December 19, 2025 • 19 mins
The Core has had some very interesting applicants. *Cough * Matchmakers!
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Speaker 1 (00:12):
So I launched my dating community called the Core. And
let's talk about any backlash, any positivity, Let's talk about
highs and lows.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Let's talk about all of it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Oh, I have Tea, I have dating TA, I have
the Core, my new dating environment T and it's good
tea and it's happy tea and it's proof of concept T.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And it's quality tea.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yesterday alone, two matchmakers like current Active, working for known
matchmaking businesses or owning matchmaking businesses have come to apply
to pay and to join the Core for us to
(01:04):
set them up. A part of me thought, oh, they
want to take part of our inventory. We're transparent, we
don't really care. You can't take anybody. Nobody here is
leaving anyway. And we wouldn't set you up with fifty
people because we're not a chop shop, like a matchmaker
that just wants to throw spaghetti against the wall to
check the box and get the credit. We would maybe
set you up with one person in a matter of months,
but we literally have set people up with one person
(01:27):
and they have fallen in love with that person. So
they're not going to get a lot of clients from
us because no one's leaving but anyway, matchmakers are coming
to sign up for the Core. Yes and yes, matchmakers
have been calling us to apply, to pay and to
join the Core to find their life partners.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
You are so welcome.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
In addition, the head of marketing for one of the
big dating apps has come to the Core to ask
us to set them up. Microphone, how do I drop
this microphone? How do I drop? How do I drop
the mic? Like?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Drop the mic?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
People at the massive major apps A are coming for
us to set them up with their life partners, and
B we've been hiring. We won't hire any matchmakers to
work for us because we do not match make, we connect.
We are hiring people who are intuitive, smart, well connected
and have the same goals as we do and align
(02:27):
with the culture here which will not be compromised for
any amount of money.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
And ten percent of.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
The people in my community have asked me to invest
because they're so obsessed and there's not a number you
could pay me to sacrifice the quality here, and believe me,
it's been offered.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
It's been offered. So that's that.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
But people that work at the big apps are trying
to work for us or asking us to set them
up to connect them. I kid you not. I swear
to God on everything I hope to be. I won't
swear on furree or family members. But I'm just telling
you I could because it's true.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Dead. That is fucking hot piping tea. Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I launched the Core dating community, which has a membership
application and there are different tiers starting with fifty dollars
to be part of the overall community, which will eventually
not right now. That's why we're not charging right now.
Have offers and access in the way that my site,
the List, which is a gift site, basically gives you
(03:33):
different offers on everything from home to decor, to clothing
to food, et cetera. So the Core launched and it
has multiple tiers which are astronomically underpriced compared to what
the comps are in the dating community. For what you're getting,
(03:54):
they will increasingly go up. They will definitely go up
in January and could go up month like They're very,
very underpriced right now because it's brand new, and because
we are over delivering, and we are over delivering because
people have found people they are in love with that
they've dated multiple times, that they've been dating for weeks.
(04:17):
I mean, everyone inside the core who got in in
beta is thrilled, and many of these people are paying.
And now we don't work with anyone who's not paying,
because we proved the concept and it's extraordinary. So any
criticism which TikTok criticizes Mother Teresa. So, but any criticism
(04:37):
on TikTok is videos saying like, why is this different
than matchmaking? This is not this connecting, This is a line.
This is integrity, Okay, So this is not that match
makers just make a match. Here's a match paid US
two hundred fifty thousand dollars. We promise you eight people.
Here's a match. He may be abusive to wait staff.
He may be promised he'll go out with a young
(04:59):
girl that he wants to have sex with just because
he will go out with you. So the people that
I have in my mind are a sample, but it's
not a massive population, meaning there aren't ten thousand matchmakers
in this country. The people that I'm referring to, several
other people have had the identical experience to a tea
with the same men from the apps, with the same
(05:20):
devaluing women, saying men only want younger women. Men don't
want someone with the public profile all the things I've
told you before, don't get bored on board.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We connect now.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I'm not going to go into detail unless you're a member,
and I still won't go into full detail about how
we are doing this. But here's the proof. Ask anyone
inside the community. It's spreading, people are talking about it.
