parties or whatever,
and you never know who they may bring or who
you may meet. I know a lot of people that
met somebody through their married friends. You know, I would
never close out that because I think, you know, your
friends are your friends because you're align with the same
morals and values and things like that, and so usually
it's kind of all similar and whatnot. So I think,
you know, don't just the married friends yet, but definitely,
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like you go hang out with places, you know, with
your group of girls whatever, so you can meet other
groups of guys and whatnot. But then also like stick
to your married friends and maybe do dinners and whatnot,
have them bring guys and friends and whatnot. Yeah, awesome, Well,
thank you for Colin. Yeah, have a good day. You're
the same. Bye. What's up, Sarah, So what's going on? So? Um,
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this is probably different than the questions you've been getting,
But I've been in a long term relationship for like
six years, I'm married, um, all that stuff. So my
husband I were kind of talking about it the other night,
so I wanted to hear your take on it. What
do you think that men need differently, um, in a
long term relationships, like keep things exciting and like fun
and all that than different than women do and like
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kind of what do you think that is? Um? I
I think you have to keep things fun and light.
You know what I mean? And I mean you You've
been in a relationship longer than I have. But I'll
tell you this. One thing I've always dreamed of is
like I want to be able to to go out
with my wife and be able to do whatever we
want to do. Like so like if we're out a
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dance party, I wanna be able to dance with her.
I wanna be able to do this with her, like
we like, we both know we can do this. So
I challenge you I just did with someone else and
there in a long termpnationship earlier, to go take dance
classes with your husband once once a week or twice
a week for a month, and it's gonna show you
all a different side of each other, you know, And
it's gonna you're gonna you know, you're gonna have to
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be vulnerable. He's gonna have to really come out of
his comfort zone. You're gonna come out of years. You
have to be sexy in a different way. And and
so was he and it's gonna be funna goofy W
has some drinks afterwards, like and and see where that goes.
And you know, you guys go out to eat somewhere
and they're playing some music. You guys go dance together.
And like I'm telling you, dancing is the most fun
to have someone else, you know. I like that idea.
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And I'm a terrible dancer, so I probably need to
do that. Either way, You're gonna take some ball from
dancing classes, learn some other styles of dancing, you know.
And and so you can be any where, you can
do anything together. You can. You can have fun just
by yourselves, you know. And and that's the most important thing.
Is Like if you can kick kick over the coffee
table and make some room and put out some music
and dance and have a hell of at night, that's gonna,
it's gonna, it's gonna last, gonna do well. That is
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really good advice. I agree, And um, I'll have to
look into it. Hey, I want to see dance classes.
I need you to tag me in your dance classes
so I know happening review. I need you to come
back to me and tell me this was a great
idea or not. I can definitely do that, all right. Nice, Hey,
how are you good? How are you? I'm sad. Nice
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to meet you. Nice to meet you too. What's going on?
I'm wondering if you have any advice for people in
a relationship if their boyfriend's the jealous type. The jealous type, Oh,
that's tough. It's hard because that means he's dealing with
some insecurities of himself. You know. Yeah, he's gotta get
past and that's nothing you can do. You know, he's
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got to go through his own issues, in his own
battles to get through that. And if it's a guy
you love and stick around, he's gotta try and you know,
comfort him and help him work through those insecurities. But
you can't do things because they if you want to
go do something that makes you happy, to go do it,
if that makes him jealous, he's gotta work on that,
you know, Like what's he jealous about? Um? Just like
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if I go out without him or he's just like
always worried about what I'm doing. Yeah, he's got to
learn how to get over that. Because like if you
guys are gonna make it and last forever, like that's
what we all help and dream for. He's not gonna
be able to do that all the time. You know.
It's gonna drive him crazy, and then it's gonna more
so drive you crazy because you're not gonna be You're
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gonna feel guilty going out and having fun. So to
be honest, he's either gotta he's gotta work through those
insecurities himself, and you can try and be there for him,
but it's really a him issue, not a you issue
at all. You know, Jealousy is a killer, you know,
and hopefully he can get through it and all that,
but you know, be there for him as much as
much as you can. But I'm telling you, those are
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his issues and not your issues, and you have to
do what makes you happy and keep yourself happy. You
gotta go out with your girls, you gotta go have
a good time. You're not doing anything wrong, you know.
