July 11, 2024 • 13 mins
Ella and Ethan have been dating for six months after first meeting on Bumble and Ella tells us that things haven’t been the best because of Ethan’s commitment issues. Early on in their relationship Ella’s friends told her that Ethan was still on other dating apps to which Ethan claimed that other people were using his photos to catfish other people. However, a few days ago Ella’s friend again told her that Ethan matched with them and that it was the Ethan she was dating based on all the information on his profile.
We call Ethan pretending to work for Tinder support and when we ask him about his most recent swipes, Ethan says he has been using the app for hookups. Find out what’s really going on in this week’s War Of The Roses!
We call Ethan pretending to work for Tinder support and when we ask him about his most recent swipes, Ethan says he has been using the app for hookups. Find out what’s really going on in this week’s War Of The Roses!
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(00:04):
More of the roses I interned Johnin your morning show. You think something's
up instead just kind of waiting,we rip off that band aid and see
what exactly is going on. Ellakind of walk us through this. You
and Ethan have been together for howlong? It's about six months now.
We met on Bumble. You know, everything's been good there. It hasn't
(00:28):
been smooth sailing. I will saythat, Yeah, let's get random because
this is interesting to me. Yeah, I have to. I know I'm
probably biased with this, but he'sa very good looking guy. So I
realized, like kind of early onfriends of mine would say, hey,
we see Ethan on Tender and he'spopping up as you know, possible matches.
(00:55):
And I immediately, you know,confronted him, not even like in
a aggressively because it was early onin a relationship, and I thought,
okay, maybe he had cleaned uplike his apps and stuff. So okay,
I said, you know, okay, you know, not trying to
write off his head right away,but hey, I'm having friends of mine
see you on you know, datingapps and like Kinder specifically, and he
(01:17):
explained to me that, you know, basically, he's very good looking and
people often use his photos to cassishpeople. Okay, okay, and again
like being objective, You're l likebeing objective. Do you think that's possible?
Is he a good enough looking guythat somebody would use his photos?
(01:38):
Yeah, he's kind of a selfshow. He really is. He really
is. I can see someone andhe's relatable looking where it's kind of like
guy next door, like you knowsomebody you know, your friend's brother or
whatever. So he has that look, so I can see somebody using him.
He's very non threatening looking. Sookay, I guess I bought it.
(01:59):
But like, so this is realquick, because I want to set
this up a little bit. Sousually with somebody cafish is, they don't
on dating apps, they don't usethat person's real name, like they'll they'll
go by this is this is Timand use his photos. But explain what
happened with you had two friends whohappened to be swiping and they ran across
Ethan's or allegedly Ethan's tender profile withhis actual name and recent photos totally like
(02:24):
like every single thing his his neighborhood, like where he goes for his coffee,
like all these pictures and again ifyou're studying somebody to capfish them,
you're probably going to take their mostrecent stuff because it looks more realistic.
So here I am like still buyingit. But I've got these two really
good friends and independently they both matchedwith him, and it's apples to apples
(02:47):
with all the stuff. So thenI'm like, okay, well, six
months in and you're still popping upon my close friends dating matches. Yeah,
there has to be a problem here, Like I'm not. I mean,
I feel even dumb that I wentalong with it for so long,
But now I'm like, okay,it's six months, Like it's time to
you know, figure this out andmove on, or like, I don't
(03:09):
know, contact customer support at theseapps because they're catfishing my boyfriend and as
interesting, Well, yeah, isthat the key for Am I just an
idiot? So let's do this lookbecause that kind of goes along my line
of thought, and step con fromthe flower shop. Let me call from
Tender customer service just to see howhe's enjoying the app. And the beauty
(03:30):
is if he's not on the app, I'll be like, I'm not on
the app and we'll know within thirteenseconds, but not this is real.
Okay, Yeah, that's good.Wares an intern shown your morning show it's
War of the Rosies on internshoon inyour morning show. You think the person
with the stepping out do you thinkthey're doing things they shouldn't be doing?
