Just B: Dating Differently

The Core invites you to open your heart. Good intentions, good outcomes.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:12):
Okay, So there are questions about the core. It is
not an app like Tinder or Raya. Will it eventually
be an app? I'm not entirely sure, not because we
don't have the tech to do it. In fact, we
do have what they call white label tech that we
can do it, because I won't go mass and gen
pop unless I can control the quality. Raya seemed very

(00:37):
exclusive in the beginning, just like the Soho House, and
then it took a turn. Tinder I've never been on.
I don't think bumble I took a turn. All of
them are down, crashing, plummeting, frustrating, dismaying. People just don't
like the process. It's dissatisfying because these apps are designed

(00:57):
to keep you on. Now, I, because I have a
brand and a name, and I have a big community
of thousands of people on the wait list, could I
just open the door, let them all in, take all
their money, make millions of dollars right now, and fucking
churn and burn, smash and grab. Yes, I will not

(01:17):
do that because the very reason that I did this
to begin with was because of the fraudulents in matchmaking. Again,
another person I spoke to yesterday, every person I speak
to as any experience of matchmakers, says the same thing.
I mean, it's unbelievable. I've heard it across the board.
So that's why I started this. And I have a
different model, a very different model than anyone who knows

(01:41):
anything about the space or any tech giant has said.
This is the best idea I've heard. It is amazing,
and I'm not sharing how it works. I shared some
things about it, but I won't share how it works,
and even if it was an app, I wouldn't share
how it was working. But I am being transparent and
telling people that the launch was accelerated by the media attention,

(02:04):
that the people inside are so happy, and that we
now have more couples that are like not just dating.
People have been seriously dating for a while here in love,
in love like could get married, engaged, which is not
the goal. My only goal is three dates or more,
that you are happy and you're enjoying it, that on
the first date you met someone that was an interesting person,

(02:24):
whether for you or not for you, that you are
across the table or whatever you're doing saying I totally
understand why I was set up with this person, and
this is what I was promised. Okay, I cannot promise
marriage or wanting to have sex. But there are people
in here who are in love, and everyone who's in
here is happy and satisfied and loving it. And we
are turning people away and not taking people's money if

(02:47):
we cannot help them. So thank you for being patient.
And there are statistics about our community that I cannot
share that are lapping the other brands, like the engaged
audience that we have for a number of reasons, statistically
is so much more high quality and what advertisers want.

(03:11):
And there are reasons why I'm not going to disclose
what that data is exactly. Maybe I will at some
point to the media or if I did take on investors.
I have a bunch of people who are asking to invest.
I have celebrities who have asked to invest. I have
celebrities in here now. Some are applying, some we are
taking their money because we can help them who are

(03:31):
loving it. Like this is really amazing, And I honestly
cannot tell you where it's going and what I'm doing.
I only say that every day I like it better
than the day before. I learn more every day than
the day before, and I keep going as long as
it can be quality. And the people that are working
with me on it, I keep just saying to them,
just protect the realm, preserve the culture, and do not
take on more than you can handle. Like that's it.

(03:51):
All you have to do is have a quality product
for the people that you are saying yes to. And
one person, I just said, give them their money back
because I don't that we can help them. And I
that's the opposite of matchmakers and even these apps. They
get your money and they never fucking give it back. Terrible.
You can't even know who can join, people who can join, okay,

(04:12):
so if you are already a member, and it's literally
we say if you know, you know, so you have
to find someone who's a member. Word of mouth. It's
out there and people are enjoying it. And it's now
in bigger markets like more in New York, Florida, La, Chicago,
with exceptions like there are some Assmen, some Texas, et cetera.
And now we're starting to discuss the gay community and

(04:35):
who we're servicing. But it's all. You cannot get in
unless you're vetted. So the easiest way to get in
is have a member refer you. You have to be vetted,
but you can otherwise get in if you come through
and then you are approved and vetted. But you must
be vetted. And what does it mean? What is the process?
It means you have to be a good person, have

(04:56):
a good reputation, not have big red flags, not have
criminal record, not have a bunch of judgments against you,
not have people trashing you, not that we're just listening
to gossip if someone's trashing you, but that basically you're
not a red flag, and that you don't have a
bad reputation for being sleazy or being a gold digger

(05:18):
or ghosting people or dating people drastically younger, or a
serial cheater or whatever it is. You know, and guess what.
It's a membership. We can decide. So I don't care
what you think of that. That's what it is. And
we're airing on the side of strictness. There have been
people in here that any matchmaker would take their money

(05:38):
in a second, the richest of the rich, and we've
said no. Like I said, a multi generational billionaire came
in and we ended up finding out who their name
was because I'm not going to tell you how. But
they didn't give us their name. They thought that just
being a multi generational billionaire and that if we accepted
them then they would tell us who they were. And
we were like, no, no, no, we can't accept You

(05:58):
have to tell us who you are, because being a
multi generational billionaire doesn't do anything for us. If you're
not a good person, doesn't matter to us at all. Listen,
multi generational billionaires do sleazy, bad things too, So you
have to be a good person that contributes to society.
You have to be willing to work in this community,
to not only want to help yourself, to find someone

(06:21):
and work for it, but also want everyone else to
win and not be a gatekeeper and to help other people.