He's just got to get through his own issues. And
you know there's there may be something from his past
that's that's got him, you know, but his past is
not your fault, you know, So he's running to work
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through his own issues. And you know, it's up to
you for how much you want to stick around and
help work through it or not. Yeah, don't let it
beat your don't want to beat you up. Yeah, you know,
thank you, I appreciate it. Of course, nice to meet you.
Of course, keep having fun or goodbye to my boyfriend
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either one? Okay, thanks? How has your dating light change
since being on the Bachelor atte um? It's definitely a
lot more difficult because everyone you date is uh as
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broadcasted for everyone to see through paparazzis and tablets and
stuff like that, and then everyone wants to cast their
opinion on the person you're dating. So it's definitely much
more difficult, and not more so for my yourself. I
just feel bad for the person I'm with because but
you know, it could be a tough crowd and they
can there can be a lot of backlash towards that person.
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Something's affected my past relationship. But uh, it's also the
doors a lot to me, me meaning a lot of
people as well, So it's got it's pluses of negatives
for sure. Is it harder to find a more genuine
connection since being in the spotlight? Do men prefer a
popular woman. Do you guys take into consideration the number
of social media followers a girl has. Um, If a
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guy is taking into consideration the number of social media
followers a girl has, he's an idiot. Um. That has
nothing to do with the person you're talking to. And uh,
very shallow and immature. So if a guy is doing that,
that's a red flag. Um. Do men prefer a popular woman? No?
I think, you know, I think being in this limelight
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and popular world, like, it's it's it's profession to have
those that aren't popular and those that are popular. You know,
it's all about how it's it's about the connection, about
who the person is. Um. But is it harder to
find a more genuine connection since being in the spotlight?
Yes and no, Um, you know you definitely are more
careful and more worried about you know, their intentions and that.
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But it's, uh, it's it's I'd say it's a little
bit harder. How many dms do you get from women
each day? Do you look at all your d ms? Like,
there's a lot of d ms, a lot of d
ms from from from women. Uh do I look at
all of them? I look at some some of them
crack me up. Some of them keep me posting what's
going on? Um? Or if I want to get a
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reaction of something stupid I posted on social media, see
what they're saying, I'll check it out. But that's pretty
much it. Um. Should woman shoot the shot and the
guy's d M? Yeah, shoot your shot? Um, DM slotting
is not too aggressive. The next question is, are slotting
if the dems aggresive or attractive? It's attractive, it's attractive,
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go for it. Shoot your shot. Um. If you're into somebody,
go for it. You know, men and women need to
be shooting shots. Everyone needs to be shooting shots and
going for it. Uh So women shoot away. We love it.
It's hot, it's amazing. If a DM does work, what
type of message catches your eye? Come with some humor.
I love humor. I love you know, someone that can
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say something funny or or throw me off a little bit.
So definitely go for that, um and let's do one more.
Social media can be tough. Do guys compare themselves to
other guys the way girls do? I believe, Yeah, I
believe a lot of guys do compare you know, you know,
it's it's the goal keeping up of the Jones deal.
You know, we all gonna you know, live the life.
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And you know, I follow big entrepreneurs and you know,
people that I look up to and whatnot, and I'm like, damn,
I got this house, but he's got these many houses.
You know, which is which is easy to do, but
it's it's very harmful to due to yourself as well.
So uh, you know, don't compare yourself to anybody. You
are your best owned person. And if you compare yourself,
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you're gonna steal the joy of your life away. So
no more comparing. Love yourself and be good with yourself.
That's all I got for you. Thank you guys for
having me. I talked a lot about dancing on the
very time. I want to go dance because dancing changed
me and made me so you know, vulnerable. Help me
my vulnerability and put myself out there. Go out there
and watch The Real Dirty Dancing on Tuesday nights. You
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can see how my story has changed from dancing and
see the people around me how dancing has made them feel,
you know, getting intimate, connecting themselves again. Dancing can do
so much, So check out The Real Dirty Dancing Tuesday nights.
