July 8, 2025 • 16 mins
I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than date a breadcrumber. PLUS: Your dating questions answered!
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Dating questions? Me giving dating advice? Yes, me giving stay
in relationship and choose a good, viable partner for the
long haul. No. Can people give advice that are not
good at the thing themselves? Yes? Did I write a
book called I Suck at Relationships so you don't have to? Yes?
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So can I get a guy? Can I get the
guy bag, the guy bag, the elephant? Yes? Have men
bought me gorgeous gifts and worshiped me and treated me
like a princess and wanted to marry me over and
over and over again. Am I good in bed? Yes?
Doesn't mean I'm an expert. Doesn't mean I'm giving stay
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married for thirty years advice that is not me. You
can ask me, but you'd be a fool. But it
also doesn't mean that a person who can do it themselves,
or hasn't been able to do it themselves, or is
blind when it comes to themselves can't give advice. Thank you,
you're welcome. Is it ever okay to text your ex's
new girlfriend asking for a friend. No, this is psychotic,
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This is sociopath This is insane, This is giving disperado
mental No, how do you know the difference between love
bombing and actual enthusiasm. It's disproportionate to what's going on.
You first meet someone, they're a stranger. After the first date,
they're still a stranger. After the third date, they're an acquaintance.
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Doesn't matter if their penis has been inside your vagina.
You still don't know them. You don't know how they operate, function, morals, values, kids, therapy, money, politics, parents,
where they're going to live, private school or public all
the things. Okay, no, you don't know. So they are
a stranger. So if there is a disproportionate way that
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they are doting on you, assigning to you, you need
to know it. And you could be a love bomber.
You could be a love bomb receiver. You could love
it because you're so needy and desperate and in a
low point and insecure that you just want to absorb it.
But it's not real and it won't work. It has
to be layered in and you have to get to
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a certain age to realize this. So learn from other
people's mistakes, because I've been there, and you want someone
and like them and they're hot and whatever, and it
crashes and it burns because it's not based on reality.
It is frosting, no cake. It is a house with
gorgeous drapes and no foundation. You cannot get to a
trusting place with someone until you get to a trusting
place with someone. So yes, in the beginning, you would
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be infatuated. You could have the oxytocin, you could have
the endorphins going, all of it. But no, it is
not real. You don't need to put twenty five pounds
of shit in a five pound bag and do everything
right away. If a guy says he's emotionally unavailable, he's
not interested in you at this time. You can't change that.
That will not change now. If he met the right person,
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he'd become completely emotionally available. So piece the fuck out,
Do not go for scraps. Do not be a beggar.
You could be in love with him. Keep it to yourself.
Look hot, glow up, do what you gotta do. If
he wants you, he'll find you. Do not waste time.
Do I think ghosting is worse than bread crumbing. No,
ghosting is better than bread crumbing. When he's feeling low
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and he texts you, he knows that you're still there,
right there, nipping at the bottom of the hook to
the little piece of bread because you're a desperado. You
do not tolerate bread crumbing whatsoever. You know what the
ironic thing is, you get bread crumbed, you ghost and
I don't know what coward behavior is. Ghosting is usually
based on something where the guy doesn't owe you anything
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you decided. He owes you something you decided because you
made out with him, because that night was fun, because
you decided to sleep with him with your body and
your choice, which is difficult, so difficult that it's hard
for me to tell my daughter and her friends how
to navigate this in the future because adults have a
problem with it. That being said, just because you did
something doesn't mean someone owes you something. If you've been
dating someone for three months and they don't call you
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one day, they are a sociopath. But ghosting is overused
by people who are sad that someone didn't act the
way that they wanted them to act, based on false
promises when you were drinking, when you were out, when
everyone was feeling the fantasy of we're going to have
this together, We're going to do that. Oh my god,
let's go there, let's go. I want you to meet
my mom we're going to do it. Yes, we should
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go there together. None of it's true. None of it's true.
