On this episode of “Tommy Talk,” Tommy is joined by actress Jennifer Love Hewitt to debate all things holidays and New Year’s. Known as “The Holiday Junkie,” Jennifer is the perfect guest to weigh in on some seriously heated topics like: Should Christmas decorations stay up past New Year’s? The Holiday vs. Love Actually? Are New Year’s resolutions worth it? Multicolor lights or white lights? Should we really keep sending family photos every Christmas? It’s the perfect episode to wrap up the holiday season, all while getting a glimpse into our very fun and unhinged friendship.
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Episode Transcript
Hey, guys, welcome to Tommy Talk. And today's topic is
one I am very excited about and I have a
very very special guest with me today. So the topic
is the Great Holiday Debate, and I couldn't not have
the Holiday Junkie aka my best side, Jennifer Love Hewitt
on to debate some things with me. I mean, come on, Hi, Hi,
(00:25):
my love.
Speaker 2 (00:25):
Hi, I'm ready to debate.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Yeah? I've never debated before, but I'm psyched.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Well, we might actually have a lot more in common
than not with the holidays. I guess we'll find out.
We don't really talk about this on our eight hundred
face times a.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Day, No, we don't.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
We don't know. Okay, Well, I feel like you were
the right person when I was thinking of this episode,
because you are the Holiday Junkie and you've been in
a Christmas movie that you wrote and directed and started,
and you have a holiday junkie brand and make cards
and have a Christmas song Christmas Magic. So did you
like all those plugs?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
How was a lot? Thank you? Plug? Plug Plug?
Speaker 1 (00:55):
I got you. I got to what friends are for.
That's what friends are for. I got you. So oh,
and I'm drinking out of my holiday junkie mug.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
So friends up.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Oh wow, thank you for that. Thank you so much.
Moving right along, So I wanted to kick off today
the first debate question. Are you ready? It's a really
heated debate question. Okay, white Christmas lights or color Christmas lights?
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Oh boy, this is a tough one.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I have always been a white Christmas light girl always.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
This year, on one of our trees.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
I went multicolored lights. I went a little vintage with it.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So is that your final answer?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
It wasn't really an answer, was it.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I'm yeah, that's my final answer.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
Okay, So you're going for the multi color lights for.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
This year only?
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Okay, I get it. I love it. You know what
we did that too. We bought a new tree and
it's one of those trees that has the option to
have white, multi color or a blend of both. That's
from Balsam Hill. Love it and we've been kind of
going for the color lights too. It's nostalgia's in and
we all I want to go back to simpler times.
So I like it.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Yes, I wanted to feel like I was in my
grandmother's living room in the seventies. And I also got
a bal some tree and it was yeah, the multicolor,
that's giving like vintage.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
I love it.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I agree. I feel like maybe we should have put
tinsel on our trees, though, same.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
I saw a wreath decorated with tensil, and I was
kind of like, oh, why didn't I do that next year?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
All right, next year? Okay, so we go for color.
We agree on that one. Okay, let's see next one.
When is the right time to start decorating for Christmas?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
In my heart, I want to decorate in March. I
really want to decorate like the day after Thanksgiving or
before Thanksgiving. No, in my heart, I want to decorate
before Thanksgiving. But my daughter's birthday is November twenty sixth,
and she will not let me because her name is Autumn.
And she's like, I can't have the Christmas stuff before
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my birthday party, so she makes me push it back.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
It's not great. You decorate early.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, we do, like first weekend in November, and people say,
I'm sorry, that's so well. People sometimes come for me
and they're like, that's way too early because you totally
blow overfall and Thanksgiving. But I'm sorry, Thanksgiving needs one
day and one.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Day only exactly along.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, what are we doing?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Yes, I know I agree with you.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, I think I'm going to tell Autumn because she
loves you that Uncle Tommy wants to do it early
next year, and we're going to.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
See if that works.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I think it will work. We're on it. Okay, we're
on it. I have a job to do and I
see you next. I got it, I got it. Okay,
next topic, let's go with should a Christmas decor stay
up past the new year?
Speaker 2 (03:35):
No, I'm going to say no. I think I think.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
There's a clearing that happens, and I always do, like
this ceremony on like the first where everything's gone, and
I like open all the doors and I usher in
the new energy of the new year and I let
out the old year, and I want it clean.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I want it like clean, and I want to start fresh.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
You same, I'm like, December twenty sixth, everything sound? Yes,
everything sound, especially because we're traveling this year, and I'm like,
when I come home, I kind of wanted to be clean.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
You want it to be clean.