Nine pm Eastern Time in West Coast best time. I
don't know how all those times work, but yeah, check
it out. It's amazing show, a lot of fun and
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we all compete to see who's the best Johnny and
the best baby, So tune in. Thanks for listening to
How Men Think an I Heart Radio London Audio production
We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
is How Men Thick and I Heard radio podcast. Hey everyone,
I'm Tyler Cameron and you may know me as a
contestant from the Bachelor of Season, but I am also
an entrepreneur, the author of Me Deserve Vetter, and co
founder of the Andrey A. C. Cameron Foundation, and I'm
currently competing on the fast competition series The Real Dirty Dancing.
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I am so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think.
I'm gonna answer all your questions and solve the fascinating
questions of how men think or do we? But first,
this is eleven Questions with Tyler Cameron. Let's get into it.
What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. I
guess what I'm known for is my time on the Bachelorette. Um,
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that's kind of how I came onto the scene. But
tell you about myself. I was a kid worn to
raise in Jupiter, Florida. Um, got it? You know it.
Was a football player, you know, tried playing pro, got
cut out the Ravens a couple of times. Uh, then
I got hurt. My career was done. I was like
broke jock at this point. Um, I went back to school,
finished up my m b A, uh, got my GC license,
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and I started building houses and I just got my
first house going. And then The Bachelor I called and
they wanted me to come on the show. And that
was kind of how I got my start. And now,
you know, back and forth between New York and Florida
and building houses and kind of doing the same thing. Still, UM,
who are you in your personal life? Me? I just
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like to be home with my friends. I grew up
with my family. UM, I'm a very simple guy. I
like to be on my boat, like to be on
the water. Uh like to just honestly be home and
being juper four. That's my happy place. So that's kind
of my personal life. Three shows that I am binge
watching right now. Right now, I'm watching Friday Night Lights.
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I've never seen the TV show I'm a Football Guy.
I fell in love with the show just recently watching it.
Another one is made incredible show on Netflix. UM, really
kind of opens your eyes to domestic violence and how
you know rough that can really be really changed my
you know, showed me so much about that world that
I just never saw or could imagine. UM, very very
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great show and then Kevin Hart has a show on
there called True Story and it's Kevin Hart not being funny,
being serious drama and he one crussures it into it's
just a show full of anxiety. It's like, oh my god,
how can this happen? How can that happen? So those
are my three shows checking out, Friday Night Lights Made
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and True Story. What is my favorite food? Either a
steak or cheeseburger. Um, My brother's steaks are number one.
He can cook so damn good. And my favorite burger
is from a place called Four Charles, but the same
burger Ashibalt and restaurational Hardware. They'll check those burgers out
and get back to me. Best burger in the world
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number two, shake shack. Um, tell us about out your career.
My career, Um, well, I'm into building houses. I'm building
four houses right now. They're spec home, so I'm building
them on speculation that somebody buys them. Uh so I'm
designing it doing all that fun stuff. I'm working on
my path which has been a lot of fun. But
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also we Buttu hads a little bit, you know, on
design ideas and whatnot. But you know, that's that's that's
part of my life. I also owned two restaurants, working
on getting my third, and just just signed a deal
today and close hopefully in a month from my third restaurant.
So very excited about that. It's all about the health
food space. And then I just love, you know, fitness,
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and I want to do more in that world. And
I guess I'm just kind of all over the place.
You know. My dad always says, you know, go with
the money. Uh. What's your biggest fear in life? Um?
My biggest fear in life is to to not have
a family. Um. I want to be a dad, I
want to be a husband, I want to raise kids.
I want to have a bunch of land, let them
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all run around and and be goofballs and let you
join them with them. You know. So I think not
having a family is definitely my biggest fear in life.
What is my biggest pet? Peeve? All Right, if I
call you and you text me back, what's up? We're fighting?