(06:42):
The pricing is in the thousands. It started off lower
with different tiers, but the demand is so insane to
be honest with you, and the quality of people and
the attention and the cure that each person is getting
who wants to be part of it, the price is

(07:05):
going to increase. In twenty twenty six. We've already had
to make some changes because we have to be able
to really take care of the people that we do accept.
And no, not everybody will be accepted for now, but
we are working on a tech solution to connect people
with each other. There's no gatekeeping here. We want everyone
to know each other. You go work with a matchmaker,

(07:26):
you're kicked out. You go someone, you're kicked out. You
are sleazy, you're kicked out like you cancel dates, You're
kicked out like We don't care. So we want people
to be connected to each other. And I'm thinking about
planning an event. How is it different from matchmaking services?
You couldn't even compare the two. It's different because it's honest,
because it has integrity, because it's transparent, because it's intentional,

(07:48):
because it's not taking people's money and holding them up
a gunpoint and then setting them up with people that
they would never ever want to be in a relationship with.
Just to check a box. All right. So I've been
dating and I've been seeing one person more than others.
And I bring this up because this has been happening

(08:09):
for several months and people have been asking me if
I'm dating within the core And one person said in
a comment, Oh, I'm not going to join because Bethany's
going to take all the men for herself, which is
hilarious because we have thousands of people on a wait list,
So me taking all the men for myself, I don't

(08:30):
know what kind of horrorhouse i'd be running, but I
would be exhausted and god willing. But women who think
like that are the women who aren't going to meet
someone because they don't understand how it works and they're
not open. And people will say, like, why, wait, she's single,
what does she know? I've said it many times, and
I'm saying, if this is ten thousandth time, I've never
had a problem meeting men, dating men, being desirable, getting

(08:52):
proposed to. It is me staying in relationship. And we
could do ten podcasts on that. But this is a
podcast not about me. It's more about you, and I'll
tell my stories, but ultimately, if I'm here just to
service myself, then what a disaster? Okay, So basically, anyone

(09:12):
who thinks like that doesn't understand that two women who
look identical, that are the same age, that live on
the same block want completely different things. Okay, completely different things.
It's not about how many bags you can be bought
and how many dates you can go on and how
rich he is and if he's a doctor, it's about nuance.
It's about what you like to do. It's about how

(09:33):
you fundamentally were raised. It's about how many kids you
want to have. It's about religion and food taste and
travel desires and sexual appetite and chemistry and astrological signs
and personality types and attachment styles and ten thousand things.

(09:53):
So whoever I'm interested in is a snowflake unlike no
other and no dynamic but between two people is going
to be the same as a dynamic with another person.
People are not interchangeable, and that is why the core
is different. Because apps keeps showing you the same guys
as if you didn't already say, I don't want to
fucking see that guy. I've seeing that guy a thousand times.

(10:14):
I don't want to see him because he's not right
for me. I don't feel it, I don't vibe it.
I don't like the twinkle that's not in his eyes.
I don't like someone who likes to sail or fish
or pottery whatever. So no, I will not be taking
all of the men for myself. In fact, I'm not
the one vetting the men like I definitely have an input,

(10:34):
and I'm discussing it and I'm talking about concepts, but
I'm not seeing all the people that are coming in.
I'm trying to build a community and a business that,
by the way, incidentally, not so incidentally, I am funding myself.
And I mean this will be millions of dollars and
I've never once put in more than a couple of
hundred thousand dollars in anything. And it is scary, Okay,

(10:55):
it is scary to go all in. And no one
around me has ever seen me as excited about something
as this, which is why I'm all in. But it's
not for the faint of heart. So yes, no, this
is not a dating community that will be funded by
millions of dollars for myself. Okay, that's insane and ridiculous.
And I have been seeing someone, and I have been

(11:19):
seeing someone that I've known for a long time that,
to be perfectly honest, I would never have agreed to
go out with in this modern day if it weren't
for the core because the core dating concept, which I
can't get into full detail about, is about advocating for yourself,
being intentional, being transparent, and being proactive about meeting someone

