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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is How Men Think with growths Like and Gavin
de grab and I Hear Radio podcast. Welcome to another
episode of How Men Think. My name is Brooks Like
and this is a show where we dive into the
mind of a man and we're an open book to
share the thoughts, emotions, feelings, aspirations of a male of
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the male mindset. And we do that to serve the community.
So we always love getting questions from our community and
then we try and bring on high level people to
answer those questions. Questions about life, questions about confidence, fatherhood, marriage, relationship, career,
all that kind of stuff. And so we have many
of those questions today and we have a special guest
with us today. Um He was exposed to the TV
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and film industry at a very young age. In the
mid nineties. He film debut in My Family and he
also had TV roles on Hyperion, Bathe, Lifetimes, The Client List,
Hawaii five Oh. But everybody probably knows him. He's most
well known for his role in high school musical as
Coach Bolton. He is a husband, he is a father
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of three, and he's our very special co host today,
Mr Bart Johnson. Welcome to the show. Ah that's that
was a great introm And I feel kind of smart now,
and uh, I feel high level. So thanks man, And
yeah it's uh, it's been a it's been a good run.
But man, I'll tell you that one stuck. Yeah, that one.
And I love that. I love that you're coming to us.
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I wish our our listeners could see that Coach Bolton
is coming to us live from his home gym right now. Actually,
I got funny enough. I do have a rack basketball's
that looks exactly like the one in the movies. Yeah. Uh,
there's a couple of like props you could say that
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are you know, hangovers from Actually you know what now
I think about it? What you got? What you got?
He's coach, you know. It's just I mean I got
you know, I got my I got my East High hoodies.
Yes here, that's so that's my life. I just can't
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escape it. But I don't. I don't try that hard either.
So so answer this as honestly as you possibly can
without getting arrested. How much stuff do you take from
on set? Things of just you know, you know, it's
it's funny. A lot of people don't care, but I
don't know I'm I'm a little more nostalgic, I guess
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or something. I'm I'm a softie, So I lets to
start look around. I'm like, I know this stuff, this
is gonna be epic. So I was taking pictures. Actually,
when we did the first one, we didn't really have
like cell phones. Um, you know, like now there's cell
phones on sets and everybody's reporting to everything. Back then,
like when we did the first one, that wasn't really
you know, I was fourteen years ago, man, it wasn't
very very popular. So I was using my laptop and
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I've got like all this video behind the scenes of
the cast, like interviewing people and stuff that's like on
my laptop, which it's probably it's probably valuable at this point.
It's probably gold, right, it's probably gold. I'm sure it
is to something to through a certain generation. So during COVID,
we do all of these podcasts, the how Man Thing
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podcast via zoom because we can't personally see everybody, we
can't go to the studio. Everything shuts down obviously, so
we do the how Man Think podcast via zoom. And
I'm always like curious and entertained when I see what
background people have where they're where they're comfortable, where they're sitting,
where they're at. Are they traveling somewhere that they do
an airbnb somewhere? Are they home? But you are coming
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from your your home gym there, which I'm just a
fan of. I love that You've got the heavy bag,
you got the what's the little the wrap, the punch,
the feedbag, feedbag. Yeah, I got the speedbag, Get the
heavy bag, get a surfboard in there. Uh, tell me,
because I love home gyms, tell me a little bit
about your home gym. Why you built it? Well, Um,
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I've done cross fit for a two years and I
kind of fell in love with some of the like
Olympic lifts and and that kind of stuff, and and
and then that got me into mobility, which the gym
never did. You know, I was like a total gym
right guy, just kind of did the you know, the
bro splits and all that kind of stuff. But then
when I started doing cross it was like, oh man,
my mind opened up to this whole uh kind of
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a new idea of you know, body weight fitness and
Olympic lifting and compound lifts and that kind of stuff,
And my body felt so much better and I felt younger,
and I felt more like an athlete, and I hurt
my back and my neck in the gym so many times.
And then when I started, luckily, I was at a
good crossbit box, which is you know, that's kind of debatable,
I guess is when people are in a bad spot,
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it can be dangerous. But it was in a good
spot that got good training. Started doing dead lifts and
back squats and that kind of stuff that made your
body really strong, and I haven't had an injury since
like seven years later. It's amazing. Um, I do it
every day. I love it. I was as a professional
athlete would train, but now I still trained as much
more than I ever did, And that you're right, Um,
I love that you train at home, especially now. I
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always encourage people like have some sort of at least
a minimal I get the idea of wanting to go
to a gym for community and inspiration and stuff like that,
but it's also super convenient. You're married, you have three kids,
you know, working dad, Like, it's also super convenient just
to head out to the graduate hit an hour of
something if you have it right there. So um, dude,
I'm gonna get together and throw down. Yeah, let's do it, man,
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let's do it. You know, honestly, Brooks, I don't think
enough people are talking about during COVID, like to take
care of your body, get enough sleep, you put better
food in your body, you know, like we've got to
be taking care of ourselves and build that immune system.
And I don't know why, you know, a lot more
people aren't talking about this. Yeah, I don't know either, man.
It's unfortunately health gets pushed down the totem pole. And
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I assume so even more when people get married and
have kids, you know, they sacrifice their own health for it.
But you need to be around. You want to be
able to lift grandkids and great grandkids. You need to
be around. I did a post the other day on
my Instagram talking how everybody, regardless of your twenty years
old or eighty years old, should dead left right right.
If you're an eighty year old grandpa, I want to
be able to pick band over and pick my grandkid
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off the ground and pick them up. That's essentially and right,
you know what I mean. So I think there's so
much I love that you're into it. When did you
find fitness? Like did you just find it recently. You
said you started doing CrossFit seven years ago, but has
it always been a part of your life. Uh No,
not at all. When I was a little tiny guy
in Uh yeah, I joke about this because in high school, Um,
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I was like punked around a lot. I was like
a hundred pounds in high school and bullied quite a bit.
Like like I mean, I got like a bunch of
stories like just getting punched in the face by cowboys
and rednecks and the wrestling team and the rodeo team,
and oh man, I could go on like good, good times,
a lot of character building. Man, I was blessed. And
then uh and then I go on to college that
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I gained like eighty pounds and I grew four more
inches and and then again into acting and then I
play the bullies on TV. And now everybody says, oh,
I know I knew guys like you in high school. Man,
Now trust me, that was not me. That was not me.
I was the guy getting a hit. So there's just
there's just no justice, you know. But I got into
it much later in life. I just I don't know,
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I don't I don't know why it wasn't I got
maybe because it was small and or the sports I
was doing weren't really into I was playing soccer and scheme,
so it's not like a big wait gym sports necessarily.
How have you found how have you found discovering this
passion for like fitness and health. How have you found
that that's impacted your life as a in career wise?
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But then also like obviously it's allowed you to play
certain roles as a bully, right, It's like being a
strong man allows you to pay a bully. But but
what about just in your overall general life? How have
you found that how have you prioritized health, especially with
a wife and three kids and a job, Like, I
don't know, just what's what's your dance with I'm always
curious to see how people what their relationship is with
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with physical fitness and health. Yeah. Well, I'm really a
really strong belief that it's got to be a habit
and it's got to be a routine. And from nine
of us that means morning. It's got to be a
part of your morning routine. Otherwise it's just like if
I don't do in the morning, it's like, you know,
probably chance I won't do it at all during the day.
It just just too complicated during the day. So I
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always encourage people find a routine, find system that works.