I hate that just calling me. Call me back. I
don't want to. I'm probably driving or something, so I
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can't text, So call me back. So if I'm driving,
if I'm calling, you, don't test me, call me back. Uh.
What makes you the most happy. For me, the things
that made me the most happy is being home, being
with my friends, being with my family. Uh, those are
the most important people in my life. Being with my dog,
so getting back to Jupiter, Florida, and just being around
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the people that I love. And you know, last night
I watched an episode of Real Day Dancing. I sat
next to my nanna and I got to share that
experience with her, and to me, that's what it's all about. Um,
what is your ideal Saturday morning? This is my favorite
Saturday ritual. So if you guys know, you guys know
my trainer, Phil Fit. He's also a big brother to me.
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I've known. I've been working with him since I was
in the seventh grade. That's my guys, my big brother.
I love him to death. So Phil comes over, all
my friends come over and Phil works us out in
the garage in the driveway down the street. All the
neighbors are watching us because we look like Radius. But
Phil is killing us. We're dying. So we'll do a
Phil Fit workout. We'll go to my restaurant Three Natives.
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We'll get a healthy little luncheon afterwards, and then after
that we go hit the boat and have a wonderful
down the water. That's my perfect ideal Saturday morning. Um.
Are you more of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? Uh? Well,
I was the backup quarterback in college, so I can
understand being the armchair quarterback, but I'm definitely more of
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the athlete. I don't really enjoy watching football as much
as I do playing it or playing any sport, so
I'm definitely more of the athlete. But I will definitely
chir up a bad quarterback if I see it. Uh well,
keeps motivated. Um. You know, my number one dream and
goal in life is to be a dad, but also
coach high school football. So I want to grind. I
want to make money so I can be in a
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point in life where I can put you know, so
everything I'm done. I just want to be a dad,
coach football, help kids get to college, and be a
great husband. And so until you to that point, I'm
gonna work and grinding my butt off and then just
get to that point and live life after that. That
was eleven Places with Todd Cameron. We're about to take
a break, but when we get back, we're gonna be
answering your live call, so to an in, Hi, how
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are you going on? I'm newly married and as a
thank you, and we we were honeymooning in Florida. We
went to Jupiter. It's so nice over there. But I
was wondering if you had any advice as to how
we can keep this, like really when feeling alive, since
it's you know, brand new. But what would you suggest?
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So what I would suggest, one is always have a schedule,
like have one day night dedicated every week, and there's
no vans or buzz about like Dad's y'all's night, So
it forces you to get out of the house. Because
I think it's so easy to get comfortable. Oh, we'll
just sit inside and watch TV in order food again today.
Oh well, since you know it's so easy to get comfortable,
But I think you gotta keep going and doing different
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things and seeing different things. Um. I challenge y'all to
go take dance classes every week. Oh, go take dance
classes every week, maybe once or twice a week. You
know it's gonna create so much more intimacy. It's just
so much fun, you know, and it's like it's something
completely reality ordinary, some totally different to challenge for both
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of you guys, and you guys will learn how to
pick each other up. There's so many bye busses that
come from dancing. You have to both be vulnerable and
you'll see a different side of each other. And it's
could be a fun activity, you know, and then go
have a couple of cocks, goes out towards and that's
your night. That sounds amazing. I to do that. But
what's your favorite type of dance? Now? I need to know? Um, So,
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like me, I would love to learn how to do
like the mamba, like the ballroom dancing, all like that stuff.