So you have to wait, You have to be patient,
you have to stick with it, and something can become something,
but you cannot rush what it is. And in the
very beginning, the person is a stranger. And if they
don't call you because they were super nice to you
and pretended they were in love with you, it isn't
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really ghosting. It's the fact that they're a man. It's
the fact that they're immature. It's the fact that they
were feeling it in the moment and they change their
mind the next day. It's the fact that they have
five other things going. It's the fact that they're good
compartmentalizers and they can easily have an affair and with
their wife act like they're madly in love and the
best family guy ever, because they're super charming, and they
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can say to you on a date night out, how
beautiful you look and how they can't wait to get
together with you and have Fourth of July plans and
meet your parents, and then the next day they can
forget you ever existed. They're missing an emotional chip that
we have, so breadcrumbing and ghosting both suck, but know
the definition of both and tolerate none. But ghosting is ghosting.
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It's over. Someone doesn't talk to you, they don't want
to talk to you. Someone wants to talk to you,
they want to talk to you. That's so easy. You
put a pair of shoes on, it doesn't fit, it
gives you blisters, Do not buy it. Toss it to
the side or at your house. You wear them and
it rubs and it hurts. Get rid of it. Somebody
is not acting in a way that's absolutely rational and normal.
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Piece the fuck out, or if you're at a certain point,
you can express yourself on a confident, secure way what
you will or won't tolerate. Let's see what they do.
That's completely mature. That's not immature. Just to sit there
and like wait to see. Oh, but he did, but
he texted me. But he did do that. He brought
me one flower last time, though, so it's weird that
he's not. It's not weird. He could bring you one flower.
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He can also ghost you. None of this is weird.
And also, there are many selfish pieces of shit out there,
so don't assume somebody something that you assign on them.
They could all be pieces of shit. You could be
dating five pieces of shit at the same time. So
dump the pile of shit and hopefully you'll get one
good fish on the line. Men in their fifties are
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they're a different breed of dating. Okay, I've been through
all the errors of dating sadly, but truly, men in
their fifties fit into two categories. Okay, one is bread crumbing.
They bread crumb. They like you, They send messages, they
want penpals. They lob a call, not a call. There's
never a call. They're like infants with calling. They've completely
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lost their entire sense of communication skills because they have
been married, they've been working the corporate ladder. They've had
to deal with their kids and activities and vacations and
the sports and the wife and the this, and like
all they do is just like run on the same
program all the time. They're almost like robots. They're in
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the same whole program, and they don't have any capability
of working to communicate or connect because they've totally disconnected.
Presumably their wives have done everything, handled everything, and they
just really have like disconnected emotionally, so they have no
ability to date and really like connect on any version
of an emotional level. And I've seen this with like
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ten guys. And so they'll send you a text, hey,
how are you doing. You're like, I'm doing great, how
are you? And then you may not hear from them again,
and then there could be like a little back and
forth and then you might see them. But it's like
they literally want pempals and you have to tell them
to get the fuck out of here, and they won't
even notice if you did. They won't even notice if
you ignore them. They won't be like, is everything okay?
Because they're disconnected. They don't care. They're fucking bread crumbers,
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and it's so for the birds. The bread crumbs are
for the birds, okay. But the other men in their
fifties trait and habits being a love bomber. They're insecure
pussies who have also been married and their relationship people.
They need to be in a relationship. So the minute
they meet you, if they like you at all, they
want to chea, pet you and take you to a
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ten and like all of a sudden, you're instant relationship.
But like nothing that's actually gone on has supported that
you're already in a relationship. Like it's like they want
to put the frosting on the cake when there's no cake.
They want to put the drapes on the house when
there's no foundation to the house. Like what are you doing?
Why are you facetiming met after us meeting one night
and connecting? Like why are you facetiming me with no clothes?
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Why are you sending me a picture of yourself every day?
And why are you sending me pictures of your kids?
Why you saying high beautiful be Why are you saying
how gorgeous my eyes are? I don't fucking know you.