Now for me, like I get up real early with
my kids to do the kind of the the uh
the routine of making breakfast and taking multiple shifts, drives
to school to drop off kids. But my last kid,
um goes to Burbank High School, and uh, when I
dropped him off, I'm a block away from my gym,
so I can literally go. You know, I'm dressed, I'm
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ready to go. I've taken on my you know, you
know morning routine, you know waters and you know nutrition.
So I go drop him off and go straight to
the gym. And if it's not a habit, and if
it's not like that, forget about it. Yeah, So that's
for me, that's the only way. Like you you have
a you have a you must have a routine, right,
if you're consistent, you have Yeah. And and morning is
the best time. Um, we would train for support for
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professional hockey, we would train in the morning. That was
the main practice and workout time. Also, just from a
from a scientific standpoint, you have the highest amount of
testerone testosterone present in your body early in the morning,
and as it goes on, your testosterone and your metabolism
slowed down as the day progresses. So if you're to
workout in the morning, you will get the maximum benefit
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possible from that workout because your body is rested, you
slept last night, you're rested, you have the highest testosterone levels,
your metabolic rate as as high as it can be
right there, so you're getting the best benefits of working
out in the morning. Side, I'm always prioritized in the
work in the morning. Before I came on this call
with you right now, took my dog for a three
and a half mile trail run just out the mountains
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here in Utah. Do this all and then I'll go
into the gym here around noon or so a little
afternoon go do afternoon workout. But yeah, a big part
of my life, and I find it also makes me
more creative. I find when I work out in the morning,
I'm I got more energy, I'm more creative, I'm more
inspired mentally, I'm sharper, and I actually have my best
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ideas and solve my biggest problems when working out without
even paying attention to them. Right, No, it does. It
fires off so much good stuff, and there's so much
science and chemicals and all you know, all the all
the good good stuff. You're fired off now if I
if I don't work out, I have a hard time
kind of getting into a creative space or or performing
at my best afterwards. Like I feel like like now
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I've I've gone so far as to say, like what
what's the most important part of my life? What are
the most important goals or or the hardest um things
I'm trying to accomplish, And let me just schedule those
to follow my gym workout. Because I come out to
the gym, Man, I feel great. I'm like I'm on fire.
I've got a great attitude, you know, I'm I'm more passionate,
more positive, like I'm ready to go. So I'm totally
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addictive to that. I love what you're saying there because
I'm actually on this journey myself. If I'm working on something,
I'm trying to dedicate my best energy to the things
that are most important in my life. Yes, and I'm
paying attention to that right now. And so that's foundly,
that's connection. That's people like instead of just waking up
and doing emails and doing work and doing whatever, and
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then at like five o'clock, then trying to fit in
fitness and then trying to fit in playtime with your
kids or something. Right when like you're mentally drained, you're tired,
Like now you're giving your you know, the what's left
over in your talk that are right important in your life.
So i'm i'm I'm even like playing around with lifestyle
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optimization with how can my morning when my best energy
my morning and early afternoon, my best energy be committed
to the things that are most important in my life,
like health and fitness, like connection with my dog, the
creative development stuff that I'm working on, and also um
friends and people in that time as well. You know, well,
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you know, you bring up something that's the really interesting
is is that you know, a lot of us are
fortunate enough to be able to control our schedule, and
then sometimes we're not. And most parents, I think, you know,
you think about your routine, like the kids go off
and they get spent during the day. You go to
work and you get spent during the day, and now
you're showing up to connect with the people that matter
the most of your life. When you're done, you're spent,
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and it's like that. Now that's now you're talking about
master level. You gotta you gotta come up with a
new game, a new strategy. How could you be your
absolute best for the people that matter the absolute most
when you're when you're done. So we have a list
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of questions that listeners sent in and stuff that they
want to ask. You want to get your expertise. All right,
I love flattered people said questions and thanks guys. Here's one.
What are the three to five most important things in
your life right now? You know, just a piggyback of
the conversation we're having, this question is what are the
three to five most important things in your life at
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this moment? Oh jeez, well, I guess you know. The
easy answer, without even having to think about is is
uh it all wrap arounds. It wraps around my family.
So um my family, uh my my nuclear family, the
ones that live under my roof. Uh. You know, I'm
blessed to have an incredible wife that I've been married
too for coming up on twenty one yeyears, which in
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Hollywood that's like four years. I know, that's like it's crazy.
And then three kids, all redheads, which is like, you know,
that's a whole another challenge, A bunch of firecrackers running
around here. Um, and so I got those guys, I've
got a lot of uh, I got a lot of
other you know, siblings, and we got the Johnson is
a big FAM's a big clan. Then the Livelies are
a huge clan. So I've got a lot of uh,
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a lot of depth and a lot of love and
a lot of real important stuff. So um, that's I mean,
that's first and foremost. UM, I spent you know, it's
funny Brooks is. Um you know, I played. I played
the coach. Everybody calls me coach. So that went on
for five years. But spend fourteen years of my life.
Now I walked down the street, people roll down the window,
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Hey coach, I'm you know what, you know, what's up? Wildcats?
You know whatever. But um, also, uh, let's see, fourteen
years ago I started coaching soccer. So I've coached all
of my kids soccer teams every year, all three of them, uh,
since they turned five. So so i'll because it's all
I do with my time. So I spent a lot
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of time coaching. So now when I walk down the street,
someone else, hey coach, I'm like, I have to go, Okay,
is this one of my one of my one of
my boys, one of my one of my girls, when
of my you know, someone from one of my teams
or is it you know, one of my wildcats or
and really it's all the same, you know, I treat
them all the same. And and I love my church.
But it's like my life has become a coach. Like
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I'm a coach, man, that's just what I do. And
I've I've kind of realized these last couple of years
that like, I really like that. Man, I like that. Um,
I like because I've always had this this uh this
take on coaching Brooks is that and I know you
know this as an athlete is like a team sport
is just a wealth of opportunity and life lessons for
these kids. Man. But here's the challenge. Most coaches are
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not taking advantage of that opportunity. So if if you're
on a team like Okay, You're gonna learn a lot
about life, You're gonna learn a lot about relationships, You're
gonna learn a lot about yourself being on a team sport.
But man, if you have a coach that's around that
can grab and seize onto all these opportunities and say, guys, listen, listen,
you know how you feel right now, Well, we're gonna
overcome this field you know whatever, you know, whatever life
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challenging that without getting into you know, too many specifics,
Like there's unbelievable countless amount of opportunities if the coach
will just point them out and say, look at look
at this opportunity to grow. Look, we're gonna overcome this challenge. Like, guys,
this is like life. You're not gonna win all the time,
but you can still enjoy the game without winning all
the time, you know, like all these different opportunities. So
I get I get hyped on that, Like I I
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find that incredibly fulfilling. And then I could now learn
these skills I can apply to my own kids at
home and different tuoty So now they're learning. I get
to be an influence on like a whole variety of
kids in the community, and it's just like, it's unbelievably fulfilling.
So now when people say to me, what's the more
most important to your life? Are like, you know, the
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best things in life are free, you know. I started
thinking about that kind of stuff and I'm like, man,
being having a kid has has opened the door to
service to me and and what I've done now that
kids probably not because how do you know, But then
you start spending this time as a coach and serving
the community and serving these people, and then you're you know,
you're getting rewarded by the parents and they're you know,
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they're so kind and so sweet to you. But that's
that's you know, that's just gravy. The real meat of
it is like these kids, like seeing these kids being
affected by the way you're you're touching your lives and
like it's just I've just I've absolutely loved it. It's
it's it's incredibly fulfilling and definitely the most important part
of my life with with my pome family. Dude, you
got me so fired up. You want me so my
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one of my best friends, Christie Sowan, plays on this
soccert They have an adult league soccer team called the
Salmon Rolls and they've won the league championship twice and
she always gets me to try and play. She's like, Brooks,
come play with the Samuel in a viewer just like
watching you guys play, and like, um, it's fun to
be a spectator because my whole life I've played. But
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listen to you talk here, coach, you got me fired up.
