October 20, 2025 • 8 mins
Something subtle is going on, and it's messing with your head. On this episode of IDKMYDE, listen closely -- this story might make you rethink what you see and who you trust!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I welcome back.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Know it alls to another episode of I Didn't Know,
maybe you didn't either, And this is the very first
episode with your.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
King speaking, Yes, King of be Dots.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
And why am I calling myself King be Dots Because
last weekend I was crowned as mister Alumni of my
alma mater, Winston Salem State University. And I did an
interview a couple of weeks ago with our producer from Detroit,
his name Baby Kobe, and when I told him that
I was mister Alumni, he was like, dang, Like mister
(00:35):
alumni is lit. Like that's like saying like we all alumni,
but like I'm the alumni and that's so real. You
didn't know what I'm saying. Like it's thirty three thousand
WSSU alone, but there is only one mister alumni and
he is me B Dots And I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Man.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I want to eventually raise a twenty five thousand dollars
in down scholarship in my mother's name to give to
a mass communications major at Winston Salem State University. I
still got my dollar in a dream campaign where I'm
asking everybody that supports HBCUs and just believes in this
initiative of giving scholarship money to future rams to send
(01:17):
a dollar to my cash app, mister Alumni twenty twenty five.
And the campaign did so good that the National Alumni
Association of Winston Salem State University wants to use it
for their national campaign.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
And I love that.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
But I survived Homecoming and I'm here to supply you
with another episode of the most anticipated podcast on the
Black Effect Podcast Network. I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either,
I with your host King Dot. If you're new here,
make sure you subscribe and like our YouTube channel IDK
(01:53):
myde and give us a follow on Instagram. Shoot us
a dm IDK myde with an underscore before it and
behind it. And of course we kick off every episode
with three of the most useless facts. You will never
need never not a day in life. Your first useless fact.
If you're out there, you're single, you just can't find love.
(02:17):
Always remember. The movie Back to the Future got rejected
forty times before Universal bought it. Yeah, Disney turned it
down saying it was a movie about incest, and that
was a reference to the nineteen fifty five scene when
Marty mcfla kissed the eighteen year old version of his
mother incest. You drop the ball there, Disney, almost about
(02:41):
as bad as when you suspended Jimmy Kimmel. Tighten up
Your second useless fact. An Australian study showed that pop
and rock stars die twenty five years younger than the
average person. They usually have higher risk of death by
accidents and homicide. Yep, that drug usage and getting robbed.
(03:03):
And your third useless fact. In the movie Fight Club,
did you know it was a Starbucks cup in every scene?
It was supposed to show the effect that consumerism has
over our lives, but I completely missed it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Those have been your three useless facts.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Back to the Future was rejected forty times before Universal
bought it. An Australian study shows that popin' rockstars dot
twenty five years younger than the average person. And in
the movie Fight Club, there's a Starbucks cup in every scene.
I know you're gonna try to test that one out,
ain't you? Speaking of every scene, Let's talk about a
(03:37):
word that I hear damn near every day that I
don't quite think I knew the meaning of. I damn
sure didn't know where it came from. The word gas lighting.
They treated like red hot. They put that on anything.
But do you know where the term gas lighting originated from?
Because I didn't. I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't know. I didn't I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I didn't I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Man, that word has replaced you lyon. Don't nobody say
you wrong no more? They say, oh, you gaslight me, like, no,
I'm not gaslighting you. I just said I don't remember
saying that, and I genuinely don't remember saying that. My
memory be out here buffering like dial up internet. But
let me tell you where that word really came from,
because it didn't just appear in therapy sessions and random
(04:31):
Twitter feeds.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
It came from a.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Movie nineteen forty four. The movie's called gas Light. And
this dude, Gregory in the movie Prime Minister of Manipulation
boy would smooth with it. He married this woman Paula,
brings her home and then starts running mind games stuff disappearing.
(04:55):
Bro would leave the house and then sneak back in
and walk around upstates and then come back home and
she would say I heard something upstairs, and he'd be
like babe, you must be imagining things. Bro would make
the gas lights flicker, and then when she would ask
did you see that, he'd be like, nah, I ain't
seen nothing.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Excuse me, no, sir, I saw what I saw.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
And you know there were white folks, cause that ain't
happening in no black household. That gas light get the
flickering that would have been met with some rebuking and
some olive oil. Grandma Ruby would have been in there
putting crosses on every threshold. Father God shout out to her. Yes,
a black woman would have said, am I going crazy?