(03:50):
We try to figure out exactly what'sgoing on. Ell, let me recap
this real quick. You and Ethanbeen together about six months, match on
Bumble. Everything's been good. Inyour own words, Ethan is basically a
smoke show, very good looking guy, and throughout the relationship there's been moments
where he has popped up on datingapps for folks and you've brought his attention.
(04:12):
He said, Basically, this kindof stuff happens all the time.
People use my photos to catfish,which entirely possible. I mean, in
reality, is possible. You said, he's a good looking guy, but
also kind of looks like a normalgood looking guy, so it's not like
an obvious model photos, so tospeak. But you had two friends kind
of recently matched with him on Tinder, and it was recent photos recent like
(04:38):
neighborhood, that type of vibe.I think it's important to note these friends
while they are friends of yours.They have not met him yet though,
right, so that he wouldn't necessarilyknow that they know you. Is that
fair to say? That is definitelyfair to say. Okay, the last
time you asked him about the profileand dating app? Do you remember how
(05:00):
long ago that was? I wantto say it was within the last month,
because somebody else popped up and itwasn't anybody that was a good friend
of mine, So I took thatwith a grain of salt. Maybe that
was like a residual, you know, or maybe they were just trying to,
like, you know, you thinkpeople are trying to break up all
the time. Because the question,the question I had if people have come
(05:25):
to you several times over the lastcouple of months, do they have three
shots of the profile? If so, is the name always Ethan? And
do the photos ever change? Itis consistently Ethan. The photos only get
more recent. So it does feellike it's organically his, because that's what
(05:46):
we're saying, like if I was, if I was the catfish with his
photos, I probably wouldn't change thename. I wouldn't have the name Ethan.
I'd choose like Bill. So,okay, so let's do that feels
more like identities after they're still packishingbecause they're using Sure, I would be
more alarmed if it was me.Why is he let me do this?
(06:08):
Instead of calling from the Flower company, I'll call from Tender support just to
ask them some questions about the app, and like obviously if he's not tender,
that should be very like, hey, you have the wrong person,
YadA YadA me, but we'll knowit's like ten seconds, what's going on?
Okay, okay, let me saythis. If it is him on
the app, let me try tolet him dig his grave a little bit
(06:28):
before you jump in. Okay,okay, I'll try one second. Let
me try to call him here.Yeah, I wish I had that problem.
People stealing your pigs pegs. Yeah, it is annoying thing to find
them. Oh, I'm sure it'shappened to me a few times. Sure
(06:48):
happens to you, Hope not Hicall him for Ethan play the other season.
Even my name is Marcus with Tindersupport. How are you I'm doing?
(07:08):
Okay? Can I ask this aboutreal quick? So I'm calling from
our customer support and security breaching department. Before we go further, I have
to ask you a couple of verificationquestions about your account. Okay, okay,
all right, first question, securityquestion you have, give me your
dog's favorite color. My dog's favoritecolor? I think blue. Okay,
(07:30):
that checks out. And then abunch of dog questions here dog's favorite band?
Oh believe one day too for sure? Oh? Absolutely? All right,
brother, welcome in real quick.So I'm just working out. We're
reaching out to some of our topclients, and if I may say this
to you in the DMV area,you are one of our most rights white
(07:53):
profiles for METT. So first ofall, congratulations, see you. Very
exciting. Nice I'm not surprised.Yeah, absolutely, brother, And so
we're just calling to make sure you'regood to go with a couple of things
obviously, you know, if I'mbeing honest, for us, we're a
bit of a meat market and wewant our prime cuts some meat happy on
the app? How long have youbeen on the app? Roughly? Uh?
(08:16):
Yeah, I mean like I've beenon an off of it I'd say
for a year, but like likepretty consistently these last four months. Okay,
and uh that's exciting. And haveyou found the women coming your way
attractive? Medium? Not? What'syour what's your vib right there? I
mean, you know, like likeI'm I'm not too bad to look at,
(08:37):
so I get some pretty pretty hotladies. Sure, and uh,
I don't know, it's it's nice. Oh absolutely, man, I can
only imagine. What's the average amountof meat time? Actually, let me
let me phrase this first. Howmany people have you met off the app
in these months? Like you matchat them and the samn person later on?