Find a member inside the core and ask what they think.
So the way to find out what people think of
(05:50):
the Core is to ask someone in the community to
address some of the things said about me personally. She
is single, so why would I listen to her? First
of all, I am dating. Second of all, I am
very good at it. I always have been, I likely
always will be. At every stage, at every page turn.
(06:14):
I have incredible men courting me, suitors treating me very well,
spoiling me, wanting to commit to me, wanting to marry me.
I don't believe I've ever shared how many people have
asked me to marry them, and I don't believe I
(06:35):
will share that now. I will share that maybe at
one point. But I never claimed and will not claim
to be an expert on relationships. I wrote a book
called I Suck at Relationships, So you don't have to,
but I have and will continue to claim, and even
Andy Cohen used to say to me, girl, no one
(06:58):
has game like you. No one is game like I do.
And it's not like I'm playing a game. And I'm
not manipulative. I am a one man kind of woman.
(07:18):
I have integrity. I demand and expect the best. I
will only be with someone if they treat me very well.
I don't tolerate people that breadcrumb or treat me like shit.
I don't devalue myself. I value myself greatly. I am
an expert on dating. I have spent money on matchmakers,
on apps. I have always done better on my own
(07:41):
without even stuttering at all, always and like markedly better
meaning better intelligence, better success, better net worth, better looks,
better way they treat you, better human beings, better humor,
better ingredients, better pizza.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I've only done very well on my own.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
That's why I have further reinforcement that matchmakers and apps
are for fraud and frustration. Apps are a good tool
and they should be used. They should not be disqualified
and discounted. I think they're a good accessory, a good
accessory tool, but they're not the way that they currently
are to rely upon. We are building tech to enhance
(08:28):
a certain aspect and mimic many aspects of what we
are doing now, which is human and intuition. So right
now we are building the community which is thriving, and
at the same time we are working on tech that
will support and mimic the prototype that I am creating.
(08:50):
The engagement and the applications for this are staggering, astounding, staggering,
big words, big truths. Because I have an aged audience.
So not only are people clicking, they are staying on
to apply, multi page questionnaire, staying on to apply thousands
(09:10):
and thousands of people.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
So we have a weight list. It's not a bullshit
weight list.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
It's not like these apps that like just say that
to say that we are thoroughly vetting. Several multi billionaires
have applied and think that their net worth will get
them in the door. And I went out with a
multi billionaire and he was nasty to the weight staff
and I snuck out of the restaurant. Not every multi
billionaire is nice or a good person. Some of them
(09:40):
are mean, some of them are unethical. This is very
strict because you will get what you ordered to the table,
meaning if you say exactly what you want and need.
If it's not realistic, we won't even admit you. If
you're insane, or if you say you want someone twenty
years younger or something we don't believe in, you won't
be accepted. But if you are realistic and also aspirational,
(10:02):
we want you to shoot for the stars. We want
you to look your best, be your best, and present
your best because we want the other person to do
the same, because this is the most important decision of
your life. But if you are that, then we will
only present you with someone who is as described, and
you will agree that that's what you want. You may
not be attracted to them once you meet them, not
(10:22):
because their picture will look different, because their picture will
look exactly the same, because they will look like what
you saw was described. It will not be an archaic photo.
You may not have physical chemistry with them. We cannot
predict them, and not even a FaceTime can necessarily predict that.