I'm thinking I might get the famine roles, play some soccer.
I might get you come in as a guest coach,
you know, and UM, so you might have just come
in there. Let's do it. Um, But I also want
to give you a compliment. I think you're ahead of
your time. Something that's going on right now in professional
sports is the coaching and professional sports and professional hockey
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that I've seen anyway. Um, they're starting to coach the person,
not the player. So they're spending so much more time
and resources on developing characteristics of the human being. Meanwhile
also developing their physical talents and abilities, because what they
would see is you'd see these amazingly talented athletes, these
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guys with world class skills and talents that all of
a sudden would forget how to use them, or they
would fail at high stress, high pressure moments. And it
was it was the study of why is this happening?
Why is this person so equipped with these physical abilities
that all of a sudden freeze and they can't use them.
Is because there's some sort of character flaw, there's some
sort of lack of confidence or belief in themselves or
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lack of resilience or whatever it is, or trust in
a teammate. And so they've really started to work with
athletes off the ice, away from the rink, sports psychologists, therapists,
anybody to help them develop and become better young men
and women, and that alone has transferred into more preferensive
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proficiency in their athletic performance. So I love the fact
that you're saying there's opportunities everywhere for an invested coach
to really shape and sculpt these young minds and these
attitudes and perspectives that alone will make them better soccer players. Yes, yeah,
I love that. Man. That's that's super interesting, and it's
you're a hundred percent right on your perspective. Like I've
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seen that, I know, Like that really resonates with me
because you see the mental game on even the best
of athletes, like the very best you know you have,
you know, sometimes you have like one to three, like
real key players that really can affect the whole team. Um,
and you see them sometimes they just they get in
their their own head and even at a young age,
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these young kids. I mean over time, like ten, eleven,
twelve years old, even they struggle with this mental game
and they feel the pressure of the team and they
you know, they they they're really hard on themselves and
they make it really personally. It's like, oh, man, so
many opportunities to build that strong mental game. I love it. Man,
you're a modern day coach. That's why you're the coach.
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I love it. I love it. Here. Okay, here's one.
Here's one from a listener. Um Bart, what is the
best parenting advice you could give to parents during COVID.
Oh that's a good one. Um. You know, I really
feel like, uh, you know, I get a lot of people,
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um on my I've been doing Instagram lives and I've
been doing this We're all in this together Tuesday where
it's like I'm dedicated to reaching out to my wildcats, Like, hey, look,
I know I got I allow wildcats out there. You
need something for me here I am. I'm here to serve.
I mean, you know, you want to ask me questions? Okay,
you probably don't, you probably you know, Usually they're like I
I gotta tell us some you know, insights on the movies. Whatever. Okay, sure,
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whatever you want. I'm I'm just here to entertain to
like show you that I care about you, I love you,
like let's get through this time and everything else. At
the same time, there's people out there that are hungry
or maybe they're gonna look at this opportunity to grow,
and I think the um you know, a lot of
people are send this message of like if you're not
growing during this pandemic, if you're not stepping up your
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game problem, And it's like, okay, yeah, not everybody's in
that position, though. Some people are just trying to survive. Man,
So it's like you gotta reckons. There's a whole variety
of people in a variety of different positions. But some
people that is what I tell my tell my people.
I say, guys, listen, we're wildcats. Now we've got that
strong mental game. We gotta look for opportunities, Like let's
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let's look for opportunities if it's just an opportunity to
like dig out our our sense of gratitude. Like let's
think about, man, we used to go to our friend's
house anytime we want it without any sort of cost
involved or risk. We used to go to the store
and go to several of and a by slurpee and
like not think anything of it, like the small, tiny
little things like can we reevaluate can we like re
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envision those things as like gifts instead of just like nonsense,
just no wise or whatever, Like can we look at
those and say, man, those are those are gifts? Man,
those are like we have the ability to through all
these little things with no thought involved. And there, let's
maybe we can fill up our sense of gratitude. Man,
maybe we could dig deep and say, look, we're not
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only way alive and above ground and surviving, but like
we get to do we get to go to the
bar anytime we want, you know, like that's amazing, that's amazing.
And then for some of us, like, hey, let's let's
work on that mental game. Man, let's work. We got
that strong mental game, let's let's exercise it. Let's get stronger.
And and uh and this so I tell people, is
uh uh this great quote, this great quote that I
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heard from my dad, and it was stand guard the
portal full of your mind. You didn't coin the phrase,
he just told me the phrase standard the portal of
your mind. And I love that. And it's like, okay,
what does that? What does that mean? Stay and guard
the portal of your mind? Okay, well you you stand guard.
It's it's your job. You decide what goes in your
mind and what stays in them. You let fear go in.
You're gonna let doubt, you know, let insecurities, you let negativity.
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Hey man, that's up to you. You stay and guard
and if it sneaks in, it's your job to get
it out. So like, let's stay positive, Let's stay like,
let's stay you only let things in your mind that
are proactive, so uh or empowering you know, that are
gonna empower you. And that's like to me, that's that's
the goal. And now I don't even remember the original questions.
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I love what you're saying. So dude, you got me
fired up, Like you have me so fired up. I'm like,
what did this guy do this morning that he's just
peak energy right now at the time of this phone call.
But you've got me You could be an inspiration so speaker,
you already aren't in so many ways, but like you
could do a tour on it, because you've got me
fired up in ten minutes that I've talked to you.
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But so for you and I, because I believe I'm
very good at standing guard the portal of my mind
as well, and you are as well. For you and I,
maybe it comes natural, Maybe we've developed it over time.
Your father taught you about it. What about for somebody
that's just hearing this, What about for somebody's in our
community that's listening to saying I'm overwhelmed with with like
struggle and insecurity and fear on COVID and like uncertainty
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in my life, Like all of this is consuming my mind.
Because that's really that's happening to a lot of people.
A lot of people are very anxious right now. How
can we kind of, step by step in a little
way give them something like stand guard the portal of
your mind. But what else can we teach them or
tell them to do right now to get some control back. Yeah,
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that's a it's a great question, because you're right, everybody's
in a different place on different levels and has different
variety of challenges and things like that. I think gratitude
is the key man. Gratitude is the key. Um. We
are in control of what we focus on, we're on,
We're in control of what we look at where we
where we put our eyes, where we put our focus
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or focus goes energy flows. You know what are we
gonna stare at what? Well? You are gonna look at
our family? Are we gonna look at what's missing? A
We're gonna look at our you know, our ore dwindling
bank account. We're gonna look at like hey, I'm above ground,
I'm standing you know, I'm standing there. I'm in control.
I can I make the choices in my life. Were
in a free country where we can go do whatever
we want to do. Like, there's so many things to
be grateful for, and honestly, I think it's a wonderful
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time to reevaluate family and friends. Those things are those
are the things that won't fail you, you know. I mean,
sure you'll have challenges and and and uh it might
feel like fail sious at times, but man, if you
can reevaluate like the fact that you have a family,
or like if you have damage relationships, go fix those relationships,
like you know, nurture them, you know, um grow them,
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and you know if they're there and they're weak, you know, Brooks,
I know talking to an athlete, like I know you
get this, but I love the analogy of the gym
because it's so visual and it's like, okay, you walk
in the gym and your biceps week, what are you
gonna do a bunch of these well, okay, yeah, you're
a bunch of those is gonna grow. You put some
pressure on there, you make it hard, you make it
difficult to pull that on. Okay, now you're gonna have
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a lot more growth. So how off to do that
every stinking day? Man? You can't. You don't work out
once a month or once a year. Every day work
on that little muscle. So if you have a little
if you have a tiny little bit of gratitude, that's okay.