I mean I couldn't really tell yournumber, you know, I meant
(08:58):
a players all the time. Thatshut me up. It's hard now I
heard that. And what's the averageamount of time for matching with somebody to
seeing them in person? Uh?Well, I mean, like you know,
I used Tinder to hook up,so, like you know, a
couple of days. Uh, I'mon some other apps, you know,
to try to find like love ifyou will. But I'm not looking too
(09:22):
hard, you know. No,I heard that. So you just so
I understand you're mainly using us forthat quick thing, but you have other
apps for more of the long gamething. Now you're getting it. Yeah,
that's that's how I do. Oh, I get what you're putting down,
brother. Hell yeah, that's that'svery, very exciting. So overall
you're yeah, no, totally,You're you're happy with the app. I
(09:46):
mean yeah, yeah, like youknow, I've met some cool chicks and
had some nice nights with those coolchicks. So yeah, the apps working.
You know. I asked you justif you had a guess how many
girls have you hooked up with thelast couple of months on tender? Just
so I know, God, man, like it's enough that I can't remember,
if you know what I'm saying,like over over five, I mean
(10:09):
I think i'd remember five. Ithink, you know, like like we're
talking double digit shure, Ethan,Are you kidding me? You're doing double
digits in the last couple of months. You're going back to back and I'm
here thinking like, oh, likefour attractive boyfriend is seeing catfish by complete
strangers. I meanwhile, you're outhere like it's like Mike Tysons like punch
(10:33):
out and you're trying to like doas much as you possibly can, Like
what is this? Like? Whoare you? Yeah, Ethan, real
quick, my name is intern John. That's Shelby Soas. That is your
girlfriend, Allen. We're gonna warthe roses on the show. Yeah,
I'm gonna be honest. This mightbe the wildest roses. Yeah. See
(10:54):
you you double dip girls every nightor some nights. No, No,
you guys don't understand like I was. I was joking with this tender guy
like lying piece. You're gonna tryto backtrack now, No, Ethan,
you try to like protect You're notthis smart. You think this is a
problem when people are that attractive.You think that you're in this bubble that
(11:18):
you're just like untouchable and we're alljust like going to kiss your ass and
just like look the other way becauseyou're so good. First of all,
you're good looking, but you're notthis good looking this level. You know
what, there's a bunch of insecuritiesthat you cannot control yourself because you have
to have your cup filled constantly bysome stranger. Who are you? You're
(11:39):
such a piece of beef. Ispent all this wasted on such a loser
who doesn't even care about anybody butthemselves. Like, yes, yeah,
I'm gonna be honest Ethan before youeven start, because the obvious thing to
me was we said this before wecalled you. If those accounts weren't yours,
(12:01):
us said in the beginning. Idon't have Tinder, and we've been
over with no. No, look, look I I actually I do a
little bet with my buddies to seewho get the most matches. I don't
want to show you guys don't playlike video games, play like actual real
life games. Show what guy ina committed relationship then takes that bet with
his buddies and see who gets themost matches on dating app? It's a
(12:24):
game. I mean my guys.I wanted to show him that Tinder can
can work for them, and theywere telling me that he couldn't. And
I just thought it was I couldshow Ethan you're really just you're just the
hero. You're here, Goodmaritan.Now how you get it exactly? And
calling up radio stations on me?That's crazy. I think I think we
(12:46):
have enough here, even you,you and my friend are going down and
war the Roses history. I canpromise you what at least about the crazy
one's calling radio stations. That's agreat world. The Ross is cretacked and
possibly edited broadcast. It's permission grantfrom all participates. One more Roses go
to ymsradio dot com. We loveyour thoughts. War of the Roses on
(13:07):
intern Jhon in your Morning show ninenine, three three eight to text in
Towson, Ashley, good morning,Good morning. You heard War of the
Roses. What you want to say? Oh my gosh, that one is
by far the craziest one of theyear. Wow. I think it might
be out there. Yeah, thankyou so much for listening. To have
a great day. If you wantyou a roses the forms of YMS radio
(13:33):
dot com, it is Internjon inyour morning show, Intern John in your
morning shows, True and iHeartRadio.