You're a stranger and you're freaking me out. And the
ick is at a twenty and the bread crumb is ick. Also,
it's just a different The bread crumb is fuck you,
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the love bomb is dick. I don't care. I'd rather
be single for the rest of my life than date
a breadcrumber or a pen pallor get out of here.
So the other thing about Lauren and Jeff Bezos as
far as dating, is like he who makes the gold,
makes the rules, he's running the program, like he's the
one who has the public company, the hundreds of billions
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of dollars. And while a woman having a certain amount
of power in a relationship and holding in many cases
the sexual bank account, the relationship to a big billionaire,
powerhouse guy has to be I've spoken to enough people
about this has to be that the woman has made
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him her king. It's really his program. There are some
categories that she gets to be in charge of, but
ultimately he's the king. He's in charge. Don't fucking forget
it for a minute, okay, And you have to sort
of be in that role. There is a role that
you're performing in because he's the big swinging dick and
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she has to travel with him, be there, support him,
treat him like a king, and that has to be
something that would be okay with you. And I don't
think that I would be good at that. You know,
I would not be good at being a member of
the royal family. I would not be good at being
with a billionaire type that like has to be in
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control and it's his program and we're like just traveling
around and my kids have to get on the program
and I just have to like do what he wants
me to do, and not in a controlling way. He
could be a lovely, wonderful person. It could be the
greatest life of all time, and it could be the
best program ever, by the way, But you know, the
best program, ladies, is our own and you make your
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own money and you get to make your own rules.
So that's just something that I've noticed in these types
of dynamics. In meeting enough sports team owners wives, in
meeting enough billionaires wives, they all tell me there are
many rules that they really need to abide by because
of the public nature of their husband's businesses, and they
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can't just say what they want. They're not allowed to
be outspoken. They kind of have to play by a
rule book, a playbook, and I don't think that I'd
be very good at that. So the other day I
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did a post about men in their fifties, basically saying
that they are the worst era to date. And I've
been through all the eras except for like the ninety
eighty and seventy or one hundred. But the fifties, men
have been married, have made a little dough, have a job,
a career, have like I said, some money, work out,
they've had a glow up like Jeff Bezos adjacent. They
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might have a sports car, they have children. They've been
used to being married and planning trips and transacting and
being doctor hero by going in the morning to the
sports practices or going on the weekend to the club volleyball.
And they think they're mister Dad, et cetera, because they're
good dads and they're very involved dads. But their wives
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have done mostly everything in the relationship and taken care
of most things, and the men have been in like
the Austin Powers freezer. They've been frozen in time and
they have no ability to emotionally connect. So they want
a fucking pen pal. So they lob in these texts,
how's your day, how's it going, love to see you,
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want to get together, blah blah blah. But then you
either get together or you're just texting with them, and
they want a fucking pen pal. They lobbed the call.
You respond in a very normal way like I'm doing great,
how are you? And then you could like not from
them for a couple of hours, or you could go
out with them and not hear from them for a
couple of days. And I had shown my friend like
ten examples of this, like ten examples of very engaged,
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interested people in their fifties that just check the fuck
out and dissolve like a balloon floating, and they think
that we think they're hot shot cool. Like it's one
thing if you're like a bro in your thirties doing that,
and that's different, Like you're kind of sleeping with a
girl and you get drunk and you have fun and
like you're that dick. But like being your fifties, people
are like, are you an infant? Do you suck your thumb?
You fucking loser, Like we think they're the biggest losers.
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And after I posted a post about this, women like
and women on TV and famous women and normal women
and men and famous men and men that I know
and men that I've dated, reached out in droves, Like
I got so many texts like wait, I think this
is me? Or is this me? Or I'm not like that?