Just recognize what you're at. If you have a tiny
little bit of effort of like controlling my my always
go to negative, always go to insecurities, always go to
things that make me feel like junk. Okay, that's okay.
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Just work that muscle. Man, Let's start working in that muscle.
What can you do a little more focus? Hey, here's
an idea, here's an do you can do right now.
Pull out a book, a little little writing tablet, get
a pen, start a timer, and no joke, just like
as an exercise, hit ten minutes and don't stop writing
right ten minutes of everything you're grateful for, and try
to come up with stuff you haven't thought out of
and challenge yourself and say like, okay, then here's something
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I haven't thought of it it in a few years. You
know what, here's another idea, and you write this whole
thing and just like you know, stream of conscious you
let your let your mind like flow. Maybe do it
with a friend that you trust, and then you can
compare notes like oh, that's a good idea. You know
what I'm gonna do. And that's like okay, now you're
controlling your mind. Now, maybe this visceral sort of you
know idea of directing your focus is maybe a little
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hard to comprehend. So how do we how do a
real practical purpose? There's an idea. Just write it down, man,
let your mind go there. Now, all of a sudden,
you're writing, you're writing, your your mind's going there, your focus,
you're reading. So there's all these different senses that are
being engaged and it's like boom, now you're controlling your focus.
I love it. I love gratitude. I love that you
went to gratitude. Um because it's it's a big part
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of my life. And when I I kind of have
a couple of pillars in my life. And one of
the pillars in my life that when I noticed that
my when I start feeling overwhelmed or angry or like
anxious or something, the first thing that dissipates in my
life is my gratitude. Right, That's the first thing that
dissipates where I'm like, wow, I I still have love
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present in my life. I still have like these other
characteristics present my life, but like gratitude is not president
of my life. And you know what, when I'm actually
most grateful, I'm actually my most grateful self during and
after workouts. I used I used to have this thing
where when I work out at Have you ever been
to Brick CrossFit in West Hollywood. Yeah, So outside of
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Brick there was this big dumpster and I had this
thing where this one summer I was training there for
to play hockey, and every day that I came out
of there, if I ever saw a homeless person like
culling through the dumpster, I would give them the top
bill in my wallet, whatever it was where there was
a twenty, whether it was a hundred, whether it was
a one five, whatever it was, that was my thing
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because I walked out of the gym just feeling immense gratitude,
and I'd see this person like, I want to give
them the top bill, and I wouldn't even look at it.
I just give it to them. I love that. I
feel so alive and so gratitude is so important in
my life and keeping it a focus and you, like
you said, actively working on it, getting touches on it
daily to strengthen that muscle, and then it will become
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more and more prominent. And likewise, it's extremely hard to
hang out and be friends with somebody who is not grateful,
right because everything album it is. I honestly I struggle
with that because I've got some friends, I've got a
friend circle that I honor and cherish and so grateful
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for these guys. But not all of them are really positive,
you know, some of them are really kind of bad
at it, And I'm like, oh man, not not not that.
I mean collectively, really solid characters and really good people.
So I feel really good about that aspect, you know,
But I think you have to to your point, you
have to be cognisation of that you have to be
aware of that. Yeah, okay, here's another question for you, buddy.
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I really like this one. So um, I don't know
if you can get your brain there. Actually you probably would.
This is a little vacation for your brain right here. Okay,
all right, So, um, you have one day completely to yourself.
So no obligations to your wife, no obligations your kids, dogs, responsibility, work,
anything like that. You have no obligations today. You have
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one day. What do you do? How do you spend
your day? Whosh? Man? Well is it? I mean, is
it cheating to say I would go with my kids?
Like I? Uh? This last summer we spent a month
in coast Rica surfing and where was my invite bar
to come on down? I'm trying to do this. It
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was my goal in life to figure out how to
go for one month with my kids to somewhere every
summer and just spend a month in a different country
so you kind of get a little you know, experience
of the world, and you know what, way more affordable
than people think it is. I mean, it sounds crazy,
but you start doing the math, it's totally doable. Um.
Luckily I have a job that's that allows me to
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you know, the flexibility on that too. So uh. But man,
I'll tell you, waking up in the morning on a
on I was like a tropical beach somewhere where people
are speaking of foreign language. It's foreign food. Uh, it's beautiful,
it's warm water, there's an amazing surf, and you're there
with your kids, and I see, Man, I'll tell you,
there's this one image I still have burned in my
mind of sitting on a big thing that we love
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is watching the sunset in the water. So I just
love it. And I remember watching one of my kids
catch this wave right next to me, and he took
off on the wave and he just like ripped underneath
this this lip and it was like the first time
I saw him really carve away. And I was like,
that's it, that's it, this moment right here, my gosh.
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And and I do this thing with my kids and
I can't believe they let me do this. But when
like the sunsetting got you know, everyone wants to maybe
once or twice in summer else, guy's, guys, gather, look
at this moment, look at this. Let's just stop. Let's
just stop right now, just like do me. Favorite I
want you to remember this all summer, and then they
end up we we can recount the once in the
last several years. I'm like, look at this moment where
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we're having around, like how special this Like we're together,
we're in this really cool place we're having like isn't
this an amazing moment? And then all well and they
do and they stop and they look around like yeah,
this this pretty epic and they're just like just like, oh,
fills me up, it feels me. It's amazing. It's amazing, dude.
I love I love that. The question was what would
you do with your day if you had no obligations?
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You said, and then you told the family story of
going to Costa Rica, Like it just it just resent
how much you I love you, man, I love you.
I love how much you love your family and how
how it's You're not just saying family is important, but
like you can see it. Our listeners can't see it,
but I can see it in your eyes. I can
see it in your body. You're not sitting in a chair,
You're moving all around the room. Your arms are going
like I just love I love that you love the
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family and that you build your life like that, UM,
and I have too. I have two friends, Garrett and
Jessica g that are very much like you, very much
involved in their kids lives, and they do something really
cool with their kids. At the end of every day
when they have us sit around and have a supper together, UM,
they'll ask their kids what was your favorite part of today?
You know, and then then the kid has a chance
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to say, oh, dad, do you remember that time when
we we caught that wave together and we did that
was my favorite part of the day. And it's just
a daily little touch on gratitude and you do it
with the sunsets with your kids stuff like like I
just I love I love hearing how families spend time
together and how you create that family bond between father
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uh and kids, his son or daughter, whatever it is.
So I commend you man. I Also I also have
been thinking about this. Give me your thoughts on this
because you touched on it. I've been thinking about one
month a year, spending it in a new country every year,
so that for one month a year, like say I
was in Hawaii, I could scuba dive every day, so
it was in Costa Rica, I could surf every day.
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Say I was in Switzerland like a downhill ski every day.
So if I did this, even if you did this
for a decade, you would get so proficient at so
many different skills. Yes, you know what I mean immersion, man, Yes,
I think it's a great idea and you can work
on the language of whatever country you're in. It's it's unbelievable.
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I think it's a I think it's I mean, hey, man,
if you have the ability to do it, I'd say
jump on it. Have you done anything else like that
other than Costa Rica for a month? If you done
anything else for a month of real immersion with your
kids and families? We did well. Probably my favorite was
we did a road trip through Italy for a month
and that where that was incredible. That was incredible. We started, uh,
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we started up north and like Dolomite Mountains and we
went all the way down to the Mfi coast and like,
oh man, it was yeah. We saw you know, Venice
and Rome and Tuittera and like you know, like so
many different makes places and like the kids got to see.