Not in my house, Satan. I rebuke thee We paid
too much in rent for ghost father goud lights flickering,
(05:39):
and I'll see a black woman going to flip that
breaker switch. And speaking of flickering lights, today's episode is
brought to you by LED light Bulbs because if your
lights are flickering in twenty twenty five and you still
got gas lamps in your house, baby, that ain't gas lighting,
that's poverty. Upgrade your lighting and protect your mental health.
(06:00):
Led light Bulbs, stop blaming Gregory and buy some technology.
Sometimes it's just bad wiring. Back to you, Dot Paula
believed Gregory, and that man slowly made her question her
own reality. Man he isolated her, cut her off from
her friends, controlled her environment, all while acting like he
(06:23):
was the loving, protective husband. And that's when the audience
and later psychologists said, oh snap, that right. There is
gas lighting, not physical abuse, mental sabotage. Convincing somebody that
their feelings, their memory, their reality ain't real. That's gas lighting,
and now we use it every day. Some people use
(06:45):
it correctly, like I actually had to apologize to my
wife because I've gas lit her. You get called cheating
and then you tell her she tripping for checking your phone.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
That's gas lighting. And I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
I really thought I had a k If you wouldn't
be invading my privacy, then you wouldn't be getting your
feelings hurt. God, that sounded dumb hearing it out loud,
but some of y'all be abusing the word. He said
he wasn't hungry earlier, but now he eating my fries.
He gaslight me, sis. He was just lying. The term
(07:18):
you're looking for is greedy, okay. But here's why this matters,
because when you can name the manipulation, you can fight
the manipulation. When you recognize the pattern, you stop explaining
yourself to people who already know what they did.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Fellas.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I apologize if I'm giving away too much game right now,
but i just learned this and I can't help but share.
So if somebody trying to dim your light and make
you think you crazy, you tell him that ain't my
sanity flickering baby, your.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Laws just losing power.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Clock that right now, I'm touching my thumb and my
point of finger because I ate that up.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I'm beat that.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And now you know where the word gas lighting came
from a movie back in nineteen hundred and forty f
So share this episode with somebody who always using therapy
words wrong, and I'll see you next time. On the
most anticipated podcast on the Black Effect Podcast Network.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either. I
I welcome back.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Know it alls to another episode of I Didn't Know,
maybe you didn't either, And this is the very first
episode with your.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
King speaking, Yes, King of be Dots.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
And why am I calling myself King be Dots Because
last weekend I was crowned as mister Alumni of my
alma mater, Winston Salem State University. And I did an
interview a couple of weeks ago with our producer from Detroit,
his name Baby Kobe, and when I told him that
I was mister Alumni, he was like, dang, Like mister
(00:35):
alumni is lit. Like that's like saying like we all alumni,
but like I'm the alumni and that's so real. You
didn't know what I'm saying. Like it's thirty three thousand
WSSU alone, but there is only one mister alumni and
he is me B Dots And I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Man.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I want to eventually raise a twenty five thousand dollars
in down scholarship in my mother's name to give to
a mass communications major at Winston Salem State University. I
still got my dollar in a dream campaign where I'm
asking everybody that supports HBCUs and just believes in this
initiative of giving scholarship money to future rams to send
(01:17):
a dollar to my cash app, mister Alumni twenty twenty five.
And the campaign did so good that the National Alumni
Association of Winston Salem State University wants to use it
for their national campaign.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
And I love that.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
But I survived Homecoming and I'm here to supply you
with another episode of the most anticipated podcast on the
Black Effect Podcast Network. I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either,
I with your host King Dot. If you're new here,
make sure you subscribe and like our YouTube channel IDK
(01:53):
myde and give us a follow on Instagram. Shoot us
a dm IDK myde with an underscore before it and
behind it. And of course we kick off every episode
with three of the most useless facts. You will never
need never not a day in life. Your first useless fact.
If you're out there, you're single, you just can't find love.
(02:17):
Always remember. The movie Back to the Future got rejected
forty times before Universal bought it. Yeah, Disney turned it
down saying it was a movie about incest, and that
was a reference to the nineteen fifty five scene when
Marty mcfla kissed the eighteen year old version of his
mother incest. You drop the ball there, Disney, almost about
(02:41):
as bad as when you suspended Jimmy Kimmel. Tighten up
Your second useless fact. An Australian study showed that pop
and rock stars die twenty five years younger than the
average person. They usually have higher risk of death by
accidents and homicide. Yep, that drug usage and getting robbed.