But you will say, because everyone is saying after the date,
I totally understand why you set me up with them,
(10:43):
and you get a nine out of ten as an
accuracy rating, And that's why people are excited to go
back because they feel like they're in the game. They're
in power, they're in control of their own destiny. They're
moving forward. You sign on a matchmaker and it could
be and it's defeating and the people are not aligned
with you at all, and you just feel like you
(11:05):
ate junk food and you're nauseated and you don't want
to eat anything.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
This is different.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You might meet someone they're a wonderful person, and it
makes you more intentional and nicer when you're on a
date versus like, Oh, this isn't my husband, let me
get out.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Of here instead.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Okay, this is likely not my husband, but I'm trusting
this process. And you know what, he's a good person
with integrity, so I might know someone else for him.
Like that's what's happening. People are meeting people. They're paying attention,
they're being more present. They're wanting to connect with this
person because they might have someone for them, or it's
just a good friend or a human being or a
(11:38):
business contact. The quality and caliber is there, and that
is what is different. And I don't care if you
get married. I just want you to fall in love
or find someone who's aligned with you, or find a
life partner or meet someone you'll want to go out
with multiple times. That's what it is. That's what you
should expect. Twelve hundred to be in a community where
(11:59):
you could meet someone. How much you spending on your lattes,
on your handbags, on your meals out, on your bougie cocktails,
on your viral food, on your TikTok shop?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Like what would you What is.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
More important than spending on being aligned with someone you
would have never met, who could enhance your life, that
you could fall in love with.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Like what are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Some of the women in here say to us, women
don't pay because this girl thinks she's cute, she thinks
she's got something, maybe she's a good body, maybe she's
thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
The fuck they don't. Yeah, everybody's equal.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You want to know why women pay, because, like I said,
if you are willing to go out and you're gonna
buy Jimmy Show shoes and you're gonna buy yourself a
Shanelle handbag, and I think that you won't spend on this,
you're not worthy of this community. You won't spend twelve
hundred dollars to possibly meet your life partner. So when
you're sick, you have some of there to be with
you and take care of you, to be good to
(12:55):
your kids or your family, to laugh with, to travel with.
I mean, we don't want no scrubs when it comes
to men, and we're not doing gold digging bullshit.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
That's not for us.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Want to hear something else, stupid. You don't like someone
and you might want to set them up with someone else.
What's wrong with them? Nothing's wrong with them. You're allowed
to have whatever you want, so you want to set
them up with them. So many girls like, wait, I
don't want your slappy seconds?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (13:31):
I have an air mez bag here. I don't wear it,
I'm not gonna use it. I'd like to give it
to you. If you don't want it, I'm gonna give
it to somebody else. There's no such thing as sloppy seconds.
If the person's saying the guy is a good guy,
if the guy is a piece of shit, they're not
gonna hand him over to you. Then they're a bad person.
Then you should never speak to them again. Like, there
are ways to find out that someone's not a good person. Okay,
(13:52):
but just because someone else didn't want them, what does
that mean, does someone else have every piece of clothing
you have, live in the house you live in, like
the same food you like to someone like cilantro, someone
else likes basil?
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Are you an infant? Slappy seconds are good, take the
sloppy seconds.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
One woman's trash is another woman's twenty five year old marriage.
I went out with a guy him. We had the
best time. We danced, we hung out, I had the
greatest time. I spent more time with him. He's not
my husband. With great certainty, with ninety nine percent certainty,
I think he's not my husband. And I liked him
a lot, and we're texting, we're still friends. I set
(14:28):
him up with someone else. They liked each other a lot.
I don't know if their husband and wife either, but
they are going out again.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
I'm not going out with him again. What am I
gonna do?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Pilimid a dumpster. He's a wonderful man, and now he's
going out with a wonderful girl. So I was talking
to a guy who said to me that he was
at a place in Miami and it seemed like everybody
was either pro or semi pro.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
It means the woman who's actually in there hoping to
get literal currency for sex or a hand job or whatever.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
A semi pro is a.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Woman who's in there running game, working the system, and
immediately will probably be interviewing the man to get his
net worth statement out. And that's a semi pro. There
are also pros that don't take money, they're just pros,
and that they're big game hunters. I know a lot
of people who are big game hunters that will end
up finding a man that's rich. That's what's important to them.