You know. The thing is, if you're there long enough,
like we went to this little town Nazza and Chiquitarts
probably my favorite town, one of my favorites and all
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of it. Small town and the kids play soccer on
the beach there. So my wife and I were, you know,
like trying to get our kids to get involved and
start speaking Italian with the locals. And so sure enough,
over time we were there long enough. Like the local
little I'm talking of young kids, you know, Tan Lemon twelve,
they don't play soccer with the tourists. You know, they're got,
they're they're they're not a you know, they're not a
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side show. They're like, this is their life. And so
but we were there long enough, they're like, okay, you
guys can come play. And so my kids would go play,
and my wife and I would eat dinner, the sun
setting over the ocean, the waves to come at the
boats and everything, and I'm like I'm watching them. I'm
watching my kids start to yell at words in Italian.
I'm like, oh my gosh, great moment. I was amazing
this kid, Brando. I still remember, like everybody, Sean Duca,
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remember all these kids that are from this little town.
Is as you were able to pull like some some
coaching a couple of minut it's a coaching over there kids.
You know. Unfortunately my Italian stinks. As much as I
would like to be able to do that, man, I'm
working on it though, Dude, I love it. I'm immerged
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I I'd love to Like I'm gonna I'm gonna steal
your idea there taking like when I have kids, taking
them for a month somewhere somewhere, like I love different languages,
different cultures, somewhere where you're just completely out of your
comfort zone, out of your element. I love that you
do that, and then you please do and let's let's
stay in touch and talk about that. For me, I
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found that if you could do it on a coastal
city is the best because they if you're trying to
do your work and trying to do some other stuff,
it's like those kids are like being on the then
you don't, you know, as opposed to like being in
tuscany where. It's like, okay, I gotta kind of entertain
these kids. Yeah, um, I love it, brother, We're gonna
find friends. I'm gonna apply myself for adoption into the
Johnson family. So come on over, man, would love to
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have you. We got Canadians in my family. You do, Yeah,
you do. Yeah, all right, that's right, that's right. Croud
Canadian from Vancouver. Yeah, I'm I'm from Saskatchewan. I'm I'm
right above North Dakota. The people out on the you know,
we kind of look at the people in Toronto and
the people in Vancouver. They're kind of like they feel
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like they're above us because we live in the plans.
Oh really, Oh, I don't know about that stuff. I
don't know about the dynamics. I know we go out
and visit Ryan when he's doing Deadpool and stay in
Vancouver kind of check it out and have gotten to
know it a little bit. But it's it's been great, man,
it's been awesome. He's an awesome tour guy. I've never
met him, but telling I said, hi, my fellow Canadian.
Much love. Yeah. Absolutely. Here's another question for you. This
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is a really interesting question. Did I've never been asked this,
but I'm gonna ask it to you. Um, what three
words would you tell your eighteen year old self? Um, like,
let it go, you got this, I'm the man. If
you could, what three words would you tell your eighteen
year old self? Mm hmm. Eighteen year old says, I'd
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probably say take risks. I think that's that's good. Make mistakes,
another one makes some mistakes. UM, and uh okay, I'm
gonna I'm gonna cheat on this one. And to say, uh,
we regret what we don't do more than what we
regret what we do. Uh. So you know that I
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know that I had. I remember a couple of things
that's still in the back of my mind of some
kind of some big ideas I had that I didn't execute.
And they're the only things that I regret about being
that age. The other mistakes like oh whatever, you know,
I've you know what, I've made up for other mistakes,
But it's the mistakes to haunt me of the ones
that I didn't just go for it. Yeah. Mine, when
I'm thinking about that question, I think I would go
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with I think about myself at a teen, very driven,
extremely driven, UM, wanting to make the NHL, and I
ended up doing it the next year turn pro I've
seen UM at nineteen. Yeah, I would say get it all.
That would be my three words, like like don't ever
stop get it oh? Oh three word? Oh I see, Yes,
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that's great all because that's what I wanted in my
athletic career, I went after everything I wanted. I blew
through fear, blew through insecurity, developed resilience, confidence, improved my
role each year, you know, elevated myself, develop my skills,
honed by skills, my craft, like all of it. And
I would encourage people. I don't want people to think
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that they can't have everything in life that they want.
You know, you bust your tail for it. But I
want people to be inspired to not have to say, well,
I can't have a family and have the career, or
I can't have the career and also have balance in
my life full you get it all or work for it.
The other thing that I would really stress to myself this,
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oh this is another thing, um, find a balance of happiness.
Uh huhn't have that so much so with get it all,
with get it all, and then I'd also have like
find the balance of happiness, um, because going for it
all can consume you and can be toxic. So having
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a balance that you know, you know what Brooks you say,
you bring up an interesting point that's maybe not as
popular as trendy. And you know the master classes, you know,
those things that pop up on your Yeah, they're great.
They're great. I was listening to the one from Seawan
to Rhymes, who's amazing, Like she has like what five
TV shows on on the air right now, and I
think she's like an incredibly talented and driven woman. Amazing.
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But she says she has a real moment in that thing.
And she said, look, you know, people say you could
do it all. You can do it all. You can.
I can have five TV shows on the air and
I can raise all my kids. And she's like, and
that's that's not true. I don't know I'm paraphrasing. She's like,
it's not true. If I'm servicing all of my TV shows,
I'm failing at home. If I'm serving my family what
they need, I'm failing my TV shows. And I said,
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mad respect for her to admit that, like you can't
have a countless amounts of businesses or whatever else and
also spend all the time in really nurturing your your
young family. You gotta you gotta sort that out, man,
you gotta figure that out. So to your last phrase,
like finding that balance is a is a science and
an art form. I think I agree with that. So
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people always say, like we get asked, and I'd like
to ask you about this. Get asked about work life balance.
People always say, what is that's the golden ticket, right,
work life balance? And I always say, it's not a balance,
it's like an integration. And it's the way I describe
it as like a teeter totterer. You know what a a
teeter totter is? Your kids probably the yea yeah. And
it's like sometimes you're you're gonna be like way up,
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You're gonna be filled with a lot of like family time,
and then it's gonna be like, Okay, it's going back down.
I gotta do more work, and then it's gonna I've
I've invested a lot in work and I want to
go back to family time. So people are looking for
this like perfect balance where the teeter totter just sits
right there, and I've never been able to do that.
I've been like, I'm all in on family, and then
I'm like, okay, I've been really inspired right now a
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couple of days, and I'm gonna go all in on
work and then back all in on family meanwhile not
neglecting one or the other. I've been able to find
that balance, but it's okay to have a little rock
like that versus just have to have it be flat
and balanced. That's how it works. I like that. I
like that analogy. I think that's really really smart. I
think the key is understanding that this is the goal,
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like flat is the goal and a little ride is fun,
and most people in life are not cognizant of that,
and they're just you know, like, how many people are
you know, unfortunately in society today, you know, are really
sort of taught and encourage that it's like money, career,
business and that's the ultimate and like kids are like,
you know, not that secondary. And I and I of
course mean probably personally totally disagree. You're gonna find all
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your love, film and habits, joy in the family. But
you really want, you know, it's it's good to have
all this other stuff and and to support your family
into you know, thriving the community and that kind of stuff.