(11:41):
and helping other people to meet someone too. And it
means that you're just more open. It means that you're
just at a point where you don't think there's perfect
where you can't just judge the way someone looks dresses
is manscaped, isn't manscaped, if they paid, if they didn't,
if they seem cheap, if they send flowers, if they didn't.
All the time snap judgments that everybody makes, you can't

(12:02):
make a snap judgment for something that is such an
important part of your life. Something could turn you off
so badly that it can never be turned back on,
like treating staff poorly or being mean to your mother
or something. But by and large, you have to chill
because you just don't know. And when you're more mature,
you realize what business is about and that things come

(12:23):
in unexpected packages and don't be entitled. Be open. So
I'm dating someone as a result of being open, and

(12:43):
I'm also not rushing the outcome, which I've always done
as a result of this community and being open, because
that's the point. The point is we're doing it differently
this time, and I'm doing it differently this time, you know,
And also to be careful what you're coming in with,
like Rebound is a serious thing. If you're coming out
of a relationship, don't come in and clutter up your

(13:06):
shit here. Don't come in with your bag of emotional
bullshit that you thought you were over and now you're
walking in here with a fucking carry on suitcase that
has bricks in it, and no one can win. And
we've all done it. We've all thought we were over
the ax like kind of make sure you're over the ex.
Don't come in here with a bag of bullshit. Okay,

(13:27):
because I tread lightly when I'm dating. There is a
person in my life who I care about and love
more than I've ever loved anyone, and I'm not always
sure what I'm capable of as a result of that.
You know, circumstances in life have made it that we
all enter and exit different relationships. And I'm not looking

(13:50):
to dump my bag of garbage on someone else. I'm
not looking to make someone think that I'm going to
spend the rest of my life with them or commit
to them until I'm fully right. And I did come
out of a nine month hiatus, and I'm not sure
exactly what I'm looking for, So that's why I'm not
actively pushing a dating community. But trust and believe this.

(14:13):
If there was a man in this community that myself
or someone else working in this community thought was right
for me, yeah, bet your fucking ask I'm gonna go
out with him. And if we fall in love with
each other, you should be happy for me, just like
I would be happy for you, because those are the
people in this community. All boats rise with the tide.
You meet a handsome, good looking, wealthy guy, but you

(14:33):
know that he doesn't want someone with three kids and
you have three kids. You pass him along before you
even fuck around and find out because he's not gonna
want you. You're not gonna be happy. You're wasting time.
So what this community is about, it doesn't matter if
you're in here or not. The advice remains the same.
Don't waste your time, don't waste other people's time. Want

(14:53):
everybody else to win. In relationships, that's how you win,
and that is how it really is in business too.
You should be cheering on other people. It's not about
bullshit like faux female empowerment. It's people empowerment. It's let's
all go. Another thing I want to say this time
of year, this is the holiday season. Okay, I'm a
big gift giver. You know this. I give out. I
probably did two hundred and fifty gifts this year, which

(15:15):
I do every year, and I say I'm not going
to do it, and then I always do it. I
love it, I do it. Then it comes to the bonuses. Okay,
if you can afford anything, you do it. If your
people are working for you and working hard, you do
it where it makes you uncomfortable. I give a bonus
yesterday that is double what the person would have asked for,
and I felt uncomfortable because I've never given a bonus

(15:36):
like that to anyone in my life. I've never thought
I could even be capable of giving a bonus that big.
But I did it, and I did it a bunch
of times because you give. It's the time to do that.
If you could do it, give a little more. It's
like you're in a taxi. You're tipping. Don't give one dollar,
give give a real tip. If you could afford to
do it, you give a real tip. If you get

(15:57):
your hair done over tip. People are what make the
world go around. And it's a dying breed and a
dying art, and everything's automated and not connected. And it's
actually why the Corps is doing so well. People want connection.
But so for me taking care of people, I'm very
I work people hard. I am fair, but I am tough.
I want people to excel. People make me a lot

(16:19):
of money, and you know what, I want to make
them a lot of money. Okay. The people that work
for me make ten times more than I made at
their age in many cases. But you know what, good
good They understood the assignment, they got it, they're here,
they're loyal. They deal with a person who's very type,
a very fast paced, very perfectionist. Whoever's making you money,
you give them a big gift and you pay them

(16:42):
money too. You pay them a good bonus. That's all
I'm saying to you. More than you want to, more
than you're comfortable. It's not going to make a difference
in your life. It's going to make a big difference
in theirs. And the truth is it's gonna make a
big difference in your life because they're going to work
harder for you. But that is not the reason to
do it. Got back to the past, back to back

(17:11):
to the past, back to the coas