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July 16, 2025 17 mins

What B wished she knew in her 20s about dating and more. PLUS: Couples we LOVE right now and is it ok for men to just send photos? 

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Speaker 1 (00:12):
Dating questions. What's one brutal truth about dating you wish
you knew in your twenties? Ninety eight percent of men's
goals are just solely driven by the compass that is
their dick, and everything else is a mirage. You're just
you're just hallucinating. You are, you're, you're you're seeing like visions.

(00:37):
None of it's true. There's a Michael Jackson sound on
TikTok that's like, none of it's true. No, none of
it's true. So none of it's true. What is the
most Oh, also that this guy that you think is
so great in your twenties, you will not think is
great in your fifties. Sorry, you won't. It is a
very rare case. Two percent of those men will you

(01:00):
think is great and you're in your fifties, So don't rush.
There are men now that I thought were amazing when
I was in my twenties, thirties, forties. I wouldn't. I wouldn't.
I wouldn't stand on the same sidewalk as them now
like I thought they were amazing, amazing, the men when
I was in my twenties that were like hot shot guys,
like the hottest guys I have two in my mind

(01:21):
right now. They're names. I would not stand on the
same sidewalk as them. I am so much better than
them by every standard physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually, societally, like,
by everybody else's standards. Like, it's not just me and
my delusion. Okay, no, in your twenties, the guy that

(01:43):
you think is fucking phenomenal is a loser in his fifties.
So just park that now. If you marry them and
you drive them to being the winner that you think,
you're gonna drive them to be loll maybe, but likely no,
because men women that I know have lapped their husbands
around that track. Ninety nine percent lapped the men. They've

(02:08):
had glow ups, and the men are not it. Do
the math they met in their twenties. The most overrated
dating advice people still believe is like the rules, don't
call back until this much time, don't sleep at them
until this much time. These are things that married people say,
and they're dino from bedrock. They're fucking dinosaurs. They don't

(02:32):
know anything. And the best thing is that people who
are married give advice to non married people, and they
are dinosaurs, and they don't even know what they're talking about,
and they get single, and then they get hit in
the face. Then they get punched in the face because
they don't know that it's easy to opine about what
it would be like many of my friends. No, it's amazing,
and you should love that it's a long distance relationship,

(02:53):
like I would love that time away from my hesitida
da da da da dah. Then they break up. Then
they're alone, and they're sucking their thumb crying in the
corner like babies, because it's fun to talk about what
other people should do in dating. When you're married, you've
been on a fucking dusty shelf for thirty years. You
don't know anything nothing. Yes, your grandmother can give you

(03:16):
some tried and true fifties advice about how to be
and don't be a slut, and don't drink too much
and all the thing. Yes, yes, yes, some things do
last forever. But by and large, your married friends don't
know what the fuck they're talking about, and they give
you advice. Don't listen. If the ick hits on date three,
is it over? It's usually on date two or discussion

(03:39):
after date one, or but yeah, yes, yes, the pause.
I've paused because he did something that's a little questionable.
That's not the ick. The ick is like there's a
film on it and you can never get it off.
It's the sane from coffee concentrate. I got on my

(04:03):
white clean Skin Club brand sweatshirt that I wore for
the first time this morning. That's stain and the blue
sponge I got on top of it. That's now blue
on top of a coffee stain. It's likely not going away.
It could get faint, but it's still going to be there.
That's the ick, Hottie, stop mistaking chaos for chemistry. Chaos

(04:26):
is the driving the jet ski with no brakes. It's like,
it seems exciting, there's an attraction. You're going too fast.
It's amazing. It's not safe. Chemistry is like it's puzzle pieces.
It's like folding in it's melting. It's like feeling good,
but like you can't get your breath and you have butterflies,

(04:47):
but you can somehow get a hold of yourself. It's
not that easy. Because I remember being falling in love
and like moving so quickly and feeling so excited and
so exhilarating. But also it did kind of start the
relationship wrong. It was a relationship that lasted a long time,
but it did start the relationship with one person getting
sick and having false expectations and promises because in the beginning,

(05:11):
everything seems like a good idea. We're never going to
be a part and we're going to see each other
all the time, we're gonna do this, and we're gonna
do that, and then reality sets it in. It's not sustainable.
So whatever happens at the beginning in that chaos, even
if you do fall in love with the person, it's unrealistic.
It sets the wrong standard, and it just starts it
off on fumes and you're chasing the drag and the
rest of your relationship because you always want to get
back to where that was, and it's basically impossible because

(05:34):
that was not real. So it's not good to start
on chaos. Have I ever liked someone way more after
or light instagram stalking? That's a good question. I don't