Such defensiveness. One man, Hey, how you doing? Are you
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in X City? And I'm like, no, I'm not, How
are you anyway? Are you texting me as a single
man or a merryman? Dissolve Like there's that too, that's
the scumbag adjacent version, But like these guys are losers
and they think we think they're cool. And the guy
that sent it to me and said he thought it
was him, who is like a good looking guy and
his successful guy. I said to him, no, we don't
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think you're cool. We think you're losers, and we want
to piece the fuck out. And we also only tolerate
it for a certain period of time because we're bored too,
and we're like not dealing with it. But the minute
we realize or we have something better, we're piecing the
fuck out because we think you're losers also, And you
are hanging out with those girls who are dangling there
waiting for a Chanelle bag. You don't even realize that
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you don't respect those women. How could you respect a
woman who's willing to accept a pen pal? Like? What
do better? I guarantee Laurence Sanchez didn't accept a pen pal.
And the other one is a love bomber. That's the
other needy motherfucker that's in their fifties. It's the opposite.
That's the guy who also has been in a relationship
and been married and is sucking his thumb and so
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needy because he can't be alone for a minute. Someone
has dealt with everything for him and whether he was
cheating or not. He liked the feeling of just having
someone for the holidays when he felt low. When you know,
it's the scraps, it's the Sunday night, it's after the
golf game, it's after he's dehydra he doesn't feel well,
he's played golf and he wants someone to cook him
a meal, or he's hung over and he just wants
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to lay in bed and like treat his wife nicely,
or it's the vacation, or like I said, you know
that shit. That guy then clings on to the next
person in a disproportionate way to what's going on. That's
the guy that will look just out of nowhere just
FaceTime you when you didn't even like agree to, like, Hi,
I'm facetiming you now, would you like to FaceTime someone
just lobbing in a facetiming you out of your fucking mind,
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you sociopath. Or they're sending you pictures of them like
shirtless pictures are in a bathing suit, or pictures of
their kids when you basically don't even know them. You're like,
you're a love bomber weirdo. That's strange too. We don't
trust that you're so beautiful you're stunning, or like, what
do you have a fever you coming town with like
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fucking bird flu. Relax, I'm a woman over fifty. Like,
I'm not stunning. Take it easy. I look pretty good,
but relax with the fucking staggeringly stunning
Dating questions? Me giving dating advice? Yes, me giving stay
in relationship and choose a good, viable partner for the
long haul. No. Can people give advice that are not
good at the thing themselves? Yes? Did I write a
book called I Suck at Relationships so you don't have to? Yes?
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So can I get a guy? Can I get the
guy bag, the guy bag, the elephant? Yes? Have men
bought me gorgeous gifts and worshiped me and treated me
like a princess and wanted to marry me over and
over and over again. Am I good in bed? Yes?
Doesn't mean I'm an expert. Doesn't mean I'm giving stay
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married for thirty years advice that is not me. You
can ask me, but you'd be a fool. But it
also doesn't mean that a person who can do it themselves,
or hasn't been able to do it themselves, or is
blind when it comes to themselves can't give advice. Thank you,
you're welcome. Is it ever okay to text your ex's
new girlfriend asking for a friend. No, this is psychotic,
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This is sociopath This is insane, This is giving disperado
mental No, how do you know the difference between love
bombing and actual enthusiasm. It's disproportionate to what's going on.
You first meet someone, they're a stranger. After the first date,
they're still a stranger. After the third date, they're an acquaintance.
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Doesn't matter if their penis has been inside your vagina.
You still don't know them. You don't know how they operate, function, morals, values, kids, therapy, money, politics, parents,
where they're going to live, private school or public all
the things. Okay, no, you don't know. So they are
a stranger. So if there is a disproportionate way that
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they are doting on you, assigning to you, you need
to know it. And you could be a love bomber.
You could be a love bomb receiver. You could love
it because you're so needy and desperate and in a
low point and insecure that you just want to absorb it.
But it's not real and it won't work. It has
to be layered in and you have to get to
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a certain age to realize this. So learn from other
people's mistakes, because I've been there, and you want someone
and like them and they're hot and whatever, and it
crashes and it burns because it's not based on reality.