More of the roses I interned Johnin your morning show. You think something's
up instead just kind of waiting,we rip off that band aid and see
what exactly is going on. Ellakind of walk us through this. You
and Ethan have been together for howlong? It's about six months now.
We met on Bumble. You know, everything's been good there. It hasn't
(00:28):
been smooth sailing. I will saythat, Yeah, let's get random because
this is interesting to me. Yeah, I have to. I know I'm
probably biased with this, but he'sa very good looking guy. So I
realized, like kind of early onfriends of mine would say, hey,
we see Ethan on Tender and he'spopping up as you know, possible matches.
(00:55):
And I immediately, you know,confronted him, not even like in
a aggressively because it was early onin a relationship, and I thought,
okay, maybe he had cleaned uplike his apps and stuff. So okay,
I said, you know, okay, you know, not trying to
write off his head right away,but hey, I'm having friends of mine
see you on you know, datingapps and like Kinder specifically, and he
(01:17):
explained to me that, you know, basically, he's very good looking and
people often use his photos to cassishpeople. Okay, okay, and again
like being objective, You're l likebeing objective. Do you think that's possible?
Is he a good enough looking guythat somebody would use his photos?
(01:38):
Yeah, he's kind of a selfshow. He really is. He really
is. I can see someone andhe's relatable looking where it's kind of like
guy next door, like you knowsomebody you know, your friend's brother or
whatever. So he has that look, so I can see somebody using him.
He's very non threatening looking. Sookay, I guess I bought it.
(01:59):
But like, so this is realquick, because I want to set
this up a little bit. Sousually with somebody cafish is, they don't
on dating apps, they don't usethat person's real name, like they'll they'll
go by this is this is Timand use his photos. But explain what
happened with you had two friends whohappened to be swiping and they ran across
Ethan's or allegedly Ethan's tender profile withhis actual name and recent photos totally like
(02:24):
like every single thing his his neighborhood, like where he goes for his coffee,
like all these pictures and again ifyou're studying somebody to capfish them,
you're probably going to take their mostrecent stuff because it looks more realistic.
So here I am like still buyingit. But I've got these two really
good friends and independently they both matchedwith him, and it's apples to apples
(02:47):
with all the stuff. So thenI'm like, okay, well, six
months in and you're still popping upon my close friends dating matches. Yeah,
there has to be a problem here, Like I'm not. I mean,
I feel even dumb that I wentalong with it for so long,
But now I'm like, okay,it's six months, Like it's time to
you know, figure this out andmove on, or like, I don't
(03:09):
know, contact customer support at theseapps because they're catfishing my boyfriend and as
interesting, Well, yeah, isthat the key for Am I just an
idiot? So let's do this lookbecause that kind of goes along my line
of thought, and step con fromthe flower shop. Let me call from
Tender customer service just to see howhe's enjoying the app. And the beauty
(03:30):
is if he's not on the app, I'll be like, I'm not on
the app and we'll know within thirteenseconds, but not this is real.
Okay, Yeah, that's good.Wares an intern shown your morning show it's
War of the Rosies on internshoon inyour morning show. You think the person
with the stepping out do you thinkthey're doing things they shouldn't be doing?
(03:50):
We try to figure out exactly what'sgoing on. Ell, let me recap
this real quick. You and Ethanbeen together about six months, match on
Bumble. Everything's been good. Inyour own words, Ethan is basically a
smoke show, very good looking guy, and throughout the relationship there's been moments
where he has popped up on datingapps for folks and you've brought his attention.
(04:12):
He said, Basically, this kindof stuff happens all the time.