(05:57):
really instagram stock, but there could be like a night,
nice car, or like something about business or something like,
you know, their kids seem normal and they're attractive and cute,
and like, would my daughter like them? Yeah, yes, definitely
a slight A light I guess. I don't do stalking
and instagram graze. I'm too tired. And a lot of

(06:18):
it's private and who cares. And also it's not real.
What they present is not real, so you're not getting
a real picture but yet to see what the kid
looks like or that they have a nice car or
house or something. Yeah, if he's not on a leather
couch in the background and an Instagram picture, that's good.
What's your take on if he wanted to, he would
period the end story and film at eleven. It's the

(06:39):
Golden rule. It's MS, which is truth and Yiddish, it's gospel,
it's facts, it's preach it's truth, it's yes, it's everything.
If he wanted to, he motherfucking would. How do you
know if you're being too picky or just holding your standards,
It doesn't really fucking matter because it's in your body
and anything less than that pickiness is going to give

(07:01):
you the ickiness. So you are who you are. Yeah, No,
you want what you want, you go, we do it
or we don't. But I have one friend who said
to me, I'm not sure that I'm meant to be alone,
and maybe I'm not, you know, maybe I don't have
the same standards as you, and I'm like, oh, and
maybe it is settling. But they want the life, they want,
the friends they want, you know, they don't. They want

(07:21):
all the shiny objects, they want, the money, they want,
the wrapping they want, they want the frosting. Like that's
a choice. I think it's settling, but one persons settling
is another person's reality. I don't know. I don't know
how to speak like that. I would never settle. I
would rather be alone and may end up being alone
than settle. And I have tons of opportunities. So whatever

(07:44):
this advice is, guys, it must be going right. I
don't know why. Very eligible, very successful, very wealthy, very nice,
very smart, very good looking men pursue me all the time,
and I often think, what the fuck? Why aren't you
dating someone thirty five? Like you could get some one
whoever you want. I don't know, I don't know, And
maybe it's that I'm the least interested party because I

(08:04):
genuinely don't give a fuck. The worst dating trend I've
seen on TikTok is girls like fawn over getting a
rose or a thoughtful little thing from a guy, as
if it's like the biggest deal in the world. Like
have high standards. I wouldn't even mention those things. They
don't even rate. No, have high standards. I've done it before,

(08:29):
I'm doing it again. Men, don't send me photos. I
don't want photos we just met. I'm not invested in
your life. I don't want to see photos that my
friends send for the most part, Like if my best
friends send me like the graduation picture, like I want
to see that it's their kid, they're all grown up.
Like my best friends will sparingly, not because I told

(08:51):
them to sparingly, but just because they're like they get it.
They'll send pick pictures like look at my son and
his girlfriend, like in your right now, like illustrating he's
grown up. Or look at us all on this trip.
My friend send me a video they're at your raffe manner.
The kid the family is sitting eating dinner with giraffes,
baby drafts, dad dress, and I saw her husband and
kids and I was excited to see them. But that

(09:13):
doesn't happen every week, do you. I don't want a
new person that i'm thinking about dating, that I'm just texting.
I don't want pictures. I'm not invested, I don't care,
and I'm not sending you pictures. It's just weird. You
must say, Ah, so handsome looks like you like I don't.

(09:35):
I don't know you. I don't want pictures and I
don't want rogue facetimes. I really don't. I really don't.
I keep talking about it, but like it happens more
than you know. It happens more than you I had
another person we said we would FaceTime maybe tomorrow. That
doesn't mean that it's in all you can eat buffet

(09:57):
and all day at any time. You're allowed to just
like a lit in a FaceTime call. No, it has
to be. It's like a zoom to most people. I
don't even zoom. I don't zoom. I will be on
maybe two zooms a year maybe, So like you can't
just like you just like call facetiming. People get offended

(10:18):
by a phone call. If someone showed up at my
front door that wasn't from ups bringing me pr I
would think it was a hate crime, like whoa, oh, hi,
just stopping by. So if you think you can FaceTime
me just randomly in the middle of the day. That's
a hate crime too, don't think about it. Let's talk

(10:51):
about couples that I love that, I love you hear
me shade a lot. You don't hear me love enough.
I love We know this, You've heard me say this
a million times. I love Amal and George love love
like no notes Kate and William no notes, new one,

(11:16):
new one entering the villa, Gigi Hadid and Bradley Cooper
Chef's motherfucking kiss. I don't have reasons, I don't have
anything to back this up. I love them. I love them.
Let's also discuss who is Tom Brady going to end