(15:23):
And they probably are fucking either the hottest women on
earth or they know what they're doing. But an amateur
hour could be hot. And she's going to lead too
quickly with the question. She's going to let a guy
know right away that she's looking for a net worth statement.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
She's interviewing him.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
She wants to know exactly where he lives, what he drives,
how he rolls.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And these men are pros too.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
You think these men who are Wall Street titans who
have tens of millions of hundreds of millions of dollars,
don't know a fucking pro. You think they don't deal
with Barracuda's on Wall Street every day. They don't know,
like a fucking checkers player. Gold digger. Okay, you know
what they have. They have gold digger trigger. They have
(16:10):
such a gold digger trigger that they'll meet someone who's
not a gold digger and they have their alert up.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
They will also test women.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
They won't buy women anything because they are testing to
see if it's gonna make the woman run. They're pros too.
The men are pros too. So women don't play the
short game. Okay, the men are smarter than you. The
men that you're gold digging didn't get to be the
men with the piles of goal by being stupid. They
(16:39):
know how stupid you are. Now, if you are hot
or like play the Jedi mind tricks or can enter
them into the mind control program, they might want it anyway.
Some men like a gold digger. They know what they're getting.
We're gonna hang out.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
You're hot.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I'm gonna buy you an arimez bags and jewelry. You know,
all the other women are gonna be jealous of you.
They're gonna want me to All the other men are
going to try to compete with my program. It's a
flex fine, just know what you're dealing with. This is
what goes on. There are pros everywhere. I see them
all over social media, all over the universe. They're women.
They're pros because you're pros. Because, hey, men, some of
(17:16):
you want to date only thirty five year olds even
though you look like a lawn ornament. Some of you
men only want to date a really hot woman because
you have money, you look like a lawn ornament. I'm
just letting you guys know how the game is played,
fought and won. I was talking to a guy today
who's tall, good looking, great body, has a lot of money.
He said, he's not just looking for looks. I said,
(17:37):
I have a girl for you who's hot and amazing
and very similar mindset to him.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
He said, I'm not shallow.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
There are a lot of men who have been through
all the pros and semi pros, and they don't want
someone who's unattractive to them.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
It's a superficial world.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
But the men who have any money and any success
in any intelligence and walk upright and will call you
and not text you because they're not fucking caveman gorillas.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
They don't want just the dining piece.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They've been through that they don't trust that they don't
trust that, but they have gold digger trigger. Know that
right away, and you say one thing, and women have
their own triggers because they'll try to test the guys
and see if the guy's gonna do something or buy something.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Women don't want to cheat man.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Men be generous, make a phone call, don't just text,
don't bread crumb.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Women don't play checkers.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Because men want a smart woman who can support themselves
and can pay for themselves. It doesn't mean the man's
not gonna want to do that for them, but they can.
I'm an example of that. Men love that I have
my own money. That doesn't mean we're going out and
I'm going Dutch by any stretch of anyone's imagination. I've
bought houses and cars that the man will share.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
I don't mind that.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
But I'm not going out and paying for something in
front of a man and it's not happening. I don't
care what you think. I don't care if I've set
women back two hundred years. Women in my eyes, don't
pay for with that like public facing, shopping, sitting down
at a restaurant. But I'll buy a house, I'll buy
the furniture, I'll do all those things. You just don't
want to do things that are going to be overly
masculating and emasculating. You don't want to masculate a woman,
(19:14):
and you don't want to emasculate a man. But men
are so terrified that they'll expect a woman to pay
in front of them because they have gold digger trigger.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
That's your fucking problem, bro.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I'm not a gold digger because I have more gold
than you, but I'm not paying. So if you have
a problem with that, turn around and keep it moving.
Be transparent about what we want and what we're doing.