(03:03):
And your third useless fact. In the movie Fight Club,
did you know it was a Starbucks cup in every scene?
It was supposed to show the effect that consumerism has
over our lives, but I completely missed it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Those have been your three useless facts.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
Back to the Future was rejected forty times before Universal
bought it. An Australian study shows that popin' rockstars dot
twenty five years younger than the average person. And in
the movie Fight Club, there's a Starbucks cup in every scene.
I know you're gonna try to test that one out,
ain't you? Speaking of every scene, Let's talk about a
(03:37):
word that I hear damn near every day that I
don't quite think I knew the meaning of. I damn
sure didn't know where it came from. The word gas lighting.
They treated like red hot. They put that on anything.
But do you know where the term gas lighting originated from?
Because I didn't. I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't know. I didn't I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
I didn't I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
I didn't know.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Man, that word has replaced you lyon. Don't nobody say
you wrong no more? They say, oh, you gaslight me, like, no,
I'm not gaslighting you. I just said I don't remember
saying that, and I genuinely don't remember saying that. My
memory be out here buffering like dial up internet. But
let me tell you where that word really came from,
because it didn't just appear in therapy sessions and random
(04:31):
Twitter feeds.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
It came from a.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Movie nineteen forty four. The movie's called gas Light. And
this dude, Gregory in the movie Prime Minister of Manipulation
boy would smooth with it. He married this woman Paula,
brings her home and then starts running mind games stuff disappearing.
(04:55):
Bro would leave the house and then sneak back in
and walk around upstates and then come back home and
she would say I heard something upstairs, and he'd be
like babe, you must be imagining things. Bro would make
the gas lights flicker, and then when she would ask
did you see that, he'd be like, nah, I ain't
seen nothing.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Excuse me, no, sir, I saw what I saw.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
And you know there were white folks, cause that ain't
happening in no black household. That gas light get the
flickering that would have been met with some rebuking and
some olive oil. Grandma Ruby would have been in there
putting crosses on every threshold. Father God shout out to her. Yes,
a black woman would have said, am I going crazy?
Not in my house, Satan. I rebuke thee We paid
too much in rent for ghost father goud lights flickering,
(05:39):
and I'll see a black woman going to flip that
breaker switch. And speaking of flickering lights, today's episode is
brought to you by LED light Bulbs because if your
lights are flickering in twenty twenty five and you still
got gas lamps in your house, baby, that ain't gas lighting,
that's poverty. Upgrade your lighting and protect your mental health.
(06:00):
Led light Bulbs, stop blaming Gregory and buy some technology.
Sometimes it's just bad wiring. Back to you, Dot Paula
believed Gregory, and that man slowly made her question her
own reality. Man he isolated her, cut her off from
her friends, controlled her environment, all while acting like he
(06:23):
was the loving, protective husband. And that's when the audience
and later psychologists said, oh snap, that right. There is
gas lighting, not physical abuse, mental sabotage. Convincing somebody that
their feelings, their memory, their reality ain't real. That's gas lighting,
and now we use it every day. Some people use
(06:45):
it correctly, like I actually had to apologize to my
wife because I've gas lit her. You get called cheating
and then you tell her she tripping for checking your phone.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
That's gas lighting. And I didn't know.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
I really thought I had a k If you wouldn't
be invading my privacy, then you wouldn't be getting your
feelings hurt. God, that sounded dumb hearing it out loud,
but some of y'all be abusing the word. He said
he wasn't hungry earlier, but now he eating my fries.
He gaslight me, sis. He was just lying. The term
(07:18):
you're looking for is greedy, okay. But here's why this matters,
because when you can name the manipulation, you can fight
the manipulation. When you recognize the pattern, you stop explaining
yourself to people who already know what they did.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Fellas.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I apologize if I'm giving away too much game right now,
but i just learned this and I can't help but share.
So if somebody trying to dim your light and make
you think you crazy, you tell him that ain't my
sanity flickering baby, your.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Laws just losing power.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Clock that right now, I'm touching my thumb and my
point of finger because I ate that up.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
I'm beat that.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
And now you know where the word gas lighting came
from a movie back in nineteen hundred and forty f
So share this episode with somebody who always using therapy
words wrong, and I'll see you next time. On the
most anticipated podcast on the Black Effect Podcast Network.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
I didn't know. Maybe you didn't either. I
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