So I'm with you, man, get that little that fun,
the fun ride and the team. Yeah you need some
sway in there. That's fun. But yeah, the violence rocking
back and forth is no good. That's gonna throw all
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the kids off part. I want to Here's another question
from a listener. Um, you've you've spoke so much already
to show up about your family. Uh, and briefly you
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mentioned your wife, Robin. Um, she's also a very talented actress.
But here's the question, how did you know Robin was
the one for you? We get asked that a lot.
How do you know that your significant other is the one? Well,
this is a funny story. Sorry, it's a long story,
so I'm just gonna tell you a real, really short
version of it. But um, she walked in to a
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room and I saw her from afar and said, I'm
gonna marry that woman. And I've never done it before
in my life. I know it's kind of warning cliche
and everything, but it's totally true. Man. I did a
movie called Me Familiar with her dad. He ended up
giving me a job. Ernie Lively as at his acting studio.
I was teaching acting classes from Blake. Lively was in
the class and one day incomes Robin Lively and I
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saw her and I just saw that the energy about
her and just the way she spoke to people, and
I said, that's her. I'm gonna marry her. And I
told my parents, I told all my friends. He became
like a big joke because she had a boyfriend at
the time and I had to watch it. It was
very painful. And uh, years later, years later, we've started
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taking Yeah it's a great story, and uh I've been
a curse to right a movie about it because it's
so painful. Man, I went through it, but I knew it.
I just felt it. I knew it. I hung in
their persistence a lot of humility and U yeah, I
know that's not really great practical advice for anybody, but man,
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when you know, you know, and she was just such
a good person. She had such great fun energy and
it just so that's what lets her get married. Say
they're like, when you know you know, and people that
are single, they're like, yeah, that sounds like a bunch
of made up stuff, Um, but it is true, Like
it's it is the truest thing you could say. Um,
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So you knew then, and then it was until a
couple of years later that you actually started dating. And
that whole time you still believe that and still knew that. Well.
I definitely had moments of doubt and fear and heartbreak
and a lot of a lot of humility because she
broke up with one boyfriend and got another boyfriend. I
was like, oh I thought I was in line, but
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I wasn't apparently, so uh, you know, I was going
through that approach of like, okay, all right, all right,
these type of girls, they they're never single, they're never
just hang out single. So I'll develop the friendship, get
that nice foundation of you know. That's what they say, right,
That's what they say is like all great relationship starts
with good solid friendship. Okay, all right, I'm taking that
route and and hanging in there and and uh yeah
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it's it's ah. It was full of ups and downs
for sure. Yeah. You know what a friend once told me,
You can tell if a relationship is alive and going
to make it by how a person tells a story
about how they met. And so that's interesting being the
life in your eyes. Seeing like when I asked you
that question, you get excited, like, oh it's a lot,
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it's a long story. I try to make sure, but
like like instant energy, which still means you're invested and
just completely madly in love. So um. I always remembered
that when somebody told me that, I was like, that's
a really because it is It's a really good barometer
when you ask somebody when they met the love of
their life, if they tell it with enthusiasm or if
they just like kind of wow, you know, well, I
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gotta say, man, I'm kind of blown away with that perspective.
I think that's very interesting and and dead on. I'm sure. Yeah,
try it with somebody, Try it with somebody in your life, like,
just ask that question. Or could be new, could be old,
you know, like sometimes like if you have sometimes you
ask grandparents like how did you meet Grandma? And then
they light up there like oh, and they'd like want
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you to sit there, glory. It means that the married
fifty years, they're still in love, you know. Answer so
super like that. Um, Okay, here's another one. Here's another question.
So um, it's kind of it's I'm trying to relate
it to what you went through but also current. So um. Anyway,
here's the question from the listener. Do guys like chatting
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on the phone with their friend or significant other? And
what amount of time can a guy tolerate on the phone.
So I'm guessing this comes from a female, you know,
So do you like as a guy, do you like,
like say, when you met Robin, did you like chatting
on the phone? How long was long enough? How long
was interesting? How can we help this lady out with
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it's asking this question? Well, I guess, yeah, I guess
like during those early stages of relationship, you could just
sit on the phone for a long time. You know.
What's funny. I was just thinking about, like, what are
my habits because I have a lot of friends that
are that live out of state around the country, and
I'll put on a headset and do stuff while I
talked to him. You know, I put on my my
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my headsets and and go work out or go you know,
do stuff in the yard or whatever. And like I
could talk for you know, an hour to a buddy,
but not not holding still so much. You know, I
don't know what that is. I'm gonna have to explore
that a little bit, but it does seem like in
a relationship, like early phases, early stages of the relationship,
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that yeah, I think I did. I think I really
like talking to people though in general, so uh, I know,
for me, I think I think Robin and I. She
was shooting a show called Savannah for Aaron Spelling down
in Georgia, at the time when we first started dating,
we used to talk. You just talked for a long time.
So I I personally like, when you meet that person,
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I love talking to them. Yeah, like I traditionally and
I don't talk on the phone that much, but when
you meet the person that you're invested in in love with, like, yeah,
I actually I would. I would not even phone. I
would face time every single time face and every times
I could talk on the phone. Times we'd fall asleep
basically talking on the phone because uh, just and then
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be other times you can talk for like three hours
and just be still so excited and want to talk more,
and you're like, I actually gotta go where I need
to be a lost track of time. But um, I
loved it personally, I loved it because when you meet
that that special somebody and you're so invested in them,
it's so exciting and you just can't wait to hear
what's coming out of their mouth and discover that person
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as well. Asking question, you're you're you're right, and you're
you're kind of taking me down memory lane. It's been
a couple of years since then, but I do recall
being on the phone for hours and sometimes it's like,
you know, what do you think about this? Or what's
your person? What are your favorite movie? And then sometimes
it's like nothing at all, like where did you eat today?
You know? Yeah, like these things that don't matter at all.
It's just interesting and fascinating. But now I'm not But
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I got you got me thinking brooks of like do
I have a different habit? What was it? Talk to
my significant other, you know, Mike, because like I need
a multitask, and I'm talking to my homies even though
I love them and I love talking to him, but
I feel like I gotta be you're moving my body
in some sort of mindless task or something. But when
I talk to my wife, I don't really do that.
You know, I don't think I'm gonna I'm gonna analyze this. Yeah,
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it's interesting, Yeah, it's interesting. Um. I'm usually I usually
have if I'm talking to buddy, You're right, I'll usually
have like speaker phone or whatever, something going on and
just kind of fiddling with something whatever I'm talking to, Uh,
somebody I'm really invested in. You're probably like more present,
but I should, as a better friend, be more present
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when talking about right, right, Yeah, same Okay, but I
gotta rapid fire a couple of questions that because we
still have like a ton of questions for a coach. Um,
but I'm gonna rapid fire a couple of questions at you.
So keep your answers to maybe two to three sentences. Okay, okay.
(50:06):
Best meals someone can prepare for you anything on a barbecue,
open fire, steak, ribs, sausage, yes, yes, yes, burgers like
literally Francis moment if you know him, like he cooks
everything over big open fire Argentine chef. Any like I
just love that char the smoke, barbecue. I need that
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kind of stuff. Oh yeah, even if it's fruit vegetables
on a grill, just grill yep. Got you? Okay, when
did I agree with you on everything you just said? Um?
Next question? When in a grouchy mood, what's the best
advice you would give your significant other? Would you say,
leave me alone, go cook me something? What would you
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These are examples that when you're in a what's the
best advice you could give? Robin? Probably leave me alone.
Probably let me go sort out my feeling in my emotions,
and then I got to be responsible enough to change
my biochemistry, you know, And I always telling my kids,
like my kids really cranky. I'm like, go eat a
piece of chocolate. Let's have some ice cream and then
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focus your attention somewhere and like, you know, it's like,
I know that sounds silly. Oh you're in a bad mood.