So I launched my dating community called the Core. And
let's talk about any backlash, any positivity, Let's talk about
highs and lows.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Let's talk about all of it.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Oh, I have Tea, I have dating TA, I have
the Core, my new dating environment T and it's good
tea and it's happy tea and it's proof of concept T.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
And it's quality tea.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yesterday alone, two matchmakers like current Active, working for known
matchmaking businesses or owning matchmaking businesses have come to apply
to pay and to join the Core for us to
(01:04):
set them up. A part of me thought, oh, they
want to take part of our inventory. We're transparent, we
don't really care. You can't take anybody. Nobody here is
leaving anyway. And we wouldn't set you up with fifty
people because we're not a chop shop, like a matchmaker
that just wants to throw spaghetti against the wall to
check the box and get the credit. We would maybe
set you up with one person in a matter of months,
but we literally have set people up with one person
(01:27):
and they have fallen in love with that person. So
they're not going to get a lot of clients from
us because no one's leaving but anyway, matchmakers are coming
to sign up for the Core. Yes and yes, matchmakers
have been calling us to apply, to pay and to
join the Core to find their life partners.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
You are so welcome.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
In addition, the head of marketing for one of the
big dating apps has come to the Core to ask
us to set them up. Microphone, how do I drop
this microphone? How do I drop? How do I drop
the mic? Like?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Drop the mic?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
People at the massive major apps A are coming for
us to set them up with their life partners, and
B we've been hiring. We won't hire any matchmakers to
work for us because we do not match make, we connect.
We are hiring people who are intuitive, smart, well connected
and have the same goals as we do and align
(02:27):
with the culture here which will not be compromised for
any amount of money.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
And ten percent of.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
The people in my community have asked me to invest
because they're so obsessed and there's not a number you
could pay me to sacrifice the quality here, and believe me,
it's been offered.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
It's been offered. So that's that.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
But people that work at the big apps are trying
to work for us or asking us to set them
up to connect them. I kid you not. I swear
to God on everything I hope to be. I won't
swear on furree or family members. But I'm just telling
you I could because it's true.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Dead. That is fucking hot piping tea. Okay.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
I launched the Core dating community, which has a membership
application and there are different tiers starting with fifty dollars
to be part of the overall community, which will eventually
not right now. That's why we're not charging right now.
Have offers and access in the way that my site,
the List, which is a gift site, basically gives you
(03:33):
different offers on everything from home to decor, to clothing
to food, et cetera. So the Core launched and it
has multiple tiers which are astronomically underpriced compared to what
the comps are in the dating community. For what you're getting,
(03:54):
they will increasingly go up. They will definitely go up
in January and could go up month like They're very,
very underpriced right now because it's brand new, and because
we are over delivering, and we are over delivering because
people have found people they are in love with that
they've dated multiple times, that they've been dating for weeks.
(04:17):
I mean, everyone inside the core who got in in
beta is thrilled, and many of these people are paying.
And now we don't work with anyone who's not paying,
because we proved the concept and it's extraordinary. So any
criticism which TikTok criticizes Mother Teresa. So, but any criticism
(04:37):
on TikTok is videos saying like, why is this different
than matchmaking? This is not this connecting, This is a line.
This is integrity, Okay, So this is not that match
makers just make a match. Here's a match paid US
two hundred fifty thousand dollars. We promise you eight people.
Here's a match. He may be abusive to wait staff.
He may be promised he'll go out with a young
(04:59):
girl that he wants to have sex with just because
he will go out with you. So the people that
I have in my mind are a sample, but it's
not a massive population, meaning there aren't ten thousand matchmakers
in this country. The people that I'm referring to, several
other people have had the identical experience to a tea
with the same men from the apps, with the same
(05:20):
devaluing women, saying men only want younger women. Men don't
want someone with the public profile all the things I've
told you before, don't get bored on board.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We connect now.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
I'm not going to go into detail unless you're a member,
and I still won't go into full detail about how
we are doing this. But here's the proof. Ask anyone
inside the community. It's spreading, people are talking about it.