Speaker 3 (04:11):
I might keep mine up a little bit longer this year,
just because it's kind of been a weird year and
I'm like, okay, let me just stay in the magic
a little bit longer, but definitely by like the first
it's gone and everything's clean and cleared, and I like
looking at the empty space and seeing the possibility of
the new year.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Yes, back when we were far worse than Pottico, I know,
I'm pretty impressed because well and also back when we
had real trees, like literally the real tree would be
on my curve growing up at my mom's house, like
just outside on the twenty six, and people would be like, really.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yeah, yeah, I don't want like a sad tree being
dragged out of the house.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Now this is my sad tree. Oh wow, this is
the second.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
I'm I'm I'm wow. That was great. I used to
see it.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I see it. If I was doing choreo, this would
be a sad tree.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Okay, good, well, we're gonna make that a TikTok trend.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Okay, I got it. Topic, let's see. Mm hmmm, what
do I want to go with? Okay? How about these
are two Christmas movies that people talk about a lot
aside from the holiday junkie, So you know, okay, we're
just going to put that in a special category because
it's untouchable. Untouchable a holiday or love actually, the holiday,
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we are the same.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Yeah, I have to go to the holiday me too, Right,
there's just I mean it's epic.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
First of all. Ju La Hello, you have the jew
law eyes, and I just.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Feel like it's it's just everything I want a rom
com to be like from start to finish, and it
just makes I love. I do love love actually, but
there's a lot of heaviness in love actually, and as
a person who feels grief at the holidays, I do
not want that anymore.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
I just try to like not have that start the season.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Yeah, I agree completely, And I am a Cameron Diaz
ho like I love any movie.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
She's in I know, and I love Kpe and it's
just like everything I know.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
It's so good.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
All right, holiday, we both we need to watch the Holiday?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
We do.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Let's think it and.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Can we get on zoom and watch the holiday together?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
No, I kind of want to do it in person,
so we cuddle and have Margarita's.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
But yet Margarita's it's not a very festive cocktail.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
Oh well, that's what I want right now, I guess
Margarita that's okay.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Okay, a snowman in.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
It, Yeah, okay, cool, as long as it's icing doesn't
affect the tequila. Yeah exactly, Okay, great, Well, speaking of
Christmas drinks, okay, eggnog or hot chocolate.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
I don't really love either. Oh but my husband this
year reconnected with a friend from college, I think, who
has like this two hundred year old recipe for eggnog.
And it's a little boozy and.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I love it. I wasn't expecting it. I've never been
a nag girl, but this year, I'm just saying, yeah,
real good.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Well I would actually agree with you too in saying neither,
but now that you mentioned that if you can make
a version without although like lactose, because then I'll be sick,
I will try that.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Yes, yeah, this is more like this tastes more like
a cocktail with like a tiny little bit of the
nog in it.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
It's not Yeah, if it's noog light, let's say, then
I'm then I'm down. And I'm just not really a
hot chocolate person. I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
I'd rather have a piece of dark.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Chocolate, same same.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, ye, we don't do all this shit.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Chocolate flavored ice cream. Maybe then i'd be down.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Okay, all right, well now I might have to try
the nog. We'll see what a surprise you are gonna
get me drunk again? So I try to ship you
some No, we'll do that next time we hang out. Okay, bye, Yeah,
we'll have to experience it. Moving on, let's see. Oh,
there's so many good ones. Okay, I'm picking my favorites
right now. Should oh, I think this one's a fun one.
Should Christmas Caroling make a comeback?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
One hundred percent? I think so? You do not agree
with that?
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Well, I feel I feel two different ways about it.
One way is I feel like, what if you're stuck
with people who don't sound great and then you have
to be like heay, like this is so fun.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
Well that's probably more more than not.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Not.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Everybody's walking around like Mariah, So I'm assuming that they're
probably not gonna sell.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
But I like the togetherness of it. It's like a
game night, but you like go and say. The thing
that I think is.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
Creepy about that now is like, do we really want
to walk knock on like stranger stores and be.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Like hey god, Mistiemams, Just like, no, we don't want
to help.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
But I feel like if you could do like a
caroling flash mob vibe or it's like set up and
it's a bunch of people and it's just like a
random fun thing to do in like a safe environment,
I would be down.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Okay, all right, So yes no, you say yes. I
say you said.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
No with your face. Okay. So it's our first disagreement.