It is frosting, no cake. It is a house with
gorgeous drapes and no foundation. You cannot get to a
trusting place with someone until you get to a trusting
place with someone. So yes, in the beginning, you would
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be infatuated. You could have the oxytocin, you could have
the endorphins going, all of it. But no, it is
not real. You don't need to put twenty five pounds
of shit in a five pound bag and do everything
right away. If a guy says he's emotionally unavailable, he's
not interested in you at this time. You can't change that.
That will not change now. If he met the right person,
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he'd become completely emotionally available. So piece the fuck out,
Do not go for scraps. Do not be a beggar.
You could be in love with him. Keep it to yourself.
Look hot, glow up, do what you gotta do. If
he wants you, he'll find you. Do not waste time.
Do I think ghosting is worse than bread crumbing. No,
ghosting is better than bread crumbing. When he's feeling low
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and he texts you, he knows that you're still there,
right there, nipping at the bottom of the hook to
the little piece of bread because you're a desperado. You
do not tolerate bread crumbing whatsoever. You know what the
ironic thing is, you get bread crumbed, you ghost and
I don't know what coward behavior is. Ghosting is usually
based on something where the guy doesn't owe you anything
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you decided. He owes you something you decided because you
made out with him, because that night was fun, because
you decided to sleep with him with your body and
your choice, which is difficult, so difficult that it's hard
for me to tell my daughter and her friends how
to navigate this in the future because adults have a
problem with it. That being said, just because you did
something doesn't mean someone owes you something. If you've been
dating someone for three months and they don't call you
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one day, they are a sociopath. But ghosting is overused
by people who are sad that someone didn't act the
way that they wanted them to act, based on false
promises when you were drinking, when you were out, when
everyone was feeling the fantasy of we're going to have
this together, We're going to do that. Oh my god,
let's go there, let's go. I want you to meet
my mom we're going to do it. Yes, we should
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go there together. None of it's true. None of it's true.
So you have to wait, You have to be patient,
you have to stick with it, and something can become something,
but you cannot rush what it is. And in the
very beginning, the person is a stranger. And if they
don't call you because they were super nice to you
and pretended they were in love with you, it isn't
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really ghosting. It's the fact that they're a man. It's
the fact that they're immature. It's the fact that they
were feeling it in the moment and they change their
mind the next day. It's the fact that they have
five other things going. It's the fact that they're good
compartmentalizers and they can easily have an affair and with
their wife act like they're madly in love and the
best family guy ever, because they're super charming, and they
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can say to you on a date night out, how
beautiful you look and how they can't wait to get
together with you and have Fourth of July plans and
meet your parents, and then the next day they can
forget you ever existed. They're missing an emotional chip that
we have, so breadcrumbing and ghosting both suck, but know
the definition of both and tolerate none. But ghosting is ghosting.
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It's over. Someone doesn't talk to you, they don't want
to talk to you. Someone wants to talk to you,
they want to talk to you. That's so easy. You
put a pair of shoes on, it doesn't fit, it
gives you blisters, Do not buy it. Toss it to
the side or at your house. You wear them and
it rubs and it hurts. Get rid of it. Somebody
is not acting in a way that's absolutely rational and normal.
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Piece the fuck out, or if you're at a certain point,
you can express yourself on a confident, secure way what
you will or won't tolerate. Let's see what they do.
That's completely mature. That's not immature. Just to sit there
and like wait to see. Oh, but he did, but
he texted me. But he did do that. He brought
me one flower last time, though, so it's weird that
he's not. It's not weird. He could bring you one flower.
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He can also ghost you. None of this is weird.
And also, there are many selfish pieces of shit out there,
so don't assume somebody something that you assign on them.
They could all be pieces of shit. You could be
dating five pieces of shit at the same time. So
dump the pile of shit and hopefully you'll get one
good fish on the line. Men in their fifties are
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they're a different breed of dating. Okay, I've been through
all the errors of dating sadly, but truly, men in
their fifties fit into two categories. Okay, one is bread crumbing.