Find a member inside the core and ask what they think.
So the way to find out what people think of
(05:50):
the Core is to ask someone in the community to
address some of the things said about me personally. She
is single, so why would I listen to her? First
of all, I am dating. Second of all, I am
very good at it. I always have been, I likely
always will be. At every stage, at every page turn.
(06:14):
I have incredible men courting me, suitors treating me very well,
spoiling me, wanting to commit to me, wanting to marry me.
I don't believe I've ever shared how many people have
asked me to marry them, and I don't believe I
(06:35):
will share that now. I will share that maybe at
one point. But I never claimed and will not claim
to be an expert on relationships. I wrote a book
called I Suck at Relationships, So you don't have to,
but I have and will continue to claim, and even
Andy Cohen used to say to me, girl, no one
(06:58):
has game like you. No one is game like I do.
And it's not like I'm playing a game. And I'm
not manipulative. I am a one man kind of woman.
(07:18):
I have integrity. I demand and expect the best. I
will only be with someone if they treat me very well.
I don't tolerate people that breadcrumb or treat me like shit.
I don't devalue myself. I value myself greatly. I am
an expert on dating. I have spent money on matchmakers,
on apps. I have always done better on my own
(07:41):
without even stuttering at all, always and like markedly better
meaning better intelligence, better success, better net worth, better looks,
better way they treat you, better human beings, better humor,
better ingredients, better pizza.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I've only done very well on my own.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
That's why I have further reinforcement that matchmakers and apps
are for fraud and frustration. Apps are a good tool
and they should be used. They should not be disqualified
and discounted. I think they're a good accessory, a good
accessory tool, but they're not the way that they currently
are to rely upon. We are building tech to enhance
(08:28):
a certain aspect and mimic many aspects of what we
are doing now, which is human and intuition. So right
now we are building the community which is thriving, and
at the same time we are working on tech that
will support and mimic the prototype that I am creating.
(08:50):
The engagement and the applications for this are staggering, astounding, staggering,
big words, big truths. Because I have an aged audience.
So not only are people clicking, they are staying on
to apply, multi page questionnaire, staying on to apply thousands
(09:10):
and thousands of people.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
So we have a weight list. It's not a bullshit
weight list.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
It's not like these apps that like just say that
to say that we are thoroughly vetting. Several multi billionaires
have applied and think that their net worth will get
them in the door. And I went out with a
multi billionaire and he was nasty to the weight staff
and I snuck out of the restaurant. Not every multi
billionaire is nice or a good person. Some of them
(09:40):
are mean, some of them are unethical. This is very
strict because you will get what you ordered to the table,
meaning if you say exactly what you want and need.
If it's not realistic, we won't even admit you. If
you're insane, or if you say you want someone twenty
years younger or something we don't believe in, you won't
be accepted. But if you are realistic and also aspirational,
(10:02):
we want you to shoot for the stars. We want
you to look your best, be your best, and present
your best because we want the other person to do
the same, because this is the most important decision of
your life. But if you are that, then we will
only present you with someone who is as described, and
you will agree that that's what you want. You may
not be attracted to them once you meet them, not
(10:22):
because their picture will look different, because their picture will
look exactly the same, because they will look like what
you saw was described. It will not be an archaic photo.
You may not have physical chemistry with them. We cannot
predict them, and not even a FaceTime can necessarily predict that.
But you will say, because everyone is saying after the date,
I totally understand why you set me up with them,
(10:43):
and you get a nine out of ten as an
accuracy rating, And that's why people are excited to go
back because they feel like they're in the game. They're
in power, they're in control of their own destiny. They're
moving forward. You sign on a matchmaker and it could
be and it's defeating and the people are not aligned
with you at all, and you just feel like you
(11:05):
ate junk food and you're nauseated and you don't want
to eat anything.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
This is different.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You might meet someone they're a wonderful person, and it
makes you more intentional and nicer when you're on a
date versus like, Oh, this isn't my husband, let me
get out.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Of here instead.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Okay, this is likely not my husband, but I'm trusting
this process. And you know what, he's a good person
with integrity, so I might know someone else for him.