I think that stuff is fun because there's so many
different types of dances to do within that, you know,
all that stuff like shot all that. So if you
could go out there like, okay, this week we're gonna
learn you know, the maringa or the bachata or you
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know all that stuff like I think ballroom, you know Latin,
all that stuff is a ton of fun, and so
I would I would definitely go for that. So I
love that We're totally gonna do that. Well you know
how it goes, and you need to tag me in
your stories and your posts. I can see you'll they're
doing it okay, all right, thank you? Bye? Bye? Hi, Hey,
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how are you? How are you good? Good? Nice to
meet you. Where are you calling from? I'm calling for
Indiana the Midwest. There we go. So obviously I've been
through breakups and everything, and there's always been something I've
been dying to know from a guy's perspective. Yeah, I'm
just curious how males process a breakup, like if they
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really think about the person, or if they actually get
upset at night, if they feel lonely, like any of that. Yeah,
we definitely feel all those. Um, we definitely feel all
those I still think about, you know, my past lead,
you know the people, I my recent my my recent relationship. Um,
I still you know, a nice and time he keeps
me on my damn what you know, what the heck happened?
Or why am I here? But like that's all part
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of growth and learning and growing and putting in your past.
But we definitely feel what y'all feel. You know, it's
not just the one sided thing, um, you know, and
it's it's kind of hard to understand because like for me,
when we break up and it's done done, like I
try to cut off all communication, you know, because I
don't want to go back, you know, and so it's
like you don't know what other person is feeling or
how they're reacting. But it's definitely, uh, we would definitely
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feel it on both ends. So you know, on a break,
every not alone, no one wants to be there. Yeah,
that's good to know you never know. Yeah, yeah, but
don't go back. Don't go back of course now perfect? Well,
thank you, yes, of course, have h what's up Becky? Hi? Tyler?
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How's it going good? How are you doing good? Where
are you calling from Los Angeles? There we go? Yes, yes, um,
okay Tyler. The question that I have for you to
better understand men is what are some insecurities men have
that women may not really think about or be aware of,
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or that it just are not obvious. Yeah. Um, I
would say, like a complement goes a long way with us.
You know, oh you don't have it look good or
you know you look handsome today, like like we'll be
through the roof, you know what I mean, we'll be
so happy, so sot. You know, I think little things
like that, you know, Um, I think finances can be
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an insecurity. I know a lot of guys you know
that you know, I'm friends with and even sometimes myself,
I have my own insecurities within it. But they don't
want to take the next step forward, you know, they
don't want to get engaged because they don't have the
money to get the right ring or to do this
or do that. So it holds them back. And I
think it's more of an it's an insecurity thing, and
it's something that I think it doesn't really make a knit,
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you know, the difference if you guys are really for
each other, you know, And so I think finance is
another big insecurity um. And then definitely, like you know,
being in shape, you know, I think men who are
out of shape definitely lose confidence, and men that are
in shape, you know, they they had that confidence. That's important.
I know, when I work out and I feel good
about myself, I feel better about put myself out there.
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But when I'm being a piece of crap and eaten
like crap, I feel like crap, you know what I mean.
I'm not confident myself to go put myself out there.
And so you can have those insecurities as well. So
I think those are the big three right there, got it?
So look good, feel good, make sure words of affirmation. Yeah,
all of it good, awesome, Thank you, Tyler, thank you. Hello,
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Hi Tyler, how are you? How you doing good? Good?
Nice to meet you. So my question for you is
what do you do when a man is bread crumbing? You?
Should you just leave? Or should you stick around because
you know that there's something there bread crumbing? You give me,
give me the definition of bread combing. Like, you know,
he shows up, he like a couple of texts here
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and there, and then he'll disappear, or he wants to
hang out through this weekend but not the next weekend.
And then when you do hang out, there's like good
chemistry between you guys, and you have an excellent time.
But then it's not like not fully committed. So I
guess you can say he's half committed. I guess that's
what bread crumbing is. Like. Yeah, so, so I don't
like bread crumbing. You know, if I'm if I'm talking
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to someone, I'm interested in their bread coming me, I'm
not gonna like it, you know, And uh, you know,
I think the best thing to do is is be
up front. So I'm like, you know, I'm not for this.
I'm not just gonna be someone you talked to here
and there and and then if they're not for it,
then that's not your person. You know, you can, you
can move on with peace and just keep going. But
I'm up front, I hate it. If you're gonna leave
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me along, you know, keep me. I'm good. I'm gonna
be up front with you to tell you how it is.