People use my photos to catfish,which entirely possible. I mean, in
reality, is possible. You said, he's a good looking guy, but
also kind of looks like a normalgood looking guy, so it's not like
an obvious model photos, so tospeak. But you had two friends kind
of recently matched with him on Tinder, and it was recent photos recent like
(04:38):
neighborhood, that type of vibe.I think it's important to note these friends
while they are friends of yours.They have not met him yet though,
right, so that he wouldn't necessarilyknow that they know you. Is that
fair to say? That is definitelyfair to say. Okay, the last
time you asked him about the profileand dating app? Do you remember how
(05:00):
long ago that was? I wantto say it was within the last month,
because somebody else popped up and itwasn't anybody that was a good friend
of mine, So I took thatwith a grain of salt. Maybe that
was like a residual, you know, or maybe they were just trying to,
like, you know, you thinkpeople are trying to break up all
the time. Because the question,the question I had if people have come
(05:25):
to you several times over the lastcouple of months, do they have three
shots of the profile? If so, is the name always Ethan? And
do the photos ever change? Itis consistently Ethan. The photos only get
more recent. So it does feellike it's organically his, because that's what
(05:46):
we're saying, like if I was, if I was the catfish with his
photos, I probably wouldn't change thename. I wouldn't have the name Ethan.
I'd choose like Bill. So,okay, so let's do that feels
more like identities after they're still packishingbecause they're using Sure, I would be
more alarmed if it was me.Why is he let me do this?
(06:08):
Instead of calling from the Flower company, I'll call from Tender support just to
ask them some questions about the app, and like obviously if he's not tender,
that should be very like, hey, you have the wrong person,
YadA YadA me, but we'll knowit's like ten seconds, what's going on?
Okay, okay, let me saythis. If it is him on
the app, let me try tolet him dig his grave a little bit
(06:28):
before you jump in. Okay,okay, I'll try one second. Let
me try to call him here.Yeah, I wish I had that problem.
People stealing your pigs pegs. Yeah, it is annoying thing to find
them. Oh, I'm sure it'shappened to me a few times. Sure
(06:48):
happens to you, Hope not Hicall him for Ethan play the other season.
Even my name is Marcus with Tindersupport. How are you I'm doing?
(07:08):
Okay? Can I ask this aboutreal quick? So I'm calling from
our customer support and security breaching department. Before we go further, I have
to ask you a couple of verificationquestions about your account. Okay, okay,
all right, first question, securityquestion you have, give me your
dog's favorite color. My dog's favoritecolor? I think blue. Okay,
(07:30):
that checks out. And then abunch of dog questions here dog's favorite band?
Oh believe one day too for sure? Oh? Absolutely? All right,
brother, welcome in real quick.So I'm just working out. We're
reaching out to some of our topclients, and if I may say this
to you in the DMV area,you are one of our most rights white
(07:53):
profiles for METT. So first ofall, congratulations, see you. Very
exciting. Nice I'm not surprised.Yeah, absolutely, brother, And so
we're just calling to make sure you'regood to go with a couple of things
obviously, you know, if I'mbeing honest, for us, we're a
bit of a meat market and wewant our prime cuts some meat happy on
the app? How long have youbeen on the app? Roughly? Uh?
(08:16):
Yeah, I mean like I've beenon an off of it I'd say
for a year, but like likepretty consistently these last four months. Okay,
and uh that's exciting. And haveyou found the women coming your way
attractive? Medium? Not? What'syour what's your vib right there? I
mean, you know, like likeI'm I'm not too bad to look at,
(08:37):
so I get some pretty pretty hotladies. Sure, and uh,
I don't know, it's it's nice. Oh absolutely, man, I can
only imagine. What's the average amountof meat time? Actually, let me
let me phrase this first. Howmany people have you met off the app
in these months? Like you matchat them and the samn person later on?