Like that's what's happening. People are meeting people. They're paying attention,
they're being more present. They're wanting to connect with this
person because they might have someone for them, or it's
just a good friend or a human being or a
(11:38):
business contact. The quality and caliber is there, and that
is what is different. And I don't care if you
get married. I just want you to fall in love
or find someone who's aligned with you, or find a
life partner or meet someone you'll want to go out
with multiple times. That's what it is. That's what you
should expect. Twelve hundred to be in a community where
(11:59):
you could meet someone. How much you spending on your lattes,
on your handbags, on your meals out, on your bougie cocktails,
on your viral food, on your TikTok shop?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Like what would you What is.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
More important than spending on being aligned with someone you
would have never met, who could enhance your life, that
you could fall in love with.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Like what are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Some of the women in here say to us, women
don't pay because this girl thinks she's cute, she thinks
she's got something, maybe she's a good body, maybe she's
thirty eight.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
The fuck they don't. Yeah, everybody's equal.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
You want to know why women pay, because, like I said,
if you are willing to go out and you're gonna
buy Jimmy Show shoes and you're gonna buy yourself a
Shanelle handbag, and I think that you won't spend on this,
you're not worthy of this community. You won't spend twelve
hundred dollars to possibly meet your life partner. So when
you're sick, you have some of there to be with
you and take care of you, to be good to
(12:55):
your kids or your family, to laugh with, to travel with.
I mean, we don't want no scrubs when it comes
to men, and we're not doing gold digging bullshit.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
That's not for us.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Want to hear something else, stupid. You don't like someone
and you might want to set them up with someone else.
What's wrong with them? Nothing's wrong with them. You're allowed
to have whatever you want, so you want to set
them up with them. So many girls like, wait, I
don't want your slappy seconds?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Why not?
Speaker 1 (13:31):
I have an air mez bag here. I don't wear it,
I'm not gonna use it. I'd like to give it
to you. If you don't want it, I'm gonna give
it to somebody else. There's no such thing as sloppy seconds.
If the person's saying the guy is a good guy,
if the guy is a piece of shit, they're not
gonna hand him over to you. Then they're a bad person.
Then you should never speak to them again. Like, there
are ways to find out that someone's not a good person. Okay,
(13:52):
but just because someone else didn't want them, what does
that mean, does someone else have every piece of clothing
you have, live in the house you live in, like
the same food you like to someone like cilantro, someone
else likes basil?
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Are you an infant? Slappy seconds are good, take the
sloppy seconds.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
One woman's trash is another woman's twenty five year old marriage.
I went out with a guy him. We had the
best time. We danced, we hung out, I had the
greatest time. I spent more time with him. He's not
my husband. With great certainty, with ninety nine percent certainty,
I think he's not my husband. And I liked him
a lot, and we're texting, we're still friends. I set
(14:28):
him up with someone else. They liked each other a lot.
I don't know if their husband and wife either, but
they are going out again.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
I'm not going out with him again. What am I
gonna do?
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Pilimid a dumpster. He's a wonderful man, and now he's
going out with a wonderful girl. So I was talking
to a guy who said to me that he was
at a place in Miami and it seemed like everybody
was either pro or semi pro.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
What does that mean?
Speaker 1 (14:50):
It means the woman who's actually in there hoping to
get literal currency for sex or a hand job or whatever.
Speaker 2 (14:59):
A semi pro is a.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Woman who's in there running game, working the system, and
immediately will probably be interviewing the man to get his
net worth statement out. And that's a semi pro. There
are also pros that don't take money, they're just pros,
and that they're big game hunters. I know a lot
of people who are big game hunters that will end
up finding a man that's rich. That's what's important to them.