And that's it. So you know, I think it just
comes with having a conversation, because no one wants to
be bread crumb. You know, even though the chemistry is
there and you feel good about it, say something or else,
you're always gonna be like waiting and waiting and waiting,
and that's the worst feeling in the world, you know,
like hoping for the next text or the next call
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because like you enjoy seeing that person. But I have
a conversation, be up front, and if it goes your way, great,
and if it doesn't, it just leading to the next
best thing. Then you know that that wasn't the person
for you exactly. But it's tough. It's hard, it's hard
to have the conversation, it's hard to be forward and transparent.
But you will feel so much better and you will
get so much better at doing it once you do it,
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you know, great, very nice. Thanks, it will be beneficial
right than nice? Meet so Carly, Hey, guys, how's it
going good? Where are you calling from? I'm calling from Brooklyn. Brooklyn.
There we go, neighbors. Really, where do you live? Alright? Right?
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Like the Low Reside? Okay? Cool? Yeah, I live in Williamsburg.
There you go. So what's going on? Um? Well, so
I just recently moved to New York. Um from Arizona.
Thank you, I love it. Um. I was in a
three year relationship and finally ready to start dating again. UM.
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So I know you lived here and have experience with that.
So I was just wondering, like, how if you have
any advice on meeting guys in the city without being
on an app? Yeah, that would be on the app. Um,
I would do you have a group of friends like
girls yet? Yeah? Definitely gets brought up with the girls
and get out and just like you know, you're there's
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always people out, always people around. You know, if you
go to a bar, you're always gonna meet people. So
get with your friends and just just kind of go out,
start meeting and start finding like the spots that everyone
kind of hangs out at um you know. There there's
tons of bars and tons of restaurants that people are
all at hanging out. I think that's the best way.
Just I wouldn't go to a club because you're not
gonna be able to have a conversation with anybody. But
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go to go to go to you know, a fun
little bar. There's so many cool little spots in the
city that are very intimate but fun and got good people.
Go to Do West. I like that place, great place
to me people and and and you know, we go there.
It's fun. There's great people there all the time, and
just like but it's like not loud, not overbearing, you know,
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and it's it's a good time. So so go to
Do West. Just just go thing and I'll go tonight.
Well I appreciate you Colling. Yeah, thank you guys so much.
Hi Tyler, Hey, how are you good? How are you good?
Where you at? I'm in Greenville, South Carolina. I've been there. Yeah,
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I went there for a wedding last summer, last eummer night. Okay,
summer is hot. Yeah. Yeah. So I'm eight and single,
and I think it's getting a little frustrating and maybe
a little discouraging, UM, meeting guys I'm off the apps.
Not it's not for me, um. And the majority of
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my friends are married, so that's always fun going out
with a bunch of married people. So I wanted to
know if you had any insight on where to meet people,
UM and ways to initiate like conversation with someone that
aren't like having my married guy friend winging man me
and just kind of like actually have some success because
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it's through out here. Yeah, no, I get it. UM.
So I think you know, going out in groups is fun. UM.
I think, uh, just like kind of hitting like the
happening areas like not clubs, nothing like that, but like
like a chill bar or a fun dinner spot where
one gets drinks at, you know, like wherever it's like
good to socialize at. Um. I've been to some spots
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in Greevent where it's not good to socialize at, but
the spots better than I do. It's an amazing place.
But also like you're married, friends like those are like
you align with those people that they guarantee you. Like
the guys that they're married, you know they're married to
has friends that are kind of aligned with the same thing.
You know, maybe they do stuff together and you can join,
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like you know, go to their dinner parties or whatever,
and you never know who they may bring or who
you may meet. I know a lot of people that
met somebody through their married friends. You know, I would
never close out that because I think, you know, your
friends are your friends because you're align with the same
morals and values and things like that, and so usually
it's kind of all similar and whatnot. So I think,
you know, don't just the married friends yet, but definitely,
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like you go hang out with places, you know, with
your group of girls whatever, so you can meet other
groups of guys and whatnot. But then also like stick
to your married friends and maybe do dinners and whatnot,
have them bring guys and friends and whatnot. Yeah, awesome, Well,
thank you for Colin. Yeah, have a good day. You're
the same. Bye. What's up, Sarah, So what's going on? So? Um,
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this is probably different than the questions you've been getting,
But I've been in a long term relationship for like
six years, I'm married, um, all that stuff. So my
husband I were kind of talking about it the other night,
so I wanted to hear your take on it. What
do you think that men need differently, um, in a
long term relationships, like keep things exciting and like fun
and all that than different than women do and like
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kind of what do you think that is? Um? I
I think you have to keep things fun and light.