Let me give you ice cream. Science. There's some science here,
you know, change the blood sugar, change their focus. Reset,
let's start over. You know, I have, um, I have
friends that do this and I respect them for it.
They're like, I just need a minute or two. They
just step outside just to like and they go outside
that just like kind of like shake this energy off
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of them because they know that they've been triggered by something,
that somebody is doing something to themselves. They've made something personal,
they've done something like they actually instead of saying just
leave me alone, go away, that's a very like go away,
go away. There like a minutes by myself, you know,
give me a minute. Yeah, that's probably a better way
to say it instead of saying, leave me alone, give
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me a minute, because you're you're the one that needs
to do the work right and there it is a
biochemistry again, you're walking from one environment to another. Going outside,
You got some vitamint, you hit, you fill up those
longs oxygen, you know, like to let's take care of ourselves, man, Like,
that's the greatest skill we can possibly learn, is to
switch from that negative place to a more proactive, positive place.
And then they usually come in and apologize that like,
I'm sorry, I just got triggered and I made it
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about me for a second, and I apologize, thank you
for allowing me to have that, madete. But I'm back
and I'm present now, and I'm like, you are an
amazing human beings. That's an awesome person. I want that.
I want to be great at that skill, right, Yeah,
it's a new one. Um, I'm not so good at it.
You blaming a little bit more. I get out I
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needed to better at it. I have friends that definitely
lead in that in my life. Yeah, yeah, give me
a minute or like a day, made a couple of days,
I'll be back. Um, okay, next question, what is your
biggest pet, Peeve? What completely just irritates you? Arrogance? I
just there's something about when people are arrogant. It just
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drives me crazy. Um, they treat people poorly. I don't
like when people get treated poor leak. I try to
treat strangers, you know, with a lot of love and
compassion because it just it feels good, It feels right
when people I just feel like it's all comes from insecurity,
you know. And I see someone that's really arrogant, I'm like, dude,
I got your number, man, you got you got something
you're hiding or not feeling good about you whatever, But
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it's like so much mean stuff comes from it. Yeah,
I love exactly what you said. I think I'm saying
the same thing and maybe just saying in a different way.
But people that feel like they need to be served
where it's like you need to me or I don't
do that like somebody else would do. Like people where
they're like they feel like they're service needs to be
done to them, you know right right interest Yeah, you
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know they won't. They won't clean up after their dishes.
Somebody else should clean that up, right, you know. They
won't make any food, no where's this chef. The chef
should make this, or somebody makes that for me. And
I saw a lot of this in professional sports. I
saw a lot of athletes just on like expecting to
be served served is an entitlement? Is that what it is?
Maybe it might be you're just you're catered to, right,
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the team came to you, like, they'll even carry your
luggage up to your room, right right. You don't have
like are you kidding me? Like and so this kind
of mindset just to some people, it just kind of
takes over and then they just think that they're they're
in this world to be served, right service. Yeah, Okay,
moving on. Tell us one thing that people can't google about,
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something that we don't know about, Mr Bart Johnson that
we will not find on Google. Oh jeez, oh my gosh,
you stump me. Uh, I could find everything, right, I'm
special talents hidden, hidden talents special like um, things you
really like or enjoy, maybe like classical piano music I
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don't know, like something I'm a singer. What no one
knows that. Nobody knows that. And it's funny because I
got this music and and I'm a dancer, said so
I started a musical dance theater. Nobody knows that. And
so when I got this musical franchise, right, I'm like, oh,
finally in a musical. And I had a number. I
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had a song, and a dance in this I was
gonna do it a duet with my nemesis, Ms Darbys,
you evil Miss Darbys, and Disney cut it because they
said they didn't want to see old people dancing, so
so they left the teenagers dance and I sat there
man the whole movie, all these movies, I'm like, man,
(55:30):
half these guys don't sing or dance, and like I
actually sing and dance, and I gotta stand here. I
watched them do this, so it kind of it kind
of killed me. It's kind of like goes back to
my what I'm saying earlier about about high school, like
I have this, you know, like people have this perception
of me being this big old bully or like big
old like sports guy. Now that you know I'm the coach,
Like that's not I did musical dance theater my entire
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time in high school and got beat up for it,
you know, and it's like, now I'm that really thinks
I'm just a bully. What a gift to have. I
think singing is beautiful. I think dancing is just like
insanely beautiful. Both are just like I'm not proficient at either.
I've never dedicated time to develop either one, but I
have such an admiration from both. H Yeah, yeah, yeah,
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it's it's great. I do love it. I've been thinking
about doing a little uh on TikTok for quarantine. I'm like, Okay,
everybody's saying I'll do this for you know again, it
was like, I'm doing this for my wildcats. I'm doing
it for my my people out there. And then what crazy?
They got fifty million of views on this on my
first video. It was like, okay, So I've been thinking
about doing like busting out a little song because I
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think people would get a kick out of coaching. Do it, man,
I get your kids involved, Like, um, I think it'd
be so cool. I've never done a TikTok. Actually I
did one TikTok, but um, if I had kids, for sure,
i'd be. I love seeing dad's see Mario Lopez do it.
He's done some um Jessica, but does a bunch of
their kids stuff like that? Like you see a bunch
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of people doing TikTok's with their kids, I think it's
just um okay. Next question, Um, this is a relationship one.
Should you never go to bed angry or sleep on it?
And talk it out in the morning. Oh, I gotta
I gotta mixed feelings about that one. I think I
think maybe a hybrid maybe, you know, like you don't
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want to go if you could somehow work again, work
on that muscle, man, work on that muscle of like
you never uh, you never want to get to a
certain level. Like I here's a here's a piece of
relationship advice I have for everybody. Don't ever talk about divorce. Don't.
That's that's irresponsible. But people do that because it's a
it's a weapon or it's an ammunition. Right, It's like, oh, yeah,
(57:43):
well we wo's just get divorced. No that you can't.
But that's too disrespect less, disrespects your relationship. Don't just
don't go there. Just don't go there. Like there's a
certain amount of respect, um you need to have for
your relationship and that you don't say permanent hurtful things
like that that are hard to be fact, that are
going to haunt you later whatever else. So like you know, um,
(58:04):
trying to go to bed by saying I disagree, let's
let's sort it out tomorrow. But I do think like
trying to you know, look, you're tired. You've gotta get
up early. There's a there's a clock, and it's like,
now you've got to resolve this thing. It's sometimes it's
not I don't I think it's not a good idea.
So sometimes it's good to sleep it off. But maybe
like a certain level of perspective, like I respect you,
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respect your opinion, I love you, I'm mad at you.
Let's go to bed and then then deal with it
in the morning. It's always interesting to ask people how
they deal with that, because every couples are different. There's
no right or wrong way. People deal with it differently. Um. Yeah,
but I appreciate that, dude. Okay, lastly, Um, the best
pickup line you've gotten on a d M um? Have
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you do you get? I mean, people know you're married,
but do you get pickup lines in your d m s.
We're gonna do a show next week. We're gonna do
a show about dating during COVID and specifically like d ms.
So I know people know that you're faithfully married and stuff,
but you still do people still just drop lines in
your d m s. Yeah, let's see. Uh, well, I
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get a lot of questions about my son, as you know,
as you would. UM, a lot of people saying asking
me if I'll be their sugar daddy. That's nice, that's fine.
I'm not really you know, I'm not really putting it
out there. You know, I don't think so. I don't
get it. I don't get as much, honestly, Like it's
(59:30):
all in my comments, Like people are more forthcoming in
my comments than Yeah, I swear man, it's it's wild.
