Just B Rant: Distressed in the City

Bethenny discusses the growing number of attacks against women in NYC, including the details of her own incident.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:12):
So there's all this news about me right now that
I was punched in the face, and I don't have
a Google alert on myself, but I've been getting so
many calls. So then I went to Google myself and
I'm in every single article about this situation going on
in New York. And I don't know if you've heard
about it, but apparently girls have been getting punched in

(00:33):
the face. So one girl was walking down the street
and she said on TikTok, you guys, I just got
punched in the face. And I didn't realize that a
bunch of people said this, but I happened to fall
upon one of the videos and in the comments, I said,
oh my god, this is insane. This happened to me,
and I did a video about it, but I didn't

(00:54):
post it because I was embarrassed. And then I saw
this everywhere because there's apparently a crime spree in New York.
People are getting punched in the face. So I was
going into New York City to look at an apartment
and I hadn't really been in New York in a while,
to be honest. It's like since I've since the pandemic,
I've been out of the city, and I don't really
go in unless I'm going to work and I'm in

(01:15):
the car and I go to the shoot and I
leave and I come home. I kind of run back
to the nest. So even though I live so close
to New York City, I'm not really there that much.
And it's very transactional, if that makes any sense. I'm
not just popping in to go have dinner. I'm popping
in to get hair makeup done in a hotel room,
which was what was going on. I know, do have
an apartment, but and then go into a studio shooting something,

(01:37):
then getting in the car and going home. So this
day I went to go look at apartments and I
saw this cute like little, tiny like bakery slash deli
and it was tiny, and I walked in and was
just shooting some of the treats and had my phone,
which sounds like a trend. It sounds like a lot
of the people who have been on the street on
their phone. And I was walking out. As I was

(01:58):
walking out, a guy punched me in the face and
I freaked out and it was jarring, and it was
just like the girls because they were punched, but not
to the point where they got a black eye, like
they got like a little goose egg or it was
just like more jarring and alarming. It wasn't like a
punch to kill, you know. It was almost like a
punch to just punch somebody. And the exact same thing happened.
And my driver, Slash Security, was outside. He wasn't obviously

(02:21):
in the bakery with me because he's also minding the car,
and I gave him the look to nod over to
this guy who was this homeless guy who had just
punched me, and he went over and like got in
the guy's face, and I was like, let's just get
the fuck out of here. And I called the realtor
and I said, I'm texted the realtor and I have
the text and said, I don't want to do this anymore.
I don't want to see an apartment like it. Just
I thought it was reflecting Manhattan, like Manhattan wasn't back.

(02:43):
Manhattan's unsafe. It freaked me out that I was just
in a small, tiny bakery Delli and got punched in
the face. I thought, oh my god, what has happened
to New York? Is this the seventies again? And so
now it was so weird to see that it had
been happening to other people, all much younger than I am,
not that that's relevant, but and other areas. And they
said they caught someone, and I saw the guy and

(03:03):
it wasn't the same guy. It didn't seem to be
the same guy. And I showed a Milio my driver,
but that was really fucked up. But TMZ and other
people said in a recently deleted comment, and I didn't delete.
I don't think you can delete a comment on someone
else's post. But I also don't know why they said
it was deleted, because it's not deleted. It's still on

(03:23):
that person's post. I don't even know where that person's
post is. But someone from my team's screen grabbed me
and it's still there, so a I didn't delete it,
but I don't know how to delete someone on someone
else's post. I don't know if you could do that,
but see it happened, and I have the text. I
looked up the text last night because everyone's so crazy
in this world that everywhere it's like that any claims

(03:44):
to have been punched in the face anyway, I know
they can't say it definitely happened because they weren't there
and they don't have video. And the video that I
did have wasn't of me being punched in the face.
It was of me saying, holy shit, I just got
punched in the face. But I never posted it because
I was sort of embarrassed. It just felt weird to
be like, Hi, I got punched in the face, because
I I don't know. I guess we talk about all
our stupid things and cottage cheese and makeup, but like
it just felt like, what's the point of me telling