You know what I mean? And I mean you You've
been in a relationship longer than I have. But I'll
tell you this. One thing I've always dreamed of is
like I want to be able to to go out
with my wife and be able to do whatever we
want to do. Like so like if we're out a
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dance party, I wanna be able to dance with her.
I wanna be able to do this with her, like
we like, we both know we can do this. So
I challenge you I just did with someone else and
there in a long termpnationship earlier, to go take dance
classes with your husband once once a week or twice
a week for a month, and it's gonna show you
all a different side of each other, you know, And
it's gonna you're gonna you know, you're gonna have to
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be vulnerable. He's gonna have to really come out of
his comfort zone. You're gonna come out of years. You
have to be sexy in a different way. And and
so was he and it's gonna be funna goofy W
has some drinks afterwards, like and and see where that goes.
And you know, you guys go out to eat somewhere
and they're playing some music. You guys go dance together.
And like I'm telling you, dancing is the most fun
to have someone else, you know. I like that idea.
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And I'm a terrible dancer, so I probably need to
do that. Either way, You're gonna take some ball from
dancing classes, learn some other styles of dancing, you know.
And and so you can be any where, you can
do anything together. You can. You can have fun just
by yourselves, you know. And and that's the most important thing.
Is Like if you can kick kick over the coffee
table and make some room and put out some music
and dance and have a hell of at night, that's gonna,
it's gonna, it's gonna last, gonna do well. That is
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really good advice. I agree, And um, I'll have to
look into it. Hey, I want to see dance classes.
I need you to tag me in your dance classes
so I know happening review. I need you to come
back to me and tell me this was a great
idea or not. I can definitely do that, all right. Nice, Hey,
how are you good? How are you? I'm sad. Nice
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to meet you. Nice to meet you too. What's going on?
I'm wondering if you have any advice for people in
a relationship if their boyfriend's the jealous type. The jealous type, Oh,
that's tough. It's hard because that means he's dealing with
some insecurities of himself. You know. Yeah, he's gotta get
past and that's nothing you can do. You know, he's
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got to go through his own issues, in his own
battles to get through that. And if it's a guy
you love and stick around, he's gotta try and you know,
comfort him and help him work through those insecurities. But
you can't do things because they if you want to
go do something that makes you happy, to go do it,
if that makes him jealous, he's gotta work on that,
you know, Like what's he jealous about? Um? Just like
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if I go out without him or he's just like
always worried about what I'm doing. Yeah, he's got to
learn how to get over that. Because like if you
guys are gonna make it and last forever, like that's
what we all help and dream for. He's not gonna
be able to do that all the time. You know.
It's gonna drive him crazy, and then it's gonna more
so drive you crazy because you're not gonna be You're
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gonna feel guilty going out and having fun. So to
be honest, he's either gotta he's gotta work through those
insecurities himself, and you can try and be there for him,
but it's really a him issue, not a you issue
at all. You know, Jealousy is a killer, you know,
and hopefully he can get through it and all that,
but you know, be there for him as much as
much as you can. But I'm telling you, those are
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his issues and not your issues, and you have to
do what makes you happy and keep yourself happy. You
gotta go out with your girls, you gotta go have
a good time. You're not doing anything wrong, you know.
He's just got to get through his own issues. And
you know there's there may be something from his past
that's that's got him, you know, but his past is
not your fault, you know, So he's running to work
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through his own issues. And you know, it's up to
you for how much you want to stick around and
help work through it or not. Yeah, don't let it
beat your don't want to beat you up. Yeah, you know,
thank you, I appreciate it. Of course, nice to meet you.