I mean I couldn't really tell yournumber, you know, I meant
(08:58):
a players all the time. Thatshut me up. It's hard now I
heard that. And what's the averageamount of time for matching with somebody to
seeing them in person? Uh?Well, I mean, like you know,
I used Tinder to hook up,so, like you know, a
couple of days. Uh, I'mon some other apps, you know,
to try to find like love ifyou will. But I'm not looking too
(09:22):
hard, you know. No,I heard that. So you just so
I understand you're mainly using us forthat quick thing, but you have other
apps for more of the long gamething. Now you're getting it. Yeah,
that's that's how I do. Oh, I get what you're putting down,
brother. Hell yeah, that's that'svery, very exciting. So overall
you're yeah, no, totally,You're you're happy with the app. I
(09:46):
mean yeah, yeah, like youknow, I've met some cool chicks and
had some nice nights with those coolchicks. So yeah, the apps working.
You know. I asked you justif you had a guess how many
girls have you hooked up with thelast couple of months on tender? Just
so I know, God, man, like it's enough that I can't remember,
if you know what I'm saying,like over over five, I mean
(10:09):
I think i'd remember five. Ithink, you know, like like we're
talking double digit shure, Ethan,Are you kidding me? You're doing double
digits in the last couple of months. You're going back to back and I'm
here thinking like, oh, likefour attractive boyfriend is seeing catfish by complete
strangers. I meanwhile, you're outhere like it's like Mike Tysons like punch
(10:33):
out and you're trying to like doas much as you possibly can, Like
what is this? Like? Whoare you? Yeah, Ethan, real
quick, my name is intern John. That's Shelby Soas. That is your
girlfriend, Allen. We're gonna warthe roses on the show. Yeah,
I'm gonna be honest. This mightbe the wildest roses. Yeah. See
(10:54):
you you double dip girls every nightor some nights. No, No,
you guys don't understand like I was. I was joking with this tender guy
like lying piece. You're gonna tryto backtrack now, No, Ethan,
you try to like protect You're notthis smart. You think this is a
problem when people are that attractive.You think that you're in this bubble that
(11:18):
you're just like untouchable and we're alljust like going to kiss your ass and
just like look the other way becauseyou're so good. First of all,
you're good looking, but you're notthis good looking this level. You know
what, there's a bunch of insecuritiesthat you cannot control yourself because you have
to have your cup filled constantly bysome stranger. Who are you? You're
(11:39):
such a piece of beef. Ispent all this wasted on such a loser
who doesn't even care about anybody butthemselves. Like, yes, yeah,
I'm gonna be honest Ethan before youeven start, because the obvious thing to
me was we said this before wecalled you. If those accounts weren't yours,
(12:01):
us said in the beginning. Idon't have Tinder, and we've been
over with no. No, look, look I I actually I do a
little bet with my buddies to seewho get the most matches. I don't
want to show you guys don't playlike video games, play like actual real
life games. Show what guy ina committed relationship then takes that bet with
his buddies and see who gets themost matches on dating app? It's a
(12:24):
game. I mean my guys.I wanted to show him that Tinder can
can work for them, and theywere telling me that he couldn't. And
I just thought it was I couldshow Ethan you're really just you're just the
hero. You're here, Goodmaritan.Now how you get it exactly? And
calling up radio stations on me?That's crazy. I think I think we
(12:46):
have enough here, even you,you and my friend are going down and
war the Roses history. I canpromise you what at least about the crazy
one's calling radio stations. That's agreat world. The Ross is cretacked and
possibly edited broadcast. It's permission grantfrom all participates. One more Roses go
to ymsradio dot com. We loveyour thoughts. War of the Roses on
(13:07):
intern Jhon in your Morning show ninenine, three three eight to text in
Towson, Ashley, good morning,Good morning. You heard War of the
Roses. What you want to say? Oh my gosh, that one is
by far the craziest one of theyear. Wow. I think it might
be out there. Yeah, thankyou so much for listening. To have
a great day. If you wantyou a roses the forms of YMS radio
(13:33):
dot com, it is Internjon inyour morning show, Intern John in your
morning shows, True and iHeartRadio.
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