They bread crumb. They like you, They send messages, they
want penpals. They lob a call, not a call. There's
never a call. They're like infants with calling. They've completely
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lost their entire sense of communication skills because they have
been married, they've been working the corporate ladder. They've had
to deal with their kids and activities and vacations and
the sports and the wife and the this, and like
all they do is just like run on the same
program all the time. They're almost like robots. They're in
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the same whole program, and they don't have any capability
of working to communicate or connect because they've totally disconnected.
Presumably their wives have done everything, handled everything, and they
just really have like disconnected emotionally, so they have no
ability to date and really like connect on any version
of an emotional level. And I've seen this with like
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ten guys. And so they'll send you a text, hey,
how are you doing. You're like, I'm doing great, how
are you? And then you may not hear from them again,
and then there could be like a little back and
forth and then you might see them. But it's like
they literally want pempals and you have to tell them
to get the fuck out of here, and they won't
even notice if you did. They won't even notice if
you ignore them. They won't be like, is everything okay?
Because they're disconnected. They don't care. They're fucking bread crumbers,
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and it's so for the birds. The bread crumbs are
for the birds, okay. But the other men in their
fifties trait and habits being a love bomber. They're insecure
pussies who have also been married and their relationship people.
They need to be in a relationship. So the minute
they meet you, if they like you at all, they
want to chea, pet you and take you to a
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ten and like all of a sudden, you're instant relationship.
But like nothing that's actually gone on has supported that
you're already in a relationship. Like it's like they want
to put the frosting on the cake when there's no cake.
They want to put the drapes on the house when
there's no foundation to the house. Like what are you doing?
Why are you facetiming met after us meeting one night
and connecting? Like why are you facetiming me with no clothes?
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Why are you sending me a picture of yourself every day?
And why are you sending me pictures of your kids?
Why you saying high beautiful be Why are you saying
how gorgeous my eyes are? I don't fucking know you.
You're a stranger and you're freaking me out. And the
ick is at a twenty and the bread crumb is ick. Also,
it's just a different The bread crumb is fuck you,
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the love bomb is dick. I don't care. I'd rather
be single for the rest of my life than date
a breadcrumber or a pen pallor get out of here.
So the other thing about Lauren and Jeff Bezos as
far as dating, is like he who makes the gold,
makes the rules, he's running the program, like he's the
one who has the public company, the hundreds of billions
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of dollars. And while a woman having a certain amount
of power in a relationship and holding in many cases
the sexual bank account, the relationship to a big billionaire,
powerhouse guy has to be I've spoken to enough people
about this has to be that the woman has made
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him her king. It's really his program. There are some
categories that she gets to be in charge of, but
ultimately he's the king. He's in charge. Don't fucking forget
it for a minute, okay, And you have to sort
of be in that role. There is a role that
you're performing in because he's the big swinging dick and
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she has to travel with him, be there, support him,
treat him like a king, and that has to be
something that would be okay with you. And I don't
think that I would be good at that. You know,
I would not be good at being a member of
the royal family. I would not be good at being
with a billionaire type that like has to be in
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control and it's his program and we're like just traveling
around and my kids have to get on the program
and I just have to like do what he wants
me to do, and not in a controlling way. He
could be a lovely, wonderful person. It could be the
greatest life of all time, and it could be the
best program ever, by the way, But you know, the
best program, ladies, is our own and you make your
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own money and you get to make your own rules.
So that's just something that I've noticed in these types
of dynamics. In meeting enough sports team owners wives, in
meeting enough billionaires wives, they all tell me there are
many rules that they really need to abide by because
of the public nature of their husband's businesses, and they
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can't just say what they want. They're not allowed to
be outspoken. They kind of have to play by a
rule book, a playbook, and I don't think that I'd
be very good at that. So the other day I
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did a post about men in their fifties, basically saying
that they are the worst era to date. And I've
been through all the eras except for like the ninety
eighty and seventy or one hundred. But the fifties, men
have been married, have made a little dough, have a job,
a career, have like I said, some money, work out,
they've had a glow up like Jeff Bezos adjacent. They
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might have a sports car, they have children. They've been
used to being married and planning trips and transacting and
being doctor hero by going in the morning to the
sports practices or going on the weekend to the club volleyball.