Of course, keep having fun or goodbye to my boyfriend
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either one? Okay, thanks? How has your dating light change
since being on the Bachelor atte um? It's definitely a
lot more difficult because everyone you date is uh as
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broadcasted for everyone to see through paparazzis and tablets and
stuff like that, and then everyone wants to cast their
opinion on the person you're dating. So it's definitely much
more difficult, and not more so for my yourself. I
just feel bad for the person I'm with because but
you know, it could be a tough crowd and they
can there can be a lot of backlash towards that person.
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Something's affected my past relationship. But uh, it's also the
doors a lot to me, me meaning a lot of
people as well, So it's got it's pluses of negatives
for sure. Is it harder to find a more genuine
connection since being in the spotlight? Do men prefer a
popular woman. Do you guys take into consideration the number
of social media followers a girl has. Um, If a
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guy is taking into consideration the number of social media
followers a girl has, he's an idiot. Um. That has
nothing to do with the person you're talking to. And uh,
very shallow and immature. So if a guy is doing that,
that's a red flag. Um. Do men prefer a popular woman? No?
I think, you know, I think being in this limelight
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and popular world, like, it's it's it's profession to have
those that aren't popular and those that are popular. You know,
it's all about how it's it's about the connection, about
who the person is. Um. But is it harder to
find a more genuine connection since being in the spotlight?
Yes and no, Um, you know you definitely are more
careful and more worried about you know, their intentions and that.
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But it's, uh, it's it's I'd say it's a little
bit harder. How many dms do you get from women
each day? Do you look at all your d ms? Like,
there's a lot of d ms, a lot of d
ms from from from women. Uh do I look at
all of them? I look at some some of them
crack me up. Some of them keep me posting what's
going on? Um? Or if I want to get a
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reaction of something stupid I posted on social media, see
what they're saying, I'll check it out. But that's pretty
much it. Um. Should woman shoot the shot and the
guy's d M? Yeah, shoot your shot? Um, DM slotting
is not too aggressive. The next question is, are slotting
if the dems aggresive or attractive? It's attractive, it's attractive,
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go for it. Shoot your shot. Um. If you're into somebody,
go for it. You know, men and women need to
be shooting shots. Everyone needs to be shooting shots and
going for it. Uh So women shoot away. We love it.
It's hot, it's amazing. If a DM does work, what
type of message catches your eye? Come with some humor.
I love humor. I love you know, someone that can
(25:38):
say something funny or or throw me off a little bit.
So definitely go for that, um and let's do one more.
Social media can be tough. Do guys compare themselves to
other guys the way girls do? I believe, Yeah, I
believe a lot of guys do compare you know, you know,
it's it's the goal keeping up of the Jones deal.
You know, we all gonna you know, live the life.
(26:02):
And you know, I follow big entrepreneurs and you know,
people that I look up to and whatnot, and I'm like, damn,
I got this house, but he's got these many houses.
You know, which is which is easy to do, but
it's it's very harmful to due to yourself as well.
So uh, you know, don't compare yourself to anybody. You
are your best owned person. And if you compare yourself,
(26:23):
you're gonna steal the joy of your life away. So
no more comparing. Love yourself and be good with yourself.
That's all I got for you. Thank you guys for
having me. I talked a lot about dancing on the
very time. I want to go dance because dancing changed
me and made me so you know, vulnerable. Help me
my vulnerability and put myself out there. Go out there
and watch The Real Dirty Dancing on Tuesday nights. You
(26:45):
can see how my story has changed from dancing and
see the people around me how dancing has made them feel,
you know, getting intimate, connecting themselves again. Dancing can do
so much, So check out The Real Dirty Dancing Tuesday nights.
Nine pm Eastern Time in West Coast best time. I
don't know how all those times work, but yeah, check
it out. It's amazing show, a lot of fun and
(27:05):
we all compete to see who's the best Johnny and
the best baby, So tune in. Thanks for listening to
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