It's wild. Here's here's a couple that our producer Danielle
has seen. If you're a menu and McDonald's, you'd be
mc gorgeous. If I wish I could take you to
the movies, but they don't let snacks in. Um. Oh man.
(59:55):
So we're gonna do it next week. We're gonna do
a show dating during COVID. We're gonna do a show
about like, how are people how are people who were
single dating during this time? Are they sliding into d
m s? Are they using that? How do you go
about doing it? All that kind of stuff? But what
would be your best advice for somebody that's single dating
during this time? Oh? Gosh, come on, I mean, you know,
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I mean, it's pretty fun that you can look at
someone social media and see what they're putting out there.
You know, you could you could kind of see like,
oh they are fun, or they guarded, or they try
to put out too much, you know, too much of
a certain thing, or they you know. I mean I
always tell people like, look, man, you've got to look
at personality first. You have to, because that will never
fail you. It'll be so entertaining and so fulfilling, and
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you have so much fun. Looks come way down the line,
they really do. And I know, like when I was
in my twenties, I probably didn't think that, but I
mean I was dating people that maybe I was putting
looks first at some point in my life. But man,
what a what a mistake, What a mistake that this.
So look at your social mediacity. Who's like fun, who
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cracks you up, who's entertaining? And if you can make
your decisions based on that, I think you're gonna be
served in the long run. I actually think the world
is waking up to being able to analyze and interpret
digital energy in a yeah, I totally agree, absolutely, that's
well said. Yeah, you can see somebody on social media
and you're like, I just have a feeling this person
is like really kind, really genuine person just by what
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they're putting out, and then you can see somebody you
can be like, I'm just off. I'm just put off
by what they're putting out. There's something I don't know
what it is, but energetically there's something toxic there. And
I think the world is getting a better uh compass
and navigation point on, like you know, what is truthful,
what is inauthentic, who's real, who's fake? That kind of stuff.
(01:01:44):
I think digital energy people are really becoming more in
tune with digesting it interesting. Yeah, um yeah, okay, last question,
brother is I've never asked this question on this show,
but my last question it's a kind of a journey
in the study that I've been on in my own
personal life and asking people close to me. Um, what
is your personal relationship with happiness? Happiness? Mhm boy, Um,
(01:02:15):
how does happen? What is happiness to you? Well? I guess,
I you know, maybe I've spent some time differentiating between
fun and joy, I guess, and like happiness could be
both those things could be You're having a lot of fun. Um,
But but but joy, I mean, I name it whatever
(01:02:36):
you want. I guess there there's one that's much more fulfilling,
and um, we'll live longer. I think in your in
your soul, and I like to have fun, Like everybody
knows me. It's like that dude likes that fun. I mean,
as you saw Brooks, like I got you know, I
got surfboards, and I got you know, wakes boat and
like you know, motorcycles. Got but I've got seven dirt
(01:02:57):
bikes on my garage, like you know, like I like
to have fun. Man, like I left to have fun
my kids and know that I like to have fun. Um,
But also, uh, it's the more fulfillings of the more
more important um is the the relationships, you know, Like
the true sense of happiness and joy and fulfillment is serving.
(01:03:17):
And I think that if there's one thing I've learned
in my life is that pursuing something fun or thrilling
is fleeting. But if you can have fun with those
that you are serving, you know, we do more for
our kids than we'd ever do for ourselves. And that
goes for my family too. I do more for my siblings,
more for my mom, my dad arrested piece, Um, you know,
(01:03:41):
I would do more for for those then I would
do for myself and and and that goes to even
serving in my community, you know, like you know, I've
I've been a leader in the boy Scouts and youth
programs and soccer and like all, you know, all this
stuff and coach so much. Um, I find that so
incredibly fulfilling. So when you can marry the two and
you can have your happiness and you're fun with people,
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you're serving, it's uh, it's rich, it's rich and it
and it feels your fills your soul. Dude, I love it. Coach,
I love it. You could be a coach. You are
well you are a coach, but you play a coach.
You are a coach. But truthfully, man, um you really
you really I felt like I've been coached during this
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past hour. So, um, where can people find you? Bart?
Where do you hang out? Social media? Where can people
find you? What are you working on? Where can people
because our our community after listening to you, is definitely
gonna want to find more about you. Where can they
grab it? Awesome? Awesome? Um? I And on Instagram and man,
I think everything, I think I have the same tag
on everything and it's at Bart Underscore Johnson so um Instagram,
(01:04:47):
I'm new on TikTok and make fun of me there. Um,
I got a YouTube channel. I started a YouTube channel
with my family, which I need. It's it's a lot
of work, man, you need an editor. I love it.
I love It's so much fun. But I've got like
hard drives of material. Although like these trips like this
trip Daaly and Postreaca or you know wherever else and uh,
(01:05:09):
I just can't. I just can't get to the editing, man,
the editing. But those YouTube oh dude, it's brutal. Like,
give me the camera. I can shoot stuff all day
long and love it and enjoy it sitting by myself
behind a computer for a couple of days. Oh my gosh,
it's rough. Yeah, you gotta pay somebody to edit that. Bro. Um.
But dude, I love your mission. Man Um. I just
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look up to you as a man and as a husband,
as a father, and I love just I wish our
listeners could see the amount of joy and light envibrants
in your face and your eyes speaking about your family. Um,
it was wonderful to have you on my man um.
Any last words for our community, anything, anything that's gonna
change their life, right now, Bart, I would just say Brooks,
(01:05:52):
thank you so much and thanks for um, you know,
a podcast where you talk about things that really matter
in a cool way that that I think people will
be able to next to him resumes, So this is
this is the best interview I've ever done. And I've
done this for twenty five years now, so I appreciate
this very much, And thanks for directing the conversation. That's
such a fun, like productive way. And this is also
(01:06:14):
I love what you're doing. Man, I'm I'm so glad
I did this, so thanks for having me. I appreciate it.
I think it's super powerful, uh, in this day and
age to hear men specifically and masculine men. They could
be like what, but like masculine men like yourself open
up and talk about how much they just love their family,
how much they pour into their kids, how much they
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you know, how much it touches their soul, and how
they cried when they saw their daughter do this, And like,
I think it's so powerful for dudes, for for all
kinds of males. There's no right or wrong way to
be a man, but just for masculine energy to open
up and share um emotions and things that matter to
their heart. And I think it's going to change the world.
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I really do. And and you've been a you've been
a you spear your head of that here today for us,
so our listeners are better for it. I'm better for it,
my man. I applaud your mission if I can ever
return the favor. And what are you doing? What's the
Tuesdays when you do uh wild cat Tuesday? Oh yeah,
we're all in this together. Tuesdays together Tuesday? Yea, come
on by. I'm gonna do a lot. Uh well, I've
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been doing it like five pm. But um, everybody, I
got a lot a lot of wild cats out there
in the UK. They want me to do it sooner.
So I think I'm gonna shoot for like noon noon
on Tuesdays on Tuesdays. Okay, we're all in this together. Also,
last thing, my high school while my school was kindergarten
to grade twelve. So I grew up in a small town,
but we were the Wildcat'll come on there, we go
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full circle right there. We're brothers, man, we are brothers, brothers. Coach.
I appreciate you, Bart, I appreciate you, man. If I
can ever serve your mission. Please let me know. Thank
you to everybody that listened. Tune in this week, come
back next week for an interesting conversation of dating during
COVID Bart. You're the man. Much love, stay safe, be
well with your family, and to our listeners, take care
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of one another, love one another, and we'll see you.
Back here next week for another episode at How Many
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