(11:41):
up with? And I don't think I've told you this
because I don't really like love a lot of people
that a lot of people love. That makes any sense?
Like I did just meet Josh Douamal, who was really
really nice. He came up to me and said something
and I said, oh, like, what are you doing here
because you were can La and it said, Mary, don't get
any ideas. He's a nice guy. He said, just trying

(12:05):
to do what you're doing. And I was like, wait,
does Josh do himel? The one who everybody loves, like
know who I am and like what I'm doing. So
the answer is yes, glad you asked. Okay, But like,
there are people that everyone loves, like do I love
Ryan Gosling? Yes, by the way, Ryan Gosling and Eva
Mendez No notes, no notes, random ones, Harrison Ford, Calista

(12:30):
Flockhart maintaining privacy for all these years, No notes. I
love Tom Brady. I think I love Tom Brady. I
love him for a few reasons. I love him because
he has a sense of humor. I love him because
he felt badly about the roast, like and talks to

(12:52):
this day about how traumatic it was for him. And
I don't like the people made fun of that, like, oh,
he was there, he signed up for it and laughed
like that's bullshit. Of course he laughed. He was in
the moment on a grand stage, and he's the game
is moving too quickly, And that's the closest to being
on a reality show that I could explain what it
feels like because I know that he was there, the

(13:13):
game was moving too quickly, and he knew that it
had already started, and the toothpaste was out of the
tube and it's a roast, so you're supposed to be
getting roasted, so you're supposed to be laughing at things
that could be very inappropriate. It could be about your
dick's size, it could be about anything, and you don't
know exactly where the line is. You know what your
gut says the line is, and you know that you're
feeling uncomfortable in your body, but you're not sure the

(13:36):
temperature of the room. When I walked that runway for
Sports Illustrated, I didn't know if I was bombing or winning.
I did not know. I came back after one walk,
first bathing suit and texted someone that works at me
and said any notes, and she was like, no notes.
I was like, no, no ites, Like I thought she'd like, Yeah,
try not to look like a fool or a bird
or you know, a giraffe or whatever it is. So

(13:58):
Tom Brady was on stage in a roast and they
were talking about his divorce and his marriage, and he
was feeling uncomfortable. You could see it. But he wasn't
gonna start crying or be a spoiled sport. He signed
up for it, and they probably say, you're gonna get roasted,
but you cannot give us anything. It's off limited. Sorry,
but you cannot give us anything off limits. There can

(14:19):
be nothing off limits. I would have agreed to it too.
I'm team tom Brady. I'm TTB. I think he was uncomfortable.
I think he does respect and value his ex wife
and love his kids. I think it wasn't great for
his kids, but I think the kids often align with
the mom and probably felt bad for her, and maybe

(14:42):
she's currying favor and just a million things happen in
divorce that we can't now. But I like Tom Brady.
I think he handles himself well. I think like he's
very handsome, he's very talented, he's very successful, and like
some people think he's pompous, but I think for how
successful he is, how handsome he is, how smart he is,
he smart like the way he talks and the way

(15:05):
he approaches football and its strategy and the leadership, I'm
team tom Brady and and I feel, you know, I
think that people are saying like he was back paddling.
He should have defended his way, Like the game moves
pretty quickly. Okay, everyone has a planet, so they get
punched in the face, and he got punched in the face,

(15:26):
and the roast was actually excellent too, But I'm sure
he wouldn't do it again if he had the opportunity.
But everybody assigns what they imagine they would do under
perfect temperate conditions in someone else's shoes. Your kid falls
off the fourth rail the fourth deck on a Disney

(15:50):
Cruise ship into the water, and now they're blaming you. Yes,
did he put her on the railing for a second? Yeah? Okay?
Is should he be caned and burned at the stage?
Did he make a mistake? Have people held their kids
on the top of their shoulders? Yes? And could the
kid have fallen? Have we played airplane with a kid? Yes,
it's a boat and it's a very stupid move. It's

(16:12):
very stupid and insane, And yes, I get that. But
the man jumped off the fourth deck into the water,
and they said he managed to figure out where his
kid was, which in those waters is nearly a miracle.
He must have done it instantly. Can you imagine jumping
off a railing on the fourth deck of a boat

(16:32):
finding your kid getting rescued. I have the absolute chills.
I can't even think about it. I'm sure you heard
this story. Man on Disney CRU's child, young child falls
off the railing fourth deck into the water. Twenty minutes
they're in there waiting for the Disney Cruz rescue. I
mean sharks, I mean the water moving. He's treading water.

(16:52):
I can't think of the trauma. I can't even think
about it. I can't even think about it. It's superhuman.
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