(15:23):
And they probably are fucking either the hottest women on
earth or they know what they're doing. But an amateur
hour could be hot. And she's going to lead too
quickly with the question. She's going to let a guy
know right away that she's looking for a net worth statement.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
She's interviewing him.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
She wants to know exactly where he lives, what he drives,
how he rolls.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And these men are pros too.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
You think these men who are Wall Street titans who
have tens of millions of hundreds of millions of dollars,
don't know a fucking pro. You think they don't deal
with Barracuda's on Wall Street every day. They don't know,
like a fucking checkers player. Gold digger. Okay, you know
what they have. They have gold digger trigger. They have
(16:10):
such a gold digger trigger that they'll meet someone who's
not a gold digger and they have their alert up.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
They will also test women.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
They won't buy women anything because they are testing to
see if it's gonna make the woman run. They're pros too.
The men are pros too. So women don't play the
short game. Okay, the men are smarter than you. The
men that you're gold digging didn't get to be the
men with the piles of goal by being stupid. They
(16:39):
know how stupid you are. Now, if you are hot
or like play the Jedi mind tricks or can enter
them into the mind control program, they might want it anyway.
Some men like a gold digger. They know what they're getting.
We're gonna hang out.
Speaker 2 (16:54):
You're hot.
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I'm gonna buy you an arimez bags and jewelry. You know,
all the other women are gonna be jealous of you.
They're gonna want me to All the other men are
going to try to compete with my program. It's a
flex fine, just know what you're dealing with. This is
what goes on. There are pros everywhere. I see them
all over social media, all over the universe. They're women.
They're pros because you're pros. Because, hey, men, some of
(17:16):
you want to date only thirty five year olds even
though you look like a lawn ornament. Some of you
men only want to date a really hot woman because
you have money, you look like a lawn ornament. I'm
just letting you guys know how the game is played,
fought and won. I was talking to a guy today
who's tall, good looking, great body, has a lot of money.
He said, he's not just looking for looks. I said,
(17:37):
I have a girl for you who's hot and amazing
and very similar mindset to him.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
He said, I'm not shallow.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
There are a lot of men who have been through
all the pros and semi pros, and they don't want
someone who's unattractive to them.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
It's a superficial world.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
But the men who have any money and any success
in any intelligence and walk upright and will call you
and not text you because they're not fucking caveman gorillas.
Speaker 2 (18:03):
They don't want just the dining piece.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
They've been through that they don't trust that they don't
trust that, but they have gold digger trigger. Know that
right away, and you say one thing, and women have
their own triggers because they'll try to test the guys
and see if the guy's gonna do something or buy something.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Women don't want to cheat man.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Men be generous, make a phone call, don't just text,
don't bread crumb.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
Women don't play checkers.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
Because men want a smart woman who can support themselves
and can pay for themselves. It doesn't mean the man's
not gonna want to do that for them, but they can.
I'm an example of that. Men love that I have
my own money. That doesn't mean we're going out and
I'm going Dutch by any stretch of anyone's imagination. I've
bought houses and cars that the man will share.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
I don't mind that.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
But I'm not going out and paying for something in
front of a man and it's not happening. I don't
care what you think. I don't care if I've set
women back two hundred years. Women in my eyes, don't
pay for with that like public facing, shopping, sitting down
at a restaurant. But I'll buy a house, I'll buy
the furniture, I'll do all those things. You just don't
want to do things that are going to be overly
masculating and emasculating. You don't want to masculate a woman,
(19:14):
and you don't want to emasculate a man. But men
are so terrified that they'll expect a woman to pay
in front of them because they have gold digger trigger.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
That's your fucking problem, bro.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I'm not a gold digger because I have more gold
than you, but I'm not paying. So if you have
a problem with that, turn around and keep it moving.
Be transparent about what we want and what we're doing.
Host
Bethenny Frankel
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