And they think they're mister Dad, et cetera, because they're
good dads and they're very involved dads. But their wives
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have done mostly everything in the relationship and taken care
of most things, and the men have been in like
the Austin Powers freezer. They've been frozen in time and
they have no ability to emotionally connect. So they want
a fucking pen pal. So they lob in these texts,
how's your day, how's it going, love to see you,
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want to get together, blah blah blah. But then you
either get together or you're just texting with them, and
they want a fucking pen pal. They lobbed the call.
You respond in a very normal way like I'm doing great,
how are you? And then you could like not from
them for a couple of hours, or you could go
out with them and not hear from them for a
couple of days. And I had shown my friend like
ten examples of this, like ten examples of very engaged,
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interested people in their fifties that just check the fuck
out and dissolve like a balloon floating, and they think
that we think they're hot shot cool. Like it's one
thing if you're like a bro in your thirties doing that,
and that's different, Like you're kind of sleeping with a
girl and you get drunk and you have fun and
like you're that dick. But like being your fifties, people
are like, are you an infant? Do you suck your thumb?
You fucking loser, Like we think they're the biggest losers.
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And after I posted a post about this, women like
and women on TV and famous women and normal women
and men and famous men and men that I know
and men that I've dated, reached out in droves, Like
I got so many texts like wait, I think this
is me? Or is this me? Or I'm not like that?
Such defensiveness. One man, Hey, how you doing? Are you
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in X City? And I'm like, no, I'm not, How
are you anyway? Are you texting me as a single
man or a merryman? Dissolve Like there's that too, that's
the scumbag adjacent version, But like these guys are losers
and they think we think they're cool. And the guy
that sent it to me and said he thought it
was him, who is like a good looking guy and
his successful guy. I said to him, no, we don't
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think you're cool. We think you're losers, and we want
to piece the fuck out. And we also only tolerate
it for a certain period of time because we're bored too,
and we're like not dealing with it. But the minute
we realize or we have something better, we're piecing the
fuck out because we think you're losers also, And you
are hanging out with those girls who are dangling there
waiting for a Chanelle bag. You don't even realize that
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you don't respect those women. How could you respect a
woman who's willing to accept a pen pal? Like? What
do better? I guarantee Laurence Sanchez didn't accept a pen pal.
And the other one is a love bomber. That's the
other needy motherfucker that's in their fifties. It's the opposite.
That's the guy who also has been in a relationship
and been married and is sucking his thumb and so
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needy because he can't be alone for a minute. Someone
has dealt with everything for him and whether he was
cheating or not. He liked the feeling of just having
someone for the holidays when he felt low. When you know,
it's the scraps, it's the Sunday night, it's after the
golf game, it's after he's dehydra he doesn't feel well,
he's played golf and he wants someone to cook him
a meal, or he's hung over and he just wants
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to lay in bed and like treat his wife nicely,
or it's the vacation, or like I said, you know
that shit. That guy then clings on to the next
person in a disproportionate way to what's going on. That's
the guy that will look just out of nowhere just
FaceTime you when you didn't even like agree to, like, Hi,
I'm facetiming you now, would you like to FaceTime someone
just lobbing in a facetiming you out of your fucking mind,
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you sociopath. Or they're sending you pictures of them like
shirtless pictures are in a bathing suit, or pictures of
their kids when you basically don't even know them. You're like,
you're a love bomber weirdo. That's strange too. We don't
trust that you're so beautiful you're stunning, or like, what
do you have a fever you coming town with like
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fucking bird flu. Relax, I'm a woman over fifty. Like,
I'm not stunning. Take it easy. I look pretty good,
but relax with the fucking staggeringly stunning
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