We're in a fight.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
We're in a big fight. This is going to affect
our relationship now forever. So I'm so sorry. Let's see
if we have any more that we don't agree. On
Christmas Morning or Christmas Eve, well, I.
Speaker 3 (09:23):
Have children, so Christmas Morning there's nothing like it. There's
nothing like it. And usually on Christmas Eve, I have
a shower cry over missing my mom. Oh, it like
hits me like a ton of bricks, and it's every year.
It's just like and I can be fine all day
and then it's that and all of a sudden, I'm done.
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I'm done, and it's like you know, show t it's
like game time, like pre parents. We're like, we gotta
be a week, let's go the big guys.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I don't know why I'm doing that, but we got
to get it together. So yeah, Christmas Day, what about you?
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I'm I'm for me. It's Christmas Eve up, like a
very huge Italian culture. Oh yeah, Christmas is the Seven Fishes.
On Christmas, even my aunt would have a huge party,
and we don't have that anymore. Family, it's all over
and we've lost some families. I just long for the
days when we would have that celebration. So I like,
I like Christmas Eve, but I like it all. I
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like to celebrate at all.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Well that's nice, that's cute.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
Yeah, so that's that's my fishes.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
I've only seen the Seven Fishes on that bare episode.
That was intense.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Oh yeah, yeah, it's it's no joke, but it's delicious.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
It seems like it.
Speaker 1 (10:33):
It's delicious. Okay, two more?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
Okay, how are we doing on time? Are we actually
pulling this off?
Speaker 1 (10:38):
We are at ten minutes and forty seconds, so I'm
squeeze two more out ready?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
New Year's resolutions, Yeah your nay nay?
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Why Because I feel like you start the year putting
pressure on yourself and then by the end of the
year you're hard on yourself for the things that you
didn't do. I like to manifest I like to manifest us,
not resolution.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
M Okay, I would actually agree with you on that.
I think it's Yeah, it's something. Also, I feel like
we should have goals throughout the year and not do
it all at one time.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Yeah, And manifesting feels like positive and up and like
it either happens or it doesn't. But you've put out
a good intention and the resolution thing just feels like
you're just already hard on yourself one percent.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
And I would add manifesting with action. Yes you can't
just like say.
Speaker 2 (11:24):
You can't just be like the moon please.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
Yeah no, no, like we like I like to talk
about it, but I don't want to be like who
well we talked about like you got to like be real. Yeah, okay, good,
we're in alignment. Last question, Oh, which one do I
want to pick? Okay mmmmm mmmmmmm Okay, here's an interesting one.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Family photo Christmas cards a thing of the past or
keep them going?
Speaker 2 (11:49):
We did one this year which was pretty epic. We
don't normally do that.
Speaker 3 (11:54):
Normally we just like throw the kids on a card
or you know, we'll like pick a picture, but we
did them this year, and I think, again, this is
a mom thing. But I think because kids grow up
so fast, it's great to have. It's great to have,
and I feel like I'm sort of on borrow time
because I feel like autumn is pretty soon. It's going
to be like you can rent a daughter for this picture.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
I'm not being in this.
Speaker 3 (12:15):
I'm a teenager, so I'm happy that we did it
this year. Yeah, you did not send me a card.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
We don't do them. We do not do them. But
I love receiving cards from people I love.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
I noticed, but I would also like to receive a card.
So maybe next year you could just make one for me.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Can I send you your card that you make like
the Holiday Junkie cards?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Oh, yeah, you can do that, but I want a
picture of you and Geo.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Okay, I mean you see our faces eight hundred times
a day, but it's my favorite thing.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Have you seen your faces? They're perfect.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Oh you're such a good friend. And I will mention
we are at twelve minutes and fifty seconds.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
So we did it.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Thank you the Holiday Junkie for coming on. Is there
anything you would like to plug before I let you go?
Speaker 2 (12:57):
No, just happy holidays and I love you.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I taught you you better than that.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
You listen to my Christmas Magic song on Spotify. Thank
you so much?
Speaker 1 (13:04):
Thank you? Did I not like? Please? I love you
so much, but you are going to be mad the song?
Are you kidding me? We're going to talk.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
I can't wait to hear all the new people you
have on your podcast in the coming year.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
Well, thank you. You're one of my favorite guests. I
love you so much. I'll talk to you in like
five minutes by okay bye. I've Never Said This Before
is hosted by Me Tommy Dedario. This podcast is executive
produced by Andrew Puglisi at iHeartRadio and by Me Tommy,
with editing by Joshua Colaudney. I've Never Said This Before
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