(04:06):
everybody this? It freaked me out, And in the past
I had been criticized for saying New York wasn't safe,
and so I just I don't know. I just didn't
but I didn't delete it, and I have the text
where I said to the realtors, holy shit, cancel, I
don't want to see I don't want to do this anymore.
I just got hit in the face, is what I said.
Not punched. I got hit in the face, which I
don't know what the difference is, but I got hit,

(04:28):
not punched. Maybe it wasn't close fist, I don't remember,
but crazy. The best possible example of my favorite quote

(04:51):
from Lauren Michaels, which is you have to make an
exit to be able to make an entrance. Is Lindsay Lohan.
Lindsay Lohan and five point zero is really incredible and
it's funny because she'll confirm this. I predicted this. I

(05:11):
think it had to be three to five years ago.
I reached out to her team and said I wanted
to produce a documentary with her about her and predicted
her coming out on the other side in this way.

(05:34):
Remember she was in Greece dancing on the tables and
she was like, I don't know if it's called a
gift or a meme or whatever, but like it was
a whole thing, and Mikonos and people were making fun
of her, and I reached out to her. I met
her years ago at a nightclub at One Oak, like partying,
and I don't know, there was something about her that

(05:59):
we connect did to each other in the most non
but also superficial of ways, and we kept in touch
via social media, not all the time, but just once
in a while she'd what's at me or message me
and there was always a mutual respect. And I never

(06:21):
told her this, but one time I went to go
look at an apartment in New York City, and it
was an apartment that she had been renting. I was
looking to buy and she had been renting it. But anyway,
we sort of just very sporadically would message each other
on social media, and I was just always watching her.
And then I reached out and wanted to do something
with her. Wanted to do some version of just her story.

(06:47):
And so I'm on the sidelines watching and I'm really
excited and happy for her and love that she made
an exit to make an entrance, and she was just
such an excellent child actor and she fell down the
wrong tube and she certainly did it with passion and fire.

(07:15):
I also was out to dinner with her in La
I just remembered that with a group of people at
the Chateau Marmont. And good for her, good for her
having a son, good for her being in a relationship,
good for her checking out, good for her checking in,
and good for her not letting her story be told

(07:37):
for her. She grew up, she was a young, she
was a kid, and now she's an adult and she
gets to reframe her life and her story and she
gets to come in on her own terms. And she's
a legitimate, good actress. So that's a lot. Oh and
by the way, having done that Lifetime movie one time

(07:58):
in my whole life, there was a version of pressure
that was different than any other type of pressure. And
I'm not like a celebrity an actress. I just mean
like having to be a person that an entire set,
an entire crew, a cast relies on thinking about what

(08:19):
they're thinking of you, thinking about if you know what
you're doing, memorizing your lines, being present, the boredom in between,
the early call times, the late staying there really late,
the late night shoots, all of it is not easy.
It's a lot of pressure. And so to start that

(08:39):
as a child and then be successful at it and
make money at it and be famous, and then everybody
else wants you to be something and do something, and
people pulling you and to be I think in some version,
I'm sure she was supporting members of her family, like
that's a pressure, or just she's the brain maker in
her family, she's a breadwinner. That's a pressure. Like, I

(09:00):
don't know how any of these people survive this. I
really don't. Like I've heard Justin Bieber has had crazy
stuff go on, you know. I mean, we've observed that,
but just a child star and I'm sure he supported
parts of his family or they relied on him like
this is not an easy road and for someone that

(09:20):
young to withstand that and deal with that, I mean,
Michael Jackson, Macaulay Culkin, Justin Bieber, Lindsay Lohan, it's Amanda Binds,
and like the list goes on. This is not a
situation where it's easy to go into fame as a
child and thrive and survive. It's too much. It's a
boulder on your back as a child. I actually think

(09:41):
it's unfair. I would not want that for a brand
at all. She does these little videos mimicking what I do,
but that's where it starts and stops. She doesn't have
the weight of the world on her back, and a
kid should not have a weight of the world on
her back. It really should. They shouldn't think about how
many examples there are a it being insane like Lindsay

(10:01):
Lohan was just a victim of her circumstances, so good
for her.